T LOunge

Posted on July 25, 2014

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TLounge-7-25-2014-Tom-LOrenzo-Site-TLO (3)Bar Missoni in Edinburgh, Scotland

 

 

 

 

 

Darlings, our week of vacation is coming to a close and we’ll be back to our regular schedule of bitchery starting on Monday. Thank you all for your patience with us as we momentarily lost our senses and thought that beaches with cocktails were somehow more important than our Bitter Kittens. Whatever were we thinking?

If you’re so inclined, you can yell at us for it, becausewe’ll be appearing on the DEREK & ROMAINE SHOW on SiriusXM OutQ 106 at 8:20 pm EDT tonight.  Kittens are encouraged to call in and chat with us about all things Project Runway (or whatever else you want to unload on): 866-305-6887.  For those who don’t subscribe to Sirius, a free online trial is available at www.siriusxm.com/outqoffer. You better call!

Until then, Ciao, darlings!

 

[Photo Credit: quorvuscollection.com]

    • MMS_SMS

      Happy Friday! It is now 5 p.m. and I am just getting to start my ‘day off’ – I’ll take a bottle of sparkly join me!

      • another_laura

        Thanks, doll, I’m totally sharing your bottle of sparkles!

    • Shelby

      Have a lovely end to your vacation! :-)

    • Jennifer Bober

      Happy Friday Uncles! I hope it was a wonderful week and a restful weekend.

      Me, it’s more sewing as I try to get ready for a week of camping in Renaissance clothes and a belated Father’s day celebration with the family.

      Happy weekend kittens!!

      • Frank_821

        which ren fair? Bristol?

        • Jennifer Bober

          It’s not a fair. Do a Google image search on Pennsic War.

          • Frank_821

            Oh I’m familair with Pennsic

      • decormaven

        You are definitely busy with your Renaissance events. How does one stay cool in the outdoor events in such clothing?

        • Jennifer Bober

          Wear linen!

      • Sophie

        That’s amazing! Does your entire family participate in this Pennsic War? It sounds incredibly fun.

        • Jennifer Bober

          I’m a single gal, but my brother, sister-in-law and niece will be there.

          • Sophie

            That sounds great. I actually thought you might be doing it with your parents, since you mentioned Father’s Day. A friend of mine is doing similar events disguised as a Viking, I was very envious. The clothes might also be a little easier to sew, I think he did some of them himself.

            • Jennifer Bober

              Dad has come to events, but not Pennsic. He used to help me out when I was cooking feasts for my local group. He would love to come out and wander through war, but hasn’t convinced my step-mom yet. Viking apron dresses are definitely less work than my kirtles, but I prefer how I look in my 16th century clothes.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Kirtles are very flattering. I was doing a little research on historical clothing a while ago, and generally decided that if I had to wear medieval dress, a bliaut and stomacher would work best on me.

            • Jennifer Bober

              I have a friend who wears them and they look great. While the kirtle is my staple, I do also have a 14th c. gothic fitted dress and one Italian gown, which is great because I’m playing for a ball in a camp where they basically build an Italian villa for the two weeks. The guy apparently works on movie sets, so he’s made it modular and portable.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              That sounds wonderful!

      • Snailstsichr

        I’m sewing for my husband tonight so I can send him off to Pennsic. I have to work, but my local group is throwing a massive 3 state “pity party” for everyone who had to stay home. If you wander by Calontir Trim, tell the proprieter (Drx) that a fellow bitter kitten said HI. If he tries to tell you that “everyone wants to be him,” just nod and smile. :)

        • Jennifer Bober

          OMG!! One of the gowns I’m re-fitting has a fabulous trim that looks like blackwork that I bought from him years ago!

          • Snailstsichr

            How cool! I hope you have a grand time!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        One of my facebook friends has posted his excellent tetris-based car-packing skills to get down to Pennsic. Looks like such fun! Enjoy your war…

        • Jennifer Bober

          Thanks. I’m lucky to be in a well-established camp so I don’t have to pack as much as some folks. I can still see out the back from my rear view mirror. :-)

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Rob… can’t. I’d be scared driving all that way with that poor visibility, but I guess a SCAdian has to do what a SCAdian has to do!

            • Jennifer Bober

              I know lots of folks who can’t. I guess they just make really good use of the side mirrors and at least it’s mostly highways.

    • Aidan B

      What a lovely bar! I need to get back to Edinburgh. Any bitter kittens in residence in bonny Scotland?
      Not much to report here, except that we got the files back from our engagement session so now we can work on save the dates. That also means coming up with a definitive guest list, which may require wine. I’m going to take a walk up the liquor store so that we’ll have some in case things go south; and in any case, future hubs and I can toast our third week apart this summer coming to an end. Two more to go…
      Happy weekend, BKs!

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      • marlie

        How big of a guest list are you planning for?

        • Aidan B

          Our initial list came out to about 120, but we definitely forgot some people. I think we’re going to do an A list and a B list, as harsh as that sounds. My parents are paying for the catering and there’s only so many people we can accommodate. Luckily his family isn’t nearly as big as mine! Otherwise this would be a nightmare.

          • decormaven

            A and B list perfectly acceptable; catering is not cheap. Spirits are in order for such planning.

            • Aidan B

              Don’t know if we’ll do it this weekend, since hubby-to-be is pretty exhausted, but I bought two bottles of wine just in case ;-)

            • decormaven

              Just lightly broach the subject after a glass. It doesn’t have to be a formal planning session, just a chance to float some names out in the air to see how things are drifting.

          • marlie

            Maxing out at ~120 doesn’t sound so bad, but I can imagine that the total can become inflated rather quickly. Be strong. xo

      • another_laura

        I love Edinburgh. I never went to so chic a bar, I’m sorry to say. Best of luck on the guest list, I recommend vodka shots!

        • Aidan B

          Me too! I went the first time when I was 13 and back again when I had just turned 20. Now that I’m a grown up I feel a chic bar is in order for my next visit, whenever that is. This place will be on the list.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Corsetmaker is Scottish, and I think there are a couple of others!

        Good luck on the guest list. Do you have a venue with a fixed number, as well as a budget?

        • Aidan B

          The venue can accommodate almost 200, I think, but our wallets about max out at 120. We can’t afford to feed many more than that!

    • Sobaika

      HAPPY FRIDAY Y’ALL

      Very happy to have finally reached the weekend.

      • Aidan B

        Cheers!

      • decormaven

        How’s the new hair color faring?

        • Sobaika

          I look like a fairy pixie princess and I love it :D

          • decormaven

            That’s a good idea. Your hair will be amazing!

          • formerlyAnon

            I look like a fairy anime crime fighter princess

            I’ve never heard a more ringing endorsement of a new ‘do!

    • Qitkat

      It’s a lovely summer evening, but where the heck has July gone? A fairly quiet week in these parts. Yesterday I learned my car needs a total brake job, so there goes my happy face downhill financially, but we’ll cope. Today brought what is normally a sad occasion, a memorial service for a beloved in-law relative, a gentleman aged 94. He had lived a long and interesting life, which made the service more celebratory, with many friends and relatives in attendance. I’m not Catholic, but was moved by the well-played live music (piano, guitar, violin), slightly more informal tone than I expected, and genuine love and laughter shared during his memorial mass, followed by a nice luncheon afterwards with a slide show, and more sharing of good memories of a man who gave far beyond the usual to his community.

      Have a great weekend, y’all! Here’s hoping Tom and Lorenzo had a fabulous beach vacation. Thanks for putting up the PR posts guys, it’s great to dish with the kittens again on all things wacked on the runway :-)

      • Aidan B

        I’ve been to several Catholic memorials and funeral services over the years. I’m a nonbeliever myself, but I do find that the music and ceremony are a little comforting, so I understand what you mean. Sorry for your loss, but I’m glad you all were able to celebrate a life well lived.

      • decormaven

        Nothing like a great send off. Glad you were able to celebrate what sounds like a life well-lived.

    • marlie

      Glad you had a great vacation, uncles! I’m jealous because I still have to wait a couple more weeks for mine. I hope everyone has a great weekend!

      • Sophie

        Mine starts on wednesday, and I got so swept up in revisions for the exams that I forgot to organise anything… Luckily, Taiwan is quite a bit cheaper than Europe, otherwise I’d pay a very steep price for the train tickets I’m getting today.

        • marlie

          You’re going to Taiwan? So cool! Have a great time!

          • Sophie

            Thanks! I’m doing a semester abroad, so I’ve been in Taiwan for a while now. But since I’ve got classes, I could only go away on the week-end. I’ve got a week of vacation coming up, so I’m hoping to see a bit more of the country.

    • kimmeister

      I’m looking forward to catching up on PR when I’m back from vacation and see what everyone had to say. We will have to be vegetarian for a week to repent for all the Texas beef we’ve been having!

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh, don’t call it repenting! That would imply you’re sorry! I’d call it “balancing out” or maybe “compensating!” ;-)

    • Susan Crawford

      Enjoy your final vacay weekend, T and Lo! Mojitos at sunset are the least you deserve. I’m flat on my back in bed – but not in a good way. Took what has to be my umpteenth fall, re-injured my back and am on bed rest and pain meds – and wondering whether a glass of chardonnay would tip me into Valley of the Dolls territory. *sigh*

      • Qitkat

        Ouch! Tough luck. I have no medical credibility, but have been known to “slightly” mix pain meds with light alcohol, maybe, once or twice. This is in no way a recommendation ;-) Feel better soon!

      • Aidan B

        Youch! Feel better!

      • decormaven

        Ouchie! Hope you’re icing that back. A medicinal glass could be a good thing. Hope you’ve got some quality Netflix or streaming video to keep you entertained.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I reckon as long as you aren’t planning to drive, or get in a bath, or do anything with knives, a little glass of something might help take the edge off!

        • Susan Crawford

          Thanks, Alicia and others. I’ve been away from the Bitter Kitten community for a while, and it feels great to be back. Feeling a little better today, and powering through a bunch of classic sci-fi TV. (Loving the costuming on “Stargate” – very project Runway!) Have a super weekend, and I’ll be seeing you all soon!

    • another_laura

      Happy weekend to the BKs! I had a good week because I booked tickets for a trip to Rome for later this year. wheee!

      • formerlyAnon

        That’s FANTASTIC!

      • Aidan B

        Lucky you!! That’s fabulous!

      • decormaven

        Enjoy, enjoy! That calls for a toast with vino!

        • another_laura

          You bet, and the virtual Barolo is on me, kittens!

          • decormaven

            You just named one of my faves. Yum!

      • Thomas

        That’s great! Good thing you won’t be going in the middle of the summer though. I went in July of 2003 at the start of the European heat wave that killed thousands of people and it was torturous, high 90s or 100 every day and terrible humidity. We took a day trip to Pompeii and I although fascinating, I had trouble enjoying because there was no shade due to all of the trees being gone! I thought I was gonna die. They don’t have ac everywhere over there like we do here and they don’t put ice in their drinks as well. Great city steeped in history though, so have fun! The people are very nice there too. Just beware of gypsy pickpockets! One tried to pickpocket my dad and was brazen enough to put her hand down my dad’s pants!

        • another_laura

          Hi Thomas! Two questions:

          Did you pick glasses? Details, please –
          How did you go to Pompeii? Was it a day trip from Rome? If so did you take a car or public transport?

          • Thomas

            Hi Laura I’m assuming that’s your name)! I haven’t picked glasses yet, but I let the BKs know the deets when I do!

            My dad rented a car (I was only 13 at the time). It was a day trip. If I remember correctly, it was only like 2 hrs south of Rome. It was either that or Florence and in retrospect I wish we had gone to Florence because there would have been some shade at least, but we thought Florence would be too much for one day. I’m glad we did Pompeii because it was amazing, but not in that heat. Still haven’t been to Florence though! The only thing I’d warn about renting a car is that Italian drivers are horrible. They try to fit two vespas and a car in one line. We have a timeshare, so we were staying outside of Rome near Tivoli and there were crosses all along the roads marking where people had died. Speaking of Tivoli, if you have time, make sure to go there! Hadrian’s Villa is just outside of Tivoli and Tivoli is home to Villa D’Este (not the one George Clooney stays at unfortunately) which is a 15th century villa famous for its gardens, fountains and scenic views. Definitely worth the trip! Make sure you get to Villa Borghese as well. That is a MUST SEE. It’s a fabulous small museum housed in a cardinal’s former villa in a park right in Rome. It has amazing mosaics (I believe Roman) installed in the floors and a lot of Bernini’s.

            Also, try and avoid touristy Italian restaurants. We had a lot of mediocre meals surprisingly, but a lot of restaurants were out of our price range as well. We ate at one really good restaurant near the Colosseum and around the corner from the church Michelangelo’s Moses is in, but I can’t remember the name of it. I’ll let you know if I can find it. Last but not least, don’t be surprised if you see a gypsy boy with an accordian and a monkey on the metro. I thought that was only stuff you saw in movies or cartoons, but I actually saw it.

            If you have any other questions, just let me know! Make sure you go to the Vatican, the Colosseum, the Roman Forum, the Pantheon, Piazza Navona and the Trevi Fountain, but I figure you already plan on going to those places :) The Capitolini Museum and Etruscan Museum are also good if you have time, but I’m not sure they’re must sees like the others. I also read that the archaeological museum in Naples is excellent if you go to Pompeii and have time.

            Oh, and don’t forget to pretend that you’re Audrey Hepburn in Roman Holiday! That’s most important! ;)

            • Jacob Bowen

              Oh my gosh, thank you for this list! I’m planning on going to Europe next summer, and OF COURSE Rome is on my list of cities to visit! Now I can start my list of things to do!

            • Thomas

              Haha You’re welcome! I’ve been to Paris, London, Salzburg, Brussels, Bruge, Ghent and Amsterdam (for only a day or two) as well, so if you have any questions about those places, don’t hesitate to ask, not that I’m an expert or anything lol And London I got the worst stomach virus I’ve ever had, so I didn’t get to enjoy or see as much as I wanted to.

          • http://redheadedwolf.wordpress.com/ Laura Renee

            I’m jumping in because I just got back a couple weeks ago from an Italy trip, and we did a day trip to Pompeii. We didn’t have a rental car, so what we did was get a high-speed train from Rome to Naples, and from there you get a smaller train (called Circumvesuviana) toward Pompeii. Lots of tourists take this route, so it’s easy to ask for help at the ticket desk in Naples. But you definitely need to keep a firm hand on your wallet at all times, as not just the station, but the train to Pompeii itself, is a prime target area for pickpockets. The same can be said for a lot of areas around Rome, especially Termini Station. Do be careful!

            Our roundtrip tickets from Rome to Naples cost us 56 euros, but the small train from Naples is much cheaper…about 3 euro per person, I think.

            One fun tip for Rome: all the public fountains have potable water! Not just the spigots continually flowing, but the big tourist attraction fountains, too. It’s such a relief to be able to refill your water bottle that way.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      It was thrilling to watch the comments roll forth during the PR episode last night, which I cannot watch because I work second shift! But it was a bit slow so I was able to entertain myself here. I had no idea what anyone was talking about but it was still very amusing. I hope I can try to watch (the comments here) again next week.

    • formerlyAnon

      I feel that an AMAZING amount of blogging and blog maintenance went on considering this was the first vacation of any length I can remember T & Lo taking. I only hope the beach & cocktails & friends & family & whatever else did, truly, outweigh the keeping of a weather eye on the blog.

      I am running around inefficiently organizing life to go visit family (and a dear friend who’s going through a rough patch) at the end of next week. Mixed, yes, very mixed feelings, which many here will understand. It’s always better once I get there. Yes it is. And part of the reason that it is, is this last minute running around I do to minimize the chance that my need to take care of something long distance should – god forbid – compete with anybody else’s agenda in any way.

      People. We mostly all mean well and are mostly a bit crazier than we look, at least by my time in life. Amazing how much we get done despite it all.

      If I get through the list expeditiously I’ll be back here later, drinking to forget.

      • decormaven

        Hold strong, dearie! I hear you loud and clear. I’m headed to be with my family next week. It will be great, but it always brings faraway things into sharper focus, letting me know that time is definitely marching on. Hope you can help out your friend; it’s good of you to lend a hand. I also salute the Dear Uncles; the Outer Banks is a special place for me, and I know it was medicinal for them.

      • @Biting Panda

        Ah yes, the pre travel hooops. They do ruffle my feathers, even though I think I used to love to travel. Back in another life. I’m sure your friend is grateful to know she’s got you coming to be in her corner.
        Speedy list crossing.

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      • Peeve

        May the trip go better than you ever expected! What a wonderful thing for your friend as well. So nice to see great long-distance friends when things are rough. Just think how great getting back home will be. I always think that’s one of the best parts of the trip–especially the dog’s welcome home reaction!

        • formerlyAnon

          I confess I’ve thought “in two weeks I’ll be back home” more than once lately. But it will go better than I expect, it always does. Thanks for the kind words!

    • @Biting Panda

      Evenin’ Kittens.
      I think a chilled shot of silver tequila is the only remedy for this funk. Bitch is grumpy.
      Should I chose to look at the positive, I had a delicious dinner, with family and even managed a little pool time today. But Bitch is still grumpy.
      So, I thought I’d better go for liquid Valium and hope the lime mixes well with my salty attitude.

      Tell me good things about you.

      • decormaven

        Hey, doodlebug! Silver tequila makes it all better. We made Patron margaritas at a friend’s pool the other day to wave bye-bye to summer for a teacher friend who is headed back to the salt mines. I’m headed to see family on Sunday; it’s pool time, margarita time, and card-playing time for moi. Trusting the grumps will move along in time; it’s just part of the journey.

        • @Biting Panda

          That sounds like a damn good time indeed. Good for you.

          The journey. Yes.

          • decormaven

            Know that I’m beaming good thoughts your way. Have you been able to get away this summer, or are things too in flux now? Know you’re keeping an eye on your kiddies. I admire your ability to spin multiple plates during this time.

            • @Biting Panda

              Psht. Not that well. I’m on a leave from work while I am in intensive outpatient therapy. I swear I’m up at my provider’s building at least 4 days a week. My shrink is there, my Tai Chi class is there. The kids, so far, have pretty evenly divided their nights between us, but I’ve had them during the day. They are about to take another Sunday to Sunday with my folks, and the big kids head to their mom’s Sunday as well. So I’ll have a week of solitude, that I am very much looking forward to. But no, an actual get a way is not going to happen for me this Summer.

            • formerlyAnon

              Never heard of a better use for a leave from work. And good fortune for everyone that the kids get a bit more of your attention than might be usual – even if you feel like your attention isn’t what it might be. Kids want their important people to be there when life’s a bit up in the air.

            • decormaven

              See if you can give yourself some “treats” next week during your alone time. Massage, facial, pedi- something that involves touch and pampering.

            • formerlyAnon

              Oh, these are BRILLIANT suggestions. I hope, our dear B. Panda, you are in a position to try one or more. I always forget that one can *pay* people to do a little caretaking for oneself. That can be so much easier than accepting well meaning gestures form friends or relatives that require, sometimes, more emotional/psychological engagement than one can bear.

            • @Biting Panda

              I’ve been dying to try JeJu! I may try to make that happen. The back to school lists plus uniforms and shoes, are taking their bites out of my purse.

              Thanks love

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Maybe put some bricks on the pandalets’ heads, so they can wear last year’s clothes?

            • decormaven

              Search the couch cushions. I know school time takes a bite out of the wallet, but that would be a most deserved treat!

            • Qitkat

              Hey Panda-girl! It sounds like all this introspection and tearing down in order to rebuild a stronger you is taking its toll. That is most likely a normal response, so go with your flow and allow all these feelings to wash you clean. Your week of solitude is a gift to cherish at this time. All your young loved ones sound well taken care of, so you can really focus on yourself. Eventually you’ll re-emerge from this battered and bruised self. The timetable is not so important. It takes what it takes.

              Have you read Wild by Cheryl Strayed? Her journey (literally hiking a difficult trail) is really a a very honest look, written as a memoir, in coming to terms with her past relationships and actions. Sometimes reading what other people has been through can be therapeutic and inspiring. It’s a story that will stay with you. It was such an immersive read, and many people seem to have recognized the universality/commonality of her revelations.

              Major hugs and good thoughts coming your way.
              QK

            • decormaven

              Good book suggestion; that’s on my list as well.

            • Qitkat

              You know, it’s funny, I’m not much of a hiker, and am far past the time I would ever attempt what Cheryl did, but there was just something drawing me into her story, and once I got into reading, it was one of those books I literally could not put down. I took it to the waiting office at Social Security, and to my embarrassment found myself in tears at one passage that resonated with me so strongly that I didn’t care. And no one paid any attention to me. There are so many folks in their own private misery at that place anyway. It is really on my top 10 of favorite books of all time. Because when a book can make you cry with empathy, and then laugh til you cry, and come out of it with such a positive feeling of how she tackles life, and transferring to each of us on our own journey of tackling life, that’s quite the story.

            • formerlyAnon

              Thanks for this personal book review. Despite lots of recommendations, I’ve avoided Strayed’s book because I haven’t really liked a “memoir of my journey” – that i’ve read, I’ve certainly missed many – by a woman under 50 in years now. (I was one of the extreme haters of Eat, Pray, Love, but there have been several more that just left me unmoved.) But now I’ll try it with optimism.

            • Qitkat

              I didn’t read EPL, but I saw the movie, literally only for Javier Bardem :) Wild is nothing like EPL. I’ll be curious to hear how you react to the book.

            • Qitkat

              Now that I’ve had some time to think about all the books I’ve loved in my life, I’ve decided to think of a Top 50 instead of a Top 10! I think I’m leaving out way too many worthy candidates :) Nonetheless, it is definitely one of my most favorites, that I will probably read again.

            • Peeve

              I’m so with you on the EPL dislike. It seemed so whiney and self-indulgent to me. I’ll have to try Qitkat’s recommendation, as well.

            • decormaven

              Oh boy! I definitely will read now. I used to think Mr. DM and I would tackle the Appalachian Trail in a few years, but my back surgery last year made me rethink that. We probably could do sections if I ultralite pack, but it would require a lot of preplanning to have things shipped to us along the trail. I love hiking very much- only “sport” I’ve ever had much success with.

            • Qitkat

              My family, especially my two older sons as Boy Scouts, hiked/backpacked the AT a number of times in Virginia. I never did backpack on it, but enjoyed shorter hikes, especially when we lived in SNP. Very different from the Pacific Crest Trail. I still miss those Virginia mountains and forests. Colorado has a different vibe.

            • @Biting Panda

              I’ll find it this very weekend, thank you!!

              <3

            • Qitkat

              I hope you enjoy it.

            • @Biting Panda

              Ermagahd, ermagahd, ermagahd!!!

              She’s Dear Sugar! I stumbled upon her archives and read them all. Luv huh.

              So excited to have this book and some me time on my hands. Thank you, again.

              XoXo

            • Qitkat

              I did not discover Dear Sugar til after I read the book. Her advice is awesome!
              Ermagahd *g*

            • formerlyAnon

              Whoa. This certainly is a recommendation. I will definitely read after I get back from my trip.

            • Qitkat

              Hang in there, there is humor too.

      • Shibori Girl

        Hi honey,

        Don’t know the protocol re where I should respond ( right under or after the last response, but here you go. I am thinking of you. Grumpy is real…we all get it. Glad you had a good dinner and hope the liquid Valium kick starts a better weekend.

        Abrazos ( hugs)

        SG

      • Sarah

        Hey, Bitey! Glad you had delicious dinner! Good thing: I did my homework and got it in on time! Why? Because when you have to have a paper in by midnight on Friday, it sure motivates you to finish it so you can start drinkin. The beer I’m having right now is for you, that you may feel less grump and more funk in future days :)

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Hi BP, I always take a little time after I read your situation updates so that I can give you a thoughtful answer. You have a right to be grumpy. The life you chose didn’t turn out the way you planned. Life’s a bitch, but I have every confidence you’re going to come out the winner.

        Here’s what came to me today: You’ve been married a while and now you have to learn how to be single again–but this time with kids. Do you have someone who’s been in your shoes? I had no idea how to be divorced, but my best friend (who happens to be my ex’s first cousin) had been alone for about 10 years. I was so lucky to have her. She even had to teach me how to pump gas since my husband had always filled up the tanks. I honestly don’t know how I would have made it through without her.

        Many years ago, I had a friend who was thinking of leaving her husband. All of her friends were married, so she actually made friends with a couple of divorced women to see what it was like to live that life before she made the move.

        • @Biting Panda

          Congrats on surviving your first week.

          Thanks, as always, for your kind and thoughtful responses. I have all kinds of support and I credit them to my making it this far.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          That sounds like a very wise approach!

        • decormaven

          That is some good advice. I’ve had a friend who divorced after many years of marriage. It’s been a real changeup, because most of her friends are married and were couple friends with her and her ex. It’s been a different experience for her; I give her all the praise for walking, because her ex was a verbal abuser.

    • Paula Pertile

      Is it Friday again already? Have a good weekend fellow kittens. Glad T & Lo had an actual vacation. I remember those . . .

    • GinnyThePainter

      Great interview on OutQ, guys. Nice job. You present a pretty united front on the site, so it’s fun to listen to you getting your Siskel & Ebert on in radio interviews and bickering a bit!

    • Shibori Girl

      Wait!? Friday? How did that happen?

      Greetings all you Bitter Kittens. Sending you all good vibes for the weekend.

      The good news, that Every-ten-year cancer screening we love to hate is over and done for another ten, the weather forecast is encouraging re the ripening of tomatoes in the Pacific Northwest, and all my commitments are social. Perhaps my drink for this evening should be a lovely glass of cava ( Spanish bubbly). Honors my roots and celebrates summer.

      Cheers!

      PS. The test prep – not fun. The happy drugs they give you on the day, very fun!

      • decormaven

        Gotta get something good out of that deal. Glad the screening is behind you.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          “Glad the screening is behind you.” I see what you did there. Very funny.

          • Shibori Girl

            You all crack me up!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              And I saw that one, too. I can really get behind this thread ’cause you guys are so cheeky. (A twofer!)

      • another_laura

        Yes, THAT one. The,prep is so gross. But we must go do it!

      • Peeve

        Weren’t those day-of drugs wonderful? I don’t think I’ve ever felt so good! (Not good enough to go right back for another one, but good!) Part of that was relief it was over, of course. August of next year is my next date with destiny…

        • Shibori Girl

          As the friend who drove the get away car said, ” 8 seconds of bliss before blessed oblivion.” Got home and slept for about 5 hours.

          • Peeve

            I love the phrase “get away car”. That is so the truth!

    • Thomas

      A fashion related bar! Missoni!

    • Snailstsichr

      Whoot! It didn’t kick in that it was really Friday until I saw the snazzy bar in the TLounge. Wonder if they have drinks named after the planets? I don’t care what’s in it, I’ll have a Venus, please.

    • boweryboy

      Happy Friday!

      I am sufficiently toasted as I attended a bitter sweet happy hour gathering on the final day of work for a co-worker who was unceremoniously laid off. Then the partner and I had dinner and drinks at our new favorite Japanese restaurant in our new neighborhood.

      • decormaven

        Sorry for your work pal. Glad people rallied round him/her for a happy hour. Japanese cuisine handy to the neighborhood- jealous!

      • formerlyAnon

        Sometimes, it’s good to be home. (Always, it’s good if home is a place that feels like home.)

    • Sarah

      Evening, folks! Today kicked of TEN DAYS of VACATION. Just a little thesis editing and essay writing before Tuesday, when I officially quit Doing Anything Productive. Even the homework isn’t bad though, because I’m in my home and no customer service is involved. I am also getting my hair fixed tomorrow, after spending the last week with an unfortunate color situation, which will be a relief. My headsuit has been sub-par of late, which rankles. My main concern is whether my new super-cool prescription shades will arrive in the mail before I head to the beach. They might, but it’s a close one. Ooh, the anticipation for amber fade-tint. I’m looking forward to working a feminine Ron Burgundy game.

      • decormaven

        You’re due some recharge time after all your school and work activities. Hope it’s a great 10 days of whatever suits you.

        • Sarah

          Thanks! Suiting me right now is junk food and beer. I texted an old friend yesterday with a joke only he’d know (I think last time we talked was around Xmas) and he is in Hawa’ii, of course. Sent me the most beautiful picture of a rainbow over a volcano from his helicopter ride. Delightful!

      • Qitkat

        You’ve had some challenging times recently. I hope your hair and shades live up to your expectations and especially the beach vacation for fun and R’n’R! You’ll probably be able to bang through the rest of the thesis when you return rejuvenated.

        • Sarah

          I will hope you’re right :)

      • formerlyAnon

        This sounds awesome. SO glad the school stuff is under control, & even if you have to leave without the cool new shades, I’m sure you’ll enjoy the vacation. YOU DESERVE IT.

        • Sarah

          Thanks! I’m in the midst of a day of eating donuts (BAD GIRL) for breakfast and taking a long, leisurely afternoon nap, followed soon by salad bar (better girl) and a movie rental with the much kinder, gentler Mr. Life is pretty good.

      • Peeve

        Hope you have a fabulous vacation! After all the stresses in your life of late, this sounds heaven-sent. Enjoy!

        • Sarah

          Thanks, Peeve! Already enjoying – my hair is looking excellent. SUCH a relief. Coloring got fully out of hand and I had to do a full bleach/dye removal before I could get it back to normal. I went with my own color because I’d like to just leave it alone for a while, so I’m a blonde again, for the first time in a few years. Feels good!

    • demidaemon

      I’m doing packing shopping this weekend, which is a bit bittersweet in it all. But, all in all, it’s been a good week, I think.

      • decormaven

        You’re in downhill push for your next adventure. Tuck in and get ready to roll!

        • demidaemon

          :)

      • formerlyAnon

        Forward motion! It’s a good thing. Hope you’re also enjoying a little bit of “revisiting/doing all my favorites” (whatever they are) before you leave them at least temporarily behind.

        • demidaemon

          I am! Though time is speeding along a little too fast, but it always seems to.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Happy weekend, Kittens!

      Busy week here – I had a couple of blogging events, one of which involved cocktails before noon on a Monday, one of which involved leaving the house at 7am and not getting home until after 10pm, but both great fun. And I got to catch up with a friend on Thursday for an excellent burger and some very good gin (Blackwoods, it’s from Shetland). And the weather is lovely, so it’s been cotton sundresses and no cardigans all week, which is a pleasure in itself. Unfortunately it has been a bit too hot to sleep though, so planning nothing other than lounging around for the weekend.

      • decormaven

        Fun! I love all the blogging activities. Cocktails before noon- yes!

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          They were great – a salted caramel martini and a Rossini, which is like a Bellini but with strawberry.

          • Snailstsichr

            Yum, sounds tasty!

          • decormaven

            I snuck a peek at your blog- what a nice site! Love your descriptives of food and the photos are quite nice. Are they digital camera or smartphone? My skills with smartphone never quite turn out.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Thank you! Mostly digital camera, although I just got a new phone that manages quite well.

      • formerlyAnon

        Sounds like a productive and fun week. (I know SO MANY bloggers, so few of whom have carved out enough of a place to participate in “blogging events.”)

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Really? I thought it was pretty much a numbers game – I’ve been doing it for seven years and have started to get pretty nice invitations and offers. It also helps that I am friends with well-regarded bloggers; I got one of the invitations this week because I’d participated in an online thing, and one from a PR I met at a friend’s book launch.

          • decormaven

            You should be doing well. Your blog is quite nice. I don’t look at food blogs much because the photography often is lacking, but yours is good. Photographing food so it looks appealing is an art.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Thank you! I certainly believe I have learned a lot over the years, and I like that mine has kept a certain authenticity – some food bloggers make dishes just to photograph!

          • alyce1213

            I check in frequently. I love your blog. You really know flavor and the dishes always look beautiful, tempting.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              <3

          • formerlyAnon

            Yeah, but numbers don’t happen if your content isn’t pretty consistently of good quality, and as came up last week, not all bloggers are good at the people skills side of things. Your blog seems to certainly meet the first criterium, and it’s self-evident that you are at least competent at the second. ETA: jeez, that sounds pompous, doesn’t it? Forgive, that’s just how it came out.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Hi Alicia, I just took a peek at your blog and found it quite enjoyable. Liked the story about the bagels, but I’m afraid you lost me at the eel. Is hot salt beef what we call corned beef?

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Haha – the eel has proven much more controversial than I had expected! It really is delicious, a mildly fishy oily fish. Not nearly as fishy as a sardine, or smoked mackerel for example!

          Yes, salt beef is similar to American corned beef (and Australian corned beef) but in the UK corned beef is a canned, shredded product more like a beefy spam.

    • Peeve

      Thanks so much for keeping the PR site and TLounge open while you’re on vacation, gents! Hope your vacay was fabulous! I’ve never been to the Outer Banks, but I’ve heard it’s really beautiful there.

      Had a really wild weekend–went to Kalamzoo, MI with my stepfather and then to Detroit with my stepfather, brother and SIL for a Tigers game. Note to self: never, ever let SF drive on a long-distance trip again! His motor skills are not what they once were, and he likes to ride the white line at the edge of the road. Five hours of anxiety, and he wouldn’t let me drive. Hell to the no! On the way into the stadium, SIL tripped on a curb and dislocated her elbow. She wouldn’t go to the hospital, however, because she wanted the SF to see the game he’d been looking forward to for so long. But it was not the least enjoyable knowing she was sitting there in pain. Then a 2-1/2 hour ride back to Kazoo. Got back at 2 am and then she and my brother went to the ER and didn’t get back until 9:30 am. ER docs reduced the dislocation and found a bone chip in her elbow. She originally dislocated the same elbow 5 years ago, so now they want to re-evaluate it in a few weeks for surgery to help keep it in place. So a bad weekend for me was a terrible weekend for her. Then another anxious 5 hour trip back to Ohio. It was a relief to get back to work!

      • Qitkat

        Did anyone even enjoy the game under those circumstances? Yikes, what an experience! Hope your SIL will be OK. Hopefully this weekend will be restful and uneventful for you.

        • Peeve

          Nope, no one really did. We should have gone right to the ER. So far, this weekend has been much better!

      • decormaven

        Bless! I am a horrid passenger in the car in the best of circumstances. I would have been in the trunk by the time that was over. Work would be a relief after that ordeal. Hope your SIL mends quickly.

        • Peeve

          I’m a bad passenger, too. I’m too used to driving myself to trust others to do it unless they’re good drivers. My stepfather used to be, but age and especially substance abuse problems have eroded his motor skills by a huge amount. I didn’t realize that until this trip. Plus, he fiddles with everything–keys, GPS, his drink, etc. It didn’t help that when he takes a drink of whatever he drifts further off the road. Drives me apeshit. That will be our last trip together unless I drive.

          • Qitkat

            I have extreme difficulty with people who tailgate and wait til the last minute to brake. This week I caught a ride with my DIL’s sister to a nice dinner several of us were attending. My heart was in my throat for 35 miles, she drives like a bat out of hell. Don’t how you stood it for 5 hours. I’ll keep in mind what you said about an elbow dislocation, did not know that was such an emergency. If it had been me, I’d have had no issue going straight to the ER, even in a strange town. I wonder if those of us who get so nervous when anyone else is behind the wheel is because of accidents we have been in. I’ve been in several, some my own fault, thank goodness no one was ever seriously injured, but I swear they have given me a type of PTSD.

            • Peeve

              I’ve been in several accidents as well, and I think you’re right about that. My worst was when I driving home on I-75 and we had to stop quickly because of some idiots ignoring construction signs that their lane was closing until the last second before diving into our lane. A guy behind me was getting his voice mail and didn’t see all of us stop. He hit me going 70 mph and caused a 5-car pileup. I broke my sternum on the seat belt and my car was totaled. A woman 3-4 cars ahead of me had several vertebrae shattered. The guy causing the accident broke his ankle. We were all very lucky. However, 15 years after the fact, I still get white-knuckled when I have to stop on a highway or someone follows too closely. About 5 years ago, I started having panic attacks when driving long distances by highway. I went to a therapist to find out why. I had driven the same highway every day for 8 years after the accident and had no problems or anxiety. The therapist’s theory was that I developed PTSD after I switched to a job where I took only back roads and drove the highway only occasionally. Apparently that accident had really far-reaching effects! I can drive highways long-distance only if I take a Xanax first. (I had last weekend, but my stepfather’s driving took care of any calming effects the Xanax might have given me.)

            • Qitkat

              Sounds like you’re darn lucky. I appreciate learning that PTSD is an actual thing relating to driving accidents. It was only my pet theory, as I never spoke to anyone about it. My family just thinks I am a ‘nervous Nellie’.

            • Peeve

              Nope. It’s a real thing. My stepfather couldn’t understand why I was so anxious while he was driving, either. And this is a man with PTSD from being in Vietnam. Go figure! I’m sure it’s very small potatoes to him, considering what he’s been through. But PTSD can be caused by almost any trauma.

            • decormaven

              It sounds like therapy was helpful for you. That’s good to know.

            • Peeve

              It was, but I should have followed through, and didn’t. During that time, an aunt developed terminal cancer and lived a couple of hours away. I had been trying to visit every other weekend, but hadn’t yet worked through the problem of anxiety on the highway, so I was taking all back roads, which added many additional hours of driving. The only thing I’d ever taken a tranquilizer for was flying (long story). Finally, after getting home at midnight on Sunday after being trapped by an accident and not knowing an alternative route home, I tried taking the Xanax on my next trip. Worked like a charm, and subsequently, my doctor was okay with it (I go through maybe 30 pills a year.) I should have gone back to the therapist to see if non-medicinal methods would work, but I haven’t done it. Laziness trumped hard work. I do need to get my butt back there, though.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              You have just described my new boss. Had to ride with him to a presentation in Santa Monica, 30 miles away, and it was white knuckles all the way. Otherwise, he’s a perfectly wonderful person — so far.

            • Qitkat

              That may be a challenge for you, if there are frequent trips. And it’s so hard to critique other people’s driving, at least for me. I have been known to tell people I wouldn’t ride with them if they didn’t put on their seat belts! Maybe you can figure out a way to be the driver.

            • Peeve

              Uh-oh. Hope you don’t have to ride with him often. Kinda hard to explain why you either want to drive or need to drive yourself.

      • formerlyAnon

        Your SIL is both a saint and an idiot!

        This is, however, the kind of story one only gets out of time with family or friends who might as well be family. I am sure that the re-telling in 10 years will be significantly less traumatic.

        • Peeve

          Right? I kinda yelled at her that she should go to the hospital in Detroit, because there would be no one enjoying the game knowing she was in pain. But she was determined. She dislocated her elbow about 6 pm and didn’t get to the ER until 3 am the next day. Good God! (I did send Shari’s Berries because I’d yelled at her.) My brother is a nurse and was checking her pulse and the warmth of her hand the whole game. To make matters worse, we were sitting at the very top of the stadium–the back row! Up wasn’t so hard for her. Down was another matter.

          I didn’t find out until I spoke to a Physician’s Asst. friend that an elbow dislocation is always an emergency situation, because the blood vessels and nerves going through the elbow can be pinched or trapped. Which is why my brother was checking her hand warmth and pulse. Had I known that, I would have probably picked her up and thrown her in the ambulance! She wouldn’t let the medics touch her.

          And yes, it’s one of those stories that will be much more fun in the retelling–it was at work!

          • decormaven

            Sending you a bottle of virtual vino. This story is one for the ages.

          • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

            I did not want to up vote your original posting for just this reason. Hope everyone is better now though.

            • Peeve

              And here I was, just living for your up vote. Guess you must have been there. I’ll cry myself to sleep…

          • formerlyAnon

            Ohhh, your brother is a nurse. That explains ALL. At least he was monitoring to make sure she didn’t need the ER. Medical folk are either cavalier or overly anxious with their loved ones, in my experience. (My doctor ex- kept saying “I send women who present like you home from the ER all the time, and they don’t have their babies for two days.” We got to the hospital 90 minutes before my son was born. To be fair, most first labors don’t go as fast as mine did.)

      • Sarah

        Sorry about your SIL! I hope she’s better. Glad you’re home safe. My nephew is in school in K’zoo, and my sister lives in Farmington Hills. She’s coming here in a few days – small world!

        • Peeve

          I grew up in Battle Creek, and still have family in the Kalamazoo/BC area. I also lived in Southfield, MI (near Farmington Hills) for about a year. It never fails to amaze me how small the world is! My SIL is feeling better. Fortunately, she’s a teacher, so she doesn’t go back to work until late August.

          • Sarah

            Ha, my sister and her fam lived in Southfield when the kids were small, then bought their house in Farmington Hills. She met her husband when they were at MSU together. I love visiting them there – Michigan is beautiful!

            • Peeve

              Okay, this is now officially weird. I went to MSU as well. I’m apparently stalking your sister. Or she’s stalking me. I live in Ohio now, and the one thing I miss the most are all the lakes. In Michigan, everyone either has a cottage on a lake, or knows someone they can visit with a cottage on a lake. There are very few lakes in Ohio, and I miss all the damn water!

        • Peeve

          Thanks, Sarah, formerlyAnon, decormaven & Qitkat for commiserating with me–that’s why I love this website. The BK’s are the best!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Dislocated elbow!? Holy snakes that sounds painful!

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      Hi Everybody! I’ve finished my first week at my new job and I’m mentally exhausted. I have to keep reminding myself that the weekend is a time for relaxing, not going through job listings. It’s like graduating from school and having the lingering feeling that you should still be doing homework. I’m still getting calls for interviews from resume submissions a month ago. So glad I can say that I’m taken.

      My new boss is an attorney who specializes in wills and trusts with an emphasis on protecting children. It had never occurred to me that kids should have advance medical directives and named secondary guardians to take care of them if something happens to the parents and the named guardians are not immediately available. He’s a great guy who totally gets me and we are on the same page as to how to market him and the program. What a pleasure. But there’s been a lot to learn as to systems and procedures. You can teach an old dog new tricks, but it makes the brain tired.

      • Qitkat

        Good to hear from you, GC. You’ve got the first week under your belt, so hopefully going forward your new tricks will become SOP soon. Enjoy your weekend, you’ve earned yourself some relaxing activities!

      • decormaven

        Sounds like a good fit on the job – so glad! Yes, it is hard to change gears when you’ve been in high rev searching for work. Hope you have some time for reflection; give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back for making it through.

      • formerlyAnon

        That’s a great report for the first week! SO happy you now can have free time to be . . . free.

      • Sarah

        So glad to hear you’re happy in the new job, GC. Have a good time relaxing!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Sounds promising so far!

    • Janet B

      I can’t seem to write a coherent sentence on my smart phone.

      I’m driving my oldest to band practice this morning, where he teaches, an hour away. His car needs new tires (appointment tomorrow), 2/3 of our cars have manual transmissions, he can’t/won’t drive a manual. Ugh.
      I have taught both kids to drive a manual, but neither is competent (by choice I’m sure).

      • Peeve

        I loved driving a manual back in the day. It made me unique, and so few of my friends/family could borrow my car! But for kids today, it would interfere with talking or texting on the mobile phones.

        • Janet B

          Most of my friends drove a stick when I was in high school. I always thought it was cool. My kids just don’t understand the fun of it.
          Regarding texting, both my kids are serious about leaving their phones off in the car. I am adamant about it and I’m known to check phone records. lol

          I typed this on my phone….I hope I found all of the typos.

          • Qitkat

            I learned to drive on a stick, from my dad, and my first car had a stick, a used MGB ragtop. Loved driving that little car. But once I moved to automatic in all the years since, I’m a bit spoiled by it. But I’ll bet in a pinch I could still drive manual. One of my sons, and a DIL (not his wife) prefer manual, and that’s what they own.

          • Peeve

            Checking phone records is smart. I’m a big proponent of staying completely off the phone while driving. My worst car accident ever was caused by a guy on a cell phone. I used to drive on the highway every day to work, and one of my pastimes was counting all the crazy things people did behind the wheel. Usually, they were on the phone and not paying attention.

            I would love to still be driving a manual, but both finding a stick-shift version of the car I want when I buy and reselling that same car are more difficult these days with so few knowing how to drive them. My compromise is a Mazda that comes with a standard option I can use in the winter when I want to start in 2nd gear.

        • formerlyAnon

          I didn’t learn to drive a manual till I was 23, due to lack of opportunity, but I felt a lot more badass after I did. And it’s come in handy. Can’t see why someone wouldn’t want to drive a stick. But it’s been over 15 years since I’ve driven one, I am sure I’d ruin any transmission I touched.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      Just sharing something small but good for today: I had stopped by the local farmer’s market on the way home from church, bought a quart of whitle raspberry chocolate ice cream from the gourmet ice cream guy,and then proceeded to leave the ice cream at another vendor’s table, which I didn’t discover til I got home. Back in the car to the market, I couldn’t find the vendor or bag, but when I stopped by the ice cream guy and told him of my stupidity, he asked me what I’d bought, filled another container with the ice cream and refused to accept payment. Just told me to drive straight home and put it in the freezer. Is that guy a prince, or what?
      I know this is a tiny, tiny thing, but it made my day.

      • Qitkat

        How lovely. Sometimes it’s the tiny things that really show character, and that, also can really make one’s day.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I’ve decided that I’m going to do some baking later this week and take something homemade as a thank you next Sunday.

      • Sarah

        Not a tiny thing. A lovely thing! So glad you had an inspiring day :)

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Thanks! It turned me from uberbitchybitchybitchy to happyhappyhappy

    • Kitten Mittons

      Always late to the party, but it was a good week, topped off with a nice weekend. The job search continues slowly, but it’s been promising. I’ve got a recruiter helping me, which is HUGE. She’s found an opportunity for me, but interviews won’t start for a couple more weeks, so I’m trying to find ways to prepare myself in the meantime. She took time to call me and say they were very interested in my resume, so I’ll take that as a good sign, cautiously. I also gave my boss the head’s up that I’m looking, which went about as well as you can hope for. I really didn’t want to do it, but it’s too small a company, and I’m the only person in my department currently, so my leaving will put them in a tough spot. At least it’s done, so I can breathe a little easier.

      We had my son’s little “girlfriend” from daycare over for his very first play date this weekend, and it was pretty much a blast. I’m so excited to be getting to this age. Not only was it so much fun to watch them together, he was totally entertained the entire time she was there. He only came running to find me when he was tattling, or when he wanted food. WHUT. That experience made me want to provide him with some siblings, post-haste, but I’m trying to fight off my procreative urges for at least a while, what with the job search and all.

      Husband and I played video games all night Saturday, which brought back lots of memories of our dating days, when we were too broke to do anything but rent a game and play all weekend long in his crappy apartment. It was a nice time all around, and many things to be thankful for overall.

      • Anna

        Good to hear about the money being returned to you, I’ve had my debit card compromised a couple of times and it’s so stressful.

        I’m glad the job search is promising, working with a recruiter definitely helps. When I was unemployed last year, I found working with a few different ones to be so much more productive than just sending out applications into the resume black hole. I need to start looking again as well, I just have zero motivation at the moment and I’m using all the usual bullshit excuses: I don’t have time to look/I’m too tired/It’s not THAT bad/I’m lucky to even have a job.

        Your son and his play date sound too-freaking-adorable, and video games night sounds fun!

        • Kitten Mittons

          Yes, they took almost $1600!! At least it came at a time when we had the extra to spare (which doesn’t happen often), or it would have been a lot more stressful.

          I used all those excuses and more! But now that I’m actually making some progress, I’m very excited to make a change. So you used more than one recruiter? Did that make them mad? I was tempted to contact another one, but didn’t know if that was acceptable. Hope your job situation improves, or that you can find the motivation to start looking. I understand the malaise, though, I truly do.

          I wish I could post videos or pictures on here, because I have a video of the two 2-years in the car, poking at each other, and then tattling to me as they continue to poke each other. If I could have stopped laughing, I would have used the old, “Keep yer hands to yerself!! If I have to pull this car over….” And this was within 5 minutes of picking her up that morning. Exhausting, but so very worth it.

          • Anna

            Available to spare or not, SO glad it was returned to you. I was freaking out over $200, nevermind $1600.

            Yes, once you get the momentum going and you’re starting to generate interest, it is definitely very motivating. But as with anything, it’s getting off your lazy (in this case MY lazy) ass and getting started. I’m currently working on a contract that will likely keep getting extended indefinitely (so they won’t have to pay me benefits, etc) and while I actually do like where I work, I know there’s no future in it but I’ve gotten comfortable. And because I was unemployed for 6 months and was just happy to get this job, I don’t want to go back and start looking again, but I know that I need to quit with the excuses, make the time to look and find something permanent.

            *But I’m so tired when I get home from work/thegym and still have to cook dinner at 8PM and sitting at the computer, updating my LinkedIn profile and sending out resumes is the last thing I wanna do* (And I don’t even have a husband/kids, egads)

            Anyway, regarding the recruiters, I guess I didn’t really disclose upfront (unless asked directly) if I was working with any others. I figured they have so many candidates they work with, why should I just stick to one recruiter. I’m not sure if works differently in the States, but here they seemed to understand that job-seekers worked with more than one agency. And it did work for me. Since I was unemployed I was open to temp work just to keep myself busy and was able to book placements while I was still looking until I ended up with the contract I’m currently on.

            Kiddies sound too cute, I have friends with kids that age and agree that it’s fun to watch them start interacting with other kids.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Good plan. I guess she never did ask me if I was working with any other recruiters, so there’s that. Maybe it’s just assumed. I’ll have to do some more looking, then, and see if I can find some others that might be able to help me.

              That’s just it, finding the time to do any of that stuff is just impossible. Or it feels impossible. It’s like going to school while working full time, pretty much, because you have all this homework-type stuff to be done, BUT there’s no teacher to fail you if you don’t do it. It took a long time to quit making excuses and find my inner motivation, so I’m trying to keep the ball rolling. You’ll find yours, too, soon enough. Because we deserve better, of course.

            • Anna

              SO true about it being like homework. And when the only person you’re answering to is the one making all the excuses, it’s not a good combo.

              And yeah, as much as I hate networking, it definitely does pay off to cast a wider net and all that. Different recruiters work with different companies and clients so it just means that much more possible opportunities.