T LOunge

Posted on August 22, 2014

It is time to PARTY, darlings! All hookers to the dance floor please! WOOT WOOT!

 

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TLOunge-8-22-2104-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO (3)Disco London Bar

 

 

Tell everyone about your week. We’re just gonna sit right here and take a little nap while y’all carry on. Carry on, darlings.

Ciao. Luvyameanit. Peace out, Girl Scouts.

Shhh. Dance quietly.

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: disco-london.com]

    • Jennifer Bober

      That is fabulous!! I’ll meet you on the dance floor (hopefully non-hookers are allowed too).

      It is again a “working” weekend, but it’s my singing gig, so that’s just fine. When it’s work you love, who cares? Besides, there will actually be time for relaxing as well. While I have to be up early Sunday, my bliss for the weekend will be turning the alarm of tonight. Wahoo!!!!

      May you all have a wonderful weekend Kittens. Stay fabulous!!

      • decormaven

        What type of genre of music? Glad you have pleasure from it.

        • Jennifer Bober

          I’ve been a professional church musician since I was a teenager. All five masses this weekend.

          • decormaven

            That’s great- you’re going to get a workout with that schedule.

          • Aidan B

            Whew, good luck to you!

      • Anna

        That’s wonderful! I love it when people love the work that they do. What kind of music?

        • Jennifer Bober

          As I responded to decormaven, I’m a church musician. I’m lucky enough to be part of a really amazing program with three adult choirs and a children’s choir. When the choir is in session, I’m one of the section leaders (I have to learn the music right away to help everyone out and occasionally run sectional rehearsals) and I’m also one of the cantors who leads the congregation. I love it!

          • Anna

            Sounds like they really keep you busy! Loving and being passionate about what you do definitely helps.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Turning the alarm off is truly one of my favorite things in life :)

    • MMS_SMS

      Happy Friday! Last one of the summer here in Texas. In honor of our fun local – i would like SEVERAL pink frothy drinks! The house is clean and I have a facial set for Sunday – so looking good here – if it could only dip below 100 degrees! Let’s shake it out there!!!

      • decormaven

        Facial envy! Enjoy!

      • Aidan B

        I’m getting my first facial in a couple of weeks…sooo excited! I have the skin of a 16 year old and nothing has ever really helped, but I’ve heard great things about this salon so I’m hoping for good results.

        • MMS_SMS

          Focus on the relaxation – 1 hour no phone!

          • Aidan B

            Ahhhhh.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I love getting facials-it’s one time when I really, really feel pampered.

    • Aidan B

      Holy crap, this place may give me a seizure. Maybe if I drink enough it won’t effect me as strongly!

      I’m home alone for the night, yet again. Hubby-to-be works for a nonprofit so his hours are ridiculously long and largely thankless…so that grates. I’ve got wine and a to-do list so hopefully the night will pass quickly until it’s a reasonable bedtime hour. Seeing my grandparents tomorrow, which, while I’m lucky enough to still have grandparents, is always a little exhausting. It’s…complicated, but let’s say I’ll be surprised if they show up to my wedding in the spring. Not because they don’t love me, just because they’re a little to wrapped up in their own affairs.

      Sorry, I’m not in a great mood tonight, kittens. But hey, at least it’s the weekend! How’s everyone else?

      • decormaven

        Pour a glass and enjoy a bit before tackling the to-do list. Work has been busy-plus for both Mr. DM and myself, so we are chilling on the porch, taking in the sights & sounds of outdoors. Glad you still have your grandparents; hope it’s a good visit tomorrow.

        • Aidan B

          That sounds so nice! We’re hoping for a porch or balcony at our next place, for the reasons you mentioned. And thank you!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        You don’t have to be in a great mood-it’s the Lounge, you’re here among fellow BK’s. Good luck with the grandparent visit. Families can be complicated and stressful.

        • Aidan B

          Thanks! We’re going out to lunch with my dad so hopefully we’ll be too busy eating to talk about anything contentious, lol.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Good tht you have dad along, and lunch. Sometimes being able to lift a forkful of food to one’s mouth is a lifesaver!

            • Aidan B

              Yeah, Dad was helping them move into their apartment today; I’m stopping by tomorrow to help finish up, then lunch. My grandfather is 82 and doesn’t say a whole lot, but it’s my grandmother we have to watch out for. Bring on the pizza!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              A large pizza it is!

      • Jennifer Bober

        My condolences! I know exactly how it feels with the non-profit. The good thing about it though, is knowing that you really do make a difference in the world. I hope he makes it home earlier than expected and you can enjoy the time together.

        • Aidan B

          Thanks. Unfortunately he won’t be home until tomorrow night, but at least we should have a nice relaxing Sunday.

      • Glam Dixie

        Sorry to hear about the familial issues and empty house, for some reason I’m feeling really nauseous and so cannot even enjoy a glass of wine, but when I’m home alone I love to curl up with a good book and just enjoy a quiet house.

        • Aidan B

          Thank you! Hope your tummy feels better soon.

        • decormaven

          Hope the tummy troubles head away soon. Ginger ale & saltines are your friend.

          • Glam Dixie

            Thanks, think it’s just leftover from the migraine I had earlier today but feeling somewhat better now.

            • decormaven

              Yep, that’s a leftover from the headache. Hydrate!

      • Aidan B

        OK, the bathroom is clean, I’m on my third (small) glass of wine and I’m eating brownie batter off the sides of the bowl. I feel better.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Brownie batter-it’s not just for breakfast anymore!

      • demidaemon

        I understand the luck of having grandparents still. I’m concerned about mine, as my grandfather is scheduled to have open heart surgery on Sept. 4th, and it’s a little worrying, especially with everything on my plate at the moment.

        • Aidan B

          I hope everything goes well! My grandfather has been through leukemia/lymphoma and is now in remission, but I understand the anxiety for sure. Keep the kittens updated.

          • demidaemon

            That’s great! And I will. My great aunt, who is a nurse, is coming up to watch over my grandmother (who has Alzheimer’s) and help out with my grandfather when he gets out of the hospital. I only wish he was a little more forthcoming with info. Most of what I know has been through word of mouth (like the fact that he had a pacemaker put in, and I only learned of this after the fact), but I think he just doesn’t want to worry anyone, but that creates worry in of itself.

            • Qitkat

              These family health issues are really piled up on you and your family. Sending my best wishes for an excellent outcome for your grandfather. It is so common for elderly people to ‘not want to worry people’ but you are right, not knowing or being barely informed is a true worry. I hope to keep that in mind as I grow older. Whew, Alzheimer’s. So very hard on families. Sending grace and blessings to you all.

            • demidaemon

              The Alzheimer’s has been a slow build, whether that is fortunate or not, I am not sure. It’s compounded by my grandmother’s low self-esteem, so sometimes it is hard to see where the Alzheimer’s ends and where her low self-confidence kicks in. :(

        • formerlyAnon

          Talk about it here if you want to. A lot of us who post in the lounge have gone through or are going through the same kind of thing. We understand how it can take over one’s head – and how sometimes you might have to temporarily inhabit a space where you just don’t think about it. At all.

          • demidaemon

            Thank you! You can see my response to Adan up above which goes into more detail. I think I’ll feel better after my first week in Baltimore when my ducks are more in a row and expectations have been set out.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I’ll keep your granddad and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

          • demidaemon

            Thank you.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Not that long ago, even considering open heart surgery on someone over 80 would have been thought of as pure folly. With advances in anesthesia, monitoring, and of course surgical techniques, I’ve participated in plenty of successful heart surgeries in elderly folks. They do have a somewhat longer recovery time but if your grandfather is in generally OK shape he has an excellent chance of doing well. I hope the surgeon has explained everything to your family’s complete understanding and you feel confident. If not, ask questions and get explanations until you do. I’ll be thinking of you! xo

          • demidaemon

            Thanks. Unfortunately, my knowledge is limited, as my grandfather has been going mostly solo on this (and he has been tested over and over again for the past four months to determine the necessity of the surgery). As far as I know, he is getting a valve replacement. He, luckily, has just recently turned eighty (both my grandparents and my parents had children fairly young). he doesn’t seem very willing to talk about it, either, or include any of his five children in on it, though we have been trying to convince my father to be at the hospital the day of the surgery, but it’s hard to do so with a workaholic. I won’t be able to be there, of course, but I am praying for the best, and your words have reduced the stress slightly.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Best thoughts for your lunch today, hope it goes better than expected. Family can be a tricky blessing like that.

        • Aidan B

          Thanks, KM! It went better than expected, surprisingly so. They were both in unusually good spirits as we unpacked (they moved into an apartment yesterday) and seemed excited about the change. We talked about the upcoming wedding, too, and they both seem very excited about it. So thank goodness for that!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Excellent news!

      • Qitkat

        You’ve got a full plate. Complicated families seem to be the norm these days. Navigating tricky waters and all that. As challenging as it may be, those grandparents will be gone someday, and when you look back, just be able to say, I did my best under the circumstances, no regrets. Give them all the love and understanding you can muster, and lord knows, people don’t make it easy sometimes. Some of the changes in aging surprise even oneself. People aren’t always aware how they are coming across. Maybe there is a way you can talk to your grandmother and let her know how much it would mean to you if they came to the wedding.

        In the meantime, I hope you’ve had a nice lunch, with your dad there for support. (((hugs)))

        • Aidan B

          Thanks Qitkat. It has been hard lately, with my grandfather deteriorating. My grandmother is almost 10 years younger than him and more active and healthy, but taking care of him is hard on her. They’re not actively seeking to not come to the wedding, but our fear is that my grandmother will decide it’s too much trouble for her to have to look after and change my grandfather on the big day. Time will tell, I guess. But we did have a nice day, and I appreciate the support from you and all the other kittens! Hugs back.

          • Qitkat

            Glad to hear you had such a nice day with them. It must be such a challenge for your grandmother, being a caregiver, that makes it so hard to enjoy special occasions with the special needs of also looking after your grandfather. Makes sense for the concerns of attending the wedding. I hope they will be able to come.

    • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

      I can’t believe it’s Friday again! Been busy getting the young-uns ready for school. All are in high school now, so I may be a little old for this bar. (I hear “Turn it down!” from Joe’s Garage in my head!) Looks like fun with the ghost bartenders.

      • decormaven

        Never too old! Enjoy some virtual or real drinks; I’m sure your wallet has been hit big time getting teens ready for school.

        • formerlyAnon

          I’ve enjoyed my empty nest. Yes, I missed them. Yes it was nice when one boomeranged back for a year (moving out again this weekend!), but they’re both doing well, more or less, and I LOVED getting the brainspace back.

          Of course, I have been accused of being unsentimental to the extreme and I know I’m a bit selfish. So YMMV.

      • Glam Dixie

        God, we just toured VA Tech with my youngest, she is a senior this year. Can’t believe I’m going to have an empty nest soon.

        • decormaven

          Ooh, Blacksburg! So pretty. A boyfriend pre-Mr. DM attended that school. Many fond memories- that area of VA is stunning in the fall.

          • Glam Dixie

            It is a gorgeous campus, she loved it. Wants to get into the vet school up there but dang, that drive. Wish it was closer to home.

            • decormaven

              Getting into vet school is tough. One of my neighbor babies wanted to get in UGA vet school; she had to go to MN. Talk about a hike.

            • Glam Dixie

              She knows it’s tough, she’s already worrying about getting in. They only accept like 20 people or something. But first she needs to finish high school and go to college so one worry at a time.

            • demidaemon

              True. Sometimes the best opportunities come from the most unexpected places, which is something she will probably learn in time. :)

            • Glam Dixie

              She a worrier and a planner, so her nature is to have her college application filled out and her forms for transcripts and such done before school even started. She took her guidance counselor her forms to fill out at open house day and her guidance counselor was like, “I don’t even have a folder for these yet.” Haha, it’s going to be a test of all of our patience dealing with her and keeping her calm and de-stressed. But it’s also nice, I don’t have to keep on her to get stuff done, she’s very self sufficient and scary smart.

            • demidaemon

              It is probably because she is so into science. Those people tend to think about fifty zillion steps ahead, unlike us liberal arts people who are eternal procrastinators. It’s definitely a good thing, so kudos to you for (assumedly) encouraging it.

            • Glam Dixie

              I encourage everything but the stress and worrying. I can tell you from my time as a police dispatcher, stress is a nightmare. It will make you a miserable human being to be around. She needs to learn to chill out and stop stressing over things she has no control over.

            • demidaemon

              Oh, don’t I know it. That and sleep deprivation are the two things that make me cranky and tend to lash out at others. Sometimes, you just need to let things go and hope for the best. Besides, I’m sure she has nothing to worry about in this instance. Good luck getting her to believe that, though!

            • Glam Dixie

              Exactly!

      • formerlyAnon

        I’ve enjoyed my empty nest. Yes, I missed them. Yes it was nice when one boomeranged back for a year (moving out again this weekend!), but they’re both doing well, more or less, and I LOVED getting the brainspace back.

        Of course, I have been accused of being unsentimental to the extreme and I know I’m a bit selfish. So YMMV.

        • demidaemon

          I’ve just made my parents empty nesters again, and me and my mom just about nearly broke down this afternoon. But we didn’t in the end! But, it all depends on the living situation and time between living with your parents again, I think.

    • Glam Dixie

      What a gorgeous, seizure inducing bar! Thanks everyone for the piglet name suggestions, I do already have a horse named Zoe, so that one is taken. Hubby says a couple of them are boys and as it was 3 am when I was out there, I’m going to take his word for it, FOR NOW. Feel free to throw some more celebrity name suggestions my way. Only Truffles has a name for sure.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Prince Charming Potato, Tater for short.

        Eddie Redmayne bugs me, but it’d be funnier to call him Eddie Redmeat.

        Robert Porkinson and Kristin Stewmeat.

        • SRQkitten

          Shouldn’t it be Eddie Whitemeat, ala the “pork, the other white meat” ads (or am I remembering that wrong? Quite possible!). GREAT names though for the lil’ piglets!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Yes, it is a white meat, but since he had red in his name, I just kept it. Whitemeat would be more appropriate.

            • SRQkitten

              Oh, DUH! [smacking my head hard] shows the influence of advertising, didn’t even get the obvious name play.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Oh, I think either choice would be funny. With white, you’d have to explain the name reference more, but with red, you’d have to explain that you know pigs aren’t red meat. Catch 22.

        • Glam Dixie

          Oooh, good choices!

      • rainwood1

        The girl piglet should be Eliza. Short for Eliza Doolittle which is from ‘My Fair Lady’ which is based on, of course, Pygmalion. Yes, I went there. I’m sorry but I couldn’t resist. Happy naming!!

    • AlisonS

      I swear every week is the longest week ever. Especially ones where you’re supposed to find out biopsy results only to have to wait until next Wednesday.
      But I am drinking some Jameson and ginger ale getting ready to go out and karaoke. Need to remember not to stay out too late as I have to go to my masters orientation tomorrow.
      Hope all is good with all my other BKs see you on the dance floor after some shots!

      • heybethpdx

        Here’s hoping we are lifting celebratory clear-biopsy drinks with you next week in the Lounge!

        • GeoDiva

          Yes to this!

        • decormaven

          Absolutely!

        • Aidan B

          Cheers to that!

        • Kitten Mittons

          Yes to this! Best thoughts to the original poster.

      • @Biting Panda

        Cheers, Kitten. Jameson and ginger is my jam!!

        I’ve never sang karaoke in my life, it’s my gift to humanity. But if I ever did, if the bar were drunk enough, I’d have to sing You Never Even Call Me By My Name. Just a suggestion.

        • decormaven

          I was drunk… The day my mom got out of prison… and I went to pick her up….. In the rain.

          • @Biting Panda

            my people.

            • decormaven

              And you have to follow it up with Pissin in the Wind.

          • Shibori Girl

            And something about a pick up (or as we used to call them, “pick’emps”)

            Hi all!

            • decormaven

              But before I could get to the station in my pickup truck, she got run over by a damned old train.
              Bless that “perfect country western song.” (Tip of the hat to the late, great Steve Goodman.)

            • @Biting Panda

              Autocorrect has been my nemesis lately. Especially on twitter, the one place I can’t ETA. I can’t be pithy and accurate.

            • Shibori Girl

              I hate it when technology makes me sound inarticulate! Staying away from twitter. I spend too much time on-line already.

              How are you doing, honey?

            • @Biting Panda

              Well, between my affinity for using made up words and my tendency to write like I talk, I’m a hot written mess. But I guess that’s true to life.

              Meh. This was an exceptionally bad week. For several reasons. I’m looking for some new solutions and I’ll try to regroup my groove over the weekend. Thanks for asking!

            • decormaven

              You’re going to get through this. Even through bad BK virtual karaoke. Hugs!

            • formerlyAnon

              Sorry it was a crappy week. Hope it was mostly stuff that will change over time, not the difficulty of dealing with someone or some situation that will. not. change. Negotiating that with kids is the worst because it takes “fleeing situation completely” off the table.

              You’re smart. You’re tough. The kids are loved. That’ll do till things get better.

          • Jackie4g

            You don’t have to call me Dolling, Dolling. You never even……………………..

            • @Biting Panda

              It’s “Darlin’”, Darlin’ ; )

            • Jackie4g

              Sorry, doll collector joke.

            • @Biting Panda

              I stand collected.

            • Jackie4g

              What would you like to drink? I’m buying.

            • @Biting Panda

              Jameson got me into this conversation. If I’m going to be be virtually drinking, I’ll stick to my actual favorite.

            • decormaven

              Doll humor! I love it!

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Jameson, ginger and some kind of fruit would make a dynamite marmalade, I think.

          • @Biting Panda

            mmmmmmm…yes please

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Spread on a hot toasted English muffin, with the hot beverage of your choice

          • formerlyAnon

            My god. You might be a genius.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I can’t take total credit for this idea; I know that I’ve seen fancy marmalades that incorporate liqueurs and whiskeys, so that inspired me. I can imagine a marmalade of orange or other citrus with some ginger and Jamesons’

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I make whisky marmalade quite often, and I have eaten ginger marmalade a lot (I think it’s usually in an apple base?) but whisky and ginger I think you should take total credit for!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Well, then I happily will do so!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Ginger marmalade is wonderful – adding whiskey would make it heavenly!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I second that!

      • formerlyAnon

        Hate waiting for news like that. Hate. It. Joining everyone else in hoping we’ll be celebrating good news next week.

      • Fanny_Trollope

        I hate biopsies. Hang in there, honey.

    • kimmeister

      My work week felt like I ran a friggin’ marathon, or slew Goliath, or something. So happy to be off next week.

      Meanwhile, now that we’ve removed our front lawn and replaced it with bark (due to the CA drought), I’m trying to find ideas of ways to jazz up the front yard without just buying a bunch of tacky figurines. I saw a cute metal bicycle/plant holder, and am thinking of planting some dahlias; any other landscaping ideas, kittens? I poked around online but wasn’t inspired by anything.

      • MMS_SMS

        Bowling balls!

      • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

        An old rusty pickup up on concrete blocks? hmm, the neighbors might complain.

        • kimmeister

          My husband is a mechanic, that would send a terrible message!

      • heybethpdx

        Cacti? Seriously! But yes, some sort of metal sculpture might be cool.

      • kerryev

        Sunset magazine does an on again/off again good job with xeriscaping ideas.

        • kimmeister

          Thanks for teaching me the word xeriscape, I hadn’t heard it. My research will be much more fruitful now!

          • kerryev

            Excellent!

      • decormaven

        Rocks are your friends. River pebbles are pretty for making a path thru the bark. Have a couple of large ceramic pots filled with some type of greenery, scatter them along the path. The pots will add spots of color, and there will be just enough greenery in them to keep it from feeling so “brown”

      • PastryGoddess

        succulents and cacti were made for xeriscaping. And when they are established and the rain does fall, you’ll get some gorgeous pops of color.

      • formerlyAnon

        You’re not old enough for driftwood. (Unless you do a LOT of one-ness with the Universe stuff, which seems to remove the Prejudice Against Driftwood from younger folks. In my experience). A previous home owner left me with (no fucking lie) a wagon wheel. A heavy, sturdy, but probably inauthentic wagon wheel. Did I mention heavy? It’s taken 7 years, but I’ve managed to entirely obscure it with cacti.

        So, yeah. Probably rocks. They come in all shapes and sizes. There are some nice faux rocks made of something considerably lighter, if you can’t commit to placement. Though I haven’t priced them.

        • decormaven

          Rocks are what I call yard jewelry. Have to be judicious in use with the big ones due to price. River pebbles & stepping stone are throughout the backyard due to heavy tree cover, clay soil and tree roots.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Use the Coco Chanel rule of accessorizing — put out the rocks you like and then remove one.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Have you seen the T-rex skeleton surrounded by flamingoes?

        • formerlyAnon

          Brilliant!

        • kimmeister

          No, must Google. . .

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        On pinterest just now I saw some beautiful jardinieres filled with pebbles and succulents. Could be a really nice feature that doesn’t involved dinosaurs and flamingoes.

    • Anna

      Ha! This lounge looks similar to and brings back (mostly) good memories of a club I used to go to with my friends.
      The first part of my week was kind of a shit show with putting out various fires as my boss is on vacation, but thankfully things mellowed out (and the BKs kept me sane). I had a running break-through on Wednesday when I ran 5K in under half an hour. I’m celebrating by…going to bed early tonight because I have training bright and early tomorrow morning. I’m also dog-sitting this weekend and I’m so excited, as he is a Bernese mountain dog, so CUTEST. DOG. EVER. and I may be reluctant to give him back to my friend Sunday night.
      Happy Weekend!

      • heybethpdx

        wow, that is speedy! I’m a running noob and my best pace is 11:30 but my runs tend to be between 12:30 and 13:30. Congratulations (and sleep well!)

        • Anna

          Thanks! And nothing wrong with those paces at all, I still consider myself a noob and do my long run pace around 11-11:30. This was a race pace workout so I was pushing myself, plus I was feeling good and it was a mostly flat route with some downhills. Speed takes time but keep at it and happy trails :-).

      • decormaven

        Nice pace! Enjoy your furry friend. He sounds like a cutie!

        • Anna

          He’s too cute for his own good. Within minutes of arriving, he got into a pile of laundry I hadn’t gotten around to folding. Of course I forgave him (as I am prone to forgiving males-human and animal-who are too cute for their own good).

          Better make sure all my shoes are out of reach…

          • decormaven

            Yes, laundry is one thing. Cute shoe desecration is another.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        In the early days of the internet, there was a site where you could take a personality test to see what breed of dog you would be. I turned out to be a Bernese Mountain Dog!

        I had never even heard of the breed until just the week before I took the test. My husband had fallen in love with a dog he had seen at a shopping center and asked what breed it was. Then he came home and told me he had met the most wonderful dog. Sure enough, it was a Bernese Mountain Dog. (Obviously, that was in the happy days before he became the ex Mr. GC.)

        • Anna

          Oh, I am such a sucker for those quizzes! I’m sure I’ve taken one before, but can’t remember what my results were.

          They are wonderful dogs, one of my favourite breeds. Sirius (Bernese I looked after this weekend) was just picked up by his dads and my apartment is quiet but seems so much bigger now lol. Sad to see him go though (even though I see him all the time), tiny apartment size and my schedule aren’t the best circumstances for having a dog full time at the moment but I sure miss having them.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Sirius! What a great name!

            • Anna

              It suits him and he lives up to it! His fur is quite shaggy at the moment and he certainly manages plenty of mischief :)

      • Kitten Mittons

        Congrats on the time, big accomplishment!

        • Anna

          Thanks! The past couple of months has been a real struggle just to get out the door, and when I did there was a lot of negative self-talk. A confidence boost was much-needed!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Yeah, these summer months have been a struggle for me as well. If I don’t get out the door by 7 a.m., I can’t do more than 2 or 3 miles due to the heat, and have talked myself out of a few runs based on that. This morning was good, though. One foot in front of the other….

            • Anna

              I don’t know how you do it! We’ve had a fairly cool summer, but I still bitch and complain at any sign of humidity. Despite being born in a tropical climate, I do not do well in the heat. Bring on fall!

            • Kitten Mittons

              Humidity is evil, so you have every right to complain. It’s actually been the mildest summer I can remember in the last 13 years, but still hot as balls. Ready for fall here, too!

            • Anna

              I can imagine that even mild for New Orleans would still feel like the depths of Hades to me, I start sweating whenever I think of the family vacation to Florida in the middle of August when I was 16. I don’t adore the bitter cold either but I prefer the Rocky Mountain temps over high heat and humidity, for sure.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Yes, I can deal with colder weather much better. Easier to dress for it. There are only so many layers that you can take off before they’ll arrest you, even on Bourbon Street.

            • Anna

              Agreed! And the cooler weather brings layers, sweaters, comfort food, hot chocolate, that burning leaves smell…can’t wait.

            • Kitten Mittons

              AND PUMPKIN EVERYTHING! Particularly pumpkin bread, and pumpkin pie blizzards at DQ. nomnomnomnom

            • Anna

              YES. And what is this pumpkin pie blizzard at DQ you speak of?! I shall have to check that out asap.

              I don’t know if Starbucks in the States does this, but they have THE BEST pumpkin scones. It used to be available year-round, but someone with clearly no heart decided to make it only available in the fall. I’ve started stalking my local Starbucks daily for their return.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Mmmm, pumpkin scones sound like heaven. Pumpkin anything with a cup of coffee is just perfection.

              Yes, pumpkin pie blizzards. They make pumpkin pie flavored ice cream, mix in chunks of pie crust, and sprinkle cinnamon on top. I’m pretty sure I gained most of my pregnancy weight off of those alone. It’s almost a good thing they are only available in November every year, because they are dangerous, dangerous things.

    • Lisalady161

      I need help from the Kittens. I’ve been having insane of amounts of pain in all joints. I have osteo arthritis and may or may not have rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia. I’ve seen three useless Rheumatolgists in the last ten years and been given meds, patted on the head and kicked out the door. I’ve had it. I need alternatives to shitty doctors and cortisone shots, although I am keeping the Vicodin. Any kittens out there found things that work? Thanks in advance.

      • @Biting Panda

        I am as far from a doctor as one can get, but you sound like my friend who is struggling to get confirmation from one of the handfuls of doctors who are aware of something called Dercum’s Disease. Google and see if you have the more telling symptoms in addition to those listed above. If so, maybe that’s a part of why answers are slow in coming. Good Luck.

      • http://instagram.com/nevareese International Model

        Good luck!

      • heybethpdx

        I hesitate to sound bandwagon-y, but a friend with fibromyalgia swears by going gluten-free. She tends to be a bit of a fad-follower, but she is religious about this because she says it makes a huge difference. I also have arthritis but have avoided trying a gf-life because, frankly, I’m not THAT uncomfortable and don’t want to do it if I can avoid it. I hope you find some answers and relief!

      • decormaven

        I think docs diagnose fibromyalgia many times when they are flummoxed. You are in a tough spot, no doubt about it. I also have heard good things about going GF. Inflammation is the next frontier for researchers. I’m figuring Celebrex was a bust for you; it was for a friend of mine as well. Stay strong & check in- laughter and friends (real & virtual) help with the bumps.

      • RussellH88

        I’ve heard that turmeric is a good natural anti-inflammatory.

        And gluten free may help, as can avoiding anything that can cause inflammation.

      • Jackie4g

        I have osteo in my knees and rheumatoid arthritis everywhere else. I’ve had success with water exercise, except the pool is closed for yearly maintainence until after Labor Day. Been doing some research and I think I am also going to look into yoga.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        I have several friends who are getting great results with essential oils. One friend had his wisdom teeth extracted a few months ago and didn’t need any pain meds, just a blend his wife did for him. They are also helping 2 friends sleep better than they have in years. I am going to give them a try. They are all using Young Living oils. If you go to their website, you’ll probably be completely overwhelmed. If you can find someone to help guide you though what to try, it may help. I have fibromyalgia. I can’t tolerate any of the usual meds that are recommended. The things that help me the most is exercising (the more I don’t want to, the more I need it), eating well, and sleeping as much as I can. It is important to find your triggers. One of mine is high humidity so It has been a rough week. One friend cut out yeast and sugar and said she feels much, much better. You just have to experiment to see what works for you. It sucks. I ‘m so sorry you are in so much pain.

      • Sarah

        I have terrible arthritis in my right leg where I broke it a few years back. I can’t pretend to know how bad osteo is, but I do know that the more sodium I have, the worse it is. When I got cut off of Vicodin, I was bereft, so at least you still have that?

    • Tanya Wade

      Everyone have a great weekend. I went out for two interviews today in the SoFlorida heatwave and came home with my hair looking like Carol Kane’s as Simka on Taxi. It happens. It’s hot. Thank God for A/C turned down to 73!

      • decormaven

        Good luck on the job hunt.

        • Aidan B

          Ditto!

      • Sarah

        Simka! Haha. Oh, the time I spent today with a curling iron, only to look like a Human Brillo as soon as I stepped out the door.

        • Lisa_Co

          NYC has had a very cool summer. Mainly in the 70′s , a few days in the 80′s and I think 3 days that approached (but didn’t hit) 90. It’s been more like an extended spring here than summer.

          • Sarah

            It is not the same in Richmond. I’ll admit it has been comparably cool to our normal temps (nineties instead of over 100) but hot is hot. (And humid). Ugh.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Fingers crossed on those interviews!

      • Tanya Wade

        Thank you to all the bitter kittens for the good wishes! We will see what shakes out.

    • Paula Pertile

      Working on an illustration of Jesus, and trying to get into ‘bible wear’, and not make the sandals look like flip flops. Noticed a lady in line at the grocery store who had perfect bible sandals, and then had to wonder about that.
      Yes, I am that boring.
      Junk food is calling! Happy weekend all. Meow.

      • @Biting Panda

        Can you use the Jared Leto posts for inspiration?

        • Paula Pertile

          Yes, he’s perfect! I was studying the finer points of his facial hair the other day. This is for a kids book, so its a little stylized, but it still has to be right.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Rocker pixie Jesus for the toddler set-I like it, but then I’m twisted.

    • http://instagram.com/nevareese International Model

      Got notified by the maid of honor last night to make pie recipe cards as a gift for tomorrow’s bridal shower. Assembling what I did at work and baking two pies tonight and getting my retro drag on tomorrow.

      Really hope people appreciate bad WW2/pie jokes…

      • heybethpdx

        Got a sample joke to share? I’m coming up totally blank! (or, do you mean WW2 OR pie jokes? I thought they were both WW2 AND pie jokes and I was really stumped.)

        • http://instagram.com/nevareese International Model

          They are really small and subtle, like, “press down on dough as if to knead it or punch Mussolini in the face” or “She’s giving away her cherry pie until the boys come home from over seas”. There was also a run on jokes about making pie crusts from scratch vs. there’s a war on, there’s more serious issues to discuss. Also, the really low hanging fruit, “NOTE: Do not serve to Nazis.”

          • heybethpdx

            Sounds like you did a great job – what a trouper!

      • formerlyAnon

        Gift quality pie recipe cards on 36 hours notice?

        Damn, you’re good.

        • demidaemon

          Agreed. I am not one who responds well to last minute notifications, so I am impressed.

        • http://instagram.com/nevareese International Model

          I feel that today. Thank you!

    • GeoDiva

      Got a lot to do before I get on a plane Monday afternoon to Vegas and then onwards to Boston later in the week. I am bummed that I have to bring my laptop and do some work on my little vacay. However, I am looking forward to driving up to Maine and Nova Scotia with my Mom doing genealogy research and eating lobster rolls. I have never been to the New England area besides a couple of work trips to Boston. Our plans are pretty loose as I just have to be at JFK on the 3rd of September to catch my flight back to Hawaii, so any suggestions or ideas of what is a “Can’t Miss” between Boston and Canada would be great!

      • decormaven

        Sounds like a blast! Safe travels.

      • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

        My mom in New England says lobster prices have fallen so enjoy!

      • Sarah

        Acadia National Park is beautiful, if you have the chance. My mom was professional a genealogist specializing in New England families that came to the US through Canada. She did the research four our family (Scotland to PEI to Connecticut) and then did research for a lot of other families through her connections. It was so fun to help her read old ship manifests and census documents. I hope you have a nice time!

      • Kitten Mittons

        I’ve only been to Boston once, but we did a duck boat tour, saw a game at Fenway, and had lunch at Cheers. There was a self guided walking tour that was quite nice, but I don’t remember where it started. Somewhere near Cheers, and it only took an hour or two. Anything in Boston is nice, though. No help on the rest of the trip. But seafood!! Have fun!

        • Jacob Bowen

          Are you talking the Freedom Trail in Boston? It’s 2.5 miles and an AWESOME tour! We walked it the time I was in Boston. I would also recommend hopping on the “T” in Boston and heading a few stops out to Cambridge to see Harvard Yard…I LOVED it there.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Yes! I’m sure that was it. Very enjoyable, and your really could spend as much or as little time at each stop as you want, totally self guided. Thanks, Jacob. I was about to call my mom and ask, because it was bugging me.

      • formerlyAnon

        I love the Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum in Boston. It’s small enough that it’s not overwhelming, and last I was there (I go every time I’m in town but that hasn’t happened in maybe 12? 15? years) there were lovely potted plants in the courtyard.

        I’ve seen lots of scenic-ness between Boston and Montpelier, Vermont, both inland and along the shore. But it was years ago and the details are fuzzy.

        • Lisa_Co

          Yes, the Gardner Museum is wonderful!

    • lulukittie

      Love it– I would totally kick out the jams there.

    • heybethpdx

      Busy week but not much of interest in it. But I’m ramping up for some real busy-ness over the next few days: houseguest tonight, 86-mile bike ride tomorrow (*sob*), shorter ride Sunday, British houseguest staying for a week as a favor to a friend arrives Sunday, have a party for my bday on Monday, and have my (fun!) book group over on Tuesday. Tonight’s houseguest doesn’t get in til 9:30 and I have to be out of the house by 6:15 tomorrow morning. So I think I’m going to take a nap. Woo hoo.

      • decormaven

        Holy moly – you are the hostess with the mostest! May the 86-er be all downhill. :-)

      • Kitten Mittons

        Hope the ride went well! What a big undertaking.

        • heybethpdx

          It DID go well, much to my huge relief. I think I’m as ready as I’m going to be for my bicycling vacation in a couple of weeks!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Congrats to you, what an accomplishment! Are you going on any particular trail for your vacation?

            • heybethpdx

              Thanks! I’m participating in an organized ride called Cycle Oregon (.com if you want to read more) – it’s an annual event that goes through a different part of Oregon every year. It’s capped at 2,000 bikers and we tend to go to smallish to very-small towns (populations 500, 224, 600, 6,000, 13,000 this year) – there are trucks carrying our gear and I’ve paid extra to have a tent set up and waiting for me at each stop (biking all day is plenty of effort!). So, camping, cycling, eating ALL the things – it’s fun, but a lot of work!

            • Kitten Mittons

              How cool! Sounds really fun and tiring at the same time. Well worth it, I’m sure. Have fun!

    • RussellH88

      I am, again, drinking and watching Project Runway.

      It’s not alcoholism if you restrict it to one day a week.

      • decormaven

        Ha ha! Drinks are mandatory for PR.

        • Aidan B

          You can say that again!

    • Jacob Bowen

      I’m at my cousins’ doing FAC (Friday After Class)! I stopped over since their house is 30 seconds from my school and Lauren handed me Mango Margaritas. 3 later….I feel great. I also kinda just bought Snow Skis (boots, bindings, skis) on sale online…alcohol and sales helped with that purchase. My first two days of school are OVER and my 8th graders were SO much better today than yesterday. I’m now excited!

      • decormaven

        You made it! First days of school are in the books. Wow, you’re thinking ahead with the skis. Hard to believe that cold weather will be rolling around again.

        • Jacob Bowen

          The reason for skis now was because my cousin just bought his son some and they were INSANELY cheap. I went on the same website and bought ALL of the ski gear I need for less than $400, which came down to about 65% off. I have never owned my own equipment before and want to head up ski club at my school this year (which pays AND comes with a free ski pass) so I figured it was the time to invest.

          • decormaven

            Strike while the iron is hot! Good deals.

      • formerlyAnon

        Child! Boats and skis and European travel investigations AND 8th graders!

        Bottle some of that energy shit and sell it to us old folks, willya?

        • Jacob Bowen

          See, the energy has been bottled up inside of ME since I was five (because of school) and traditionally summers have been the only time to let it out. Now, as an adult I feel “on” and myself at all times, which has been nice.

    • Peeve

      Just got home from dinner with some lovely friends who’ve moved back to town after 18 years. So glad to have them back! Tomorrow I’m shopping for gifts for one of my supervisors who’s leaving next week to start her own business. Glad for her, but so sad for me and the rest of the dept. She’s such a lovely person to work with, and we get along so well–I’ll miss her dry, low key humor! We’ll miss her terribly. Guess that’s life–in with long, lost friends and out with other friends. Although, I’m hoping to keep in touch, sometimes it’s hard when people leave the job. They seem to disappear. Think I’ll open a bottle of wine and wallow a bit!

      • formerlyAnon

        It’s so wonderful to reconnect with old friends!

        • Peeve

          It really is, and these two (a married couple) are really great friends. So nice to have them back!

      • decormaven

        Sounds like that was a nice counterpoint to have old friends return and a relatively new person head away. Keep in touch with the supervisor- it’s good to maintain contact.

        • Peeve

          It’s funny–I’d written the first few lines above and was proofreading, when I realized just that!

    • Sophie

      It’s definitely colourful. I have been sick (but getting better), and had to go to the doctor’s while not knowing the language all that well. She was great, we managed to communicate in a mixture of bad English and bad Chinese, but I still don’t know what I had. My uvula doubled in size but I had no other symptoms. It was the first time it happened to me and I was really anxious about the sensation of it in the back of my throat all the time. If anyone has any information about that, I’d be very grateful. I only know it wasn’t an allergy.

      • Qitkat

        I don’t want to scare you, though it will, but thought I should pass this on to you. Please be super conscientious about trying to pin down what caused this. We had a friend many years ago who died from having his airway blocked by a swollen uvula. He was only in his thirties. We never learned exactly what caused it (we had moved away and got a phone call), except it was sudden, so unfortunately can’t be of any help there. Hopefully you can get some answers very soon and that it doesn’t happen again. Best of luck to you, Sophie. I hadn’t thought of this in years, so sorry to tell you something so disturbing, and that I couldn’t be more helpful.

        • Sophie

          I heard it was often caused by seafood allergies, exept I hadn’t eaten
          anything new in the last days. It went down very quickly and is
          completely back to normal, but yes, my airway was the main thing I
          thought of when I had to go to bed the first night. I’m still working on
          translating the ordonance, but the medicine worked well. I’m very sorry
          to hear about your friend and to have made you remember his death.

          • SouthernGirlRena

            It still could be a seafood allergy. I developed one in my mid-20s to salt water fish. I had eaten fish all my life and suddenly it started giving me hives Thankfully I’ve never had my throat swell up. That would be be really frightening.

            • Sophie

              I did eat some cooked seaweed that day, and I am in my early twenties, so that actually might check out. Guess I’ll be more careful from now on, especially since my father has a lot of allergies. Thanks for telling me.

            • SouthernGirlRena

              You should carry some Benedryl in your purse just in case. I always have some with me. You can take 4 if you are having a bad reaction. Please note I have absolutely no medical training, I just get hives more than the most people. I buy it at Sam’s Club. I also taken them every night to help me sleep.

            • Sarah

              Ha, I’m the hives queen! My fiance had an allergic reaction to antibiotics a couple of months ago, but he’s never had anything like that before and doesn’t have sensitive skin at all. When he woke up with a rash all over his body from head to toe, I made him go to the dr, where they pinpointed it and gave him a scrip for…Benadryl. I was like, um…I have that big bottle…from Sam’s Club…in the bathroom. Just, oh, a thousand or so.

          • Qitkat

            Thanks. It was a long time ago. It was just the strangest thing we had ever heard.
            Take care, and stay well.

    • Shibori Girl

      Evenin’ all you BKs. Definitely a hint of fall in the air here. It’s still warmish, but the light has definitely changed. I am on livestock duty this weekend. Feeding one neighbors chickens and another’s cat. In fact, it is cat feeding time right now.

      Later!

      • @Biting Panda

        Warmish? Bless your heart. It is balls hot here. Tomorrow it is going to be so hot we don’t even want to go swim, just veg and soak up the AC.

        • Shibori Girl

          I feel for you. That heat can knock you out.

          Did you know I lived in Oxford, MS in the late 70′s? And I never got the “glow” thing – you know, “Southern Ladies just glow”? Never mastered it. Sweated like a farm hand. One reason I live in Seattle now!

          I am thinking of you.

        • decormaven

          Yes! What a weather week in the ATL. Crazy tstorms and now massive heat. Bought plants to put out near shed- gotta do early before it cranks up.

      • Jackie4g

        Cool and rainy here, never even climbed out of my jammies. Got a lot of cleaning done, which was sorely needed and strangely satisfying.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      VERY long week here in Chez Ellen. Much wedding to-do (big date is next weekend) and assorted family mini-crises. I was SO ready to go sing at a little job tonight, with a local New Orleans-style band called The Bulltown Strutters. The trouble is, it was an outdoor gig and it was so freakin’ hot and humid I truly thought I was going to melt. Plus there were a lot of us kind of backed into a small space and the trombone player managed to drip on me every time he emptied the spit valve on his instrument. And the AC is broken on my 2001 van, so I didn’t get very much cooler on the way home. (We’re trying to decide if it’s worth it to spend $1500 to get it fixed or if we should just give up and get a new car……YUCK to car payments.) But a cool shower and a cool drink have helped me considerably, as has reading the comments of all the BKs. Honestly, I wish we could all really meet at a lounge somewhere. What a swell party THAT would be!

      Uncles T and Lo, I wholeheartedly upvote your new “Friday Judgment” feature! Weekend hugs to all!

      • Peeve

        Wouldn’t it be an utter blast to meet up with the uncles at some fab bar and review an episode of PR? The boos, the catcalls, the witty repartee (or not)!

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          That would be a blast

      • heybethpdx

        Ugh, sounds like kind of an icky evening!! Apply those cool showers and drinks liberally over the next week – you can get through this! (And live to enjoy it, no less!)

      • Qitkat

        Sorry, I had to laugh about the trombone, my middle son played in high school and that drip grossed me out many times, especially when he was careless at home practice and left it there.

        Thinking of you with the grand wedding preparations. We all wish we could see you in your gorgeous dress. Plan for more mini-crises in the week to come, but it will all come together, and maybe not quite as planned, speaking from experience twice with sons, but all of you doubtlessly will be joyful and overwhelmed and relieved and experience a few lumps in the throat. Enjoy the festivities, especially the tiny little unexpected moments, and the love of friends and family. Blessings to one and all.

      • decormaven

        Glad you could get out for the gig. You affirmed your own life with that- it’s good to know everything isn’t about the wedding, yes? I got a 2004 car, so my vote is for repair.

      • formerlyAnon

        Wishing you strength and calm and patience! I am of the “drive it into the ground” persuasion with cars, so I know the mental calculus you are performing. When to stop putting money into it? It’s sometimes a hard choice.

        I’m sure the wedding will be gorgeous even if not perfect, and more important, meaningful to the couple and their closest friends & family. When you’ve recovered, we’ll love to hear as much about it as you care to share.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Good luck with the wedding, hopefully all the details will fall into place so you can enjoy the big day. Like @Qitkat, I drive my cars into the ground, so I vote repair. Plus, maybe the heat won’t last much longer where you are? If you can stand it for a month, maybe you can wait until the spring to fix it or get rid of it, which would buy some time to save up some money. Having said that, no a/c would be unbearable here, so I understand the predicament.

        Sending daiquiris your way to cool down in the meantime.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Well, after dinner tonight (Saturday) and a long talk, I think hubs and I have decided to forego both the repair AND the new car. The heat & humidity season here in NC will probably last for another 6 weeks, and we do have working AC in his car. I was worried about transporting family during the wedding weekend in a car without AC, though, so we are going to rent a van for the weekend. Then we will think about getting a car next spring. A good solution, I think.

          Facebookers, if you look on the “Bulltown Strutters” page you will see photos of us at our gig last night! It was great fun. Gotta love that New Orleans Mardi Gras style!

          • Kitten Mittons

            That’s a sensible plan, good on y’all.

            I had to peek at the pictures because NOLA. That looked like so much fun! Love New Orleans music so much. And I like your shoes.

          • decormaven

            Fun! Have you ever been able to go to Jazz Fest in NOLA? It is heaven on earth.

    • PastryGoddess

      Hello Everyone. I’m finally enjoying a nice glass or 3 of Vino. I’ve spent all evening in my kitchen painting. Those appliances are getting moved in this weekend come hell or high water.

      I’m pretending I don’t see 50 emails waiting to be answered in my inbox

      • decormaven

        That’s the beauty of email. They’ll keep. Get that kitchen stuff done!

    • PastryGoddess

      Dear Disqus,

      I don’t need to know EVERY.SINGLE.TIME I’ve been upvoted.

      • Qitkat

        Sorry ;)
        It’s a definite needle scratch. Finally it seemed not to be broke so they had to “fix” it.

      • marlie

        It’s for the people who desperately want to now that someone likes them.

      • FibonacciSequins

        I don’t get notifications for upvotes. You should be able to change that in your Disqus settings.

        • Qitkat

          I have looked on there, and don’t see any options about upvotes. This is a recent thing, maybe one week in.

          • formerlyAnon

            I’m not getting upvote notifications. Hope to goodness it’s not something that just hasn’t kicked in yet, because I will be annoyed.

            • PastryGoddess

              Get down and praise the little baby jesus. It’s seriously annoying

            • Sarah

              You will be. It is gradual – happened on one computer I use first, then another, then another. Now they’re all infected with upvote notification. I haven’t had time this weekend to try the stuff that has been suggested above, but I hope something works because with all the damned notifications it is hard to find out when someone ACTUALLY replied to you and I hate to not see that.

            • formerlyAnon

              Blurgh. I will pray that Disqus and/or all the early involuntary adopters will have sorted out a solution by the time it hits me.

      • PastryGoddess

        So when I click on the little red bubble next to my name, the default changed from showing just replies, to showing ALL the activity for ALL of my posts. It’s not the end of the world, but it’s an annoying and unnecessary change.

        • Qitkat

          I just spent several minutes searching disqus and I think the solution is that we can go back to the original version of notifications. Somehow some of us got plugged into this new system, I noticed it about a week ago, when I started getting the same thing. Of course, I don’t quite know where on disqus I found this :( They have a FAQ section, but they don’t make it easy to find. I’ll post further when I get a chance to look again.

          • PastryGoddess

            I’ll be patiently waiting for your results

            • Qitkat

              I went back to Disqus and am now ready to pull out all my fingernails. What a terrible system for searching! Too many questions that are unrelated. I just want to scream. Naturally I cannot find the answer I thought I saw earlier. I sent them a question, but they only answer M-F so we will have to wait :(
              When you click on the bubble next to your name with the number in red, when it opens on the left where it says YOUR NOTIFICATIONS, you will see “ALL” and “REPLIES”. I have tried changing it to REPLIES, but it keeps going back to ALL when I refresh the page.
              That’s all I’ve got for now :(

            • Sarah

              I tried to figure it out, too, and it seemed impossible. I did those same things – they give you that “notifications” option to choose, but it just has to do with being notified by email of responses. Nowhere do they seem to give you any option to fix the notifications within Disqus. ARRGH. I mean, it’s nice if people “like” what you said, but it is not necessary for me to be told when they have done it.

            • Qitkat

              MilaXX mentioned the little gear, but that is gone for me. The “notifications” thing sucks, just email like you said, I gave up on that long ago.
              ARRGH. Damn right.

            • Sarah

              Yeah, I my gear is gone too. I think it has to do with browser updates. Whatever – I hate change ;)

            • PastryGoddess

              Yup that’s what’s happening to me as well

            • Qitkat

              I found what I was looking for, and then it disappeared again. I cannot get it to work on Safari at all. But on Firefox here’s what I’ve got. Click on the dot next to your name. Under it click on Notification Settings. This should bring up a page that has the little gear at the top right with a square with 9 dots on the left of it (Discover) which you will ignore OR it will have your name with an expanded drop down menu. The drop down menu for the gear or your name says: View Profile; Edit Profile; Settings; Switch Back OR Switch to new version. Obviously what we want is “Switch Back”! This menu changes depending on the version you are using. Hope this helps. And I’m hoping it really works.

              @disqus_uaAgd5XTr8:disqus

            • Qitkat

              Well I changed it on Firefox, which I dislike using, but it doesn’t seem to be making any difference. I still can’t even get it to show up on Safari. And I cleared the cache and history. Dunno what to do.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Switching back hasn’t made the slightest bit of difference for me in Firefox either.

        • MilaXX

          click the little gear in the upper right. it give you the option to switch back to the old format

          • PastryGoddess

            I don’t have a little gear in the upper right. I went to settings and I don’t have the option to change it back.

            • MilaXX

              I just double checked. Try this; go to disqus (dot) com in a separate window. Is there a little gear in the upper right there?

            • PastryGoddess

              To get the gear icon, I had to click on my profile picture and then it showed up. HOWEVAH, even though I told it to go back to the old disqus, I’m still seeing the new notification system.

          • Qitkat

            Damn, there DID used to be a little gear. Mine is gone too :((((

      • Sarah

        OH MAH GOD it is DRIVING ME CRAZY.

      • demidaemon

        When did that start and how do I avoid it, as lovely as it may be?

        • Qitkat

          Those of us afflicted have no freaking idea how it started. Just don’t mess with your settings, be happy you don’t have it. It’s been about a week for moi.

          • demidaemon

            YIKES. Well, hopefully, it gets fixed soon, or many electronics may soon meet untimely and undeserved ends.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      Slooooow night at work, so rewatching the Bottomless Fries PR episode… What the heck did Fade say to Amanda after Tim leaves the room for the night, and before the models go in?? It seems like he is teasing her about something, because he finishes with a “la dee daaaa” and a finger wave. Where are my subtitles now, Lifetime?

    • marlie

      I have a boyfriend-in-residence this weekend, so I’m looking forward to disconnecting from the electronics and spending some QT with the sweetie and with friends. Have a wonderful weekend, kittens!

      • formerlyAnon

        Very smart! Enjoy.

      • decormaven

        We’ll be here after he heads off. Enjoy!

    • Qitkat

      This is for bitchybitchybitchy, continued from Friday Judgment post our convo about Sharknado.

      Now it all makes sense, OF COURSE a production company named the Asylum made this movie. However, it is much more funny to dream up more Sharknado/Asylum movie title mashups.

      Sharknado 4: Asylum of the Daleks (The long lost episode of Doctor Who fighting a shark in a cosmic tornado of epic proportions. What? They had the one with the whale.)
      Sharknado 5: Asylum of the Lambs (sorry)

      You just know this franchise is just getting started.
      Sharknado 13: The Ghosts of Bedlam: Shark vs Jack the Ripper

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Sharknado, special 25th anniversary edition: Sharknado:Justified, Rectified,Scandalized and Eating the Leftover Returned

        • Qitkat

          ROFLMAO
          You win!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Your witty titles inspired me!

    • boweryboy

      I want to go to there. I’ll have a Bushmills and soda please, and DJ drop some house. Perhaps the new Hercules and Love Affair.

      I’ve had another crazy busy stressful week. Due to all of the work that has been dumped on me because of the layoffs, my work on a huge project has suffered. The project manager had a minor freak out and told my supervisor she needs my focus on the project. My supervisor agreed. So, to free up some of my time, my supervisor temporarily re-assigned my work on another project to a co-worker which caused that project manager to have a minor freak out as well – freak out she directed solely towards me. For some reason she took it personally. Once again I had to explain I’m only one person literally doing the job of three people, and that her patience is greatly appreciated. At times I feel like a grade school teacher dealing with the temperament of children. It’s a good thing I have a lot of patience. I am thankful I’m still employed, so there’s that.

      Now, the partner and I are packing for a much needed weekend getaway to Mt. Rainier where copious amounts of food, wine, and nature will be enjoyed. All of you BKs have a fantastic weekend.

      • Shibori Girl

        During a severe round of layoffs I reminded my manager that given the workload and the reduced staff, there were going to be some 10 minute jobs which had previously been 10 day jobs – they would be the best 10 minute jobs she could possibly get, but 10 minute versions nevertheless. Eventually something has got to give. At least she was warned.

        Hang in there! You are hereby authorized to have a drink each evening for every time someone tells you to work smarter not harder!

      • formerlyAnon

        Well, you’re managing to protect your weekends AND be diplomatic at work. That makes you a Real Grownup, for whatever’s that work.

        There’s nothing that brings back the finer times of my youth than the thought of drunk camping.

      • Sarah

        Your work should appreciate your good attitude. Have fun at Mt. Rainier! Sounds great.

      • decormaven

        Bless you for holding your mud in that volley. You can only do what you can do. Enjoy your fine weekend with your sweetie. Getting away from the rat race will be medicinal.

        • Kitten Mittons

          I second this. Layoffs suck for everyone involved. Hold your ground, and keep your patience as long as you can. It’s tough.

    • formerlyAnon

      I do feel that this bar is more seizure-inducing than aesthetically pleasing, but it looks like a great place in which to dance hard for three hours or so. (I couldn’t ask for another/No I couldn’t ask for another . . . . Groove is in the heart . . .)

      Yes. I am old.

      In other news, I AM finally picking up the threads of Getting Shit Done, but it’s been rough. My head is not in the right place and current events have been messing with it. Had a fleeting moment in which I conceptualized myself as a competent adult who approved of herself and was in a perfectly good place in life. It felt great. Now to just to get back to that 90 seconds or so and learn to stay there. Bonded with my boss over her “baby brain.” Decided to cut back on alcohol and increase sleeping time (vs. reading into the wee hours). So, yeah, not currently enjoying my resolution of the last several years to feel the feelings and then think about them rather than to ignore them.

      In objective reality, life is actually somewhere between fine and pretty darn good. On the plus side I’ve been loading up on the exercise endorphins.

      • decormaven

        Sounds like a fine plan. I also have to get my ducks in a row to GSD- Hope to kick off plans for bathroom renovation. Long time coming and I’ve allowed life events to move it out of the way. Let’s hope we can both move forward.

      • @Biting Panda

        Staying in That Place is a trick I am dying to master.

        • formerlyAnon

          I was shocked at how it felt. I must be doing something right because I don’t think I’ve felt like that in . . . decades? ever? (I habitually have a low-level guilt/self-criticism going on which I have always simply accepted as human baseline. Not intrusive, but present.) It was weird. Maybe one only gets intermittent flashes of it, but if I could make that happen on the regular it’d be amazing.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Exercise endorphins! Magical creatures. They will probably help get you to a better mental place. These all sound like good things, so I hope you’ll feel an improved mood soon.

    • MilaXX

      Stormie won a contest and received a free Pawpack. It’s one of those monthly subscription thingys except for pets. She received 4 bags of treats, 5 fabric toys, a tin of organic cat nip, a picture frame and a mini magnet. She spent most of the say playing with her new toys. I spent most of the day trying to catch cute photos of her.

      • Sarah

        Congratulations to your cat! My extremely cute but pointy kitten gouged the heck out of my fingers and hand last night. I was taunting her, but I didn’t think she was close enough to catch me. I was wrong! Much blood poured. Glad Stormie has non-finger prizes to play with!

        • MilaXX

          Stormie has loads of toys because she is a biter. She’s the cat that’s like, “pet me now….okay I’m biting you!” I’d never buy a subscription service like this, but for a one off, it’s not bad for the money.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Way to go, Stormie-may she enjoy the loot!

          • Glam Dixie

            I have a barn kitty that we rescued that we named Chomper because she’s all, pet, pet, bite, pet me more, ok bite, pet, pet, bite. Fortunately she doesn’t bite very hard.

            • MilaXX

              Stormie’s pretty good about not hurting, but when she gets to playing sometimes she still gets in a pretty painful nip. Fortunately she has never broken skin.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Organic cat nip! Wow!

        • MilaXX

          as if the cat cares whether it’s organic or not.

      • Kitten Mittons

        A cat contest? Cute prize though! Hope she’s enjoying her loot.

        • MilaXX

          She wore herself out yesterday playing with everything.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Adorable! Hope you got some cute photos.

            • MilaXX

              A few

      • formerlyAnon

        Well good for Stormie! And you, since I doubt she entered that contest all on her own.

        • decormaven

          That would be pretty impressive if Stormie did enter on her own, though. She’d be cat royalty (of course, she already knows she is!)

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I often joke that I’m so thankful that the great and majestic Genghis kitty does not have opposable thumbs or access to the checkbook.

    • Sarah

      I love this place. It reminds me of a club I went to when I was a kid in Tokyo wherein I found out for the first time that even a rinsed-out mustard stain on your black shirt is DEFINITELY showing up under the black lights. I would get my Roger & Zapp on SO HARD in there.

      I got my thesis grade back, and my advisor can SUCK IT because I’m still going to graduate cum laude, so screw her ass. I’m partying just-graduated style, which includes homemade cookies, beer, camping tomorrow, bratwursts, swimming, reading pulpy adventure novels, and watching the Every Simpsons Ever marathon intermittently all day. Good TIMES, y’all. Hope everyone else is enjoying themselves!

      • Glam Dixie

        Congrats!

      • demidaemon

        Bout time! You scrawl that SUCK IT in the sky for her! :)

        • Sarah

          Hehee. She was the most hateful advisor of all time, for sure. What EVS I am DONE! WOOHOO!

          • demidaemon

            EXACTLY! IT”S TIME TO CELEBRATE!

      • @Biting Panda

        LOVE!!!

      • decormaven

        Fabulous news! Roger & Zapp – 90s baby!

        • Sarah

          Not At All – just discerning tastes in All Things Funk.

          • decormaven

            I knew there was something I liked about you. PFunk!

            • Sarah

              Oh, yes! Parliament Funkadelic, who had the great grace to perform right here in Richmond last week, thus making my fiftieth time enjoying the sweet stylings of George & the crew. I used to have “P FUNKY” on my license plate, and I was at a Captian D’s fast food one day, and an older African American gentleman came up to me in the parking lot and said “What do you know about P-Funk?” I said, “Well, I’m not just knee deep and I’m the Freak of the Week, so I’d say plenty.” He laughed. It was awesome. I love their shows so much – all the colors, all the ages – just getting their groove on. Awesome.

            • decormaven

              Love it!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Huge congrats! Enjoy yourselves this weekend!!

      • Shibori Girl

        Warmest congratulations!

      • formerlyAnon

        Your thesis is done. You’re graduating cum laude. You & Your Guy are both employed. You have no homework and no tuition bill!!!!!!

        Party on, dude.

      • marlie

        That’s awesome news! Congratulations!

      • Qitkat

        Your party plans are simple, yet epic and perfect for you. Congratulations again, what a Very Excellent Achievement!
        And SCREW and SUCK the advisor!
        Cum Laude! all the YAYS!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Cum laude-damn, girl, you rock! Congrats, go celebrate!

      • Jacob Bowen

        Woot Woot! Just-graduated style partying sounds THE BEST! Congrats!

      • travelingcat

        Congratulations on graduating cum laude! Hope the partying was as wonderful as it sounds. I’m late in my congratulations as my celebratory weekend included a lot of sleep and I’m late to the lounge. Here’s to more good times!

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Bitch of a week. Last week my mother had an abnormal mammogram, so this week was the biopsy results etc. Anyhoo, next Friday she goes in for surgery, hasn’t yet decided if it is going to be mastectomy + chemo or lumpectomy + radio + chemo. So I am trying to figure out when/if to go to Australia. My husband thinks I should go ASAP, but the last time we were on this merry-go-round my mother really didn’t want me there (wanted to focus on her own recovery without the stress of overriding “mother” emotions). So I don’t know what to do.

      Anyway, I am going to Leeds today (about a 6 hour round trip) for lunch with friends. They’d usually come to London but those of us in London decided we should do the travelling for a change!

      • Sarah

        I’m sorry to hear about your mom’s diagnosis. I think it sounds like your mom would tell you if she wanted you to come, so maybe just feel it out? It’s a hard choice to make. It sounds lovely to take the train to have lunch, actually. Enjoy your friends! On your ride, perhaps you’ll have a nice moment alone to decide what to do. I very much hope that things will be okay for your family.

      • Qitkat

        Warmest wishes to you and your mom. This is a tough one. So sorry to hear of this happening. I think Sarah had good suggestions. It’s such a long trip for you. Consider when is the last time you visited, and when you were planning to go again under normal circumstances. Only you and your mom know if your personal dynamic is such that she would be glad you came even if she is protesting. And her age and general health. All I can pass on personally is that I wish I had made the trip from Colorado to Florida (more than 1500 miles by air, considerably less than what you would have to travel) more often than I did when my parents were both still alive. As they say, in the end, it’s probably not what you did do, but what you did not do, that causes more regrets.

      • @Biting Panda

        Oh my. Sending, hugs, love and healing thoughts.

      • decormaven

        Bless you and your mom. Thinking healing & recovery thoughts for her, and prayers for discernment for you. Perhaps a visit when she is moving through the process. Sounds like your mom is a strong woman- that fortitude will stand her well. Hugs to you both.

      • Kitten Mittons

        So very sorry to hear about your mom. That’s a tough decision, especially living so far away. I hope the right choice will make itself clear so that it’s one less thing for you to worry about. At least enjoy your time with friends!

      • Shibori Girl

        Gosh, what hard news. I am so sorry for your mom and also for you. It is hard to know what to do…do they really not want us there, or are they trying not to cause us “inconvenience”? I found that sometimes I needed to do what worked for me. Visiting but not hovering. Tricky dance but in the end it worked for me. I will be thinking of you and your mom.

      • marlie

        Sending positive thoughts to your mother. xoxo

        Depending on how long you can stay, maybe go to Australia later in the process, because she might be needing a little more help at that point.

      • formerlyAnon

        Well, fuck. Go with your knowledge of your mother. And the reality of the cost of the trip. And the viability of you staying for an extended time when you go. My mom was not an ask-for-help person. In retrospect, I wish I’d been there more for her late-in-life breast cancer (which she got through without re-occurrence but the treatment did degrade her baseline state of health a bit.) When I did go, she was obviously more pleased that I was there than she ever sounded like she’d be when we were just talking about it. She seemed to appreciate my moral support & company for things like wig-fitting and doctors appointments more than practical daily life – which she wanted to remain entirely under her control – or big emotional discussions. So, yeah. Go with what you know of her style of interacting.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I’m sorry about your mom’s health news. That is doubly tough when you are so far away. As other BK’s have said, use your knowledge of your relationship with your mom to guide you in making the decision about when to visit. Sending healing thoughts and prayers.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Oh, gosh, talk about the horns of a dilemma. Have you already booked the trip? And if so, do you have travel insurance? Just kind of thinking out loud here. Probably, sadly, no matter how you decide, you will second guess your decision. I do hope you enjoyed your luncheon with your friends and you were able to talk out your options with them. Thinking of you and sending you, and your mother, good vibes from “across the pond”!

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I haven’t booked anything yet. My instinct is to wait until she has made a decision about her treatment. At the moment she is still very well, and I figure that she might need more support when she is on chemo, so I need to figure out when that will be happening. I don’t really want to go over and then sit around for 6 weeks and leave before she actually needs help!

          • decormaven

            Wise move. She’s at the beginning of the journey; a visit midpoint or so will be a welcome respite. Continued good thoughts for your mom and for you.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Thank you!

      • Anna

        So sorry to hear that, my best wishes to you and your family. It’s a tough decision but it sounds like you have the right instinct about what would be best for you and your mom. Hope you enjoyed your time with friends.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Thank you! I did! I’ve never been to Leeds before, and didn’t really get to see most of it, but there is really beautiful countryside up through the midlands. Like a pastoral idyll.

    • demidaemon

      I finally made it to Baltimore! YAY! Now I just need to work out some wrinkles with teaching and syllabi ASAP, so I’m not tearing my hair out on Monday. Fun times! My new roomie seems pretty cool too, so I am glad to see my good roommate karma continue.

      • Qitkat

        Yay indeed! You’ve overcome a bunch of obstacles, and are now in for a great new adventure. Enjoy Charm City (one of B’more’s many nicknames), and all the fresh seafood (you lucky dog) and may the good karma spread to all aspects of your new life.

        • demidaemon

          Thank you! I’m still concerned about Monday, considering I have three classes in a row and no syllabus to speak of yet. It’s a wee bit worrying!

          • Jackie4g

            It’ll be OK. Probably not the first time. As a back up to strained silence, is there a philosophical or even general practice kind of thing you can throw at them and see if you can get a discussion going? Failing that, you can talk kindly, but seriously, about expectations. Having once failed a course for cuts (I was working to pay for classes I was cutting), I wish I had known how important that prof considered face time. I turned in work on time and did well enough on tests and failed because she wanted bodies in seats. Annoying but important life lesson in how different people look at things.

            • decormaven

              If all else fails, sing “Da Doo Ron Ron.”

            • Shibori Girl

              Or give them the opportunity to judge each others clothing choices. That certainly entertains us here!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Talking about expectations/goals for the year/semester sounds like a worthwhile idea for your classes, given the lack of a syllabus.
              Also,congrats on making it to my hometown-hope it will be good to you! The Walters Art Museum is a good place to know about when you have some free time.

            • demidaemon

              I actually had some ideas when I laid down for sleep last night. Day 1 can be general course policies, etc, at least until I get my syllabi actually finished. Day 2 is some bureaucratic nonsense for the dept, so I don’t have to plan anything. I can probably cover grammar and shit for the rest of the week and then pick up with the textbook next week once I have my ducks in a row. That’s my current plan, at the very least. I’m going to try and get to campus early on Monday so as to get shit done. We’ll see! I’ll certainly report next week!

      • Sarah

        Oh, so nice about your new roomie! My BFF who is a teacher is back on Monday, and I feel so bad for her. You guys are the Best People Ever. Your hair will survive Monday, I promise :)

      • @Biting Panda

        Wonderful.

      • decormaven

        Good roomie karma is worth a lot! So glad you’re settling in.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Good luck on Monday! I’m sure you’ll be prepared by then. Lucky roommate pull, I always had terrible roommate karma. You must be a good roommate, then, if it is karma.

      • formerlyAnon

        Yay! You’ve been teaching for a while. Hopefully you have tight boilerplate to slam in there about attendance, late work, missed work, etc. to reduce time spent later in the semester on that 1% or 2% of students who feel like they are the entitled exceptions to the rules. The rest pretty much is the intersection what you want to teach, what kind of time investment you can get out of the students and what resources (readings, etc.) are available (& affordable). It’s your first semester there, DON’T BE TOO AMBITIOUS. And don’t feel bad about consulting syllabi from previous/other instructors in the department if they’re available. They may not reflect what you’re going to do, but they may help you figure out what the students come in expecting.

        tl;dr: You’ve got this.

        • demidaemon

          Thanks. Pep talks are awesome! I pretty much do have my bolierplate (which has been been finagled into its current preferred version). Let’s just say, though, that on the first day, there may be a lot of TBD and a new version will be institutionalized later. However, I really only need to come up with one syllabi that can then be made three ways, as all three of my classes have the same schedule, just at different times of the day. On the other hand, my classes meet FIVE TIMES A WEEK for fifty minutes a class period, so it feels a wee bit like I am back teaching high school again.

      • LilyVanessi

        I love Baltimore. You’ll find a lot of things to do here. Great Farmer’s Market Sunday morning downtown at the end of the JFX. Food, vintage clothes, all kind of cool stuff. Welcome!

      • PastryGoddess

        Welcome to our fair city. I’m so happy you made it. What grade do you teach?

        • demidaemon

          Undergrad freshman.

          • formerlyAnon

            May god have mercy on your soul.

            • demidaemon

              As I have been teaching community college students for the last five years, I think my soul is okay. For the time being. ;)

      • KinoEye

        Baltimore! My knowledge of the city is limited, being a southerner, but I’ve heard from friends that it’s a wonderful place to live. Congrats on making it there in one piece and having a good roommate, and good luck on the first day!

      • formerlyAnon

        Thinking of you today! Don’t expect to see you on TLo much this week, since you’re navigating all the new stuff, but wishing you luck in all things great and small.

        • demidaemon

          Thank you! I’m pretty much zonked, but I might make an appearance here and there.

    • Cyd Butler

      Best friends had a baby last night so we’re doggie sitting; 4 mutts all under one roof!

    • Kitten Mittons

      I had my big interview yesterday, and I think it went quite well. You never know who else you’re up against, but I feel like I’m one of their top 3 choices at least. Four hour interview (!) but it included a lovely lunch at La Pavillion hotel, which is gorgeous and just so typically New Orleans. Whatever happens, it was a nice lunch. Lots of stress gone now that that’s done, but now the waiting starts. I fear I’m being pretty cranky in the interim, and trying to tamp that down. Special fun lady times are ensuring I fail, but trying nonetheless.

      Went to mommy and me gymnastics this morning for the first time, which was a general fail. He was just so very 2. We’ll keep at it and see if both of our attitudes improve next time. We were also supposed to see one of our “lost boys” today, but it seems he’s ditched us for lawd knows what. Disappointment and concern on that front.

      Here’s hoping a hot bath and a beer with lunch can improve my outlook. Midday cheers!

      • Qitkat

        That is some interview! Quite the vetting process; they must be looking for someone very special. Here’s hoping you are that someone.

        Kids. Sometimes disappointment and concern no matter what you try, all your best intentions. That doesn’t go away when they hit any of the older ages, everyone knows little kids and teens are challenging but also (20+, 30+, 40+). But I’m not saying anything you don’t already know. And then it can turn all on a dime. Parenting, the best and worst job in the world ;-)

        • Kitten Mittons

          Truth, the journey is just beginning.

          Thanks, I’m keeping all my fingers and toes crossed.

      • Sarah

        Glad the interview went well! And any moms in the world totally understand a two year old. Enjoy your bath!

        • Kitten Mittons

          The bath was not long enough, but two year old hugs and kisses seem to have done the trick. Thanks!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Our youngest niece could be an absolute pill when she was between 2-3 years old-wanted nothin’ to do with anyone but her mom. Ionce remarked to Mr. B3 that I expected her head to swivel around, ala the Exorcist. At three, a cosmic button seemed to get pushed and she turned into the sunniest, friendliest kid in the world, and now she’s an absolutely great college sophomore. I’m sure your little guy has lots and lots of good moments ahead of him.

        • Kitten Mittons

          He generally is very sweet, but he’s had his handful of terrible two moments. This morning was just one of those. He’s been an angel since the moment we got home. Several moms told me it took their kids at least two or three classes to get into it, so I know I need to breathe. I think I just expected too much, being that he loves to jump and somersault and climb, etc. I forgot that he’s bossy and independent and doesn’t like to wait, too :) Ah well, we are all recovered, I think.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            That must be reassuring to talk to other moms in the class, and to know that it might take a couple of classes for your litlte guy to get into it.

            • Kitten Mittons

              It wasn’t at the moment, but it was later on when we were both calmer :)

      • @Biting Panda

        Cheers my lady!

        • Kitten Mittons

          And a double to you! Too early?

          Nah.

          • @Biting Panda

            Only drinking virtually. . . But I’ll be relaxing like a grown-up soon enough.

            XoXo

      • decormaven

        Hope it works out for you. The lunch sounds divine!

        • Kitten Mittons

          It’s a gorgeous old hotel, with a beautiful restaurant. I googled, it’s about 189.00 a night. Also, it’s Le Pavillon, I mangled it above. A very nice lunch buffet, with a fantastic waitstaff.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Good luck to you! We know you’re wonderful and hopefully, they will too. What struck me during my long day’s journey into job hunting was that nobody seems to be in any hurry to hire these days. I was already two weeks into my new job and still getting initial phone calls on resumes I had sent a month before. And once you interview, it can take weeks before you hear if you got it or not. I hope your interviewers are prepared to move forward quickly and that you’re their number one pick.

        BTW, Wednesday was my one-month anniversary on the job.

        • Jackie4g

          So glad to hear that you’ve passed that first month’s time. It can be as nerve wracking as the actual job hunt and you sound perfectly fine. Well done!

        • decormaven

          So glad for you. Job hunting is the toughest work on earth.

        • Kitten Mittons

          Yes, the process can be so slow. I guess from their perspective, it’s better to take their time and find the right person than have to rehire after another 6 months. But it can be soooooo slow. Thanks for the well wishes and the vote of confidence. I’ll use y’all as a reference.

          One month and going strong! I bet that feels great. Hope you’re all settled in and liking your coworkers and all that jazz.

        • Qitkat

          Woohoo, one month anniversary! Hope it’s becoming a job that really suits you. From the way you have spoken of it, it seems like a great fit.

      • Anna

        Wonderful news, keeping my fingers crossed for you! Four-hour interview, wow…but I’m glad you got a lovely lunch out of it. I sympathize regarding the crankiness and the waiting to hear back, hoping the potential employers move forward reasonably quickly and that you’re the top candidate!

        • Kitten Mittons

          I’d be a little crushed if I don’t get it, because it’s a great opportunity for me, but a speedy answer would at least let me move in another direction more quickly. Thanks!

          • Anna

            Yes, it would be better to have a clear answer either way. It’s so frustrating and I can definitely sympathize, during my unemployment I lost track of how many times something looked so promising and I’d move past the second interview stage, kept following up only to find out they just randomly decided they’ve cancelled the position and aren’t hiring anyone at all.
            Sending positive thoughts your way and hoping for the best case scenario for you!

            • Kitten Mittons

              They did promise me an answer one way or the other, but we’ll see if that happens. Thanks!

    • frannyprof

      Ahhh… the weekend! I’ll be busy getting my daughter ready for her upcoming trip to Switzerland (she leaves Monday with her dad for two weeks!) and getting myself ready to go back to work (I start Monday–wah!). I’ve had an amazing, relaxing summer off, and I’m so grateful. But time to put on my big-girl panties and get back in the classroom.

      In other news, “Who Wore it Worst?” was the *highlight* of my week. Can we do it again soon, TLo? Huh? Please? Pretty please?
      And I love the new Friday Judgement feature as well.

      Have a great weekend, everyone!

      • Kitten Mittons

        I loved both of those features! I hope they return as well.

        Good luck with the school year! What do you teach?

        • frannyprof

          Thank you! I teach English at a local community college.

          • decormaven

            Extra drinks for you. That is one tough job.

            • frannyprof

              It is, but I love it! I’ve been at my college for 10+ years (I have tenure–woot!), and I love my students (most of them, anyway). It’s actually my dream job, believe it or not…

            • Kitten Mittons

              That is such a lucky thing! My English teachers were almost always my favorites. Fun, creative, interesting people. If you love it that much, I’m sure you fit that description.

            • decormaven

              That is a blessing. I’ve always taken my love of language as an absolute; it would be hard to try to instill that love – or even just a little respect- for those who don’t share that passion. Glad you’re up to the task.

          • mom2ajs5

            I’m the product of 2 English teachers! You all hold a very special place in my heart!!

            • frannyprof

              Awwww, thank you! ;-)

    • Jacob Bowen

      Saw “The Giver” today, which was a childhood FAVORITE of mine (along with Gathering Blue). The movie was not great, but admittedly still enjoyable (that boy was SUPER cute), but the Taylor Swift cameo KILLED it for me. UGH. The one thing it did kind of rejuvenate in me was the fact that with joy in our lives come sadness, but that there is always something to look forward too in the future. I needed this so I can go sit with my best friend tonight and help her get over her boyfriend dumping her (a boyfriend of only 1 year, but the person she was planning on staying with forever (and for her that is a HUGE deal)).

      • Kitten Mittons

        I don’t know if I can see the movie. That book is one of my favorites. The movie would have to be perfect.

        Hope your friend sees the light through this tunnel. Bring ice cream.

        • Jacob Bowen

          My recommendation: If you see it, try not to compare it to the book…LOVE the book, the movie was not great.

          • Kitten Mittons

            I don’t think I can do that!!! I’m such an incurable book snob, I know it. Lucky for me we’re about 5 years behind on movies, so the chances of me seeing it are nearly zero anyway.

            • Qitkat

              I’m not at all familiar with the book. Could you tell me a little more about it? The BK’s have recommended some great books over time.

            • demidaemon

              It’s a dystopian narrative that originally presents itself as a utopian narrative (bear with me; it’s been a long time since I read it). Everyone is assigned a role and there are no wars, fear or pain. Of course, anyone who doesn’t fit into the community’s vision is killed, including babies. He then starts to be trained as a Giver, who is the only person who knows pain and pleasure. It’s pretty much seen as the iconic utopia as dystopia novel.

            • Qitkat

              Hmmm. I’ll have to think about this. Maybe when I feel I have a little more control in my own life, I may look for it. Sounds a wee bit depressing and unnerving.

            • demidaemon

              It is, though also thought provoking. Interestingly, it’s intended audience is young adults.

            • Sarah

              It’s Lois Lowry, if that makes a difference – author of many beloved children’s books (at least by me!)

        • decormaven

          Definitely ice cream.

    • @Biting Panda

      Shhhhh! Do you hear that, Kittens? Listen….. that’s right. Nothing. Silence. Calmness.
      My beautiful children have headed out with their dad. I am alone. I can exhale.

      • frannyprof

        I know the feeling! Enjoy!

      • decormaven

        That’s when you pour a celebratory drink. Cheers!

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh I feel you!

        So many people are shy of admitting that if the other parent is trustworthy, one of the few good things about a divorce with young children is that you actually get some time off from being the parent (without having to be at work, which takes the fun out of it.)

        • @Biting Panda

          He is a true father. Never a babysitter.

          • Qitkat

            It seems as if more and more men of this generation have turned out to be great daddies. How fortunate you both are, along with your children. As a member of the previous generation I have seen changes in how men interact with their families as a whole, taking on much more of a fair share of child rearing and other family activities. It must make a difficult time run so much smoother. My two sons who are fathers also love being daddies.

          • decormaven

            So glad that in the midst of your problems as a couple, you can recognize this good trait in him. That speaks well of him – and of you.

    • grasshack

      Fun pictures… but can you imagine actually working there?
      Aneurysm city

    • DebbieLovesShoes

      Feeling proud of my family tonight. I just found out this week that my grandfather (“Opa”) will soon be honored in Jerusalem as a “Righteous Gentile” who worked to help the Jews during World War II. A tree will be planted in his name. My grandfather put his own life on the line to shelter Jews in hiding during the Holocaust and the Nazi regime. After the war and In his early 40′s, he had snow-white hair from the war. I feel privileged and blessed to be a part of this family, to bear witness to his great courage.

      Are the traits of resilience and bravery heritable? I hope so.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        You have every right to be proud of your Opa. He was obviously very brave and righteous and you are fortunate indeed to be part of his line. Mazel tov!

      • alyce1213

        Wonderful. That is a great honor for a most honorable man. We thank him.

      • Qitkat

        It has been said that the generation of your grandfather helped to save the world. What an inspiring life, and what a treasure to have had him as a member of your family and for all of us here to learn one of the true courageous stories of that era. We all owe him and many others like him a great debt of thanks. Thank you for sharing. This is a lovely honor.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Bravery and integrity – what wonderful traits in a man! That is lovely.

      • Kitten Mittons

        An amazing man, true courage and bravery. What an inspiration to do the right thing in our daily lives, when someone can do it in the most trying circumstances. Thank you for sharing this.

        • DebbieLovesShoes

          Yes, exactly. As a non-Jew, Opa could have quietly stood by and did nothing, but he chose to do what was right.

          At one point my family had two Jewish men in the basement and a Canadian pilot who was shot down, hiding in the attic. My father and his brothers walked past armed soldiers for over 2 years, taking food to a Jewish family in hiding. They kept them alive. Truly remarkable.

          • Kitten Mittons

            That IS truly remarkable. Heroic and selfless in the truest sense. Really, thank you for sharing this, and to him for his actions.

      • decormaven

        That is wonderful. Bless your brave Opa for standing up against persecution. It is by honoring that bravery that future generations will be inspired to do the right thing. That is my hope.

      • formerlyAnon

        That’s a wonderful family legacy.

        • Qitkat

          Don’t laugh, but I have a list of favorite words. I’m adding legacy to it. For if I ever write anything truly original someday; mom was a writer, though unpublished. It might be in my DNA, though up til now kept very private, except for expounding without an editor on here, lol!

          • decormaven

            You should explore your writing; you have a true gift for it. Whether it brings financial fortune, that’s a flip of the coin. If it pleasures you, that’s the important thing.

            • Qitkat

              XO, that is very kind of you.

        • DebbieLovesShoes

          Thank you so much. Opa was a elegant but humble man….I just knew him as such a kind and loving grandfather. I only found out later about his heroism…….

      • KinoEye

        That’s incredible. Cheers to Opa and your family, and deep gratitude for being a guardian of the oppressed. We need more brave, resilient people in the world.

        • DebbieLovesShoes

          Yes, they worked for years, quietly, so as to be more effective.

          Another story is my grandfather owned a large coal factory which was taken over by the Nazis. Forced to work for them, he would make night deliveries of coal and “accidentally” open the back of the truck, spilling coal on the street for those in hiding to run out and pick up. They used it or traded it for food [because they were starving]. He found out where all the Jews were in hiding, as well as the poor widows who had no resources. When his truck was taken, he would ride his bicycle in the dark with food and supplies. When the tires were taken off of his bike, he continued on his missions of mercy. I get really choked up thinking about it!

          • decormaven

            This is why I always encourage everyone to go to the Holocaust Museum in DC. I feel kind of weird because it’s not a “pretty” place. But I strongly feel everyone should have an up close look at what hate looks like- and why we should all push to make sure it never, ever happens again.

            • DebbieLovesShoes

              Yes! Also, the Museum of Tolerance in LA. I sobbed. So moving.

    • Qitkat

      Is anyone watching Outlander? I was never able to get into the books, but so far I am loving this show. Beautiful scenery, what I hope is authentic period costuming and behavior, intelligently written, actors who seem to fit well with the period.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Can’t say that I am, but I did just start Downton Abbey last night, and I’m hooked after one episode. Knowing I’d be up by 6:30 this morning was the only thing that kept me from bungee watching last night.

        What network is Outlander on?

        • Sarah

          Starz. I liked the books, and would have liked to watch the show, but the only reason I still have satellite TV at ALL (minus Starz) is that I’m in a contract that would be costly to cancel. So, I pay $$ I don’t have each month for about three channels I like, and don’t even get other channels I’d like to watch. Grrr.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Ahh, we don’t have Starz. But I might be able to find it elsewhere, I suppose. With True Blood, Boardwalk Empire, The Newsroom, and Mad Men all ending soon, we’ll be looking for new shows to pick up. I picked Downton Abbey, I think the hubs will pick The Walking Dead, but we’ll probably pick up a couple others. Movies are harder. An hour of tv a night after baby bed time is about all I can do before I fall on my face.

            And I hear you on the satellite. We got out a few years ago. We’re thinking about uverse, but have heard mixed reviews.

            • Qitkat

              I totally remember those days after the baby/kids bedtime. There are whole YEARS where I have no idea what was popular in movies, TV, and barely music.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Yes, I slip into that mode. We went to a movie about 5 months ago (honestly can’t remember what it was) and we realized that the last movie we saw in a theater was while I was still pregnant, about 2.5 years ago. We have about $70 in movie theater gift cards, and STILL can’t make it happen.

              Music is a little easier because we haven’t hit the stage where he wants to listen to baby/kids songs in the car, and I sing at my desk at work a lot to Pandora and Vevo (I give not two ducks (typo, it’s staying)). We hit the high notes with tv, but a series takes us forever. With movies being nearly three hours now (even cheesy movies are two hours at a minimum), I just can’t.

      • BLauDGaspode

        I could never get into the books, so I stayed away from the show. Maybe I’ll give it a try because that genre is usually something I’m into.

      • demidaemon

        I’m kind of scared to. I read the first novel and one of the side novella. I just worry that it won’t be what I imagined it in my head, and I’ve seen the previews and I don’t think the person they cast is hot enough to be the main male character. I’m shallow. I’m also worried that they are going to censor some of the harsher stuff for television.

      • Coolekat

        I am watching Outlander. Have read through book six and now in the middle of book seven. I’m a reader, though, and while i am enjoying the books and the tv show, it isn’t Game of Thrones. I read down the thread that the lead male character isn’t hot enough but i think he has potential. haven’t gotten to the hot scenes yet :)

    • KinoEye

      Well, kittens, there may be a new job on my horizon. I got pretty serious about leaving a few months ago, only to be thwarted by life. But I think this time, it may work out. Sent in my résumé to a community weekly in a lovely south Texas town (hint — it’s home to a world famous brewery!) and heard back from them an hour later. Had a phone interview later that day, and they want me down there for an in-person interview next weekend. They asked me what kind of housing I would prefer, and told me they would pay me about $5K more than what I asked — essentially, a $10K increase over my current salary. And a raise after the first three months. I was trying to jump up and down as quietly as possible.

      I know it’s time to leave. My boss has gotten strange in the last few months, and I know he has a history of walking in and firing people. It’s how I got the job in the first place, and had I known the circumstances, I never would’ve taken it. Not to mention my naive, 24-year-old self just realized I’m being paid $4K less than agreed upon when i was hired, and I have nothing in writing to challenge it. There are times where I look forward to being older and more experienced, so people can’t pull the wool over my eyes so easily.

      And this town is no Mayberry. It’s more like Peyton Place, and I’m getting tired of the pointless bickering, poisonous people and gossip. I’ve seen what people can turn into if they stay here for too long, and I don’t want that for myself. We’ll just see how next weekend pans out — I seriously can’t wait.

      • Qitkat

        Good luck, it sounds promising, and a change that would give your morale and pocketbook a needed boost.

      • Kitten Mittons

        From one job seeker to another, I wish you the absolute best luck. I’m sure you will knock their socks off. It sounds like an awesome opportunity, so I hope it pans out to be everything you want.

      • Sarah

        Oh, man, that sounds great! And within an hour? Nothing like being wanted, eh? Most certainly wishing you a positive outcome. Here’s hoping it works out perfectly!

      • Anna

        Sounds very promising indeed, and it definitely sounds like it’s time to move on. I’ve been there when it comes to being taken advantage of due to lack of experience, and feeling utterly powerless and demoralized. Best of luck and hoping we’ll be toasting your new job in a future TLounge!

      • decormaven

        Woman, jump for this opportunity without delay. I have been in your shoes; I need to sidebar with you. PM at screen name 1 at yahoo.

      • Shibori Girl

        I am pulling for you!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Sounds like they are keen on you! Brilliant!

    • Qitkat

      Kittens, I haven’t said anything more after my post last week about troubles at home. Been occupied with GSD and end of summer stuff. No more fights like that but he nearly lost it again just today when we were rearranging a room, all my idea, and he was arguing where things should be temporarily. Finally I reminded him he wasn’t to get upset over these minor things, and that since it was all my idea didn’t it make sense that I be in charge of the arrangements, and when something is his idea, he gets to be the “boss.” Shit, it’s always something. We have trouble with compromise, two strong-willed people that can push buttons like with no one else. Neither one of us has anywhere near these conflicts with anyone else in our spheres. Anyway, for those of you who replied to me, I have been doing a great deal of thinking, and appreciate more than you guys know all the support and suggestions. When I feel up to more, I will talk about stuff again. In the meantime, I’m just hunkering down and doing what is right for me. It’s not an easy relationship, and sometimes I have more sorrow over that than I can bear, so I have to move onto something I have control over. You guys mean the world to me. Thanks for all the love.

      • decormaven

        Abrazos – I think that is “hugs” in Spanish. Do you know what’s setting off DH? Life changes, job demands? It’s funny, you think you’re in a safe harbor, and the waters start to roil. Hang in there; peaceful thoughts surround you.

        • Qitkat

          Thank you decormaven, I really like your metaphor. It’s such an accumulation of stuff throughout the years. He’s been retired nearly 5 years now, and that has been very hard for me. We thought we had an idea what it would be like, but it’s been just so different. You really find out what you have in common and don’t have in common when thrown together more than you were ever used to before. I value my time alone, and I mean with no one else in the house, as it’s what I was used to, and he doesn’t really get it. Our dynamics are rocky. Communication, health/fitness/diet, finances, downsizing/purging belongings, interests, joint/separate activities–we are in such different places on many things. I expected changes from him, like cooking more, that didn’t happen. It’s really the kind of stuff that needs talking about in therapy, but I just don’t think that would solve anything anymore. I read somewhere something that really resonated with me: Sometimes people change, and forget to tell the other person. That’s us, both of us. Separately, we are each very nice people.
          I don’t want to be just a whiner, and not get active about this. Getting perspective from you guys helps, and I mean with all the Lounge posts, not just mine. So many wise, caring people.

          Edited, so I didn’t say too many things I would regret.

          • Shibori Girl

            My Dear, none of this is easy. I really feel for you. For some people, retirement is very hard. What they did for a living defined them, and the “what next” part is a little rocky. Given the temper issue, I have to ask, has he had a physical recently? It might be a good idea for him to get checked out. (BTW, you don’t have to answer that question, I bring it up only for your consideration.

            As decor maven said, Abrazos!

            • Qitkat

              He has had a physical, actually there have been new ongoing health problems for the past year and a half that cause him much anxiety, none of them life threatening. He has seen many doctors on and off for months. Certainly this plays into his moods, but the temper has just grown more crotchety over the years, it seems like. He would insist to anyone that he wasn’t defined by his job, but there’s an argument to be made that it did. Very few people work their entire career for the same employer, as he did, even though we moved a few times (same federal agency.)

            • Kitten Mittons

              That is very tough. I think it’s a common problem, but that doesn’t make it any easier, and each situation has its own unique wrinkles. The fighting, and avoiding fighting, is so draining. I don’t have any decent advice, just sending my support and adding to the hugs. Sending strength, calm thoughts, and hope for a way to work through this.

        • Shibori Girl

          Claro que’ si! Abrazos from me too.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Hugs and great sympathy to you! I hope you can find a pathway through this that you are content with.

      • Sarah

        You are doing the right things, my friend. Please take care of yourself. All I can add is that my mom was married to a person that was far more than “difficult” for forty four years, and she had a massive heart attack at age sixty three. The doctors said she had no heart disease, and it was likely stress. She died ten months later, from complications, and we found a note she carried in her purse that she had written to herself: “Remember you promised to love him for the rest of your life.” The thing is, she rarely argued with him. She just internalized. I know that’s sad and scary, but I mean it to be cautionary; you are very much the most important person to not only yourself, but a lot of people. Don’t ever forget that! And having it out is FAR better than keeping it in. I add my hugs to the pile!

    • Chattygal

      How is it possible that “Homer’s Phobia” (The Simpsons with “special guest voice” John Waters) aired more than seventeen years ago? Yikes I’m old.

      • Kitten Mittons

        I KNOW. I’m loving the marathon, though.

        • Chattygal

          I’m kinda sad the “good” seasons are almost over (my cutoff is the end of nine). I don’t think I’ve ever sat/lounged so much without changing the channel that often (the “800-BAD-DRUG” ads are killing me). I’m looking forward to the original, unedited “People of New York vs. Homer Simpson” at 3:00 tomorrow.

    • mom2ajs5

      I start school again this week as a student. I’m 42 finishing my degree while I work full time. I love it, but it is tough. My house deteriorates cleanliness-wise and my family eats more pizza than they should. But hopefully by the end of 2015 I’ll have my degree and be done!

      • Qitkat

        Hooray for you! That is the exact same age I returned to college and earned my degree, and kept working with a family. I found many non-traditional, older students in my classes. The profs loved us, we were serious about our attendance and assignments, and weren’t afraid to speak up in class! There may be some sleep deprived nights and you’ll work your ass off. Totally worth it.

        • mom2ajs5

          Thank you so much! I do love it and so far I haven’t been the oldest in class :-) My favorite part is that I’m actually taking classes that are related to my profession. That’s such a gift. My first time around was so far off from what I do for a living now! I didn’t have a clue!

        • demidaemon

          Those types of students are always my favorite for the reasons you state. They are more serious and definitely balance out my frustrations with the teens who haven’t yet grown up (I’ll admit that I was much more like a non-traditional student education and maturity wise than a traditional student when I was working on my first degree, so maybe I just empathize with those types more.)

      • Sarah

        That is wonderful! Vote of confidence: I just finished my degree this month, at 38. After two years post-high-school, I quit, waited thirteen years to go back, and it took six years part time/working full time to finish. You WILL be done, though. And when you are, you’ll be so happy – I can vouch for that! Congratulations on beginning your goal, and I hope it goes smoothly right to the finish. All the best from one adult student to another!

        • mom2ajs5

          Thank you for the well-wishes! And congrats to you for doing it too!

      • crashtestbonnie

        WOOT! I’m 42, too, and only occasionally wonder about finishing my degree. YOU. GO. GIRL. Besides, your kids? TOTALLY happy with the pizza consumption and when they look back on this time, THAT is not what they will remember. :)

        • mom2ajs5

          Thanks! :)