T LOunge

Posted on July 18, 2014

Darlings, let’s all meet up somewhere comfy, well lit, and fabulous, yes?

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TLounge-7-18-2014-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO+2Le Bar du Bristol, Paris

 

We are GIDDY with delight because we’re packing our bags and leaving town for seven glorious days as we take our first real vacation in years. Of course, when we say “vacation,” we mean that we’ll still be posting every day next week (including the recap for the season premiere of Project Runway), so don’t you worry about that. But we’ll be doing it much closer to a beach than we normally do! Exciting! We may even go outside and get sun on our faces.

In the mean time, all y’all behave yourselves, now. And by that we mean “don’t behave yourselves.”

Ciao, darlings!

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: lebristolparis.com]

    • @Biting Panda

      Cheers to beach time. It restores the soul!!

      • Qitkat

        Yes indeed it does :))

    • Denise Alden

      Sunblock and gin: that’s all you’ll need! Enjoy!

      • PastryGoddess

        I like you. Can we be friends?

        • Denise Alden

          Aww . . . I’m flattered! Of course we can!

    • Aidan B

      Happy Friday, all! I’m feeling a lot more cheerful this lounge; We got word yesterday that the first of our engagement pictures are ready and they are PERFECT, I can’t stop looking at them! And I bought my wedding dress on Sunday, for way below budget! I’ll drink that that, thanks. Enjoy your vacation, uncles!!

      • Jennifer Bober

        Congratulations!!!!

        • Aidan B

          Thank you!!

      • kimmeister

        Straps – with or without???

        • Aidan B

          Strapless, sweetheart neckline :)

          • kimmeister

            Congrats on the bargain! (I got mine for $99 so I hear ya!)

            • Aidan B

              Wow, that’s great! Mine was sadly not $99, but it was a floor sample so it was half price and I got to take it home! So, I got the dress, veil, belt, and clearance dress for my flower girl for less than my original budget just for the dress. Can I get an amen??

            • kimmeister

              AMEN! I’m intrigued that yours has a belt. (I did have to spend $200 on alterations because I’m not 6′ tall with DD boobs, but hey, I was still within budget).

            • Aidan B

              I knew I wanted a belt around my waist and that was the only thing the dress didn’t have; it also adds some sparkle since the dress is just lace. And I’ll need alterations even though the dress technically fits, because I’m only 5’3″ and it’s suuuper long. They quoted me at about $250 for the alternations so I’ll just scrape in at my “just dress” budget.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Amen to that !

            • formerlyAnon

              AMEN!

            • BLauDGaspode

              Amen!!!

      • mlurve

        Congrats!! On Monday it’ll be a month since my SO and I got engaged, I guess we should start wedding planning at some point soon…

        • Aidan B

          Congrats to you! A month isn’t so bad. We got engaged just before Thanksgiving and didn’t really start planning until after the New Year. It just depends on how long of an engagement you want; we realized we needed to get started soon if we didn’t want to wait much more than a year. Good luck!

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh, wonderful! (And “way below budget” is like gilding all the other good news.)

        • Aidan B

          Heck yes!

      • Call me Bee

        Big congrats to you and your betrothed! And yay on the bargains!

        • Aidan B

          Thanks so much! Gosh you BKs are all so sweet! <3

      • Sarah

        Lucky girl! I’m so happy for you. I know what dress I want, but I’m about 20 lbs and $250 bucks shy of getting it. We have until next May, but still.

        • formerlyAnon

          You’ll get there. Remember: NO TUITION BILL THIS FALL!!!!!!! Yay.

        • Aidan B

          Thank you! I am sure you will find a way to get your dream dress, too. Have you tried on the one you have your eye on? Because I have to say, I hated everything I thought I would like and left with something very unexpected.

          • Sarah

            I have tried on its facsimile. The actual dress is going to be custom-made. I deliberately chose a style I would never/have never worn, because I find it very pretty, although I’ve never had one like it. I think style-wise, I’m pretty good, it’ll be the getting to the right size that will be a challenge. Fifteen down, twenty to go….

    • Frank_821

      Have a fabulously relaxing time. Don’t say which beach since you know your fans will stalk you…lol

      I am just biding time at work. Going to a fundraiser for our local gay film festival. Want to make sure some of the films selected get promoted right

    • AlexisPayne

      Oooh, drink lots of somethings deliciously tropical and mostly alcohol!!!
      Don’t forget to reapply your sunscreen, ciao darlings!

      • Rhonda Shore

        With little umbrellas in them.

    • Thomas

      Hi fellow BK’s! I’ve never posted on the T Lounge before, but I’m considering buying new glasses and I was wondering if anybody has ever used Warby Parker before? I kind of want Clark Kent style glasses, but I’m not sure how they’ll go with my face shape (or what face shape I even have. I think it’s oval or round) and I’m not sure what colors to consider since I have red hair and super pale skin. I tend to think black frames look awful on me, but I think that’s because my skin is so pale. If any of you have used Warby Parker or have any suggestions, I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks and everyone enjoy your weekend!

      • another_laura

        I have no thoughts on your glasses, but welcome, Thomas!

        • Thomas

          Thanks!

          • another_laura

            I’m going to partially take back my earlier comment about no thoughts on glasses. I think with your coloring black will for sure be too harsh. How do you feel about a somewhat lighter looking frame and blue (nice contrast with the hair and probably nice with your skin)? I can’t help but comment, given my daily T Lo addiction…

            • Kitten Mittons

              Or a tortoise shell color? Brown would probably look nice with your red hair.

            • Thomas

              I think tortoise shell would go well with my coloring. Thank you!

            • another_laura

              I agree, as a fair-skinned auburn-ish gal, that tortoise shell is flattering.

            • Thomas

              I’ve never considered blue before, but I think I should try a pair on now! Thanks!

            • MilaXX

              I have my eye on a navy pair now. I think you still get that superman nerd look but it’s not as harsh. Kinda like how a navy suit is more everyday friendly than a black suit. FYI model # 7320 on zenni if you want to take a looksee

            • Thomas

              Thanks! I’ll check them out later. I’m getting ready to go out and celebrate a friend’s birthday. He’s putting on a drag show for his birthday! haha

            • MilaXX

              Have fun!

      • Cele Deemer

        I haven’t used them, but a friend swears by Warby Parker… not much help, I’m afraid. But welcome!

        • Thomas

          Thank you!

      • Fanny_Trollope

        I hear good things about Warby Parker as a company. As far as the type of glasses to get, I suggest going to an optician’s shop with a friend whose taste you trust and trying on different styles. Have him/her take phone photos of you in styles you like. It’s the only way to really see how they look on you. Plus if you’re like me, you can’t see yourself in a mirror without prescription lenses. Also, pay attention to sizing. The little numbers inside the sidepieces are important. Don’t buy glasses that are too wide or too narrow for your face. And consider color carefully, said the woman with the purple frames she absolutely loves. Once you have a style, color, and size, get WP to send you some similar samples to try.

        There. My work here is done. Have a good weekend and happy vacations, all!

        • Thomas

          Thank you! Do things really look different in pictures than in the mirror? I’m nearsighted, so I don’t think looking in a mirror would be a problem for me. The friend suggestion is a good one though!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            It really does make a difference – there was one optometrist I used to go to where they had a camera and screen set up, so you could compare pictures of 4 different styles directly. It was brilliant!

      • Jackie4g

        Ask the sales person for guidance. I’ve been doing that forever, because they will have an objective view of your face. They’ll give you several choices, and if none is exactly right, use their examples as a guide for shapes and colors. Tortoise shell looking, or bronze-y or coppery might be nice for you, and less harsh than black. Try on everything you can, it’s the same principle as stuff that looks bad on a hanger, but good on a body.

        • Thomas

          Thank you! Those colors sound like good options!

          • Aidan B

            I second the tortoiseshell! My fiance just switched from Clark Kent-ish glasses to rounder, tortoiseshell frames and they are a lot more flattering on him than him. When he put the old ones back on, it was jarring.

      • sienna elm

        Hi Thomas, I don’t know Warby Parker but I have shopped online with both Clearly Contacts & Zenni Optical. The nice thing about both of those sites (besides the price) is that you can upload a picture of yourself and see yourself with the glasses on. The colour isn’t always right but it gives you a really good idea of how they’ll look. I think Clearly Contacts has a new ‘try before you buy’ policy similar to WP now too. Even if you don’t buy from Zenni or CC you could upload a picture and decide on the style of frame to buy before buying through WP. Thank goodness for online sites!! My glasses used to cost me around $400 and now I can get them for less than $100. :D

        • KayEmWhy

          For those in the US Costal is the same company as Clearly Contacts and the first pair is free.

        • Thomas

          Thanks! Uploading a picture first sounds like a good idea!

          • MilaXX

            You do need a prescription do start with for any online site. In addition to zenni & WB there’s also coastal contacts

            • Thomas

              Thanks! Just got a prescription last week from my doctor!

      • sienna elm

        Oh – and if you’re looking for glasses that don’t draw too much attention then I would go for tortoiseshell or brown with your colouring. If you want something that makes more of a statement then I’d go blue or green. (or there was a neat one on WB that is tortoiseshell with blue!)

        • Thomas

          Ooh That’s sounds cool! I’ll have to check that one out! Thanks!

      • mlurve

        I’ve used Warby Parker for both my regular glasses and my sunglasses. They will ship you up to five sets of frames to try on (for free!) so you can really get a feel for what you like. When I got the glasses I have now, I went through two rounds of trying on the free five frames before I found the ones I like. I have vision insurance but buying straight from the online shop was cheaper than buying at my optometrist, even with their discounts.

        • Thomas

          Oh good! I don’t have vision insurance anymore, so I’m glad to hear that they’re actually cheaper! Thanks!

      • formerlyAnon

        Warby Parker has been well enough recommended that my next glasses will come from there. No help on the choices, though.

      • MilaXX

        I know they are really popular but I’m a zennioptical gal . I think all Warby Parker glasses look the same.

        • formerlyAnon

          So, casting uncertainty on me just when I thought I’d decided on Warby Parker, are you woman?! But I know from your analysis of things on this site that you are pretty stylish and understand putting together a head (you know what I mean) better than I do. So now I must seriously consider zennioptical as well!

          • MilaXX

            There are loads of online glasses places. I’ve shopped at probably all of them except WB. Just look around.

        • sienna elm

          I found that too – there’s very little difference in the WP glasses. I like Zenni too.

      • Janet B

        Think color.
        Welcome to the lounge!

      • BobStPaul

        You might consider rectangular glasses but I would echo the suggestions of others that you take a friend with you to try out different shapes – although sometimes you can get excellent assistance from staff. I like the idea of blue or tortoise shell for colors. I would definitely avoid black.

      • Julie Parr

        Yes, I’ve used WP. The great thing, of course, is that you can have 5 pairs sent to your house for free to try on. It works. You just need to send them back in a timely manner. Their frames are definitely stylish. They’re not *quite* as awesome as a pair of $600 frames, but with the price differential, they are definitely worthwhile.

      • Judih1

        I love Warby Parker. Both me and my ex have ordered from them. Love their concept to let you try five frames so you can decide what works best. We always pick 2 that we think we like, 2 that are old standards and 1 wild card – and we often end up liking the unexpected choice. Good luck

      • Call me Bee

        Welcome! I have not tried WP, but I have friends that love their glasses from them. Also–I am pale skinned and have blonde hair (really–it’s white/grey) and I have glasses with black frames right now. I like them–makes this ol’ granny feel almost hipster.

      • Qitkat

        Welcome Thomas! I have no opinion on the glasses except go with what you love, it’s your face! Much good advice here and I’m making note as I need new ones myself, fascinating to learn there is so much choice and savings to be had online.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        No idea about Warby Parker, but don’t totally dismiss the black frames!

      • decormaven

        Welcome, Thomas! I’ve been eyeing WP frames. Thanks for bringing this up; such good options from the BKs!

      • Sarah

        Hi Thomas! I have ordered glasses from Coastal and Zenni too. I have black frames, and I’m fairly pale, and I like them a lot. (I do wear black quite a bit, and they are green on the back.) If you google “best glasses for blue eyes” there’s an article from a place called “All About Vision” that will give you really great advice on choices for color/shape/style for your coloring and face shape.

    • another_laura

      Enjoy the vacation guys (but don’t forget to wear your sunscreen, yes I’m a nag what about it??)!

      I’ve had a pretty good week, am getting a haircut tomorrow with a new stylist (gulp!) and that’s about it. Have a family obligation thing happening Saturday but otherwise, it’s free time for moi. Can somebody get me a French 75, please?

      • formerlyAnon

        Okay, update requested on the new stylist! I know it’s hard to judge on the first day of a new cut, but what do you think?

        • another_laura

          I liked her! I needed a good cut and I’m working through some color issues. She put on a semi-permanent color to smooth out some bands of different highlight color. Is this making sense? It’s a little dark but I got a compliment on the way home by a neighbor so I guess it’s good! (Whew, right?)

          • formerlyAnon

            Oh that’s great! Nothing can make or break a day (or a month!) like the latest visit to the hairdresser.

            • another_laura

              So very true. Although I have to be perfectly frank about it – this color is just too dark. Maybe I’m too sensitive, but I think my wrinkles are showing up more. But hey, it’s my hair, darn it!

            • formerlyAnon

              When it comes to Our Hair, objective reality comes second to how fabulous or dispirited it makes us feel.

    • Jennifer Bober

      The fish-belly white girl seconds the sun block vote. Enjoy your time away. You guys deserve it and thank you for continuing to post. Kittens in withdrawal isn’t pretty (and we’re all about the pretty).

      I’ll be finishing taking in one of my 16th century gowns tonight so I can wear it tomorrow. Thank you to all of the kittens for your support last week while I was dealing with plumbing issues. It shockingly, cost LESS to fix than they said and while there is still a big hole in my dining room ceiling, I again have a working shower. My insurance company has already given me a check, which was another shock. All in all, it was a much happier ending than I had anticipated. The kitty has even recovered, though he was really confused by my celebratory bubble bath. He kept looking at the water, then looking at me and meowing his shock. “It’s WATER!! Why would you sit in WATER?!?” It was pretty funny.

      So, tomorrow I will watch young men don armor and battle for honor and prizes, including a heraldic tabard that I made (Yes, I’m serious. My hobby is living history). I’ll be playing fanfares and providing pomp for the proceedings. Sunday is more sewing, now that I have, mostly, reclaimed my dining room.

      Hope the rest of the kittens will be enjoying the weekend as much as I will. Ciao bellas!!

      • another_laura

        It’s so nice when you can be shocked by good things…. Have tons of fun tomorrow!

        • Jennifer Bober

          Thanks. Yes, yes it is!

      • kimmeister

        Is it a Ren Faire? A Medieval reenactment of some other kind?

        • Jennifer Bober

          It’s a world-wide medieval and renaissance living history organization called the Society for Creative Anachronism. You can look it up online.

          • sienna elm

            I had a few friends involved with SCA when I was at university. Have fun!

      • marlie

        That’s fantastic that most of the work is done! And I’m so interested in your hobby… I think it sounds like so much fun!

        • Jennifer Bober

          Well, we are worldwide, so check it out. There’s probably a group near you.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Glad that you got some good news on the plumbing issues, plus the check from the insurance.Your description of your kitty’s reaction to your bubble batch is hysterical,and very true for a cat!

        • Call me Bee

          It reminds me of a bit that Paula Poundstone used to do. She said that whenever she took a shower, her three cats would watch from the other side of the shower door, just horrified. When she stepped out, they said, “Oh my gosh it was all over you, man!”

          • Jennifer Bober

            Have you seen the picture of the soaking wet, long-haired cat trapped in the shower, with his front paws on the glass? The caption says, “The face of utter betrayal” and that’s really what it looks like.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            that’s a great bit!

      • Sarah

        Great news, Jennifer! Glad to hear it.

    • kimmeister

      Thanks for the reminder that PR is going to start, I will have to set my DVR!

      I, too, will be on vacation from Tues-Mon, so I will be scarce ’round these parts. I will be sweating my butt off and trying to look human while having to pose in a zillion photos. I will also be dealing with my husband trying to imitate a Texan accent and wanting to buy large belt buckles and such.

      • Jackie4g

        Have a great vacay!

    • Jackie4g

      Have a grand old time, Uncles!

    • Judy_J

      By happy coincidence, I’m going on vacation next week, too! And a beach is going to be very nearby! I’m meeting up with college friends. Our group has been getting together every summer since 1982…no husbands, no kids allowed. It is heaven. I have perfect attendance.

      • decormaven

        You should get a little pin for that. :-)

        • Judy_J

          I have a t-shirt.

      • Qitkat

        That’s an amazing string of keeping dates. What a fortunate, great group of friends to be part of.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        That’s a great idea! A group of my school friends has just started doing something similar, and one who I’ve talked to says it is so much nicer than the semi-regular dinners they’ve been having for years, because a) they all get to sleep in so are better rested than most of them have been in 5+ years, and b) you get enough time together to cut through polite (or dull) nothings and get to have some real fun.

    • m3grrl

      Like Thomas, I too have never posted on T LOunge, but I simply must share that after 8.5 years of suburban hell, today I moved back to Minneapolis proper. I’m beat but happy and definitely grabbing a cocktail tonight.

      • sienna elm

        Yay!! Sounds like you have reason to celebrate!

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Congratulations! Welcome back! I live in St Paul, but it all counts. :-)

        • formerlyAnon

          Hey you! Thank-you for prompting all my exercise pep talk last Friday. I remembered that tonight and it got me out for a walk after I’d decided Thai green curry was way more important than the gym. Honest to god, I feel like I have a small junior-grade halo and you deserve half the credit.

          Hope your week has been better. Or at least not worse.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Awww…thanks! I, on the other hand, have decided to let myself off the hook for the rest of July – if I gets to it, I gets to it, and if I don’t, I am not going to beat myself up about it – which has lightened my load. (I am the queen of guilt about stupid things – if I cut you off in traffic accidentally or say something weird to you, I will still be obsessing two weeks later. It’s fun.)

            I need to make it through the trip to Seattle next week. While I am looking forward to it, I am also dreading it more than a little. The whole family. And me. The only one over the age of 15 (we jump from 15 to 23) without a date, let alone a partner. Most of my nieces and nephews (11 of them – ages 23 to 43; there are also 10 greats, aged 16 mos to 15), have actual careers vs a job and several/most of those make far more $ than I do. There’s not much actual interest from anyone other than the little-littles and my brother in me, really. I don’t live in Panama, I don’t travel around the US or regularly to Europe and Asia for work or pleasure (unless we count a trip to St. Cloud for a funeral), I don’t live in NY or Boston, I don’t have children or grandchildren to discuss, I have no personal life – my last outing was in May for a birthday dinner, I spend most of my time at a job I don’t especially like or is especially interesting (see: genetic counselor, development manager for a biotech firm, software engineer, builder of wind turbines, speech therapist, something at the United Nations) or alone reading books most others don’t and watching random movies on Netflix. It is rather a pathetic life, which I am somewhat anxious for to be over.

            That said, I am better than last week. :-) Mainly thanks to all of you. :-)

            • decormaven

              Oh, honey. You are fabulous. You love fashion, you’re an avid reader, you enjoy film, and you’re conversant on several subjects. And you have friends all around the globe, including me in ATL (well, the outer, outer reaches). What’s important is that you recognize that you are fabulous. And if any of your family members recognize it, great, and if they don’t, well, that is their loss. Affirm that fabulous feeling every single day. I know it, and I see it in you. Others here will say the same.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Thanks. I’ve said it before: Bitter Kittens are the best kittens.

            • Shibori Girl

              Don’t know how I missed this part of the thread, but if it helps, one of my best mentors says, ” what other people think of me is none of my business!” This attitude gets me through a lot of potentially uncomfortable social interactions.

              Just another version of not giving a shit. We love you and find you funny and smart, and as you know, the opinions of Bitter Kittens carry more weight than those of anyone else.

            • Sarah

              I will. Plus, this crap about being “interesting” is only something that applies to what OTHER people think of you, and the best advice I have ever gotten or given is that you should not. give. a. SHIT.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I really need to work on expanding my not giving a shit. I do it so well with some things. But the social awkwardness/anxiety level remains at paralyzing levels.

              Maybe I’ll start by working on looking amused and interested. Wait. That could backfire, and then I’ll be trapped and may have to fake a seizure to escape which will likely result in awkward explanations when the emt’s arrive and their possible disbelief resulting in being strapped to a gurney against my will…..

              I’m doomed.

            • Sarah

              Heee. I was victim to CRIPPLING social anxiety when I was a kid. Like, vomiting was involved. I worked really hard on Not Giving a Shit and I find that when you master it, people think you are fascinating. They wish they didn’t either.

            • formerlyAnon

              Well, you are downright hilarious about it here. I laughed.

              I have never visited any group of family or friends without some anxiety about it. For me, it’s always much better once I get there, which I have learned, which is why I [98% of the time] don’t cancel. So I would say completely reassuring things except it is FAMILY and with family, for some people it’s not better. As some comic or other says, these are not just the people who push our buttons – these are the people who INSTALLED our buttons.

              And i would totally say, it’s not a competition and people really are usually content to take us at face value – that is, if we seem to be placidly ok with our lives, they figure our lives are ok. And mostly they are happy just to have someone to talk at. And WEIRDLY some of them go away and instead of shredding our lack of success behind our backs, talk about how they envy our ability to chart our own path and admire our inner resources. (That last bit is a true story from my own life which I still find deeply weird. Inner resources! HA.)

              But of course, as above, it’s FAMILY and sometimes with family (more often than friends) people really are over-invested in commenting on our lives. But you know the saying that we compare our own insides to other people’s outsides. True. People’s jobs don’t make them interesting or happy.

              So, too long as always, but: I do bet if you look amused and interested you WILL leave everyone thinking you & your life are just fine. Practice some answers to questions about your life that deflect the conversation without putting yourself down: “Oh, I still am at the same job. It suits me.” “I do enjoy my reading. I follow whatever catches my fancy. Do you know, when you/XX was in [insert name of city] did you/she/he get to the [insert name of, for example, museum], I was reading about the fabulous exhibit they had of the work of [insert name of designer whose exhibit we read about here on TLo - or whose exhibit came up when you googled the cities your loved ones have been to]? No? Oh, that’s a shame. What did you/he/she get to do when there?” It doesn’t have to be fashion. Just anything you are interested enough in to have a few paragraphs of conversation about. Your interests are just as good as theirs.

              Then you can look interested while they go on and on about their activities. Or if all they did was work, you can say “oh, that’s a shame. Maybe next time.”

              And, yeah. If you’re too good a listener they will all love you and we’re back in fake seizure territory!

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I love you.

            • formerlyAnon

              You’re sweet.

            • decormaven

              Aww, just keep asking questions about them. People love so much to talk about themselves, most of the time they’ll keep running with the ball. I can keep that rolling forever: “How’s your job?” “What book did you read last?” Just keep the focus on them. I guarantee 90% of them will never get around to asking about you. It’s just human nature, I’m afraid. Remember: they can’t eat you.

            • Qitkat

              You’ve got a great sense of humor, pretend you’re in a room full of bitter kittens, all of whom think you’re cool. Be slightly mysterious and exotic. Do the opposite of what your first instinct is, like George in Seinfeld, who had an amazing day when he became the anti-George, like playing a character. Don’t know if any of this would work, but I’ve given thought to trying something like this myself. Don’t care too much, be interested in them. And if all else fails, prepare a witty remark to say when they are strapping you onto that gurney! Seriously, best of luck, lots of us understand this kind of anxiety.

            • formerlyAnon

              What decormaven said. If you hadn’t been honest about your depression & anxiety, I’d have a picture of you as a perfectly self-assured, intelligent, interesting and well-read woman who I’d be nervous about meeting for lunch for the first time. As it is, I know you’re all of those things except perfectly self-assured, which would knock my nervousness down a few points!

            • formerlyAnon

              Glad you’re better than last week. And making the executive decision to let yourself off the hook is absolutely the right decision if your load feels lightened! I had a friend when we were all much younger and dumber whose therapist pointed out that she could eat off paper plates, use plastic cutlery and throw everything away every day. Voila! No dirty dishes, no kitchen cleaning guilt. (She had already mastered the microwave and the art of buying, combining and heating rather than cooking.) Honest to god, having permission to do that helped her more than anything else that doctor did for her over the course of two years.

              Family is tough, sometimes, but most people really are going to take you at face value, and if you can put out there that your life suits you, full stop, they often will just accept that. It’s just another fake it till you make it things, maybe? Better to sincerely not give a shit what anyone else thinks – this is your life and your interests – but if you aren’t there, faking not giving a shit is next best thing. Most people will believe you. And will be drawn to you because of it. We are all drawn to people who *seem to be* content with themselves.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              The dread is understandable – even though I am child-free by choice and utterly satisfied by our decision, I still get the screaming heebies of having to justify the choice to others. I saw Grosse Pointe Blank not long before my 10-year school reunion and realised I couldn’t go because I wasn’t an assassin and therefore had nothing to offer.

              HOWEVER – you are funny, and cool and have great taste in books. I bet, particularly among the great nieces and nephews, there are going to be kids who are so excited that you like the stuff they do, and know about all the good stuff.

            • formerlyAnon

              School reunions would be singularly poorly attended if one had to be an assassin to be worthy. I hope, anyway.

              That one is going to make me smile every time I think about it!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              A zillion years ago, I was pretty shy and insecure and didn’t have much small talk. Then I read a book by Barbara Walters that actually changed my life. It was called “How to Talk to Practically Anyone About Practically Anything.” It is the secret to her success and can get you through that family reunion. What it all boils down to is that people love to talk about themselves. Ask the right questions and they’re off and running. When the conversation is over, they think you are the best conversationalist in the room.

            • formerlyAnon

              Truth. Oh, so much truth.

      • MilaXX

        Yay! City mouse FTW!

      • another_laura

        Good for you!

      • Call me Bee

        Congrats! I have relatives up dere by da Twin Cities, aw jeez. I’m in Beertown, a mere 300 miles SE of you! And welcome to the Lounge–let me buy you a drink. Moving sucks, even if you’re moving to a really cool place.

      • m3grrl

        Thanks BKs for all your kind words!

      • decormaven

        Welcome! Hope you enjoy your new metro location.

    • mommyca

      Enjoy the vacation! Well deserved rest for you two! Have fun!!!

    • frannyprof

      Have fun!!! Wear lots of sunscreen! Tip: Slather it on before you leave the hotel/house. That way, you can drink with impunity and won’t get sunburned.

      • @Biting Panda

        My kids are so tolerant, bless em. I slather it before we leave the house, I slather again when we’re poolside. I make them swim in OP swimwear with UPF 50. Halfway through the day, I’ll harass them into maybe wearing a hat for a little while. Oh, and every hour, on the hour, I make them dry off, re-slather, and eat a little something while they suffer the drying time.

        • formerlyAnon

          Good mom! My daughter (20) is now the sunscreen nag among her friends, despite every eye roll I got. (To be fair, she’s the Responsible Nagging Friend on *most* topics.)

          • marlie

            Everyone has to have that friend. If they don’t appreciate her now, eventually they will.

            • formerlyAnon

              I don’t mind her high control needs at all. She likes people who like to party (and is not averse to it herself). During her teen roller coaster years, it was her Responsible High Control Needs side that saved my sanity, though she did need to learn some things the hard way. Now, I think she does a lot of the Dumb Things One Does in Youth, but in a fairly responsible way.

        • BLauDGaspode

          Slathering Moms unite! Hmm… that didn’t come out right…

        • frannyprof

          You are amazing. I hatehatehate the sunscreen ritual. I make my daughter do it but I watch to make sure she doesn’t miss anything. I try to remember to re-apply, especially at the beach, but I gotta tell ya, it’s a struggle. Of course, I grew up in the days when less sunscreen was more, and a sunburn was good, because it turned into a tan!

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            And then the sunburn turns into cancer. I’ve had two major sunburns, one at 17 (on my back) and one at 42 (on the front of my legs), and both produced malignancies about 20 years after the burn.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              That’s a really, really bad conversion rate!

              I’m paranoid, being a fair-skinned Australian with a lot of moles, but so far *touch wood* I haven’t had any problems. I assume that within the next 5-10 years I will have BCCs removed, like everyone else in my family though.

            • frannyprof

              No, I know! I hope your malignancies are a thing of the past. I get every suspicious mole checked out these days. Although, I often hear that it’s the innocuous ones that end up being cancerous.

        • Sarah

          You sound like my mom. She was a ginger, so I just accepted that ritual (and the t-shirt over my suit) as standard.

    • DeTrop

      Relax. Have fun and soak up the rays……….carefully of course.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      I GOT A JOB!!!

      It only took 4.5 months, but I was welcomed aboard this afternoon. I’m to be Client Services Director for a law firm starting Monday morning. They could have called me Chief Pooper Scooper as long as they agreed to what I wanted.

      Thank you again to all of the BKs who supported me throughout this ordeal. Your encouragement has meant more than you know.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Congrats!! Hope you get to celebrate this weekend!

      • formerlyAnon

        HOT DAMN! Your plan of holding out for something that sounds workable long term seems to have paid off!

        Girl, get in the swing of things at work, relax a bit, and in a few weeks or a month throw yourself a party! Whatever that means to you – a real party, a great lunch with friends, a weekend away, a small buying spree – hell, a new water heater. Just mark your success happily!

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          It has been very painful and I’m kinda numb. I guess it won’t sink in until the alarm rings on Monday morning.

          First on the list is getting caught up on mortgage payments. Next is a long list of deferred maintenance on the house. Got the new water heater a few months ago courtesy of my home warranty company.

          • formerlyAnon

            Well, when you can, give yourself a *small* treat of some kind!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I know that feeling – you don’t even know how tightly you’ve been wound until all of a sudden you can answer the phone without worrying which debt collector it is going to be.

      • marlie

        CONGRATULATIONS!!!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Yes, yes, yes! Many, many congrats on the new job! Hoist a glass of bubbly in celebration!

      • MilaXX

        Congrats!!!!

      • Janet B

        Congratulations!

      • @Biting Panda

        Best news I’ve heard in weeks! Cheers to you!

      • Jacob Bowen

        Yayyyyyy! The feeling is AWESOME! Congrats!

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Woohoo – congrats!

      • Shibori Girl

        Yay for you! Take a deep breath and recover from the stress. If I were a client I would want to work with you. (Thought about saying I would want service from you, but knew THAT wouldn’t sound right!)

        Congratulations

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Ah, but I give great service. It even says so on Yelp.

      • Qitkat

        Hoofukkinray! Congratulations my kitten friend, that is wonderful! Enjoy the weekend, knowing you can now breathe easier, and will be able to treat yourself soon to some delayed creature comforts.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Today I bought myself a new pair of small gold hoop earrings. One of my favorites went down the bathroom sink a couple of months ago and I’ve missed wearing them so much. Now I have to pick out what I’m going to wear tomorrow.

          • Qitkat

            It’s almost like the first day at a new school, isn’t it? What to wear, will everyone be friendly, who you’ll eat lunch with, will you get along with your new boss :-) You’ll be great, I’m sure, even with the normal butterflies, I know I would have them. May your new gold hoop earrings bring you luck and charm in this new venture.

          • formerlyAnon

            Good luck! I hope everyone is nice and the settling in process starts smoothly!

          • decormaven

            Glad you got yourself a victory trinket. May this job be a good fit for you and your talents.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Congratulations! Such great news!

      • decormaven

        I am sending a big bottle of virtual champagne and hugs. I am so, so happy for you! Tra la la!!!

      • Sarah

        AWESOME GC! Congrats. So glad for you!

    • formerlyAnon

      Well deserved! Enjoy.

    • marlie

      Have a great vacation, TLo!! This kitten has a major deadline in 2 weeks, so this weekend will be spent working. But not tonight. Tonight I’m putting my feet up and get some knitting done (which I haven’t done all week!). And a beer. I’m definitely having a beer.

      • GeoDiva

        I have a major deadline next too, so you’ll have company working this weekend.

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, pour me something. The week’s been . . . equivocal. Lots of “wait & see – not so bad . . . but it could probably be worse soon-ish.” More for those I care about than for me. So vague, I know. But really, all the details are tedious and ordinary. I’ve been in a good mood, and Got Shit Done on the domestic front, though, so not so bad. Currently debating between wine and the gym.

      Yes, we know where THAT’S going, don’t we, on a Friday evening? Especially when I smell Thai green curry . . . .

      • Call me Bee

        I vote wine. :)

        • formerlyAnon

          It ended up being a surprisingly virtuous & productive evening. Had half a beer & my curry with a ton of additional green veggies (leftovers! for tomorrow! enough that even the various Young People in Temporary Residence can’t eat it all before I get there!) and needed half & half for my coffee so I did the weekly grocery shop and then remembered all my pep talks from last Friday and took a short walk. It’s late enough now that I’m going to put off opening the bottle till tomorrow.

          • formerlyAnon

            Unnecessary update: I opened two (cheapish) chardonnays for comparison. Verdict: cheap red is waay more to my tastes than cheap white. I knew this, but I keep trying, I do.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Interesting – I prefer cheap white because if all else fails I can chill the fuck out of it, or add some ice and sodawater.

            • formerlyAnon

              True, but I do that with unpalatable cheap reds, as well. You can turn anything into fizzy, festive sangria if you dilute it enough!

            • decormaven

              I’m with you. A cheap white is like a clanging gong on the palate. At least with a red blend, you get those hints of a better grape.

    • majorbedhead

      I just had a wonderful day with The Boy I’ve Been Dating. The Bridge of Flowers, dinner at a lovely restaurant, that was absolutely delicious (gnocchi with garlic scape pesto, if anyone wants to know) and now I’m home while he sleeps, because he worked an overnight and then took me out for the day. I’m far less stressed out than I was yesterday, when I was in full panic attack mode due to having to move in 6 weeks and still not having an apartment to move into. Tonight, I’m not thinking about it. I’m having some wine and hoarding my memories of today.

      • formerlyAnon

        That’s lovely! Sounds like he’s working on a promotion from The Boy I’ve Been Dating to The Boyfriend.

      • Qitkat

        I tried garlic scape pesto for the first time on my vacation. Delicious! Very flavorful, but not harsh, and a lovely color.

      • decormaven

        So glad you had such a fun day. It’s good you got a break from the stressing. In that relaxation point, you may be able to have an insight on how to negotiate the next part of the journey.

    • marlie

      Oh – and I found out this week that I’m going to be an aunt again!! My little sister is having her first! (Well, she has 2 step kids, but this is HER first.) This baby will never want for knitted goodness. And she’d better have a girl, because I only have nephews so far…

      • @Biting Panda

        Congrats to the family.

        • marlie

          Thanks, love! xo

      • BLauDGaspode

        How exciting! I can’t wait to be an aunt – which is finally happening later this year. I’m a mom, but being an aunt strikes me as more fun ;)

        • @Biting Panda

          It totally is.

          • Sarah

            I’m an aunt of 5 nephews and I concur.

        • marlie

          Oh, it totally is. I’ve made it my mission in life to be the cool, fun aunt, and so far I’ve succeeded. :)

      • Jacob Bowen

        Awwwwww congrats, I LOVE being “Aunty Jacob”! (Crossing my fingers for a girl for you!)

      • Kitten Mittons

        Yay to babies! Congrats to your family, that’s great.

    • MilaXX

      Have fun in the sun guys! Nothing too eventful for me this week, but that’s a good thing.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        So did you find some fabulous earrings? Inquiring minds want to know.

        • MilaXX

          HA! Nope not yet. And now it’s to late to order online. Nordstrom’s is having a sale this weekend so that’s tomorrow’s game plan. Something tells me I may end up digging though bins at Marshall’s

          • decormaven

            It would be sweet to nab something at Nordstrom’s sale. Fingers crossed.

            • MilaXX

              Struck out at Nordstrom’s, Bloomingdales & TJ Maxx. Found a passable pair at Target. I’m tired of searching. everything is either too small, too gaudy or gold instead of silver. I’m tired of searching. I’m sure I’ll find the perfect pair after the fact. :-/

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Of course you will! But no one else is going to know that you had something else in your mind and will just be impressed by how fabulous you look.

            • decormaven

              That’s how it always works. At least you have an acceptable alternative.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      Cher uncles, have a fabulous time on vacation-sunblock, your choice of beverage, kick back and relax. Mwahh!
      No big plans here, just enjoying the results of my mani-pedi this afternoon, my toes and fingers are now refreshed and sporting OPI’s Not So Bora-Bora-ing Pink!

    • rainwood1

      We’ll understand if all the posts come early in the day so you two can log some beach time, T Lo. You guys deserve some time off even if it’s only afternoons.

      • @Biting Panda

        Hey, Love. Been thinking about y’all.

        • rainwood1

          We’re at the island this weekend. I’m no longer under the illusion that it will be relaxing because the 4th of July weekend was anything but. There’s so much that’s been deferred that I need to be in Getting Shit Done mode pretty much all the time, My husband is holding his own and able to do a little more to help so that’s a small step in the right direction. Fingers crossed that continues.

          How about you? How are you holding up?

          • @Biting Panda

            I think maybe I’ve turned a corner. I only have 3 more group sessions, and I’m feeling much stronger. More balanced, with more understanding of how to not repeat past behaviors. I’ll continue individual therapy.

            The kids are doing really well and that has reinforced my resolve. We are all working to reshape the family in an organic way.

            Most concerning is my loss of sense of humor. I don’t feel dulled down or medicated, but I’m also not my razor weilding, kitten with a whip, self either.

            I’m just looking to learn, to improve and to be a better me. That all takes time and patience is not among my virtues. I may need to adopt a calming religion to teach me.

            Any Buddhist Kittens out there?

            • decormaven

              One of my massage therapists has gone to meditation trainings at Shambhala Center in Decatur and speaks highly of them. Meditation may help in centering your mind. The loss of sense of humor is temporary; that’s the hard part of going through these tough times. Your unconsciousness is trying to protect your conscious mind and it’s not selective. Everything gets dulled down. Just know that it is temporary; brighter days ahead.

            • formerlyAnon

              Yay you! Part of the humor might be a re-calibration? Our sense of humor is always such a big part of our coping mechanisms – it makes sense that when radically re-calibrating the coping mechanisms, the sense of humor also is undergoing adjustments. Of course, that’s soooo not an informed train of reasoning, just my guess. Your humor will seep back in gradually, I’m sure.

              Meditation of various kinds is calming even if approached in an entirely non-religious way. For the antsy among us, I’ve found that walking meditation can be really helpful. (Actually, I realized that something very close to walking meditation is something I’ve done under stress since I was a kid.) I also found reading about the Benedictine Rule was a good place for me to start thinking about what kind of spirituality might work for me. Not following any version of the Rule, and certainly NOT going back to the Church, but as a good starting place for reflection on how to balance one’s life. I know I read something by Kathleen Norris that first caught my attention, but I can’t remember if it was The Cloister Walk or Amazing Grace. (In either case, her work wasn’t the end all and be all, just what initially caught my attention.)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Have you heard of the 10 Emotional Stages of Divorce? The first six are pretty negative, like pain, bitterness and despair, so who wouldn’t lose their sense of humor? Don’t worry, Amanda, you’re going to come out of this a stronger and funnier person. Just be patient.

          • formerlyAnon

            rainwood, so glad to hear your husband is holding his own & that despite the doubt of the doctors, going to the island hasn’t been a Bad Idea. You’ve been in crisis or post-crisis recovery mode for so long no wonder you are now in catch-up mode. I hope everything continues on a gentle (or steep!) trend upwards.

          • Qitkat

            Keep on keeping on still gets you forward a bit at a time. Caregiving is so stressful for both the giver and the recipient at times. I hope things keep improving. Give yourself a lot of credit. You’ve probably both found some grit you didn’t know you possessed.

    • Rhonda Shore

      Enjoy your much-deserved vacation! Those chairs in that bar are gorgeous.

    • GinnyThePainter

      I’ve decided my favorite thing about this site is the weekly intellectual devolution
      of the Kittentariat.

      Monday: “While the mix of prints and plaids is reminiscent of the modern
      bohemian grunge vibe of the Marc Jacobs 2013 Spring collection, the touches of
      flowy fabrics and ornate lace give the look a more Marchesa-like femininity.

      Wednesday: “Love the silhouette, although the dress could use some statement jewelry. The makeup is too severe and the handbag
      is too matchy, but the color is gorgeous on her and I must have those
      shoes.”

      Friday: “Manganiello. Hawt as Fuck.”

      • BLauDGaspode

        Culminating in bubbly being passed around for celebration, or the hard stuff for commiseration.

      • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

        But don’t we just love it, every week.

      • formerlyAnon

        I have to admit by Friday I have a tendency to skip clicking on a few ensembles and go right to the fellas and the flakier celebrities.

      • Kitten Mittons

        That sounds about right. I’m guilty as charged, especially if it’s Manganiello.

        • Sarah

          Word.

      • decormaven

        It’s the drag of the world upon our delicate sensibilities.

        • formerlyAnon

          I love this description.

          • decormaven

            Aww, thanks.

    • Janet B

      My family has a abandoned me for the weekend. I am too sleep deprived to enjoy the solitude today.

      My youngest is now an ‘adult’ and it may kill me. Ten Things I Hate About You with Heath Ledger is on. I am going to sit in front of the TV and disappoint the dog.

      • formerlyAnon

        Hope you fell asleep after the best bit (if there is one) in the movie and tomorrow is as marvelous as alone time can only be when one is usually surrounded by those we love.

        • Janet B

          I just returned from walking the dog. She’s a bit too rambunctious to let me go to sleep, it’s only 9 here.
          Tomorrow I’ve got plans to listen to some live music and enjoy our fabulous weather sans dog.

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

      Too late – got a “3 day quit” notice from my loft to due to a penis memo that was taken literally and not satirically.

      Have a fantastic vacation, Sirs T&Lo!

      • @Biting Panda

        This sounds unjust!

      • formerlyAnon

        Let me guess: it was the possessor of a penis that had the problem?

      • decormaven

        Too bad they missed the chuckle.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I would like to more about the contents of this memo.

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          The memo was done in response to no memos being put out by the management company for important information (water outages, film shoots, rooftop parties, etc) because someone in the building loves drawing penises on them. After some water outages, I wrote a memo posing as a hipster who strained his wrist walking his teacup poodle and was searching for a penis stamp because he couldn’t use his other hand to draw penises. Incidentally, no penis had been drawn on any of my memos or any memo the office has put out since.

          • formerlyAnon

            Well, I think it sounds funny, and I’m a boring middle aged frumpy mom of zero hipster or cool credentials. (Well, with a tendency to sarcasm and fondness for permutations of the f-word, but those don’t show.)
            Are they really truly making you move out? I thought you had to be seriously behind on the rent to do that.

            • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

              I think they want to rent the loft out at a higher price because the initial reason was, “You’re month to month and this property isn’t rent controlled.” Your life sounds amazing right now.

            • formerlyAnon

              I buy your theory. Any excuse for turnover and a rent increase. Well, that sucks. Good luck.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            That is just perfect! (Come to think of it, who doesn’t need a penis stamp?) Clearly the management company are idiots.

    • JillSpill

      Getting ready for some beach time this week also! Looking forward to lots of relaxing and cocktails. I will do a tiny bit of work but not nearly as much as T and Lo. Thanks for sacrificing your vacay time to keep us entertained. Cheers!

    • BLauDGaspode

      This week. All I can say is thanks be it’s over. Jumped back into a super busy schedule after 10 days away, and the three littles thought that meant we should all go crazy. I can’t even really relax this weekend because we have company coming for a few days on Sunday.
      I’m just delighted by this nice cool weather we’ve had instead of the blistering humidity we usually have this time of year.
      Enjoy the sun and sand, T + Lo. Wear lots of sunscreen, reapply often!

    • Musicologie

      I’m enjoying some port in this lovely lounge. Our anniversary was this week. Since it fell on a weekday and the baby currently goes to bed at 6:30, we didn’t go out. We just had some dark, creamy stout and port.

      Writing this week sucked, for both projects. I kept going and worked a little on both every night, so that’s something to feel good about, but really, this week sucked for writing. Blerg. More port.

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Mmmm, port. That’s my winter go-to to warm my bones.

      • formerlyAnon

        You worked on both every day, when they weren’t going well and the writing, it was blerg! and you have a baby and an anniversary and at least 37 excuses to take a day off just to let it simmer. YOU ARE A GODDESS.

        That is all.

      • Qitkat

        What fAnon said! I made half a quilt once when I was dealing with a baby. It’s still unfinished. The baby is now 34. I think you have your act together in an awesome way. Pat yourself on the back while enjoying that port.

      • decormaven

        Port. I’m like Gaby- that’s more for the winter months here.

    • Jacob Bowen

      Have SO MUCH FUN! I am currently house sitting for the next 8 days for my cousins who are at Myrtle Beach, South Carolina (super jealous), and I would love to be there…LUCKILY I am buying myself a WAVERUNNER this weekend, so I will get to play on the lake (we live on the water) all next week because I got to quit my second job! Even though I may miss the extra income it would have generated for the last 4 weeks of camp, it was well worth my sanity and I am so excited to have some free time!

      • @Biting Panda

        MB is my Happy Place.

        • Jacob Bowen

          I WISH! My Aunt and Uncle used to go every year and bring all of my cousin’s friends, and now that my cousins are older and have kids they are going with their family….at least I get the benefits of their house. I have ALWAYS wanted to go there though, but the idea of a “vacation” to my father is Disney World (which is great the 1st time at 18, not the 3rd) or visiting a relative somewhere we’ve been many times before. If the beach isn’t in Florida and 10 minutes from my Aunt’s we don’t go. MB looks DIVINE.

          • formerlyAnon

            One of the beauties of having a REAL JOB for a year or two is having the money to plan a vacation with friends or relatives that is what YOU want to do! You’ll be there soon enough!

            • Jacob Bowen

              Exactly. Europe is in my near future!

        • formerlyAnon

          I was supposed to go to Myrtle Beach in 2.5 weeks with my best friend since we were 14. But her 90-something mother got sick so that’s not going to happen. I am trying to look at it as help from the Universe in staying within my budget.

          • Qitkat

            Oh, that is too bad; sending good thoughts out to your friend and her mom.
            I am also fascinated that we both have best friends we’ve known since the same age :) I seem to recall I may have known this already, damn the unreliable memory of middle age. Truly golden oldies when they last through all the stages of girl-and-womanhood, and the many dramas of a life well lived.

            • decormaven

              My bestie grew up around the block from me; we went through all 12 grades, then college (but weren’t roomies.) We’re aiming for Italy; maybe next year.

            • Qitkat

              An international adventure, how exciting! We’re aiming for New Orleans this fall.

            • decormaven

              Good timing. The horror of the extremely hot summer will be passed by then. I have not been back to NOLA since 1993. I am curious to see how it has changed. The French Quarter is intact, but I’m sure the impact of Katrina has made its mark on the rest of the city.

            • formerlyAnon

              Our friendship is more like a 40-year marriage than most marriages. Works perfectly, if sometimes distantly. Kind of unexamined – but you wouldn’t WANT to examine it too invasively lest you disturb something that was making it work. We each have friends with whom we have more in common, but nobody who knows and accepts us in the same ways.

              Her mom is AMAZING. She is still living in a retirement community apartment, not even assisted living! and only quit driving (during the day, night driving went in her 80s) a couple of years ago at 92. My friend sees her mom once or twice a week, and for at least the last 10 years speaks to her on the phone every day. The mom’s recovering well (from a minor heart attack) but obviously, at her age, any little thing can upset the apple cart, and her treatment options for anything are limited. We all just hope that when the inevitable decline hits in earnest it’s fast and short.

            • Sarah

              My bff’s and I have all known one another since we were teens, and their mom is my friend, too. A finer bunch of ladies I couldn’t have asked to meet, and I guarantee the universe wanted it that way. The one that is the closest to me of the three (the youngest – made friends with her sister first, but we just clicked in that kindred way) is the ONLY person on the planet that I know would never judge me or turn her back on me, no matter WHAT. Of course I have family that would try, but there’s that thing where only your best of friends know EVERYTHING about you, including the stuff that God Willing, your family will never know.

              Sadly, my mom went first, and too young. They love their mother as fiercely and as wholly as I loved mine, and I don’t think (aside from my sibs) anyone else really understood the horror of her decline and loss. I don’t know what I’d have done without them. And the upside is, they are that much more determined to spend every good moment they can with their mom, because they know what it’s like to not have one through me. I’m glad you will be there for your friend when that happens to her.

            • Qitkat

              I just love the way you said everything here.

            • Qitkat

              I want to end up like your friend’s mom :)
              I am with you exactly on your description of your friendship.

      • formerlyAnon

        I confess, I love housesitting. I love other people’s books & art and finding my favorite sitting spot in their house and passing judgement on the contents of their kitchen. (Well except housesitting for people with medically fragile pets – who are ALWAYS cats – who want to escape and hide from me so I worry the whole time and get to imagine daily how I’m going to break the Dreadful News to their owners.)

        Enjoy your water toy, enjoy the free time, just generally enjoy!

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          We might have to arrange something, whereby you fly over here and cat-sit (she is a rambunctious thug, not medically fragile!) and take advantage of free accommodation while we take advantage of a cat-sitter so we can go on holiday!

          • formerlyAnon

            Since this year’s semi-planned trip didn’t happen, and I am again waiting for the universe to provide the right opening, it is not beyond the bounds of possibility that someday you’ll hear from me that I am going to be in London and we should at least have drinks. Supposing you will still be there by the time that finally happens.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I hope the universe provides the opportunity!

    • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

      A very lazy week this week after the fence painting episode. Must get in some summer fun next week.

    • Judih1

      I feel conflicted because I want TLO to take a “real” vacation – meaning beach AND no blogging. But on the other hand I can’t handle it if TLO doesn’t post during the week. I need my fix as I am a TLO addict. Read them even when I am on vacation

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Yes – they could schedule a week’s worth of throw-backs to musical mondays and whiteboard posts and basically let lunatic kittens take over the asylum (that is such an un-PC expression. What would be better? The mice take over the cheese shop?)

        • decormaven

          I think things could run that way, but I fear unruly rogue posters could make hash of this place. I think of the two uncles as the Unseen Hand, carefully weeding out the thread highjackers, trolls and whatnot. It’s an artful arrangement what is displayed for us to enjoy here.

          • formerlyAnon

            I think very much so.

    • Call me Bee

      Oh have a fabulous time, Dear Uncles, and send me a postcard! ;)

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I have always wanted to go some place with a swim-up bar. I am but a simple girl.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Me too – it is on the wish-list!

    • PastryGoddess

      Hey All, I am beat, but in a good way. Artscape started today and I’ll be there all weekend long as a volunteer.

      I stayed for Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings. This is my 4th time seeing her live, she is an amazing performer.

      • formerlyAnon

        You’re right, I saw SJ live at a multi-stage festival. One of those stops where I think “15 minutes just to see what the fuss is about and then I’ll move on” – and the next thing I know I’m thinking “What? Is their time up already?”

      • Qitkat

        Have a great time! Artscape sounds a little bit like Denver’s Cherry Creek Arts Festival. I volunteered one year in Denver, it was pretty tiring, but fun.

      • decormaven

        Love Sharon Jones! She and that band are so fine.

      • Sarah

        Heck yeah that’s a damned good show. Lucky!

    • conniemd

      Behave yourselves is two dirty words as far as I’m concerned. As with everything its contextual. For a poster on a blog on fashion I promise never to behave myself other than not to engage in body snark. Enjoy your beach time.

    • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

      I have a design hard-on for every piece of furniture in tonights bar. VELVET. LEATHER. WING-BACK. I BELIEVE I HAVE THE VAPORS.

      It’s been one of those long fucking weeks. But I have wine, and I may have gotten a buddy a job, which may mean, if he takes it, I get a nice little bonus. So that’s good.

      Plus I ordered from the delicious greasy Chinese place that I LOVE – super cheap, super good, super unhealthy. I got crab rangoon and it’s just bursting with cream cheese. Omnomnomigon. Also, half a chicken, deep fried, for less than $5. And I didn’t have to talk to anyone. Man I love Seamless and NY.

      I’m going to curl up (let’s pretend it’s in one of those plush wing-back chairs, yes?) with my copy of “The Essential Dykes to Watch Out For” (signed, because I freaking LOVE Alison Bechdel and got her to sign Fun Home, Are You My Mother, and bought the Essential just so I could get her to sign it) and have a nice evening reading an excellent soap opera comic.

      It’s one of those “let me overshare and comment too much” days. Love you all, you precious unborn fawns.

      How were your weeks?

      • formerlyAnon

        Your dinner sounds wonderful! I had my favorite thai green curry that I’ve been craving for two weeks. Brought it home and put it over sauteed greens and steamed broccoli and quinoa to feel healthy-ish and because I do like those things. My kids’ friend thought I was a kitchen genius (it is so easy to impress the young sometimes – and so sad the kick I get out of doing so.)

        My week’s covered somewhere else on the thread – short version, nothing to see here.

        • Qitkat

          Mmmyumyum. Guy Fieri has a recipe on food network for green curry that sounds divine, and also possibly takes 16 hours to make, or thereabouts ;) Thai is possibly the international food group I would choose if I were limited for the rest of my life to just one. Except I guess they don’t eat cheese. Bummer. Yours sounds equally delicious. I’m afraid my kids aren’t impressed by me anymore, if they ever were :( lol

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I like to think of Thai food as the ultimate Asian cuisine. Strong flavors and an emphasis on the protein.

            My daughter keeps kosher, so our restaurant choices have been limited to mostly pizza, shawarma and hummus. But in the last few years her neighborhood has blossomed with authentic Chinese (cooked by a Chinese chef), housemade gourmet sausages, Mexican (the chef won Chopped), French and the most wonderful vegetarian Thai place. There was briefly a kosher Subway, but they couldn’t make it since they had to charge extra for the kosherness. I love that Thai restaurant even though I am neither a vegetarian nor do I keep kosher. Yum, I could go for some now.

            • Qitkat

              I am always fascinated by the challenges in keeping kosher, as I am apparently so unworldly that I don’t currently know anyone who does. It sounds like there are a lot of delicious choices you both now have.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              One of my best friends (an openly gay, openly kosher keeping guy) kept Kosher for his kids for a long time. He was an adoptive dad, so it wasn’t part time. I asked what finally made him stop. He said it was the location of his kitchens. One was upstairs, the other downstairs. He lamented…’it was all the stairs’. Somehow, I can understand.

              Another friend was telling me about this area of Beverly Hills populated with observant Orthodox Jews. I had run across it driving through on a Friday night and was puzzled by all these bearded men rushing somewhere on foot. I mentioned it to her and she told me about the area and that the men were going to Temple. I’m Presbyterian; what do I know? She said a friend of hers lives there and that all the homes come built with 2 complete kitchens. Bathrooms all have bidets as well. June said she was teasing her friend when she points to the bidet and says “ok, so, which is the milchedik, and which is the flayshedik?”

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              My daughter lives Beverly Hills adjacent and the whole area has become very Orthodox. If, like her, you don’t have the money or room to have two kitchens, you divide the one you have in half – one side for dairy and the other for meat. You can use the same refrigerator. She designated the dishwasher as meat and hand washes the dairy plates, utensils and pots/pans. I honestly don’t know what is the significance of the bidet.

            • formerlyAnon

              My parents, neither Jewish, but raised in the Northeast US, used to say that if a restaurant or food store catered to those who kept Kosher you could bank on the food being better than average and well worth any extra in price. We moved a lot, and especially in the South, my mom always looked for the grocery store that carried kosher foods. She said “if a woman keeps Kosher she pays attention to what she feeds her family and will find the best grocery store in town.”

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Could we have a special dispensation to include Pho? Because then I’d think about it.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Yeah – I think if I were restricted to one Asian cuisine for all eternity I might have to choose Vietnamese.

          • formerlyAnon

            Ha. You’ll note that it was the kid’s FRIEND who was impressed. I don’t know if I could pick Thai over Tex-Mex or Italian or Vietnamese or Chinese. Everything has its own wonderful, glorious strengths. (And a lot less of it would be in my diet if it weren’t for takeout.)

            • Qitkat

              Thank goodness we don’t have to choose. What a glorious banquet of variety and delicious food is available to almost all of us.

            • Sarah

              OH yes. I got Curry Chicken with Onions and Crab Rangoons for dinner. It was sooo goood but now I want Indian!

            • formerlyAnon

              Well, thanks for that. You have started the Indian craving in my head. It’s harder to get cheap, good, convenient Indian where I am – wrong part of town. Yes, I AM that spoiled. I want everything in a 3 mile radius!

            • Sarah

              I HAVE everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, in a three-mile radius. Quite terribly spoiled am I – to the point where it drives me nuts that the Greek place won’t deliver after nine, even though it’s about five blocks from my house and I could just WALK there.

            • formerlyAnon

              I don’t think there’s a really good Greek place IN town – a couple of decent attempts, but not in that magic radius.

      • Sarah

        The Crab Rangoon is my favorite. Thanks to you, I’m SO having Chinese for dinner.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I keep seeing recipes for crab Rangoon on pinterest – I think I’d probably like it, but it seems like such a funny fusion dish to me. It’s not something I have ever seen on a menu in Australia or England.

          • Gatto Nero

            No doubt it was created to appeal to the American palate. When I was a kid we went to “Chinese” restaurants that served weird fusion dishes (including “Polynesian”) that weren’t remotely traditional Chinese.

            So, I just had to check Wikipedia (footnotes excluded): “Crab rangoon has been on the menu of the “Polynesian-style” restaurant Trader Vic’s in San Francisco since at least 1956. Although the appetizer is allegedly derived from an authentic Burmese recipe, the dish was probably invented in the United States. A “Rangoon crab a la Jack” was mentioned as a dish at a Hawaiian-style party in 1952, but without further detail, and so may or may not be the same thing.

            Though the history of crab rangoon is unclear, cream cheese, like other cheese, is essentially nonexistent in Southeast Asian and Chinese cuisine, so it is unlikely that the dish is actually of east or southeast Asian origin. In North America, crab rangoon is served often with soy sauce, plum sauce, duck sauce, sweet and sour sauce, or mustard for dipping.”

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I’ll have to ask my Burmese culinary expert if she’s ever encountered such a thing! Burmese by way of Hawaii and San Francisco as served in Chinese restaurants is a fantastic melting pot!

          • Sarah

            No, it’s definitely an American thing. It is very tasty, though :)

        • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

          BWAHAHAHA I love Crab Rangoon. I have a terrible tendency to call it “Crab Ragron” because I saw it misspelled on a menu once and it’s just fun to say. It’s probably a bit offensive but it really is fun to say. Like a really silly version of “redrum.”

          • Sarah

            Hehe I do that with “macaroni.” One time, my bff texted me and it came out “macaronnu” which is now what it is. As in “I’m having Macaronnu & Cheese for dinner.”

            • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

              YES.

    • Qitkat

      Kittens, it has been one of those weeks. Generally filled with niggling small dramas of low consequence, along with a Wednesday of high drama. The details are much too long but it involved a mysterious phone call on Monday asking me if I was my middle brother’s sister, to my call back to him on his recently acquired cell phone that went to voice mail, to a call from his cell phone waking me up on Wednesday morning, but not from him, but the guy who found it. To make matters worse, he had moved in early June without giving his new address to anyone in the family, he is long-term unemployed, lives on Social Security, and possible savings from our deceased parents. A very private person, communicating with me on his schedule by phone, and a post office box. Thank all the powers that be that I reached a person in the local police department who helps with non-criminal senior citizen problems. She tracked him down, through the only other number listed in his phone than mine, which I had the presence of mind to get the finder to tell me. The guy had moved him, and the officer actually knew this man from long before. She retrieved the cell from the finder, delivered it in person to my brother, called me back to tell me how he was. Finally my brother called me just as I was about to call him, and I got the story and his new address, and he is fine. Involving several other people and phone calls, and my other brother and sister in law on opposite coasts. I was a wreck (in a good way) by the time 5pm rolled around and all had been resolved. Happily. Whew. It really made me realize how much I love my brothers, as dysfunctional as it may well be.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        So glad to hear your brother is OK.

        I just heard a story about an elderly man who kidnapped his 92-year-old brother from his nursing home. (Sounds like a geriatric “Rainman.”)

        • Qitkat

          Thanks, a big relief, but wary for the next time, because there will be a next time, with variations. I haven’t heard that story, we can all hope someone is still there to care when we are elderly. (Not yet considering either my brother or myself in that category.)

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        So glad it had a good ending. Family is family, no matter what.

      • Kitten Mittons

        That is nerve wracking, so glad that everyone is okay.

        I had an incident two Christmases ago wherein I received a phone call asking if I was my brother’s sister, and they proceeded to tell me they had kidnapped him, and were asking for ransom. This happened while I was at work, getting ready to leave for our Christmas party.

        The whole thing was a scam, and everyone was fine, but it was very jarring and unpleasant. Glad you kept your head about you!

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          What even? What? Who does that?

          • decormaven

            There are some sick mofos out there.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Jerks. Jerks do that. At holiday time, hoping to catch someone off guard who can’t get ahold of a loved one, easy cash. I actually knew other people in the area who got called, so probably some local scam. Just as FYI so other people can avoid the scam, they called and said they got my number from his cell phone. They had a minor traffic accident, but my brother insisted on calling the cops, and they couldn’t have that. So they claimed they beat him up and kidnapped him, and they wanted xx amount in cash, and to immediately get up and walk to my car.

            It was pretty bizarre, but fairly easy to discount if you can keep your cool. They couldn’t give me one detail, like his car color or make, his name, his appearance, or where it happened (my brother lives in a different state).

            • Sarah

              Nuts! Yikes.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          A long time ago, I received a call from someone in the middle of a weekday saying they had kidnapped my husband. They would return him if I paid them ransom and waited for them in front of my house–naked. Luckily, I knew where my husband was supposed to be at that time, so I called him in the middle of a meeting to see if he was OK. Of course he was.

          • Qitkat

            This is so disturbing. What is wrong with our society that produces such scum?

        • Qitkat

          I can’t even imagine, how awful for you.
          The whole day there was a chill in my heart that events might not be as portrayed. And you know something else strange, before all this came about, the day before I told my husband I was going around with this feeling of nameless dread.

          • Kitten Mittons

            It was a bit surreal.

            But in my case, it was quick, and the whole thing was over in about 20 minutes. Not knowing all day long is much more difficult. I’m so glad that he was OK.

      • decormaven

        I feel for you. Glad things worked out in a good way.

      • Sarah

        Gosh Qitkat. That’s rough. I’m glad to hear that you’re brother is okay, and also that there’s a position in the police department for people who deal with non-criminal senior citizens! That is good to know!

        • Qitkat

          Thanks Sarah. Apparently not all police depts have such a position, so I was truly fortunate their jurisdiction did. The officer was so kind and concerned, and went above and beyond her normal duties for us, because of the distance. I’m very grateful to her. It would be great if all depts had such resources.

          • Sarah

            I have a really good friend who works for the Community Services Board as a Senior Advocate. They do stuff like that, too. And my fiance’s mom met her SO in a church group that goes to check on seniors in their general area of the county, so I think if there ISN’T stuff like that in every community, there definitely should be. I’m glad the officer was so helpful to you. Gives a person a nice warm fuzzy feeling.

      • formerlyAnon

        Holy kaMoly! So thankful that you navigated all that and had a good outcome. And, as someone with a few . . . “different” family members, I have to admire the system you and your brother have worked out.

        • Shibori Girl

          Holy kaMoly has just become one of my favorite expressions!

          Also, once I figured out that my family didn’t personally put the ” fun” in disfunctional I felt much better.

          Qitkat, sounds like it was a worrying situation. Kudos on you for hanging in there.

          • Qitkat

            Thanks. Love that second sentence!

        • Qitkat

          I truly appreciate everyone’s concern. And that I can let it all hang out here, in a way that isn’t easy to do sometimes IRL. I’m not sure how much of a system we have but with this brother over the years there has been some remarkable serendipity going on that isn’t easily explained.

    • unbornfawn

      Have a wonderful time. We promise not to claw the furniture while you are gone.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        We may move it, though….

    • demidaemon

      For me, it’s been one of those weeks where everything piles on you on Friday. I’m making preliminary packing plans (even though I still need to know when I’ll actually need to move in, though my rental payment plan has been approved, thankfully), but I won’t know when I’ll need to be there for faculty orientation until next week (supposedly; my new alma mater has a funny definition of “getting important information/paperwork out promptly”). Then, I need to make all my arrangements with my new apartment complex. Loads of fun.

      On top of that, I found out today that my SIL had a possible miscarriage, which I have complex feelings about, because, unfortunately, she is a compulsive liar and my brother never attends appointments to know what the doctor is REALLY telling her. I feel upset about it and sad for my brother, but I don’t really know how to feel about her. It’s complicated.

      • Qitkat

        No doubt about it, families are complicated, each with their own unique variables. You’re a thoughtful, caring person. Somehow you’ll figure out the best approach. It does sound quite upsetting. It’s mighty difficult to really put oneself in someone else’s shoes.

        Your move and new job are a different, exciting challenge, and I hope it all comes together in the best possible way.

        • demidaemon

          Thank you. Words escape me right now, so just thank you.

      • @Biting Panda

        Hugs.

        • demidaemon

          Thanks. :-)

      • decormaven

        Let some time pass before you check in with your brother. Just be open and loving; if that info is shared, good, and if not, good. Hoping your transition to new job/place is not too tricky.

        • demidaemon

          I tend to let him bring up subjects he wants to discuss, so I think that will be the best option. Thanks for the sentiment and advice. :)

          • Qitkat

            Good cool thinking. I’ve got family I have to do the same thing.

      • Sarah

        Oh, my. You know what? If it is a lie, that’s not your problem. Just be kind, right? That’s all you can do. Best of wishes for you, your brother, and your futures ♥

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh me oh my. Take it on face value, resist getting drawn into any drama, be there to listen to your brother, as someone else said, be kind. You can’t fix whatever might be broken there. Sad, but you can’t. Knowing that he can talk to you no matter what – without worrying that you’ll add to any drama – may end up being one of your brother’s sources of strength as he navigates whatever life brings.

        • demidaemon

          I hope so. I feel bad for saying this, but it may be a blessing in disguise, as they are getting ready to move in a couple of weeks, and really, in my opinion, aren’t emotionally ready or mature enough for a baby yet. But then I feel like an ass for thinking these things, but I know enough to keep them to myself.

          • formerlyAnon

            Oh, my dear, you would be an ass if you SAID these things to the people involved, without invitation or excuse. THINKING them just means you have brain function remaining.

            • demidaemon

              I hate to say this, but I did learn it from my parents who expressed some slight misgivings about the wedding (my SIL is the only woman my brother ever dated, and my parents expressed concerns about this, because my dad made the mistake of marrying the first woman he dated–who is not my mother—and it didn’t turn out very well), and my brother hasn’t forgotten, while I just shut my mouth and was the good best man. Therefore, I have mastered the smile and nod.

    • RichardPrebble

      Is this a site for fàggots?

    • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

      I’ve had the week from hell, again, finished off by attending an invitation only dinner for one of the designers (that my company sponsors) at MBSwimweek in Miami. Should be fun, right? Unless you happen to be over 60, fat and handicapped. Then, worst of all, you are invisible. Ugh. I keep threatening never to leave the house again. It could be done..I’ve been experimenting. I may carry through this time.

      And BTW, those swimsuit models in high heels, close up, remind me of storks. Storks.

      • decormaven

        Please do go, there should be some good things to gain from this. Not sure of your disabilities, but hope it won’t be too difficult to travel. It’s just for a little while- and who know what or who you may encounter?

      • Qitkat

        You are now a Bitter Kitten. You will never be invisible to us :)

        There ought to be a special circle in hell for those who have ill-treated the aged, overweight, and disabled. Or at least a classroom in the edge of heaven where they go through kindness boot-camp.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          I’m glad I belong here; I sure didn’t there. It was awful. I’m home, a 5 hr. Drive each way. Fortunately, one of my favorite hotels is in Miami. The Ritz-Carlton in Coconut Grove. I stayed there and it was lovely. Staff was fun and friendly. But then again it’s their job.

          My disability is not too bad, and not much. I have peripheral neuropathy in my hands and feet; mostly feet. I can’t feel most of them. Hands is not too bad. But it makes walking all but distances of about 25 yards or less hard. Stairs are impossible. I’m not diabetic. I’m, again, a body double for Melissa McCarthy, an ADA certifiable handicap as well. I use a cane and a mobility scooter when I have to go places that those distances will be longer or I travel. I tire easily. My hands are a bit clumsy, it takes a while for me to answer doors..you get it.

          Lots of detail but the product they needed for the swag bags hadn’t arrived as of yesterday, noon. I finally called my guy in Miami and asked him to take my 2nd choice product to the venue. He did, thank God, but not until about 4 pm. I found out my receptionist and my office manager both bungled the original shipment and tried to cover it up.

          For me to get to the venue, I chose to take a cab. Parking is impossible at the venue. I waited 40 minutes for a cab. Get to the venue, it’s a decent crowd. I asked about seating, got it. Saw the Designer and her assistant, both of whom I know. Managed to get the Assistant to say hello, and then ask if I had a guest. I said no. She says well, then, ok, let me do something here to a just. I do have people who WANT these seats, you know? Made that shitty face and she was off. Ok, she has a point, but I was busy driving 90 across Alligator Alley to hope to get there on time while trying to get merchandise for them. Then, I see the designer and try to catch her eye. Nope. Just a smile, a wave..it’s all I ask. Nope, but much ado was made over others close by.

          Ok, sat down. This was a show and dinner. There was a couple across from me I was trying to talk to. Another couple came and sat next to me, and they were instant BFF’s. Young man and his GF were across the table, 1 away. I spoke to him a bit. He was interesting. He owned all these great old cars in the parking lot that were being used for props. They were playing all this great, old, classic Cuban music I remember well from when we lived in Havana. I was actually singing along to some of it. We had a brief discourse about the music, and they were gone. People WANT these seats?

          Food came, it was family style. I took just a little and tried with my neighbors again. Polite answer, then right back at it. Ok, well, my mother didn’t raise any dummies, so I know where this is going. I’m going back to the hotel. Took a good look around, and unless the designers Abuela was there, I’m the oldest person in the place.

          So, let me not ever be seduced by clearly insincere personal entreaties for these kinds of affairs. We’ll still sponsor you…you just don’t need me there. I mean damn, it’s couple hundred bags of Plantain Chips a year.

          I’m exhausted and disgusted.

          • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

            And lest someone say language is a problem; no way. Spanish is my second language, and I speak, read and write it extremely well. Most people have a hard time believing I’m not a native of Ecuador. My English is completely un-accented which makes for some funny times when a Spanish speaking person says something in front of me pertaining to me thinking I don’t speak Spanish. And, for the truly hard core, I can swear better than most men in Spanish.

          • formerlyAnon

            Ya know, you get All The Points for showing up. Never leaving the house again sounds good, but you are not yet that withdrawn from the world, judging by your interests here. Still have stuff to contribute, still can be entertained by the scene.

            Sucks that you spent so much energy on a negative experience. Some people lack basic social skills, others (I’m told Miami is almost as bad as L.A. in this, but I have no personal knowledge) are just so busy scrambling to climb the business or social ladder that they have no time for anyone they perceive as unimportant. Which will, eventually, bite them in the butt, because not every important or useful person is young, good looking or obviously A Big Deal.

            I hope your staff is going to learn something from this.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Right. And one thing for absolute certain is they, too, will some day be old and subject to whatever the world brings their way.

              Oh, yes, staff is going to have a definite learning experience. Worst being, do not EVER try to cover something up. It makes me not trust you, and if I cannot trust you, where are we?

            • formerlyAnon

              Exactly. It’s like child rearing: what you did may or may not be a big deal, but LIE TO ME about it and that is a very big deal.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Yes. To this day, my kids say they remember my position (and the consequences) on that. I used to tell them I may not like the answer, but do not lie to me. If you do lie to me, you will find out the hard way whatever it is, wasn’t worth it. I know I was tested, once, by each one. Once.

          • decormaven

            Bless you, you did go. I’m glad you got to go to the Ritz- that was a plus. So sorry for the rudeness of others. I just don’t think people understand that what you put out comes back to you eventually. People who can’t carry on polite or respectful conversation, I don’t understand. So rude! You showed class in perseverance.

          • Shibori Girl

            It must be that damn vanishing cream. At 64 sometimes I forget and use it before leaving the house and am apparently invisible to the glitterati, the posh young things and the clueless. Fortunately, when I get back home, none of those tissue paper people are there.

            Good on you for going, behaving well and then getting the hell out of Dodge.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Vanishing cream….you’re right.I forgot about that too. Damn effective, isn’t it?

          • Qitkat

            Damn, what an ordeal. And yet you took the high road. I had to take off but so glad you found the kittens here who have your back, with their wisdom and support. May this fade away into the trash pit of bad memories and new good ones take over.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Many thanks to the BK’s who(m) I thought of during the ordeal, I really did, and could feel your support; and mighty t’sking at the ill behaved…to say nothing about the models…I mean, really…Well.

              Today is my birthday, and I refuse to allow any badness today. My daughter is taking me to our local Dale Chihuly museum and workshop for a bit of wonderful. Then for some lunch at a good deli. There are no NY quality delis in Tampa Bay, Florida, but that’s what you go to NY for. Just why people come here for Cuban Sandwiches from The Columbia Restaurant. My son already called me at midnight, my time, to wish me Happy Birthday. He is getting on a plane in a few hours to come home for a month. So, no bad anything allowed for the next 30 days.

            • Qitkat

              Happy Birthday! Sounds like terrific things are coming your way. Your loving family will do you good.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Happy birthday! Feliz cumpleanos!

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Muchas gracias! Le agradezco para las felicitaciones.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Happy Birthday! I love Dale Chihuly – if I ever win the lottery, not only am I buying some pieces but I am also going to get him to teach me glassblowing.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              I only want one piece. Anything. I love the little putti he did some years ago. Think you for the birthday wishes!

            • decormaven

              Happiest of birthdays! Oooh, that Chihuly museum is great, I bet. I love his work. You have some sweet children. Enjoy your family time.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Thank you! Yes, I am blessed with some of the best kids, ever.

            • formerlyAnon

              It’s a great feeling, isn’t it? I feel like it IS a blessing, in the sense that nothing I did or tried to do could possibly be responsible for the fact that I really like my kids & how they turned out.

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Yes. Exactly. I keep saying I don’t know what happened, but I know it wasn’t all me. It was lots of wonderful people, luck and a blessing from above.

            • formerlyAnon

              Happy Birthday! Hope the day goes/went well and it’s a very good month! (Very good child, your son, to call you even though he’s going to be seeing you within a day!)

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              This is the oddest thing…the birthday gift from the sea…my brother went fishing today. Of all things, he caught 2 Cobia. One is 30 lbs, the other 20. He said on your birthday, of all times, the sea gives me 2 cobias for you. This is my favorite fish, and it’s rare to catch one. I was squealing with joy. I know it seems silly, but well. I said to my brother I will take my fish filleted, portioned and wrapped, thanks. I can’t wait. I said to him that God gave him my birthday present. The birthday fish….

            • formerlyAnon

              Birthday surprises are always great – but this one does seem to be a little more special than something you could buy in a shop!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I honestly think people have lost the art of social engagements. I go to quite a few events where I don’t know anybody (blogging things run by PRs), and I think that part of what they want me for is what you did – trying to engage with other people and make it all run smoothly and pleasantly – but the number of times I have been totally ignored by other bloggers when I try to make conversation makes me a bit hesitant to keep accepting the invitations. You don’t have to make best friends but surely it’s a basic social nicety that you introduce yourself to people at your table and make small-talk?

            • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

              Precisely. I am very good at that social basic of cocktail party chat. Or small talk. It’s not difficult, and you can and do meet some very interesting people. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has a story to tell, and if you but listen, most people will tell it to you. As you say, you don’t go to make best friends, you go to get to know other people, find out what you all have in common that put you in this room, with these people. It’s such a shame to go, and then sit like a lump or only talk to the person you came with. It makes me wonder if we aren’t seeing another effect of the isolation social media and the Internet can and are having. The number of young people who have pronounced social anxiety these days is just shocking. As a society, I don’t see the opportunities for social engagements much. We don’t have cocktail parties, dinner parties, or even many informal opportunities. Unless they are happening and I’m not invited, which isn’t surprising.

            • formerlyAnon

              No, I don’t have a reason, but it’s not you just not being invited, I think. I have a varied acquaintance – not huge numbers, but certainly several dozens – of people who I know well enough to hear about their social life, even if I am not part of it. I can count – literally – on ONE hand the number of those people who EVER – even once a year – host more than three or four other people at a time for a social gathering. I’m just as guilty – I see at least eight or nine friends socially more than three times a year, and a number more less frequently, but I can’t remember the last time I invited more than three of them to something. And usually I see them one-on-one or one-on-two.

            • decormaven

              I haven’t had a party of 10 or more in a while, but plan to do so this summer since I’ve been able to do more in the yard. I usually host a gathering of 3-5 women each month; I love to entertain. It’s good to have people over- things tend to get straightened, etc. when you know company is coming.

          • KinoEye

            What terrible manners those people have. Everyone does have a story to tell, and that’s the best part of social events like that. For me, at least. Had I been there, you would have had a hard time getting rid of me if I’d found out you once lived in Havana. Fascinating.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Thank you for that, seriously. Besos.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        What Qitkat said!

        And remember: Bitter Kittens don’t wear beige!

        • Qitkat

          Hey girl! How are things going? You’ve been on my mind.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            On the upside of okay, I think. Once I make it through Seattle next week (more on my mixed feelings about that trip is…below? above?…somewhere else on here!), I plan on a serious sit-down and reconnoiter session with myself. I can’t go on this way (said in my best soap opera voice), and I need to figure it out.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      A fond RIP for Tom Tierney, creator of many, many celeb and historical paper doll books, some of which have lived in my collection. The New York Times ran a fine obit for Mr. Tierney in today’s paper.

      • Qitkat

        His name was unfamiliar to me, but I’ve seen his work. Fascinating obit. I loved playing paper dolls as a child; my best friend and I would sit on her second-floor sunporch and have fun for hours.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I too was a great fan of paper dolls as a child. If a child can lust, I lusted after the newest paper doll books and collections. I still remember a Sleeping Beauty paper doll set that was done with 18th century style costumes-sigh.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Oh, dear. When I worked at Barnes & Noble, I looked at his books! And own a couple.

      • decormaven

        Thanks for this info. Will go look at his obit; they always do such a nice job.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Tierney came across as someone who was really comfortable in his own skin, and enjoyed life-qualities to admire, for sure.

    • Sarah

      Hello, kittens! I am working on Saturday, again. I am ten minutes from my lunch break and I’ve already been deeply insulted, treated like a damned servant, and chewed out twice by the library-going public. I am a 20 year customer service pro, but DAMN y’all bitches are trying my patience fiercely.

      I just watched Gravity for the first time last night, though, and I really liked it. I mean, it was cheesy at parts, but that was some good directing, for sure. We tend to default to goofy comedies, and I wanted something different, and I’m glad I finally saw it. In other news, the Mr. and I are enjoying a new resurgence of Luv, which is excellent because two weeks ago I was ready to kick his ass out for good. He found a new job, but it may not work out because the owner of the restaurant seems to not like the general Cut Of His Jib even though the kitchen staff are fine. Actively looking, but at least provisionally employed, so that’s good.
      I’m having to cram a LOT of homework in in the next week because the following I’m taking the WHOLE WEEK off, and going to some Phish shows and then to northern VA to visit with my sister who is coming sans-fam to stay at my brother’s house so we can all have a sibling reunion. We are going to the Nat’l Gallery to see Degas/Cassatt, Andrew Wyeth, and some Landscape Watercolors, then to Annapolis to visit our mom’s final resting place. I never take a week off, and a coworker said “do you even ever GO on vacation” and I realized I have a boatload of leave and instead of just a day here and there, I could be work-less for eight in a row! So exciting.

      First, though: The art of Germany and the Lowlands in the Renaissance beckons.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        People are assholes. Except us. We are only assholes when the situation warrants and then we’re not really assholes because it is necessary so we are more like heroes.

        Your vacation plans sound delightful! And yay! for the Lurve.

        • Sarah

          People are definitely disrespectful as shit. Far be it from them to be thankful that the services at the public library are FREE for ALL. It’s a good thing I’m not in Mr. Hyde mode (which happens when I’ve had a few too many) because JEEZ. I shall remain Jekyll-y until 6 pm, then I’m not making any promises. I am excited for the week after next, and will attempt to be gracious until then. Especially since I’ve realized that it may very well be That Time o’ the month soon, so perhaps my latent fury-meter is rather high at the moment.

          • Shibori Girl

            I especially don’t get the disrespect for librarians…the Heros of privacy rights, free speech, and information about anything and everything! You all rock. Just ignore the terminally rude. When they die they go to a very dark place with inadequate desk lamps for reading. An eternity of boredom awaits them.

            • Sarah

              It is the crime of self-absorption, mostly. Just the concept that you might have to *gasp* wait for something is more than people can bear, apparently. And that I can’t read their minds, of course.

              I read an article about how people from Eastern religions in particular find the West’s lack of patience shocking once, and I was so ashamed to be from a country where people are so unable to sit still in their skins for even a moment, or allow other people their turns with grace.

            • decormaven

              It is because our internal clocks are off due to the “instant” of the Internet and texts. People look down at their screens, lose the true understanding of time, then wonder why you haven’t “instantly” responded. I make conscious effort to be as flexible as possible in line-waiting situations because I can tell so many people are stressed out. Mainly because they can’t look away from the screen. Hate to say it, but not many were meant to multi-task.

      • Qitkat

        This is a good reminder for all of us to treat our public servants with greater respect. Especially those from whom our services are FREE! I hope your day has begun to improve.

        Sounds like the vacation you need. Yay for sibling reunions. And the National Gallery. I ams jealous. So many years ago. Have a super time!

        Double yay for the excellent Luvs with Mr Sarah, we want y’all to make it!

        • Sarah

          Thankyouthankyou. It is truly amazing how much having a Colossal Monkey removed from one’s back and a far less stressful job can effect a complete turnaround in your general demeanor.

      • formerlyAnon

        Gosh. That week off sounds EPIC! I miss living outside DC (yes, it was 2 years 30 years ago and I still miss some things about DC) and the access to the free FREE museums. I went to the National Gallery a lot.

        I am glad the Mr. is back on a more even keel. If he is to be, potentially, a partner in any future child rearing, it would be best were he an
        easy keeper.

        One Beautiful Thing about my library job is that I am in tech services and Do Not Deal With The Public. Good luck with the art and the writing. (And the thesis, if you’re still banging away on that.)

        • Sarah

          I am, and I appreciate your well wishes. I grew up outside DC, so I didn’t know that museums WEREN’T free until I was nineteen and went on a trip with my pals. We were in Chicago and wanted to see their Institute museum, and it COST. I was floored. Mr. has one excellent feature that I am hoping rubs off on me: He gets over stuff really fast. Not a grudge holder, he. So, if we have a heinous fight, for instance, he’ll be over it in a matter of hours, while I will be wondering if it is a Harbinger of Future Doom.

          I like customer service, usually – I have passed up tech svcs & materials management training because of that, but yeah – sometimes it’s a bitch.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Hope you have a wonderful, battery-charging, relaxing vacation. I love Andrew Wyeth. Master Bedroom is one of my all-time favorites. I usually gravitate toward more colorful prints but that one is just so peaceful.

        • Sarah

          Thanks! I like color, too, but what turns me on is realism. N.C, Andrew, and Jamie are all favorites of mine for that reason. There’s a beautiful book about them – “Wondrous Strange: The Wyeth Tradition” that is really worth looking at.

    • Qitkat

      My beach adventure concluded nearly three weeks ago now with a week in a cute, shabby-chic blue and white decor studio cottage on a quiet inlet of Puget Sound on Bainbridge Island. An old-fashioned claw foot tub, calm water views, and a full kitchen allowed us to have a restful time. One day was spent in Seattle, taking the ferry and getting around in taxis from the Space Needle and the Chihuly Museum of Glass to Pike Place Market. The views were OK from the SN, Seattle’s skyline can’t quite compare to some other cities, the glass museum and gardens were spectacular, PPM was crowded and less than ideal for us, we could hardly find anything, and I likened it to a rabbit warren. The downtown area of BI, called Windsor, has several blocks of good restaurants, a waterfront, several museums, boutiques and various shops. Very charming and friendly. Spent a Saturday morning at a lovely little farmer’s market, with so much fresh local produce. Wineries and breweries too. Everything is so green, with tons of flowers, hydrangeas are especially lush in the Northwest. We ate fantastic oysters, local crab and many different types of fish. I read three books, no TV, little internet. Watched the boats, and visited a lovely memorial to Japanese internment victims from the island in WWII. An excellent art museum, just one year old; met the local artist of a moving, moody ceramics exhibit. Charming bookstore, very personalized to the area. Lots of creative folks reside there, writers, artists, gardeners. Relaxing, eating almost too well. A crabby, stressful trip back through Seattle to Seatac and very very late arrival home, but nothing can erase how a beachy vacation restores the soul, as Biting Panda said earlier. Super memories.

      Uncles T&Lo, I hope y’all have a fabulous trip to your beach!

      • Sarah

        Wow, that sounds just divine. I don’t care for the crowds at Pike Place either. One has to visit, once, if only for the fish-throwing, but it is crazy in there. I have a claw tub, but it not being in a beautiful seaside cottage must remove some of the romance. I never have time to relax in it. The fact that you can speak so nicely of a vacation almost three weeks past really speaks to how pleasant it must’ve been! Good for you.

        • Shibori Girl

          I only go to Pike Place Market on a weekday morning around 9 AM….or with out of town guests. It is really nice when mostly unpopulated!

      • formerlyAnon

        That sounds wonderful. A whole week in one place, with kitchen, and time to wander sounds like heaven.

      • decormaven

        Oh, heaven! Fresh oysters- the small, sweet kind, yes? I am yearning to go for a time of maximum nature and minimal internet. I love being connected, but there’s something about quiet and nature that is healing and life-affirming. Very necessary in this world- for me, anyway.

      • rainwood1

        Glad you had a good time in our little corner of the PNW. We have a place on a different island, but Bainbridge is quite nice too.

        • Qitkat

          Looking at the map, there are so many other islands in the area I would love to visit. We used VRBO and they seem to be everywhere, a really good experience.

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        You make me want to come out there again! So glad you’ve had a lovely, restful time. The heart and soul need it.

        Spent a lovely afternoon at my local and new to me Chihuly museum after a lovely lunch with my daughter. Small, but spectacular. Nothing like the one in Portland, though.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Kittens – I am tired and slightly dehydrated. After a long week of cherry preserving (oh my god so many cherries) in the highest temperatures of the summer so far, with a VERY cranky and uncommunicative husband, today we went to the grounds of Blenheim Palace for the annual CLA Game Fair. This is like a county show designed by Prince Charles – more hedge-laying demonstrations, less fried food. Fun, but I realised we walked for 5 hours (and didn’t see everything) on just a crab sandwich and 2 glasses of Pimms. I am now on kir made with home-made cherry wine. But toddler-strength SPF 50 continues to be my co-pilot.

      • Sarah

        Mm. Cherries. I hope someone is less cranky and you get a lovely nap soon.

      • decormaven

        Whew! That sounds like a long day on not too many liquids. Be sure to continue to fortify with water and spirits.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I’ve drunk about 2l of water and I am yet to pee (TMI) – more water it is!

          • formerlyAnon

            Damn. That IS dehydrated! Sounds like a productive week and interesting day. (i now have to Google “hedge-laying” It sounds suitably agricultural and ecological for Prince Charles)

            And may the mister’s temperament have a better weekend & week.

      • Gatto Nero

        I visited Blenheim Palace many years ago and remember walking the beautiful grounds. It was a grey day, a bit of drizzle. The peacocks made unearthly noises.
        Hope you are rehydrated and feeling better.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I am, thank you!

      • Alloy Jane

        Any particular reason for preserving so many cherries? Do you grow them? I <3 cherries. I will eat them until I'm sick if given the opportunity. Not sure if you have them in your neck of the woods, but they make water bottles with a built-in filter. I have a Brita bottle and it makes what is normally gross tap water actually palatable. Even penny-flavoured Disneyland water becomes tasty.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          We rent a cherry tree, as part of a scheme to preserve English orchards, and picked just shy of 16kgs last weekend, so most of my week was sorting, cleaning, preserving…

          Those Brita bottles are fantastic. It was just poor planning on our part – didn’t even think about how hot it was.

          • Alloy Jane

            Oooh that is too cool. Is your food supply being overtaken by GMOs like it is in the States or is there just dwindling interest in agriculture over there? Also, that is a crapload of cherries, no wonder you’re preserving them. Are you making jam? Drying? Freezing? Canning? I’d like to try my hand at preserving but I only put down enough tomato plants to supply us with fresh.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              The large supermarkets have a bit of a stranglehold on the farmers – they have managed to put some out of business by choosing cheaper imported produce, or produce in quantities that most farms here can’t meet. You get one bad season and many farmers can’t keep going.

              What *didn’t* I make! 3 types of jam, bottled in syrup, bottled in alcohol, a sweet & sour pickle, frozen, candied, in pie filling, in a fruit mincemeat for Christmas… and quite a lot fresh!

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          You can go cherry picking in Beaumont in Riverside County. Our family did that when I was a kid and it’s one of my fondest memories.

          • Alloy Jane

            Wut??? I had no idea cherries could grow in this area, I’ll have to look that up, thanks! Last year we went blueberry picking in the Oxnard area and it was absolutely wonderful. It was a great weekend and I hope we can go again this year and drag a few more family members with us.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          That makes one more with the cherry love. Once a year we get the beautiful Rainier cherries, and I buy and eat with impunity. Also love the big, dark Bing cherries that pop so satisfyingly in your mouth.

          Alicia, my sympathies on the sore hands, but bless you and your husband for saving that bearing cherry tree. Would that more people would do it or have the opportunity to do so.

          Re-hydrate today. Being dehydrated can cause ever so many things to go wonky in the body. Things you don’t think of. For example. I had for years been troubled with a thick white coating on the tongue. No manner of treatments worked, Dentist and Doc had no idea. Saw something on ‘The Doctors’ one day..a show I rarely watch..and someone else had the same problem. The panel said it’s simple; you’re dehydrated. Well, my 8+ glasses of water daily for a month later, it’s gone.

          • KinoEye

            Bing cherries, or mana from heaven? Love those.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Yes – kept going on a lot of water today!

            We don’t get Bing cherries here, and only occasionally imported American Rainier. Our tree is a Colney, big, dark, sweet cherries.

      • kittentoes

        Cherry pitting is exhausting! My hand has only now started to heal.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Good Grips cherry pitter – so good!

    • spirit52

      Make it magical!

    • Lisalady161

      Have a fantabulous time, uncles!

    • Sobaika

      I think the Bitter Kittens will excommunicate me. I’ve dyed my hair purple!

      • Janet B

        Hehehe
        Wear it with attitude!
        (I bet you have the coloring to support it.)

      • SewingSiren

        Personally, I love bright unnatural hair colors.

      • formerlyAnon

        I bet you look fantastic! And carve out your personal space trom the herd!

      • decormaven

        Enjoy! I bet it looks great. What shade?

        • Sobaika

          It’s a bit of a gradient, dark on top and fades to lavender towards the bottom. I have pictures on my Instagram (same handle as here).

          A year ago I would never have done this, but I blame it on living in Brooklyn.

          • decormaven

            It looks great! It suits you well.

          • kerryev

            Pretty! I like the gradient idea. I did purple for a couple years when I was a teenager (decades ago) and loved it. Then I went to college somewhere sunny, got the teeniest bit tan, and that deep violet was suddenly awful on me.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            That sounds gorgeous!

      • KinoEye

        Excellent! I checked it out on Instagram. It’s gorgeous and I’m jealous.

    • CatLady

      Enjoy your vacation T&Lo! I haven’t had one myself for about 8 years now. I went through a years-long rough patch but I’m starting to see little signs of improvement lately.

      • formerlyAnon

        Improvement is good.

        • CatLady

          It’s a real relief to see that!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Glad the rough patch is smoothing out!

        • CatLady

          Thank you, I think in a year or two I’ll be in a good spot.

      • decormaven

        The wheel does turn, eventually. Glad it is rolling more your way.

        • CatLady

          Thanks, that’s a good phrase to remember when things are going badly.

    • Alloy Jane

      Well, apparently dementors are breeding in LA because this is the third overcast day and it even sprinkled a bit on the coast. I hope it rains for real because all of CA is dried up and idiots keep watering their stupid lawns like it matters.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        The weather has been so weird. We had summer throughout this winter and spring and now it’s June gloom in the middle of summer. Did you hear the bit on KNX today about swimming pools? Some guy was justifying them by saying that it takes less water to maintain a pool than to water the grass it replaces in your yard. Must have been president of the pool builders association.

      • decormaven

        Fingers crossed for rain headed your way.

      • KinoEye

        The dementors were in Texas, too. I wore a sweater on Friday. A sweater. In July. In texas. It was incredible, and it’s been raining off and on ever since. Hope you all get some rain, too!

    • kittentoes

      Back from whirlwind SF trip. Does this bar do milkshakes? I can’t get my blood sugar up.

    • Kitten Mittons

      This week was long but ended on a positive note job hunting – wise. Too early for excitement, but a positive hint of an opportunity.

      We’ve had my nephew and his friend over all weekend, and rain canceled our trip to the water park. Soooooo, we’ve been finding ways to keep two 15 year olds and a two year old busy simultaneously. I admit that I was…..not convinced that I would still have my sanity by today, but it has been a blast. We’ve had a great time, and they adore the baby, who returns the affection. The friend is more well-behaved than the nephew, even, and I’ve had glimpses of things to come for our own little boy down the road (farts really are hilarious to boys on a cellular level, I think). Just a very fun weekend, with a happy full house.

      Hope everyone else is having a good one as well, including our vacationing hosts. Enjoy!

    • Gatto Nero

      Dear TLo — hope that it’s sunny and breezy where you are, and that you’re enjoying yummy cocktails seaside, great food, and some well-deserved R&R.

    • carnush

      Have a fabulous vacation! I wish I was closer to a beach myself.