T LOunge

Posted on June 20, 2014

It’s Friday in the summer and we’re in the mood for some cool SWELLEGANCE!

 

 

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TLounge-6-20-2014-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO (2)Cromlix House Hotel, Perthshire, Scotland

 

 

We’re wiped. Come back tomorrow for our Orange is the New Black review and on Sunday for our Orphan Black review. BECAUSE THE FUN NEVER ENDS.

And how are we? And by “we,” we mean you. For once.

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: cromlix.com]

    • Aidan B

      Hello kittens! I am nursing a very sore thumb thanks to a nasty slip with a serrated kitchen knife a couple of nights ago…hubby to be is a great nurse, thank goodness. Otherwise, the only update i have is that the much-discussed (last time I was in the lounge) engagement pictures had to be pushed back because of weather. But at least I got my shopping out of the way!

      • Grumpy Girl

        Did you find a dress? (Do I remember that you were looking for one for the pictures?)

        • Aidan B

          Yes! I got a super-flattering red strapless with a flared skirt. So that’ll be for the fancy pics, and then jeans and a neutral blouse for the less-fancy ones.

          • Grumpy Girl

            Sounds lovely! I love red.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yay for finding the dress. Super flattering is EXACTLY the right note to strike.

      • kimmeister

        Eek! Sorry about the knife incident! That’s why I’m a bit phobic about sharp objects.

        • Aidan B

          Thanks, it’s much better now! We were just freaked because it was bleeding so much that we couldn’t tell how bad it was. Once we got it under control we realized I wouldn’t need stitches.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I cut myself on a serrated knife last year – couldn’t believe how much it bled! Glad yours was also just messy.

    • Grumpy Girl

      I am abandoned tonight. All week we’ve been planning for company coming into town, and would go out to eat tonight. I come home to find a sign on the back door that they are out already, and I should call if they want me to bring them something back. (I do not think drinks are available for take out.) So I ate leftovers and await going out to a music festival tomorrow.

      • Aidan B

        Well that stinks, sorry! Hope you have a better time tomorrow. Which festival are you headed to?

        • Grumpy Girl

          Its not bad having the house and space to myself. Just not what I was expecting for tonight. It’s a local festival, held at a Garage Mahal. Mr Grump’s and the first born’s bands are both playing, with the big feature from out of town being Little Ozzie (but I’ll be long back home by then.).

          • formerlyAnon

            Oh that sounds like fun! Hope it really is.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I would be quite a grumpy girl about that – although some nights eating leftovers is just what you need!

    • MilaXX

      Tonsils swollen thanks to allergies so it’s soup and liquids for me. Loving those teal double chairs in the TLounge this evening, would kill to have one in my house.

      • Grumpy Girl

        Sorry about the tonsils.

        We’ve had some pretty shades of blue upholstery in the past few lounges, haven’t we?

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Be kind to yourself, sip those liquids and be cozy. BTW-I too would love for one of those chairs to magically appear in chez Bitchy

        • MilaXX

          Trying to convince the ins co to remove them. They are really more trouble than they are worth.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I had a series of strep throat infections in my teens, and eventually had my tonsils removed at the end of my sophomore year in college. Truthfully, I can count on the fingers of one hand how many strep infections I’ve had in the 40 years since surgery. I hope your insurance will come around. It beats paying for antibiotics and losing sick leave and/or pay.

          • Coolekat

            No cons. Had mine out in the dark ages when I was a kid and when ether was drug of choice. Only down side was they took my adenoids too so I have a hard time blowing up a balloon. Seriously. I had strep throat four or five times a winter and we lived in Florida! You don’t need them.

            • MilaXX

              They’ve changed the reg so even though I get them often I don’t get them enough to convince them to take them out. As my allergies get worse, so do the flare ups.

            • Lisa_Co

              As a child and young adult I constantly had tonsillitis. After considering surgery, I finally tried an allergist who injected me with small amounts of my throat bacteria, first once a week then less frequently. That seemed to do the trick and I have never had more than a few bouts with tonsillitis in the 30 years since.

          • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

            Be careful what you wish for: tonsillitis is not much fun, but I have to tell you that a tonsillectomy as an adult is a serious operation with an extended recovery time–no joke. My brother-in-law had his out when he was 50+ and he was miserable for the better part of a month. I know it’s very hard to “qualify”, if that’s the right word, for a tonsillectomy any more, you pretty much have to be sick continuously for something like six months. Have you tried the naturopathic stuff, like horehound drops, slippery elm tea, etc.?

            • kimmeister

              My 40-something coworker was off for about a month for the same reason. It was unnerving that the story of the child in Oakland who died after a tonsillectomy broke right before that.

            • MilaXX

              My sib had hers done at 40 and yeah she was pretty miserable. They get infected easily and with my allergies if my sinuses rebel, the post nasal drip causes them to swell uncomfortably. I think I’ve tried everything, including the ever so disgusting neti pot. It’s just that every so often they still get infected and swollen.

          • Sarah

            Hope you can find some relief! Bad tonsils. Unswell!

      • kimmeister

        My allergy issues led me to purchase and use a nasal rinse kit for the first time. What an odd sensation! But it seems to have helped.

      • Kent Roby

        Dislike! Get better soon!

        • MilaXX

          Thanks!

      • formerlyAnon

        Hope you’re feeling better as the weekend progresses.

        • MilaXX

          Thanks. I just have to get medicated enough to keep the sinuses from dripping, but not so dopey I can’t function.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Hope you feel better soon, that’s no fun.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      Another in a continuing, endless string of days with the same weather forecast: hot, humid, chance of severe thunderstorms in the afternoon. It’s really disgusting weather….I can practically hear the mosquitoes breeding. Welcome to the south in the summer.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        We had a one day respite from the hot, humid, storms in the afternoon/evening routine that is settling in here in the Maryland suburbs of D.C. The sticky stuff is supposed to move back in tomorrow.
        The lounge is lovely, and I daresay that Scotland would be much cooler -beam me up, Scotty!

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          It poured here in Biblical proportions for about an hour between 10 and 11PM, so I bet this is headed your way, @bitchybitchybitchy:disqus…..so sorry. I’m not sure my hair has been un-frizzy for the past 3 weeks. Damn humidity.

          • Sarah

            OH man. I look like Bozo the Clown. Last week, I carefully curled my whole head with a curling iron (it is already curly, but I like to make it more…controlled) and I walked to dinner outside, only to find that it had poofed on the way. Ugh.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I inherited thick but fine, straight hair from my mom’s side of the family, so when it’s humid it just becomes limp, with a capital L.

      • @Biting Panda

        My yard is a steamy swap, every evening. I’m so over it.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Where do you live?

          • @Biting Panda

            ATL

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I have a friend going to Atlanta next week – I am trying to convince him to smuggle me in his luggage so I can come and see you!

            • @Biting Panda

              Steamer trunk!

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I’m pretty sure you have to pay extra baggage for a 120kg steamer trunk… I will think light thoughts.

        • Sarah

          Mine too. With slugs. Gross.

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        I understand. I’m in the Tampa area. This is the time of year I prefer to hibernate. Stay in the AC, don’t go out until after dark. All the thunder, lightning, power outages….and I wonder why people move here.

    • @Biting Panda

      If I could have a superpower, it would be teleportation. I want to be there. Right there. Right now.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Me, too. How are you holding up?

        • @Biting Panda

          Tonight I’ve got a milkshake and Laverne Cox on Fashion Police. The kids 3 & 4 are still out of town. Kids 1 & 2 are headed back to their moms. It’s *finally* just me and the animals. I don’t know whether to celebrate or mourn. I’ve decided to not drink, lest I drown.

          • marlie

            You know where to find us, if you need company of the virtual kind.

          • formerlyAnon

            You sound like you’re being smart. Small comfort. I know. Been there.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            You’ll probably find that you alternate between celebration and mourning for a while. Having children to be brave for will help you through your days. It’s the nights that are difficult. But you seem to be a sensible person who will steam through this difficult time and come out the other end stronger and more resilient. You have the support and admiration of a lot of folks here. Don’t forget that.

            • @Biting Panda

              Thank you, love.
              xo

          • Sarah

            You are in my thoughts, BP.

          • decormaven

            A milkshake is a wonderful comfort food. Sounds like you are bearing up, and I’m glad you have had some alone time. Are you journaling? I’m sure there are a lot of feelings, and a journal will help you gain perspective on them. Know the BKs are with you as you move through the process.

    • Musicologie

      I love this venue–so much light!

      My birthday is this weekend, and we’re arranging having a meal out without the baby. I’ve been looking forward to this for a looooong time. It’s been the roughest year of my life, but it’s also been much happier than my other rough years. A baby will do that to ya.

      • heybethpdx

        happy birthday! Be sure to take your time out at the meal and ignore all compulsion to rush home to baby!

        • random_poster

          Great advice, there.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        HappyBirthday!

      • marlie

        Happy birthday!

      • Violina23

        I hear ya! Enjoy your time away, even though as parents we do anything/everything for our kids, you are still allowed to think of yourself from time to time.

        • MaggieMae

          Right! Put your oxygen mask on first!

      • Janet B

        Happy birthday!
        Enjoy your time out.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Happy birthday and enjoy your special dinner! MWAH!

      • Lisa_Co

        Happy birthday!

      • formerlyAnon

        Happy birthday! Do whatever it turns out you need. or the closest you can figuret out..

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Happy, happy B-day!!!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Happy birthday! Enjoy your night out!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Happy Birthday!

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        Happy Birthday! The change into parenthood is rather a shock, no matter how well you think you are prepared for it. Year 1 is the biggest learning curve of your life, IMHO. Good you’re finding the joy. There is an abundance of it mixed in. Enjoy your birthday meal.

      • Aidan B

        Happy birthday! Hope you managed to have a great day.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      Greetings, fellow BK’s! Last night I was telling Mr. B3 about some of the actors who are on the irrational hate list, and when I mentioned Gwyneth Paltrow, without batting an eye Mr. B3 said, “Well, that goes without saying”

      • Violina23

        Mine would have said “That’s Pepper Potts, right?”

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          he knows his “Iron Man” characters!

          • Violina23

            Oh yes. When I was in labor with my first baby, the first “Iron Man” movie was on tv in the hospital and he went “Oh, this is a good movie, you should watch it.” I refused to watch it for about 3 years :-)

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              That would have had me swearing off the movie!

            • DebbieLovesShoes

              I’m sorry; I cracked up when I read that, incredulous. “Uh, a little BUSY HERE!”

            • Violina23

              I can laugh about it… 4.5 years later ;-)

    • heybethpdx

      A friend is going to stay at a hotel VERY like that one when she is in Scotland later this year. I will make sure she explores the bar thoroughly (not that she needs any coaching!).

      I am very ready for the weekend after having 2 weeks in Hawaii, first at a family wedding (which was so lovely and I got to wear a dress and some cleverly deployed pops of color) and then lolling with friends. I have temporarily given up alcohol and sugar and feel very sorry for myself!

      • decormaven

        Ouchie- alcohol and sugar? That’s deprivation of the highest order. Good luck with that.

        • heybethpdx

          Thanks! I realized I had a drink (or two, or more) every day for two weeks and thought perhaps I could tone it down a little since I’m trying to drop some weight! I cracked and had a little wine on Saturday and a shandy yesterday with the World Cup. And Wednesday I’m hosting a three-years memorial for a friend’s hubby, so there will be MUCH wine, and this weekend..also a lot of wine in the forecast. So I was noble for six days at least :)

    • Sobaika

      It’s been one of THOSE weeks. Gimme drinks, please.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Drama-rama?

      • Sarah

        Yes, I agree. I had to work this morning, but drinks are on the menu for tonight. Lots of them.

    • GeoDiva

      Picked up the illness that my husband and two daughters had earlier in the week, so it looks like my weekend will spent in the couch blowing my nose and trying not to hack up a lung.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Hope you recover quickly!

      • decormaven

        Healing vibes headed your way.

    • Gatto Nero

      Thank you for asking, TLo. Me, I’m dying to visit the Cromlix House Hotel, in Perthshire, Scotland.
      How are you?

    • Jackie4g

      Loving that teal and gold, like a Vermeer painting. I had my first pain free week in a long long time. I have a diagnosis and there is a plan, and the relief is palpable. Without trying to bore you all into a coma, it’s Rheumatoid Arthritis and the plan is to put it into remission. This is accomplished with a two fold solution. One drug is used for an anti-imflammatory and another is a disease modifying drug. Thus besides Vitamin D, iron, some new vitamin type things I had never heard of before (Reservatrol, L-arginine and folic acid). So happy I finally know what the deal is, and now I can go about my business. I am going to need new knees in the recognizable future, no matter what, but the cortisone shots I got made a huge difference. I can actually participate in SUMMER! Happy Solstice, everyone.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        It must be such a relief to have a diagnosis and a plan in place-good news! Does having RA pose any complications for knee replacement surgery?

        • Jackie4g

          It is a huge relief, thank you. As for the knees, not so far. I have the osteo arthritis in my knees, but no time frame for the replacements. I got the Euflexxa gel shots last month, but the stuff that really made the difference was the cortisone. The Primary doesn’t want to see me for another four months, and I see the R.A. Dr. on Wednesday, so I will add that question to my list. You know, my mental picture is of a healthy 40 year old and the revolting truth is I am a normally aging 64 year old, and I keep forgetting that some of this stuff is just what happens after you’ve been around for a while. Now and again, I have to laugh at myself and my expectations.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I’m 63 and sometimes I swear I dont know who that woman in the mirror is-my mental image of myself stopped at 40, too.
            I had my right knee replaced in 2008(osteoarthritis) and the new knee is great-it really did give me my life back.

          • Janet B

            Funny how the 40yo morphs into someone you don’t recognize.

            • Jackie4g

              Yeah, funny that way.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yeah. Not (yet, I hope) your age but definitely surprised increasingly often by the difference between the 35-40 year old in my head and the miles my body actually has on it.

          • decormaven

            You have a great positive spirit, so please continue to nurture it. RA treatment is helpful, but it’s a bit of a do to get all the therapies in harmony. Best to you.

      • marlie

        Glad to hear that there’s a plan. From my sister and my mom, I know that getting rid of the uncertainty and just having a plan of action helps alleviate some of the stress. Hope the treatment really starts to help you feel better, and that you’re able to enjoy the summer!

        • Jackie4g

          Thank you, Marlie.

      • @Biting Panda

        I hope the road rises to meet you. Be well.

        • Jackie4g

          Thank you, BP.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Hang in there and don’t forget to let the ones that love you, give you the help you may need. Resveratrol is something which is found in grape skins and therefore it occurs naturally in red wine, so have a glass now and then, secure in the knowledge you are helping treat your ailment!

        • Jackie4g

          Thanks Ellen. Unfortunately, red wine invariably gives me a headache, so I tend to avoid it, but if some is offered I will toast you and thank you for your kind words.

      • demidaemon

        Good to hear. My aunt also has RA and she’s still going a million miles an hour, so hopefully it won’t slow you down at all.

      • formerlyAnon

        Yay for pain free. Even MORE yay for KNOWING. And at least knee replacement is a procedure that (in my experience) most people consider worthwhile. (Unlike, say, back surgery which seems to have more mixed results.)

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        A diagnosis and a plan makes such a difference! Glad you can enjoy your summer.

      • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        Just a thought. Have you considered Synvisc shots instead of or to prolong replacement surgery? My 91 y/o mother gets them in the knees. For her it’s worked very well for probably 10 years. Yes, she’s had several courses of the shots.

        • decormaven

          Another vote for Synvisc or Suprax injections. It can buy some time until TKR surgery.

      • Aidan B

        Good luck to you!

    • marlie

      I’m looking forward to a low-key weekend around here. I have to get work done on Saturday, but Sunday is “knit in public day,” so my friends and I are going to the park Sunday afternoon! Though, we knit in public every week, so it’s nothing new for us. :)

      I hope all of the kittens have a restful and relaxing weekend! xo

    • Paula Pertile

      Eating Chinese take-out, and bemoaning all the shows that are over for the season … Fargo, Louie, Game of Thrones.
      A weekend of drawing and painting and shampooing cat throw-up out of the rugs awaits.

      • kimmeister

        My girl cat has been gifting me a hairball almost every day this week! I used the last of the carpet cleaner today. I get what you’re dealing with! I just wish we weren’t having company both Sat and Sun.

        • Sarah

          I have four, so somebody pukes pretty much every day. Lovely little animals, aren’t they?

        • Paula Pertile

          So glad I bought a ‘do it yourself’ rug shampooer vacuum thing a while back. Also – spray Windex (or a solution of ammonia and water, or white vinegar and water – google it) on a spot, then lay a damp white towel on top, and iron on high for a minute. The spot will magically get sucked up into the towel. Cool and gross. Doesn’t always work on the first try, but its a fun thing to do when you’re in that kind of mood.

      • Sarah

        We did not realize that Fargo was ending this week. We pulled up the recording on the DVR and saw that it said “Season Finale” and my fella was like “NOOOOO!” With the way it played out, are we even sure there will be another season, or was this a one-off?

        • Paula Pertile

          I think they will continue the show, but not this story or with this cast. I think they intend to do a whole new show each season. Allison Tolman (Molly) and … the creator?(sorry, spacing out) were on Fresh Air talking about it the other day. It will be hard to match or top this first season though, won’t it?

          • Paula Pertile

            googled something, and just found this quote from Warren Littlefield & Noah Hawley – “We could be convinced to go back and freeze our ass off again – yes,” Littlefield said. “When we asked Hawley if the same cast would return for a second season, he was quick to answer: “I don’t think we’ve settled on it yet.”

            So there you go then. Seems like those fellas haven’t made up their mind yet.

            • Sarah

              Hmmm. Good to know they might have something in the works, but I agree that it might be hard to top Malvo and Nygaard’s characters.

    • Jennifer Bober

      Hoping for a productive weekend at the sewing machine. Lots of historical stuff to get done in the next few weeks, so it’s nose to the bobbin winder. If the weather is anywhere near as spectacular as today, it will be windows open and hand finishing sitting under the umbrella in the back yard.

      Stay fabulous kittens.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        What period are you sewing for?

        • Jennifer Bober

          I have five 14th century Swedish tunics to sew for a member of my local group of a living history organization. If you look up images of the Bocksten Man, that’s what I’m doing. I also have to remake all of my late 15th century French working woman’s owns. It’s lovely to have the problem of needing to take them in, but it is still a problem unless I want things to fall off!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            That sounds like a fascinating project-ditto for the 15th century women’s gowns. We know a woman who has worked with one of the local historical homes/museums who does 17th, 18th and 19th century period clothing.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            This all sounds so interesting!

          • decormaven

            Totally in awe. I bow down to your handiwork and machine skills.

            • Jennifer Bober

              Awww, thanks! My grandmother taught me to hand sew as a kid and mom taught me machine sewing. In college, I got a job in the costume shop for the school’s theatre and I added patterning and drafting skills. It’s fun and when you do living history as a hobby, highly useful!

              I did get a second tunic done, so I’m less panicked about whether or not I’ll finish. I also found out the person for whom I’m making them is like a little kid at Christmas after just trying on the muslin mock-ups. He’s so excited to see them finished, which is really sweet and makes the work worth it.

            • decormaven

              That’s wonderful. It must be a thrill to recreate something that helps someone inhabit a specific point in history.

    • Janet B

      I’ve missed everyone here.
      My daughter magically pulled a couple of passable grades out of thin air or somewhere else and graduated from high school last week. My parents came to visit for two weeks to celebrate that feat. I am still recovering from the invasion of family and hope to be back to ‘normal’ by Monday.
      I’d love a celebratory glass of champagne in this gorgeous bar.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Mazel tov!

        • Janet B

          Thank you.

      • formerlyAnon

        Congrats to her and more so to you in your capacity as mom!

        • Janet B

          Thank you.
          As I told her, I’ll always be Mom. Don’t expect me to stop worrying.

          • formerlyAnon

            My line is “I’m your mother. You’re stuck with it.”

            • Janet B

              Thanks for the good laugh.

          • Anna

            My mom says that to me too :)

            Congrats to you and your daughter!

            • Janet B

              Mine too!
              :)

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Congratulations to her and well done to you as the power behind the throne!

        • Janet B

          Thanks Alicia.
          I was so frustrated that the ‘smart’ child was flirting with failing.

          • Sarah

            If she’s smart, then she’ll really enjoy being out of the structure of high school. I hope she plans to continue learning so she can find out what a joy it is to choose your own path and be truly inspired by what you study. (Spoken from the perspective of a “smart” kid who nearly failed out of her own senior year, but managed to get into college based on a near-perfect SAT).

            • Janet B

              I believe you are right. She wants to go into nursing and will have to transfer to a university after a few years at our local community college. She believes can pull it off and I believe she’s motivated enough to do it. Nursing may not be her calling, but I think she’ll find her way.

            • Sarah

              Awesome. I wish somebody had told me about the community college option – you save so much money! Good for her.

            • Janet B

              It’s a great value. Of course she had her heart set on going away, but that gpa of hers took away the option.

            • formerlyAnon

              Ha. Logical consequences. I love it when they work out like that.

            • Sarah

              In VA, you get automatic acceptance to state U’s if you get an associate’s at a CC. Maybe that’s an option for her?

            • Janet B

              Used to be the case back when I was young. I don’t know if that’s true any longer.

            • formerlyAnon

              I had different frustrations with mine, but I’ve seen so many friends in your position. On the one hand, it’s reassuring that you know that when they DO get their shit together, they’ll be able to do what they want to do. On the other hand, that makes it so much more frustrating to see all the time they’re wasting and opportunities they may be missing because they can’t or won’t engage.

              Without exception ALL those kids are doing well now, some in a traditional college path, some not. Some just needed to get out from uonder of the restrictions of being in high school and a “child.” (Others, it took some years.)

            • Janet B

              Oh, the wasted opportunities…
              I have a young niece in the same boat.
              Funny how they each see their situation as unique, but it’s way too common.

            • formerlyAnon

              Time is limitless and there’ll always be another chance at that age. I remember feeling like that.

            • Janet B

              Thanks for the encouraging words.

            • decormaven

              Yes, when people have stories of happy high school times, I have to stifle an eye roll. High school was pretty much a prison to me and completely pointless in terms of learning. My homelife was consumed with father’s disabling illness. If my high school counselor had been effective, I could have graduated a year early. Since he was not, senior year was drama, art, one English class, Spanish and two study halls. To say I was a goof off is putting it mildly. I’ve become a productive citizen of society, so take heart, Janet B.

            • Sarah

              Yup, much the same here. Totally messed up home life that year – perpetually drunk & angry father, mom broke her leg and was bedridden for six months, and my sibs were already out of the house. I had a guidance counselor say I needed psychoanalysis for depression but my family said I should “suck it up” and I managed to get my class schedule down to only two that I had to pass (A.P English and Government) and then passed them with D’s. (I got an A in A.P. Art, of course, but I didn’t have to show up until about 2 pm for that one). I had a 1.7 GPA for my senior year. I am graduating college this summer on the honors list with a 4.0, so it’s all water under the bridge now.

            • decormaven

              Soul sisters! I had a homeroom teacher who was my bane. He couldn’t understand that I could give a flip about being in my chair for the homeroom bell. I was always a few seconds late. He ragged me no end, and threatened I would never amount to much due to my tardiness. My entire career has been built on deadlines, which I drill without fail. So much for his prognostications.

            • Sarah

              Good for you! Yeah, one of my best friends had a stepdad that thought I was both A. Stupid and B. A Bad Influence, and he didn’t realize that I was A. Much Smarter than he thought and B. The person his step-daughter came to stay with when her home life got too hard. If what people thought of me when I was a teenager dictated my life, I’d be in prison or a mental institution right now. Silly.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Hopefully she got close enough to scare herself into not pulling that shit again!

            • Janet B

              LOL
              I’m hopeful.
              She was so sure she’d pull it off, I don’t think it crossed her mind to be scared. That was my job!

      • Jackie4g

        Congrats to daughter and, especially to you. Another milestone achieved.

        • Janet B

          Thanks. I would have never guessed how much joy I would feel after reaching this point.

      • decormaven

        Heck, have a bottle. Congrats to the grad, and huzzahs for the hostess.

    • KirFla

      Having the time of my life planning our wedding! 10 weeks and counting. My husband to be and I could not be having more fun planning, working out, and celebrating. Have a great weekend everyone, blessings & cheers all around!

      • Jennifer Bober

        Congrats!

    • tinyredlocks

      Thanks for asking. :-) After 9 weeks of rehearsals, I and my fellow dancers will be performing 3 times this weekend in the “World Dance Celebration” at Alvin Ailey! I’m so excited. It’s gonna be great!

      • formerlyAnon

        Excited for you!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Just doesn’t seem right to say “Break a leg,” but I do wish you a very successful set of shows.

        • Jackie4g

          Thanks for the chuckle.

        • tinyredlocks

          Thank you! We had a great time and had 2 standing ovations! I love dancing!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        OMG-I am so excited for you and your fellow dancers!

        • tinyredlocks

          We had sooooo much fun! I’m doing it again next year!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Glad that you all had such fun!

      • decormaven

        Great! I’m sure it will be an experience you will treasure.

    • formerlyAnon

      God bless, I like this lounge. Except it’s in Scotland, which has many sterling qualities, I’m told, but then there’s the WEATHER. I would hesitate to move to the Pacific Northwest because of the overcast to clear sky ratio, and Scotland, if I am correct, is worse.

      Haven’t read anyone else’s comments yet, so apologies if I’m babbling on about minutia while someone else is in crisis. My week was . . . the kind of week where you end up commenting on blogs whilst on your 4th drink and contemplating #5. Bad news from friends (lying liars who lie and who have the money to manipulate the legal system need to be struck by lightning) and lots of effort put towards Getting Shit Done without yet much results.

      Saw a Gilbert & Sullivan with a friend and a couple of acquaintance-friends. Was unsociably silent (I’m afraid) because of the level of perceived conversational stupidity. I don’t like hanging out with people with whom I feel stupid but I prefer it to hanging with grown women of at least better than average achievement who sound like 15 year olds who’ve never left their town of population 7,304.

      Tolerance. Missing it at the moment.

      • kimmeister

        Have you ever seen Brian Regan’s standup, by any chance? Your conversational awkwardness reminds me of a bit he has about trying to jump into a conversation at a party when you have no idea what is going on.

        • formerlyAnon

          I’ll have to look for him on youtube. The name rings a bell.

      • Call me Bee

        I hear ya. I’m about done with FB and all because of all the nastiness and ignorance. Others commenting with vulgarities about issues about which they have no clue. It’s actually nice to come here and read intelligent, kinder comments.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          My experience on FB has been pretty good overall, but I have noticed that some folks use it as an opportunity to went in vulgarities that add nothing to the conversation.

      • decormaven

        That’s why this board is such a treat. Good conversation with people with varied interests and wonderful grasp of the written word.

    • kimmeister

      Slowly prepping for a dinner party on Sunday. We’re having 4 feisty elderly friends over, I can’t wait! I just have to find a balance with the diabetes 2 of them have and encouraging them to try things outside of their Mexican food comfort zone, while wanting them to like it. Also looking forward to finishing season 4 of DA.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      Just binge-watched the Jerry Seinfeld web series “Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee” followed by an hour with him and David Letterman at the Paley Center for the Media. Hours of smiling, which were desperately needed. If you haven’t seen the show, do watch it. I especially enjoyed the ones with Louis C.K., Carl Reiner/Mel Brooks and Sarah Jessica Parker.

      • formerlyAnon

        For some reason, I didn’t realize that series was available on the web. I thought it was a cable show or radio program or something. (Don’t know why.) Now I can put it on my list!

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Yeah, it’s only a web show. ComediansinCarsGettingCoffee dot com. You can watch it on your computer, iPad or phone. On the Paley show, David Letterman tries to convince him to take it to cable, but Seinfeld isn’t very enthusiastic about the idea.

          Definitely watch it. You’ll enjoy all the vintage (just like us) cars he drives around in. You can stream the Paley show directly from the Seinfeld site.

      • decormaven

        Trusting things are moving forward on the job scene. I’ve been meaning to look at the Seinfeld series. I love Carl Reiner and Mel Brooks- I bet that one is a stitch.

    • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

      Ah, lovely Perthshire. It is a magical place. I’m not sure, but I think I had a Christmas dinner at this place in the 1970’s. I was wearing an emerald green dress and wrap (matched the contact lenses). I have to say I know I looked fabulous in it. Had the porcelain skin, black hair and curvy figure with a megawatt smile and quick wit. Caused the father of my beau to stand up and propose a toast to the dress. His wife was not amused. My mother and father were in attendance. Later in the meal said gentleman was further in his cups (as was my father..liberal amounts of scotch, wine and port had been consumed) and fell over in one of those chairs. Since it had arms, it was him and the chair, over on the floor. He was about 6’3″ and looked like a retired rugby player. Well, those were the days. Makes for great stories.

      Am being forced back into my office more. Had to get maintenance to install a portable A/C in my office as it is sweltering in there in summer. Thats done now. Had the handy dude to tear down and reconstruct a deck and walkway on a duplex I own. Turned out really well. I had him looking around here to find the GFCI that tripped and now has plugs in my bathroom not working. I cant find the control for it, and neither could he. He’s coming back to do some other stuff next week, so he will find it then. In the meantime, my toothbrush is getting charged in the kitchen.

      • formerlyAnon

        Great story. In my imagination I insert a UK version of some of the family dynamics with my in-laws and am vastly entertained.

      • Sarah

        I replaced an outlet myself last weekend! It wasn’t hard, and I didn’t have to pay a handy dude. Now if I could figure out how to replace the faucet on my bathroom sink, I could quit brushing my teeth in the tub.

        • formerlyAnon

          If the current faucet was installed in the last decade or two, this is pretty easy if you can match the footprint of the new faucet on the counter to the footprint of the existing one. (Online videos are my minor home repair friends.) Bet it’s not that simple or you’d have done it.

          • Sarah

            OH, no. I’m sure it is pretty simple, but we are on such a tight budget that it became sort of easy to ignore, what with the tub faucet being just three feet away. Now the sink is an excellent hair-products holder.

            • formerlyAnon

              My house has a number of minor things I have been “living with” for longer than a normal person would, so I totally get it.

            • Sarah

              Ha! It is our first house, and I was a renter until age 36 when we bought it, and the fact that I now have to PAY to fix things is tough, instead of just calling the landlord. I have a friend at work who has a giant hole in his living room ceiling that he can’t afford to fix (plumbing upstairs or something like that) so at least that’s not happening at my house.

            • Janet B

              A pipe to our shower leaks along with the faucets. Since it’s an 80’s era Jacuzzi tub the faucets are expensive to replace. My husband has decided we should just redo the whole shower area – mind you we have no money to do that. (after needing a new car and the other car needing major work) So we’re using the kids bathroom. For the past year.

            • formerlyAnon

              I’ve been carrying hot water to my kitchen sink from the bathroom (or heating it in the microwave) for 3 months. There’s a leak in the hot water at the sink that I am SURE I can fix, but am putting off trying until I can clear an entire day for the project “just in case.” Every weekend for the last month it’s been on the list, but I’m obviously stalling. ETA: I should note the dishwasher has plenty of hot water. That’s why I’ve been able to last this long.

            • Janet B

              Plumbing always makes me nervous. Soldering seems to require more skill than we possess.

            • formerlyAnon

              This doesn’t even require soldering, I don’t think. Just replacing some worn hardware and adjusting the position of stuff that’s been somehow knocked askew. But the idea that it might actually need more than that is what’s causing my reluctance. I don’t solder, except for very minor electrical.

            • Janet B

              Wouldn’t it be nice if the faucets could let you know how much work they’ll need.

            • Jackie4g

              Back in 2007 when the list of minor things that needed fixing before we could rent my late Mother’s place got too long, I Googled a number of common problems, and was delighted at the wealth of info out there. I repaired a bathroom sink faucet and the knobs for the hot and cold taps. I needed a touch of masculine brute force at the very end of the repair process to tighten it, but I did it and I am NOT a handy person. For a really good reference book, there is a Reader’s Digest (don’t laugh) Fix it Yourself manual that is clear, has good illustrations and covers a lot of different situations.

            • Sarah

              Thanks! Funny – I think that’s the book I used for the outlet.

            • formerlyAnon

              The older editions of the Reader’s Digest books (the library often has them) are especially good if you’re in a house that hasn’t been “upgraded” in decades.

            • decormaven

              YouTube has several excellent videos of how to fix things. Mr. DM fixed our washing machine on Christmas Day when the tub wouldn’t fill. It was just a simple part.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          Good on you, Sarah, for doing that! For all my commitment to being a feminist, I am absolutely, positively useless with these kinds of household repairs..oh, and cars. Don’t do that either. I would think a faucet would be easier; certainly it’s way less dangerous to work with than live electricity.

          • Sarah

            I am a fixer of things, but plumbing is a new one on me. I too hope it’ll be easier! I had instructions that said to turn off the circuit and test it with a volt-meter to make sure it was safe. Safe, to me, seemed like turning off ALL the power to the entire house. Put my mind at ease, and the actual fixing is super-simple. And hey, there’re plenty of men out there who can’t fix things, either, so don’t feel bad!

            • Jackie4g

              Anecdotally, many of them seem to be Jewish men. There seems to be a “repair gene” missing. They can, however, effectively wave a checkbook.
              I am joking, in case anyone is feeling sensitive.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I believe in playing to your strengths. One of mine was choosing a husband who is good at cars, computers and household electricals.

            • kimmeister

              My husband and I were just talking about that this morning. Some of our friends in construction tend to tease him for not doing home improvement projects himself. He’s a mechanic, not a carpenter. And who do they call crying when they have car problems?

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I just googled – apparently Andy Murray owns this one and it has only been open in its current iteration for a couple of months. No wonder the bar looks so beautifully pristine! Christmas dinner in a country house hotel like this (preferably in a grand dress) is one of my ambitions.

      • decormaven

        Love your story. Sounds like a dinner up in DC back in the 1970s. Many courses, many drinks. Almost booked a transatlantic flight for the table; good thing we never made it to National. Oh, for the days of cheap airfare!

    • LambeeBaby

      I put a deposit on an apartment for a week in Paris in September. My brother and I are traveling with my Momma for her 70th birthday. I’m thrilled and anxious at the same time.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        How lovely! Lucky you!

      • Peeve

        Ah, a bucket list item for me. I think you’ll have a fabulous time!

      • decormaven

        Love! What section of town? We stayed at a B&B in Le Marais; I loved getting a feel for the city. Our unit actually had a tiny kitchen- such a kick to get fresh fruits, veg, cheeses and bread. Enjoy, enjoy.

        • LambeeBaby

          Yes! We are staying in an an apartment in the Marais as well! I’d appreciate any tips you’d be kind enough to pass along.

          • decormaven

            You will love that area- such a feel for city life. Let me see if I can locate my notes; our trip was 3 years ago.

            • LambeeBaby

              Great! Thanks!

    • Kent Roby

      Big news: I’m finally caught up on Mad Men! I have loved this past month, binging from the first episode on. Making it even more fun, I read our Uncles reviews and Mad Style after each episode, of course!

      • @Biting Panda

        I did that when I was finally able to watch my DVR ‘ d Orphan Black.

    • Sarah

      I am saving the pics of this place because those walls are exactly what I’m trying to do in my dining room. I want to go to there, SO BAD. I would like to visit my family castle in the Isles. I would actually like to visit it NOW, if possible, because my alternative is crawling under a rock with my tail between my legs.

      Y’all, have you ever done something in the heat of the moment about which you had great and powerful conviction (and certainly far too much liquid courage) and then the next day, when you realize what you did, you are SO ASHAMED that you want to die? That was my Thursday night. Ooooh man. Yesterday, I went out with my BFF who pointed out the MANY repercussions I could’ve been/might still be subject to, and my fiance was SO MAD at me that I didn’t think he’d talk to me again for weeks. (No adultery was involved in this, btw – I learned my lesson about THAT years ago.) He has forgiven me, but I believe the phrase one would use is that I “showed my ass,” in that I failed to take the high road, and I feel like everyone thinks less of me. How do I get over it? I mean, I’ve been *forgiven* (provisionally) but I feel AWFUL.

      • Peeve

        Ooh, sounds like your Thursday night was way worse than mine. I’m sorry–I’ve been there, too. I tend to get very caught up in principles and convictions, and sometimes spout off without thinking. (One of the many reasons I could never be in politics.) My only recourse has been to right what I can, apologize sincerely (and profusely) to whomever should be apologized to, and move on, vowing to keep my big mouth shut (which works only sporadically).

        • Sarah

          Yeah. I have apologized profusely for how I handled the situation, but part of the problem is that I’m NOT sorry for being mad. It was a Last Straw type of thing. I should not have gotten SO mad, though, and that is a bit frightening for me, because I didn’t know I had it in me. Getting liquored up doesn’t help, I guess.

          • Peeve

            I once had a co-worker friend tell me that I put up with too much shit from people, and that when I’d had enough, I’d just SPEW! He was absolutely right, of course. I’ve lost a minor friend or two over that–let it go on too long and then hit them with everything that I was mad about. But one of the few nice things about getting older is that I care less about what other people think (not so much important friends and family, but idiot people), so I don’t let things that bother me build up as much. I say something about the little things much quicker than I used to. It’s very freeing!

            • Sarah

              I do that as well. Because of this, I have made a very concerted effort to be honest with my feelings (good or bad) toward my future husband. In this particular case, I felt that he KNEW damned well that what was happening would piss me off, and he kept doing it, and I lost my senses in a very….Jerry Springer kind of way. Woe is me. I’m so Not Proud of myself.

            • Peeve

              Oh, love, I’m so sorry! I hope this all blows over very quickly for you.

            • Sarah

              Thank you, Peeve, it means a lot to know that I can at least get some advice here. My friend pretty much commiserated on my point, but admonished the heck out of me for being so stupid. I was getting better last night, but then I thought about what my Mom would’ve thought of this, and I seriously lost it. I was raised so much better than this.

            • Peeve

              We all lose it once in a blue moon–even your Mom, I’ll bet! You’re so embarrassed because it’s NOT you to do something like that. If you did that all the time, you wouldn’t blink an eye about it. I often read your comments here, and they’re generally very kind, funny and intelligent. You are not THAT PERSON.

            • Sarah

              Oh man. That is truly kind of you. I am so thankful that all the BK’s are such nice folks, not just to me, but to everyone.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Your friend sounds like a really good person. Cherish her!

            • Sarah

              Always have, always will :)

            • @Biting Panda

              Oh Honey, it’s okay. I promise. Men need to be reminded every now then, that we are a fucking force to be reckoned with. When the smoke clears, and the butt hurts are healed, all that will be remembered is that under that sweet, cool, smart, and beautiful exterior, is the piss and vinegar it takes to survive in the big, bad, world.

            • Sarah

              Aw, thank you so much. I am trying to remember it that way, and not as if I did the worst, craziest thing I have done in my life. I will say that he admitted that it was a Very Gangster and Badass thing to do. I also have done plenty of wild shit before, but not usually of the contentious nature, and not in the recent years. I guess I’m ashamed that I thought I was a grown-up now, and something of my former, not-so-mature life sneaked in and reared its ugly head.

            • formerlyAnon

              BP, your way with words is WONDERFUL.

            • Sarah

              That it is.

            • @Biting Panda

              Well that was sweet. Thank you. I’m blushing a little.

            • ashtangajunkie

              I want to hang this paragraph on my wall, by my bedside, over my desk, on the bathroom mirror. You are awesome.

            • @Biting Panda

              Pep talks are my speciality.

            • decormaven

              Agreed. Your man needs to see the 360 Degrees of you before the final commitment. Otherwise, he may think you’re possessed when the Big & Bad side comes out. Just cuz you don’t put it out on standing exhibit doesn’t mean it’s been struck from the collection.

      • conniemd

        Being human we all make mistakes. My husband was a brilliant lawyer who lost his license to practice law due to serious mistakes (and some bi-polar issues). In the process we learned who are real friends are, who stand beside you. Don’t feel awful, but realize we’ve all been there and done that, though maybe we’ve been lucky enough that it didn’t become “public.”

        The first step is forgiving yourself and realizing you aren’t perfect and you will make some wrong choices. WE ALL DO THAT. Doesn’t mean you get a free pass to do bad things, just means realizing that as humans we all do wrong and what matters is do we have the conscience to recognize that it was wrong and to ask forgiveness of those we may have harmed. That you feel “AWFUL” means that you are a good person. Bad people don’t care and have no remorse.

        • Sarah

          Thank you for the kind words. I do feel remorse, so much so that I am still squirming a couple of days later. Problem is, I did make it “public,” insofar as one of my fiance’s coworkers was the object of my fury, and when he went in the next day, she had spread around that I was a “crazy bitch” and he was told to go home and “handle me” and come back to work when he has his life together. Which I find personally ridiculous, because this scene happened by my home, and not anywhere near his work, but I’m afraid I might have ruined his “brand,” so to speak.

          • Peeve

            Doesn’t sound like his co-worker or his job is handling it very well, either. Whether or not the coworker thinks you’re a “crazy bitch”, it didn’t happen at work, so they shouldn’t have gotten involved at all! I’m assuming this happened at a bar, so your fiance’s workplace has no right to intervene.

            • Sarah

              Nope. Out in the street in front of my house. And probably woke up the whole damned neighborhood, and I’m VERY lucky that no one called the cops, or seems to be pressing charges. Ohh, the remorse. I am Not That Person.

          • formerlyAnon

            Your fiance’s workplace is toxic and I hope he has an exit strategy (even if it’s long term). Unless there’s a dimension to this that’s not obvious, sending him home over something that did not happen at work and did not happen on work property and did not affect his ability to do his job is not normal or appropriate.

            • Sarah

              His workplace IS toxic and that is part of the reason the whole thing happened in the first place. One of the toxic people was involved, and we have talked and talked about this, and there is no way in hell that he didn’t know that I’d be mad. He did, however, expect me to be “cool” and not freak the heck out, and ONE TIME, out of a MILLION others, I did not do that.

            • formerlyAnon

              Well, he’s in the restaurant biz, right? Which to my knowledge is pretty gossipy, but if he does good work without drama affecting the work, the main word on him will be about his skills and eventually, if you are cool as a cucumber going forward, people not present will come to think the story is wildly exaggerated.

              It might put pressure on you to be above everything, most of the time, but as my extremely emotional by nature friend says “I wish I’d always known that in most situations, what you’re feeling internally is not nearly as important to what people take away as what you show them. if I’d learned to show difficult people my pleasant, relentlessly positive armor most of the time, I could have been as angry or hurt or jealous as I needed to be underneath, and express it somewhere it was safer to do so. Or use the energy some other way.”

              YMMV, of course.

            • Sarah

              I am extremely not emotional. I mean, I have them (much to my chagrin), but I had a best friend of my whole life tell me after twenty years of friendship that she knew what I thought about things, but not what I feel, most of the time.

            • formerlyAnon

              So you’ve got this. ;-)

            • @Biting Panda

              Word.

        • @Biting Panda

          Wise words.

      • formerlyAnon

        You’ve done the sincere apology, now you just treat everyone involved well (in a normal way) going forward and behave as the usual functioning adult you are. EVERYone has done something they’re ashamed of later at some time.

        Now I’m crossing a line, but I’m doing it as the parent of a child who’s had to be taught to handle anger and as the close friend of someone who’s been learning for 30 years to manage her emotions through periodic self-work or therapy when she realizes something has gone or is going awry: the most important thing is to be clear with yourself if this is an isolated incident or part of a pattern.

        • Sarah

          No, you’re not crossing a line. And no, it is definitely not part of a pattern. So far outside of the norm that I felt like a different human being. Apparently, the scene pushed some button that hit all of my insecurities and roiled them up, and I was just loaded enough to ignore all the warning bells telling me to take it easy and talk it out, and next thing I know I’m out in the street in front of my house at midnight making a Very Bad Scene.

          • formerlyAnon

            Which is now over and shouldn’t as far as I can tell, have carried over to your man’s work except as bitchy gossip.

            • Sarah

              And bitchy gossip is what that place runs on, so somebody will give somebody a BJ in the bathroom tomorrow and they will all forget about it.

            • formerlyAnon

              Ha! If ever something had the ring of truth!

          • @Biting Panda

            Have you ever seen Me, Myself and Irene? Did the music that plays before Hank “takes over” play in your head?

            • Sarah

              The music playing was a whole lot of ZZ Top, actually. That, combined with the Natural Ice, and possibly this medication that I just started taking that makes me a bit wired, resulted in some Furious Redneckery.

            • @Biting Panda

              Bless your heart.

            • decormaven

              Long as there was no hairpulling, guns pulled, or cops called, it’s all good. Stay serene and rise above those folks. Your fella is bound for a better work environment soon.

            • Sarah

              One of those things did happen. It was…not good. The ONLY reason why cops weren’t called had something to do with the person in question being aware that that it would be a bad idea for my fiance, who is on probation, to tangle with them. Hence my agonizing chagrin. There is much to atone for.

      • alyce1213

        I hope each day brings a bit more ease for you. It will blow over, and another life lesson will have been learned. Onward . . .

        On a lighter note, I bookmarked this awhile ago, and I thought I’d pass it along if you want a hand in decorating. The way Cromlix House did the colors in golds and silvers is really exquisite and inspirational (for all I know it could have been painted by hand, not stenciled), and you can copy.
        http://www.cuttingedgestencils.com/tree-stencils-branch-stencils-cat.html

        Best to you!

        • Sarah

          Wow, thanks! Yes, things are better between me and the fellow, and that is really what matters most. I LOVE the stencils! So kind of you.

    • Peeve

      I have reached a new milestone in my life–officially old! My BFF took me to dinner and a movie for my birthday on Thursday. The 20-something kid selling tickets asked if we wanted the senior discount. I asked what age that might be. He said 62. I just turned 55, and my friend is 58. While I realize that anyone over 35 looks old to this kid, that really hurt! They should really not ask that question, and let the customer ask for senior tickets!

      • Sarah

        Yes, they should. And also, you should have demanded the discount for emotional damage!

        • Peeve

          He felt so bad about it, I didn’t have the heart. But you are absolutely right!

      • MilaXX

        young’uns! They know nothing!

      • conniemd

        I went to the movies in the afternoon the other day to see Malificent. When I got the ticket I saw it said senior discount. I’m 60. I don’t know what their age for senior is, but, like grocery store Tuesday senior discounts, it’s far better just to give the discount WITHOUT ASKING. That avoids the embarrassment and it’s hard to be angry at getting a discount.

        • Peeve

          That was the exact movie we were going to see! You’re exactly right–it’s kind of like asking an overweight woman if she’s pregnant. If you don’t know for sure, do NOT make the assumption!

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Kids that age simply assume that anyone who looks old enough to be their parent must be “senior”. And then of course there is the barrage of AARP mailings that arrive at one’s door, unbidden, after you turn the big 5-0. The discounts are welcome, especially at the movies, where the cost of a ticket is starting to resemble the co-pay to see a physician. No wonder the movies are unpopular with young’uns of dating age……two movie tickets, gas, and a couple of lattes at Starbucks can set someone back $50. Not exactly an affordable weekly outing.

        • Sarah

          State Nazi-like Beverage Control. I used to have to show TWO forms of ID in there. Now, nobody bothers.

        • Peeve

          …apparently the ABC clerk needs a little more training!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Chivalry should definitely be part of ID checking training!

        • formerlyAnon

          When I went away to college, my roommate, born & raised in Braintree, Mass., asked the first night if I wanted to go to “the packy” (pronounced “paahky”). I had no clue what she was talking about. Eventually, i grasped that she meant somewhere we could buy booze, known to her as a “package store.” I replied “Ooooh! You mean the ABC store!” rendering her as perplexed as I had been.

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    • conniemd

      I’m trying to catch up on Orphan Black based on the reviews here. Still on the first season.

      • @Biting Panda

        Cinderella binged on it while she was here. She’s all about #CloneClub.

    • Miranda Reseigh

      Family was out of town all week: good. US wins against Ghana: great. All the booze in the house to myself: fantastic.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Good Evening, Kittens!

      It’s been a pretty good week Chez Foodycat – husband’s contract was extended another 3 months, I got to see one of my favourite people on Wednesday (she’s over from Oz, so seeing her really is a rare treat), the weather has allowed me to spend a lot of time in the garden doing battle with a rogue clematis and today I had a very nice wander about Greenwich (I’ve never been there before) with some friends, resulting in a very pretty dress and an excellent lunch.

      • ashtangajunkie

        I also picked up a pretty new dress this week! I love new dresses – probably my favourite kind of purchase. But seeing old friends who live away is one of the greatest feelings in the world. For me, it does the same for my soul that going home for a visit does.

      • Sarah

        Oh, how lovely on all accounts! I have a clematis I WANT to go rogue, but it remains rather small and pathetic. Do you have hedgies in your garden?

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Sadly not. I LONG for a hedgehog, because a) I think the cat would be hilarious with something moving & prickly and b) we have enough slugs and snails to drive a family of hedgehogs to an obesity crisis.

          • Sarah

            I am supremely jealous of the UK for hedgehogs. All I have is squirrels, and I loathe them. They are just tree rats. I mean, I have a grudging respect for their cleverness, but the are the Enemy of the Homeowner.

            • formerlyAnon

              Though not quite as bad as racoons. I have GRUDGES against racoons.

            • Sarah

              So far, raccoons have not bothered me. POSSUMS, on the OTH, are bitches. I hate ‘em too.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              We have plenty of squirrels. I don’t mind them but they drive Urchin crazy and my husband even worse (they bury nuts in his bonsai pots, the little bastards). You are right though, as a friend of mine says, they are just rats with good PR.

          • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

            My daughter has had a hedgehog as a pet, for about 3 years or so. She actually mail-orders some kind of insect delectables to feed him! Maybe you should just rent someone’s pet hedgehog in your neighborhood, @foodycatalicia:disqus, and set them free to de-slug your garden. Also, I too would love to have a “rogue clematis”, as mine remain stubbornly puny. I think they may grow all of 1/2″ each year. If you have any rogues you’d like to relocate, send ‘em my way!

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              That’s a good idea – hedgehog agistment!

              This clematis is growing 3″ a day at the moment – it’s going for world domination. If I don’t cut it back any more this week it’ll be knocking on your door by next summer.

    • Anna

      Long week for me, but luckily a short week next week as I’m using some vacation days.

      World Pride has officially launched in the city and I AM HERE FOR IT. So excited to see the queens from RPDR performing this coming Thursday, among all the other festivities.

      Hope the kittens are having a great weekend!

      • Kitten Mittons

        I’m jealous of your proximity to that, but I hope you have a really great time!

        • Anna

          Thanks! Pride week (which usually coincides with Canada Day long weekend, NXNE and a whole bunch of other summer activities) is definitely a great time to live and be in the city, a reward of sorts of getting through the brutal winters! Spoiled for choice this year, so many great performers. Can’t wait to see CeCe Peniston, Martha Wash, and Tegan & Sara, especially.

          • Kitten Mittons

            That sounds really fun, with lots of choices! Enjoy yourself!

    • CatherineRhodes

      Hey BKs, if you’re all caught up on your shows, I have a recommendation: “Halt and Catch Fire” on AMC in the old “Mad Men” slot. It’s smartly written, superbly acted, visually interesting. It’s about the race to develop new computers in the early 1980s in Texas, but really it’s about the power dynamics among the lead characters. Absolutely fascinating. Plus, super hot lead actor Lee Pace, who takes charming and ruthless to a whole new level.

      • Sonnet_PDX

        OMG, Lee Pace! Thanks for sharing.

    • DebbieLovesShoes

      Celebrating my 8th wedding anniversary with the nicest person I ever met — so I married him. He just brought me flowers; hurray! Feeling blessed / lucky / grateful today.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Congrats!

        • DebbieLovesShoes

          TY! I finally got it right! Didn’t find the love of my life ’til I was almost 40…..

          • Kitten Mittons

            If it took you a little longer to find the right one, you probably have a greater appreciation for what you’ve found now :) Hope it was a lovely anniversary!

            • DebbieLovesShoes

              Absolutely true!

    • Kitten Mittons

      After a long week, we had a nice morning taking the wee one to the children’s museum, with coffee and beignets mixed in. It was delightful.

      But the real news is that I bought a new suit! I spent more on it than maybe anything else I own, so big purchase. It’s for interviews, as I’m starting the job hunt. Time to move on, potential wasted, blah blah blah other important life stuff.

      So. It’s a navy suit, with a jacket, pants, and a dress. I need to have it tailored a bit, but it’s nearly perfect and I love it. The question is, for a first interview do you wear pants and jacket, or dress and jacket?

      Thoughts?

      • formerlyAnon

        Depends on your field. In my world (academia in a notoriously casual city) if the suit is sharp, pants are fine. Dress IS more common for interviews, but if you’re not dead comfortable in it, pants are better. More important to project confidence than to be dressed formally. The whole thing is as stylized as kabuki theater, though, since NO ONE wears anything remotely as dressy for work as they do for interviews. You could show up in jeans and a french cut t-shirt and draw less attention than if you appeared in the ensemble you wore to the interview.

        • Kitten Mittons

          The current field I’m in is pretty conservative, but I’m looking to do something different. I appreciate your input, as I would have thought pants to be the norm and dresses to be less common. Interesting.

          It’s all a bit nerve wracking, since I haven’t done this in nine years, and last time I got the first job I interviewed for. AND my boss talked the whole time. I just nodded and agreed, and left thinking “shit.” I was amazed when they called me back for a second interview. That time I wore the only suit I owned, and a skirt and blouse for the second interview when I saw how the office dressed on a regular basis. I suppose that’s still a good plan.

          You’re right though, stylized to the hilt. Pageantry for the business world.

          Thanks!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Good luck!

            • Kitten Mittons

              Thank you kindly!

          • decormaven

            Much luck to you. Wear the combination that you find the most comfort in; if you’re not comfortable in your “skin,” it may rub off on the interview.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Thank you, much appreciated. Excellent advice that I plan to keep in mind!

      • Anna

        As a personal preference, I’m more inclined to go with dress and jacket as that’s what I prefer and I’m more comfortable in a dress rather than pants. For me, the one piece is better than having to worry about making sure my blouse is lined up and tucked all neatly (and I find I tend to fidget and fuss more if I’m wearing a blouse that has to be tucked into something). I agree with @formerlyAnon:disqus that it’s all about whatever makes you feel most confident.

        Good luck on the job search!

        • Kitten Mittons

          More ways that we are the same person. You’re right, that’s exactly what I would be doing, fussing with my cuffs and my shirt tuck, and every other thing. Or at least sitting there worrying that everything is totally askew.

          Comfortable equals confident in this case, I think. Y’all have talked me into the dress. Which gives me more time to get the pants hemmed properly :)
          Thanks!

          • Sarah

            Best of Luck, Mittons!

            • Kitten Mittons

              Needed and appreciated, thanks!

          • Anna

            Yup, I’d be obsessing about everything being askew, which is the last thing you need in such a stressful situation! Comfort is definitely important, you’ll look great I’m sure! :-)

            • Kitten Mittons

              Thanks:) I was thinking of all the BK’s while I was shopping, and all the things I’ve learned on here about fit and proportion. Silly, but it really did help me pick something that was flattering and suited me instead of the first suit I saw.

              I also thought of you in particular with your weight loss. It was a BIG deal for me to lay down the cash for this suit, because I’m uber cheap. So it’s a commitment to myself that I’m keeping the weight off and will get use out of this thing. The journey continues…

            • Anna

              HA! It took me half an hour to decide on a belt this morning as I was similarly thinking of T-Lo and the BKs: “Nope, too focus-pulling. Too thick. Too thin. Too heavy!” etc.

              I hear you about the journey. I had to get a bunch of new clothes and while it was fun, I was very hesitant about spending and getting too much as I’m not at my goal yet. But yes, laying down some SERIOUS cash is motivating not to go back the other way, for sure.

            • Kitten Mittons

              It is fun, exciting, and scary at the same time. Especially during that in-between time. But my plan is to take some of my favorite things that are too big now and get them tailored. The rest will be cast off and never seen again :)
              New clothes are deserved for what you’re accomplishing! Hope you found some good pieces you like.

            • Anna

              That’s a good plan! Would’ve loved to have been able to do the same but at this point, they would require such drastic alterations that it really is more affordable to get a few new pieces that will hopefully get me through the next phase. Old t-shirts and jeans etc, I’m happy to put in the charity bin, but bringing the nicer pieces for consignment has helped with the new wardrobe fund.

              And thanks! Likewise :-)

            • Kitten Mittons

              Consignment is a good idea. I may be able to give away a few things, like sweaters, that probably can’t be altered. Some of it just needs to be put out of its misery.

            • Anna

              It does feel good to get rid of those things you’ve been holding onto. There was definitely a pile of stuff that I associated with unhappier times and I’m happy not to have them in my apartment anymore!

    • DeTrop

      Wow. This looks like a nice get-away/ Summer house. Wonder who were the original owners before the conversion. Off to google. Happy weekend.

    • snarkykitten

      BKs, I come to you again for advice. I got invited out to a drag show for the first time ever. What does one even wear to a “female celebrity impersonators night” as the billing declares?

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        How fab! I have no idea though. The only drag show I’ve ever been to was in a pretty low-key restaurant and I can’t remember what I wore.

      • formerlyAnon

        I was hoping you’d get a bunch of replies. I’m acquainted with a couple of the drag artists on our local scene, but I’ve never been to a show. My gut would be to dress towards the “nice” end of whatever’s appropriate for the venue, not at the extreme and not in a lookit me! way – but since I ping “somebody’s mom” on the demographic profile at a lot of the night time events I go to, that’s kind of my default.