TLOunge

Posted on July 11, 2014

Darlings, it’s Lorenzo’s birthday and he’s feeling the need to jet off to Paris. He’s flighty that way.

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TLOunge-7-11-2014-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO (2)Bar La Vue, Paris

 

 

 

So you all be very, very good while Daddy and Papa are out celebrating. And by that we mean do whatever the hell you want. There’s a dinner reservation and a bottle of wine with our names on them. Have fun!

Ciao, darlings!

P.S. We’re way behind on Orange is the New Black but we’ll have one massive season 2 wrapup post up by Monday, darlings. Pinky swear.

 

 

[Photo Credit: barlavue.com]

    • decormaven

      What a fabulous setting! Sending a bottle of the finest vintage to your table, sirs. Enjoy this special day!

    • alyce1213

      Bon anniversaire, joyeux anniversaire cher Lorenzo. Santé!

    • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

      What a great bar! Happy Birthday and best good wishes!
      Spent the last 3 days painting, and I am beat. Problem: If you have a darling picket fence around your Midwest backyard, every so often you have to scrape it and paint it.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Hope you get to put your feet up with a cooling beverage!

        • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

          Thank you! That is indeed the plan.

      • Sarah

        Ooh. I have a darling picket fence around my southern front yard. The gate is broken, and we just leave it open, but it is still looking *pretty* white…we will just pretend it’s shabby chic, no? Scraping and painting – you’re a superstar!

      • Jennifer Bober

        You need to find someone who wants karate training! :-)

        • Sarah

          Snort!

      • decormaven

        Didn’t have to scrape it, but I painted a screen that’s around the HVAC units and polyurethaned the outdoor swing last weekend. It’s some thirsty work.

    • Jennifer Bober

      Happy Birthday Lorenzo, with wishes for many, many more. As we say in my family…sto lat!!

      I’m hoping all of the Bitter Kittens start their weekend off on a much happier note than I did. My dining room ceiling currently has a gaping hole, surrounded by plastic as the fans and dehumidifier dry out everything left by the leaking pipe from my bathtub. So, once the mold remediation is done, I get to seriously deplete the bank account in order to have a working shower again (because THAT isn’t covered by the insurance). Of course this happens when I have no full-time job. Ah, the joys of home ownership.

      So, I got myself a pedicure and am meeting an old friend tomorrow to head into city for a day at The Cloisters. Hopefully, this morning was the worst of it.

      So, may all your pipes stay leak free and your ceilings be without mold!

      Happy weekend kittens!

      • majorbedhead

        Oooh, that sucks. That sucks a lot.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Pretty much, but as my brother said, “this too shall pass.”

      • Judy_J

        And I was feeling sorry for myself because I’ve been without a kitchen since May 26 due to renovations. Your plight has me counting my blessings.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Yours was planned, but at least mine should be over by Tuesday. Good luck with the renovation! May your contractor be on budget and your results everything you dreamed of.

          • Judy_J

            Thanks! I’m trying to be patient, but it’s wearing a bit thin. More wine, please!

        • PastryGoddess

          I feel you pain, I’ve been without an oven since March and we demolished the kitchen at the beginning of June. Toaster ovens suck, I don’t care what RHONY says

          • Judy_J

            Washing dishes in the bathtub also sucks.

      • Aidan B

        Oh, yikes. Good luck with all of your repairs! I hope everything is cleaned up as quickly as possible.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Thanks.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Well that really bites. Good for you that you got the pedi, and enjoy your day at the Cloisters. Hoping that your abode will be mold and leak-free in the future.

        • Jennifer Bober

          It is the drawback to owning a 100 year old house. Sometimes there’s a little TOO much character.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Sigh. When you’re a homeowner, there is always something lurking, isn’t there?
            BTW-I love the Cloisters-ony been there once, ages ago on a day trip from Washington, but it is such a beautiful place!

            • Jennifer Bober

              Yes, there is. I can handle a lot on my own, but I won’t touch plumbing past replacing a showerhead.

              The Cloisters is one of my favorite places and the amusing thing is that the friend I’m taking is actually a monk! He’s my best friend from high school and an Augustinian.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              That is delightful that your friend is a monk-he’ll appreciate the care that went into assembling the Cloisters

          • decormaven

            Older houses need TLC and steady infusions of cash. My sister and DH once renovated a turn of the century house, complete with butler’s pantry and a sleeping porch. I worked with them one summer, painting, etc. It was a wonderful house, but I shudder to think how much was spent on reno- and this was in the mid-70s. All said though, I’d kill for that sleeping porch.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              It sounds absolutely gorgeous, but a labour of love! How do you sell a house after putting that much work in?

            • Grumpy Girl

              With relief and enthusiasm. Four more years and mine is both 100 and will be up for sale. (We want the younger to finish school first, so that our streamlining efforts don’t really need to take him into consideration as a full-time resident.) Plus I can feel really happy for the next residents for the things that were done well, to balance any surprises they will find.

            • decormaven

              BIL got an out of state job offer that was too good to pass up. Funny thing, about six months after their move, he got an even better offer in the original location. Oh, for the days of youth (and tons of job offers.) Again, this was mid-70s.

      • MilaXX

        Yikes! Enjoy your day out!

        • Jennifer Bober

          Thanks.

      • Qitkat

        May The Cloisters bring you peace and bliss, after your lousy week.
        One of my favorite places in the world.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Thanks. Me too!

      • Sarah

        Hope it gets resolved quickly and as cheaply as possible!

        • Jennifer Bober

          “Cheap” probably isn’t in the cards, but at least it will be done right and it’s one less thing to break later! :-)

      • marlie

        UGH. That happened at my parents’ house a few years ago. It *will* get better/fixed eventually.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Thanks. At least there’s an end in sight.

      • rainwood1

        A pedi helps almost anything. You’re forced to sit down and relax for awhile and you end up with party toes!!

        • Jennifer Bober

          …and the girl gave a FABULOUS foot massage! Oh, it helped LOTS!

      • Jackie4g

        Sorry about the bullshittery of home ownership. Now to sit at the courtyard of the Cloisters on a carved stone bench, and look at the trees and flowers and just breathe. Nothing could be more restful. Enjoy your day.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Exactly! Thanks. Even better, it will be in the company of one of my oldest and dearest friends whom I haven’t seen for some time. He’s one of those that it doesn’t matter how long it’s been, we’re as close as ever and we just pick up where we left off. He’s never been there, so I get to share one of my favorite places with one of my favorite people.

          • Peeve

            It’s an unexpectedly lovely place, especially in the company of great friends!

      • Call me Bee

        So sorry about your pipes. Take care and enjoy your day tomorrow.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Stuff like this makes me happy that I work with plumbers… (and fire sprinkler fitters, and HVAC guys, and tinners). They have come in very handy.

        Leak-free wishes to you!

        • formerlyAnon

          I envy you your “connections.”

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            I can also swear with impunity at work. :-)

            • formerlyAnon

              Oh you lucky girl. My tongue loves the F-word in all its permutations, but I cannot swear at work.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Work would stop if we could not say Fuck. We work in construction.

              I interviewed for an admin last year. I asked if she was offended by swearing. It’s pretty much a typical interview question.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              I worked in the terminal of a telecomm company for many years. Techs in the back, execs up front. I got to work with both. To tell you my vocabulary grew by leaps and bounds would be well, nuts. As a result, the swear words come freely now. I do work at curbing my mouth, but damn, if it isn’t satisfying to let it fly sometimes. Good swearing is appropriate and much more expressive. It’s good I can’t get fired…Lucky you to be able to let it fly with impunity.

            • EveEve

              And if you want the job, the correct answer to that question is “F-no.”

      • formerlyAnon

        Well, that’s a pain in the ass. Enjoy the Cloisters. I’ve wanted to go for years, but as many times as I’ve made it to NYC, it’s never made it to the short list. I am probably going to have to go alone someday to do all those things that have never made the short list.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Let me know if you do and I’ll show you around. It was a fabulous day, too. I packed up a picnic and we sat in Ft. Tryon park enjoying it, then went into the museum and wandered until closing, then we took a drive up the Hudson on the NY side and back down the PIP into NJ. We found a great little Cuban restaurant for dinner then sat up talking in his hotel for a few hours. Today I went to a friend’s birthday party and now I’m hiding in the AC with a contented kitty purring by my side.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            What a lovely day to spend with a friend and one I’m sure you’ll always remember with pleasure. Days like that make the shit worth it.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        What a ball-ache. The pedicure sounds therapeutic though – what colour did you get?

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      Happy Birthday! Fabulous bar, Paris sounds divine…..

    • Paula Pertile

      Happy Birthday! Cancers rule!!

    • june1920

      Happiest of birthdays!

      This setting is exactly what I need. We are starting to sleep train our kid tonight. Eeeeeeek!

      • Call me Bee

        Sending good vibes.

      • formerlyAnon

        Bless. I HATED that. I probably infected my kids with my tension over it and made it take much longer than it needed to. (Really, it wasn’t that bad, it just seemed it at the time.) May it go easily for yours.

    • demidaemon

      Can’t wait for the OITNB wrap-up post! Have a great weekend, everybody!

    • majorbedhead

      Happy, happy birthday Uncle Lo!

      I am *gasp* staying in this weekend, even though I am kid free. I went to three very boozy parties last weekend and my liver needs some time to recover. Although with that view, I may have to tell my liver tough noogies.

    • Judy_J

      Happy birthday, Uncle Lo! I can’t wait to read your comments about the season finale of OITNB. I’m on pins and needles!

    • Lower L

      Happy birthday to Uncle Lorenzo!

      I’ve finally caught up on all the episodes of Penny Dreadful (I had so much work with such pressing deadlines that for a while, I was unable to make time to buy groceries, let alone watch TV). I’m wondering what it says about me that I was annoyed that, during the extended absinthe-prep-and-drinking scene between Mr. Gray and Mr. Chandler, the “absinthe” did not cloud up as the sugar-water dripped into it. (Think of the cinematographic possibilities!) So yes, in a show about vampires, demons, and monsters, the thing that makes me say “That’s not real!”? Booze.

      • MilaXX

        Priorities!

      • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

        I’m looking forward to that show just because Timothy Dalton may be the best actor on the planet.

        • Jackie4g

          Not that I know the show, because I do not, but Timothy Dalton…………..oh yes!

        • Call me Bee

          Timothy Dalton…yum.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I have such fond memories of Timothy in “The Lion in Winter”…along with Anthony Hopkins and Peter O’Toole

            • Sarah

              And Katharine Hepburn!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Indeed! A couple of years ago I was skimming a book on Katharine Hepburn in a bookstore and read a section for which the author had interviewed Jane Merrow, who played Alys. Merrow spoke about how incredibly well-prepared Hepburn was, and how much Merrow learned from her on that film.

            • Sarah

              She was a Class Act, that’s for sure. Must’ve been a delight to work with her.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I remember that Merrow said that Hepburn knew her lines, and also Merrow’s lines for the scene that they were working on that day.

            • decormaven

              Peter O’Toole- his eyes in that film. He was such a genius.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              He’s one of my alltime favorite actors. Loved, love him in Lion in Winter, and many other roles. In addition, the first volume of his memoirs, “Loitering with Intent” is a great read

            • decormaven

              Thanks! Will give that a look.

        • Lower L

          The other day I read an Onion AV Club interview with him in which the interviewer asked him to discuss a quite a few of roles he played, and he seemed to have nice things to say about every project he’d ever worked on. (I thought he’d be leery of discussing Flash Gordon, but he said he thought it was great fun.) He came across as a genuinely pleasant person.

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            I’ll have to check that out! He’s been in major works and major dreck and just makes it work. The only think I’ve seen him stumble in is the BBC’s Jane Eyre – I suspect he forgot that the BBC didn’t have an editing budget.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        It just shows that you have your priorities straight! If something is real, it should be real.

      • formerlyAnon

        It says that you are detail oriented. And it is getting little things like that correct that make the willing suspension of disbelief seamless for the vampires, etc.

        edited for waffling between “that” and “which” without wanting to actually look it up

    • Aidan B

      Happy birthday, Lorenzo! Would that we could all celebrate in Paris together.
      I still have not watched any OITNB…shameful. I’ve been working my way through “The Paradise” on Netflix, has anyone seen it?

      • Jackie4g

        I liked Season 1 and I know they made a second season, but I haven’t seen any episodes yet. There won’t be a third because of Mr. Selfridge, which evidently drew a bigger audience. I liked all the varied characters of The Paradise. but kept wishing for them to pick up the pace.

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      Happy birthday, Lorenzo, you adorbs little peanut, you!

      Having recently learned that Mountain Dew was formulated specifically to mix with whiskey, I am having Throwback Mountain Dew (made with real sugar) and 2 Gingers whiskey. It’s pretty good, and I don’t really like Mtn Dew.

      I needed the drink. I spent 3 hours today trying to find black sort of dressy sort of casual sandals to replace the ones (from Target, 3 years ago – had I known, I would have bought two!) that I had to toss at the end of last summer. It almost killed me. I’m not a recreational shopper (unless it books), and it was even harder since I had something in mind. In the end, I did find some – not exactly what I wanted, but close enough that I don’t feel like I settled.

      This was after a second attempt to use a gift card at a local cheap chic boutique. It has nice stuff, but doesn’t go above a large. I have gigantic boobs, and I am not thin. It was not a success. I think I will make up a polite lie to the people that gave the gift card – how nice that they think that I’m smaller than I am – and give it to someone who can use it.

      Oh well. Shoes. And two books.

      • kimmeister

        So I guess the boutique didn’t have accessories?

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          Oh, it does. But nothing I liked (the jewelry and bags seemed sort of…cruisewear, I guess, I’m not really a scarf person, and I just didn’t like the shoes). There were also a couple of tops that fit okay, but they would have been something I got just to get something vs. something I’d wear.

          I seem to becoming pickier in my old(ish) age. :-)

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Nonsense-you’ve just come to accept yourself and to recognize what fits, and what compliments you.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Have I told you lately that I love you?

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Thanks-that’s what we BK’s are here to do-share the love, as well as the snark!

          • SouthernGirlRena

            Can you use it to purchase a Christmas/birthday gift for someone else? That is what I usually do when I get a gift card to s shop that just isn’t me.

      • MilaXX

        Specific shopping is a pain. I have a turquoise/teal dress I am planning to wear to an upcoming event. It has a tiny silver detail at the neckline. I’m wearing silver pumps, but wanted a contrast in earring. I was leaning towards a teardrop purple but would settle for a coral/deep orange color. Cannot for the life of me find an earring. Found one pair I liked online but the darn things cost 2K. I need the budget version of that earring and it’s driving me nuts.

        • Sarah

          Can you look on ebay?

          • MilaXX

            I try to avoid them for earrings. I’m afraid they’ll be cheap ones that will turn my ears green.

            • Sarah

              Ah. Yeah, there’s a possibility of that for sure. I only sell/look under the “fine jewelry” category for that reason.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Another entry in the Book of Sarah: She sells on Ebay (so do I).

              Congrats and good luck with your SO’s fresh start.

            • Sarah

              Thanks, GC. Yeah, Ebay is my “I need money and I’ve got a ton of crap lying around” hobby.

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          If only you were here! I am positive I own earrings that would look fabulous with that dress! :-)

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I was just thinking “I have carnelians that would be perfect!”. Bitter Kitten costume cupboard.

        • Jackie4g

          Now I almost never say this, but having just found the simple earrings I needed for a specific outfit , I am going to take a deep breath and say……………………………….try Etsy.

          • MilaXX

            I did. I found one pair I sort of like, a ring I really like but wasn’t planning on and a pair I really like…… from a seller in Australia. :-( I’m going to try a few brick and mortar stores this weekend.

            • Jackie4g

              Isn’t that always the way? Mine came from Canada and took 7 calendar days, which, when considering previous experiences with the Canadian Postal System, seemed pretty darn quick. Good luck with your quest.

        • Call me Bee

          Oh my. I could whip up a pair for you in minutes, were we close. I even have coral/orange beads in my stash. And they would cost exactly nothing.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Pick me!

        • PastryGoddess

          Charming Charlie? Looking at the store locator they have locations in:
          BETHLEHEM
          COLLEGEVILLE
          ERIE
          GLEN MILLS
          HOMESTEAD
          MOOSIC
          PITTSBURGH
          PLYMOUTH MEETING
          WYOMISSING

          • formerlyAnon

            MOOSIC!
            My mom’s family’s hometown!
            You never hear Moosic mentioned. How in the name of god did a useful chainstore wind up there. Last time I was there (um, yeah, it WAS 30+ years ago), there was no shopping outside of grocery, butcher’s, bakery, drugstore, etc.

          • MilaXX

            I’m gonna try Lord & Taylor’s tom. The nearest Charming Charlie is Plymouth Meeting and that’s 40 mins away.

        • decormaven

          Wishing you luck. It’s a PITA to get an item in mind and not be able to lay hands on it.

        • SouthernGirlRena

          Do you know if there is a shop that sells Kendra Scott in your area. She has gorgeous teardrop earrings in lots of colors. I just got a white pair that I love. They will probably run around $65. You can go to her website Kendrascott dot com, click on earrings, search by color, purple, and see lots of options.

          PS: promise they are not paying me, I’m just a happy customer.

          • MilaXX

            Thanks! I checked their website. Doesn’t look like there are any locations up North. I’ll hit the brick and mortar stores this week and see what I can find.

      • Sarah

        I hates the whiskey. Is it better with Mtn. Dew?

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          You…you…what? Have you had the right whiskey? (Not judging. Just confused.)

          • Sarah

            My dad was whiskey soaked for my whole life until recently. The smell, the taste, the bitterness of it all is too much for me. I will only come as close as Southern Comfort.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Oh, dear. I didn’t mean to bring back bad memories!

              Back in my college days, I once drank most of a bottle of Jack Daniels, straight, by myself. I believe I was hungover for 3+ days. For years after, I could not bear the smell of whiskey (a drawback when I was bartending). Now, I’m back to liking whiskey, but it has to be good whiskey. (No Windsor, no Seagrams…)

              On the other hand, I’ve never liked Southern Comfort. It’s too sweet.

            • Sarah

              Oh, it’s okay. Really much better now, but yeah, it was Scotch that was gross for me. I can do a Jack & Coke, but it’s similar in…finish? I guess to the smell/taste of something I don’t care for.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              You most definitely don’t have to drink whiskey, but if you’re interested, you should step up from Jack. It’s decent, but it has a harsh finish. Jameson is generally considered the next rung, and it is, I think, more available than 2 Gingers (which I like slightly better).

              That said, I hate gin. Except stuff like Bombay Sapphire. Even then, I don’t like tonic.

              I also love tequila. I regard that as a character flaw.

            • Sarah

              Heh it sure is ;) Um, I’ve had Jameson’s. It’s rough, to me. As are Maker’s, Beam, Wild Turkalurka, Evan Williams, Old Crow, etc. etc. Believe, me, I’ve tried ‘em! I’m pretty much for beer. But liquor wise, I like vodka, and rum, and bourbon maybe. Gin is for the devil.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              It’s okay. You don’t have to like whiskey. :-)

              Rum! How have none of us mentioned rum! Beer is swell – especially since a former co-worker of mine is one of the owners of a local craft brewery (they’re finally making enough money that he could have a salary, so he skipped out singing “tra-la! I get to sell beer!” I sort of hate him.)

            • Sarah

              How nice for him! I know some beer distributor drivers, but they can’t really TAKE the beer. Much. Do have the luxury of being friends with a lot of restaurant/bar proprietors in walking distance, for a free several if we feel likes it.

            • decormaven

              We’re on a big Malibu Black kick right now- I’m mixing it with diet Sprite, while Mr. DM is using OJ. Rum can be dangerous- ever made Painkillers with Pusser’s Rum? I think there’s peyote in it :-)

            • formerlyAnon

              You guys. I am glad I’m not the only one marked by early influences. I LOVE the smell of scotch because it was my dad’s nightly pre-dinner cocktail, but I’ve never learned to drink it. A friend brought me close with some pricey single malt stuff, but I’ve never invested enough in developing a taste.

              On the other hand, I love gin with a passion, and not the green vegetal or subtle almost floral gins. I want something with that strong, almost-bitter taste, mixed with plain soda water and some citrus. I also like good tequila and expensive aged rum for sipping. Vodka doesn’t have enough taste – it’s just a vehicle for other flavors, IMO, which I’ll allow is a worthy role.

              Now you’ve got me thinking about another drink.

            • Sarah

              Well, my mom always liked a good G&T. Or a Manhattan. But for summer, the gin and tonic. Sometimes, if she didn’t have a soda to put in my lunch, she’d mix tonic with OJ and put it in a Tupperware (whoo bitter!) Always thought it looked so refreshing, but then I grew up and found I gotta go with club soda.

            • formerlyAnon

              Gin with club soda and lime is always a sound choice!

            • Sarah

              Has to be quality. Some cheap gin is DANGEROUS.

            • formerlyAnon

              Cheap booze is generally to be treated carefully.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I believe you mean vodka. Or whiskey.

            • formerlyAnon

              Heh. I’ll remember if I’m ever pouring for you.

            • marlie

              The only time I’ve ever seen my mom drunk was from G&T. She and my dad went out one night when I was living at home during grad school (while my sister and I stayed home), and she was so drunk when they got home that my father had to practically carry her up the stairs. We still tease her about it.

            • Sarah

              Ha! Funny moms. My mother was very Sober, other than her one drink. When I was in middle school, they went out for a NYE where they hit a few parties, and she only had hors d’ouevres when they were there, and too much champagne. She threw up in my dad’s BMW. He was VERY mad at her, and kind of mean about it – of course she cleaned it perfectly, but man, can’t a lady even party ONE time?

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Oddly, I don’t like scotch. I’ve tried. My nephew-in-law is a scotch drinker, and I will always try a sip, but it just tastes warm. Which isn’t bad, but isn’t what I’m looking for.

            • Lower L

              Look for Sheep Dip Oloroso Amoroso. It may be hard to find, since it was a fluke batch. Technically it can’t be called scotch because it lay forgotten for 9 years in oloroso sherry casks, but my, is it nice. And I’m not much of a scotch/whisky/whiskey drinker.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              My god. That sounds wonderful. Scotch in sherry casks.

            • Lower L

              Last year while we were in Glasgow, the BF and I went to a bar that had shelf after shelf after shelf of different scotches. Overwhelmed by the choices, we talked to the bartender about what we do and don’t like, and he recommended the Oloroso Amoroso to me. Told us the whole story about it. It’s ever so much fun to get whisky recommendations in that accent.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Oddly enough, I learned to drink Cognac with soda in Scotland. At that time I wasn’t sufficiently evolved enough to like scotch, so the ex-BF’s mother suggested I try her drink of choice. Magic. I did eventually learn to appreciate Scotch. Now it’s all off limits unless I plan way ahead. I take meds for pain that do not play well with alcohol. That Oloroso Amoroso sounds positively seductive.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              The wood the whisky is aged in makes a huge difference – I’ve had sherry-cask-aged, which was good, but I think the best whisky I’ve ever had was aged in old Sauternes barrels.

            • Call me Bee

              Mmmmmm gin!

            • PastryGoddess

              Oh yes, I am also a lover of Gin. I learned to love it when I discovered that I cannot taste Vodka when it is mixed with other things AKA the Vodka Incident that I have not been able to live down for over a decade.

              If I’m going to get drunk, I need to feel exactly where that alcohol is going.

            • formerlyAnon

              Exactly. I do not trust myself to pace myself if it doesn’t taste like booze.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Do tell us more about the Vodka Incident…

            • PastryGoddess

              I was 18 and living with a bunch of other girls in Chicago. It was Halloween, my slut of a roommate was throwing a huge suprise rager THAT SHE ADVERTISED! and I decided to stay with some friends around the corner. I went to take the trash out and saw that the house 2 doors down was having a house party (Chicago has the best house parties). So being 18 and assured of my cuteness, I went back in the house and announced that we had been invited to the party down the street. We got semi-dolled up, walked over to the Jewel-Osco down the street to get some mixers and walked into the party.

              I was handed something in a solo cup…I said ooooh and drank it down. *repeat 10 or so times* My friends said that they had never seen anyone drink that much vodka in their life. I’m fairly certain that by the end I was drinking vodka with a splash of punch. We then went home and I puked in the bushes. Fell asleep on the bathroom floor half naked, then woke up and went to class in the afternoon.

              After some experimenting it was discovered that if vodka is mixed with something like juice…I can’t taste it. So I switched to gin and whiskey.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Oh, honey – we’ve all puked in the bushes and passed out on the bathroom floor in various states of undress. It’s a rite of passage. Or stupidity. Same-same.

            • decormaven

              Swiftly speaks the truth. And don’t worry about the Incident. What goes to the bottom of the ocean stays at the bottom of the ocean.

            • Sarah

              Pastry, you just described my twenties. Bless.

            • PastryGoddess

              I had more of those nights than I want to think about. But my friends have made it into this mythical event and talk about it in hushed tones like I did something special. Personally, I prefer the story of the turkey falling out of the window.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              One of my sisters married into a German-Russian family/town. (ND is Norwegian, Swedish, German, and German-Russian in its little towns.) A wedding tradition there is Wedding Schnapps which is Everclear mixed with sugar water. It is like drinking fire. It’s called Red Eye. As time has gone on, the guys that make it (it’s the same guys for every wedding) have expanded into flavors. Which is like drinking a nice shot, followed by fire. We now make this for all of our family weddings. (It was a big hit in Connecticut last summer).

              I highly recommend it.

            • Sarah

              Delightful! There are moonshine traditions in my neck o’ the woods. What is nice is everybody I know that makes it is definitely not trying to see anybody go blind. You might forget your shoes or keys or something, and wake up in the woods, but you’ll make it.

            • Call me Bee

              Since my dad was Latvian–all manner of liquor was available at every party, every picnic and every fishing trip.

            • formerlyAnon

              Polish-Irish here. No greater sin than to run out of booze. Stockpiled before any slight chance there might be visitors, and a wedding meant there were extra cases in the garage! Thinking back, it’s possibly amazing that a numerically greater number of my relatives did/do NOT have drinking problems than did/do have them.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Anyone who is anyone has the “beer” fridge in the garage! Those of us who are single have the crisper drawers.

              I think that when drinking is part of the culture, it’s managed better. Less mystery, less stigma. It’s just a thing you do.

            • Call me Bee

              Oh yeah–a beer fridge in the garage is standard issue around here.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Cheesehead.

            • decormaven

              Yes, said fridge is of the vintage where it still needs defrosting- a chore I put off as long as possible.

            • marlie

              There were some Polish traditions incorporated into my cousin’s wedding (his MiL is Polish), and one was the bread and salt, and another was that all of the guests took a shot as we were entering the reception. It was so much fun. And my plate and glass were never empty. :)

            • Sarah

              I’m a Scots-Irish Slovak with a very hillbilly VA background. That covers all your liquor, I think.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I’m quite jealous of Bee and you. I am white-bread Norwegian, Swedish, and English. It’s almost embarrassing that I like to drink.

            • KinoEye

              Scots-Irish-Dutch-German with Texas roots going back 150 years. I feel ya.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              There have been times when one must be careful about what one pulls out of my fridge. Wedding Schnapps, Hooch (vodka & rock candy), various flavored vodkas (homemade lemon vodka is so much better!).

            • formerlyAnon

              My father taught me to make Kahlua to give my mother as a gift one year (we lived in a dry county at the time). I think I was ten. Nobody thought anything of it.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Vanilla bean in vodka with coffee.

              Vodka is the cookie dough of liquor.

            • decormaven

              We used to make Kahlua when we were in the early days of our marriage. Mr. DM loves to have a well-stocked bar, thanks to a dear friend who’s now passed on. If you come to our house, he’s going to pull out some strange liqueur or small-batch whiskey to get you to try.

            • formerlyAnon

              Rock candy in whiskey was a cold remedy my dad insisted on foisting upon us once our body weight was enough that my mom didn’t stop him. (So, maybe middle school?) We manfully downed the half-a-shot mixed with hot water in order to get the candy. Yuck.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              My great-grandfather used to give my grandmother and her sisters a sugar cube dunked in schnapps or kirschwasser as a cold remedy. Very old-school!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Are we aware of your neck o’ the woods?

            • Sarah

              Yes. The Glorious Capital of the Confederacy and Hipster Haven of the South: Illustrious Richmond, Virginia.

            • decormaven

              We have some delightful peach flavored ‘shine from a friend of a friend. It is in the fridge- medicinal.

            • Sarah

              But of course. Always medicinal :)

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Gin always makes me feel as if I’m sucking on a Christmas tree branch. Ick.

            • marlie

              UGH. I hate gin. My spirit of choice is tequila, though I’m growing to appreciate good whiskey.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I’ve been drinking fevertree naturally lighter tonic (less sugar) for a while now, so when I have regular tonic I find it way too syrupy.

              Mind you, I’ve just been drinking a cocktail with a heavy condensed milk involvement, so obviously I am fickle about what counts as syrupy.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              My first ever hangover came courtesy of a bottle of burgundy bottled in (drumroll)….the Ozarks. My then boyfriend had left it in my dorm room, and I drank most of it in a fit of pique when the schmuck called me to tell me he was taking someone else out that weekend. Long story short, I had a wicked hangover the next day and could not face wine for years. I switched to Scotch and soda or on the rocks for the rest of my college career. Wine and I later re-established a cordial relationship.

            • decormaven

              So glad. I like a good cocktail, but wine is my drink of choice.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I cannot begin to tell you how dreadful that “Ozark-bottled Burgundy” was. Happily I”ve had many good wines since then!

          • Call me Bee

            I’m sorry, Swiftly, but I, too, am not a fan. Here in Cheezeland it’s brandy (as a mixer) and Southern Comfort. Or, of course, vodka. Good, clear vodka.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              It’s okay, Bee. I’m good with brandy. And vodka is my friend. (Oh, is vodka my friend!) Southern Comfort…no..too sweet way too many high school memories of pouring it into a can of Coke in a moving vehicle. (I had the steadiest hand.) Small town ND in the ’70s!

            • Call me Bee

              My worst memory of imbibing is having way too much Cold Duck on a freezing New Year’s Eve, 1972. Not pretty.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Oh. dear. god. We just don’t talk about Cold Duck. Ever. EVER! Do you hear me?! EVER!

              Sorry. Flashbacks.

            • Call me Bee

              Ooops sorry. OK. Though it’s nice to know I’m not the only one….

            • Sarah

              Haha you guys are making me think of such funny things — my parents let me have some “champagne” on NYE when I was about 10 and it was actually CD. I thought, wow, this is great stuff! Then when I got to college, I bought a boatload of it for a NYE with my friends freshman year, thinking this was the good stuff. I got SO SICK. Oh, the shakes.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Stop talking about it! I’m going to go vomit purple from the flashbacks!

              Have you no soul?!

            • Sarah

              MANY APOLOGIES. As long as you don’t bring up the Hennessy.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              (Hennessy) whispered in a sing-song voice when you thought you were safe……….

            • Call me Bee

              Ahahahahahaha….exactly what happened to me. And my friends as well. One was unfortunate enough to “ralph”
              the pink upchuck all over the host’s Nativity Scene while trying to get to the bathroom. That was a sight…. (Sorry Swiftly….)

            • decormaven

              Or Boone’s Farm. Or Ripple.

            • formerlyAnon

              Boone’s Farm was my very first drinking-underage-with-other-kids experience. I learned that while tipsy was nice, sweet flat wine was vile and other kids my age were not improved by the alcohol.

              (We’d always been allowed “a taste” at home, and once we hit mid teens, an actual occasional drink was possible if we wanted it – but because it was accessible it had no glamor whatsoever and I really didn’t love the taste, so I was well past the then-legal drinking age before I drank with my parents.)

            • decormaven

              You had very forward thinking parents; I think taking the mystery out of drinking may be a very good way to approach it. We did not have liquor in the house as a child, other than an ancient bottle of creme de menthe. But as a “true Southern” man, my dad drank with his buddies, frequently while hunting or fishing. I most definitely did my share of underage drinking- and that’s when the age was 18 for beer.

            • marlie

              That’s how my family was. A glass of wine or champagne on special occasions, starting when I was maybe 15 or so. I was allowed to have wine with dinner when I was staying with a host family in France at ~15, and at my bestie’s when I was 16-17, as long as I was spending the night. Plus, my parents usually let me have a taste of what they were drinking if I asked. I didn’t actually drink alcohol without my parents/their permission until I turned 21. So in college, I never drank at parties. My parents were super, super, super strict about everything else, but that was the one thing that they were “liberal” about, and I think it was a good thing in the long run.

            • formerlyAnon

              My parents ran a multi-pronged approach around alcohol, thanks to the alcoholics littering both sides of the family tree. After the “challenges” I’ve ridden out without a problem, I’m pretty sure I won’t ever develop an alcohol problem, but tap my shoulder at any moment and I can tell you the precise number of shots/glasses I’ve had, since when, and what the count for the week is.

            • Sarah

              I know how many I’ve had, too. Always. You can’t have an alchy parent without being super vigilant. I will admit I was trained to abuse, but I think about how Dad can’t ever drink again from what he did to himself, and I’d prefer to not disappoint people and be able to have a beer now and then.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Or TJ Swann.

            • decormaven

              Or Mogen David 20 20 – “Mad Dog”.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              When I was in college, I kept a bottle of Manischewitz Extra Heavy Malaga in the ceiling of my dorm room for use as a sleeping aid. I still like the sweet wines.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Champipple (Champagne and Ripple) was Fred Sanford’s favorite drink.

            • decormaven

              Love it!

            • formerlyAnon

              I had forgotten the days when Cold Duck was all I’d learned to drink. Fortunately, that phase passed swiftly.

            • Call me Bee

              Oh yeah. My phase ended on Jan 1st of that year….moved on to good ol’ beer.

            • Sarah

              Beer FTW!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              You can never go wrong with beer!

            • Sarah

              Unless you mind being a sturdily built lady, in which case, champagne I guess?

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Nobody is looking at me, and nobody has looked at me in a very long time, so it doesn’t matter. :-)

            • Sarah

              Oh, it don’t matter if they’re looking or not. It is all about the Swagger, my friend.

            • Call me Bee

              I haven’t had So Co in a really long time, either. We used to pass around a bottle in my folk-dance group before a performance. Good times….

    • Musicologie

      I love how some bars are all about creating an environment removed from the outside world, whereas this one embraces its location and wants everyone to feel as though they’re hovering over the city.

      Happy birthday, Uncle Lorenzo!

      (Blah blah baby cut a molar(?!) and writing goes on. I’m trying to work a little on both the dissertation and the article each night, which leaves very little time to relax. I can’t keep up this pace for very long.)

      • Tlazolteotl

        Boy, I remember that song very, very well. Mine was the thesis, though. I (just barely) finished the diss before the second was born. You can do it! I hope that your peers and your major prof are a great support network for you.

      • formerlyAnon

        Barring big life catastrophes like illness, ugly divorce, extreme poverty coinciding with catastrophe, etc., this steady, seemingly endless trudge through competing priorities and ever-present pulls on your attention and never-enough-time is probably the hardest thing you’ll do. If you choose to go into academia, you’ll know you can handle the pressures of being tenure-track junior faculty because you’ve done this.

    • another_laura

      Happiest of birthdays to fellow Moon Child (I hate “Cancer”) Lorenzo! My b-day was last weekend. My fantasy date was also in Paris so I can tell that we are tres, tres compatible. And chic, of course.

    • tinyredlocks

      A Fellow Cancer! Happy Birthday!

    • kimmeister

      I’m badly in need of a weekend. This work week has been insane. But in the win column, since I haven’t been watching much TV, I’ve gotten all but one of my big pile of alterations done. You’re next, taupe slacks!

      Enjoy, everyone!

      • decormaven

        I am in awe of your skills. I did not earn the Girl Scout sewing badge.

    • Janet B

      Nothing of note for me this weekend.
      Enjoy your weekend everyone.

      Happy birthday to Lorenzo,

    • @Biting Panda

      Bonsoir, les chatons.

      I hope y’all are well.

      • Qitkat

        I am sad that I have forgotten so much of my 3 years HS, 2 years college French that I had to look up ‘chatons’. Then of course I felt stupide ;)

        Hope things are going better in your neck of the woods.

        • @Biting Panda

          In the interest of honesty on the record, I’m getting my emotional ass kicked. Intensive Therapy isn’t for pussies. This much introspection and study for a better way of being, isn’t quiet as I’d imagined it would be.

          But I’m digging in and doing the work. I’m even considering dusting off the old blog so that I have more of an outlet, than screaming into an empty twitterverse.

          Though, I may be even bolder still and start one anew and consider it part of my new beginning. I write with more emotional honesty I’d I think people will be reading it. I only lie to myself it seems.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            I’m so glad you’re doing well-ish. I think of you a lot and send good thoughts! (I am not a pray-er since I’m not a believer.)

            • @Biting Panda

              Thanks for the good energies!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Always, baby!

          • Sarah

            Self examination is terrifying. I can’t believe how hard it must be for you to really focus that lens on yourself, lady. Very much respect.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Indeed. Much respect. It takes raw, untapped courage to do what you’re doing. Been there.

          • formerlyAnon

            Intensive therapy (I opine from observation, I’ve never done it, just therapy-lite, twice-a-month till the insurance runs out) is exhausting. It’s an investment in yourself, and if my observation is correct, there are little aftershocks of new insights/ways of seeing that come even years after you’ve concluded the big push. There is no damn thing in the world that is better motivation than wanting to be the person you want your kids watching as they grow up, though.

            Be very, very kind to yourself. Your nerve endings are probably raw.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I admire you for doing the work so quickly. I think most people would wallow and not even try to figure out their part in the end of their marriage. It took a while after we split up for me to recognize what part I had played and that I might have been a little difficult to live with–not that I’d ever admit it to him.

          • decormaven

            Brave woman. Keep nurturing yourself. The pruning you’re doing now will bring new blossoms in the future.

          • Qitkat

            Emotional honesty may be a brutal path, but as the wise man said, ‘The unexamined life is not worth living’. I admire you too for taking the swift but tough road to re-creating a better self for you and yours.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Hey, Qitkat, it’s been many weeks since you’ve been in the Lounge. Nice to see you back. How was Seattle?

          • Qitkat

            Thanks for asking, GC :-) In brief, our trip was fabulous. I plan to post about it later tonight I hope, got busy back at home.
            How’s the job front?

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              So glad your vacation was wonderful. Can’t wait to read the details.

              As for the job front, I’m still looking. Had a couple of interviews this week and another scheduled for Monday. The biggest problem seems to be that these people are in no hurry. They wait a couple of weeks before even reading the resumes and then schedule interviews for the following week. Second interviews are two weeks later and then they take another couple of weeks to decide who they want to hire. Don’t they know I need a job NOW? It doesn’t help that they’re getting 400 resumes for one opening. (That’s a true number, not an exaggeration.)

              I’m very hopeful for the interview on Monday, but we’ll see if they plan to fill the job this century.

            • formerlyAnon

              Good luck vibes coming your way.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Thanks, fA. Hope you’re having a good weekend.

            • formerlyAnon

              Eating expensive cheese and drinking wine at the moment, so it’s great. Today was boring as hell, imitating a functional adult and knocking things off the list.

              But there are many worse things than boring. As we know well.

            • decormaven

              I have cheese envy- love blue cheese, but it’s not Mr. DM’s favorite. We’re in accord on any other cheese, though. Tomme de Savoie is our favorite- we had it in France, but haven’t had as much luck finding a good version stateside.

            • Qitkat

              “imitating a functional adult” — I LOVE that!

            • decormaven

              Hang in there. Know that July is full of people trying to fit in vacations before schools go back into session. Can’t get enough people together for a hand of cards, much less a hiring decision. Fingers and toes crossed for you.

            • Qitkat

              Good luck on Monday. The frustration and waiting must be so tedious. I can’t imagine why someone with your skills wouldn’t be a true gift to a new employer.

            • Qitkat

              PS put my vacation post up this morning.

      • Sarah

        Better than expected. Hope you are too!

    • YourBaloneyDontGotNoSecondName

      Happy Birthday from a firecracker baby.

    • Kent Roby

      I was in Provincetown, MA, a couple of weeks ago, and I have to say that Jinkx Monsoon’s show w her partner, The Vaudvillians, was brilliant. The show got rave reviews off-Broadway; I absolutely loved it.

    • MilaXX

      Go! Enjoy!

    • PastryGoddess

      Hello Everyone,

      I’m in a food coma, I went and gorged myself on my favorite food truck and can barely open my eyes at this point. I’m supposed to go hiking this weekend, yeah..we’ll see about that

      • decormaven

        Hiking will help awaken the body from the food coma. I’d go today, but the yard is calling my name. As humid as it is here, you have to pick which activity gets the sweat quotient.

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

      I’m dubbing that the Magneto Lounge. Many happy returns, once again!

      I’m celebrating my birthday tomorrow with Ethiopian food, a full moon, and while I’m still an age where people say “You’re not that old!” I have begun to feel that old.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Ethiopian food! So. Jealous.

        Happy Birthday! You most certianly cannot be that old!

        • Sarah

          Definitely not!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Happy birthday!

        Tell me about Ethiopian food. I’ve never had it. An Ethiopian restaurant opened very close to me last year, but closed after just a few months. Maybe the sign saying “We serve yak” scared away the customers.

        • marlie

          So, so, so good. Yummy bread, lots of spices (but not necessarily spicy). And if you go to a “traditional” place, you may eat with your hands family-style. :)

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          I was introduced to Ethiopian food because back in the ’70s my sister was in the Peace Corps in Ethiopia. She came home an made us Wat (she was also the person that introduced us to tacos and Chinese food – keep in mind: small town, ND, ’70s). Never looked back. (interestingly, the original Joy of Cooking had recipes for Wat and Injera-the bread-I don’t know if the updated version does). The trick is convincing people they want to try Ethiopian food. I live in Mpls/St Paul now, and there’s an amazing array of food, but I work with a bunch of white Scandinavians (as am I) and their idea of ethnic is pretty much as you say.

          Even worse, my Pho buddy has left.

        • formerlyAnon

          Ethiopian food has good vegetarian options (important for my usual dining companions whose arteries may be prettier than mine, but PORK! LAMB! How can they???). The bread, injera, which you use to scoop up a lot of the thick stew-like offerings, is thin, slightly spongy and a little sour. I like it a lot, but somehow it never makes up to being one of “the usual” which are generally Thai, Indian, Tex-Mex-ish soft tacos and Japanese ramen – which has lately pushed Chinese out of the picture.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Happy Birthday!

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          I’ve only been to one place in Little Ethiopa in LA (Merkato). Compared to the other restaurants on the street, it’s a little hole in the wall. They have amazing injera bread (a spongy, tangy bread that you eat everything with). I’m in love with the gored gored, which is raw beef and peppers. There’s more tomato and spicy peppers than what you’d expect. It’s a very pleasing blend of unexpected spices and I already want to go back.

      • marlie

        Happy birthday to you too!

      • decormaven

        Child, you are not that old. Even when you’re advanced in years, you’re not that old. It’s the mind that keeps one young. And you’re right- tonight is the Full Corn Moon, and a super moon at that! Enjoy your celebration.

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          Bless. (And I did hear a wolf cry…)

      • formerlyAnon

        Happy Birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, Happy Birthday dear International Moodeellll, Happy birthday to you!

        Play it for all it’s worth. For days and days!

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          Thanks!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Happy Birthday! Enjoy the Ethiopian food! I have read about it but never tried it – injera sounds like something I would love.

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          It’s addicting.

    • shirab

      A small style victory–husband has allowed me to order flat front pants for him to try after years of insisting on pleated only. He is back in shape after a couple of years of being about 20 lbs more than he liked and is willing to branch out. So fun!

      • Qitkat

        Congrats to you both. Any secrets to share how he accomplished this? No matter how much I work on my own weight issues, none of it rubs off on Mr Q :(

        • shirab

          He had a session with a fitness coach his company brought in as a perk and found his BMI was borderline overweight. He didn’t like the sound of that and got motivated. Started swimming two or three evenings a week and doing pushups and weights at home. He is a disciplined guy and seeing results made him happy and kept him going. Our eating habits are good so no real changes there though he pays more attention to portions. He has kept off the 20 lbs for almost 2 years now. I coaxed him into lightweight fitted sweaters last winter and he got positive feedback plus he liked them. But agreeing to try flat – front pants is a new frontier.

          • Call me Bee

            Big congrats to him for losing and keeping off the weight, and to you for getting him into some stylish clothes. Yay!

    • marlie

      Happy birthday again, Lo! Have a wonderful time celebrating! This kitten is looking forward to a nice relaxing weekend doing nothing ,except for a possible guest appearances from my college roommate and my goddaughters!

    • rainwood1

      Happy birthday, Lorenzo!!! Hope you have a wonderful dinner and a hangover-free bottle of wine.

    • Sarah

      Happiest of evenings to you Lo & T! Hope your dinner reservation is delicious.
      This week is my once a month six day week, so I am working my sixth day tomorrow but I have some salted caramel chocolate almond pie to eat. So hells yeah! I’ll eat it in honor of birthdays! And also, in honor of the fact that my SO is right here, in the house, playing his Xbox, when we thought he’d be somewhere less pleasant indeed. And Albrecht Dürer, my new Northern Renaissance friend. Blessings abound, kittens.

      • Jennifer Bober

        Ooh, Durer etchings! Got to love them for the detail on all that puff and slash work…and the smocking!

        • Sarah

          I gots to write a paper on the Self Portrait from 1500 – chock full o’ symbolism and tiny beard hairs painted individually. Good stuff!

      • @Biting Panda

        Hey, that’s cause for celebrating, to be sure.

        • Sarah

          Holy moly it is. Phew!

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        So glad fella is home! i was just wondering about that.

        • Sarah

          Never had to GO! It was like an honest to gosh…miracle. No kidding.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            EVEN BETTER! Hooray!

          • decormaven

            That’s a miracle indeed. Celebrate!

            • Sarah

              I already was, last night, and now I’m at work, and very….thirsty.

      • Jackie4g

        I have a picture of an owl from Durer that I love. I don’t even know what the original medium was, but I love that print!

        • Sarah

          It was originally a watercolor on paper, that little owl. He liked to do animals, which is great. A Master Draftsman, he was, and I like that very much, because I draw too.

        • Qitkat

          We have that Dürer owl on a little box, probably 40 years or more. Adore it too.

      • formerlyAnon

        Good news indeed, to hear you’ve got company. Good luck on that paper.

        • Sarah

          I could’ve done without the company for a while, but the look on Mr.’s face when he was freed was worth a million $$. Paper will be a snap. Five week course = five page paper. Pretty easy. I am still revising the Arduous Thesis, which IS a bitch, but my duty.

          • formerlyAnon

            Suck it up and get that Arduous Thesis shipped out. If Mr. Sarah hasn’t gone back to the workplace-from-hell yet, you deserve some guilt-free time with him.

            • Sarah

              I will, of course, enjoy and be guilt-free. He actually has a new job – connections in the restaurant industry are thick. I didn’t mind the Japanese fusion menu he was making before (oh, the sushi!) but now it’ll be super fresh/organic American; like chicken salad with walnuts, white cheddar macaroni & chs, and crab cakes. Can’t be mad at that.

            • formerlyAnon

              Food! Glorious food!

            • decormaven

              Don’t ever let that fella go. Mmm, crab cakes!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        He’s home?! That’s fantastic! So pleased that worked out (now he has to start being nicer…)

        Salted caramel chocolate almond pie sounds absolutely beyond amazing.

        • Sarah

          He IS. We went to the sheriff’s office so he could self-surrender, and they were unable to find any warrants on file, so we beat it the heck out of there and drove home in total shock. He definitely DID have something on the books, but we don’t know if it was a computer glitch (it is a small, rural police force who are known for “losing files”) or a statute of limitations wore out or what, but NOBODY is complaining. He is already nicer, but I think now that he’s got a new job and a clean slate, he’s going to have to really think about some anger management. He was getting way too furious about things before all this, and that’s just no way to deal with stress.

          The pie was exquisitely delectable. I think, as far as non-fruit pies go, it may have been the most transcendent piece of pie I’ve ever eaten. There is more of it at home. I am going to have to force the Mr. to eat ALL OF IT, because I think one piece is maybe 3000 calories.

          • decormaven

            Celebration pie calories don’t count.

            • Sarah

              Oh, lordy, would that that were true! I am being Good these days, and the thought of eating another piece just makes me shudder.

            • formerlyAnon

              I support your attempts at virtue. I’ll be right there with you. Tomorrow. Possibly.

              I’ve been thinking about cheese to an unhealthy degree, lately, and bought three varieties of blue cheese (Point Reyes Blue, Amish Blue and a good – hideously expensive – Stilton) yesterday. Skipped lunch and for dinner it’s greens and delicious fruit and more delicious cheese. And wine. With the accompaniment of my favorite vintage Lou Reed albums. (If I need an excuse, a 5 day road trip that has been up in the air was officially cancelled today. If it had happened it was going to be in 4 days and I just am not ready. And west Texas in July is just Too Hot.)

              There is intentionally nothing at all sweet in the house. Because wine + 1000 calories worth of cheese could induce gay abandon with sugar were it on the table. ;-)

            • Sarah

              Glad your trip being canceled wasn’t the worst thing. It is killing me to get texts from Puerto Rico where my friends are right now – moonlight kayaking! Diving with reef fish! Baby niece in pool!
              OH, your cheese sounds SO GOOD. I was raised on Quality Cheeses, my parents having conceived me in Paris, and being of an international bent. I thought as a kid that many fine cheeses being available was just default, then I grew up and found out Stilton is like $9 for a wedge. Goodness! Have you tried Five Counties? It’s a layered wheel with Cheddar, Cheshire, Derby, Double Gloucester and Red Leicester. DIVINE.

            • formerlyAnon

              I have never even seen Five Counties, but it sounds delightful. Moonlight kayaking sounds even better, (as long as I was sure there weren’t any snakes.) Maybe next big trip you’ll be in a position to go? You’ll be done with paying tuition and you might even have a better paying job!

            • decormaven

              Damn. Those texts would kill me too.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Fruit, cheese and wine is my perfect day!

            • Qitkat

              Mmm…fellow kitten cheese lovers. Possibly my favorite food.

          • Qitkat

            I didn’t get to weigh in when you posted earlier about the SO tribulations, but I’m so happy for you and him with this outcome. May more happiness and calmness be in both your futures.

            And omg, that pie sounds beyond amazing. Transcendent is never a word I’ve ever heard before applied to pie. And I love pie.

            • Sarah

              Thanks, Qitkat! Things are looking up, so I hope they stay that way. As far as the pie, I actually consulted the thesaurus to find the most accurate superlative to refer to it!

      • KinoEye

        !!!!! Huge hugs to you! But concurred with Alicia about the niceness. And that pie sounds absolutely divine. Congrats to him on the new job, too — sounds like things are really looking up for your little family.

    • GeoDiva

      Hau’oli La Hanau Lorenzo!

    • Call me Bee

      Hey! I remembered to come to the lounge!
      Happy Birthday Lorenzo! Sending a sloppy kiss your way. :) Oh, OK. One for Tom, too.

      • boweryboy

        Happy Anniversary!

    • formerlyAnon

      Excellent Birthday plans. By now you are probably well past dinner, hope the evening continues to be special.

      I am finally here, after various Obligations and a short side trip necessitated because I saw the name “Eccleston” on another post. This week I think I’ll skim through before posting. The bar is lovely in an overly color-coordinated way, I’ll just grab a seat by the window and revel in the exotic unfamiliarity of Paris at night. Bring me drinks that are neither pink nor violet. Gin or a nice bottle of a dry, oaky red.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        (and “Avery Brooks”)

    • GinnyThePainter

      Kittens, I need a binge show for my nightly elliptical workouts this summer. I think I’ve narrowed it down to Arrested Development, Breaking Bad, Lost or Orange is the New Black. Opinions? (Joyeux Anniversaire, Lorenzo!)

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I vote Arrested Development (which I like) or Breaking Bad (which I haven’t seen but mean to). Lost just generally annoyed me about 6 episodes in, and Orange is the New Black has Piper. (I know she’s the “main” character, but my dislike of her made me stop watching even as I liked everyone else because she just kept coming back.)

        I am probably not the best judge of things, though….but can I recommend Justified? Or Longmire?

        • Call me Bee

          Longmire! Longmire!! First season is on Netflix. We’re in the middle of Season 2–you can catch up on A&E online. So well done and something a little different.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Delighted (delighted!) to know I’m not the only Longmire fan! I don’t even talk TV at work because I don’t watch anything anyone else does.

            • Call me Bee

              Oh yes! The Hubs and I discovered it one snowy afternoon–a marathon of the first season right before S2 started, and were mesmerized for an entire day. Love. It.

        • Sarah

          Lost is badass until the final season. Then, I’d say never mind.

        • MilaXX

          Justified because it is awesome and fill my Timothy O fix.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Timothy Oliphant plenty reason to watch, but not nearly the only one. All of the characters are great, and the stories are intriguing.

        • boweryboy

          Awesome. So it wasn’t just me who felt that way about Lost.

      • formerlyAnon

        Arrested Development, simply because I choose to re-watch it while I will never re-watch lost and haven’t yet gotten all the way through either BB or OITNB.

        • boweryboy

          A friend of mine kept suggesting Lost to me and said I would love it. She was so persistent about it that she finally lent me her DVDs . Based on its premise and all the things I’ve heard about it, I thought I would love it too. I got half way through season one and lost my patience (yeah, bad pun). It’s one of those buzzed about shows that didn’t click for me.

      • kerryev

        Breaking Bad is the most addictive show I’ve ever watched, and I’m susceptible.

        • boweryboy

          I agree. I was sick with the flu for a week when I started watching it. I don’t think I slept or got out of bed at all during my illness because I binge watched the entire series on my laptop and smart phone. It truly does deserve all the accolades it receives.

        • decormaven

          Yes. Once Mr. DM & I started watching the first seasons on Netflix, we couldn’t stop. That show was genius, start to finish.

      • Sarah

        Well, if you haven’t SEEN Lost, then that’s the way to go. It is just gloriously engrossing. I think if I was working out, I’d do that. Arrested Development is great, but it’d be shorter, binge-wise, and while supremely entertaining I think not suited to vigorous exercise.

      • MilaXX

        Breaking Bad, but really there are no bad choices here.

        • makeityourself

          I recommended BB to a friend of mine who wanted to watch a new show during her workouts. She was cursing me within a few days because she couldn’t watch just one episode at a time, and was on her elliptical for an extra hour.

      • Qitkat

        Have you ever watched Six Feet Under? One of my most favorite shows of all time. Morbidly funny at times, heartbreaking too, very engrossing, and wild disfunctional family that loves in spite of all obstacles. And hands down, one of the best, if not the best, series finale of all time.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          The best! The finale was even better than the genius Newhart ending.

    • formerlyAnon

      Okay, my Week in Review was: uninteresting.

      I am getting into the meat of Getting Shit Done, which of course just emphasizes how much time it takes to do it (directly related to why it hasn’t been done before, yes?) The persons and life events which impinge on my travel, work & social schedule for the rest of the summer have all decided to toss things up in the air, which is making me want to back out of everything but I’m going with the flow as much as possible. On the plus side, the internal tension has driven me to the gym every day this week. A good thing.

      Another plus, I can feel my creative juices revving up for the first time in years. Thinking hard about how to adopt more consistent work habits over the long haul than I historically have had.

      ETA: I had to go google photos of Daniel Craig and then Hiddleston & a couple of more obscure ectomorphs. This Friday’s offerings were solid, but . . . mostly too solid. Not exactly a tragedy with the primo commentary plus: clothes! (Honestly an aside not a complaint, it would be hideously ungrateful to complain about all the free gorgeousness and entertainment we get here.)

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Please tell me how made yourself go to the gym. My depression has reached spectacular levels of NOT. Getting up and going to work it all I have managed. I know going to the gym would help. But I can’t. I just…can’t.

        • formerlyAnon

          There is nothing helpful I can say that you don’t already say to yourself. For me, it is three things:

          1) I KNOW intellectually that I feel better if I go, that it never makes a day worse, and that 99.8% of the time it makes the day better. I know this so deep into my bones (25 years after first figuring it out) that I do tend to *want* to go if life is making me anxious.
          2) I try to set it up so it’s not a decision. Sometimes I sleep in my workout clothes so I’d have to change OUT of them to dress for work, so I might as well go beforehand, sometimes I go straight from work, I just try not to give myself a choice.
          3) I promise myself I can leave after 10 minutes. It always seems worth it to stay for at least a little longer once I’ve gotten there.

          But I spent over 20 years working out regularly, backsliding, dropping it for months, and starting back up again until the last few years when it seems it has gotten easier to remember the good part – how much better I feel mentally and physically when I work out. I still backslide, but it’s more likely to be for a week than four months. And I’ve made my peace with the fact that convenient trumps perfect. I go to a cheap, warehouse gym (Planet Fitness) because it is literally a 3-4 minute drive from my house, if I hit every light.

          Good luck. You’re right, it does make a huge mood difference.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            You’re amazing.

            • formerlyAnon

              It might look like that from the outside. Not from the inside. Which is pretty much everybody’s lot in life.

              If you don’t already, this IS one area in life to make it all about you. If what works for you is a ten minute walk and you can get that done, it’s better to do that and feel good about it than to plan 10 trips to the gym that just seem like . . . too much when it comes down to it. There’s plenty of research that anything is better than nothing. I know I spend more time than is ideal on cardio machines – but I can make myself do that, even if some days I’m going really slow while reading trash fiction on my Kindle, when I’d NEVER even get to the building if I knew it meant wind sprints or a spin class.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I know. You’re right. I know.

              I am, however, in the midst of one of the worst depressive episodes I’ve had in 30some years. I know that people reading this and knowing about the cheerfulness down-thread or last week or whatever will maybe not believe me or understand. I’ve spent most of my life trying to explain to people. I’ve mostly learned that people don’t want to know. Ignoring it is coping. Pretending is coping.

              I am barely hanging on. Here is the most support I have. I don’t have it IRL. I never have. My family doesn’t want to hear, and, even if they did, they all have their own families so what the hell.

              Yeah. Life. It’s fucking great.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              I need to move next door to you. I’m doing a lot of the same. I’d always been able to cope somehow, and things got better or tolerable. Since 2009, my kids father died, my husband died, both kids graduated from HS and college in the same year and moved out. Then, I’ve been beset by nuisance health issues, idiot medical care and was drafted to help fix a family business where the 91 y/o owner until recently would not give an inch. I’ve had better decades. My therapist said it was a miracle I wasn’t dead or sitting in the bottom of a dark closet rocking back and forth with a lovey and sucking my thumb. I know what you mean about IRL. Very different , and yes, you grow weary of trying to explain.

            • decormaven

              Rough stuff. Kudos for you for pushing against the waters. May calmer seas be ahead.

            • decormaven

              Hugs to you. I echo FA- talk kindly to yourself, and go out to the gym, or just walk around the block for 10 minutes. It doesn’t have to be a class at the gym- if you go do 15 minutes of the treadmill, congratulate yourself. Lifting the chains of depression is a workout in itself. Physical activity really does help, though. I’m glad the BKs are here for you. You are not alone.

            • KinoEye

              The BK community kept me afloat during the roughest episode I’ve had so far. Dark thoughts all the time and suicidal ideation. I didn’t have anyone to talk to except my mom, and even then, I couldn’t fill her in on the worst details. People at work didn’t seem to notice or care I was barely speaking and routinely looked like I’d been crying. Panic attacks every morning. The fact that some people cared — even if I’d never met them before — really helped. And the unconditional love of a cat and dog, who seemed to understand better than anyone.

              All that to say, while it’s never the same for two different people, I understand in my way. There are good days and bad days. Here’s to hoping the bad ones let up soon. You know where to find us. <3

            • decormaven

              My goodness. This was before my time here, I think. I am so sorry, but glad you are better now.

            • Qitkat

              Oh honey, I’m worried, really really worried for you. I’ve been through some of this myself too, many years ago, and it just takes over your life and all your thoughts and actions, and it IS a supreme effort to drag yourself to go do something about it, but you have to believe that YOU ARE WORTH IT. I always look for your posts, and I know lots of others here do too. I’m lonely a lot too, I haven’t posted about it, but I know what it’s like to have family all so busy with their own stuff, and not having support just when your very life depends upon it. But we have your back. I don’t know how much that means, when none of us may ever meet IRL, but I have a belief that the friends I have made here know me better than some of my own family does, and more than most of the few friends I’ve had along the way. For some of us this is the ONE SAFE PLACE to be completely honest. We all need such a place, and the support here is fucking amazing I think. Much more than I’ve found in my 20+ years in Denver. Some of us just don’t make friends very easily, and we need to believe that that is OK and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH US.

              Everyone here is passing on such good advice, but you know, ultimately, it is up to you. YOU CAN FIND HELP, you can climb out of this pit, I just know you can. Please call a doctor first thing Monday morning, take off work if you have to. Nothing is more important than getting yourself on a better path, right now. I’m not much for organized religion anymore, but I was raised that way, and I believe that whatever you believe in is of utmost importance, whether it’s traditional, or the spirit of Mother Earth, or strength and cleanliness from working out hard, or taking a hike, or finding something creative you love to do, there are forces in the universe that can bring you some serenity and acceptance and yes, even joy again. Go and seek them out

            • Sarah

              ^What @Qitkat:disqus said.

            • decormaven

              Preach it.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Thank you. I mean it, I really do appreciate it.

              Bitter Kittens are the best Kittens.

            • Peeve

              Please, please get some help, as Qitkat said. I hate to think of you suffering so much. You are a valuable member of the BKs–I always look forward to your posts! So even if we’re not IRL, you matter greatly to us, and we do care what happens to you.

            • formerlyAnon

              What Peeve says is all true.

        • MilaXX

          I promise myself one day and one day only. Then I remove all barriers. Gym bag is packed and at the door. Gym clothes are also there. Smoothie is premade and in the fridge in a shaker bottle. Alarm is set. I always feel better afterwards so the next day I make the same deal with myself.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            My gym bag is packed and ready. I’ve recently even overhauled what’s in my bag. Due to gym times and my work times and the fact that working out first thing in the morning is just not something I can do (you morning people are just wrong), I have to go after work. And mostly, I can’t. I mean to. I tell myself all day. And then…I can’t. I have no adequate reason why I can’t other than I can’t. Frequently I go home and go to bed. Sometimes I go home and stay up too late doing nothing.

            Mostly, I am not functioning.

            • formerlyAnon

              Hugs. That is depression. Pare what you expect of yourself down. Do what you can. 5 minutes of stretching at the keyboard? Set a timer for 2 minutes of something you’ve been meaning to get to? Do a tiny bit of what you think would make you feel better, if you were able to feel better?

              I know you said at another time that you have insurance, and a doctor (therapist?). Don’t give up on that, even if it seems pointless.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Thanks. I’m thinking I have to re-evaluate because I’m getting worse. Self-awareness sucks.

            • formerlyAnon

              I’m not the one to know what you can try – confronting your doctor with the fact that things are worse? – but it sounds like you need to try it before it gets even harder to do. (If you’re on Twitter I’m there as @anonforfriends)

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Thanks. I’ve just left Twitter. I’ve found it just brings out the stupid in me. :-)

              On a good day I’m competent and pretty much invisible at work and completely invisible and alonde outside of it. On a bad day, I’m competent and pretty much invisible at work and internet crazy while still completely invisible and alone and crippled by guilt the next day. It’s fun.

            • decormaven

              We see you, so you are not invisible. Have you seen the book “Hyperbole and a Half”? A friend of mine deals with depression- she borrowed my book and kept it for about three months, it was that much The Truth for her. All the hugs to you.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I appreciate all of you. I really do. :-)

            • Gatto Nero

              You might also appreciate “The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking” (Oliver Burkeman) — a rational, intelligently written and well-researched treatise on how futile and even destructive aggressive positivity can be.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I’ve looked for that at the library. I’ll have to look again. I have read “Bright-Sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking has Undermined America” by Barbara Ehrenich, though.

              Not surprisingly, the “think happy thoughts” brigade makes me all stabby.

            • Gatto Nero

              You are not alone.

            • decormaven

              That’s why I love “Hyperbole and a Half.” If it were only as simple as thinking positive thoughts.

            • Sarah

              It does. I got put on a new thing a couple of months ago, in addition to my other things, and the initial dose the shrink gave me was too much. I acted out of character. Which is confusing, because presumably the medication is supposed to make you act “better” than you were, but in this case it was not good, exactly. Sort of made me manic, and Lord, nobody needs THAT. I had to pay attention to my own behavior, and rectify it. I hate doing that. But, I don’t know how it is for you. I know usually when I’m getting worse it’s a matter of adjusting my meds/switching them. They go ineffective after a while, unfortunately.

            • Sarah

              I know how you are/ feel. I have this too, for my whole life. I am so capable of so much more, I always think. So many plans, so much laying down. I am rather fond of Not Functioning. Screw standards. I like my squishy bed.

            • formerlyAnon

              I have now added “So many plans, so much laying down” to the short list of Tattoos I Will Never be Decisive Enough to Get.

              Since I realized how many thousands of hours I’ve spent in my life lying down listening to mourning doves or mockingbirds (depending on geographic location) when the rest of the world seems to be out Doing Great Things and I’m just, well, marking time, I’ve wondered if when I’m old and *can’t* get around, the sound of bird calls will make me depressed. Hopefully my deafness will have progressed by then.

            • Sarah

              Y’know, I’ve come to terms with it. I feel like I’ve gotten to where I know when I’m doing it too much, like when I definitely have school/house/actual work to do and decide to lay down instead. (Usually that’s when I have to up my dosages). I keep reading articles about how you should take time to meditate every day – sit and clear your mind, right? Well, I figure that’s what I’m doing when I go lay down and stare for a while. And then, they always say you should be getting plenty of sleep for health. So, the nap that usually accompanies “meditation” is good, too.

            • formerlyAnon

              Your attitude is awesome.

            • Sarah

              My attitude is the result of an enormous amount of medication. Thank Pfizer, or somebody. I live in mortal fear of the Bleak Outlook that dominated my first 25 years on this planet ever returning. It is no picnic, as @Swiftlytiltingplanet:disqus will tell you.

            • decormaven

              So glad you have found right rx mix. Such a trick- but so wonderful when it is achieved.

            • formerlyAnon

              There but for the grace of God (or dumb luck.) I have elaborate coping mechanisms and life-structuring strategies that I ramp up when I notice the signs – it is only the great good fortune of the genes I got that it is not (so far) meds. I know how lucky I am.

            • Sarah

              I’m glad for you! Genes were not in my favor. Was born into it – not much to do but decide after long struggling to surmount the worst of it. I think what people fail to realize is that it looms close for everyone, and you, fA, and everyone who can cope without meds, are worthy of much praise for managing it. Life is really hard. And also not bad at all – when you get the hang of it.

            • decormaven

              Ain’t nothing wrong with listening to birds. Doing that right now. Got a woodpecker on the tube feeder and keeping eyes/ears tuned for bluebirds at nesting box.

            • Laylalola

              I know how this can be. When I go through time where I’m really doing well just to make it to work, one of the first things I try to do is set myself up for food/meals — I will buy a few cartons of eggs, I will buy enough burrito wraps and cans of refried beans and cheddar cheese to make and freeze 21 burritos for lunches, I set myself up with hearty soups or pre-make a ton of chili that I freeze in serving sizes for dinners. I know this isn’t the best food and there are all sorts of other things too (tuna pouches now, pre-sorted and packaged single servings of various nuts) but it becomes important, I’ve found, to have meals basically ready to just grab when I’m at that barely functioning point. I learned to really use the freezer (stuffed green peppers, lasagna, etc.) (I used to even pre-order restaurant meals to be delivered on later dates, and to pick also in one swoop make several carefully selected takeout or delivery orders for what would keep and for a variety of foods I would need but wouldn’t have the energy to make on my own later, including salads, though there are a wider variety now already made).

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I do that on Sundays, a lot so I don’t have to think during the week.

            • decormaven

              Glad you have found a workable workaround life’s boulders. Hope you’re in a fairly smooth part of the journey now.

            • Gatto Nero

              I can empathize. It is a function of depression that you feel you just can’t, and all the pep talks in the world don’t help (and usually irritate). Sometimes it helps just to keep your goals ultra-simple. Instead of a trip to the gym, tell yourself that you will walk around the block once when you get home (for example). Just once. (Or even to the corner and back.) And then lie down if you want to. Try it the next day. Be kind to yourself. And I hope there will be a little opening in the atmosphere for you.

        • KinoEye

          I too hate the gym, and my depression has been known to keep me sequestered from weeks, apart from work. Luckily, I have a dog, and I feel unbelievably guilty when I don’t take him to the lake nearby. We hike/walk together for 30 minutes to an hour. I feel so much better if I keep that up every day, and it’s good for him too. Plus, no people are really around to bother us, so even better. Very soothing to walk through the trees and observe the tides rolling in.

          • Sarah

            I wish my catz would go for a walk. I used to take my dog to the beach when I was a kid for long walks – it was incredibly pleasant. When I think about dogs, it’s walking with them that I miss. Napping with cats is pretty good, though. They sure will guilt a person if they don’t get what they want, too!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              The idea of taking the catz for a walk….hee! So much anger in small furry bodies.

            • Laylalola

              They don’t walk so much as poke their noses into bushes and sort of creep along, stop, lick a paw, sit for a minute.

            • Peeve

              Love this! I think of Canadian Geese the same way–so much attitude in such small bodies! My cat would act as though the clothesline weighed a thousand pounds. Can’t move…too heavy…must lie down…

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I once put a little cat harness on one of the boys. It had the same effect as a straight jacket: I am going to lie here on the floor and glare at you for the rest of my life and then I will come back and haunt you.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Urchin had the same reaction when we put a harness on her. She pitched onto her side like a fainting goat and gave a masterclass in passive resistance.

            • Gatto Nero

              It can be done! But you have to acclimate the cats to a harness when they’re quite young. And even then, they do the leading. (As is their right.)

      • rainwood1

        I was walking the dog today and was thinking about how I’m going to be Getting Shit Done today or GSD as I now think of it. Thank you! for planting that term in my brain. I love it!! Now if I could just get internal tension to drive me to the gym instead of the snack drawer.

        • formerlyAnon

          It’s not “instead of” the snacks, it’s “in addition to.” Of course!

    • boweryboy

      Happy Birthday, Lo!

      The partner and I are hosting our first shinding at our new digs. Us and about five of our besties. I’m excited to entertain but it’s been hot as hell up here in Seattle. We’ll be hitting, at the very least, 90 degrees tomorrow which is unseasonably warm for this time of year.

      As a result, I had to do a complete about face for the meal to avoid turning on the oven at all costs. Instead of making the pastitsio I had planned, we’ll be dining on chicken Caesar salad (with an amazing homemade dressing that involves anchovies, egg yolks, and tons of garlic), cheesy parmaesan bread (which calls for the broiler so I will be making that at the butt crack of dawn), white wine sangria, and homemade ice cream cake. You’re all welcome to join us.

      • formerlyAnon

        If I could afford the plane fare I damn well would. Anchovies and garlic are on my short list of foods I love.

        Enjoy! It sounds as if your guests will.

        • boweryboy

          Anchovies and garlic are pantry staples for us. We’re amazed at how much of both we use in our cooking. On a interesting side note, our favorite restaurant in the city is called Anchovies & Olives (which are another pantry staple).

          • Gatto Nero

            A boweryboy after my own heart.

      • decormaven

        Fab menu! So glad you’re entertaining. Sounds like you’ve settled in in a good way.

        • boweryboy

          Surprisingly, the new digs has been a nice and well needed change. We don’t miss the old place at all.

          • decormaven

            Yes, sounds like you’re in a much better scene. Enjoy, enjoy!

      • Shibori Girl

        Hee hee! I also live in Seattle and called friends in hot Sacramento, CA to say, ” We’re having a heat wave, and we’ re all gonna die.” Such fun to hear them rolling their eyes. I have friends in town so will be leading a tour of the sights in the heat today. No problem, there is a cold adult beverage in my future.

        • KinoEye

          Heh. We’ve been over 90 in my neck of texas for the past few weeks. We’re just awaiting — and dreading — the day it breaks 100. What I wouldn’t give for a summer home on some frosty mountain.

          • decormaven

            You’re definitely in salads & cold plate weather. With our humidity we are not too far behind.

          • formerlyAnon

            We can’t stop talking in our corner of Texas about how it hasn’t been over 100 yet. Most years we’re into double digit count of days over 100 by the end of June.

        • boweryboy

          Too funny…the same happened with me when I was talking to my sister. She lives in Charleston. I could hear her eyes roll through the phone.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        The perfect summer menu! I might drop by for dessert.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Gah! I will be in Seattle on the 24th for my niece’s wedding. (Through some sort of planetary alignment and, possibly, demonic curse, most of the family will be there – we’ll be minus a couple nieces/families, and a couple husbands). I hope the heatwave has finished by then!

        • boweryboy

          I’m hoping it will be finished by then too.

        • Shibori Girl

          It should be somewhat cooler- these things seem to break in a week or so. A while back you asked about fun things to do in Seattle. In addition to whatever festival or street fair is on, I suggest a ” poor man’s cruise”. Walk onto the Bainbridge ferry. Great views of the sound and the mountains. You can walk around Winslow which is nice, and then take a return ferry to Seattle. By not taking a car you avoid the lineup and wait typical in summer. I also recommend the Woodland Park Zoo and the Asian Art museum which currently has a Japanese Art Deco exhibit on. My favorite restaurant is Cafe Flora, but I am a vegetarian,… You might be looking for a good place for salmon. Any of the Anthony’s restaurants or a Ray’s boathouse are good…spendy, but good with nice views. Hope your trip is great!

    • schadenfreudelicious

      I am heading to Paree next week Uncles, i shall stop in and have a drink in your honour!

      • formerlyAnon

        Wow. Enjoy!

      • Peeve

        I am so jealous! I hope you have a fabulous time (I guess I’m not THAT jealous)!

    • Frank_821

      Hey everyone. I would have chimed in earlier in the evening but things took a turn. I was planning to stay late at work while Rick went to a happy hour with colleagues.

      However late in the afternoon my boss gave me his tickets for Rascal Flatts and Sheryl Crow. They were performing at the ampitheatre at the Circuit of Americas F1 Racetrack which luckily we’re a 10 min drive away from. Even better he had already reserved premium parking to go with tickets

      it was a cool place to visit and they put on a good show despite trying to recover from throat problems. They were forced to cancel their last show in Oklahoma

      • formerlyAnon

        That’s a fun surprise!

    • PinkyK

      Happy Happy Birthday Lorenzo!

    • Gatto Nero

      Wishing you a fabulous birthday weekend, dear Lorenzo.

    • sweetlilvoice

      Happy Birthday! My husband’s birthday is on July 12–got to love a good Cancer man!

    • Jacob Bowen

      Happy Birthday Lorenzo!!! I won’t make any age jokes since I’ve already called you grandpa…

      I’m celebrating this week by getting a pedicure (mint green polish) with my sister because I GOT A JOB! I will be full time teaching math to 8th graders! This also means I get to quit my second summer job and have a bit of free time! This weekend will include HOURS of TLo catch up, and maybe a bit of wine. Can’t wait, I miss reading all about you all!

      • formerlyAnon

        Middle schoolers! You are a better man than I, Gunga Din. (ETA: I know it’s a colonialist reference. I’m old enough that a lot of my references are sketchy. It says what I mean.)
        Lucky middle schoolers, at that. They need invested teachers even more when they’re at those rough ages, especially the example of good men.

      • Sarah

        Congrats, Jacob! That’s great. I have mint green GLITTER toes, right now. Good choice ;)

        • Jacob Bowen

          GLITTER. That’s what I forgot! Damn.

          • Sarah

            Ha you’ll remember next time, right? Glitter polish is the bomb.

      • KinoEye

        Congratulations! I wish my 8th grade math teacher had been as awesome ( and presumably fabulous) as you. Cheers!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Congratulations on the job!

      • decormaven

        Awesome news! Toasts all around!

      • EveEve

        Congrats on getting a job that you’re excited about! My hat is truly off to you. The world needs lots more 8th grade math teachers with mint green toenails, and lots less of…well, lots of things.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Happy weekend kittens!

      We spent the day in picturesque East Sussex picking cherries from the tree that we rent (the cherry orchards in England are really struggling – this farmer came up with an innovative business plan, where they do the work for an annual fee, and you come along and take the cherries). We got 15kg (33lbs) so the next couple of days is going to be processing fruit.

      • decormaven

        How wonderful! Have you ever made cherry vinaigrette for a salad dressing? So good on salad with strawberries, blueberries, spinach, feta cheese and walnuts.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          That sounds like a very good idea! I am going to be making ALL THE THINGS – so far, a bottle of cherries in brandy, a bottle of cerises au vinaigre and a vat of pie filling.

          • formerlyAnon

            Dear lord, that sounds wonderful.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              The pie filling has become 2 pies – one for the freezer, one for husband to take to work. I’ve now also made a bottle of cherries in rum and am half way through making a batch of savoury chilli-cherry jam, but I needed to sit down for 5 minutes.

            • Qitkat

              I bought some chili-cherry jam, so delicious, not I’m sure as much as yours, advice was to pour it over a block of cream cheese and serve with crackers. Didn’t try that yet, but it’s a good combo with jalapeno jelly or preserves. We got a couple of pints of fresh cherries on our vacation from a road-side stand. I can’t imagine having the bounty you have. I used to try to can a bushel of peaches or tomatoes, and discovered very quickly I hated canning. But all your ideas for cherries sound so doable and yummy.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I love cream cheese with sweet chilli sauce poured over, and that was exactly what I had in mind for the chilli-cherry! I got a bit carried away with the salt, so it’s quite an intense flavour – I think it would work really well with roast venison too.

              On the cherry agenda for today are 2 more pies, a sweet jam, a French cherry wine and freezing some. And eating some fresh in a salad with goats cheese! I’m also considering trying to dry some.

          • SouthernGirlRena

            That sounds amazing. I LOVE cherry pie.

        • Qitkat

          Mmmmm, I have no idea how to make vinaigrette like this though. Care to share? :-)

      • Jacob Bowen

        That sounds AMAZING. I am not even the biggest cherry fan, but I would TOTALLY rent a cherry tree!

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          This was the first year we’ve made it down for picking day (first year the harvest was terrible and the farmer was really stressed, so I said they could give our cherries to someone else, then last year I was in Australia). There were quite a few families making a day of it with picnics.

      • Gatto Nero

        That sounds fabulous! Also, how thoughtful of you to provide the weight conversion for us American kittens.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Haha! Quite a few of my friends over here haven’t totally acclimatised to the metric system, even though it was introduced in 1965!

    • Kawena

      Feliz aniversario, Lorenzo! (You share a birthday with my mom)

    • Peeve

      Happy birthday, Lo! Hope the dinner and wine were fabulous!

    • Qitkat

      Hola fellow kitten members, I’ve been away for awhile, with vacation and life and stuff. I thought I would post about my trip last evening but a last minute dinner invite came up from my middle kid and his family, quite a surprise actually, and I found myself too tired later. Said kid lost his job nearly two weeks ago but didn’t bother getting around to telling us til 2 days ago. His wife’s sister and family had come to visit during our vacation, and I thought I would see her when we returned, but nary a phone call or text. The oldest son’s wife’s (the same couple we vacationed with) favorite uncle died after a fall (he was 94), and although we heard about it, while he was still in the hospital, we were discouraged from visiting him. Now I’m sure all of them had their good reasons for their actions, but we felt like we were kept in the dark deliberately. I kept trying to put myself in their shoes, and trying to think if I would have done similar things to my folks when they were still around. I kept coming up with No. But we’re all different under trying circumstances, and I’m just going to move on. But we’ve started noticing this more and more, and it comes to me that while it is lovely in many cases to live close to our children and grandchildren, in some respects we might as well live across the country, and on the vacation, the prospects of that became more and more inviting.

      On to our trip…all in all it was wonderful. The actual flights went well (Southwest, with its crowded seating and clever but still annoying system), we had a really sweet rental car (Nissan Altima with push button start), I took over 600! pictures with my new Canon digital camera (PowerShot SW280 HS), of which maybe two dozen are really good, which, believe it or not, I consider a pretty good average, having learned in film classes (yes, real film lol) in college to stop expecting everything shot to be a masterpiece. We spent four nights near Cannon Beach, Oregon, a very popular tourist destination, actually we were in Arch Cape, just 10 minutes south. The Oregon coast is beautiful, occasionally spectacular, the weather favored us for the most part, never too hot, quite breezy and often chilly much of the time, clear and mostly sunny. We caught part of the annual sand-building contest but logistically it would have made sense to stay in CB to see it best, because of parking. CB is a cute town, with some excellent restaurants, lots of nice boutiques, and usual tourist stuff, but not as kitschy as I think Seaside is, a bit further north on the coast. We had a lovely house to share with our son, DIL and 2 ½ year old grandson, bedrooms on the lower level, a sea view from the charmingly furnished upper level, with a deck, full kitchen, 2 houses back from the ocean, a winding path to get to the surprisingly rocky beach, where locals build campfires, tossing in their old chairs, etc. That looked like fun, and although everyone was very nice, we didn’t get invited to join in. Delightful to see grandson enjoying himself on the beach (CB has a very nice sandy wide one), and hiking in nearby woods with the family, and enjoying their company. It went well enough to consider future vacations with them.

      The kids went further south on the Oregon coast, and we headed north to our destination on Bainbridge Island, Washington, in Puget Sound across from Seattle. It was about a four hour drive that seemed longer, as we cut across to Tacoma, where we spent one night in a great hotel, a bit of a splurge, chosen for its decor and location. The Hotel Murano showcases local and international glass artists throughout their lobby and in the hallway opposite the elevator on almost every one of its 26 floors. We had the most spectacular clear view of Mount Rainier from our 14th floor room, and I insisted we ride up and down the elevator to visit all the art! It was all so creative and amazing. The location is close to the streetcar (free!) to ride up and down the main area of the city; we only got to the glass bridge and museum, which were pretty spectacular with their exhibits. The Chihuly Bridge of Glass crosses over I-5, (Tacoma is Dale Chihuly’s home town). We enjoyed the walk under the glass ceiling, 50×20 feet, on the 500 foot overpass, with other glass art, the Crystal Towers, ice blue and lit at night, and enclosed, but still outdoors, installation of over 100 of individual pieces by Chihuly. The Museum of Glass itself has a Hot Shop where you can watch live artists creating pieces, several exhibit room of many other glass artists, and a showcase of works created by the glass artists from kid’s drawings, so clever and whimsical, and raised to a whole new level. Highly recommended, and we missed many other things in Tacoma, I didn’t know it was such an interesting city.

      This post is getting too long, and I still want to tell everyone about the cottage on Bainbridge Island, where we spent a lovely restful week. So I will put that up next week’s TLounge.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        I’m happy to read that you had such a good time. It’s always special when you discover compatible traveling companions. Just ’cause they’re your children doesn’t always mean you can spend concentrated time with them, especially with a toddler in tow.

        When we lived in Seattle 43 years ago, Tacoma was a very stinky town because of the paper mills. Are they gone now? And there certainly was no indication that it was going to become an artsy glass city.

        As for the secrecy, it seems to be the thing these days. I’ve been too self-absorbed to give it much thought, but I do know it’s becoming very common. I wonder if it’s in direct response to the general lack of privacy that has developed (I’m looking at you, Google and Facebook). So don’t take it personally. If it’s something you should know, you’ll find out about it eventually. Just gotta ask the right questions and hope you’ll get an honest answer.

        I’m looking forward to Chapter 2.

        • Qitkat

          We detected no stinky smells in Tacoma. I don’t know anything about its history. As far as 43 years ago, Dale Chihuly had just started some glass-blowing ventures in the state of Washington, so the area was in its infancy I presume to become a glass artist’s mecca.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I did a search for “Tacoma paper pulp smell” and found lots of articles about it. Here’s an excerpt from one of them:

            “Living in the south end of Tacoma, I always knew there was a smell when ever I was in the north end. The city of Tacoma Washington just had an overwhelming funk, that it just could not shake. The Sulfuric odor was due mostly to the Simpson Tacoma Kraft pulp and paper mill, but the city also had a copper smelting plant that helped contribute to the stench.”

            It goes on to talk about Bruce Springsteen postponing a concert there because “he thought the smell was just way too overwhelming. Saying to the media that the smell made him sick, and that he would never perform there again till they fixed their shit. So Joe Stortiti, the county executive, decided he was going to clean up the smell and created a task force to make sure no one would ever leave his town because of the smell.”

      • formerlyAnon

        Your trip sounds fabulous! And it’s nice to have you back here with us.

        My perspective: I come from a family that tells nobody anything, because no one “wants to bother you.” In my family, there would have been 100% taken for granted consensus that “Oh, we don’t want to ruin their trip” and you wouldn’t have been told. I have MANY stories to this effect.

        One: My mother was in her 70s. I lived 1500 miles away. One (late) morning my brother calls: “Mom wasn’t going to tell you till later, but when I was helping her check in this morning she changed her mind.” Me: “What’s going on?? Checked her in where? The hospital?” Him: “It’s no big deal, she was just going to call you when she got back home [THAT, by the way, was such a lie that I'm astonished he even was able to get it out], but then she decided that just in case something went wrong and she died, I shouldn’t have to call and tell you when you didn’t know anything.” [Now THAT totally had the ring of truth]

        You notice he still hadn’t divulged that she’d gone in for abdominal surgery for a hernia repair, was actually in surgery by the time I got this call. The whole interaction was totally the norm.

        • Qitkat

          Yeah, your story has the ring of truth for me too, my parents and especially my inlaws used to do nearly the same thing, with variations. What got me was the job was lost right when we came home, the sister visit continued for five more days after we came home, and we already knew the uncle had fallen while we were with them on the vacation, and died six days after we came home. But everyone was busy with all the details, which I totally understand, uncle’s only child came from California. Just when I think I have gotten closer to these two daughters-in-law, they seem to back off. More factors than anyone would really care to know in both cases, but different. As the mother of only sons, I’m becoming resigned to this. When we visited my grandparents, most of the visit was with my mom’s side, even though dad’s side lived just across the river. Mothers are generally closer to daughters than to sons, no matter how hard we try. I always suspected it would be like this. My SIL has to pull teeth to hear from her two (out of state, out of country) married sons.

          Added: I am horrified at even the possibility of your brother having to call you if your mom had died under those circumstances. Maybe he was too. I used to worry about that with one of my brothers, long story, who rarely spoke with our parents, and was almost impossible to contact.

        • decormaven

          That’s a story for the ages. My family on my mom’s side has always been small, one uncle gone before I was born, with two sisters who stayed in close touch with my mom. One lived 60 miles away, and sent a postcard every week (yes, children, it wasn’t the day of unlimited calling) and the other visited every Sunday afternoon- usually after church, after our Sunday lunch, with a carload of old ladies. The aunt 60 mi. away had one daughter; the other, a stepson who was grown by the time I was born. My sisters and I grew up seeing the power of sisterhood. Even though we’re geographically far away, we’re in close contact. I have to remind myself that not every family is as talky as mine.

      • decormaven

        The trip sounds heavenly! The events surrounding the family- I’m starting to see my friends with sons who are getting married, and I hope that their prospective daughters-in-law will keep them in the communication loop. Seeing how much moms love their sons, I think it’s important to nourish that tie. I love Mr. DM’s mom and we have always been in good communication. She’s my earth mom now, as my own passed three years ago.

        • Qitkat

          That’s so lovely for you and your MIL.
          The DIL with the uncle lost her mom within the last 8 months, so it’s still very fresh for her, but I’m hoping in time she may regard me as her ‘earth mom’ but only time will tell, she had a loving but complicated relationship with her own mom; the other DIL still has a mom very much in her life. I have done my level best and often above and beyond for both of them to nourish those ties; I think in my case events are now beyond my control.

          • decormaven

            If it’s meant to be, it will roll toward you. Stay open to the possibilities.

            • Qitkat

              YEP. Doing just that.

            • decormaven

              Attagirl!

    • BadWolf99

      Happy Birthday to my birthday twin Lorenzo! Hope you had a wonderful day – 7/11 is the best birthday ever!

    • carnush

      Happy belated birthday Lorenzo! Hope it was a great one.

    • KT

      What happened to the OITNB wrap-up? Do pinky swears mean nothing anymore?!?