T Lounge

Posted on August 15, 2014

Darlings, we’ve all made it to the finish line of yet another week! YAY us!

Time for some continental-style glitter, don’t you think?

 

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T LOunge-372014-Cafe-Francais-Paris-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO (3)Café Français, Place de la Bastille, Paris, France

 

Parfait, non?

Please feel free to grab all the comfy seats and run up a tab, chéries. We’re afraid we have to dash, however. At this exact moment, we’re putting on our prettiest little summer hipster gay outfits and heading off to a wedding (Congrats, to Paul & Sean!) to party the night away. Talk amongst yourselves about whatever strikes your fancy, darlings.

Ciao!

    • RussellH88

      I’m already drinking.

      But I got a haircut so I look good while I’m doing it.

      • heybethpdx

        I wish I were drinking! I am prudishly waiting til 5pm (I work from home, it’s not like anyone would know….).

        My haircut is in two weeks and I cannot wait. Also, I’ve been refreshing like mad for the last half-hour to hit the T Lo Lounge!

      • http://instagram.com/nevareese International Model

        Looking forward to beer and pie. It’s been my carrot this week.

        • RussellH88

          I’m such a nerd that while at work, I used my mini sewing kit to measure my facial dimensions so I could know what my face shape was for when I get a haircut or buy glasses.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            A good haircut can make your look-ditto for glasses. I’ve been going to the same optical shop for years, and know that the woman who runs it will be completely candid about whether a frame will work with my face.

      • Aidan B

        Got mine cut this week too, so I guess I’m also looking good while drinking! Buddies!

        • 3boysful

          Me, three!

      • H2olovngrl

        It looks great!

      • AnguaVonUberwald

        I am replying to you because I think you said you were in Ohio? Anyway, my mom told me about a fantastic Edith Head exhibit in Lancaster, OH. Bunches of costumes from Paramount years, 1924-1967, exhibit until August 24. She showed me pictures and they are stunning. So, any BKs that live in or near Ohio, go see it!

    • Musicologie

      Have fun at the wedding, uncles!

      The ceiling reminds me of Pac-Man.

      • Aidan B

        Cannot unsee, lol.

      • BLauDGaspode

        The upholstery makes me worry for the whereabouts of Grover.

      • jorinde

        it’s Pac Man on the floor as well.

    • MilaXX

      I’m thinking greasy Chinese takeout and wine.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Come on over, I’ve got both! And I won’t be having more than a glass before I pass out, so the rest is all yours.

      • kimmeister

        Is there any other kind of Chinese takeout? :)

    • heybethpdx

      I’m going to go sit on a patio and let an attractive waiter bring me tequila drinks. Bring on the weekend!

    • PastryGoddess

      I’m eating the rest of my Bonchon chicken and drinking rotgut. I’ll be knocked out by 10pm

    • Aidan B

      Little bit of wine, lots of laundry, and a couple of leftover enchiladas for this chickie. I’m on my lonesome tonight. But on the bright side I just sent in an application to work with a local animal rescue charity, so hopefully I’ve got some cat-snuggling and dog butt wiggles in my future! Happy Friday, all.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I started volunteering at a small, no-kill animal shelter this summer, and love every minute I spend visiting with the adoptable kitties-I play with whoever wants some play time, groom those who are willing,etc. I leave covered in cat hair, and now keep a lint roller in the car so that our cat won’t be offended when I get home! Seriously, I love doing it-it makes every day that I visit better.

        • Aidan B

          Awesome! I hope they take me. I’d be getting on the train afterwards so I’ll have to start keeping a lint roller in my purse…and maybe some body spray, to mask the animal musk. It’ll be worth it though.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            It will be worth it,for sure. I also have learned to wash my arms once I get home;the first time I came home and touched our cat he spent a full two minutes carefully sniffing me to figure out where I’d been.

      • another_laura

        I volunteer at the local open-door city shelter. You will love it!! It’s one of the best parts of my weekend, always. I’m a dog volunteer and I love going there, walking them, picking up poo, playing with puppies. (puppy breath, amirite, dog fans?) I can’t imagine what I smell like when I get home but my own little mutt always seems happy to see me anyway!

        • Aidan B

          My current living situation does not allow for mutts or kitties, unfortunately; a big motivation in my decision to apply!

          • another_laura

            Perfect motivation, go get your fix – lots of the people I work with are in the same situation.

      • RussellH88

        I wish I could get a dog, but I live in an apartment and it’s not allowed.

        We kinda rescued a Rottweiler from our neighbors. She was bred for dogfights but some girl bought her, dated our frat boy neighbor and left the dog with him when they broke up where she was starved and beaten until she broke loose and we took her.

        Now she’s a chubby and happy couch potato and the sweetest dog we’ve owned.

        • Gatto Nero

          I feel murderous when I hear about abuse like that.
          I’m glad your girl had a happy ending.

        • frannyprof

          You are a saint!

        • gingerella

          Dogs’ capacity to

        • decormaven

          Bless you! That pup will be your forever friend.

        • Aidan B

          That’s so amazing! Good for you guys for stepping up.

    • another_laura

      Just waiting for the email flurry to die down and then I’m out, going away for a few days. Why oh why does everybody wait until Friday afternoon to pester the lawyers?!?!?

      I’m heading to the corner of one of those banquettes and ordering some Bordeaux and probably some smelly French cheeses to spread out and share with the BKs. Please come and gossip with me!

      • 3boysful

        Save me a seat! I remember those days in the office–I think everyone has you on their to-do list, but it may be an unpleasant call so they put it off until last, then feel great about checking off that item (and possibly ruining your afternoon/weekend)!

      • decormaven

        Friday is always Dump Day; people clear their desks by dumping on others’. Hope you escaped in one piece.

        • another_laura

          Thanks, I made it out alive, for sure. But am working over the weekend. It clearly comes with the gig.

          • decormaven

            Keep pushing. A glass of vin awaits you at home.

    • H2olovngrl

      School shopping for me today. So glad to be done with that chore! The little one is easy. A quick trip to the Carter’s outlet, and done. The thirteen year old is into twee and kawaii (whatever the fuck that means) and is a little bit trickier, plus she has no concept of “budget” so I have definitely earned a night out with the husband and friends. Pizza then booze!

      • Kitten Mittons

        What does that mean? I really have no idea.

        • Sophie

          “kawaii” means “cute” in Japanese, and it’s basically all kinds of cutesy things with bows and pleats and big eyes. I find it nauseating after a while.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Thanks. I googled, and I have seen the style before but didn’t know the name. It is a bit….sugary, but I’m not a tween, either. Bless the original poster.

          • demidaemon

            Yep. This. I surprised you can put up with it for any amount of time. It’s pretty much up there with twee in my book, which has an extremely limited lifespan for me.

            • Sophie

              I’m probably less familiar with twee, but I like it better than kawaii. Though that might be from being in too much contact with kawaii at the moment. Some of it is cute, but the attitude that often comes with it… I can put up with it through acclimatisation, but only in small amounts at a time.

            • demidaemon

              True. At least twee girls don’t constantly shout twee every other second….

          • H2olovngrl

            I found it pretty nauseating right away. ;)

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            This sounds a bit like the old “Keane” kids that were once popular in pop culture. They were incredibly cutesy, but it cutesy is one’s taste, go for it.

        • H2olovngrl

          She also likes “pastel goth” Yeesh.

          • Kitten Mittons

            These are things I did not know were things. Save the pictures for later in life.

            • H2olovngrl

              Oh, you betcha! Her galaxy sweatshirt in her school pic will definitely make her cringe, someday!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Pastel goth? is such a thing possible?

            • Jackie4g

              Now, now, you’ve seen your fair share of Stella and Peter Pilotto creations, so you are miles past asking if such a thing is possible.
              Jumbo shrimp.

            • formerlyAnon

              Dear god. I’ve seen that sort of thing. Didn’t know it was called pastel goth. Maybe it only strikes me as it does because I have a bit of a fondness for the black-on-black goth.

              Ignorance is bliss.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              True-after Peter and Stella, how can I be surprised? Jumbo shrimp, indeed!

            • H2olovngrl

              So she tells me!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Is that the same as Goth Loli or are they separate branches?

            • Sarah

              Goth Loli(ta) is being dressed like a (dark) baby girl. GROSS. I continue to thank my lucky stars that when I lived in Japan, most of this stuff had not started. I mean, there was street style aplenty, but not so much anime-inspired dressing.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              All the Goth Loli girls I know wear very frilly lavender or pink frocks with white petticoats and knee-high socks.

            • Sarah

              That’s not very Goth! That’s just straight Lolita. Which is definitely a thing. Do not ever search the term “sissy” under women’s clothes on Ebay.

            • H2olovngrl

              A little different. I absolutely won’t let her take it that far, and in truth, I don’t think she would feel even close to confident enough to pull something like that off. Remember that sweater that a couple of celebs had a while back, ripped up with stars on it? She is all about stuff like that, and floral skirts, lace, kitties, owls, bows, pink and lavender. Only more twee like…and with Chucks.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Sounds pretty cute! And definitely like something she needs to get out of her system when she’s young.

    • Janet B

      I’m too tired for more than one glass of wine.

      Being the mother of an “adult” teen may kill me. Maybe more drinking is in order.

    • GeoDiva

      Not much to say….just ready for the weekend and grateful that I didn’t murder all the people I wanted to this week. Aloha!

      • Jackie4g

        Atta girl.

    • snarkykitten

      Very swank! This weekend, the wife & I are celebrating her gender marker being officially changed on her birth certificate.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Wow, big deal! Congrats!

      • Aidan B

        Congratulations!

      • formerlyAnon

        Congratulations! Having the bureaucratic paperwork match reality is SUCH a life-simplifying step.

        • snarkykitten

          She’s feeling pretty awesome :) Weirdly enough, it was simple to change the marker on her driver’s license here in VA, but Washington State gave her the run around on the birth certificate (hint to vital info people: don’t blatantly lie to legal aid) I was shocked that such a red state as VA, she was able to do the marker/name change with ease.

          • formerlyAnon

            That red state/simple paperwork thing? That’s why we keep trying to make bureaucracy work. Rules & regulations that apply no matter what the social climate or individual bureaucrats’ opinions are. [I am a government worker, could you tell?]

            • snarkykitten

              Heh. Not quite. I mean, she had to petition a judge to get her name change and they didn’t bat an eye, even though it’s an obviously feminine name. (we had read about a transwoman in southern VA who was having difficulty changing her name, hence the wife’s anxiety)

              But when she submitted all the forms to WA (where she was born), they sent it back unchanged, claiming she didn’t send anything but the birth certificate. She asked the legal aid person @ her clinic to help, so the legal aid called asking what happened, & at first the clerk acted like they had no idea, but then slipped up & said “oh I’m familiar with the case, I’ve seen the doctor’s letter” Uhh…

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              That’s outrageous. As you say, *don’t* lie to legal aid!

            • formerlyAnon

              Well, it’s gratifying that the obstructionist whomevers were foiled. It would be more gratifying if less likely to hope someone got reprimanded for failing to do their job. And then trying to cover that up.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Progress! That’s great for her.

    • frannyprof

      I’ve spent the week with two eight year old girls (my daughter and my niece). I’m exhausted. My niece goes home on Sunday morning, at which point I will pour myself a HUGE drink and impose a vow of silence on the remaining members of my household. I’m not sure anyone will observe it but me.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Can you trick them into The Quiet Game? ;)

      • decormaven

        That’s when you lock yourself in the bathroom with a hot tub and a bottle of wine at the ready.

    • @Biting Panda

      This Lounge makes me crave cocaine. Too many mirrored surfaces. Ah the good old days…husbandless, childless, thin and full of energy. Le sigh.

      Speaking of busting balls and chains, this week was mostly a win. I allowed myself to accept too much help early in the week, but by Wednesday afternoon, I found my big girl panties again, and pulled them all the way up.

      Proving that life helps those that help themselves, I found an amazing massage therapist that offers deep discounts due to my Healthcare provider. I’ll be seeing her more often than my therapist, I do believe.

      Work has been all I knew it would. Kind, if not intrusive people who mean well and a mountain of filing to catch up on. I think I’m happy to be back. I’m certainly happy to work for such good people.

      I hope my fellow Kittens are fairing well. I can’t thank everyone enough for all of your encouraging posts here every week. I sure so love y’all.

      • rainwood1

        Congrats on the ‘mostly a win’ week and the extra hard pull on the underwear. Massages do wonders. Glad you’ve found a way to make them part of the new you.

        • @Biting Panda

          Thanks. love. How are you and yours? I think of y’all often.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        So glad to read your more upbeat mood. Even though you weren’t looking forward to it, I think work will be a good distraction for you. Takes your mind off you and your troubles for eight hours. Then you go home and put on the happy face for the kids until they’re asleep. A glass of wine and a mindless sitcom and you’re off to bed. If you’re like me, that’s the worst time, but hopefully that wine will help you drift off to sleep without too many tears. And so it goes until you’re over it and him. Good luck. We’re all rooting for you.

        • @Biting Panda

          I’ve been making too many decisions from a place of fear. When I have some objectivity, I am proud of the last few months and how I’ve navigated them. I need find my inner cheer leader who reminds me of all the ass I can kick.

          • Shibori Girl

            In the darkest days I learned to take a deep breath and say, ” I am safe”. Believe it or not, repeating that helped me get out of reacting from fear. It is so easy to get into catastrophic thinking. No matter how unlikely it is that the worst thing that could happen will, we still focus on it as the only possible outcome. Biting Panda, Honey, you are wise to take pride in what you have done. Have your inner cheer leader come up with a calming and positive mantra and carry on ( as my 100 year old British friend says.)

            Edited to remove the mystery exclamation point

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Until you find her, we will all be here to cheer you on.

          • decormaven

            Your inner cheer leader is doing cartwheels. Thanks to you and QKat for the “Strayed” recommendation- it’s been a great read. I love the analogies to life- so many times we freak ourselves out. It’s not the circumstances, it’s how we think about them.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Mostly a win is pretty damn good. That’s generally what I aim for most given weeks.

        And I envy your massage! Hope you get another one really soon. I have a gift card I’ve been meaning to use, I’ll try and use this as motivation to make the damn appointment.

        Keep those panties pulled way up, you got this all the way.

        • @Biting Panda

          I had an unexpected hour free, hit up google and called while driving their direction. She answered and said she could work me in for a thirty minute and by ten minutes into it, I was professing my new and undying love. Really talented lady.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Excellent. It could only be better if she were a he……

            • decormaven

              I don’t care about who’s massaging, as long as he/she has the skillz.

      • Sarah

        Love back at ya, BP. It is ever so good to hear you’re plugging away, and even better to hear you got discount massages! As for mirrors and youth – I’m glad I am past that point in time, and that I didn’t have enough money to get much farther into it than a few months of craziness. (Being a poor-ass hippie was good for something!) It’s better to leave that stuff alone, in the long run. To be husbandless, a mother, and full of knowledge is a far, far better thing.

        • @Biting Panda

          Truth.

          Another life ago I successfully navigated the Fire Swamp. I happily bid that all goodbye.

          • Sarah

            Yep, me too. Uppers are not my style. Not that I’m vice free, but you know – what I prefer these days is much easier on the body and soul.

      • marlie

        I’m glad you ended the week on an up note! And I’m totally jealous about the massage. :)

        • @Biting Panda

          Thanks for checking in on me this week. That meant a lot.

          • marlie

            Any time. xo

      • Qitkat

        Sweetie, it’s good to read your update. I knew you could find a way to navigate this week. A great massage therapist is a godsend. Love right back at chew ;)

      • formerlyAnon

        Glad you can think of the week as mostly a win. From the outside, you are hitting it out of the fucking ballpark. You are doing all the self-work and self-care you can figure out rather early in the game, as I’ve observed (& experienced) difficult/unsettling life changes in peoples’ lives.

        You will say, “well, I’ve been thinking about this and going back-and-forth for years” as if other people didn’t go through that as well. Believe in the strength and wisdom and energy with which you are doing this hard thing that makes it hard to feel strong, wise or energetic.

        • @Biting Panda

          I wish I could hug you.

          • formerlyAnon

            Thanks. I feel hugged.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Glad that you’ve had a mostly win week, and kudos on finding a great massage therapist. Keeping you in the light.

      • decormaven

        Massage is essential. I will give up a lot of things to make sure it is part of my life. So glad you are in her regular rotation now.

    • Shibori Girl

      I ought to have a star gazer as I tried every night from Sunday through Wednesday to see the Perseid meteor shower. Sunday night is on me…slept like a dead thing. But Monday through today it has been cloudy. So, no star gazer ( don’t like rye anyway.). Instead a lovely glass of Rioja will hit the spot. Finished a collage piece called Spiderweb Moon to celebrate the super moon and the many spiders intent on creating webs across every walkway in my yard. Though I try to avoid breaking these lacy creations, I can hear the tiny cursing of angry spiders in my wake. We will see after Aug 25th if the Kenmore fiber art show wants to celebrate with me by accepting the piece.

      Hope all y’alls are doing great and looking forward to relaxing weekends.

      • @Biting Panda

        I admire artists so much. To be able to express yourself in such a way is truly a gift.

        • Shibori Girl

          Thank you so much for the kind words! I have the luxury of not having to earn a living with weaving and dyeing. The people I really admire are working professional artists. They work incredibly hard.

          For me the good news is that I am finally feeling like working in the studio again after 4 tough years. Ironically the missing piece was taking vitamin B-12. Apparently vegetarians need an assist in that area.

          Anyway, glad your week ( mentioned below) was mostly a win. This whole lounge is pulling for you. That “Accepting the right amount of help but not too much” thing is tough! Keep on keeping on, honey!

      • 3boysful

        Bonne chance!

        • Shibori Girl

          Merci! The good news is that I like the piece. This is a new medium for me, so enjoying the journey is the main thing.

          • decormaven

            Fun! I love the concept. Sounds like you’re pleased with the execution.

      • Qitkat

        What a lovely concept for an art piece!

    • Jennifer Bober

      Oh, to be drinking.

      I will be in the office for another 7 hours or so, having already been here for 10. Pray for patience for me Kittens, so I don’t have to put out an appeal for bail money. The boss goes psycho over this event and strains my vaunted control to its limits. THANK GOD, the fund-raiser is Monday, so at least there is an end in sight.

      Have some drinks and relax and send me those mellow vibes to get me through!

      • 3boysful

        Ohmmmmmmmmmmmmmm . . .

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Deep breath, tell yourself the end is near, and sending lots of mellow vibes your way!

      • decormaven

        Do you work at a nonprofit? Bless. Hope you made it through ok.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Yes, I do. I left just before 5AM and am back for a couple of hours. I’ll be in tomorrow as well, though not for long.

          • decormaven

            Hang in there. Just know it will be behind you before too long.

          • formerlyAnon

            Hoping you make it through the next 20-30 hours, as applicable, without breaking and killing anyone, and that all the plans go off smoothly.

            • Jennifer Bober

              Thanks Kittens! You’re the best. My boss was better than usual. I survived working until 5AM and while there where hitches, they weren’t our fault and we fixed them quickly. We sent off the chairman who’s run the event for the past 34 years in style. The cleanup is almost as bad, but without the pressure of a finite date for completion. I wore something adorable for the dinner and got lots of compliments, so I’m calling this a big win overall.

              Thanks for helping me get through it!!

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      I am very proud of myself. I have been to the gym 6 times in the last two weeks. (Not doing anything too major – just 25 minutes on the treadmill – I’m working on making it a habit before I make it hard.) And I continue to hold onto the good feelings I came home from Seattle with – I guess I need to make it a point to visit/get drunk with my brother more often.

      • @Biting Panda

        Hey – that is a big damn deal!! Good for you.

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          I couldn’t do it without Bitter Kittens. :-)

          • @Biting Panda

            Amen to that!!

      • Kitten Mittons

        That’s a great strategy, and kudos to you for your determination. That’s the hardest part for most people. Bravo!

      • Jackie4g

        You got there. That in itself is an achievement. Good for you!

      • Shibori Girl

        Good on you – you are worth it!

      • kimmeister

        Regularity is key! Congrats on starting good habits.

      • Sarah

        That’s major, Swiffly! So glad for you. I visited my brother a couple of weeks ago, and I’m always kicking myself when I realize this awesome guy is only two hours away, with a great family, a great farm, and a great sense of humor about the exact things that only we and our sister know. I should really see him more than a few times a year! We will BOTH make a point of it, no?

      • Qitkat

        Brothers are everything! What a good start you’ve made with the gym, regularity is the key. Says the woman who has been skipping out on the gym for far too long. Perhaps I’ll feel guilted, err…, make that motivated, into it, there are worse reasons to go back.

      • formerlyAnon

        You are awesome! And have the right attitude.

        I’m coming off mostly good exposure to family but it’s still thrown me for a bit of a loop, so I’m impressed. One good thing about seeing family/old friends is I also got a better sense of how much healthier some of my habits have become over the last few years. Which only goes to prove that it’s not about how often one backslides, it’s how often and how quickly one gets back up on the horse. (To mix metaphors.)

      • decormaven

        Woo hoo! That is wonderful news on all fronts. So glad for you.

    • rainwood1

      I’ll have a Kir Royale even though the champagne will probably give me a headache. It seems apropros, n’est-ce pas?

      Thought I’d stop in the Lounge for a minute as I completely forgot about PR again this week. I think it’s my brain’s way of saying “Stop wasting what’s left of me on that sorry excuse of a show.” From the PR postings, it looks like I didn’t miss much.

      We’re on the island for the weekend again. The hubs had an up and down couple of weeks, but we’re currently on an up cycle so I’ll take it. Treasure your health, BK’s. Without it, life is just plain hard.

      • Kitten Mittons

        I never knew what that was until my parents went to France and brought me a bottle of creme de cassis. It was delicious! Then I got pregnant and couldn’t finish it :(

      • formerlyAnon

        Hoping the weekend is good time for both of you. Know that many of us are thinking of you.

      • decormaven

        Healthy, healing thoughts to you and your husband. You’re right – good health is a precious gift.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      My older daughter’s wedding is just 2 weeks away. Every time I think to myself that all details are settled there is some damn thing that rears its ugly head. To wit: we just found out that there is a damn street festival that is taking place ALL of Labor Day weekend. The streets in the center of downtown Raleigh will be CLOSED to vehicular traffic from 2 AM Saturday until midnight on Sunday. Therefore, the limo will not be able to drop off the wedding party at the reception. The florist, caterer, musicians, and oh yes guests, will also have to park somewhere in East Jesus and figure out how to walk through the crowds to get the the reception hall. Oh, and the restaurant for the rehearsal dinner on Saturday night will also be inaccessible for vehicles. This particular festival apparently happens every Labor Day but nobody saw fit to mention it when we were making reservations for the hotel, the reception area, and the restaurant back in January. We have a request in to the RPD to see if we can get an exemption/permit for the limo and the vendors but no reply yet.

      If my younger daughter gets married and wants a big wedding, I’m spending the extra money and hiring a professional to do the planning. This stopped being fun about 2 months ago.

      In good news–and I sort of hesitate to mention this, given the many opinions voiced earlier today in the Emma Stone post–hubby and I went to see the new Woody Allen movie (Magic in the Moonlight), and I found it delightful. Sweetly endearing, with a light comedic touch, incredible costuming/set decoration, Allen’s usual discerning use of period music, and of course wonderful performances. Emma Stone is very effective, but Colin Firth is nothing short of
      magnificent. What a great actor! I hope someone remembers this
      performance when it’s time for Oscar nominations. Allen is a brilliant filmmaker and I for one am so very glad he keeps pursuing his muse and not resting on his considerable cinematic laurels. He will never be held up as anyone’s idea of an ideal parent but God, the man can make movies like nobody’s business, and I hope he continues to do a new one every year for as long as he can.

      My drink of the evening: Campari and soda, with a twist of lime.

      • Shibori Girl

        I am so sorry about the wedding kerfuffles. Seems like there is always something! If the bride needs a gentle reminder that while this is a big bummer, it will get worked out, you might point out that if her wedding day is the most perfect day of her life, the next 60 or 70 years with her beloved will be a long letdown.

        I am thinking of you, MOTB. Hang in there.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Thank you! Of course perspective is everything. It’s just that the kerfuffles are endless, aggravating, and exhausting for everyone. I’m not counting the days til this is over–far from it!–but I will not miss the sinking feeling I get when I look at my email in the morning and see something unexpected and wedding-related.

      • Kitten Mittons

        I’d raise hell and ask for a discount for not mentioning the street festival. The fact that these vendors didn’t mention it is ridiculous. They sure as heck knew about it.

        Just focus on how fabulous you’ll look in that dress you picked. It really is beautiful.

        Oh, I’m sure your daughter will look lovely, too.

      • Scimommy

        Hey Ellen! So the big day is coming up, huh? I hope everything goes smoothly, and I am *sure* that both you and your daughter are going to look amazing.

        I’m very conflicted wrt Woody Allen movies nowadays. I loved Midnight in Paris, but that was the last one I saw, and I can’t bring myself to watch another one, even though I kind of want to. Like I said, conflicted. But I’m glad you liked it!

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Congrats on the upcoming wedding. Yes, vendors should come up with ‘something’ to help with transportation.

          I’m with you. I may not like his personal life, but I love his movies. I wanted to see ‘Accidental Gigolo’, but it didn’t play anywhere near me, so I’m hoping for streaming or DVD soon.

          Congratulate yourself on a job well done. Wedding planning is a huge undertaking.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I really liked Blue Jasmine-it’s worth seeing for Cate Blanchett’s performance.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Tell the hotel that you expect them to come up with a creative solution since they neglected to tell you about the street closures. At the very least, they should provide shuttles to bring your guests and vendors to the hotel from another location. They should be able to get a permit from the city to enter the area to drop off your guests. Use the Yelp argument. Nothing scares a business more than the threat of negative reviews. Good luck and mazel tov, sweetie.

      • formerlyAnon

        I live in a city not particularly kind to businesses affected by street closures, I hope Raleigh is better. At the very, most minimal least, you’d think there should be allowances for florists, caterers, etc. – and transportation for older/infirm guests and the wedding party. (I am imagining photos of the bride and her father arriving via golf cart. I hope I am wrong!)

      • decormaven

        For sure the venue knew of the annual festival. I am so sorry! Is this near the RBC Center? People are giving you good advice here. I’m racking my brain to think of folks in that area; a dear friend & lawyer acquaintance who lived in Raleigh and dealt with the DOT might have been of aid, but he passed last year. Be creative and work all the angles. Sending you calming, coping vibes. Glad the movie gave you some respite.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          No, it’s downtown. The venue (The Stock Room) is on Fayetteville St., which is among the many which are closed. We already talked with the manager at the Stock Room and basically said, YOU need to make this right for the vendors, it’s not my problem, and being uncooperative is not an option. I’m also worried about street noise, as there are plans for bands & drumming circles at the festival. Thank goodness the Sheraton hotel takes up a whole block, so even though the Fayetteville St. entrance won’t be accessible, the one on Salisbury St. will be. Thank you for the good vibes! I went and got a massage this morning and that did a lot to take the raw edges off. :-)

          • decormaven

            Got it. I know the location. Best thoughts for the event. A massage is always medicinal.

          • formerlyAnon

            Deleted because my first reading put your words into the manager’s mouth, so my response made no sense!

    • Kitten Mittons

      This week was pretty good in total. Minor frustrations and annoyances that aren’t worth recounting. The good stuff:

      1. Little man has developed the habit of telling me when he needs his diaper changed, and then walking around in a bow-legged wide stance stomp until I do. I wish I could post a video, because it would cheer up the crankiest of moods.

      2. (Warning: parent bragging ahead) My kid is a friggin genius. He will not show us the things he learns at daycare, so they tricked him into telling me over the phone, by telling him one of the other daycare ladies was on the line. He proceeded to spell all his colors, and then name the seven continents. He is only 2.5 years old. I knew he was bright, but I was floored, nearly literally.

      3. I had a phone interview today for a new job, and it went very well. At least well enough to land me a face-to-face interview this coming week. I hope that this turns out to be the opportunity that I’m thinking it will be, in terms of pay and the chance to really learn some important skills. The possibility for travel makes me a bit nervous, as I’ve been lucky to avoid that with the bebe, but I think I’ll need to suck it up. This is otherwise pretty much exactly what I wanted, and I’m beyond ready to get the hell out of my current job. BEYOND.

      4. I got a new purse that will go smashingly with my interview suit. If they care about purses, they may hire me based on it alone. I kind of doubt that they do, though. Still…..

      • @Biting Panda

        That’s a hell of a list!
        And hey, now that bebe is working out of those diapers, a little travel here and there may be good for the woman inside the mom.
        I hope all the good things keep flowing your way.

        • Kitten Mittons

          Thanks! Yes, he’s working on potty training, so I think he’s disliking being wet. It’s too funny, though.

          A little travel would be good. They mentioned maybe 2-3 weeks at a time, which makes me hyperventilate a bit, but I think you’re right. And I think it’s important he see us reach for our goals. And the travel isn’t long-term, maybe 18 months of on-and-off. Manageable. In the long run, it will be hugely worth it (I hope).

          • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

            Often the wee ones who have sensory sensitivities like the wet diaper stomp are very brilliant. If you think it’s appropriate, have him tested to find out his IQ and other developmental milestones. I was faced with a 3 y/o that was reading, but I was in massive denial. Had her tested and she’s reading at a 2nd grade level, is doing basic math, and the estimated IQ was 160. Overwhelming, yes. But, I’m glad I knew so I could look ahead a little, and know their tendency towards sensory stuff. Such as…certain foods are no way due to texture, socks cannot have the seam across the toe, a fire alarm causes her to absolutely lose it. Best on the interview!

            • Kitten Mittons

              Some of that is sounding familiar. Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll look into it.

            • @Biting Panda

              Also good, but maybe early, is a book about The Highly Sensitive Child.
              (As in the 5 senses)

            • Kitten Mittons

              Thank you, I’ll definitely check it out. I’m currently in the middle of three different books, which I hate doing. As soon as i knock out two of three, I’ll pick it up.

            • formerlyAnon

              I laughed so much at this! The sock thing, ohhh the sock thing!

            • Sarah

              Also, no tapioca pudding (slimy and bumpy), no sand (hot and scratchy) no barking, no smoke alarms, and no sirens. I was one of those – still am! Also have a nephew who was that baby, for sure. He is heading to U of Houston, aged sixteen, for his freshman orientation this weekend. My continued personal bugbear: I can’t stand tight clothes.

      • kimmeister

        May you perfect a purse-holding technique that both shows it off without being obnoxious or weird (like so many celebs)!

        • Kitten Mittons

          So, the straps are long enough to wear over the shoulder, but short enough that it’s more comfortable on my forearm. I have to admit that I think of y’all every time I hang it on my arm.

          “No Mr. Burns hands, no Mr. Burns hands, no Mr. Burns hands…..”

          On a semi-related note, Taylor Swift won me a gift card last week, because I knew her birthday wasn’t in August (we share a birthday). I’m still waiting to receive said gift card, but I thought y’all would like to know that she does have value. Specifically, $25 at Starbucks.

          • kimmeister

            That’s $25 more than what I’ve spent on her music, so drink up!

            • Kitten Mittons

              While I do enjoy her music, I’ve only ever bought one cd, for my little niece, who has since moved on. I like her, but it’s definitely not music I need to own. There’s too much stellar shit out there.

      • Sarah

        BEST OF LUCK, Mittons. I couldn’t be more ready to get the heck out of my job, either. I think the purse is Magical, from your description, so I expect it will work. Also: Your baby is a genius. Good on you.

        • Kitten Mittons

          Thanks! It is Magical, with many magical inner pockets.

          • Sarah

            I’ve been job hunting in earnest for the last two years. I don’t like the way the local gov’t I work for is going – not being very kind to their employees, mainly – when I started, it was fine, but the last five years have gone downhill. I don’t mind my co-workers, and really, if I could just get a damned promotion, I’d stay, but I also would love to make a fresh start, possibly in my ACTUAL field. Hopefully, now that I can say I’m a degree holder, some of these interviews I’ve gotten on basis of twenty years of experience alone will be transformed into actual offers.

            • Kitten Mittons

              No doubt they will. That’s great!

            • decormaven

              Fingers crossed!

      • marlie

        I hope that the new purse is just the lucky charm that you need (though I’m sure you’ll rock with or without it)!

        And it sounds like you have a prodigy on your hands. :)

        • Kitten Mittons

          Thank you! I blame my parents, who are Way Too Smart. When I can’t challenge him anymore, I’ll ship him off to Mimi and Papa.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Having just been through the interviewing process (did I mention I’m WORKING?), I wish you extra good luck. It’s tough converting those phone interviews into face-to-face ones. Skyping with your little man will make that traveling a tiny bit easier. Buena suerte!

        • Kitten Mittons

          Hallelujah for Skype! I think I’ll be less nervous for the real interview. I’ve never had a phone interview, and you don’t get the chance to do the handshake, make eye contact, etc. I was so nervous that I didn’t sound interested enough, or was too quiet, or came off too monotone. I feel more prepared for a standard interview, at least.

          How is the new job going???

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I failed every phone interview I had, partly because they usually came without warning. You’re in the bathroom or washing dishes and all of a sudden you’re being asked to sell yourself. I need preparation time for that.

            The new job is going great. I finished my 4th week today, my second paycheck is arriving on Wednesday and my boss is very happy with my performance. It takes me 15 minutes to and from work, which in LA is unheard of. I’ve even made it home in 11 minutes! Who could ask for anything more?

            • Qitkat

              So happy to hear the new job is going so well. 15 minutes for a commute is happiness for anyone, let alone in LA. It scares me a bit to drive there, with the 8 or more lane freeways, and sneaky motorcycles coming in between.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Since I was born in Los Angeles and learned to drive on the freeways, I’m very comfortable driving here. Motorcycles driving between the lanes is called lane splitting. It’s allowed, but there are laws about it to protect the drivers of both the cars and the bikes.

            • decormaven

              You get all the stars for driving in that tangle. Traffic is a real challenge for me; that’s why I take public transportation whenever I can. Atlanta’s traffic is beyond me now.

            • Kitten Mittons

              That’s not an interview, that’s an ambush!

              That sounds like a pretty sweet deal. I’m so glad you’re enjoying it, and the paychecks are flowing. That commute is practically ideal.

            • @Biting Panda

              Huzzah!

            • formerlyAnon

              So happy the job is going well! And your commute is a DREAM, even in the much, much, MUCH smaller city in which I live. I think you chose well.

            • decormaven

              That’s a Christmas miracle to get that kind of commute in LA. So glad you got that gift!

      • Qitkat

        Your son and my grandson would get along swimmingly. He too is always amazing his parents with surprising stuff he learned at daycare. He is 33 months and they just got him potty trained, so you are on your way. Good luck with the job situation, I love the idea of a magic purse…

        • Kitten Mittons

          They probably would! Mine just hit 34 and is only now starting to show any interest in the potty. Even with m&m’s and/or stickers as a bribe! All in good time, but I’d love to get out of diapers. Diapers, wipes, diaper genie, diaper genie inserts, diaper cream, all could go away.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Gee, I hope you can get him trained before he hits 35!

            • Kitten Mittons

              Hee! That looked funny to me too. Lazy typing, but I’m keeping it because it’s funny.

      • formerlyAnon

        Congratulations! I can tell you from my experience that bright kids can seem like sooo much extra work when they’re small but there are compensations!

        I have to say that it speaks incredibly well of your marriage/child care arrangements that you can contemplate a job with that much [even temporary] travel, even with a bit of trepidation. Well done, you!

        • Kitten Mittons

          It’s doable, which is a blessing for sure. There is a certain amount of trepidation, just because dad is not as nurturing, I suppose, but what man is? He’s definitely more strict, which balances out when we’re both here. When it’s just him for that long….. we’ll see. But there are two sets of grandparents to help him, and our daycare is truly amazing. Truly truly. I’ll just need to let go of the notion that I’m the ONLY one who can possibly take care of him properly, because my husband is a great dad.

          • formerlyAnon

            However you characterize it, every hands-on caring adult brings something different to a kid. My ex- and I had very different approaches (mostly gender-stereotypical) to some aspects of child-rearing, and in the end it was good for the kids to have both. Their stepmom, who is distressingly married to some gender-stereotypes that I find appalling, has also wound up having a significantly more powerful/nontraditional job than have I. I think the variations in the adults (within reason) is really a strength.)

            • Kitten Mittons

              I agree wholeheartedly. That’s kind of what I was trying to say, in that he and I have different approaches. Together, we make a good team. If either one of us is in charge for too long, it’s decidedly one-sided. I’m too soft on him, I know that. But it’s good for him to see both, as well as other approaches from grandparents, daycare, etc. My fault was in projecting our parenting styles on others, from a very limited viewpoint.

              Short answer, he’s a great dad, and he’ll do fine.

      • decormaven

        Ohh, that’s wonderful news on all fronts. Your bebe sounds so smart- I never knew about “The Sensitive Child.” So that’s what I was? Good to know. Best of luck on the job interview. “Wear a smart suit and ace them!”

        • Kitten Mittons

          I didn’t either. I’ve had texture issues all my life, as does my mom. If that’s me, I’m probably low on the spectrum, as most of the other things don’t bother me. I do hate a tight belt, though. Always makes me feel like I’m strangling my organs.

          Definitely sounds worth a read, though.

          Thank you!

    • Jackie4g

      The last of the comic books have been dutifully packed and taken away to their new lodgings with my son and his lovely girlfriend, and the room makeover begins in earnest. Yes, the prolific piles of miscellany will start to either find proper homes, or be donated, or be tossed.
      After being on his own for seven years, in 2010 my son had to come back, “for a year”, which I never thought would be just a year, and though no fault of his own, turned into 3 1/2 years. So I am getting my doll room/ tv room/ guest room back. I am so sick of the clutter and now I have a chance to actually assess, and I feel strong enough to not be emotionally bound to stuff for stuff’s sake. Three and a half years of overcrowding will do that for you.
      I am going to have a White Russian. This is going to be a cathartic couple of weeks. Vacation was great, I love Philly, but now it’s time to get shit done!

      • Sarah

        The Caucasian is my favorite cocktail. Excellent choice!

        • kimmeister

          That reminds me, I wonder who won the cocktail-naming contest?

          • Sarah

            Oh, Santino, I’ll bet. I’m not above a little unofficial counting ;)

      • formerlyAnon

        Yay for Getting Shit Done! You sound like you’re in the zone!

        (I hope I can get in that zone myself, soon. My son & his girlfriend move out in a week, though he’s only been here 14 months and she 2. They are lovely housemates but all three of us are ready . . . )

      • decormaven

        That’s good news indeed. Enjoy getting the room back to square. Best of luck to your son as he ventures forth again.

      • Aidan B

        Hope you enjoyed your time in Philly! What did you do? I always enjoy hearing what out-of-towners get up to when they come here.

        • Jackie4g

          Given; I have the world’s stupidest hobby, says she with a big grin. I was in Philadelphia attending the Madame Alexander Doll Club annual Convention. I’ve loved the town since I was a class mother for a middle school day trip back in the 90s and have since visited the Philadelphia Art Museum several times. Love the American furniture and also the costume exhibits. This past week end was filled with convention events, and the one free afternoon was spent fabric shopping. It wasn’t like NYC”s fabric district, but it hit the spot. Loved the tree lined streets and the Colonial/Federal architecture. Took Mass Transit and admire the excellence of the system. Convention is always a happy time, made even better by a fabulous city.

          • Aidan B

            That actually sounds pretty cool! I don’t know much about Madame Alexander dolls specifically, but I do have a soft spot for girlie things like that. I have yet to find my way to the costume exhibit at PMOA, which I would love to see, but the place is just so damn big! I use said mass transit to commute from the burbs to Old City, with its lovely said architecture, and I’m happy to report I enjoy it just as much as you do :)

    • papillon

      Hi BKs.

      So I’ve decided to seriously try to work on improving my personal style. I think I have some good pieces in my wardrobe but I don’t know how to put things together. So I wondered if you all could recommend any good books or websites that give style tips for a beginner? Thank you in advance.

      • kimmeister

        If you are female, “Oh no she didn’t” by Clinton Kelly is a fun, snarky read on what NOT to do. I agree with him ~95% of the time.

        • papillon

          Thank you! I am female and I used to watch What Not To Wear a few years ago so I’m a little familiar with Clinton. I’ll look for that book.

    • ellatheingenue

      I’m dreading the beginning of senior year but excitedly anticipating the beginning of Il Trovatore rehearsals.

      • travelingcat

        Rehearsing for Il Trovatore sounds lovely, enjoy!

      • formerlyAnon

        Rehearsals should focus your mind so that senior year’s hurdles seem a bit less important, anyway. (Or maybe not?) Wishing you all the best!

    • kimmeister

      Every other month or so, Victoria’s Secret sends coupons for free undies to my house, addressed to the female version of my husband’s name. It’s so bizarre. He’s never even bought anything there. But today I redeemed the coupon for myself anyway!

      Going to an Alice in Wonderland themed tea party tomorrow and have been asked to bring finger sandwiches. I have neither been to a tea party before, nor made finger sandwiches, so this should be interesting.

      • Sarah

        Hehee. I’ve been on that “free underwear” trip with my buddy a bunch of times. Nude, black, or white, right? Hope your tea party is awesome. Make sure your sandwiches are crustless – I think that’s what “finger” means.

        • kimmeister

          In fact, I was given no color limitations so I picked a cute black & white houndstooth pair. I will definitely trim the crusts and have my gouda, cream cheese, sundried tomatoes, etc ready for the sandwiches.

          • Sarah

            Ooh. I want yer sammiches :)

          • Kitten Mittons

            Houndstooth! Excellent choice.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I love finger sandwiches. Might be too late, but I have a really delicious chicken and walnut sandwich filling that goes down very well.

        • kimmeister

          Yes, late for today’s event, but I welcome yummy recipes for future reference! Especially from a foodycat. As long as they don’t require cucumber. I was dismayed by the number of cucumber sandwiches at the tea party.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            No cucumber! Although I do love cucumber sandwiches. This one is just the meat from a rotisserie/barbecued chicken roughly chopped, handful of walnuts roughly chopped,
            finely diced stick of celery, block of cream cheese softened and mixed with a small
            amount of mayo and a dash of American mustard to taste.

            • kimmeister

              Thanks!

            • decormaven

              Tucking that one back for my next women’s wine gathering. Which bread do you recommend? Thanks!

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Either little slices of baguette, or a decent white bread cut into fingers (crusts off, of course!)

            • decormaven

              Thanks!

    • Sarah

      Evening, y’all. Big day for me! I submitted my revised thesis, which I THINK (barring any unforeseen bitchiness from my advisor) means that I am…done….with COLLEGE. Twenty one years, five schools, and 60K in loans, but…damn. I might be done. I sort of can’t believe it. After I pressed “send” on the thesis, the Mr. and I went out for lunch and rented a movie, and I was so out of it from being in a weird “I have no more coursework, EVER” state of mind that I accidentally locked the keys in the truck – with it running. We had to call AAA because while my fella is a pro car-breaker (misspent youth) my truck is well-nigh impregnable with a coat hanger. All’s well that ends well, excepting I have a seriously low amount of gas and I have to work in the morning…but HEY! I live on the EDGE!! And, I think, maybe, just maybe, if the stars are aligned, and my citations are correct, I might get a diploma for my BA in Art History in a couple of weeks. PRAISE JEEBUS.

      • Shibori Girl

        Congratulations!!!

      • marlie

        Congratulations!! You definitely deserve a celebration. The first round is on me!

        • Sarah

          Many rounds have already been imbibed, so I’ll get the bartender to reimburse ya :)

      • papillon

        That’s fabulous. Congratulations!

      • Kitten Mittons

        My husband messes with me for locking my keys in the car too often, but he’s the only one to lock them in while running. I had to leave work to rescue him while he was at lunch with the work guys….. at Hooters. I’ll always have that one on him.

        More importantly, Congratulations!!!! What an awesome, major accomplishment (pun intended). You deserve some kind of special treat this weekend. A purchase, a pampering, or just being lazy. Something, though. Treat yoself!

        • Sarah

          Thank you! I will. I always do, but this time, I’m thinking of taking my fella on a date to the restaurant that serves the Most Divine Seafood Bisque on the planet. Especially since before we called the calvary, he spent a good half hour looking determined, sweaty, and shirtless while he tried to get the damned car door open. And never said a thing about how dumb I was for letting that happen. Heavy cream, shrimp, and clams are called for.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Indeed. That sounds amazing!

          • Qitkat

            That sounds so delicious. Your fella is a prince.

          • formerlyAnon

            Possibly it is a good thing, in the “don’t scare the horses” vein that The Guy wasn’t successful. “Determined, sweaty & shirtless” can be a potent combination to mix in with “glee over successful outcome.”

            (Or maybe that’s just me. I have a . . . fondness . . . for competence.)

            • Sarah

              Oh, three years in juvie cured him of that nonsense. But yes, he’s Quite Handsome, and very capable in all the Manly Arts. I do indeed find that a potent combo.

      • kerryev

        Congratulations!
        Something about being done with a particularly tough part of school tells all the brain cells to shut off, including those you need to get around. I somehow lost my wedding band (but not the family engagement ring, which I wear on top of the band…?) when I treated myself to a mani-pedi after finishing my 1L year.

      • kimmeister

        WOOHOO!!! Don’t you feel like such a grown-up?

        • Sarah

          Oh, I dunno. I am pretty old already, so I think what made me feel like a grown up was the credit card bills, the loans, and the damned mortgage. Since I can’t really afford it, I’m hoping the degree will allow me to get the job I need to be financially solvent and not depend on my relatives in emergencies. What it does make me feel, is that I finally have the piece of paper coming that will prove to everyone that I’m as smart and accomplished as I already was, but now they can’t turn me down for not having it.

          • kimmeister

            that’s true, bills and housing issues do tend to force someone to become a grown up quickly. However, when I went back to school seven years after graduating in order to take a Spanish night class (as I had gotten engaged to my Mexican American now-husband), I discovered that I had really missed the academic environment. I always kicked butt at school and it as fun to revive the Asian overachieving gene again.

            • Sarah

              Yes, I’m a pro student. Been at it for quite some time. I’m taking maybe a year (probably less) off before grad school, because all my friends who’ve done it (which are ALL of them – I’m the black sheep, schoolwise) have said the less you wait the better, since I’m already in scholar mode. I have a little wedding to plan in the meantime! But it certainly is nice to have completed something, ANYTHING, really.

            • kimmeister

              Yes, you need to take a break for wedding planning for sure. I took that Spanish class at the same time as I was planning my wedding, apartment hunting, moving, trying to get ahead on work stuff so I could go on my honeymoon worry-free, among other things. All while being a perfectionist. Nearly killed me!

      • travelingcat

        Congratulations! What a wonderful feeling to be done and have accomplished your goal.

        • Sarah

          Thank you!

      • Qitkat

        AWESOME!!!!
        CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
        S’WONDERFUL!!!!
        CELEBRATE!!!!

        Please excuse the shouting, I am very happy for you Sarah :))))

        • Sarah

          THANK YOU QITKAT!!! I AM HAPPY TOO!!

      • rainwood1

        Congrats!! Sounds like it’s been a long journey, but you’ve accomplished what you set out to do. That’s always a good feeling.

        • Sarah

          Thank you! Long and LONG – just a lil’ thirteen year hiatus in there, with a couple of changes of major, but yeah – DONE.

      • demidaemon

        I am pulling for you on the thesis. Hopefully, your advisor pulls her head out of her ass.

        • Sarah

          Oh, thank you. I checked out the hard copy of the Chicago Manual and pored over that mother for weeks to get the citations correct. I swear, I spent more time formatting that bleeping paper than I did actually researching it. She had BETTER pass me.

          • demidaemon

            I’m impressed, especially considering that Chicago is the devil’s format style. I understand it, but I seriously need a guide, and I have a weird predisposition towards understanding paper styles.

            • Sarah

              I’m not bad at it – bibliography-wise, I have it down. My problem was that my paper, being an art history thesis, had about twenty “figures” in it. So, in-text “fig. 1, fig. 2., etc.” and then the citations UNDER the figures, and then a list of illustrations that has to go in the FRONT matter, not the back, and UGH. It was tedious as heck.

            • demidaemon

              Oh, man. I’m even more impressed. Visual aids in any citation style are difficult; Chicago’s backwardsness must just make it worse. Kudos to you on slogging through and doing it!

      • @Biting Panda

        Baby, you’re a STAR!

        • Sarah

          THANKS! I will now acquire a job that allows me to be independently wealthy, and travel the world visiting BK’s and bestowing large sums of cash on them. Naturally.

          • formerlyAnon

            This is a plan I can get behind.

          • BLauDGaspode

            A toast to you! (With provided champagne)

          • decormaven

            Anytime the Cash Fairy care to make a call, I’ll set out the welcome mat.

      • formerlyAnon

        Hot damn! I vote for a series of celebrations: sent the damn thing off day, finished up any loose ends of either corrections or bureaucratic hoops day, officially revised the CV day, updated any outstanding job apps day, received diploma day, What the Hell??!! It’s Day 21 that I don’t have any homework or studying day . . . .

        I figure you’ve got 4-6 weeks of celebrations here. Minimum.

        • Sarah

          Hehee, I like yer style.

      • BLauDGaspode

        A great many congratulations! Viva la vida loco!

      • decormaven

        Woo hoo! Celebration time indeed. Congrats to you.

        • Sarah

          Thank you, very much!

    • travelingcat

      I am celebrating this weekend! After 3 1/2 years of grad school I graduated in May, and this past week passed my professional licensure exam. This is the first weekend in what feels like forever in which I don’t have to study. At all. Aaaaand, there is no more school. I started the celebration by taking a nice long nap with a cat when I got home from work. Now I’m considering opening the bottle of cognac that was given to me as a present for a nice late nightcap. I have a strict rule about not drinking at home alone. Does it count as home alone if I’m in the lounge with bitter kittens? Come to think of it, it could wait until tomorrow with a couple of friends. Happy weekend to all!

      • Qitkat

        Congratulations! Always happy to see a new kitten with success in the Lounge. That’s the cool thing- you can be alone, and yet not alone, when you hang out here :)

        • travelingcat

          Thank you Kitten Mittons and Qitkat. I greatly appreciate the alone/not alone factor, and the fact that this is a positive place. I’m getting together with a few friends for dinner tomorrow evening. Otherwise I intend to celebrate by relaxing. I’ve started to read a book that has nothing to do with school or work, it feels like such a luxury. (I relied on audiobooks in the car during school for my fiction fix.)

      • Kitten Mittons

        Huge congrats! Big celebration for you this weekend, I hope.

      • kimmeister

        A nap with a cat after a long day is one of the best things in the world. (That, and a nice MLT.)

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          They’re so perky, I love that.

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        Felicidades! Have your celebratory cognac with us and your cat. You’ve worked for it; do it. You’re not alone.

        • travelingcat

          Thank you, I did. It was lovely sharing it with you.

      • demidaemon

        I am so happy to hear so many BKs have successfully finished degrees when I am about to embark on that journey (again!). It fills me with hope and inspiration.

        • travelingcat

          Congrats on starting that journey. Sometimes it’s a slog, but it’s worth it and feels that much better at the end. I know you’ll be fabulous!

      • Sarah

        Hey, congrats from one finisher to another!!! Study-less weekends! YAY!!!

        • travelingcat

          Isn’t wonderful? Here’s to reading what we want and doing what we want with our time off!

          • Sarah

            YESSS! I’m truly, truly grateful. Until I go back to school, I’m not doing ANYTHING I don’t want to do :)

      • formerlyAnon

        Congratualtions!

        (I assume you had that cognac, unless you got distracted.)

        • travelingcat

          I did have that cognac, it was smooth and all the more yummy for the good company.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Big congratulations, and absolutely NO, you are NOT drinking alone if you have the BKs for company and commentary. You should reward yourself as you can for getting through such a long slog. Brava!

      • decormaven

        You’re not alone when you’re in the TLo Lounge. Pop open the cognac and pour a nice drinkie. Congrats on passing your exam.

    • Peeve

      Huge congratulations, traveling cat and Sarah! I know the feeling of ‘work, work, work, and suddenly, no work’. It’s weird and wonderful at the same time. Eat, drink (especially drink), and be merry while you can!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        I’ll drink to that!

        Congratulations to both of you for accomplishing what you set out to do. May the next phase of your life be fulfilling, rewarding and everything you worked so hard to achieve.

        • Sarah

          Thank you very much, GC. It is a bit scary to think that now what I’ve been working for has come to pass, but the magical transformation of career may not for a while, depending on the job market. As it is, I’m just glad to be back to a person who works full time and does NOT have school every other second of the day.

        • travelingcat

          Thank you! Like Sarah, the transition to the new career will take awhile, but I am happy to be on to the next step. For now, I am going to enjoy some down time before my licensure becomes official and I start the transition process.

      • Sarah

        Thank you! I am deliciously excited to read WHATEVER I WANT for the foreseeable future.

    • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

      Nothing truly special this week other than taking my 91 y/o moms cat to what I call Mayo Clinic South in Gainesville, Fl. He has an enlarged heart, touchy kidneys, and is moms darling. Vet pronounced him stable and took away one med. Says he can last for quite a while in present condition. Little varmint won’t take his meds for mom, yet he was filmed by the vet techs eating a pill pocket with meds inside.

      Am also steeling myself for sons return to Japan this coming Thursday. He’s been home for a month, and I am going to miss him terribly. He will not come home for Christmas this year as the Japanese school calendar has shortened winter holiday time to the point if he were to come home there would only be about a weeks visit. But, he is coming home for good in April of 2015.

      • formerlyAnon

        Such a readjustment! Hope you get some good time in with your son these last few days.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Le Sigh. Am doing my best. We seem to be spending a lot of time piled up in my very comfy Sleep Number bed watching old comedies…laughing, talking, eating…last night we watched a bunch of Hot in Cleveland, then found some Mork and Mindy episodes. We’ve always had a good relationship, but it’s got to be nurtured too.

          • formerlyAnon

            That sounds like a close relationship with an adult child to me. The distance has to be hard.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Face Time is a marvelous invention. We stay in touch, so the distance doesn’t seem so bad. We seem to have worked things out about boundaries, how often, etc. Yes, we are pretty close..

          • Kitten Mittons

            Love that you can still cuddle with your grown baby. April 2015 will come soon!

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Me too. He never fails to hug and kiss me and tell me he loves me. I’m sincerely a supremely blessed person with my kids. They’ve not had it so easy. Their father died in ’08, and the stepfather who really raised both kids, but mostly my daughter died in ’09. But they’re good…we have a strong relationship. They talk to me about nearly everything: I think. But yeah, my son is the real cuddle bug.

            • Kitten Mittons

              That’s just beautiful.

      • BLauDGaspode

        Just had a big send off party for a friend now working in the JET Program, and his mom’s been a bit of a wreck. Thinking of all you moms sending your boys to Japan! Glad you had some time to enjoy, though.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Son works for another program similar to JET. We’ve enjoyed the time. It’s been a relaxed visit.

      • decormaven

        Safe travels to your son. Glad you have had this precious time together.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Thank you for the good wishes. I’m glad we were able to be together so much too.

    • Qitkat

      Kittens, it has been the best of times, the worst of times this week. Birthday dinner with family Monday evening. New to all of us Nepalese Indian restaurant that had beautiful decor, but the food was a disappointment except for the only one of us who ordered a traditional Indian curry. I had a yak stew, which tasted just like tough beef, and mushy potatoes :(

      Still trying to recover from a a major verbal fight Wednesday evening with husband. I left the house for several hours, wandered B&N, 24 hour Walmart, saw a film, The Hundred Foot Journey, interesting but rather predictable, lovely food shots, in a completely empty theatre, ended up at Denny’s for biscuits and gravy and hot tea. He has promised not to lose his temper like that again, but this has been an ongoing issue. Originally I wrote a lengthy comment about all that is wrong with our relationship, but edited it. We are currently trying to do better, clearing out the garage this weekend. So many subjects are so fragile and difficult to really talk about. Both here and with him.

      I’m just sitting here, drinking my new discovery, a bottled combination of chocolate and red wine, tastes a lot like Irish cream. And sending love out into the Bitter Kitten ‘Verse.

      • demidaemon

        I hope things improve for you. Lots of hugs and good vibes your way.

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        Many hugs to you. I hope you get it worked out. Just because there isn’t physical abuse, there’s lots of other abuse that can happen. You don’t have to sustain any of it. I stayed in a marriage far too long that had no physical abuse, but plenty of verbal and emotional. Losing his temper was a big item. I finally walked out with kidlets in tow. Do really wish the best for you and your happiness.

      • @Biting Panda

        Oh my friend, I’m sorry. Fighting sucks. It takes so much out of you. I’ll offer no advice, other than to look into the Personal Bill of Rights. Marriage is a constant compromise, we often forget not to give away too much. LOVE.

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh, good wishes for moving through the Big Fight to the next foothold. You’ve been processing a lot over the last few years, based on glimpses seen here. From the outside it feels like you are in the middle of one of those transitions to a new stage of life – even if it’s more mental attitude than material changes – that seem a lot more clear cut when they’re over than when you’re in the process.

        You’ll know what you know when you know it, till then it feels like thrashing but is probably still necessary. I hope for a productive and positive weekend for you!

      • Shibori Girl

        Be gentle with yourself. Fights are hard. Things that have been said can’t be unsaid and the hurt is palpable. The BKs are thinking of you.

      • Sarah

        Oh, Qitkat, I’m sorry to hear about your fight. I wish I could’ve wandered B&N and Walmart with you, then watched the movie and had biscuits, but it sounds like you found a way to be a Lady on your Own, at least for a while, and that’s no small thing. Here’s hoping it works out in the best way possible for you and your future happiness.

      • Peeve

        Qitkat, I’m sorry. I react very similarly. I have to leave and get the hell out. Fights absolutely devastate me. And it doesn’t help when you can’t talk to anyone about it because it’s too private and possibly scary. Suffice it to say that we’re all with you in spirit, and sending love right back atcha!

      • decormaven

        Boo! No fights before, during or after your special day. (I’d like to say no fighting ever, but that’s not in this astral plane.) Kudos for getting a long stretch of breathing room before you returned home. Peaceful thoughts surround you.

      • Kitten Mittons

        So sorry to hear this :( If it’s a recurring problem, but a recent personality change, maybe some counseling for him would help? We’ve recently gone through something similar, but anxiety-based rather than anger, and it has done wonders.

        Whatever the reason, the solution, or the outcome, my thoughts are with you. Big big hugs.

      • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

        Listening, and sending you good wishes.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        I’m not going to give you any advice, dear ML, just my most sincere wishes that Mr. Qitkat and you find peace. Sometimes a fight like that can shock you both and keep things calm for a while. I’m sending virtual hugs and warm thoughts your way.

    • demidaemon

      Man, I am a nervous wreck about my move next week. Too much to do and not enough time to do it in. I also need to a)somehow get my syllabi situation set up so I’m not in a tailspin my first week of classes b) get my glasses refit because they suddenly have started leaving indents on my nose c) finish packing and d) get my prescription situation worked out. I am also going to dearly miss my puppy dog while I’m gone, even though I’ll probably be back in around ~3 months when the semester is over. It’s craziness mixed with excitement.

      • @Biting Panda

        An adventure, to be sure. You’ll work it all out, I have faith in you.

        • demidaemon

          Thanks. I’ve already accomplished d, so that only leaves a, b, and c.

      • formerlyAnon

        YMMV, but:
        Get help with the packing if needed. It doesn’t have to be pretty. Just safely contained.
        Contact everyone necessary about the prescriptions just to make sure you’ve done whatever needs to be done in person, by you. Stuff you can do via phone, fax, email and Fedex (or by proxy by family members) can wait if necessary.
        Deal with the syllabi at least to the almost-done-need-to-check-these-details stage. It’ll free up some anxiety space
        If you don’t get the glasses done before you leave, get it done after the move. If it costs a small fee because it’s not where you purchased them, it may be worth the errand time.

        Short version: It’ll work out! Enjoy the adventure through the nerves.

        • demidaemon

          :)

      • Sarah

        What’s good is that for better or worse, you’ll be DONE with the move shortly, right? Moving drives me crazy but I always feel accomplished when I’m done. Hope it goes as smoothly as an August move can :)

        • demidaemon

          Less than a week and my birthday is the day after!

          • Sarah

            Awesome! It will be a great birthday, I know it!

      • decormaven

        Write it all down, and cross it off one by one. Trust the river- you’re going to come out on the other side.

        • demidaemon

          One down, three to go!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Busy busy busy. You’ll look back and wonder how you did it all, but you’ll definitely do it all, I have no doubt. At least the important stuff. The little stuff can wait.

    • ChrisP

      Taking my baby (youngest of four) to college today. She’s been a virtual only child since her siblings left the nest four years ago, which makes her leaving that much harder. But she is to ready to take on the challenge and I am so happy for her. Bittersweet, as with most offspring-related events!

      • ChrisP

        Oops — Liked my own comment when I was really trying to view the likers.

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, I hope the Uncles had a great evening and that everyone else has enjoyed or at least felt virtuous about their own doings.

      After 8 days with family/old, close friends and a 6 day visit by Daughter, I’m trying to pick up the threads of Getting Shit Done, having lost focus completely. I’m feeling impeded by the need to do relationship maintenance or at least touch base with the friends I mostly ignored for two weeks. I sincerely value these people and it’s disconcerting to admit how close I am to resenting the time I’m spending this weekend re-connecting. Which is an awful thing to say, but the value of the BKs is that we can lay out a bit more truth here sometimes.

      But my life is good by any objective standard, and I’m trying not to make things worse by spending much time online. Good golly I’ve missed all y’all!

      • Sarah

        I know what you mean; it’s okay. I had that visit with my family a couple of weeks ago, which happened to be in the finals week of my summer course, and which was planned at the same time as a camping/concert date that the Mr. set up months ago. I felt AWFUL, but he was okay about it. We moved the camping to next weekend (no concert, but that was for me anyway) and I got to see my family and have a great time. Which is by way of saying that I hope that you get back on track without too much trouble and in the long run, it does matter to spend some time with your loved ones.

        • formerlyAnon

          I know what you mean; it’s okay.

          Oh, you! You lovely, clever, doll. That is such a powerful sentence. Thank-you.

      • decormaven

        Glad you could check in. Totally understand about the balance; you’ll get it all flowing again.

      • Kitten Mittons

        I’m the same way, probably much worse about keeping in touch with friends. But when I need them, I don’t feel like I can impose, because I don’t do that connecting on a regular basis. Maintenance can be exhausting, but good on you for doing it. Rewards to come later.

        Plus, I always enjoy their company once I get to it. It’s the anticipation of the time commitment, and all the other Shit you could be Getting Done with that time. Like playing with us :)

    • boweryboy

      Finally over my flu, but still incredibly overworked and underpaid at work. It’s been a hectic week. I’m now whipping up a red sauce and pizza crusts for an overnight play date with the partner and a good friend. Then we’re heading up to the Skykomish river tomorrow morning for some fun and sun.

      I am also excited because in two days I get my braces removed! I started seeing a new dentist a while back and he noticed my bite was so off that I was literally causing tiny fractures in my teeth every time I chewed. So, either I had to get braces to correct my bite or I could deal with serious oral issues in the next ten years. Initially I was suppose to wear them for 23 months but they’re being removed 4 months early because I did everything my ortho told me to do. Apparently, she’s accustomed to kids and irresponsible adults who don’t follow their care plan because every visit I’ve had with her she thanked me for wearing my elastics and following the plan. I figure why wouldn’t I if I’m shelling out a shit ton of money for them? Anyhow, early removal and a big juicy hamburger shortly thereafter are my rewards.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Exciting! Glad you’re feeling better, and no braces is the best feeling. Way to be responsible!

        • boweryboy

          Woo hoo! Thanks! My teeth look spectacular and my bleu cheese bacon burger was out. of. this. world.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Ha! Awesome, you deserved it.

    • decormaven

      “O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!” It’s my birthday weekend, and we’ve just come back from hiking a new trail. Mr. DM made cinnamon rolls this morning, and there was leftover pizza for lunch. Carb heaven!

      • Sarah

        HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Sounds wonderful. I have not eaten yet, and my lunch break isn’t for a half hour, so your cinnamon rolls actually made me drool a little.

        • decormaven

          One of his hiking buddy made them for him, so he wanted to recreate. Two cans of crescent rolls, brown sugar, confectioner’s sugar and nuts, a bit of butter, with applesauce as a binder to cut down the amount of butter needed. I have to watch it on carbs, but these were worth the splurge. The big day is tomorrow, but I’m stretching out the fiesta. Thanks for the birthday wishes!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Happy birthday! Enjoy the heck out of those carbs. Birthday girl deserves it.

        Love your love for hiking, that’s so wonderful. Hope it was beautiful, and refreshing for the body and spirit!

        • decormaven

          Thanks! I dearly love hiking; had a scare last year when I had back surgery on herniated disc. I’m grateful every time my boots hit the trail.

      • katetastrophe

        Happy Birthday! I have extreme carb envy.

        • decormaven

          I truly have to watch it. Such treats are not part of my regular diet- this is a special weekend.

      • alyce1213

        Happy Birthday. Best regards to the frumious Bandersnatch. (Just realized that could be a Benedict Cumberbatch variation.)

        • decormaven

          I’m loving that BKs get all the references. :-)

      • Lattis

        Just once today, I hope you say to Mr. DM, “Come to my arms my beamish boy!”

        • decormaven

          Ha ha! That’s great. Not sure if he will get it, but glad you did.

      • Qitkat

        HAPPY BIRTHDAY, decormaven! I hope all your borogoves are mimsy, and there is much gyre-ing and gimble-ing in your wabe.

        And thank you so much for your peaceful thoughts to me below.

        • decormaven

          Love it! I’m serious about the peaceful thoughts. Discord is not my favorite place to be, and I don’t wish it for anyone else.

      • ThaliaMenninger

        My birthday was last week and today is my anniversary AND we also had pizza for lunch, so I am more than pleased to echo your Calloo Callay. It is indeed a frabjous day!

        • formerlyAnon

          Happy birthday/anniversary celebrations to you, too!

        • decormaven

          Way to celebrate!

      • formerlyAnon

        Congratulations and Happy BIrthday! Having a birthday weekend is doing things right!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Happy Birthday!

      • @Biting Panda

        Hope your weekend is as lovely as you deserve! A toast to you, my dear friend.

        • decormaven

          It’s been a blast! Got in over 6 miles hiking this am, and pan fried steaks with wine tonight. Toasts right back at you.

    • katetastrophe

      I finished my week long egg fast with an 8 pound loss. Now, I don’t have to suck in my guts and lie on the floor while praying to multiple deities in order to zip up my pants; I just have to suck in my guts and mutter “oh, please sweet baby Jesus”. It’s working for now. However, I have been eyeballing a bottle of vodka my huzbo thought he had so sneakily hidden waaaaaaay back in the freezer behind some fish that he knows I have no interest in. It looks so frosty and refreshing.

      • decormaven

        Stay strong! You’re doing an excellent job on the weight loss scene. Ease back into regular food/drink world.

        • katetastrophe

          Thanks! It’s been challenging to say the least.

    • Sarah

      OMG, guys! Not only was yesterday an accomplishment for ME, but the jobless man I live with got two offers today, after a month + of sitting around checking Craigslist all day. So, he picked one and he starts on Monday – and best of all, the joint is only TWO BLOCKS from our HOUSE!! Wonders never cease. Cel-e-brate good times COME ON doo doo doo do do doo do dooo WAH HOO!

      • decormaven

        Off to celebrate those good times for you! [Lifts a glass in your general direction.]

      • Shibori Girl

        Huzzah! Perhaps I will have a G&T in your honor. I am sensing a hint of fall in the air. Time for this indulgence is waining.

      • formerlyAnon

        I would absolutely toast you both, but have reached tonight’s limit. You two have, indeed, much to celebrate this weekend!

        ETA: I might seriously consider buying a couple of lottery tickets soon, were I you. Just in case the stars really ARE aligned in your favor right now.

        • Sarah

          Ooh, yeah! Scratchers are my favorite. Here’s rooting for ten MILLION dollars :)

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Excellent news! Tell him the BKs are rooting for him.

        • Sarah

          Aw. I will! He will be so honored!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Very good news for you and SuperChef.

      • Aidan B

        Wonderful news!!

    • Pennymac

      Have you Kittens seen the dress Heidi wore to the Schmemmys? Its from none other than Mr. Ass Passion himself. (Those of us who were in the PR Open thread discussion will get it…)

      • alyce1213

        I wasn’t surprised she showed up in full fringe, having seen her face light up with desire when Amanda’s fringed thing appeared this week. I am surprised it wasn’t made by Amanda, though. Does this mean Sean did well in the competition?