T LOunge

Posted on May 23, 2014

We’re in the mood for something stylish and well-appointed, with pops of color, darlings.

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TLounge-2-23-2-014-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO (4)Scarfes Bar, Rosewood London Hotel

 

et voilà!

It’s a holiday weekend for the American kittens, many of whom aren’t even reading this because they’re off to relax the fuck out of themselves in the time alloted. America, fuck yeah.

We, for ourselves, feel a small bout of shopping coming over us. Plans are being made for tomorrow. Limits are being set. Regrets are being scheduled.

In poledancing news, we used Robin Thicke, Charlie Sheen and Rihanna, and Kim and Kanye to flog our book. We have no shame – and why should we? They certainly don’t. Feel free to vent your spleens all over these attention whores.

And don’t forget to come here Sunday night to gasp your way through the Mad Men semi-season finale and then to wait patiently as we try to get the review up before we pass out.

Ciao, darlings!

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: rosewoodhotels.com, mbds.com]

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

      We’re breaking out the carrot costume to pole dance this weekend. My husband wants to be a sexy carrot as we hand out fliers for the next film fest and for our channel and merch. He takes the term “whoring” very seriously.

      • zenobar

        “Sexy Carrot” – really, is there any other kind?

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          Well, the costume was designed to be a Business Carrot (there’s a tie sewn onto it). Time to get creative…

          • Jackie4g

            Stay away from graters. Have e great time!

            • formerlyAnon

              The first time through I read this as “stay away from garters” and was perplexed as to why garters were inappropriate for sexy carrots. Makes much more sense this time.

          • @Biting Panda

            50 Shades of Orange?

            • Jackie4g

              A new Resort wear collection from Peter Pilotti. Also featuring kitchen utensils.

            • PastryGoddess

              Are you sure it’s not Mary Kantranzou or Stephane Roland?

            • Jackie4g

              Not sure, but probably couldn’t spell the names.

      • kimmeister

        What’s your merch?

      • formerlyAnon

        You are making your husband sound rather appealing.

        • kittentoes

          He sounds just grate.

      • demidaemon

        What does a sexy carrot look like?

        • formerlyAnon

          I’m thinking fishnets?

          • Sarah

            Pasties, for sure.

            • formerlyAnon

              Where would they GO on a carrot? (Assuming the carrot is roughly traditional carrot shape, except for arms and legs.)

              demidaemon is right. We need more visual guidance.

            • Sarah

              If it can have arms & legs, it sure can support sticky nipple covers. I mean, there doesn’t have to BE nipples underneath, it’s just the SUGGESTION that = sexy.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Depends if it is a sexy boy carrot or girl carrot. Maybe a sparkly codpiece?

            • formerlyAnon

              Ooohh! I like it. Or it could be a sexy gender neutral/confusing-for-onlookers carrot, and wear All the Things, except for proper clothing.

            • Sarah

              Yes, the Sexy Carrot knows no gender. It is an island unto itself in SexyVeg town.

          • demidaemon

            That sounds like a drag carrot!

        • kittentoes

          I’m guessing there’s a lot of attitude.

      • Qitkat

        My husband wants to be a sexy carrot
        This entire convo is something only bitter kittens could evolve. Hysterical!

    • Musicologie

      Okay, who wants to talk about the season finale of The Americans? Now THAT’S how you do a twist that suddenly ties all the themes of the whole season together!

      • MilaXX

        I must be slipping because I totally did not see that ending coming even though I had read speculation about the son. If they don’t have a block party I may binge watch this season over again to see if I can catch any clues I missed. I wish more people watched this show because it really is good!

        • lexilexi

          I have a few episodes left, but may have to binge it this weekend due to your scintillating hint. I just finished the episode where the son had demonstrated his familial skills by breaking into neighbors’ home to play video games….. and then told speechless parents what a good boy he was. Oh man… you’ve got my mind racing!

          • MilaXX

            not saying a word, but you will be surprised!

            • lexilexi

              OMG! THAT son!

            • MilaXX

              All caught up? LOL That was good, no?

            • lexilexi

              Yes, MilaXX, it was VERY good. I am now imagining all kinds of possible scenarios for the next season… too much fun!

      • dash1211

        This show is a real gem–one I absolutely refuse to miss. “Twist” definitely is the word for last night’s finale. I caught myself drop-jawed at several points.

        • Musicologie

          ***SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS Seriously, reading this before seeing the finale will lessen your enjoyment! SPOILERS*****
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          *Really, SPOILERS*
          I had seen some speculation that Jared had done it, mostly due to narrative logic–if Larrick didn’t do it, then there’s no way that the show was going to introduce a new character as the murderer. But I don’t see how ANYONE could have predicted that he’d be pro-Russia. That…was…brutal.

          I just love how the prospect of turning Paige plays directly into the issues both Phil and Elizabeth had been dealing with all season. From Elizabeth dealing with the overzealous Sandanista and all her frustrations about religion being a fairy tale, if only Paige knew the REAL things worth sacrificing for…No wonder she thinks there’s something to this idea. And with Phil watching the body count pile up and starting to feel remorse for all the innocents they’ve been murdering…No wonder the idea makes him sick.

          And I just have to say I love blatantly-stealing-files-Martha in Stan’s dream. He doesn’t know he knows, but he knows where the leak is. Poor Martha.

    • zenobar

      It’s Movement Weekend in the D. One of my absolute favorite things to do in all of life. Alas, no electronic music festival for me, this year. But that’s only because my fella and I are readying the nest for cohabitation. We need to Make Things Happen this summer, and I guess that means making some sacrifices in the social department. So I’m setting up a big pitcher of sangria, and we’re going to crank up some Deeper Shades of House and Get Shit Done.

      (Still lobbying for that afterparty with special guest George Clinton, though. I mean, come on. Sometimes a lady just needs to shake her ass.)

      • formerlyAnon

        YAY Getting Shit Done. Still going on apace here. Cleaning and filing and shredding. Joy. Music. Well, one of the two.

      • Sarah

        George Clinton is not answering my calls. What is UP with that? I need him to play my wedding, and it’s the devil to get in touch with that guy ;)

        • decormaven

          If you can make that happen, I may have to attend.

        • PastryGoddess

          I would pay to attend a wedding that George Clinton was at

          • Sarah

            Totes.

        • http://www.chifleschips.com Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

          I have a friend who is good friends with his daughter……

          • Sarah

            I have partied with him before, and his son, Trey, too. I don’t have dial-up and play-my-party privileges, though – more’s the pity! Ain’t no party like a P-Funk party, for reals.

    • @Biting Panda

      I’m struggling not to murder my husband. An hour ago, we mildly chatted around the idea of a road trip to the family. (6 hours) I’m a Sag, we like spontaneous travel. But I landed on the dogs/cat need plus travel on Monday stress overruling any upside. Verbally.

      Yet he took it upon himself to “causally feel out” my dad’s plans, and then not answer when Dad called back. So I get a call from Dad, with him saying he canceled his golf plans and they’ll expect us by morning.

      WTF?

      • zenobar

        Ugh…I send peaceful, non-husband-murdering vibes in your general direction.

        Whatever happens, I hope you have a good weekend.

      • Sobaika

        I am a Leo! Fire signs ftw.

      • MilaXX

        bad hubby!

        • @Biting Panda

          Shits all over my Orphan Black catch ups. All over my sleep late, drink early, go bra-less, maxin n relaxin, weekend.

          But, I do get to spend time with my Mimi, and as she loves to remind me, she won’t live forever.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Just think about the fact that your husband wants to be with your parents! Some women would give up plenty to have their spouse and parents get along.

          • decormaven

            Enjoy your Mimi & family time. Any way you can come back on Sunday just to have a day to chill at the casa?

      • Scimommy

        I’m a Sag and I think spontaneous travel RULEZ, but since I’ve had kids it always ends up being awesome *in theory*. Good luck this weekend!

      • formerlyAnon

        I send you strength. For turning irritation into a good weekend with the family. For devising silent, subtle spousal tortures. For burying the body without detection. Choose your own adventure!

      • altalinda

        Justifiable homicide, I’d say.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Pillow over his face, it’s the only way.

      • @Biting Panda

        Never fear Kittens.
        Husband lives. Left at 6am. Trip is behind us. I’m poolside, with drink in hand. Family is so happy we came. I’m over my snit. Good times.
        Cheers, y’all.
        XOXO

        • Sarah

          Nice!

        • decormaven

          Aww, glad it worked out. Poolside with drinks sounds divine. Enjoy!

    • Twigg

      Hey! It’s my first Lounge! Was this the longest week ever for anyone else? It’s like Time knew we were waiting for the 3 day weekend.

      • SRQkitten

        Yes, dreadfully long with no end of unpleasantness to deal with. Plus upper respiratory infection just to finish the week off. I don’t think I’ve ever needed a three day weekend so badly.

        • marlie

          Upper respiratory infection here, too. It just makes everything THAT MUCH more miserable. Feel better soon. xo

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Very miserable! Take it easy! You too @SRQkitten:disqus !

          • Sarah

            Me too. In addition to back pain from ill-advised couch moving. And a host of other dumb crap. Hope everyone feels better soon!

    • Sobaika

      Happy three day weekend to those who have one! I’ll have something pretty and bubbly in a fancy glass.

      • decormaven

        Hope you’re feeling better now! Are you still in process of moving?

        • Sobaika

          Found an apartment!!! Moving June 1st :D

          • decormaven

            Congratulations! It’s all coming together in a good way.

    • John11581

      Having numerous gin and tonics in that bar has just been added to my bucket list.

    • 25or6to4

      Well, this week I discovered that I am now allergic to pistachios. I was so looking forward to digging out that pint of gelato this weekend… I guess I’ll just have to settle for ice cream during my X-Men marathon!

      • Sarah

        How did you find out? I am allergic to cold. It’s annoying.

        • 25or6to4

          It’s been a while since I’ve eaten them, but I had a bag of pistachios in my pantry and have been snacking on them as I’m packing everything up to move… I started to have some difficulty breathing, but I chalked that up to the horrific pollen count in St. Louis, but when it happened again, I went in to have my allergies tested. I grew out of a chocolate allergy when I was younger, so I’m sort of paranoid about “growing in” to another one.

          • Sarah

            Ooh, good thing it wasn’t worse! I’ve never had the full tests, but I started having this thing when I was going through puberty where my hands would swell up if I held something really cold. Manifests differently now, thank goodness, because beers and cocktails are cold, when served properly.

    • Lilithcat

      That lounge just screams London! (Not that that’s a bad thing; au contraire.)

      I’m off to New York tomorrow for a few days. The initial impetuses (impeti?) were: a) a performance of a dance company I saw in Havana, b) the Charles James and Edo period painting exhibits at the Met, and c) the Bill Cunningham exhibit at the NY Historical Society. I’m also taking in a play and an early music concert, a talk at the Lower East Side Tenement Museum, and scads more museums. There’s a reason I picked this weekend: several places normally closed on Monday will be open, giving me a lot more flexibility.

      I may, however, need to rethink my habit of getting early flights to my destination. An 8:20 a.m. flight, even from Midway rather than O’Hare, requires a far too early alarm!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        It seems lately that whenever I’m looking for flights to anywhere that the best fares leave at the most ungodly hours. I like a good deal, but also my sleep, and not being a cranky guest.

        • Lilithcat

          Sometimes it’s better to rest than to save money!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Indeed it is.

      • Jennifer Bober

        You will LOVE the Charles James exhibit. It’s phenomenal.

        The Tenement Museum is also really interesting. It’s really a great window into the past.

        Have fun!

        • Lilithcat

          I’ve been to the Tenement Museum a few times. It’s fascinating, and they have some great events, too.

      • http://piblet.tumblr.com/ Anastasia

        Check out The Museum of the City of New York. Their “In a World of Their Own” exhibit is fantastic — it’s a bunch of Coney Island photographs from the 1960s by Aaron Rose.

        As an Urban Studies major, your entire excursion makes my heart sing. Have a great time!

      • formerlyAnon

        Life well lived!

      • decormaven

        Oooh, the Bill Cunningham exhibit- would love to see it. We went out to dinner last pm with a couple who just went to NYC. Need to make that trip happen for Mr. DM and myself.

      • Qitkat

        Such a full dance card for you! Sounds maahvelous.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        We came to that conclusion a few years ago! The “oh, let’s leave early and have a WHOLE DAY in Geneva” ended up being us crawling into the hotel room and napping until dinner time.

      • Adrianna Grężak

        The Charles James exhibit is AMAZING! Exceeded my expectations – I’m so glad I got to see those dresses (and the digital info) in person

    • GeoDiva

      Glad its the weekend and hope everyone stays safe.

    • Jennifer Bober

      Veggies are grilled and I’m about to make an egg pie to take with me to a living history event. I’ll be spending tomorrow playing music with friends all day and will even have the chance to see someone I haven’t in a long time. I just got invited to a cook out on Sunday and Monday will be my day to get things done. It’s going to be a full weekend.

      Hope everyone in Kittenland has as much fun as I’m planning to have.

    • embers618

      I’m pretty sure I want to live at this bar. I don’t need much, just a little nook by the bookshelves and the fireplace, and a bottomless glass of something (see, I’m not even picky!), and I’ll be set.
      I’m taking a week long road trip alone with two preschoolers starting on Tuesday of next week – there will be other adults along the way, but I’m in charge of all the “travel” bits. This whole weekend will be equal parts doing laundry, packing, and being in total denial about what’s going to happen when my alarm goes off Tuesday morning.

      • formerlyAnon

        Damn girl. Sleep as much as possible. You’ll need that patience.

        In my experience: life with toddlers is a Zen thing. No happiness until you let go of all expectations that any particular thing will happen at any particular time. Once you give up, all is fine and you can enjoy it.

        • embers618

          Yes, we try to embrace the Zen here. It gets a little harder on days that we have to attend things that have an actual starting time – turns out the rest of the world is a little less Zen, whether I’m wrangling children or not. At least on the trip we will have family or very understanding friends helping out on those days. In that way, taking the kids on trips can actually be a little easier than our day-to-day life. If it was less than 12 hours in the car, and we could magically take the girls’ bedrooms with us, I think we’d take this particular trip a lot more often.

    • Scimommy

      Hello, bitter kittens and TLo! First, the bad news: I’ve been coughing my lungs out for a few weeks. Chest x-ray says it’s not pneumonia, so probably bronchitis. Antibiotics are helping. The good news is that I am switching jobs. Today I attended a meeting at my future place of work and LOVED every minute of it. So exciting and interesting! Can’t wait to start!

      • Jennifer Bober

        Good luck both with the new job and with getting rid of the bronchitis!

        • Scimommy

          Thank you!

      • MilaXX

        YAY for new job & antibiotics. Boo, hiss for bronchitis. Feel better!

        • Scimommy

          Thanks, Mila! Boo, hiss indeed!

      • kimmeister

        I hope your lungs are under control by the time you start your new job!

        • Scimommy

          Ha, me too! Thanks!

      • @Biting Panda

        Feel better, Babe.
        I am addicted to being The New Girl. Enjoy it!

        • Scimommy

          Thanks, Panda! Don’t bite that hubby of yours!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        As someone who has been through a few major bouts of bronchitis, I highly recommend a cold air vaporizer. Makes all the difference in the world.

        Good luck in the new job. I am exceedingly jealous.

        • Scimommy

          Thanks for the tip, I’ll look into it! Believe me, just a month ago I would have been exceedingly jealous myself. No fun to be stuck at a job you hate.

        • formerlyAnon

          How are you? Hope you’re in a headspace to enjoy at least part of the weekend.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Hi fA. Thanks for asking. I’m trying to remain positive and optimistic. On Tuesday I have an interview to manage a trendy Pier One-type store. Unfortunately, it’s quite geographically undesirable, but at this point, I can’t be overly choosy. I’m also waiting for a third interview for a job I really want, so fingers crossed.

            I’ve taken advantage of all this time off by going to see a parade of doctors (I love Medicare), getting check-ups and checking up on a string of minor things that all the doctors blamed on stress. I asked if the symptoms will go away once I get a paycheck.

            My daughter and her family are coming over Saturday night to BBQ and the grandchildren are coming back on Monday to spend the day. So there should be good times over the weekend.

            I hope you get all your Shit Done. It feels so satisfying to have everything organized, even if it is only temporary.

            • decormaven

              Thinking very positive thoughts about all your job opportunities. The Tuesday appointment sounds interesting, but knowing how rough traffic can be in your area, that would probably be a deal breaker for me.

            • formerlyAnon

              Oh, I’ll never get it All Done – we all know that – but I want to end the month with some small glow of accomplishment.

              Good luck in the coming week. You’re getting interviews which means you sound employable – not always guaranteed once one is past the late 40s, as you well know. Hope something comes through soon – and if it’s not the right one, just “right enough for now,” I hope it leaves you the energy to keep looking, or to consult on the side till you have that avenue built up into a business.

              But the most important thing is that you will have some good times this weekend!

      • formerlyAnon

        Feel better! Bronchitis and I are old friends. Frenemies. Frequent companions. I’ve been out from under its shadow for several decades, but I will know I am Old when it comes back to take up semi-permanent residence.

        • Scimommy

          Yeah, it’s not my first or second time either. I could use a few decades’ breather myself.

          • formerlyAnon

            For me, it miraculously (ha!) took a hike when I stopped living with cigarette smokers and most workplaces became nonsmoking. You wouldn’t think that would be enough to make a difference, especially since I didn’t smoke, but it seemed to be a tipping point and cut the number of times I get bronchitis by at least 90%.

            • Scimommy

              Interesting! Well, the causes must be different in my case. I am hardly ever exposed to cigarette smoke.

          • decormaven

            Could it be allergy triggered? My sis who lives in Sacramento has had near-bronchitis this year due to pollen/no rain. She says many have had similar probs.

            • Scimommy

              This is definitely allergy season in NJ, but I don’t have any other symptoms – no runny nose, no itchy eyes, etc. Just the cough.

            • decormaven

              It just got a hook in you. Better days ahead.

      • decormaven

        Congrats on the new job! Sorry about the bronchitis. Would a humidifier help?

        • Scimommy

          Thanks! I don’t know. Something to try, I suppose.

      • marlie

        Congrats on the new job, and I hope you feel better soon!

        • Scimommy

          Thanks, I do too!

      • Sarah

        I had bronchitis for a year when I was younger. It was MISERABLE. Antibiotics FTW! Congrats on the new job! Lucky you!

        • Scimommy

          Thank you!

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Oooh, no fun at all. My husband struggles with chronic respiratory issues and swears by black licorice (unsweetened, not the candy kind) in any form: eating chunks, hot black licorice tea, melting them into a syrup. (He takes antibiotics too, BTW.) Just try to drink a lot and I have to also give a big thumbs up to those who recommended humidifiers.
        CONGRATULATIONS on the job! Let us know how the transition goes!

        • decormaven

          Ha ha! Your hubby must read The People’s Pharmacy. Good reference.

          • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

            The People’s Pharmacy started right here NC and was a local spot aired for years on WUNC radio. I think the Graedons still live in Chapel Hill. My husband always hated the radio shows (he thought Joe sounded like a pompous ass) but he was a subscriber to Prevention magazine for I don’t even know how long. I think that’s where he got the licorice reference. Trouble is, after his last bout with bronchitis this past winter, he went to the doctor all proud about how the licorice treatment had really helped, but turns out it has the side effect of raising one’s blood pressure……of course he was completely overdosing, eating a bag a night…..no restraint at all, that man. (Plus it’s hateful that he was eating that many extra calories for probably 3 weeks straight and he never gained an ounce.)

            • formerlyAnon

              I listened to The People’s Pharmacy for years! I can still “hear” their voices in my head if I think about it.

            • decormaven

              Gotta love the licorice story. Has his BP dropped back?

            • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

              Yes, thankfully. This wasn’t a little bump, either: we’re talking 20 points on the systolic (upper) number.

            • decormaven

              Whoa! That was significant. Glad issue was resolved.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I thought that much liquorice was a laxative! That’s a great story (but Boo! to men and their metabolisms. so unfair)

        • Scimommy

          Thanks for the tips and the good wishes, Ellen! I hate licorice, but maybe I can get over that if it really helps.

      • Qitkat

        It sounds wonderful that you are so excited about your new job. Feel better soon with your bronchitis, coughing for weeks is beyond annoying and painful.

        • Scimommy

          Yes, I’m excited that I’m excited. :) Thanks, trying to feel better.

    • kimmeister

      I bought 7 pairs of shoes this week! (All on mega clearance of course.) Haven’t done that in a while. This weekend holds in store a dance party and a trip to the San Francisco Zoo to see my second favorite animal: a red panda! So excited.

      • @Biting Panda

        I am obsessed with red pandas. I download a new pic, nearly every day.

        • kimmeister

          I’ve never seen an entire one live. When I went to the Denver zoo, their resident red panda went into hiding and all I saw was a flash of its tail. I’m determined not to repeat that experience, dang it!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            The red pandas at Taronga Zoo are usually quite sociable, if you ever make it to Sydney! I think I’ve seen them every time I have been there.

            • kimmeister

              I’ve been to a zoo in Oz but don’t remember which one. Didn’t see any red pandas though.

        • Sarah

          It is like, transcendental how cute they are.

          • kimmeister

            I think I’m in danger of growing a new ovary when I see it. If I ever saw one gamboling in the snow, I might just keel over from cuteness overload.

            • Sarah

              It is TRUE. What mystery of biology is that?!? So much adorable making has to be for a reason…

            • kimmeister

              MISSION ACCOMPLISHED. First pass, he was snoozing. Second pass, he woke up enough to lick himself like a kitty, then back to sleep. Last attempt of the day, he was finally walking around, being cute and stuff. I squealed like a frickin’ schoolgirl.

            • Sarah

              Awesome! Lucky dog!

      • demidaemon

        They are my second favorite animal too! My first favorite is a tie between a cheetah and the giant anteater.

        • kimmeister

          #1 for me are cats. 3 and 4 are squirrels and combats. The giant anteater at the SF zoo was curled up into a truly enormous ball today, I wouldn’t have known what it was if not for the caption.

          • demidaemon

            They usually are. :( But I’ve seen fabulous pics of them online. I think the problem is that they are nocturnal, but don’t quote me on that.

    • Musicologie

      Macaroons from the local bakery and a glass of pinot noir. This week kind of sucked. The baby had hand-foot-mouth, and I got a fever on Tuesday. I still don’t feel caught up, which made today nothing but frustration and disappointment. I need a break.

      • formerlyAnon

        You are awfully productive on a normal week. I know it’s frustrating, but try to let it go and enjoy.

      • decormaven

        That was a rough week indeed. Have a lil moment for yourself, then regroup. Hope both you and wee babe feel better.

      • embers618

        Sick baby and sick self is hard, even without feeling like you’re falling behind on your work. You certainly do need a break, and I hope you take it! The work will still be there, but you’ll do it better (and faster) if you’re rested.

    • formerlyAnon

      Getting Shit Done Campaign waxes and wanes, but I am going to finish spring cleaning and get the goddamn motherfucking files/piles of paper from hell (um, from years of neglect, to be more accurate) in shape this weekend. Or at least get to 90% of each. If it kills me. Which it won’t. But no drinkies till Sunday night, at least.

      This bar is PERFECT to install adjoining the dream butler’s pantry I once worked in, in a house in which I was lowly catering staff. And just as soon as I get a butler or two to maintain it, I will put it all in place.

      Onwards!

      • demidaemon

        This sort cleaning is on my To Do List for the next few months as well. Good luck!

      • decormaven

        Hope you got yourself a good shredder. That was my winter project- shredded about six 39 gallon bags of old work notes, etc. I’m getting pretty ruthless about old files. Good luck with it all.

        • formerlyAnon

          I have a crappy shredder. But once the to-be-shredded is sorted, I consider it done for the purposes of this project. It lives in the garage until I am watching a movie or t.v. show or my friend whose office is at home is dying to have the service she uses come pick up her shredding/recycling but is a box shy of the full load – then I get rid of a bunch on her dime. (I love my friends. She really thinks I’m doing HER a favor when that happens.)

          • decormaven

            I like the way you think! That’s great to have a friend like that. Be ruthless on the paper stuff. You’ll be glad you did.

            • Qitkat

              SNORT! love this ;) oops, this was meant for Sarah!

          • Sarah

            I don’t shred. I empty the cat boxes on top of all sensitive documents. I figure if you’re a criminal and you are willing to sort through actual shit to get to my SSN, then have at it.

            • Qitkat

              lol, I replied to decormaven instead of you, see below ;)

            • Sarah

              At least I can use that crap for something, amirite? There’s plenty of it, that’s for sure. I should take out stocks in Tidy Cats.

            • Grumpy Girl

              I am so glad to hear someone else does this! I used to do it with the baby diapers. Then we conveniently acquired Little Old Man (who was young at the time), to produce crap.

            • Sarah

              Multiple uses for household items. Heloise would be proud :)

            • formerlyAnon

              Ha! I lack the necessary cats, but I used to do the same with wet coffee grounds until started using them as compost/mulch.

        • Qitkat

          I am in absolute AWE at this project. I need to do this so badly, the tough part is not my own stuff, though there is plenty of that, but all my beloved mom’s notes from her writing, that has no further use that I can see, but kills me to discard.

          • formerlyAnon

            I am a big advocate of boxing and sealing up stuff like that. If you are moved to open it up at some point, or one of her grandkids or great-grand kids (assuming she has any) gets old enough to value the past family stuff that preceded them, you’ve got it. If when you HAVE TO get rid of Almost Everything (e.g. living conditions change to assisted living/nursing home/space-challenged child), or when you’ve gone – ? 5 years? 10 years? without opening the box, then get rid of it. If you’re living in over 500 square feet, you can always find somewhere to stash a couple of banker’s boxes, if you really have to. Stack two, cover with something and call it an end table.

            No, I DON’T have any home decor standards to speak of, why do you ask? ;-)

            • Qitkat

              Thank you, dear fAnon. This is probably exactly what I needed to hear as validation for something I wanted to do all along. My favorite kind of end table!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Isn’t that why there’s space under your bed? It’s the perfect place for storing things you don’t need to access often.

          • decormaven

            I know how that feels. I’m down to the last box of my late mom’s stuff- mostly legal stuff, just making sure nothing rolled back on the estate. Your mom is in your heart- always. The other stuff can fall away.

      • Qitkat

        I love your shitkicking attitude! Inspiring!

    • altalinda

      Just got a huge project done in the nick of time, and tomorrow (rather, later today) need to dive into the next one. Oof. Enjoy the holiday Kittens!

      • formerlyAnon

        Boo hiss for no time off. Hope the next one goes smoothly.

    • demidaemon

      Well, it’s been a pretty great week for me. I received a job offer from the school I will be attending (full time lecturer) and I finally received my financial aid letter, an assistantship where I will be working for my adviser. And I sent my lease out for my new apartment. Now, I need to start packing and write my letter of resignation for my current job, which I am melancholy about leaving, but glad to be moving on to new things.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Fantastic!

        • demidaemon

          Thanks!

      • decormaven

        Aww, it is just a little moment of triste. You’re marking the spot where one journey ends, and another begins. Best wishes as you move forward.

      • formerlyAnon

        YAY!
        FULL TIME??!!!!
        Thank god you said your new apartment (if I remember correctly) is geographically convenient to school. At least you have enough experience in academia to know they are going to assign you too many students/classes for any reasonable work schedule and that life will be busy.

        Hope you still have 15 minutes here and there for TLo. *sniff* Gonna miss you . . . .

        • demidaemon

          I am going to be busier than all get out. It’s good and it’s bad, but I’ll try to stop by every now and then. ;)

        • demidaemon

          Also my apt. is super convenient to the school. The school shuttle even stops there for pick-ups and drop offs.

      • Sarah

        AWESOME! So glad for you.

        • demidaemon

          Thank you!

      • Qitkat

        Congrats, what a lovely adventure you are embarking upon. Try something I have done on occasion of leaving a beloved place, leave a bit of yourself behind, a hidden object, carved initials, we all need to know (acknowledge) that “I Was Here” is important in the scope of life’s journey.

        Edited for clarity

        • demidaemon

          Hmmm…good idea. I must meditate on this.

      • Alloy Jane

        Oh excellent! So much grats to you, I love good news :D I hope the letter comes along without too much angst. It must be bittersweet indeed.

      • KinoEye

        Yay!!! I love good news. Cheers to an exciting new chapter in life. :-)

      • Jacob Bowen

        That is SUCH great news! I envy that you will be spending time on a school campus (even as busy as you will be)! I would LOVE to be back at a school, there is SO much great energy!

        • demidaemon

          Thanks! I love the teaching, but I’ve been missing the intellectual pursuit of education and literary criticism, so it will be nice to be in the position of student again.

          Really, how many people can say that!

    • demidaemon

      Also, Bianca Del Rio is going to be MCing the Pride Ceremonies for Western NY Pride next month and I really, really want to go, even though I may not be able to.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      It’s a 3 day weekend in the UK, too. Unfortunately the weather forecast is a bit shitty, so there will not be a lot of outdoor activity. But last night I went to meet my husband after work and we had a lovely little walk along the Thames embankment, from Westminster to Cleopatra’s Needle, then we had a very nice dinner at one of our favourite restaurants, just a stone’s throw from this lounge. If I’d known it was there, we’d have gone in for a nightcap! I think it’s fairly new.

      In other news, I am on antibiotics, having had a bad reaction to an insect bite. 30+ years in Oz without any problems with fauna (flora is another matter) and this is the second time in the UK that a creepy crawly has laid me low!

      • decormaven

        Eeek! Must have been a nasty bite. As I get older, my sensitivity to bug bites has gotten worse. Glad you had a pleasant night out with the hubs.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Quite bad – although I didn’t see what it was. The last one I think was a spider. Maybe it is age that is making my reaction worse? Although generally my skin is less sensitive and I have fewer contact allergies than I did as a child.

          • demidaemon

            It does depend a lot on the actual biter. Having had a brown recluse bite when I was younger (and still sporting the scar), the biter usually nets the resulting reaction. Do you have any idea what it was?

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Not a clue! Single puncture, quite a large hole, bled a bit. (erk)

            • demidaemon

              Weird. That rules out most of the usual suspects, unfortunately.

      • Sarah

        Yay for a nice evening, nay to insect bites. How hideous. Shame on UK insects!

      • Qitkat

        Strolling along the Thames sounds divine, like the beginning of a lovely movie. The nasty bug bite sounds like the beginning of a horror film. May your life’s movie include more of the former, and much less of the latter!

      • formerlyAnon

        This comment is probably the first time I’ve more than mildly regretted that my August trip to London has fallen through. Even though I was going to go with someone who really doesn’t enjoy strolls for the sake of them, at least not until she has a knee replacement.

        ETA: P.s. I hope the insect bite complications clear up quickly.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Read some PG Wodehouse – Bertie always tries to get away from London in the summer!

    • azaleap

      Getting ready to watch French Open. Rafa looking good.

      • formerlyAnon

        Rafa generally looks good. ;-)

        Oh. Were you talking about how he was playing?

    • decormaven

      It’s a long weekend of yarding as I scurry to complete mulching before the end of the month. You do not want to do that activity when summertime heats up down South. There’s a promise of a pedi later today, so I need to scoot. Hope the dear uncles and all the BKs enjoy this little moment before summer starts to roll.

    • marlie

      I missed the Lounge last night because a walk to CVS to restock my meds ended up with me drinking way too much red wine at a friend’s house (I walked past her place, only to see her and her hubby out drinking on their back stoop, and the rest is history…). I love my neighborhood!

      Anyway, the rest of my week has been crazy. I still have that cold/URI/something from last week, but it’s been hard to shake because I’ve been so busy. Went to Boston for a work trip this week – which was absolutely awesome – but then my flight was so delayed coming back on Thursday night that I didn’t get home until 2:30am Friday. I also found out yesterday that an old friend passed away. She’s been very sick for a few months, but it’s still shocking because she’s such a young and vibrant person.

      So I’m spending my weekend trying to rest up a bit today, check in with my friend’s family; going to a wedding tomorrow with the bf; and blissfully, doing nothing at all for the holiday on Monday.

      I hope all the US kittens have a great Memorial Day, and everyone stay safe!

      • formerlyAnon

        I love your neighborhood & I don’t even live there! Hope the rest pans out – and is lay down, with naps kind of rest.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I’m sorry to hear about your friend – was that the one you mentioned getting the bad news about last weekend?

        I think your neighbourhood sounds wonderful! How lovely to be able to just drop in on red wine.

        • marlie

          Yes, this is the same friend. Last week I heard that she was seriously ill. I spent the week in touch with another friend checking to see how she was doing, and I suppose I kept hoping that things would turn around.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Awful. I am so sorry!

          • formerlyAnon

            So sorry. It seems so wrong when someone nowhere near their 70s dies. (Not that the 70s seem as old as they used to.)

      • Sarah

        Feel better, Marlie! Sorry about your friend. That’s rough. I hope the wedding is pretty and you have a nice chance to relax.

      • decormaven

        Sorry about your friend- deaths at a young age always are unsettling. Love your neighborhood- we don’t have walking access to goods and services, but there’s always someone about with an extra glass or two.

      • Qitkat

        I have the neighborhood envies that you can walk to the drugstore, and find a friend to relax with wine along the way. So sorry to hear about your young friend. Enjoy the wedding, and a blissful weekend.

    • Miranda Reseigh

      I want to go to there. I’ll put it in my mind palace and save it for Sunday, my only day off this weekend.

    • Sarah

      Ugh, y’all. Not a good week. At. All. My thesis was REJECTED and I have to revise over the summer (serenity now serenity now) and I have a cold, coupled with friggin’ sciatica, which is KILLING me, because I slept on the ground last weekend and then tried to move a couch on Wednesday morning. Couch is now on one end on our porch because we got it for free and it’s nicer than our couches, but now we have to get rid of one of the others, lending a very overstuffed air to our tiny house. Went to shrink for appt yesterday, and he switched all my meds up and that makes me nervous. I have to work today, but I have Sunday and Monday off, which would be nice except I agreed to go see my father and his wife 180 miles away and I am NOT looking forward to that but I don’t think I can get out of it.

      • decormaven

        From someone who had surgery for a herniated disc last year, please cancel your long car ride, Sounds like your lower back is wonky, and riding in the car for long periods of time will really put it in a kink. Are you icing it- 20 minutes at a time? Do you have rx NSAIDs and maybe muscle relaxers? Do your time at work, but schedule some quality prone time with the ice bag and drugs to get it worked out. A professional massage also would help- someone who knows their way around lower back issues. Not being alarmist, but if the muscle REALLY goes in spasm, you’ll be headed toward an epidural steroid shot. Your dad will understand. Hugs and peaceful vibes headed your way.

        • Sarah

          I have been taking OTC nsaids. Didn’t try ice. Just barely takes the edge off, but that’s it. I am really thinking I’m gonna have to go in to the doc to get something better. I’m a big person with a high tolerance for pills. OTC doesn’t really cut it. Dad has sciatica too – has had the shots, even – so he will understand but simultaneously guilt me about it, because he’s an absolute peach that way. I was considering going just because I’d rather not deal with that, but I am sitting in a high-quality ergonomic chair right now at work and my right hip is berating me with little shooting arrows of PAIN so I may just say fuck it and stay home, regardless.

          • Jackie4g

            Please re-think the long car ride. Please take good care of yourself!

          • formerlyAnon

            NO LONG CAR RIDE.

            And get ice packs (I’ve seen friends use flattish sheets that have ice cube sized gel lumps through them because they chill fast and can be folded/twisted/bent to the right topography). A friend with back problems spent two years unable to drive distances or go on airplanes without her back-icing paraphernalia. She used it like one would use a back support cushion.

            If you’ve had this before you have exercises. When you can, do them.

          • decormaven

            LIsten to your body, and go get some rx NSAID. OTC will not touch the inflammation that is going on now. Ice is your friend- and stay prone when you get home. If you’re a side sleeper, put a pillow between your knees so your pelvis stays in alignment. Not exactly fun, but you gotta give the over-tensed muscles a break.

            • Sarah

              I’m a belly sleeper. I don’t think that’s ideal, but I seem to end up that way no matter what. I am really looking forward to the doctor later. I hope I can be relieved and snuggling pain-free with catz by the evening.

            • decormaven

              Hope you got the rx you needed. That’s a pain that really aches.

            • Sarah

              Nope, just getting off work now. Heading straight to dr though! Here’s to muscle relaxers!

            • Sarah

              I got muscle relaxers, and a weird pain med. It doesn’t seem to be working, but the MR’s are, so that’s a plus. Also, beer. SO I am doing better for now. Also called dad and cancelled. He wasn’t too jerky about it, for the moment, so that’s good. Thanks for all your niceness, everyone!

            • Alloy Jane

              I’m glad you didn’t go on that car ride and that you aren’t getting a hard time about it (yet, heh). You should be doing the icing thing to alleviate swelling if you’re tolerant to pain meds. 20 minutes on, 40 minutes off. I was in a car accident almost ten years ago and had to do a whole lotta chiro and massage therapy to just be able to smile without my face hurting. You know what’s helpful that doesn’t seem like it would make a difference? OATMEAL. Aside from being delicious and comforting, something about it promotes neurological health. I can’t for the life of me remember where I read that (it’s been years since I did all the research regarding the accident damage) but it has something to do with B vitamins. Old fashioned or steel cut are best since they haven’t been processed and will retain maximum nutritional value.

              If it’s at all possible, find yourself a good chiro and massage therapist. I paid cash for all that stuff and it’s the best money I’ve ever spent.

              And the lady who rejected your thesis can suck a spoiled deviled egg.

            • Sarah

              Thank you, my friend! I love oatmeal. I already eat it! I love the idea of serving spoiled deviled eggs to my nemeses.

      • Qitkat

        Oh, nonono, I am so sorry to hear all this misery :( I have had sciatica and you need different meds than nsaids, muscle relaxer and stronger Rx pain meds. And I echo decormaven, add ice, do cancel the car trip, my husband tried one once with back pain, and it just made things so much worse, we had to hole up in a twobit town onebit motel for extra nights so ease the agonies. Stay home! dear Sarah, and get better. The thesis will wait til you feel up to it, try to believe you will revise it to be even better, but right now just focus to recover. [[[hugs]]]

        • Sarah

          Thank you. I appreciate the advice, really. I am a grown person, and my dad’s pettiness will just have to understand that I need to take care of myself! I’ll head over to the clinic after work and see about some muscle relaxers. I’m far too tense, and I know it. Not helping anything.

          • formerlyAnon

            If your dad has to act like a toddler, ignore him like you’d do a toddler. Easier said than done, but you know it’s justified.

            • Sarah

              Yesss. He is highly frustrating. We are all flying out to Detroit in two weeks for the second-oldest nephew’s HS graduation, so I’ll see him then (at my sister’s house, not on my own turf, or his, which is better) and he can just wait. Having an excuse to not go honestly makes the back pain almost worth it. I mean, I LOATHE the prospect at the best of times. Having anxiety about it is not conducive to recovery.

            • decormaven

              Yes. Tension is not your friend right now. Tranquil thoughts and drugs and ice. Maybe a soak in Epsom salts.

      • formerlyAnon

        DAMN THEM FOR REJECTING YOUR THESIS!

        I hope it came back with constructive comments so you know what to do. I hope this isn’t somebody’s way of “punishing” you for not submitting a draft. This time, kill ‘em with drafts. Give ‘em one every four or five weeks till they accept it. Drive there and have a face-to-face meeting about what you need to do if the first draft is returned, or if you haven’t gotten useful feedback. Make damn sure they know that if they don’t give you what you need to do “acceptable” work, you will haunt their fucking offices and blight their free time with revisions that need reading.

        Heh. Got carried away there. Well, I guess it will be scholarship summer what with the revision and the final class. Bummer, but you’ll be DONE at the end. XXOO

        • Sarah

          I was told that it was not an “A” and if I wanted to keep my GPA up I needed to revise. I said I’d revise before grades were due, and she said “No, I won’t accept it. You need to take more time.” I would’ve taken a damned D on that sucker just to be DONE with it. I got straight A’s in my other classes, so I don’t know why she’s got to hold me to some standard that I didn’t even give a crap about. I most definitely think it’s malicious. She said I had bad SPACING for fuck’s sake, and that my illustrations (“Fig. 1, Fig. 2″, etc.) were incorrectly placed. I think she viewed a word doc in the Google drive, tbh, because I worked on the damned text wrapping/citing/spacing for a week. SO. PISSED.

          • formerlyAnon

            Can you ship her hard copy next time? With carefully not-condescendingly-snarky instructions on how to open the electronic copy so it holds formatting? Ah well. Fuck it. Give your back a few days or a week before you start spending lots of time sitting at a computer to fix things.

            • Sarah

              I will. I plan to snarkily follow all her “notes” to the effing letter. I’m to drop Clement Greenberg’s definition of modernism and focus on Baudelaire, because two critic’s points of view are “not necessary.” And I need to have a sentence at the conclusion of EACH PARAGRAPH that refers to my thesis statement, because I’m in the eighth grade, apparently. And the reader has no ability to maintain a train of thought. Grrr.

            • formerlyAnon

              I need to have a sentence at the conclusion of EACH PARAGRAPH that refers to my thesis statement

              What the fuckity fuck?

            • Sarah

              Yeah. A forty page paper. Each paragraph. WTF indeed.

            • formerlyAnon

              Don’t spend a lot of time doing it. Because I’d bet that you get that mothafucker back with instructions to stop being repetitive.

            • Sarah

              Oh, you’re so right. I’ll take your aforementioned approach – “fix” a little, submit, repeat. She’s making a “special dispensation” for me because I’m graduating this summer and she wasn’t going to be around but I need the credit before fall. I will most definitely make her pay attention to me. Especially since I submitted the paper with two and a half weeks before the grades were due and she didn’t bother to send me her notes until the day before. Beeotch.

            • formerlyAnon

              That was DEFINITELY at least a touch of passive-aggessive “you didn’t send me a draft.” I mean, she almost certainly WAS busier than a one-armed paperhanger at that point of the semester, but I’d bet my house that when she was prioritizing she thought “well, Student Sarah didn’t submit it when she was supposed to for feedback, so she must be happy without a chance for revision.”

              Yeah. If she wasn’t going to be around this summer, get her the first revision ASAP – either all her response times are going to be sloooowww or at some point she’s going to leave town for a month and not get any work done, even if she means to. (I have several friends who are professors. She’s going to feel entitled to take her sweet time, since she’s “doing you a favor.”)

              ETA: But “ASAP” does NOT mean endless hours in front of the computer, especially not this week. Get the back sorted a bit.

            • Sarah

              Yeah I’ve got to get started soonish though because my summer class is only 7/7 to 8/8 AND writing intensive, so don’t want to be dealing with both of those things at once for sure! It will be the July of Low Countries and German Renaissance Art, for me.

            • demidaemon

              WOW. I mean, I have no words for this behavior. It’s extremely unprofessional, on her part.

            • kimmeister

              A thesis for people with extremely short attention spans, apparently. Ridiculous.

            • decormaven

              Might as well Twitter it.

            • formerlyAnon

              drop Clement Greenberg’s definition of modernism and focus on Baudelaire, because two critic’s points of view are “not necessary.”

              Well, not if they just sit there like stones, unanalyzed and not discussed with reference to your thesis. Or not if this is a community college two year degree, for people who will never have interest in or hopes of reading or pursuing any further research/scholarly writing.

              ETA: And I’m not dissing the two year degree. Some people in such programs are interested in scholarly topics, and are learning in the environment available to them. Just that the instruction in such programs isn’t usually set up for such aims. And instructors are usually capable of supporting it but not prepared to/expecting to do so.

            • Logo Girl

              As it happens my absolute best college English instructor was at community college. We read Hedda Gabler, The Divine Comedy, Hamlet, Rablais, Augustine, Petronius: all tied together by Erich Auerbach’s Mimesis. It was the first time I began really understand literary style as a way of constructing reality in a deep way.

            • formerlyAnon

              One of the best history teachers I had was in a community college course. I was taking it as a “warm up” to see if I really wanted to go back to grad school as an adult with two young children. When he realized what I was trying to do in my papers – but didn’t have the skills, yet, as my undergrad degree was very math/science – he put a lot of time into steering me to resources and giving me feedback. I’m not sure if he or I was more proud of what I managed to learn that semester.

            • demidaemon

              I wish they gave of this freedom at where I have been working, but it is pretty much formulaic. I add my own bits here and there, but it is clearly set as: Do this, this, and that. I do try to give my students as much feedback as humanly possible and steer them in the right direction.

            • formerlyAnon

              This was at least 18 years ago, when I was about to go back for my master’s. I am sure the teaching format is even more lockstep now, it wasn’t super flexible then, which is one reason that professor deserves such props. There were no lectures – a series of video “lectures” with lots of photos and graphics (actually quite well put together) via public access t.v., a text, and periodic bubble exams we took in a central computer lab. There were 2 required office hours meetings with the prof to discuss the short (2 page) and long (maybe 8-10 page?) papers, and additional office hours available if you wanted to re-submit drafts/get additional feedback. There were dozens of sections (each section the size of the computer lab capacity, easily 40-50) and each instructor taught several sections so they were grading hundreds of papers each semester. With ZERO real opportunity for teaching how to do research or write a paper, except during office hours. Hellish.

            • demidaemon

              It is, especially when you work for a state school where the curriculum is basically decided by the state government and your boss knows next to nothing about teaching writing.

              I used to have required conferences with my students, but I’ve found–at least recently–that just integrating it into the class time works better than actually forcing them to come speak to you. I had maybe 5% of students during that required time who would actually hold a conversation with me, whereas integrating it into the actual class sessions has been much more productive. Besides, I can only talk so much about how to construct a paper. Eventually, we have to put theory into practice, make mistakes, and figure out how to correct them. That’s where the real learning comes in. I do throw in some interesting nonfiction essays to get their brains cranking, though most of the time I get a “that’s boring” for my efforts, and if my boss ever paid attention to my syllabus and looked at what I had been using, she probably would have had a fit. One essay, “a nation of slaves,” was on how the current education system is problematic and basically is creating a nation of slaves. I always start my comp classes with that one, and it has always been a great discussion piece.

              True Story: When I interviewed for my current position, I used a syllabus for a creative writing class I had constructed as part of my interview packet. The woman who would become my boss had a mini-fit over the fact that I had them reading “Shitty First Drafts” from Anne Lamont’s book Bird by Bird, because it was so improper to have the word “shit” anywhere near a syllabus. That chapter is one of the keystones of my writing philosophy and I thought she threw it way out of proportion. It was certainly a sign of things to come, though it didn’t stop me from getting the job.

            • formerlyAnon

              There are whole paragraphs from Bird by Bird I [think I] can quote verbatim. It’s great.

              Academia is a wild and wooly frontier, in a lot of ways. Especially if you work in a public university, knowing all the published rules and regs backwards and forwards is really important – it gives you the protection of the bureaucracy (yay Weber!) when faculty or faculty-doing-a-wholly-unprepared-for stint as administration go feral.

            • demidaemon

              Tell me about it. I’ve been fighting bureaucracy and territorialness all year long, and it is EXHAUSTING. Quite frankly, I am a little bit glad to be out of that, at least for the moment.

            • decormaven

              God bless America. That is picky-plus and completely pointless. One of the reasons I never went for an MA in English. Some people just have to lift their leg to say “I was here.”

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              That’s just bizarre. It’ll make it unreadable!

            • KinoEye

              The whole thesis-referencing sentence thing is stupid. If the goal of the revisions is to completely disrupt the structure and flow of the writing, in addition to treating the reader like a cretin, then congratulations, Sarah’s thesis professor! You’ll succeed admirably.

            • Sarah

              I’m SAYIN’. I am willing to admit it may have not been my best work ever, but still. The notes she gave me were not constructive.

            • demidaemon

              I sort of teach this philosophy, but I never want my students to directly refer. I want them to connect what they are saying in a particular paragraph to the overall impetus of the essay. She sounds like she doesn’t know the first thing about writing, which automatically makes all of her commentary suspect.

            • Sarah

              I know the idea, of course. I mean, you have to put it all together so that things make sense in your context, but I did that, I thought. I have never had a problem like this. I seriously think she hates my writing, and I have to just change it for her to grade me well.

            • demidaemon

              That is so dumb, though I understand why you may have to make that terrible choice. GRRRR. I want to throttle her for you. It shhould be about the content and what you’ve said, not needlessly nitpicky things like these.

            • formerlyAnon

              It’s the paradox of being a student. Yes, the ability to flexibly morph one’s writing to suit the audience is really valuable – but being asked to do so, inevitably, as a deadline looms or has already passed, is not exactly the best way to stretch one’s skills.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Can you present the paper in pdf form so that the formatting cannot be changed?

            • Sarah

              Hadn’t thought of that. Good Idea!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              That’s what we’re here for.

            • Alloy Jane

              If I were you, I’d go even farther than just a pdf version. Pdf it, jpeg it, stick it in every image form possible to ensure that the formatting is flattened and fixed. Then send a paper copy via certified mail to her office and home so that way you can fart in the envelope before you mail it.

            • demidaemon

              I love your ruthlessness! :)

          • demidaemon

            I have seen bad spacing before, and it is almost always the result of viewing it in the wrong format (or using incredibly outdated typing software, which I don’t think you do). I’m with formerlyAnon; inundate these people with revisions until they give you what you deserved for actually adding to the critical canon.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Oh no! Both back and thesis, what a ball-ache. Was your supervisor just arsey or do you see their point about the thesis?

        • Sarah

          Arsey, for sure. She is not of the same mind as me about how to make a point, it would seem. The back is much more problematic at this point. I need a hot tub. I will have to settle for pills and cats instead. Now if I could just get them to make their cat-biscuits on my lower back (sans claws) I would be doing good.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Do you have a wheat pillow/hot water bottle?

            • Sarah

              No, I don’t. I do have a claw-foot soaking tub though. Two more hours and I’m off, at which point I plan to get in it. (After procuring necessary pills, of course.)

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Get a hot water bottle too! Much less risk of drowning (your bath sounds amazing).

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Traction and the right stretching exercises will stop the pinching of the sciatic nerve and thus the pain. I agree with decormaven, sleeping with a pillow between your legs while on your side is a great pain reliever for sciatica.

        Sorry but I don’t have a cure for the pain caused by your thesis being rejected. It’s surprising to me that it came so quickly after you submitted it. Premature rejection? Take a break from it so you can come back to it later with new eyes. But not too long a break — no procrastinating!

        • Sarah

          The prof had two weeks to decide to tell me that she was displeased, then notified me of her desired revisions about 36 hrs before grades were due. Fairly short shrift if you ask me. I will try the pillow. Anything would be better than this!

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Wow, time really does fly! It feels like you just handed it in just last week.

            Please do ask the doctor if traction will help your situation. It was the only thing that cured mine.

      • smayper

        SO sorry to hear that. The grad school thing can be utterly miserable.

      • KinoEye

        :-( wow. Life is putting you through the ringer, no doubt. Lots of great advice from more knowledgable kittens on the thesis and sciatica, so I’ll keep my comment short: your thesis supervisor is a jerk of epic proportions, I wish I was rich and could buy you a hot tub, and switching meds at such a stressful time would wig me out, too. Hang in there, doll!

        • Sarah

          Thanks, Kino! You are sweet. I am doing better, and not so little because of y’all’s kind words. I be lookin at hot tubs on Craigslist, BTW. They are not always so expensive, maybe….

      • demidaemon

        Obviously, the rejectors need to get their heads checked!

    • smayper

      Long, painful week. Then — just minutes before the end of Friday, I got a call with a job offer. Keep in mind that I’ve been looking for over a year. I didn’t even NEED a cocktail. But I’ll take one now, please. Something lovely and British. Cheers!

      • decormaven

        Beaming good job vibes your way. A toast to your health- and wealth!

      • Sarah

        Nice! Cheers!

      • Qitkat

        How wonderful for the job offer, congratulations! Enjoy the well-deserved cocktail.

      • Jackie4g

        Sending you good thoughts!

      • formerlyAnon

        Hot damn! I love hearing such good news.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Congratulations on the new job. That’s a great way to end the week.

      • MilaXX

        Congrats on the new job!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Very good news about the job offer! Pimms?

        • smayper

          Oh, yes please! And maybe a watercress sandwich…

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            We had smoked salmon & cucumber sandwiches for lunch…

            The cress referred to in British stories about sandwiches is actually garden cress sprouts, rather than watercress. Much more delicate and easier to eat!

      • KinoEye

        Hurrah!! If we were in the lovely lounge above, I’d buy all your celebratory drinks. Cheers, indeed!

    • Qitkat

      This week I finally snared a sweet little waterside cottage for a week on Bainbridge Island off Seattle for our vacation in late June to complete the trip beginning with four days in Cannon Beach, Oregon, with our oldest son, DIL and cutie 2½ yo grandson. Boy, travel adds up pricewise, but I am so looking forward to this, it is priceless. Had to change the flight to land in one city and fly out of the other. Now to find a deal for a one-way rental car that allows two drivers, rejoining aarp for travel discounts. Strolling, hiking, splashing, watching sunsets, not a real sunrise early waker ;), squishy sand between my toes, beachy rocks and grasses, SIGH… along the beach for so many days, I will not want to leave. I grew up in Florida and still miss that easy access. Explore a new city, maybe go to Olympic NP, kayaking, bicycling. Splendid.

      This weekend dogsitting for two shih tzus of middle son’s family, while they head off to camp with 3 other families, 16 more people. Yikes, who does that, (except boy scouts)? We always had our hands full just camping with 3 little boys. I don’t want to offend any BKs, but these are the DUMBEST dogs ever, and they start to smell again even after one day from their bath. They will eat their own poo, but ignore the food bowl, hover the kitchen for crumbs since they are used to two little boys dropping stuff, hate spending much time outside, cannot perform a single trick that I know of, their main talent consists of looking soulfully at you so they get allowed on the couch, which we’ve covered with old sheets for the duration. Our son does not see our concern that we have not one single room to close them off in, except ones with carpet or hardwood, so we can’t go off for several hours, because I am not planning to clean up after dogs I don’t own. And if it thunders, the little female one is terrified and will wee herself if not with humans. Aacckk. Just now I can hear my husband revving them up, downstairs, barking, running and growling. They all like this for some reason. I am clueless ;-)

      Have a great Memorial Day weekend, y’all!

      • Sarah

        Olympic is my favorite NP. I have been to all of them (in the lower 48) and it really took my breath away. Your vacation sounds DIVINE! And those dogs sound like why I don’t have dogs ;) Hope you have a great weekend, too!

      • formerlyAnon

        Awesome vacation! I am envious. Have to admit I am big on sunrise + coffee in large part because usually only a few older people or a mom with a nursing baby are up on family vacations. And if I take the coffee on a vigorous walk, I can enjoy the only silence of the day.

        I vastly prefer dogs to cats, but I cannot fault you for your concerns! Other people’s pets, like other people’s children are annoyingly chosen or trained to avoid the things that bother the Other People, not oneself!

      • decormaven

        Ohh, we’ve never been to Olympic NP, but we’re crazy about all the Southwest NPs- we are big hikers. Your getaway sounds divine. Go fix a wee drinkie- those pups would drive me to the bottle, pronto.

        • Qitkat

          A wee drinkie just sounds so British, love it. It isn’t yet noon here, so I am feeling decadent! but am having a small spot of Caramel Baileys, nevertheless.

          • decormaven

            There you go! It’s the weekend- no time clock involved.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        That sounds absolutely exhausting!

        I confess, I am not a small dog lover. They need to be collie or larger to really interest me.

    • blondie65

      Happy 3 day weekend! I have finally have caught up on Mad Men…yes, all 6.5 seasons in just under 2 months.
      Long story, but we didn’t have cable when it first began and then, life was crazy for awhile. And by 4 seasons in, just couldn’t pick it up. But thanks to our recent addition of netflicks (another long story), I binged for the last several weeks, including reading all of the TLo posts & the BK commentary (where I could…I remember when TLo switched sites & the comments from the old site didn’t make the transition). God what a great show & TLo and the BK’s made it even more enjoyable!!

      Anyway, our relaxing 3 day weekend started with the dam# cat knocking my daughter’s laptop off the bed. She left it too close to the edge. Cat used it to scratch her neck. Gravity did the rest. $200 later for a new hard drive & to reload windows. Somehow the hard drive was damaged in the fall but the screen is fine…computer guy says the screen would have been more expensive so there’s that. All data lost. Thank God the semester is over
      & she finished her A.A. so while all her school projects were lost, they had all been turned in to her professors.

      DH returning from a fishing trip today with tons of fish…and other than normal housecleaning, the only goal I have set is to update family photos (cameras are full…haven’t updated since the holidays…). And maybe start Breaking Bad now that I’m up to date on Mad Men.

      Happy Memorial Day and much gratitude to those BK’s who served & their family members!

      • decormaven

        Glad you’ve caught up on Mad Men- it’s been a great ride. You’re in for a treat with Breaking Bad- Mr. DM still misses it.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Congrats on finishing all of Mad Men. That’s quite a project. I picked it up in the middle of season 2 after a 3-day marathon and thought that was an accomplishment. I can’t believe you read all of the comments. Did you do Mad Style, too?

        • blondie65

          Oh yes…it was Mad Style that encouraged me to keep going after I found it on Netflicks. I watched the first two episodes and was turned off by all the misogyny. But then I went back and read some of TLo’s early posts, including one of the first Mad Style posts about Peggy and that encouraged me to keep going. And then…well I got addicted.

    • EveEve

      anybody ready to take a stab at how the Mad Men half-season is going to end???

      I had this flash of imagination: something happens to Julio’s mother (drowns in overflowing toilet?) and Pegs ends up raising Julio; her son-substitute. Maybe not all formal/adoption, but raising him. She wouldnt be lonely and she would have someone to focus her nurturing on. And maybe Don would help out too. Not romantic, but a cobbled together family. Too cray-cray? To me it is not more improbable than a plot that has Joan publically prostituting herself for a partnership. (which as far as I am concerned is a “jump the shark” plot twist.) Besides, why else would they be writing that kid into the show? Nothing is accidental.

      • formerlyAnon

        I honestly just can’t. I can envision so many “cliff hangers” that leave people I want to see coping/successful miserable/feeling like failures that I’d rather just wait to be crushed. To be honest, I hope for something almost as crazy as Peggy raising Julio, if that’s what it takes to avoid something that looks like tragedy/impending tragedy.

        • blondie65

          Well, I don’t think we are really going to get a wrap up/endgame as we are used to when a series ends. I think the most we can hope for is seeing a closing where a few of the characters end up where we can envision them in a relatively good place emotionally long term. The only thing I really hope for is Peggy somehow ends up ok…where we can see that she will someday be a creative director in a successful firm (with Ken/Don/Pete…or not…who knows) and somehow she finds some happiness in her personal life…even if it is accepting that she won’t have the traditional ending, but accepts who she is, what is important to her & that it is ok to want what she wants and want the life she’s carved out for herself. And most importantly ends where we see her looking forward to what is next. My other wish is we get some kind of indication of something similar for Sally…If we get that, however else the rest plays out, I’ll be satisfied.

          • MilaXX

            THIS> I’m not looking for romantic entanglements or sugary happy endings. I would like to see Peggy be okay with her choice of career over the traditional wife & mommy route. Giving her Julio to raise cheats that IMO. I also don’t need to see Peggy & Don end up as a couple. The way they ended last week at peace with who they are as friends/colleagues/coworkers feels truer to the path they have been on throughout the show. The only thing that makes sense to me is more on the ongoing battle between Jim/Lou & Don/Peggy and maybe Roger for control over the firm. I’d also like to see Ted either poop or get off the pot.

      • EveEve

        OK, do I at least get a few extra-credit points????

    • DeniseSchipani

      Vulture.com made an entertaining stab at 10 possible Mad Men finales. But that’s the finale-finale. What will be the midseason cliffhanger? Damn, this is going to hurt. http://www.vulture.com/2014/05/10-theories-about-mad-mens-mid-season-7-finale.html

      • Laylalola

        The episode is called Waterloo, which doesn’t sound good.

        Edited: Oh, that Vulture piece mentions Waterloo. And I’m pretty sure those are midseason cliffhangers and not the finale-finale.

    • KinoEye

      I’m glad to read so much good news this week from other kittens: congratulations to all of you who had something wonderful happen in your lives this week. To the kittens who had the opposite experience, I’m sending good vibes and imaginary drinks your way.

      Not much to report from the countryside, except that I was in desperate need of a three-day weekend. It’s lovely. Also, in the words of Tennessee Williams, I have a gentleman caller. We’re taking it slow — bad relationships in both our lives — but he’s sweet, patient, smart, and a great cook. But there’s one thing I’m unsure of how to navigate: he has an adorable 6-year-old boy. He shares custody with mom, who I’m told is an awful person, and part of the reason the boy is so unsure around women.

      We’ve known each other for a year, so I’m not a stranger to his son, who seems to like me. While I love kids, I don’t have too much experience with them — no younger siblings or much babysitting in my life. I’m getting better since my office is usually full of kids, but I don’t want to screw anything up with my lack of experience. I’ve always known his son comes before anything else in his life, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I just want to make sure I’m doing the right things when I’m around him, and I don’t scare him or anything, ya know?

      • Qitkat

        I love your use of the term “gentleman caller,” it sounds like a lovely beginning to a relationship. Six year old boys have passed through my life several times :) , but as far as any wisdom goes, all I would suggest, which you are probably doing already, is to talk and laugh with him just like you would any person of any age that you like. Kids relate when adults are relaxed and natural, most at that age love talking about what interests them, and having someone interested, making silly jokes, running around the yard playing tag, finding something interesting that you know about and getting their curiosity up to investigate it together, going to natural history museums, hiking, and talking about animals and plants if you know any of that stuff, or learning about them together. Being tolerant of the easy things to overlook that might be annoying, letting his dad do the disciplining until you guys have gotten further along in your relationship, and never saying anything negative about his mom.

        Anyway, good luck, and be happy.

        • KinoEye

          Great advice, Qitkat. When I was that age, my interests tended to be more “masculine” — dinosaurs, animals, plants, the works. So I think I can definitely relate to him in that way. He’s so sweet and friendly that I think it’ll be easy to get to know him. And yep, when we first started talking about getting together, the Gentleman Caller said that women had rejected him in the past because they weren’t ready to be mothers: “I’d never ask for that — I’ve got this,” he said. So we made sure from the get-go to be clear about my role in his life as the relationship progresses. Communication is key, as they say. Thank you so much for the insight :-)

          • Qitkat

            You’re so very welcome, KinoEye. He sounds like a great little boy, and his dad sounds well grounded. And this is a wonderful age for exploration, kids learning to read. So many wonderful books! I always have the feels for women who take on the role of being an important woman in a child’s life, and not trying to be the mom. I imagine it is such a delicate balance. It sounds like all your instincts are pointing you in the right direction.

      • decormaven

        Bless. I don’t have any experience in that situation, but just be kind and let the little boy warm up to you. While it may not be exactly the same scenario, I’m trying to become friends with a puppy next door. My neighbors are going through a divorce- the mom and child moved out, the man is there. The mom bought the puppy (I think) for the child as a Christmas gift, but the puppy has ended up with the ex. This dog is so, so shy- doesn’t wag his tail, doesn’t bark, doesn’t play. The ex does not interact with him much; the dog is out in the yard on his own. I’ve had to approach him slow and steady- it took a week of leaving Beggin Strips at the fence to get him to come. I finally was able to interact with him a bit yesterday, but it has been a tough slog. I wish you the best of luck with your new fellow. Is the little boy a reader? Maybe that’s a way to come together- sharing something you love with him.

        • KinoEye

          That is a helpful comparison. I had a similar experience with my previous cat, who was a feral kitten. Wouldn’t come near me for 3 months, but with some time and patience, he finally let me pet him. I almost cried. The new fellow is a reader, and I think the little one is, too — great idea!

          • decormaven

            So glad. I know you are a patient person. The lil guy will come around, especially if it is with a book that he will enjoy.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Qitkat has given you excellent advice. I second it all and would like to add that whenever possible, speak to him at his level. Don’t tower over him. If you watch Ellen Degeneres, you’ll notice that she always squats down to look kids in the eye and they love her.

        • KinoEye

          I never thought about that, but it makes total sense. Thanks!

      • formerlyAnon

        My addition to the excellent advice you’ve gotten is to have very clear ground rules with your friend about what responsibilities you take on with his son. My idea wold be like Qitkat’s – rules & discipline are the dad’s province completely this early on. If you differ with the dad, and can’t back him up on something talk to dad about it and if necessary remove yourself from those situations. But you are the judge of your situation. My kids’ stepmom (who was and is an excellent stepmom) life was made much more manageable when she hauled my ex in to see a counselor to set up ground rules on discipline, rules, etc. (Basically that as much as practical, in those areas, his kids were his responsibility.)

      • Jacob Bowen

        I LOVE the advice everyone has given you, it is great. After working with 6 year olds for the past 6 years (all summer long, now part of the school year this year), and having my many little cousins, I have learned learned this: Kids love when you are generally interested in them. It sounds like the STUPIDEST advice, but honestly, my little cousin Andrew (who is secretly my favorite cousin) is now 6 and he could not be any happier than when I just ask him about his day. After that it always spawns into another conversation, which turns into his favorite game, or becomes a silly joke fest or a wrestling tournament or baseball game etc. And, on the flip side, kids LOVE to learn about you. So be yourself and relax, they wouldn’t want you to be another way. There is NOTHING better than a kid smiling at you and telling you they’re having fun.

        Congrats on the “gentleman caller”, I’m supremely jealous. If I can find a sweet man who can cook (and contain my shopping urges) I will be clinging on for dear life.

        • formerlyAnon

          Jacob, you’re a gem. Never underestimate the qualities of empathy, patience and communication it takes to connect with kids like that. No wonder they value you where you work.

          (Unsolicited mom-speak; you’re too young to be settling down, (but it works for some). When you do, a sweet man who makes you happy will do fine. Give the two of you cooking lessons for a special occasion gift if he can’t cook! And learn to be a responsible grown up about spending all on your own, eventually.)

          • Jacob Bowen

            Mom-speak is ALWAYS welcome…I think I could settle down now, but I would totally miss traveling all the time and the lack of responsibility. I also am good with my own money, but I am hoping for a husband like my cousin, who LOVES keeping track of bills and paying them. I don’t have that love of budgeting/keeping track of it, therefore a husband with that financial prowess would just save me the monthly worry that I always get.

        • KinoEye

          I’m pretty late in replying, but a big thanks to you and all the wonderful kittens who gave me advice :-) I knew I couldn’t go wrong by asking y’all.

      • Sarah

        Just be nice and respectful. I’m just an aunt to five boys, but I find that they are pretty nice and cool and just want to be appreciated. Nice to hear you have something going on that makes you happy!

    • CMSmith1848

      I want to go to London now! This weekend I celebrated finishing my book and handing it over to my editor this week. Spent the weekend FINALLY finishing up Be Me or Do Me. It was a lot funnier than mine :) I also found a fab cocktail to celebrate and read, Rio Punch: pineapple juice, banana juice, lime juice, white rum and sparkling wine (or Sekt as they call it in Germany). YUM! Maybe I will make another batch while waiting for Mad Men.

      • decormaven

        Congratulations to you! The punch sounds like a nice prelude for Mad Men tonight.

        • CMSmith1848

          Oh my goodness, it was so good! Great for the summer.

      • formerlyAnon

        Well congrats! Is yours fiction or non-?

        • CMSmith1848

          It is non-fiction; a wonky academic book on voting. I wish it could be as witty as TLO

          • formerlyAnon

            I’m impressed! The sociological or technical aspects? Or both? (I imagine you’re as witty as many academics can tolerate.)

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Congratulations! So much talent here. What a group we are.

        • CMSmith1848

          Thanks! You are absolutely right – so many talented Bitter Kittens!

    • PastryGoddess

      Hello everyone! air kisses and hugs to all

      I have been extraordinarily productive this weekend. On Saturday, I got up at the asscrack of dawn to go to an annual tulip dig at a local public garden. Fancy tulips for 30 cents a bulb. Got 50 of those suckers and then went home and planted every single one of them. My front yard is going to be divine next year. If that wasn’t enough I then demolished my kitchen down to the studs. Picked up the cabinets yesterday, and I’m in between staining the doors now.

      My back is KILLING me, but that’s why god made drugs

      • decormaven

        Oooh, what a super deal on the bulbs! Hope you took a long soak in the tub. You’re going to love those blooms next spring!

        • PastryGoddess

          Yeah, a local garden plants thousands of bulbs every year and then sells them to raise money. I’m so excited for next year

    • Daisy Buchanan

      I will lurk during Mad Men but I’ve seen the episode a couple of times. It’s a solid finish, though I’ll be curious to see the response to the ending. I know why they did what they did with it, but I’m not sure the tone really worked. And that’s all I’m saying ;)

    • Wellworn

      I like to play the “Where in the world is the TLounge?” game, and this one I guessed correctly. It is so London! Not that I ever stepped into such a stylish bar when I was in London. Nope, it’s the pub life for me.

    • PastryGoddess

      Disqus has been acting straight up stupid for the last 30 min.

    • Eric Stott

      I hope we have some Sally tonight.

    • Sally

      Tuned in for the 3 minutes of Turn I see each week.

      • Eric Stott

        It has the common fault of nearly any period drama ……everyone’s teeth are in FAR too good condition.

        • Sally

          And those uniforms are very clean.

          • Eric Stott

            That is just passable….but in general everyone and every thing is too clean.

      • PastryGoddess

        ooh SEX this week.

        At least this is somewhat interesting

    • Jacob Bowen

      Ahhhhhh this week was SUCH A BLUR!!!! I got back REALLY late last Sunday night only to have a change in job on Monday! I have been spending my year working in middle school classrooms subbing pretty long term in a few different rooms, but this week I was moved to FIRST GRADE! I absolutely LOVE First Graders….but not teaching them. I will be fine for the following 7 last days of school, but WOW, did they make me tired.

      But now BK’s here is the biggest issue. I was planning on moving out to California in August, BUUUTTTT I got called about a teaching job. This wasn’t a call to tell you about a job that was opening, this was a “we have an opening and would like you to come interview”. This is the school I’ve been working for ALL YEAR and I really LOVE the school. SO, think if I get it, I’m not going to move. This also works because I think I can’t live with my friend who I was planning on moving in with. He gets WAYYYY to angry and stressed out over LITTLE situations and has a HUGE temper, and I don’t want to be attached to him because I won’t know anyone else when I move out there. I feel like these are just regular anxiety about moving issues, but something feels wrong about it, and I usually follow my gut and feel happy. I still have job prospects out in Cali though, so I am going to continue mulling over the situation, but if I get this job at my school I’m going to stay.

      • Cheryl

        Dream jobs are nothing to sneeze at! This sounds like a great opportunity, but whatever you choose, it will be the right choice for you. You can certainly stay for a year and see if that’s what you really want to do.

      • embers618

        Congrats on being called – you must have made a good impression!
        It’s totally okay to hold off on making a decision until you’ve got all your info in hand – right now you’ve got some prospects floating, and it’s totally legitimate to make a decision based on getting the job you want, or having a healthy living situation, or even just what feels right. You’ve got a little time yet. Be confident in you, and you’ll know what you should do.

      • formerlyAnon

        It’s WONDERFUL to have appealing options. Go with your gut. The best thing about a teaching job is you have a couple of months in the summer to travel and visit people, and if you decide to leave the job, defined entry and exit points.

        If you do move out to Cali, you don’t have to stay there! And it may take some tact, but there’s no rule you have to stay with your friend permanently. (If you are working, even just temp jobs, or volunteering, you will meet other people quite naturally, even if they aren’t always friend material.)

        ETA: I almost hope they can’t offer you the job right away – you really are at a good time in life to go check out the rest of the world. You can almost certainly come back later and work your way back into a similar job the way you got this one, since it’s based on you, your personality and skills.

        • Jacob Bowen

          Well, I did apply to teach on a military base for the 2014-2015 school year, so I am hoping that I get the 2nd job option (in a nearby, but less desirable school) to get some experience and then get placed on a military base somewhere in Europe. I think that would be great to give me some sort of base for teaching experience (so I’m not brand new, freaking out about teaching and my living arrangements at the same time (stress overwhelms me and I introvert)) and it would be a cool living experience. I feel like more options are better than no options at this moment, and I will be happy wherever I end up.

          • formerlyAnon

            :-)
            I like the idea that you might get to work in Europe. It’s so much more compact than the U.S. You could see so much! Do so much traveling!
            (Not that it’s my place to tell you what you might want to do, but we all notice that that doesn’t really slow me down.)

            • Jacob Bowen

              Europe would be BEAUTIFUL. I’m hoping to go (and meet a military man) and travel the continent as much as possible!

      • Sarah

        Do what feels right, Jacob! You are obviously rife with possibilities in your life right now, so you only have to choose the path you feel best with. All the best to you!

    • Logo Girl

      Julio in the “previously on”

    • PastryGoddess

      Roll call! Who’s here?

      • Sally

        Here!

      • Cheryl

        Me! Moon landing!

    • PastryGoddess

      Didn’t the launch happen in July?

    • Pennymac

      Moon launch!

    • Eric Stott

      Cooper out of the office – a first!!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      LOOKING at that tiny plane give me anxiety.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      ANXIETY!!!!! TED!!!! NO!!!

    • Eric Stott

      Do you think they’ll really go for an obvious cliff-hanger tonight?

    • Pennymac

      OUCH!

    • Sally

      Dismissed!

    • Eric Stott

      Jim- that was pretty damm nasty

    • kittentoes

      No shopping or fucking here. I’m going to be pitting and preserving many pounds of cherries, also hopefully canning stone fruit mostarda. It is bloody hot, and the neighbors are quite drunk.

      • PastryGoddess

        I HATE canning cherries. But they are so good

        • kittentoes

          I hate pitting them! Eternal stains and stickiness. But last year I made cherry rum vanilla pie filling. I vowed to make much more this year.

          • PastryGoddess

            I don’t like cherry pie, but I’d eat that

            ……get your mind out of the gutter people

            • kittentoes

              At the risk of being vain, it makes an excellent pie.

      • EveEve

        cherries already?! where???

        • kittentoes

          California. The season is very very short here.

    • PastryGoddess

      OH that’s interesting. Lou was in the tobacco industry

      • Eric Stott

        I’ve got a bit of sympathy for the guy

        • PastryGoddess

          I don’t,

          He’s a dick, treated everyone like a dick, and when he doesn’t get his way he bitches and acts like a child

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Pete’s giving Peggy a look…..

      • Pennymac

        Saw that. What did it mean?

    • Sally

      Ugh…why that awful ceiling?

      • Rich Sitelogin

        Oh my, that’s my mother’s ceiling!

      • Eric Stott

        They were all the rage, they covered up bad plaster & saved on heating bills. Most tenants would have seen it as a good feature. It’s good to see that Peggy feels that she can put money into the building.

    • Cheryl

      Everyone’s hot and sweaty and Betty is coooool.

    • PastryGoddess

      I’m feeling like a pedophile at the moment

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Meredith…giiirrrrrlllll……calm down.

    • PastryGoddess

      This has Jim Cutler all over it

      And really Meredith…really

      • Pennymac

        Embarassed for her!

    • Sally

      Go get ‘em Don

    • Logo Girl

      Meredith in Rick Rack

    • Sally

      DRAMA!!

      • PastryGoddess

        This is the good shit!

        • Cheryl

          I’m having trouble breathing….

      • Cheryl

        Damn Joan! ETA: TLo just Tweeted the same thing. I’m so proud.

    • Pennymac

      Whoa

    • Eric Stott

      New hairstyle for Joan…not certain it’s a good one though

    • Sally

      Joanie raises her hand, but tells Jim bad move. Interesting

      • Elizabeth Flowers

        Well he didn’t tell everyone what he was doing. You can’t spring a surprise like that on the other partners without consulting them. They weren’t prepared.

        • Sally

          Why would he have done that? It seems like Partner 101 not to pull crap like that.

          • PastryGoddess

            It was that conversation with Lou

            As Machavellian as he is, he’s the new kid on the block and doesn’t understand the things the other partners have been through with each other.

            • Eric Stott

              Jim thinks anyone can be replaced.

        • Eric Stott

          At one time or another any and all of them would have kicked Don out.

        • EveEve

          Exactly. Didn’t any of the show’s writers work in a partnership? That’s not how it’s done. tsk.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      That was great. I’m intrigued that Bert voted to keep Don.

      • Eric Stott

        I think he’s more pissed that Cutler went over his head & used his name to do it.

    • Janice Bartels

      So who is going to kiss Rutgers first- Sally or Betty?

      • PastryGoddess

        I think Betty thinks it’s cute to see Sally falling all over Rutgers. After all, no one does being beautiful and interesting to men like Betty Draper Francis.

        Who knows, she might give Sally a few tips

    • Janice Bartels

      Aw, poor Julio.

      • blondie65

        playgrounds….

    • Cheryl

      Peggy you can adopt Julio! It’s perfect.

    • Eric Stott

      Peggy’s bathrobe is hideous – I love it

    • Sally

      Aw, Peggy.

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Don’s a person! He packs clothes.

      • Eric Stott

        As long as they’re on opposite coasts, he and Megan have a great relationship. She wants to keep it that way.

    • PastryGoddess

      Are they talking about their marriage..or his job

      • Cheryl

        Not so fast, Don.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Nope. She does not want you to move to Cali. Poor Don. So unwanted.

      • Cheryl

        He’ll always have Meredith.

        • PastryGoddess

          I just fell over laughing

        • Elizabeth Flowers

          Bahahahahahaha!!!!

    • PastryGoddess

      Didn’t expect the marriage to end like this…

      • Pennymac

        Me either

      • nosniveling

        not with a bang, but with a whimper :(

    • Sally

      Oh, surprisingly sad.

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Am I the only one who is thinking that convo between Don and Megan was right out of NBC’s Monday Night at the Movies?

      • PastryGoddess

        *gasp* YES!

      • Cheryl

        “Cheryl’s Wishes Finally Come True.”

      • EveEve

        A pretty sappy ending. Not that I mind seeing the last of that poorly-acted character.

    • Sally

      What does Bert do?

      • PastryGoddess

        Count his money

        • Sally

          And by Rothko’s

          • EveEve

            A Jackson Pollock behind the sofa. Not bad!

      • Eric Stott

        That is a good question. He used to have some pull with the established accounts and clients, but I think he’s mostly coasting on his reputation.

        • PastryGoddess

          Bert should be retired, but he doesn’t have anything to do with himself. So he’s in the office

          • formerlyAnon

            Partner Emeritus.

      • Damien W

        He still had his own ancient accounts he was maintaining, but I guess they didn’t amount to much toward the bottom line anymore.

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Ooh! Love that segue from 1969 to 1984.

    • Sally

      Btw, Stonewall not mentioned at all.

      • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

        Nope…

      • Sally

        Not that I really thought it would be….

      • PastryGoddess

        It wasn’t really discussed in the national press at all. There were some mocking reports written by press stringers that were picked up, but it wasn’t front or even back page news

        It was a thing in NY, but unless you were gay or lesbian, you probably didn’t hear about it.

      • Damien W

        Last week was the closest we’ll get. The moon landing was on July 20th, a month later.

      • Cheryl

        And Sharon Tate is long gone….OK a couple of weeks ago.

        • Logo Girl

          No she will be gone in a couple weeks

          • Cheryl

            Sorry, I read it somewhere else. You’re right.

            • Logo Girl

              :) it’s ok I felt silly I saw your edit right after I posted

    • Sally

      This may be the most active chat ever!

    • Damien W

      I dunno, so far this episode seems so…episodic. “Watch this big thing happen. Done. Okay, now watch THIS big thing happen. Done! Now…”

    • Sally

      I remember this.

      • Eric Stott

        I was a child in a Cape Cod motel—the management invited everyone into the lobby where there was the only COLOR TV in the place.

    • Pennymac

      I remember………..

    • Sally

      Peggy looks great!

    • PastryGoddess

      How much did this footage cost?

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      I love seeing their excitement!!

    • Cheryl

      “For A man” – he flubbed the line! (I wonder why they never did retakes in the studio?)

      • PastryGoddess

        haha

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Oh I so did that — mimic the boyfriend…

    • Eric Stott

      Sally is only saying that to piss off Betty & Henry

    • PastryGoddess

      she overdosed..ok nevermind. I thought it was Margaret

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      OH GOD!! THEY KILLED BERT!!!

    • Damien W

      OMG – Burt’s dead?

      • Eric Stott

        Yes

    • Sally

      Oh no!!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      OH GOD IT’S LIKE WHEN ROGER HAD HIS HEART ATTACK!!

    • PastryGoddess

      Wha!

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Sally is super sassy!

    • PastryGoddess

      Enough Jim! What the fuck!

      • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

        What an a$$!

    • Damien W

      Jim Cutler, go to Hell.

    • Eric Stott

      Who gets the office?

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Not the right time, Jim.

    • PastryGoddess

      Now What Joan,

      Look at what you’ve hitched your wagon to

    • Damien W

      So, Pete knows that Ted is leaving. Do the others?

      • PastryGoddess

        Jim will have Ted’s share and he has Harry and Joan in his pocket. Lou may or may not count

        • Damien W

          Lou’s not a partner. He’s “hired help” as Jim put it earlier.

          • Cheryl

            Yeah, I think Don’s ship has already sailed. I doubt he’s going to survive this.

          • PastryGoddess

            True, but with Ted’s share, Jim can buy his loyalty

    • Sally

      I feel responsible.

      • Cheryl

        You killed Bert?

        • PastryGoddess

          You Bastard!

      • Pennymac

        I guess you know the answer to your question,now.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      This little boy likes our Sally.

    • Damien W

      Burt’s dead — now watch Sally lose her virginity.

      • Eric Stott

        That cigarette puff- PURE Betty Draper!

        • Cheryl

          I was thinking Bette Davis.

          • Eric Stott

            Same thing- Betty Hoffstadt probably learned it

          • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

            Who would be her Paul Henreid? “Oh, Jerry, don’t let’s ask for the moon. We have the stars.”

            • Cheryl

              Glenn, of course!

            • blondie65

              “It’s going to be a bumpy night”

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Betty as Sally as Betty

    • Damien W

      So, that little family we saw having dinner at Burger Chef at the end of the last episode — new agency? With maybe Roger thrown in?

      • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

        In 21 minutes, we’ll know…

        • Eric Stott

          We’ll know next season…I feel a cliffhanger coming on

          • Damien W

            Which would be odd, since Matt isn’t really into cliffhangers. But with the split season, who knows.

            The closest he ever got before was, “Are you alone?”

            • Eric Stott

              The promo suggested it…but then again, they often pull tricks on us

      • PastryGoddess

        Your lips to the writers fingers

    • Eric Stott

      Plaid pants on Roger…..hmmmm

    • PastryGoddess

      Love Roger

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      “Every time an old man starts talking about Napoleon, you know he’s going to die.” Brilliant!

    • PastryGoddess

      How have 45 minutes passed

    • Cheryl

      Condolence sex! Yes!

      • Damien W

        Eww no.

      • Eric Stott

        no- a kiss on the forehead, at most. Right now Don is very paternal.

    • Damien W

      “Pete’s pregnant.” That’s one of those lines that I have to let rattle around in my head for a while…

      • Eric Stott

        and crabby

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      The New Yorker’s lament in a dry county: “We have no liquor!”

      • Eric Stott

        You’d think someone would have packed a Trav-L-Bar

        • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

          My grandmother certainly would have. I inherited hers. Then, again, she was from Crosby County, Texas, which was very dry for a very long time. She knew how to be ready to drink whenever and wherever.

    • PastryGoddess

      I love when Roger throws his dick on the table

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      ROGER!!! WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!

      • PastryGoddess

        He is friggin genius!

        He gets rid of Jim, keeps his business and accounts and STILL makes money hand over fist. He’ll be a VP or in the C-suite.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      You’re pulling a Don!!!!!!!!!

    • Damien W

      Good Lord. Roger sets back the clock 7 years.

    • Eric Stott

      The music and soundscape has been great this hour

    • Pennymac

      Come on,Peggy!!!!

    • Cheryl

      If Peggy starts talking about her childhood… and Hershey Bars….

      • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

        this is worse…

        • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

          RETRACT!

    • Damien W

      Peggy Olson has officially graduated Don’s school.

      • Eric Stott

        Cum Laude

      • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

        YES!

    • blondie65

      Go Peggy…you own this!

    • Sally

      I’m so proud.

    • PastryGoddess

      FUCK.. YEAH… PEGGY… OLSON!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      PEGGY!!! KILL IT!!!

    • Damien W

      I’m hearing Duck about now: “Good luck at your next meeting.”

    • PastryGoddess

      Oh Dis goin be good

    • Damien W

      Ted Chough — the new Bert Cooper.

      • PastryGoddess

        You say that like it’s a bad thing.

        • Damien W

          It’s not. It’s genius. Nicely done Mr. Weiner.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Commercial, you are killing my Mad Men buzz.

      • PastryGoddess

        ha yes

    • Cheryl

      Don doesn’t want to be a subsidiary.

      • Damien W

        Change the record Don, that one’s skipping.

      • Elizabeth Flowers

        But if it saves him, Peggy, and Pete he’ll do it. He’ll do it for Peggy, really.

        • Cheryl

          No, let Cutler have SC (he’d have to be stuck with the name) and let Don start his own, independent company. We’ll find out in May 2015, anyway.

          • PastryGoddess

            McCann has enough money to get rid of him

    • PastryGoddess

      The screaming you hear is me going YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS!

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      I can’t stand this. Gotta turn on the DVR and watch from the beginning. Can’t wait to see what y’all are so worked up about.

      • PastryGoddess

        Watch well lubricated

        • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

          Your spelling says it all! :-)

          • PastryGoddess

            LOL yeah

            • Cheryl

              Hic

      • Cheryl

        Spoiler: Bobby pushes Gene on the swing in the backyard. That’s about the most exciting thing that happens…..

        • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

          Bwa ha ha!

        • PastryGoddess

          wait what about the phone call. That was nerve wracking

    • mousetomato

      I love it when Roger and Don are together – bromance, baby!

    • VictoriaDiNardo

      Anybody see the dust-up on Twitter with Neko Case after playboy Tweeted something about her being of new something something of “women in music” which she rightly took issue with; Tweeted that she’s “a musician in music as$%^&^’s” , and then ” Don’t Peggy Olsen me Motherf#$%^’s”.
      I felt my worlds collide!

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      This ought to be fun!

    • Sally

      This is gonna be great

    • Pennymac

      Rubs hands together in glee

    • Eric Stott

      Happy Pete!

    • Damien W

      HAHAHAHHAA – Harry pulls a Harry once again! That was priceless!

    • PastryGoddess

      Poor Harry

    • PastryGoddess

      Listen to the voice Ted

      • Cheryl

        The Voice of God.

    • Damien W

      Wow — Don gets the Jeff Winger speech!

    • PastryGoddess

      The things they are saying with their eyes!

    • Eric Stott

      They should take Freddy Rumsen back in.

    • In_Stitches

      “It’s a lot of money” AMAZING. Maybe he and Joan’ll end up together? They clearly have similar priorities.

      • Damien W

        Roger is moving up, someone has to be the new Roger in the new firm.

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      That is the walk of a millionairess!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Joan sure can change camps when money is involved.

      • PastryGoddess

        Yup!

      • PastryGoddess

        You know the more I think about it. Joan has spent almost her entire life either chasing money or being used in the pursuit of it. Her mother raised her to be admired. She fully expected to meet a man who would marry her and take care of her for the rest of her life. She was in a relationship with Roger who lavished money and gifts on her in return for sex. She gained her partnership by being manipulated into prostitution.

        It wasn’t until Avon that she realized that she could rely on more than her looks in this business. Sure Jim was the one who told her to move into the account exec office. But she’s given what 16 years of her life to SCDPABCDEFG. It’s not bad to be selfish, Joan will not trust anyone to look out for her interests but her from now on. And you know what good for her

    • Damien W

      Hmm…where’s Don realy going?

    • PastryGoddess

      O.M.G

    • Eric Stott

      WTF! Is Don having a stroke….or a dream?

    • blondie65

      wtf?

    • Damien W

      Robert Morse finally gets to sing and dance! Awwwww!

      • Sally

        exactly

      • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

        MY THOUGHT exactly! Bout the hell time!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      What is happening…?

      • Damien W

        Matt Weiner is acknowledging Robert Morse’s Broadway career.

        And maybe Don’t cracking up.

        • PastryGoddess

          will nipples be involved?

        • Elizabeth Flowers

          I think it’s Bert’s beyond the grave approval. Same thing as when Anna died.

    • Janice Bartels

      The fuh???

    • PastryGoddess

      I..wha…no..no..erm…noooooooooooo

    • Pennymac

      OMG LOVE

    • VictoriaDiNardo

      THIS IS FUCKING FABULOUS!!!

    • PastryGoddess

      Explain yourselves MM!!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Ah. Bert’s approval from beyond the grave.

      • Damien W

        Or a warning — Don was about to give Lou the boot. Now he’s just sitting against the desk, thinking…

        • PastryGoddess

          ooohhh even more to think about

          • Damien W

            Yup – he was gearing up to reclaim his office…

            • PastryGoddess

              Lou only has a two year contract. They are halfway through the first year. McCann might even have enough to buy him out or they can just move him to McCann and give Peggy his office

            • Cheryl

              So Peggy will be the Creative Director? Where does that leave Don and Ted?

            • Damien W

              Ted will be a partner the way Bert Cooper was — he’ll work when he wants to. How Don and Peggy’s roles in creative will shake down is a good question.

            • PastryGoddess

              Don might move into Roger’s role with Peggy moving into Don’s

            • PastryGoddess

              The deal was about Roger, Don, and Ted. McCann made that very clear. McCann could care less about Joan, Jim, or Pete

        • EveEve

          Hold your friends close, and your enemies closer. Keep Lou through the end of his contract, but make him to grunt work like he did to Don.

      • PastryGoddess

        Oh that makes sense.

    • blondie65

      oh bert….love he was in his socks..

    • PastryGoddess

      Who’s watching again?

      • Damien W

        Me!

        • blondie65

          ditto!

      • Pennymac

        Me!

    • Sally

      That was fabulous!

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Was kind of hoping that song was in How To Succeed… but it’s not…

      • Sally

        I know, I looked too. I was hoping the same thing.

        • Cheryl

          Nope, it’s from 1925.

      • Logo Girl

        But it is a perfect song choice

    • http://communionoflight.com/ Frank Butterfield

      Good night all! This was so much fun!

    • Janice Bartels

      Oh, Harry just got so screwed.

      • Damien W

        That’s our Harry!

        And he can’t really do anything about it, it’s not like he can walk out with the computer under his arm (unlike today).

    • Logo Girl

      Brilliant send off for Robert Morse. I always remember my first plane trip: TWA San Francisco to Philadelphia, 1967. They were showing How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying, I’m sure I’m not the only one always half waiting for him to burst into song, old Broadway actor that he is.

      • Sally

        I always kinda was. Nicely done.

    • EveEve

      Who is Bert’s sister? Because we’re going to be seeing her next season.

      • Cheryl

        The redoubtable Alice Cooper.

        • PastryGoddess

          HA hahahahahahahahahaha

          • Cheryl

            No, I think that was the character’s name. What, you thought I was joking? Heh.

            • siriuslover

              And we have seen her before, right? When they were going to sell the business when Don was hiding out in CA. I think towards the end of Season 3?

        • EveEve

          Or Minnie. :)

      • Sally

        Could he leave his portion of the business to her?

        • PastryGoddess

          He probably did

        • Damien W

          I don’t know if partnership agreements work that way (maybe they do). I assumed she was bought out when PPL bought the old SC. Did they ever address it?

    • Damien W

      The whiny-yet-urbane-tattletale inflection with which Harry Hamlin delivered, “We all set those stipulations, and he signed them!” should nab him another Emmy nomination for guest actor.

      • PastryGoddess

        I just know he was a prefect or head boy in school

        • MilaXX

          I think he was the nerd nobody liked. Just from the way he called Don the jock.

    • PastryGoddess

      Oh gosh, here we go again. Don and Megan ending their marriage

      • Damien W

        I was just wondering if this is the last we’ll see of the penthouse apartment. Don might move to get away from the memories.

        • Sally

          If it means leaving that balcony, I’m all for it.

          • Cheryl

            And the cockroaches.

            • Damien W

              And Grandma Ida.

        • PastryGoddess

          I don’t think he’ll move. Maybe Meredith will move in and decorate in Louis XIV style.

          • Damien W

            Suddenly I’m seeing Pete’s call girl when they took out Jaguar…”You’re my king!”

        • Wellworn

          A vacancy is opening in Peggy’s building.

    • Colette Marine Lindemann

      OMG, that Bert Cooper song and dance scene was just EVERYTHING! That scene may be one of my favorites in the whole history of the show.

      • MilaXX

        It’s almost a complete recreation of a scene from How to Succeed in Business without Really Trying. Loved it!

      • DagnyReardon

        My reaction was a bit different. I just wish Matthew did not have Don “hallucinating” it. Reminded me too much of a house episode where Hugh Laurie imagines himself in a song and dance number with Cuddy.

    • PastryGoddess

      How did ANOTHER hour go past