TLOunge

Posted on May 09, 2014

We’re feeling all “Gather ’round the piano, sipping cocktails” in a very Noel Coward kind of way this Friday evening, darlings.

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Join us, won’t you?

The sun is shining outside – sort of – so we’re just gonna give you the buzz and head on out of here.

Number One: HUGE congratulations to the winners of our “Everyone Wants to Be…” Mother’s Day contest! The Not-So-Bitter Kittens sent in dozens  and dozens of beautiful tributes to the female mentors in their lives. If we could have, we would have chosen every one of them for a prize, because every single woman written about sounded like a fabulous person to know. Unfortunately, we had to narrow it down to seven, and you can read their beautiful tributes here.

Number Two: We’re immensely proud of this interview with Bitch Magazine:

One of the keys ways you two are unique—is that you address social issues and feminism in a lot of your posts. You had that great post about gay identity and the Mad Men conspiracy theories about Bob Benson and the recent Emma Stone post was a perfect example of how you blend feminism and fashion in your commentary.

TOM: We are truly, truly, honored and pleased when someone notes a feminist undertone to our writing because it’s there deliberately. It’s not a mistake. When we went from being hobby bloggers to professional bloggers we had a long talk about goals, both short term and long term. Eventually it came up in our conversation that if you really want to be uncharitable about what we’re doing, we’re a couple of bitchy gay guys who criticize women all day about how they look. Which just stopped us dead in our tracks! That’s not who we want to be.

It was a very conscious decision early on to battle that perception, and to battle lapsing into that voice. Because I’ll tell you what—we’re a couple of white, privileged, gay men. And we had to be educated on the language to use, and how to approach certain topics and how to write about certain women in certain ways. Some of this came innately, some of this we taught ourselves, and some of this was taught to us by our readers. So, yes, there was a conscious effort from very early on to find a way to do this so we don’t feel dirty about this and feel unfeminist in our approach.   How do you write about this stuff as men with a feminist tone?

There’s this idea that fashion and feminism, or fashion and social commentary, are incompatible, but you push back against that in lots of ways. For instance, I love seeing Laverne Cox pop up on the blog so much lately. 

TOM: We’re making a point of featuring her, because when do you get a chance to feature a trans woman on the red carpet who is actually a celebrity? We actually do look for topics that have a wide range to them. If we scroll down the front page of the site at the end of the day and see nothing but 22-year-old, blond, white size 2’s, we feel like we have failed. So when someone like Laverne comes along, who’s on a show that we absolutely love and who is starting to become a celebrity in her own right, and dresses pretty damn impressively—on top of which, she’s a transgender woman of color—how could we not feature this woman? 

 

Go and read the whole thing. We got to say things we rarely get to say in our interviews. Or if we do, they tend to get edited out for not fitting the narrative.

And in case you missed it, check out all the lovely pictures of all the beautiful Kittens who came out to our book party last weekend. Fun, we’re fairly certain, was had by all.

Mkay, we’re done. Orphan Black review up on Sunday and Mad Men review up somewhere in the hours between Sunday night and Monday morning. Oh, and HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to all you mothers out there. Peace out, girl scouts.

 

[Photo Credit: fourseasons.com]

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      It’s late, I’ve drunk too much and I can hear my husband finishing the coleslaw in the fridge. Happy weekend kittens!

      • @Biting Panda

        fabulous.

      • alyce1213

        My hubs is always very quiet and secretive when he finishes something good from the fridge.

      • decormaven

        Wait, wait! We haven’t had time to catch up with you yet, drink-wise. Mr. DM is headed home with fortification as we speak. There’s a nice shower outside; time to do some backporch sippin’ and check on the baby bluebirds. Hope to see them fledge before too long.

        • @Biting Panda

          My dad and kid are at the game. I love evening showers, but I hope they clear out. But drinks on the porch is always a solid idea.
          xo

          • decormaven

            It was a bit chilly, so we moved inside. Now today is another matter- this is a full-on deluge.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I have to say, I am *so* relieved that the local bluetits didn’t nest at our place this year. Last year was challenging & none of the babies survived (not, I am pleased to say, at Urchin’s paws).

          • decormaven

            Yes, house sparrows raided one box last year and the bluebirds won’t go near it now. This new box has been adapted especially for them. Wildlife management is not for the faint of heart.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Nature can break your heart that way….

      • kimmeister

        Must be very crispy cole slaw!

        • Lucía Gavello

          Not really! I believe that we develop a sixth sense for sneaky fridge burglaries… I’ve been in a nine year relationship and I can always tell exactly what my bf is stealing from the fridge, It could be soup and I’d now ;)

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          He’s a very noisy eater! Much clanking against the bowl.

      • YourBaloneyDontGotNoSecondName

        What’s your favorite poison? Mine is tequila. It used to be vodka but then I moved to Texas almost 2 decades ago. Frozen margaritas. With sugar on the rim. Slurpees for grownups.

        We had a Viking funeral for a department store dummy in my stupid Memphis State University days. Take some big square styrofoam buoys, put a wooden pallet on top of it, arrange branches, and set the dummy on top. Pour lighter fluid on everything and set it alight and send it down the Mississippi. Everyone got busted that night for underage drinking and public intoxication, but it was worth it.

        That’s the funeral I want. My alcohol soaked liver will burn for weeks.

        There was a torrent of rain yesterday, and a tornado warning. So of course that means when it stopped raining somebody burned leaves or something very close by. I can still smell it. I could smell it through my CPAP.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Have you ever seen the movie “The Vikings” with Tony Curtis, Kirk Douglas and Ernest Borgnine(I shit you not) as vikings? the movie ends with a viking funeral and I still think that is one of the coolest things ever.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I was so disappointed to see the Ask A Mortician episode about Viking funerals – apparently they didn’t set fire to boats.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              That makes sense, as boats would require so much in terms of resources. that said, that flaming boat at the end of the movie was such a great way to end the movie.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Also, apparently it wouldn’t get hot enough to actually cremate the body, so the boat would fall apart and the body would fall into the water. Real Viking ship burials buried the person in the whole ship, with all their treasures around them. As you say, they require so much in terms of resources that they were kept for seriously important people.

          • Shibori Girl

            My plan had I died while still working was that my cubicle would be set afloat and lit. Fortunately, that plan was not necessary – first because I didn’t die during my employed years ( although sometimes it felt like they were trying to kill me) and second because it sounds like it wouldn’t have worked. Gotta admit, the spectacle would have been something!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I admit that the idea of a funerreal cubicle pile is intriguing.

            • decormaven

              I can’t decide which would be worse- cubicles or the new freestyle form of architecture where there’s maybe one or two “huddle rooms” for confabs, a few solitary workstations, and a lot of grouped work areas. I may be old-fashioned, but confined office space is a real plus for detailed work and phone conversations where concentration is key.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Open-plan offices are the pits. I worked in one place where everyone was so packed in that we didn’t have phones on our desks, we had to go into the corridor with our mobiles.

            • decormaven

              Yes, and there’s a lot of push for that design. Evidently, it’s supposed to lead to collaboration and inspiration. I think it probably ends up with a lot of headaches, headphones and anxiety.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              And “working from home”

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I do love a frozen margarita, but last night I was on wine with a little whisky as a nightcap!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Mr. B3 and I were watching Picnic at Hanging Rock on TCM, and I dozed off-the curse of the comfy chair! Happy weekend, all.

        • smayper

          LOVE that movie.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I really appreciate Weir’s visual sense, and also his use of sound in this movie. The rock almost seems to be alive.

      • Lucía Gavello

        Happy weekend to you Alicia and all BKs! It’s just tea for me tonight, I had too much mate (our national infusion) and my belly is quite opinionated :P

      • formerlyAnon

        Starting the weekend off with drink! A micro-theme. It’s saturday morning, here, and I’m waiting for my nocturnal child to wake up so we can go retrieve my car. A friend dropped me off home last night as I was no longer in fit state to drive. Live entertainment and an entirely pleasant too much drink, what more can one ask?

        ETA: We have weirdly parallel lives. Just discovered nocturnal child finished off the mozarrella/tomato/pepper/basil/pesto salad that was left in the fridge. Darn. Featured prominently in my lunch plans, that did. Too lazy to make more, at the moment.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Yes, today’s lunch was a little weighted towards the protein, because I couldn’t be bothered to make more coleslaw.

          • Sarah

            I just ate a small brick of cheddar for lunch because there wasn’t anything else around. Protein indeed. Somebody needs to go the grocery….

            • decormaven

              You haven’t hit the bottom of the larder until you start digging out forgotten stuff stashed from Christmas stockings.

        • decormaven

          Mmm! That salad sound delish. Get nocturnal child to take you both out to lunch, since the salad is no more.

          • formerlyAnon

            He would, but I’m trying to eat more healthily and on the money I’d want him to spend (he’s temporarily living here because of his non-living-wage do-good job) healthy food made at home is much more to my tastes. For cheap you can eat rich sauces and fried foods for days. Healthier seems to be more pricey.

            • decormaven

              Got it! I hear you on the healthy foods; I’m doing a modification of Weight Watchers called Simply Filling. It works best with fresh fruit/veg, fat-free dairy, and simply-prepared meats (no frying/sauces/etc.) It’s unfortunate that fresh food costs more than processed; it makes it very tricky when one is/has to be cost-conscious.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              One thing that both my husband and I are really excited about, now our finances are out of a bit of a hole, is lots of fresh veg and leaner meat! We eat a lot more starch and fat when we are broke and miserable.

        • Lucía Gavello

          That salad sounds delicious! Alas, I’ll have to exclude the mozzarella -lactose intolerant bf- maybe I can use goat cheese, he digests that well :P

    • hughman

      Thanks to all and everyone who sent me kind get well wishes last week and this week!! I am feeling much much better and this week a dear friend came to see me from SF and she’s been so helpful as well. You are all so dear to me and your thoughts and kind response made a world of difference! You’re all the best bitter kittens with a heart of gold ever!

      XXX

      • alyce1213

        Thank you, hughman, for your wit and indomitable presence.

      • decormaven

        Soooo glad things are righting themselves. Surrounding you with happy, healthy vibes.

      • YourBaloneyDontGotNoSecondName

        Hug hug and hug. You are a dear and I always love reading your comments.

      • marlie

        So glad you’re feeling better. Will keep sending good vibes your way!

      • demidaemon

        Glad to hear things are looking up!

      • NinaBoo

        Hughman, I’m so glad to see this! You are such a treat on TLo. Big hugs, dear man! -M

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        So,so glad that you are feeling better. How lovely to have your dear friend visit. Much love, dear.

      • Sarah

        It is wonderful to hear that you are feeling better! May your continued health and wittiness be ever assured.

      • Lucía Gavello

        I didn’t even know you were ill hughman, I’m glad you’re doing better! Say hello to your friend from us BKs :)

      • Lisa_Co

        So glad you are feeling better! We’ll keep sending those positive vibes your way.

      • formerlyAnon

        Glad you’re feeling better. As noted by others, we may be kind, but you have given us more than we can return, here, with your smart and entertaining contributions to the TLo commentariat.

      • rainwood1

        Kisses back. Glad to hear you’re feeling better.

    • @Biting Panda

      Cheers ladies and gents.

      Hubs has been catching up on Orphan Black. I’ll make sure he’s up to the minute come Sat night. He loves it, of course.

      I’m using this as the excuse I’m telling myself as proof that I am not actually actively avoiding my stepmother while the folks are in town. I’m letting her enjoy and bond with her granddaughter without parental influence, blah, blah, blah. The boys are doing boy things at ball parks.
      Really though, I’m just not open to her offers of being a my confidant. (her word) I appreciate the gesture, but she’s intense and she’s type a and she’s a fixer of extreme efforts. She means well, I feel bad if I’m hurting her feelings. I promise I’ll show big, public gestures of affection tomorrow.

      • decormaven

        Mother in laws can be tricky. Thankful Mr. DM’s mom is supportive of me. She’s been a rock for me in many ways.

        • @Biting Panda

          Dude my MIL is my girl!
          I’ve been getting pouring my heart out to her since I was 16 years old.

          My stepmom is great, my hang ups about her are my own. I just don’t want to have a girls night with her, ya know?

          • altalinda

            I hear you! I also have a stepmother who wants to more of a confidant than I feel comfortable with.

            • majorbedhead

              I have a stepmother who’s psychotic. I call her my stepmonster. She’s certifiable.

            • smayper

              That must be tough. My husband and I are getting divorced, but I really don’t want to lose my MIL — a truly lovely woman.

            • formerlyAnon

              Good luck. I got to keep my MIL after my divorce – it helped that we had kids – after a period of keeping distance we fell back into regular contact.(I kept my mouth shut and refused to talk about the family, except the kids and that kept things pleasant.) I know that a lot – maybe most- people aren’t that lucky.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I’m sure you won’t – family can build connections that are stronger than an individual marriage.

          • decormaven

            Whoops! It was at the end of a long day when I read your post. Got it; a stepmother dynamic has got its own nuances to work out. I also would not want a girls’ night out. You will find best way to handle this, I know.

        • alyce1213

          I have MIL envy. Mine is not a nice lady.

          • @Biting Panda

            Ugh. That sucks. I wouldn’t wish that shitty personal dynamic on anyone.

            • alyce1213

              It really does suck. In all the years (30+) we’ve never had a blowout or anything, we keep the peace, but there’s always been a chill. I come from very warm and huggy family, so it’s been uncomfortable.

            • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

              That pretty much describes my situation, too, except it was 35 years. She died last year and while I was sad because my husband was so torn up, I didn’t shed a tear, and won’t miss her and her constant negativity. One of my best (worst?) memories of her was one year when she came over on Mother’s Day for dinner…..we were sitting around the table after dessert, all very mellow, and she says (in front of her son, her two granddaughters, and their boyfriends), “Ellen, you’re a nurse, so you should know. How much valium would I have to take all at once to commit suicide? Because I don’t want to do it halfway and just end up a vegetable.” To my eternal regret, I stood up, handed her her purse, and escorted her to the front door, while my family looked on in speechless horror. What I *SHOULD* have done was say, “Oh, about twenty 10mg pills would do it. Do you have enough?” She was some piece of work. I won’t be missing her one iota on Mother’s Day!

            • alyce1213

              Woof, she created some bad drama.

            • decormaven

              My best friend has a MIL like that. It’s a PITA.

            • formerlyAnon

              You may regret your action. OTOH, her subsequent inappropriateness might have been even worse if you hadn’t demonstrated that you had some boundaries.

            • Lisa_Co

              Wow just wow:( I think you did the right thing Ellen (I have a mother a little like your MIL). To react with words would have just played in to the drama she wanted.

          • Kitten Mittons

            I look at my husband’s family and wonder how he turned out so normal. Particularly my MIL. We can commiserate at the bar.

            And we’re having issues with my step – MIL as well, at the moment. Drinks all around.

            Truly, though, it makes me so grateful for my own parents and brother. Comparatively, we are the friggin Cleavers.

          • Lisa_Co

            Mine just died but she was not nice. A rabid anti-Semite and hater of all things New York (of course I am a Jewish New Yorker). However, it speaks sad volumes that NO ONE (including my husband, her son) went to her funereal:( Terrible to think about on this Mothers Day.

            • alyce1213

              Mine is Jewish (as am I) but sometime pretended not to be.

            • formerlyAnon

              Don’t feel bad. The dead don’t know or care who’s at their funerals.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Mine took a long time to stop being a bitch to me – almost entirely due to her baby boy – but now it is quite a satisfactory relationship. I’m sorry yours isn’t good.

          • decormaven

            I feel very fortunate. Early, severe endometriosis knocked out fertility for me. My MIL has always been understanding and supportive. Now Mr. DM’s grandmother- when I saw her after my surgery, first thing she said was “Well, guess you won’t be having any grandchildren.” It was OK; she showed her cards early and I knew right where I stood with her. I wasn’t going to be extending the family line, so I was out in her book.

            • alyce1213

              The things people say — unbelievable.

            • decormaven

              I am ok with it. She was a plain spoken woman. Her life was built on her progeny; she thought I had no currency because of infertility. What she thought didn’t impact what I am, which is a lot more than one component.

            • Jackie4g

              Atta Girl!

          • Jackie4g

            My ex-MIL was a sneaky, manipulative, interfering, trouble-making bitch. Now that my son has a girlfriend, and she is a terrific human beng, I am going out of my way to NOT have opinions unless asked, and whereas I am not a hugger to anyone, I get her great presents. They are about to move in together in June. I am delighted for both of them. Also, I get my sewing. computer, doll room back. Life is good, even with bum knees!

            • formerlyAnon

              I am in a similar place with my son and his girlfriend. Life IS good, sometimes.

      • Lucía Gavello

        “The hardest of all is learning to be a well of affection, and not a fountain; to show them we love them not when we feel like it, but when they do.” -Nan Fairbrother.

        Kitten hugs!

        • formerlyAnon

          That’s a LOVELY quotation. Thank-you for bringing it to me.

      • formerlyAnon

        You are smart. I was friends with my former sister-in-law long before I knew my mother-in-law well. Between her view and my husband’s, I realized that while loving, she was incurably addicted to trying to “nudge things along” and socialized to be indirect (read “manipulative”) about it.

        Thank god I realized this from the get-go. We were and are fond of each other, and she was a great emotional support for me & my kids despite the divorce from her son. But the only reason I got to experience her in a 95% positive way was the bit of distance I kept from the beginning and my refusal to get drawn into her efforts to manage everyone in the family.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          My strategy was to make my slightly dingy mother-in-law afraid of me as soon as I married her son. She didn’t dare butt in unless invited to.

          On the other hand, my husband was still afraid of his mother, a fact that I used to my advantage when necessary. For instance, when he would procrastinate about taking care of something in the house, I would threaten to tell his Mom and it would get done immediately.

          • Jackie4g

            Thank you for the laugh.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              My pleasure.

          • decormaven

            Solid approach. Too bad that won’t work on Mr. DM.

    • AlexisPayne

      I need a drink of something to counter this lingering hangover, let’s open a bottle of champagne! Much love to TLo and all the BKs out there, cheers!

      xoxox

      • decormaven

        Brave of you to wade back out into the spirit sea. Keep it pretty plain- something over ice.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      Just want to say hi and that I hope y’all have a terrific weekend.

      I haven’t been around these parts very much in the last few weeks. I’m trying desperately to get a job and feel guilty if I spend any time away from the online job sites unless it’s for sleeping or interviewing. Have had a couple of offers but I couldn’t live off them, so I had to pass.

      • majorbedhead

        Oh, best of luck with that. I know how much job hunting sucks. I just got a new job, after a couple of months of being laid off. I had to turn down one offer, too. It was a laughably low salary.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          I can understand why a company would not put a salary in their listing, although a range would be nice. I think they should be required to use dollar signs like they do in restaurant guides. $=minimum wage. $$=$10-15/hr. $$$=$16-22/hr. And so on. Would save everyone a lot of time.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            A couple of years ago I was involved in recruiting for a role, and the head honcho was SURE that we didn’t need to put a salary because everyone in the world would work for that company at any price. He also wanted to give a job title that no one in the history of jobs has ever used. The only decent candidate we had apply, we didn’t interview because his application had mentioned his previous role paid 4x what we had in mind.

      • @Biting Panda

        Best of luck to you! We are all pulling for you and I know you’ll find the right thing.

      • decormaven

        Keeping you in my thoughts and pulling for the right thing to come to your way.

      • mlurve

        I feel you. I’m relocating from NYC to DC this summer for my SO’s job (he graduates from grad school at Columbia in two weeks woo hoo!) so I am applying for jobs down there and it is just so exhausting. I interviewed with a total of SEVEN people at this one company and it’s been two weeks and I haven’t even heard anything. Another company has had me interview with four people, gave me a writing test, and wants me to interview with one more person, then throws out that maybe they’d only offer me an entry level position even though I have 3-4 years experience.

        I am very fortunate that I’m employed here and my bosses know about the move and are super supportive. But man, does the job search grind suck!!

        • MaggieMae

          It’s a mystery to me why the job search sucks so badly. The company I work for is suspicious of anyone who has been out of work too long. But when they want to hire someone, it takes forever. Multiple interviews. The search for the magical perfect candidate who comes completed prepared. Weeks & weeks go by. Are job seekers supposed to starve in the meantime? Apparently so. AND be really really grateful with a mediocre offer. I’m a Bitter Kitten this morning!

      • marlie

        Good luck!

      • Jacqueline Wessel

        The good news is that you have had a couple offers (plural!), so you heading in a positive direction. The right offer is on it’s way. As Tom Petty said, “The waiting is the hardest part.” Hang in there.

      • KayEmWhy

        Best of luck to you hang in there. Sending you good vibes.

      • Lisa_Co

        I’m so glad you’ve had offers – that’s promising. For what it’s worth, my husband’s advice (and he’s good at this stuff)) is never bring up money until you get an offer. Then when they know how much THEY want YOU, you have more leverage to negotiate your price.

      • Sarah

        Fingers crossed, GC. Good things come to those who wait, right? I hope so, very much.

      • formerlyAnon

        Good luck. Give yourself a few mini breaks when you can. Try to remember that it only takes one that’s right.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Thank you to everyone for your continued support and encouragement. I try not to whine, but I am definitely not having a good time.

        I’m still trying to make something happen with the man for whom I want to consult, but he’s in no hurry to make a decision. We’ve met twice, but the meetings end with him saying he needs to figure out what he wants to do. We haven’t even progressed far enough to talk about fees, but thanks to you guys, at least I know now what to charge.

    • majorbedhead

      I’m waiting for Thing 1 to go to bed, so that Thing 2 and I can watch Doctor Who. She’s 9 and she’s as obsessed as I am. Yesterday, she made me a popsicle stick TARDIS, complete with Play-Doh console. It’s the cutest thing ever.

      And then, when Thing 2 goes to bed, I shall have a very large glass of wine or three and continue to try to wrap my head around season 1 of Orphan Black. Man, that show is weird. Great, but weird.

      • @Biting Panda

        OB it is is tee vee crack!

    • alyce1213

      What a gorgeous lounge this weekend! I had a lovely day — got together with an old friend for an amazing lunch of smoked fish and other delicacies. The caraway Bloody Mary was strong and delicious. I really am a food and fashion junkie.

      • decormaven

        Ooh, that Blood Mary sounds so good! That’s a drink I enjoy when I’m out; I never seem to nail it at home.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Smoked fish and a bloody mary sounds like a very civilised lunch!

      • mlurve

        Ooooh caraway bloody mary sounds good. I just had a bacon-flavored bloody mary this morning/afternoon!

        • alyce1213

          Yum. I haven’t tried that yet.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      I made a recent discovery. It’s that Bryan Cranston has a very sexy voice. I know. I know. Maybe you all already knew this, but I did not. I only knew that whoever was the voice actor of Isamu Dyson in the anime “Macross Plus” was the hottest I’d ever heard, back when I first saw the mini-series years (and years) ago. I wondered why the heck this voice actor was not in more dubbed anime. Recently I was reading things randomly on the internet and saw that acting credit on Cranston’s Wikipedia entry. I am amazed.

      • demidaemon

        It’s awesome to find out stars did something unexpected and cool. Especially when they have sexy voices. Although there is one show, Descendants of Darkness, where they gave a sixteen year old boy the voice of a gravelly smoker. It was weird and yet I became used to it and can’t hear the character any other way now.

    • Brittney P

      Happy weekend, y’all! I had an extremely productive day: turned in all my information for licensure, which included the application, getting it notarized, taking a truly horrific passport photo, getting money orders, and completing a criminal background check (which I had to drive an hour and a half to do). I’m very much enjoying catching up to TLo, while sitting in my granny nightgown and sipping on a glass of wine (who am I kidding, I’m basically about to start sipping from the bottle).

      Hope y’all have a good one!

      • alyce1213

        What is it with passport pictures — they’re pretty much all horrific aren’t they?

        • decormaven

          I always told Mr. DM they could ID him at the morgue with his shot.

      • Jessica Freeman

        I think it’s actually required that you look slightly on the mentally unstable side for passport photos. I am close to Debra Messing level of crazy eyes in mine.

    • kimmeister

      I have three social events in two days, so no time to catch up on 24, the Netflix disc of Downton Abbey, or any of the movies out that I want to see. Gah! Off to go get a baby shower gift.

      Happy trails to all!

      • decormaven

        I try to buy up several baby shower gifts at a time, because they always come in waves.

    • another_laura

      Ah, Budapest! Had some fun there but not in any spot as grand as this. It’s been a pretty good week for me, so have the waiter bring me some good Tokaj and a gypsy violinist, please. Preferably around 35, tall dark and handsome.

    • marlie

      Happy Friday, Kittens! It’s been a week of ups and downs… I had my high school reunion last weekend, which was 48 hours of crazy fun with my classmates. Add to that an impromptu visit from an old friend of mine AND one from one of my mother’s childhood friends (who’s like family), and it was a whole weekend of catching up with people. I also heard some really devastating news about another old friend, which put a damper on some of the excitement, but all I can do right now is pray for her and her family.

      There’s more excitement tomorrow with the bf’s bestie’s wedding, and then Mother’s Day. Hopefully I won’t pass out from exhaustion before the weekend is over!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Congrats on the reunion going so well!

      • decormaven

        Lots of social activities! Soldier on.

      • formerlyAnon

        Enjoy the good. Hope the bad is mitigated in some way.

    • Jennifer Bober

      Happy Friday Kittenland. I’m actually, for the first time in 16 years, doing something special on Mother’s Day. Not being a mom and having lost mine in 1998, it’s generally not a happy day. However, this year my cousin’s wife invited me to their place to hang out with family, including my aunt, who is my godmother (and my mom’s sister). It was incredibly sweet and thoughtful and will make what is usually a lousy day into a good one, so I’m counting my blessings. I hope you all have an opportunity to do the same.

      So, for the first time in many years, with a lightened heart, I can say, Happy Mother’s Day everyone.

      • decormaven

        I know how you feel. Also not a mom, and my mom is also deceased. Enjoy your time with family, and know that nurturing can be done with so many people, not with just one’s own children.

        • Jennifer Bober

          Absolutely. There were kids calling me Aunt Jen long before my brother and his wife had a child. It’s a great privilege. I hope your day is a good one.

          • decormaven

            It will be. I’ve got a lot of “kiddies” – big and small. Everyone needs a hug!

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          I can attest to that, DM, having been virtually nurtured by you on numerous occasions. Hugs to you!

          • decormaven

            Thanks! Right back at you.

      • snarkykitten

        aw, I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

      • MartyBellerMask

        Warm hugs!

    • demidaemon

      My weekend is pretty much going to consist of grading and decompressing from said grading. Grades are due a week from today, and I plan to get them done early!

      Other than that, a pretty nondescript week at chez demidaemon.

      • kimmeister

        Rock on with your non-procrastinating self!

        • demidaemon

          Let’s hope I can actually keep to my word!

      • Sarah

        My Bio prof emailed and said that although our semester’s over on Tuesday, he doesn’t have to turn in grades til the weekend, so he’s giving us until FRIDAY to finish our assignments. I think I cried a little bit. I mean, sorry, but the BIO100 class I had to take for a gen ed credit was not my top priority and I still have an essay and two tests due. He just gave me leave to have a bit of a pleasant weekend!

        • formerlyAnon

          Yay! Hope you get it in before Friday anyway so you can just BE DONE.

        • demidaemon

          What a nice guy! I would have given my students more time, if they hadn’t needed to turn in hard copies of their assignments (one of the course objectives I have to assess requires me to compare a rough draft to a revised draft). However, they won’t have to come in for finals week ( and neither will I), so we’re all happy about that!

          • Sarah

            Cool! I was supposed to turn in a rough draft of my thesis, but I turned in a final instead. Hope my advisor is cool with that…

            • demidaemon

              I hope your adviser is cool with that, too! Good luck! Do you have to have a defense?

            • Sarah

              Nope! Sigh. Lucky me!

            • demidaemon

              You are lucky! Defenses are all kinds of stressful, and I say this from experience. I had to defend my honors project in undergrad, and then I had two for my Master’s degree: one for the proposal and one for the final product. A couple of my friends even had to totally redo their proposals, which was added stress. I didn’t, luckily, but I’ll have to do it all again when it comes to the dissertation.

            • Lisa_Co

              Luckily my achool (Columbia) only requires defenses for completed Ph.D. dissertations.

            • demidaemon

              Both my brother and I had to complete defenses for our theses. For your school, mine would make sense, as until about ten years ago, the MFA was considered a terminal degree (it still is for most creative degrees, but it has changed for creative writing :(). My brother’s would make less sense, as his was a regular Master’s in history.

      • decormaven

        Keep rolling and get that grading done. It’s a full weekend of deskwork here; getting ready to crack into it.

      • MaggieMae

        What do you teach, demidaemon?

        • demidaemon

          Composition.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Good for you, hope you get to decompress and have a nice weekend after your work.

      • formerlyAnon

        Well GO GO GO. Because you will then deserve some quite nice reward, yes?

        (From my POV, your week included one act of great generosity by steering me to an attractively lean – if disturbingly hairless – cover photo of NPH.)

        • demidaemon

          I’m glad I could make your week!

    • snarkykitten

      I got my tattoo finished yesterday and I can’t frekin wait to unwrap it and show it off.

      • Sarah

        Fun! I’m getting a new one today!

        • snarkykitten

          What is it?

          • Sarah

            In the final scene of the Blues Brothers (my favorite movie of All Time), there is a scene where the boys are playing “Jailhouse Rock” with the band in the mess hall at Joliet Prison. There is a phrase on the wall behind them, which was taken from the floor of Joliet’s death row and reproduced on the wall for the movie. It says “IT IS NEVER TOO LATE! TO MEND” I got it because well, it’s my favorite movie, and also, my father joined AA at age 68, and my fiance left a life of crime to be with me, and I need reminding that all my faults can still be overcome, even if it takes my whole life. It really is never too late.

            • Shibori Girl

              Now that is a philosophy to live by! Thanks for putting it out here for all the BKs benefit.

            • Sarah

              You’re most welcome. I have to say that the “!” was really hard for me to decide to put, because that is NOT good grammar, but I wanted to stay true to the emblem as it was written :)

            • formerlyAnon

              It can be a very stringent litmus test to see of the observer has seen the movie and appreciated some of the same things about it that you did! (Thanks for telling about your tattoo. I love people’s stories, and tattoo stories are, for obvious reasons, sometimes the best of all.)

            • decormaven

              It would be hard to pick a fav scene out of that movie. One of my favorite lines is “Did you get my Cheez Whiz, boy?” and James Brown kills with “The Lighthouse.” So sorry that’s not available for download.

      • decormaven

        What is the artwork? Only if you care to share.

        • snarkykitten

          It’s a hamster in a space suit. It sounds cheesy but it looks awesome (of course I say that). I don’t have any good pics because it’s on my calf which is a really hard thing to photograph on your own, but google Tanane Whitfield cos the artist is unbelievable.

          • Sarah

            That is funny. Why does the hamster go to space? Burning question!

            • decormaven

              Inquiring minds want to know!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Lucky! I have huge plans but not enough money for mine. I might get on the tattooist’s list to at least get a bit more done, just to scratch the itch, so to speak.

        • snarkykitten

          What do you have done?

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I have some cherry blossom on one hip and a sun & moon tramp stamp, and by the time I am finished it’ll be an integrated piece that wraps almost all the way around my waist.

            • formerlyAnon

              That sounds elegant!

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I hope so! The woman who did the cherry blossom is brilliant and I want her to do the rest, but for the last few years she’s been on maternity leave when I have had money and when she’s been working I have been broke. Plus she recently worked on a couple of fairly high profile musicians, so I suspect her waiting list will be getting out of hand.

            • formerlyAnon

              Then get on that list! See if she takes payments on account, so you can be giving her dribs and drabs as you can? Send each one in with a pretty card and maybe if you can’t commit to the whole piece by the time your name comes up on her list, she’ll think of you kindly and not make you drop all the way to the bottom? Bring her delicious homemade food gifts if you get the work done piecemeal. (I steal all of this from a friend who makes lifelong friends/friendly acquaintances of anyone she does business with for any length of time.)

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Your friend sounds great! I will try that approach.

    • GeoDiva

      Happy Mother’s Day to all the BK’s and their moms! My husband is making my favorite dish on Sunday (Green Chili Chicken Enchiladas), my oldest daughter is home from college and my crazy mother is in Africa. It’s going to be a great weekend!

    • Linderella

      Entering month 6 of unemployment, so need someone to buy me a drink. Can’t afford my own! (On the plus side, I’m a lightweight drinker, so your chances of getting me tipsy and scoring are pretty high. I’m a cheap date, haha!)
      Oh, and Happy Mother’s Day for those to whom that applies!

      • marlie

        I’ve been there. The first round is on me!

        • Linderella

          Thanks! Cape Cod with vanilla vodka, please. :)

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        I’ll get the second round. Is a Cape Cod with Vanilla Vodka anything like a White Russian? I love those, they slide down like candy.

        • Linderella

          A Cape Cod is vodka and cranberry juice. Years ago was at a friend’s house for brunch, and she inadvertently bought vanilla vodka instead of regular. Like that was going to stop us! Turns out, they’re delicious.
          So thanks for the second round. Which means I’m now officially drunk, you scamp!

      • decormaven

        Hang in there! Job hunting is thirsty work. Sending you a virtual round.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        It’s a depressing state. I’m lucky that at the moment I can stick to applying to jobs that interest me, but if I don’t get something soon my brain will turn to porridge and I will be no use to anyone.

      • MaggieMae

        Unemployment suuuuuucks. I’m too late to buy you a drink in the lounge, but here’s to you, wishing the Job Fairies will sprinkle some good news your way!

    • Angela_the_Librarian

      The bid we made on our dream home was denied by the seller for stupid reasons (despite probably having the strongest bid), so I’m definitely looking forward to not thinking about real estate for the rest of the weekend. If the weather cooperates we’ll probably go for a hike. Oh, and Jon Hamm will be in town tomorrow, so I’m keeping my eye out for him! Hope everyone has a relaxing weekend.

      • decormaven

        Perhaps it’s for the best, even though I bet you jumped through some hoops to try to make it happen. May something equally as good- or better- come your way. Oooh, a Hamm sighting? Now, that would ease some pain!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        How ridiculous! Are you under pressure to move? Good luck Hamm spotting.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I love the lounge, and yes, I’m feelng Noel Cowardish, too. Coincidentally Thursday evening I attended a meet the cast reception in D.C. for the Shakespeare Theater’s final production for the season-“Private Lives”.

    • Kathleen B

      :) <3 you guys!! Happy weekend!

    • Sarah

      I FINISHED MY THESIS y’all! I wanted to get lit tonight in celebration, but it seems that I’ve come up ill, and I’m going to bed early after a respectable three beers. My fiance saved a woman from drowning yesterday, and brought me a huge bunch of gorgeous flowers, because (he said) “I thought of you and what if you had been drowning and no one was there to save you?” Good man. He gets the TV tonight for his Wii game, ‘cuz I’m gonna pass the funk out. I’m supposed to be getting a new tat tomorrow, so I hope I’m not a wreck and can still make it.

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Congrats! Your fiance sounds like a keeper. Good luck with the tat!

      • @Biting Panda

        ♡♡♡

      • alyce1213

        Wow, just wow! Congratulations on your thesis and give that good man a hug from the kittens,

      • zenobar

        A big WHOOP WHOOP on the thesis! Congratulations! I’m toasting you with sparkling water because I’m saving my wine credits for date night tomorrow :)

        And plus also: What a man!

        Feel better!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Huzzah! Well done you! And well done your fiance – what a useful man to have around. Hope you feel better soon – I believe the post-thesis blues can be pretty harsh.

      • decormaven

        Congrats on completing the thesis- your system probably got overloaded and caused the illness. That man you have; tie a knot and hang on. He’s a keeper, for sure.

      • MaggieMae

        Sweeeet!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Congrats to you! What a HUGE accomplishment! Hope you feel better soon. At least you have a wonderful nurse at your side.

      • formerlyAnon

        YAY! and DOUBLE YAY! And bonus fiance-based YAYS!
        You are well into Saturday by this time so I hope you are out and about, getting Things Done and a New Tattoo. (Is it related to finishing the thesis, may I ask?)

        • Sarah

          Nope. A long time planned, and the shop we’re pals with is having a party today to drum up business – ribs, beers, and tats for $50 bucks. I can get it for free because aforementioned fiance pays their bills practically by doing his best to become the Illustrated Man. I replied to @snarkykitten:disqus re: what it is up thread.

      • snarkykitten

        Wow you landed a winner there! :) Congrats! And since tattoos are a theme this week, what are you getting done?

      • KinoEye

        Your fiance: d’awwwww! Wonderful, wonderful man. Congratulations on finishing up the thesis!! I hope you’re well today so you can indulge in some much deserved celebration. And yes, inquiring minds want to know — what tat are you getting?

        • Sarah

          I replied to @snarkykitten:disqus what it is up thread. Thanks all for asking!

      • Qitkat

        I’m so proud of you, (almost as much as if you’re one of my kids), it’s a wonderful achievement! You are blessed with a fine, thoughtful man. Enjoy your new tat and hope you are feeling better.

      • MilaXX

        YAY!!!! /

        • Sarah

          Thank you ALL so much for your support! It has been a TOUGH semester, and I just have some little odds and ends to finish up, and one more summer class, and I’ll finally be DONE WITH SCHOOL. It’s only been 12 years in the doing (off and on) so I’m pretty happy about it.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Good job! I feel like we’ve all written it with you. I’m sure George Carlin would be proud. LOL

        • Sarah

          Thank you very much. And you did! You all reminded me to work hard on it when I definitely didn’t want to. And also, to keep in mind always that there is more to the world than a damned paper to write :)

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Congratulations on such a huge accomplishment! And that fiancé of yours sounds like a great guy. I know this will be a day you will long remember. Yay for both of you!

    • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

      Love you boys! That feminist touch is exactly why y’all are my favorite bloggers.

      I finally updated my neglected outfit-of-the-day tumblr with a picture of the outfit I wore to the book party – the tumblr is sincerelylovehats dot tumblr dot com if anyone wants to check it out. :)

      • zenobar

        From one hat lover to another – you do rock a chapeau my dear!

      • decormaven

        How cute! I like the hat you chose for the book party, as well as the Greek fisherman’s cap. You indeed can wear a hat!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Fantastic outfit! You are killing it in those pants.

        • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

          Thanks!

      • Qitkat

        Your outfit is beyond adorable for the BK-TLo party. And so many other fun features on your Tumblr.

        • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

          <3! I really wish I had more opportunities to update it. Workwear gets really repetitive.

    • ankali

      That Bitch interview almost made me tear up a little. Excellent work, uncles, and congratulations on a well-earned year of TLo fêting so far.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      Another in the continuing series of sucky Friday nights at work. If there is a God, why does he make everything fall apart every Friday night, like clockwork?

      The good news is, I got home and there was a big bouquet of lillies and irises (my favorites) on the table, an early Mother’s Day present from my husband. The note said, why should you wait until Sunday to enjoy these? Now you can look at them all weekend! He’s the best. I think we’ll be getting together for Sunday brunch here at the house. In the trifecta of hospitality death, this Sunday is Mother’s Day, Duke graduation, and UNC Chapel Hill graduation, which means that there isn’t a restaurant for miles that has an open table all day. Traffic will also be ridiculous. It’s been this way for years but I still find it amazing that at least one university doesn’t change its graduation date.

      Here’s a special Mother’s Day shout out to every woman who is NOT a mother. I hope you know that you have done a LOT for mothers and children, perhaps without even knowing it. Mothering is not bestowed upon one with the mere fact of reproduction–it’s a skill and a gift, and most of my child-free girlfriends, neighbors, and relatives are the best mothers I know. Thanks for being part of the village that it indeed does take to raise a child. L’chaim!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Getting your flowers early is so thoughtful! What a nice man.

      • decormaven

        Bless! That’s a trifecta of bad traffic there for sure. Sounds like the day for a backyard grill. Love the bouquet you received- what a beautiful combination. Thanks for the shout-out for the non-mommy women. We all raise one another!

      • housefulofboys

        What a nice post! I live in Chapel Hill too (small world!); I went to the gym very early this morning, and I’m not going out again until Monday. Graduation traffic is even worse than home basketball games.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          My mum lives in Chapel Hill – but not the same one as you! In Brisbane.

          • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

            I believe there’s a Chapel Hill winery that is based in Australia. Must be the same town as your mum! Do you get to visit her? I’d love to go there, but only if I could stay at least 3 weeks….such a long trip.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Nope – that’s another Chapel Hill altogether! I went over last year, but that was the first time I have been home in 5 years. I’m planning to go again in 2016, because it’ll be her 60th.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          My assigned raking spot is directly across from the Dean Dome (home base for UNC basketball). I pay over $600/year for that spot, and it’s not even close to the hospital! (About a mile walk.) On days when there’s a home game, I have to move my car by 4:00 pm or it will be towed, even though that’s my spot, and my shift at work isn’t over until 11pm. At 3:45, I swear, the tow trucks are lined up, engines idling. God help that the basketball fans should be inconvenienced by inessential surgical personnel who can’t drop everything and move their cars…..grrrr……

          • decormaven

            You’re parking on hallowed ground across from the Dean Dome- or at least the basketball fans would see it that way. That has got to be a huge PITA. Chapel Hill is charming, but I wouldn’t want to jockey park around the university for anything.

      • altalinda

        Thanks for the shout-out to non-mothers. I do find it disconcerting when strangers, who are trying to be polite and nice, wish me a Happy Mother’s Day.

      • Jessica Freeman

        Duke or Carolina changing their graduation date would mean one would have to ‘concede’ and we know neither of them would willingly give up that day lol. I live in Charlotte and you won’t be able to find a table anywhere except fast food for 15 square miles. We gave up on eating out for that very reason. It’s pure insanity out there and more stressful than it is fun.

        Your husband is the sweetest. Enjoy your weekend!

        • mlurve

          Carolina’s graduation day is always on Mother’s Day (I’m a UNC grad so I know :)) but I didn’t realize Duke’s was the same day too. Crazy that the booked up dinner reservations extend all the way out to Charlotte, too. I think we ended up eating in Durham for my graduation day but still booked our reservation like, six months in advance.

      • Shibori Girl

        Thank you, thank you! I have actively helped raise several children and am a Godmother. So nice that the village aspect of child rearing is recognized.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I believe Monday, 12th is International Nurses Day. So thank you to you and all the other nurses who work so hard to help us when we are sick.

    • Musicologie

      This is my favorite lounge so far. Truly.

      I can’t drink tonight, however. My family is part of a study where researchers are measuring our stress levels through cortisol levels in saliva, and we can’t have alcohol up to 12 hours before the sample. It’s a small sacrifice for science.

      • decormaven

        That’s a significant sacrifice for science. Virtual drinks are ok, though. :-)

        • Musicologie

          Particularly when the whole reason we’re in this study is because we have a baby! Fortunately, the kid isn’t a complete monster. Yet. (They started testing us while I was pregnant and have been checking in every few months. This is the last one, though!)

          • decormaven

            Congrats on seeing it through, and best wishes for your wee one.

      • MaggieMae

        How will the scientists know whether it’s the lack of alcohol that is stressing you out or not? lol

    • zenobar

      OK, I’m probably too late to the party but, is anyone else excited about the Outlander series starting this summer? BECAUSE I CANNOT WAIT.

      • Sarah

        I am excited because I liked those books, (Better than GoT, TBH) but I don’t get that channel :( I shall have to wait for the DVDs.

      • MilaXX

        I never heard of this before, sounds interesting.

        • zenobar

          It’s – well, the books are – a peculiar blend of sci-fi, historical fiction, and romance. All beautifully written, researched, and shot through with wry humor. I can’t recommend them highly enough. The first one is called – wait for it – Outlander, and if you can hang in for the first few chapters you may find yourself hooked. These books have a loyal, rabid and mildly insane following, mainly because nearly everyone who reads them falls deeply in love with the story’s hero, Jamie Fraser. Even if they don’t normally go for the gingers.

          • MilaXX

            Sounds interesting, I may check it out.

          • SierraDelta

            And KILTS! Never forget to mention KILTS!

      • @Biting Panda

        So very!

    • boweryboy

      Today is the partner’s cousin’s wedding – the first wedding we’ve attended in two years that we’re actually guests instead of in the wedding party. Tomorrow, since the entire family will be here, is the family reunion. I’m already exhausted.

      • formerlyAnon

        Gird your loins and into the fray! In my family these big deal occasions are/were the primary bonding points past the nuclear family units since we’re so geographically far-flung. So I always found them interesting-to-pleasant. In my ex’s family, they were all way too much up into each other’s business all the time, so they were more like a series of minefields in party clothes. Hope you get more of the former!

        • boweryboy

          Fortunately the partner’s family is such a loving and totally functional unit it’s kind if surreal. Although, his mother is obsessed with taking photos but she hates candid shots. So at any given time she makes everyone stop what they’re doing so she can take what she calls “spontaneous snaps” which is anything but that. It could be in the middle of dinner or while people are deep in conversation. I have a light hearted rivalry with her since I dislike having my photo taken so I make joking attempts to avoid my photo being taken.

          • decormaven

            I’ll sit next to you. I inherited my mom’s dislike of being photographed. Sightings of me on film are rare.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I’m always the photographer. You would never know that I was at a party. Sometimes I have to remind myself to get in a picture so that later on, people will remember I existed.

            • decormaven

              Hey, being the photog gets me out of the picture! :-)

            • Qitkat

              i seem to be in a stage where people forget to even include me in pictures. Not that I love being photographed, but as you said, one does occasionally wish to be documented that we were around.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            “loving and totally functional unit” – I can’t even imagine what that is like!

            I don’t like having my photo taken, but I realised many years ago that if you don’t tell people that, and make yourself available and smile when a camera is pointed at you, that fewer and better pictures are taken.

      • decormaven

        Good luck to you. I’d say I would wish for alcohol at the event, but sometimes that just amps up the unpleasantness. Muddle through the best you can.

        • boweryboy

          There was plenty of alcohol at the wedding which was a good thing. There was a sea of dress pants that desperately needed hemming.The cousins husband’s friends were”bros” so it was interesting watching the bros being bros. I didn’t realize that was really a thing. Also it was a Christian/Hindu wedding so there was gorgeous sari porn for days.

          • decormaven

            Glad things worked out! Sigh of relief…

          • formerlyAnon

            I am envying you the sari porn. Also the entertainment of bros at a Christian/Hindu event.

            • boweryboy

              The highlight of the bro entertainment was when the dj played Journey’s Don’t Stop Believin’ and the bros all converged on the dance floor fist pumping and singing along. It was like something from a bad Hollywood rom-com.

    • formerlyAnon

      You gentlemen have given a number of good/interesting interviews, but this one is even better. Take note, interviewers: let your subjects talk about what’s important to them if they’re willing to do so! (Then try not to let it be edited it into gibberish.)

      Very pretty lounge.

      Lucky enough to score free tickets through a friend for more live entertainment (comedy/variety show) last night. Tried a gin-sage-pineapple-something cocktail, which was too sweet for me thanks to the pineapple, but sold me on making the sage simple syrup discussed here a couple of weeks ago. Drank more than usual, just enough to view everything through a beneficent haze. Maybe cemented a bit of real friendship into a recently acquired friendly acquaintance relationship. (Hard to believe since I over share like mad, here, but it takes me a long time to establish a friendship).

      My sympathies to job hunters. I’m just tooling up to put myself out there, and it’s got me busier than a one-armed paper hanger. Much less anxiety, though, than the full on application/interview process. Other than that, little to relate. Which is good, in the scheme of things.

      • decormaven

        Good luck in your new venture. If you present as well in person as you do on paper (this blog), you’ll have no problems.

        • formerlyAnon

          Thanks. I’m hoping to cantilever off of my current job, which is great, but pays too little. (Way too little.) My life changes have always been more about serendipity than planning, so this feels weird. But hey! Growth!

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Hi fA. I also feel that for the most part, I’ve allowed my life to happen to me instead of me following a plan. I can identify just a few instances where I made a conscious decision to change things, like my divorce and closing my store.

            Good luck with the job hunting. What are you looking for?

            • formerlyAnon

              If I had a target I was looking for, it’d be easier! My actual lucrative employment is 20 years ago, engineering/quality assurance/contract management for military contracts. But since then it’s all been grad school and child rearing and underemployment with flexible hours. I have an MLIS (Library & Info Science) and work in vaguely database & web resources support in a university library – which is making it sound far more technical and transferable than it is. There’s a lot of data entry involved. So I’m working on various work-related committees and looking for a visible project that will expand my technical skills and trying to ramp up a couple of articles and looking for the path. I am not in any danger of losing my house for a couple of years at my current income level (barring disaster, always), and am giving myself 4-6 more months before I have to pick up a second job doing anything I can get.

              Yeah. I should probably be more anxious than I am, but I’ve always made turns slowly, like an ocean liner and had good luck.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Well, good luck. I hope there aren’t any icebergs along the way.

            • decormaven

              Oooh, information science. I thought of pursuing that degree at one time. Can it be used in doing corporate research?

      • Shibori Girl

        Ambling into the lounge a day late and a penny short, I see your reference to sage simple syrup. I don’t even drink cocktails and this sounds fabulous. Must be time to start hosting cocktail parties. Good luck on the job search.

        • formerlyAnon

          Thanks! I even may try basil.

    • Jessica Freeman

      Good Morning Kittens! This week was exhausting…working for Cali and living in NC can get your working hours all messed up, considering work doesn’t really ‘start’ until almost lunch time and and can go well into 7-8PM. I design commercial kitchens, mainly for prisons. We currently have 3 huge ones going on at the same time…in Cali, along with the other small projects we have. We are a 2 person office and aside from me is my boss–who is also my grandfather/mentor–and he’s 78 and now showing signs of an aging brain. Most days I hold his hand while trying to get my own work done. Very LONG week of this.

      Next week stands to be just as insane…traveling to Cali for a jail site visit, programming meetings and a red eye out on Friday night. I rely heavily on coffee and espresso. I will need to mainline it by Friday. And this is the year I decided to challenge myself to quit drinking. I’ve had better ideas is all I’ll say.

      Happiest of Mother’s Day to all you mamas. And to echo @NurseEllen:disqus, the rest of us who aren’t mothers but nurture with the best of them. My mom isn’t home, it’s my parents anniversary and they are in St. Maarten, so it will be an easy Sunday for me to mentally prepare for next week.

      TLo, that interview pretty much sums up why yours is my favorite blog. I finally found forward thinking fashion commentary and a community of people with thoughtful and often hilarious comments. It’s not hateful here, and I love that.

      • formerlyAnon

        Damn girl. I’ve done some office-renovation/moving projects and I cannot imagine designing for spaces from a distance. I know, hence the site visits, but still. There’s always SOMEthing that needs to be verified or that nobody mentioned.

        Challenging work environment, with your grandfather practically but even more emotionally. Hope it doesn’t get too much worse before he semi-almost-completely retires. And/or it makes business sense to hire some help.

        Drinking is tricky. I’ve never completely quit on purpose, but when I decide to cut back, it’s almost always easier to cut it out completely. For me. YMMV, as they say.

        • Jessica Freeman

          It’s actually not very hard to get the work done with internet communications. I’ve only ever worked for him (16 years now) and back in the day of fax machines and FedEx it was much harder. I find dealing with the large corporate firms the hardest, especially being a small business. If you need to work out something relatively simple we have to have a scheduled conference call with all the Chiefs and very few Indians…and what was a simple solution becomes exacerbated by everyone’s need to offer opinions.

          Gpa had a pretty bad year in 2012 in the briefest of synopsis: he fell and broke his hip in Amsterdam, had a horrid experience in the hospital there, came back with an infection and botched surgery, ended up having 2 more surgeries to fix said botched surgery here and after what was an 8 month ordeal (PSA: get travel insurance when traveling to foreign countries with the MediVac option), his mind never really recovered. It’s been a struggle for 2 years now, but it seems as if this past year it’s really gotten worse. Fortunately, we’ve always had plans in place for when its time for things to change, but he will never really retire. What we do is a little niche and something we both really love. And in all reality it keeps him going day in and day out.

          • decormaven

            Did your gpa have hyperbaric treatment for the infection? That may be an option for such a stubborn infection.

            • Jessica Freeman

              the infection is long gone. He had an infectious disease doctor (you know, when you bring back infections from foreign countries, it’s a bit of a red flag) and a PICC line and had to get IV antibiotics at the hospital for 6 weeks every day. He’s fully recovered physically.

            • decormaven

              That’s fortunate the infection was stopped in time. Something like that can set in and do significant damage. Given his age, the severity of the infection, and the work/travel schedule he maintains, I wouldn’t doubt some cognitive issues. He must be made of sturdy stuff; sounds like you are, too!

      • formerlyAnon

        P.s. My favorite novelty change purse bears the legend “Coffee: the last cheap drug.” Coffee & espresso own my soul.

        • Sarah

          I was a dedicated drinker of hot tea only, but I started drinking great 20 oz cups of dark roast while working on that damned thesis. I may be hooked…

      • decormaven

        Sounds like you have a full plate. Going alcohol free is ambitious, but I salute your efforts. Your line of work is interesting, and while it must be gratifying to work with your grandfather, the realities of the aging brain are indeed tricky. Hang in there, and safe journeys ahead.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        You win the award for Interesting Job of the Day. Since I believe that inmates work in the kitchens, are there any special security considerations for prison kitchens? I’d love to hear from other BKs who do out-of-the-ordinary work.

        • Jessica Freeman

          They do work in the kitchens, and often with civilian staff as well. I have been to site visits with over 100 inmates working in the kitchen. We relinquish our drivers licenses before entering and have been told many times ‘if something happens, our priority is to secure the prison”. In essence, you’re here on your own free will and if something happens you are not the priority. The other side that to it is, to work in the kitchen is something an inmate has to work very hard to get to do, and they typically will not do anything to jeopardize it because they get to at least be out of their cell. Obviously there is to be no communication between the prisoners and ourselves.

          All equipment comes with ‘security packages’. All fasteners are hex nuts that require special screws, there are no loose pieces, all controls are in locked boxes. Knives are chained to the table when in use and locked in as security cabinet in the manager’s office. And type of food processor blade, dough whips or mixing pieces,its all the same. Everything must be accounted for before the inmates leave.

          The most common comment I get from people about it is “oh well you’re a woman I bet they really love that”…and the truth is, it’s because I’m a person. They only ever see each other and the staff and to just see someone from the outside like a passing stranger is something new for them–their days never change. They follow my 78 year old grandfather around just as much they do me.

          • formerlyAnon

            If I ever write a book it will be people’s stories about their work.

            • decormaven

              Like Studs Terkel’s book. That was a favorite of mine.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I find design so intriguing. So many elements I have never thought of!

    • KinoEye

      I wish I were drinking in this lounge, but I’ll have to settle for the makeshift bar they’ve set up at this big fishing tournament I’m covering this weekend. The best part? It’s all FREE because I have a press pass. Ah, the occasional perks of journalism. I must say, the obsession over fishing as a sport mystifies me. And the town is lousy with fishermen, who are not always gentlemen. But this tourney is bringing a ton of money into our little community, so it’s a great thing. Off to continue my Hunter S Thompson-esque coverage, and a very happy Mother’s Day to all the mama kittens out there!

      • decormaven

        Ha ha! Take solace where you can find it. I bet there are flashes of HST with that gig.

        • KinoEye

          Oh yes, yes there are. I wish I had the leeway to write an East Texas, fishing tournament version of “The Kentucky Derby is Decadent and Depraved,” but I really don’t think my publisher would go for that, haha. It’s not very decadent, but it is slightly depraved. And the fashion is considerably less impressive than that of the Kentucky Derby. Ah, well — free beer!

          • decormaven

            That would be fabu. Sounds like a good opportunity for a fun literary piece, published under your nom de plume. I loved HST’s early work; while I’ve let go of many books, his still stand on the shelf.

          • Sarah

            Free Beer is nothing to sniff at. Have lots of fun!

          • formerlyAnon

            I imagine it could be the basis for a hilarious satirical piece – that you’d have to publish under a nom de plume, and somewhere with the right readers. (Or maybe a sketch comedy.)

    • MilaXX

      Well done. I think what draws me to this blog is the tone you guys set. Because you set such a fine example, the discussions between the BK’s are enjoyable. It’s a true interchange of thoughts and ideas.

      • Sarah

        Yes, you said it really well. The tone is one that is truly worth adhering to and wonderful to read.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        One of my biggest pleasures about this site is that the comments are written in full, grammatically correct sentences. On other sites, I automatically edit as I read or else I can’t understand what those people are talking about.

    • decormaven

      Excellent interview, uncles; thanks for the link. I think it caught the gist of TLo quite well.

    • Shiela Scott

      Wow its a beautifully deadened dream. I mean my bank account cant join you and my ideal of mothers day is sitting in a UK cottage with five bedroom mansions that i own close by!

    • FancyPhilly

      I’m very late to the party, but just watched the Eurovision finals. Way to go Conchita Wurst!! Next stop RuPaul’s Drag Race perhaps?

    • Truthiness2U

      Can’t wait for the post about the Days Past Future realness X-Men whatever, poledance red carpet. If only so that I can revel in all things Fan Bing Bing.

      • ShaoLinKitten

        I was hoping TLo would review those red carpet outfits too. When looking at it, I was wondering who was wearing which designer and what the BKs would think. Also, Fan Bingbing! Amazing.

    • MartyBellerMask

      You guys rock. Just. Rock.
      Hope everyone’s having a great weekend. I did a little thrift shopping (solo!) and got some great deals. Found “The Last Waltz” double album on vinyl, pristine condition. Aaaaaand the clerk didn’t know what it was.

      • Qitkat

        Cool on finding the album. I own it too, in vinyl. Haven’t listened in a few years, I’ll have to remedy that. It’s a real classic.

      • decormaven

        Ooh, that’s a nice find. One of Mr. DM’s favorites. I need a new needle for the turntable; I have a lot of vinyl that’s out of catalog now.

      • KinoEye

        The Last Waltz. Excellent. The Band was always one of my favorites, and that concert is one of the great ones. Good find!

    • Qitkat

      Happy Mothers Day to all the moms and to those who give and love and share just like a mom.
      And for those of us who get a gulp in our throat for the mom who is no longer there, may I share this poignant, loving story from The New Yorker.
      newyorker dot com slash online slash blogs slash books slash 2014 slash 05 slash the-unmothered dot html

      Blessings to all.

      • decormaven

        Thanks for the link! What a great term- “unmothered.” It’s been 3 years since my mom died; while she’s not physically here, I can detect her presence. My house is decorated in “old lady” – things passed down through the family, so I am comforted in seeing those things. My mom also instilled a great faith in me, and that sustains me. Happy Mother’s Day to all the BKs!

        • Sarah

          My house, too. It is wonderful to look around every day and see that my mom (four years gone) is still with me always.

          • decormaven

            Yes! As I pare down belongings, I am being intentional on what are talismans for me. Glad your mom still smiles at you through her pieces.

      • Sarah

        Thanks, Qitkat. That’s a lovely link.

    • KT

      Awww you guys are the best :)

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      He uses such gorgeous textiles! So fluid and beautiful.

      • decormaven

        Yes, I especialy like the white/blue print – very pretty.

        • Frank_821

          a number of people like that dress. There’s a great story behind the design. Rick at the beginning of the year was in an intense bootcamp. They had a PR style challenge using austin public transit maps. What he made was translated directly into that print dress

          • decormaven

            I LOVE that! That’s a great inspiration piece. Best of luck to him.

      • Frank_821

        Thanks. Rick is first and foremost been about glamorous gowns with flow. He is only limited by his construction skills which he has been steadily improving. he one of those designers that gets inspired by fabrics and the models. He’s been expanding into ready to wear nd sportswear.

        Someone has been in talks to help him launch pieces into production. he’s got some nice ideas in the works that can be mass produced

    • Sarah

      Happy Mother’s Day everyone! It is a beautiful day here in VA, and I hope that every mom has a lovely day especially dedicated to them. And for those of us whose moms are no longer with us, I hope that today is a day when you can remember that we wouldn’t be here without the ladies who brought us into the world. Much love to all the BK’s.

      • decormaven

        Did you get your ink?

        • Sarah

          Yep! Very happy :)

          • decormaven

            Wonderful! It’s the start of a new era for you. Enjoy, enjoy.

    • alyce1213

      Happy Mother’s Day and Happy Cannes Film Festival! Looking forward to the RC coverage here on T-Lo. Sophia Loren is a guest of honor and Marcello Mastroianni is the poster, so that’s promising.

    • formerlyAnon

      Oh thank-you for the links! It looks like an enormous amount of work, but for a very successful event! As you’ve said before, he has chosen a great mix of models.

      I will echo Alicia in admiring the fabrics and how they move. And say that while I am usually not enamored of much pattern, he is at his most impressive in some of the boldest patterned, even multi-patterned ensembles. (The photo with model Leslie Ward, # 32 of the photographer’s set is gorgeous! I love how the lining sets off the long coat, and the necklace and the mix of fabrics!)

      • Frank_821

        Oh it was a lot of work. especially when you think he did the Top Austin model show the month before and only 3 or 4 pieces carried over to his launch show. Mounting our own solo show was a very educating experience. People told us it was a success but it took awhile for it to sink in and believe. We had no reference point. He was invited to a private show next month where he might be able to network with some bigwigs (fingers doubly crossed)

        We are very fortunate though that Rick has developed a nice rep in the community. He’s enthusiastic, not afraid to collaborate and interact and treats the models very well. The models know this and like his designs. We’re now at a point models constantly ask to walk for him and he is forced to turned down many of them. It’s nice to be able to pick and choose. Rick is also 1 of the few designers in town who has done any menswear so the the guys are even more anxious to ask

        One thing I have tauted is Rick has a good eye for fabrics and great taste. He’s gotten bolder and more adventurous with colors and patterns over the last 5 years. Sadly his eye often gravitates to the high end expensive stuff. He can’t help swooning over gorgeous fabrics that often have a $50+ per yard price tag

    • formerlyAnon

      Happy Mother’s Day. Consider me as echoing the appreciation for every single person who’s not technically a mother who’s contributed to the enormous job of turning out a functional human being. Relatives, neighbors, baby sitters, friends, strangers. Hell, even all the nice people who ever let me and my three items go ahead of their fully loaded grocery basket who had no idea that I was stressing about picking up the kids on time from something or other other and who’ll never know how much they might have contributed to my ability to be calm in the face of the next stressor.

      And my kids appreciated every bit of attention and nurturing and instruction they got from all you non-parents. Even if it was just a one-time thing. Some of you have little chunks of their heart that no one else could ever have claimed.

      XXOO

    • PastryGoddess

      Hi Everyone! Happy Mothers Day!

      I just got back from a cookout and I am stuffed and slightly drunk.

      • demidaemon

        I just wanted to wish all the maternal BKs a happy Mother’s Day, too!

    • Malia C.

      Any early congregants for Mad Men? I saw stills from tonight’s episode and to quote Mr. Gunn, “I’m concerned.” Then again, completely out of context, it could be anything (though the pictures aren’t ambiguous). But it appears we’re in for some major Megan tonight. Blah.

      • PastryGoddess

        I’m here, but sleepy. Chatting with you all will keep me awake for this episode

        • Malia C.

          YAY! Welcome :) Are you watching anything to kill time before ten? I’ve got the P&R block on Esquire, which is always good background noise.

          • Eric Stott

            I’ll be here with my 2 cents.

            • Malia C.

              Greetings :)

            • Eric Stott

              I’m watching Food Network

            • Malia C.

              Anything good on there? Nights seem to have been taken over by DDD and Chopped.

            • Eric Stott

              I like Chopped (more than Guy Fieri) and right now it’s America’s Best Cooks – another competition.

            • Malia C.

              I like Ted Allen but I wish he’d do more on Chopped than repeat his weekly boilerplate. He is much more interesting and has way more to offer than that.

            • Eric Stott

              Sort of agree- he’s turned up on Iron Chef. I do NOT like Cutthroat Kitchen. Alton Brown used to be a slightly snarky kitchen geek- now he’s just an ass.

            • Malia C.

              I can’t get into Cutthroat Kitchen at all. Thin Alton is definitely Mean Alton, and the first (only) episode I saw had that slimebucket, Frank, from the worst ever season of “Top Chef” (the one with Marcel and Betty and just about every unpleasant chef they could cram into a single cast). That was enough to turn me off entirely.

            • Eric Stott

              Brown has turned IRON CHEF into meanness.

            • Malia C.

              Once they started the yearly “Next Iron Chef” it seemed to also really dilute the exclusivity of being on the show. I think Symon is the last real IC-caliber chef to make the cut; Zakarian and Alex G. seem to be justifying a continued paycheck from FN. That they would even consider Marcel or Spike Mendelsson for a slot…. ick.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I like Chopped, but why do I find Chopped Canada so boring?

            • Malia C.

              The presence of The Deaner is not enough? :)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              He has loosened up a bit from the cardboard copy of Ted Allen that he was in the first few episodes. But it’s hard to watch him and not think about his “private” life that is being revealed at the same time on another program.

            • Eric Stott

              Whatshisname the host has no personality.

            • Malia C.

              I actually watched the season of “Rachael vs. Guy” he was on, when he was trying to brand himself the “Gourmet Dad.” Given the recent turn of events, he’s definitely branded himself a Gourmet Scumbag.

            • Eric Stott

              He’s got an OK public persona, if you don’t know who he is.

            • Malia C.

              I’m embarrassed to say I actually was rooting for him on RvG. :/

              I mean, on top of the embarrassment of admitting I watched the show :)

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        I’m here in L.A. waiting for the East Coast feed to start at 7 PST. But I don’t start watching on the DVR until half the show is over so I can skip the commercials.

        • Malia C.

          That’s a good plan. I’m just glad AMC finally abandoned the “TURN” rerun at eleven so I can watch the MM replay. Stop trying to make “TURN” happen, AMC.

    • Cheryl

      Looking back at that Wonderful Year 1969, when I was a young engaged college student, from my perch tonight as a nearly 65-year-old woman (birthday tomorrow, May 12). What a long strange trip it’s been from the ’60s to the 2010s!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Happy birthday! You’re going to love Medicare.

        • Cheryl

          It kicked in May 1. I already do.

      • Malia C.

        Happy birthday! :)

        • Cheryl

          Thanks!

      • Lisa_Co

        Happy birthday, Cheryl.

      • decormaven

        Happy birthday! Another trip around the sun!

      • Sarah

        Happy B-Day!

    • Eric Stott

      IT BEGINS….

      • Malia C.

        I didn’t even make it through the preview without a “suck it, Lou Avery!” yell.

    • Eric Stott

      I hope we get some Ken Cosgrove

    • Malia C.

      Major Ginsberg mental issues…

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Seriously….Ginsberg….You are losing it.

    • Eric Stott

      His paranoia is really building…I wonder if he’s self medicating…or should.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Shirley’s dress is SO SHORT. Hot.

      • Cheryl

        I’m trying to see if there are hot pants under the dress? [So ashamed]

        • Eric Stott

          pantyhose, certainly

    • Cheryl

      Capitol Records building in the background!

    • Eric Stott

      I like that he’s obviously been open with her about Anna Draper

      • Elizabeth Flowers

        Same

    • PastryGoddess

      WELL that was a pleasant conversation!

    • Eric Stott

      Love the juxtaposition: Crab Louis AND little franks in BBQ sauce

    • Malia C.

      “Magnetic” – oh please, Matthew, your love is showing again.

    • PastryGoddess

      Are they the same age?

      • Eric Stott

        Probably very close

        • Cheryl

          She was a teenager when Don knew her in the 1950s, right? That would make her nearly 30, but she seems much younger than Megan.

    • Malia C.

      Oh great, I just realized – pregnant woman in Megan’s home. Time to rev up the conspiracy theorists!

      • PastryGoddess

        Get out of my head!

      • Elizabeth Flowers

        She probably thinks it’s Don’s, but even he wouldn’t be that sloppy.

        • PastryGoddess

          I don’t think that Don/Dick could use Anna’s legacy that way.

          • Eric Stott

            Agreed- That part of his life is the only thing Don has never messed up.

    • Malia C.

      Wow, not even disguising their disdain for Lou.

      • Eric Stott

        He’s a jerk, but he’s not stupid

        • Malia C.

          Indeed. I *almost* felt sorry for him. Damn you, Stan.

          • Eric Stott

            I suspect he really hates the job & might be halfway decent outside of it.

            • Malia C.

              Although Lou just immediately lost my tiny tiny bit of sympathy and I am back to hoping he is pushed out of a window.

      • PastryGoddess

        Why should they. He’s not disguising his asshole-ness

        • Malia C.

          True, but I guess I figure he is their boss and they have to at least pretend to have a minimum of respect for his position, if not him.

    • Eric Stott

      Geez- Lou knows more about popular culture that you’d think

      • Malia C.

        Right when he reverts back into his Mr. Rogers cardigan…

    • Sally

      Thanks, Stan.

      • Eric Stott

        Stan was sort of a douche when he first hired on & it’s showing up again.

        • P M

          ‘sort of’ is putting it mildly. .

    • Sally

      UH, What just happened?

      • Eric Stott

        Megan doesn’t want a rival

    • Malia C.

      Wow. What a megabitch.

      • PastryGoddess

        Right! What the hell Megan!

        • Malia C.

          Why can’t she fall out a window already? Jeez.

        • Lisa_Co

          Megan a jealous schemer?? Since moving to LA? More weird writing this season.

    • Eric Stott

      This just turned creepy

      • Malia C.

        Given the screencaps I saw, it gets creepier.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Seriously, Megan? I generally like her, but that was seriously shitty.

    • PastryGoddess

      What lie is Megan going to tell when Don gets there?

      • Malia C.

        “She felt like she was imposing, blah blah blah” I bet.

        • Eric Stott

          “The Father picked her up..”

    • Eric Stott

      Betty can’t even learn how to be a good political wife.

    • PastryGoddess

      awww poor Gene

    • Malia C.

      Oh suck it, Lou.

    • Elizabetta1022

      I’m confused. I thought Don and Megan broke up for good? Now he’s going out to see her and asking her to take in his pregnant niece?

      • Eric Stott

        They’ve got an OK relationship at a distance.

    • nosniveling

      oh wow Henry’s real self shows up!

    • PastryGoddess

      Fuck you Lou

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Fuck you, Lou. I hope this is your last episode.

      • Malia C.

        “Fuck you, Lou!” really should be a drinking game until he leaves.

        • Elizabeth Flowers

          Brilliant. It would get me to rewatch the season. I really hate him.

          • Malia C.

            Just make sure, as Betty would remind you, “Stock the bar!” :)

        • PastryGoddess

          We’d all die of alcohol poisoning

          • Malia C.

            But it will be worth it!

    • PastryGoddess

      Look how happy she is! Bitch!

    • Sally

      Uhoh, get the tinfoil hat.

      • Eric Stott

        I WAS JUST THINKING THAT!

      • nosniveling

        HAHA exactly what I thought!!!

    • PastryGoddess

      is this where we see Ginsberg have his psychotic break?

      • Malia C.

        I think so. And this might be a first, where something from the preview actually was nearly understandable.

    • Malia C.

      And Ginsberg finally cracks….

      • Eric Stott

        but he might actually be on to something

        • Malia C.

          True.

          • Eric Stott

            NOOOOOOOOOOO

            • Cheryl

              They’re HOMOS!

        • Malia C.

          Oh dear. “That machine makes men do unnatural things.”

    • Cheryl

      Sword fighting with golf clubs? that’s what the kids call that now?

      • Eric Stott

        Wait until her kids get Light Sabres

    • Malia C.

      Why is the neighbor kid coming over? Is he supposed to be like Bess Lindstrom?

      • Cheryl

        I love that. As much as Peggy hates that building and her tenants, she’s actually coming to terms with it. She’s comfortable there. And yes, she has a preteen pal.

        • Malia C.

          Now if only Julio’s mother shows up and starts reminiscing about her hands having “once touched the notes of Chopin,” the MTM allusions will be complete.

        • nosniveling

          just me ‘n’ Julio down by the schoolyard

      • Eric Stott

        I think we might find something awful about his mother

        • Malia C.

          Hopefully it’s nothing worse than she’s married to a man named Lars ;)

    • Cheryl

      So: Henry. A Republican State Senator. And anti-war. Should Betty just shut up? Or does she have a right to her own opinion, as mis-informed and misguided though it might be.

      • 28judy

        He isn’t giving his own opinion, he’s echoing Nixon, isn’t he?

      • Lisa_Co

        Apparently, not.

    • Eric Stott

      Nice plaid on Don

    • Eric Stott

      That is some serious loft on Megan’s hair

      • Malia C.

        That small space probably reeks of Aqua Net.

        • Eric Stott

          There’s at least one fall under there

    • PastryGoddess

      Are we watching foreplay

      • Malia C.

        I believe so :/

        • Sally

          We were.

    • Sally

      This is a hoot.

    • PastryGoddess

      This is sooooo awkward

    • Malia C.

      Yup, Michael has cracked :(

    • PastryGoddess

      Jesus christ Ginsberg.

    • Eric Stott

      Ginsberg just might have a brain tumor

      • PastryGoddess

        or schizophrenia

        • Eric Stott

          Both maybe.

        • Malia C.

          Totally. I had a paranoid schizophrenic neighbor and everything she saw or heard me do – and it was only me she did this to – she had these just unreal theories/beliefs about them that were completely removed from reality. It was pretty scary.

          • Eric Stott

            I work with someone who’s getting more and more obsessive compulsive

            • P M

              :( (i.e I feel bad for the person)

            • Eric Stott

              sort of – he’s an ok guy, but I’m mostly irrotated by having to grit my teeth & figuratively tiptoe around his tics and obsessions

    • Sally

      This is an odd episode.

      • Cheryl

        But great – we’re getting lots of cast members.

        • Malia C.

          Except Roger, though I guess we got our fill of him last week.

    • Eric Stott

      Hmmm- Harry may be on to something here

    • PastryGoddess

      MASSIVE UNDERSTATEMENT

      • Cheryl

        Wowee Wow Wow!

    • Malia C.

      Gird your loins, here it comes.

    • Eric Stott

      I think Megan has been using for quite a while

    • PastryGoddess

      HELLOoooooo chest

    • Eric Stott

      NO NO NO NO NO

      • Malia C.

        Yes, unfortunately.

        • Eric Stott

          So- we’re in the Swinging 60’s, at the very last moment.

          • Malia C.

            Don’s clinging to it!

            • Eric Stott

              I never thought he’d end up the most stable person in the room.

            • Malia C.

              I know, right? He really was looking stable, and old, next to those two.

            • Eric Stott

              and moral

            • PastryGoddess

              It’s obviously Opposite Day in Mad Men land

      • PastryGoddess

        Close your eyes and think of England

        • Malia C.

          HA! *drink*

          • Eric Stott

            I don’t think Megan’t really thinking of Don

    • Cheryl

      OH, GEE WHIZ on Mother’s Day??

      • Malia C.

        “Happy Mother’s Day. Let’s have a three-way.”

    • PastryGoddess

      The ROBE!!

      • Eric Stott

        from Whore to Housewife

    • PastryGoddess

      If Megan makes any more noise she’s going to shake the house down

      • Malia C.

        Woo hoo, because then she’d be gone!

        • PastryGoddess

          LOL

          • Eric Stott

            Don needs a wife…if he was single he couldn’t be cheating.

            • Malia C.

              Isn’t Neve Campbell likely wife number three? That is, if we ever see her again.

            • Eric Stott

              I think that was just ships passing in the night

            • P M

              god I hope so. Nothing wrong with Neve Campbell, but somehow, the character didn’t fit.

    • PastryGoddess

      You think Don’s going to give Pete a heads up

      • Eric Stott

        Maybe – Pete has capabilities

        • nosniveling

          and Don needs as many allies as he can get

          • P M

            You think Don’ll be that generous?

            • Eric Stott

              Pete is dissatisfied, and “The enemy of my enemy is my friend”. They could be good temporary allies.

    • 28judy

      I don’t think it’s a good idea to stick your head in the flame, Megan.

    • Sally

      This is the fastest hour on television.

    • PastryGoddess

      God Bless Betty

      “I’m not stupid, I speak Italian”

      • P M

        Yes, Betty, now balance a checkbook, run a Conservative campaign and grow some empathy.

    • Malia C.

      UGH.

    • Eric Stott

      OK WE ARE IN CRAZY TOWN

      • Malia C.

        I really thought it was going to be his ear.

        • Eric Stott

          I wonder if he’ll go violently?

          • Malia C.

            I hope not. I see a sad ending somehow, though.

      • PastryGoddess

        No Honey, It’s a whole city we’re living in now

    • Malia C.

      *vomits*

    • PastryGoddess

      HOly Shit

    • 28judy

      Holy jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • Eric Stott

        Oy Vey!

      • PastryGoddess

        you forgot Joseph and Mary. Throw a pope or two in there for good measure

    • Malia C.

      “Also, I banged two chicks last night.”

    • Malia C.

      Bye bye Michael.

      • Eric Stott

        Unlike Freddie, that’s the end of that.

        • Malia C.

          Yup. Wow. I knew the second he handed her that box a cut off appendage was in it but I did not think it would be that.

          • Eric Stott

            I was thinking it just might be a box of sperm……all that talk of procreation and release

            • Malia C.

              Yeah, seriously. At least it wouldn’t have been so graphic. Ugh.

              I am a wimp, even with fake blood.

      • Elizabeth Flowers

        I know the actor got picked up for another series, but I hope we’ll get some sort of update.

        • Malia C.

          Ah, yes. Though MM is filming now, so hopefully if they wanted him to pop up again, he’d be free for a small walk-on (though I doubt it – he’s probably gone to Salville).

    • PastryGoddess

      Jim and Lou giving the definition of “Po faced”

    • Eric Stott

      aaaand I wonder who’ll replace him.

    • PastryGoddess

      Love the song!

      • oldscrumby

        Waylon Jennings “Only Daddy That’ll Walk the Line”

    • Cheryl

      That’s the old Don we know and love!

    • Qitkat

      Don, that was fukkin beautiful. I was grinning from ear to ear.

      Oddest episode in a long time though.

      • decormaven

        They’re bringing the full-on crazy now. All bets are off!

    • Kent Roby

      I went to the loveliest little wedding this weekend a block from my house in the French Quarter; with an adorable (straight) couple, their families from all over (and the groom’s beautiful 8-yr-old daughter Mallory), and their wonderful mix of friends (which happened to skew predominately-gay). It was such a celebration of love and acceptance all around; and was, i think, how the world in general should be. I was thrilled when the bride asked me to come over early to help her into her gorgeous vintage corseted dress, and to decide what jewelry to wear.