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Posted on May 02, 2014

Let’s head on out to London, darlings!

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TLOunge-5-2-14-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO (3)Réunion Champagne & Cocktail Bar, The Grosvenor Hotel, London

 

Schwanky!

It’s the end of another long week around here and there’s only one thing left to talk about: the BITTER KITTEN BOOK PARTY TOMORROW, DARLINGS! We’re putting the final touches on it as we speak, and Emmett keeps promising a surprise or two (which alternately frightens us and excites us). Anyone on the eastern seabord willing to make the trip, come on out to NYC to meet us, get your book signed and mingle with your fellow Bitter Kittens.

The deets, in case you somehow missed them the three thousand other times we posted them:

 

WHEN: Saturday, May 3rd, starting at 2:00 p.m.

WHERE: EMC2, 240 Elizabeth Street, New York NY 10012, in the little courtyard in the back, where we got married last summer (this is the part where you go, “Awwwwwwwww.”) T Lo bestie Emmett McCarthy will be hosting and offering up refreshments as we put on our little cartoon-voiced dog-and-pony show of book signing and answering questions. Except this time, we get to drink while doing so, which should make things potentially very exciting. Copies of our book will be on sale, so you’d be once again helping everyone out (mainly us, but also Emmett) if you picked up a copy while there for signing. They make great gifts! 

WHY: Because meeting our Bitter Kittens on our book tour has been the very best part of this whole adventure. We kicked off our tour smack in between two snowstorms, so we’d like to give the Philly, NJ, and NY-area kittens (as well as any other adventurous kittens from further out) another chance to come out and mingle with us, as well as meet each other face to face. Having it in the courtyard where we met Tim Gunn for the very first time, which essentially kicked our blog into high gear, as well as the place where we got married? It couldn’t be any more perfect. The weather should be good, so you should come out and make a day of window-shopping out of it. Christian Siriano’s store is just a few doors down the street.

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: reunionlondon.com]

    • NDC_IPCentral

      Good grief, I appear to be an early arrival at the Lounge this evening! Well, I’m planning on attending the soiree at EMC2 tomorrow afternoon, bringing along a long-time g/f whose not a Bitter Kitten, but is of Man Men vintage, so I imagine she and I will be doing some MM catch-up as we travel to Soho.

      Who else is attending, and how the heck are we going to introduce ourselves? Nametags?!?!??

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Hope you and your friend have a fabulous time at the party-how can you not, really? Wish I could be there, but we have a wedding tomorrow-the daughter of very dear friends!

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Doggone, you can’t be in two places at once? Have a lovely time at the wedding; I think it will be the best weather day of the week.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Thanks! I look forward to photos and a recap of the BK-TLo fest!

      • Call me Bee

        NDC–please, please please take notes or vidss or something so those of us not able to attend can live vicariously thorough you. Please?

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Notes for sure, and I’ll post pix on FB if the lighting is good and I get any decent shots from my BBY’s camera. I, of course, look dreadful in photos, but I’ll be brave for the BKs. Then again, posting FB pix will not give you anything unless Tom and Lorenzo do a post that we can add comments with pix. Hmmm…..

          • Call me Bee
            • NDC_IPCentral

              Just wrote you, and you’re going to see pix of me, too. If there’s a stunned silence afterwards…. well, my apologies. ;-)

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Wear a kick-ass hat to give yourself some swagger! Then pose fearlessly!

            • NDC_IPCentral

              I wear baseball caps, mostly! I used to wear other hats, and I still have two utterly chic winter hats from Munich, Germany – one of which, I kid you not, I wore to a client meeting with Diane von Furstenberg around 10 years ago. I’ll wear a nifty necklace, instead. Am still deciding on the tops/necklace combos — and am futzing about the bottoms, and knowing I’ve got a smidge of walking from the subway to EMC2. Such momentous decisions….!

            • formerlyAnon

              The concept of you having a client meeting with DVF propels my notion of you farther into the professional stratosphere than you could possibly imagine. She’s got the money and connections to find & hire the best.

            • NDC_IPCentral

              I met Marisa Berenson, too, in a client meeting – just my boss, Ms. Berenson and me in the fall of 2002. For a small IP boutique, my firm punches above its weight. We did DVF’s work for a long, long time. I was doing it at IP Central back in the early 80s in my first tour there, and then when I returned in late 2001, she was still one of our marquee clients. Alas, she’s moved on to other firms, switching around now, but she’d been with us for 30+ years before she developed IP wanderlust.

            • alyce1213

              I’ve always liked Marisa Berenson a lot. She has a special quality. I also liked her sister, Berry — such a sad shame.

            • NDC_IPCentral

              It was just a year after her sister’s death on 9/11, so it was a sensitive time that my boss handled well. She wore a gorgeous raw silk pantsuit in a caramel color, and the slubbing was very handsome, but what really caught my eye was that the buttonholes were handsewn. Beautifully, and that was a detail that let me know her outfit didn’t cost Green Stamps (well, the gorgeous fabric, too). And she had the kindness to compliment me on my shoes. Which (shucks, I still have them), I think they’re Beautifeel), were nice enough openwork low pump/flats, but compared to her stuff…. Ah well. I did a heap of Schiaparelli IP research for her way back then. The project, eventually, went nowhere. Story of s striving attorney’s life.

            • rainwood1

              I’m such a dunce. I didn’t realize the IP in your name stood for, well, that IP. Now I know you are the queen of copyright and the titan of trademarks, Cool!

            • NDC_IPCentral

              I’ve been a trademark attorney for nearly 40 years. That’s my expertise, and I do know my stuff, but that doesn’t mean that the Trademark Office and I don’t clash or that Examiners don’t stump me occasionally. I really have, over four decades, responsibility for some of the most famous trademarks in the world. There are others in my specialty who have even more august portfolios that they manage, but I’m not a piker. I don’t do much copyright law, though, and with the changes in the Copyright Act that have been enacted over the year, I’m glad I can hand it off to another attorney in our shop.

            • MilaXX

              I working my usual giant earrings. The only concession is I will have to wear comfy shoes which may harsh my ensemble a bit.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              How great that you did some work with/for DVF! I have every confidence that you will decide on the exactly right necklace/top combo! Enjoy-and consider yourself virtually hugged.

      • alyce1213

        I’m planning to. I’ll try to print out my avatar and name as a name tag, hope I have ink. Looking forward to seeing you all.

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Two gray-haired dames, that’ll be my friend and me. Tom and Lorenzo both know me, so there may be some hugging and mushy stuff with them – another tip-off to my identity!

        • @Biting Panda

          I’m so jealous! I want to meet NYC Kittens!

          • alyce1213

            We’ll be thinking of you. Your ears may burn.

      • Jackie4g

        I’ll be there in spirit. May you all have a helluva good time!

      • formerlyAnon

        OH have fun! Echo the requests for a report back.

        Hope your sister and old friend are hanging in and seeing light at the end of the tunnel (and feeling fairly sure it’s not an oncoming train, a the old joke goes.)

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Thanks for asking about my sis & friend. The friend is close to the end of her radiation treatments, with some frying of the skin happening, but it’s mostly under control; she’ll be glad when zapping ends, but she’s made friends at the clinic, as one is wont to do (I did during my chemo), so I can appreciate her feeling a little sorry to part from them. My sis’s chemo ended a week ago yesterday; she has an intermediary operation a week from today for tissue-sparing purposes for the reconstructions, and then the double M happens on the 21st. She and I’ve decided I’ll go out to visit her in July when she’s feeling strong enough to enjoy my company and to do girly stuff like getting spa pedis (which she’s had to eschew since November for infection control), walks (as her stamina returns) and laughing and putting the monster behind us.

          We’ll know more, of course, after the surgery — the big unknown is what will be found when the lymph nodes are dissected. The doctor starts at the sentinel node and keeps sectioning until, after path reports in real time (which makes it a long process), clear nodes/tissue are found. I’m hoping she’s fortunate and has clear ones early. My sister-in-law (2x BCA survivor: 2001 and 2008) lost enough nodes on her L side that she has lymphedema problems in the left arm. Much better now with some very wise treatment, but it’s ongoing. Hope my sis is spared that.

          • formerlyAnon

            Fingers crossed. At least they’re moving forward.

          • rainwood1

            My fingers are crossed as well. Have a great time at the BK party. I am biliously green with envy.

          • Qitkat

            Your updates always simultaneously fill me with hope and dread about the process you and your sis, sil, and friend have/are going through. When you haven’t been touched, knock on wood, it is difficult to really know what a psychological and physical ordeal women go through. You have lifted the veil off that curtain, and your straightforward discussion of it is enlightening. And of course I realize there is so much more that isn’t being said. I join in the chorus of fingers crossed, for all the best possible outcomes.

            And have a blast at the party tomorrow. We in the hinterlands are living vicariously through all you lucky attendees.

          • demidaemon

            I’m praying for good news and easy recovery for everyone!

          • decormaven

            Thinking good thoughts for your sister and friend. Progress has been made- may it continue.

          • SRQkitten

            Thinking extremely positive thoughts for your sister, hoping it is short surgery with little node involvement. This brings back memories of what my SIL went though a number of years ago. And glad for your friend to be nearing the end of radiation, that endpoint is worth a celebration.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Joining the other BK’s in crossing fingers, toes and eyes for your sister and friend!

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I’ve been wondering how your sister and friend were doing. I’m echoing all the good thoughts voiced here by others. Please keep us abreast of their progress in the Lounge.

      • MilaXX

        I’ll be the fat chick with purple dreadlocs. I’m sure I’ll be easy to spot.

    • GeoDiva

      I hope all you East Coaster BKs have a great time with TLo! I am so jealous. I am looking forward to my oldest daughter coming home from college on Monday. She goes to school in South Carolina and I am 6 times zones away to the west, so communication has been difficult. It will nice to have the family back together for the summer. Happy weekend all. Aloha!

    • Noah

      I do believe one Bitter Kitten has a story involving Laverne Cox? WE WERE PROMISED!

      • @Biting Panda

        I’m only on my cell. Lemme get folks settled and I’ll be back. But is not about Laverne in person or anything, don’t be too excited.

    • kimmeister

      Enjoy the party tomorrow, all who can make it!

      Meanwhile, my mom just came to town yesterday, and my brother is coming in tonight, so I will have my hands full with family.

      • Sarah

        Did you get the cleaning done? Last time I had family, I did everything but our bedroom. My sister’s youngest, who is a sweet, gentle 14 year old, wanted to see where Aunt Sarah sleeps, and opened the door. I jumped in and grabbed the knob, saying “Everybody has to have SOMEWHERE that’s private!” He was crushed, and I felt bad, but really. It was a disaster in there.

        • kimmeister

          Mostly… didn’t mop the kitchen floor, or address my room or the office. That didn’t keep my mom from barging into the office (where we had wheeled one of the industrial clothes racks that was in the guest room to give her more room) wanting to use my computer. Still, there has been no judgment on the cleanliness or obscene amount of clothes I have. She’s just happy that I have a happy marriage (something she never had) and have it together financially.

          • Sarah

            Hey, good for you! If I had it together financially, my surviving parent would have to move his kvetching to my personal appearance, because I don’t honestly believe that he can not pick on me for something. Glad your visit is going well so far! And jeez, if you can’t put stuff under the bed, where does stuff GO?

    • another_laura

      I wish you all in NYC the best at the party; I have (almost) gotten over my tantrum of last week. *sniff* Here in SF it’s same old, same old for this particular laura. However, I plan also to make the best of it. Music tonight and tomorrow night, a matinee on Sunday. A full weekend of entertainment! Which I need to keep me from killing certain colleagues here at the office….

    • kat89

      So devastated that I can’t make it this weekend! Please do another Saturday at Emmett’s so I can make it! :(

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I’m raising my hand in a vote for a future soiree at Emmett’s!

    • Call me Bee

      Oh my goodness I wish I were in NYC right now, and able to attend your soiree.
      I has a sad. (Guess I’ll drown my sorrows in this beautiful lounge. A G&T, please Mr Bartender, and keep ‘em coming.)

    • @Biting Panda

      Cheers, darlings. Goddess bless us, everyone.

      In all seriousness, I need to talk to the LA Kittens. One of our own (beloved) BKs is feeling pretty shitty. If I were on the same half of the country, I’d be there to check in, bring food, or walk the dog. I’m wondering if anyone living there could get in touch with me. I need to know a bit about local social services and/or brainstorm some helpful ideas for lending a hand.

      You can email me at Onceabennett@gmail Thanks!

      • hughman

        Thanks so much sweetie. You are such a good friend to me.

        • @Biting Panda

          Only because I love you.
          We’ll figure this out. And if not, I’ll sell one of the children to get a plane ticket. And Valium, because I hate to fly.

        • marlie

          We’re all thinking of you and hoping for the best.xoxoxoxo

        • formerlyAnon

          Hughman! Hope things get better. More quickly and thoroughly than you expect.

          I don’t know you, of course, but I respect and like you from your presence here and we need you in fighting fit form. You are way smarter than most of us (hence your awesome and hilarious comments) and kinda irreplaceable.

        • rainwood1

          I’m sorry to hear you are under the weather, Hughman. Your comments are always among my must reads, and if I were anywhere near LA, I’d be there to help in a nanosecond.

        • Qitkat

          Hughman, I always look forward to your posts so much, and wish you a speedy recovery. And if not speedy, i hope things start improving for you very soon. You have a great friend in Biting Panda, and the rest of us will be sending the kindest of thoughts and well wishes your way. Your wit brightens many a day around here. Take care, (((hugs))) from Qitkat

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Just echoing Qitkat’s thoughts and good wishes for you, Hughman, and sending good and positive thoughts your way.

        • decormaven

          Muffin basket? Gift cards? How about a warm hug? Don’t know the particulars, but sorry to hear of your troubles. May they be transitory in nature. I had been wondering where you were this week; be as good to yourself as possible til the sun comes out again. We need our Hughman!

        • Sarah

          Best of vibes your way, Hughman. I am at a loss for what I can do out here in VA, but I send you virtual dog walks and food, and wishes for a better tomorrow.

        • SRQkitten

          hughman, know that you have the best wishes of a thousand bitter kittens working their way to you. As others have said, we need our hughman present to offer crisp comments that challenge our ability to not to snort out loud laughing (especially those of us reading at work).

        • KinoEye

          Oh, honey. It darkens my day to know you’re having a rough time. Your comments always make my day a thousand times over. This is one of those times where I wish I didn’t live in the Texas boondocks, or I’d help in a heartbeat. Do let us know if there’s anything at all we can do, even if we’re not in the same time zone :-)

        • travelingcat

          Well I am late to the party, just looked in on the lounge, but add me to the list of far away bitter kittens sending positive vibes your way.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        You know, I’ve just been reading a great book (called Funny in Farsi) where the overwhelming experience of an Iranian woman living in America is that Americans are so kind. You, darling Amanda, prove that perfectly. You are just so kind! Not that @hughman:disqus isn’t worth it, but you would be just as generous for anyone else. It’s a lovely thing to see.

        No, I’m not drunk. Why do you ask?

        • @Biting Panda

          Well, I *am* Southern.

      • Kent Roby

        I’m sitting here at work teary-eyed, both for hughman’s tribulations, and from @Biting Panda’s kindness, and how it symbolizes the kindness of so many. I feel that I somewhat know a bit of each of you through this site.
        I finished reading “Eloquence of the Hedgehog” last night, which stressed the importance of finding beauty in life (even in moments of despair), of finding “an always within a never”. One of the book’s protagonists also said that if you chose only one friend, chose her carefully.
        I’m sending virtual camellias to you, hughman.

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

      Glad for the BK’s in the New York area!

      My screening from last week was eye opening. While everyone else had grants from Canada, Italy, BBC, corporate sponsorship, and credits longer than the movie, mine was the little movie that could that came in under four minutes. I got to be part of the Q&A and came off well and was the best looking in my mint sweater and raccoon cap I got at a gas station in Utah (while all the other men, save my husband, were phoning it in). Sparkle, Neeley, Sparkle…

      • formerlyAnon

        You obviously rock and will accomplish amazing things. Topic of your film?

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          Thanks! (That’s the hope.) My film centered around an intergalactic caterpillar that lives in the thermostat and intercedes in a marriage. S

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            That old trope? How can you sleep at night?

          • formerlyAnon

            I am imagining something hilariously witty in a slightly creepy way, with a subtext of a few home truths about relationships.

            My god, woman, you DO have an active imagination!

          • KinoEye

            Awesome. Sounds like one of David Lynch’s early shorts. Is there a way the general public can see it? I’m very intrigued.

    • @Biting Panda

      So here’s why I love kids. They have good hearts and they are open minded and they just want others to be happy. That’s really what this story is about.

      My MIL has been a part of my life for 20+ years. Even before Hubs and I were an item, way back in the day, we were friends and I loved his mamma. She has had the same boyfriend all this time. Both in their 60s, they have no plans for marriage. He is a sweetheart, very calm, very quiet, an artist and a master carpenter. His entire family was in Illinois, and he went to them, we’ve never met any of them.

      A couple of years ago, after their parents both passed away, his younger brother began the full on medical and legal processes of becoming a woman. She’d been keeping her feelings and lifestyle a secret for many years, at nearly 60, decided it was time to be true to herself. Sadly, her siblings were divided on how they felt and not all accepted her change. But the MIL’s BF is a good man, and while it wasn’t easy for him, he didn’t let what he didn’t understand keep him from loving her all the same.

      Earlier this year, she and her grown daughter, came to town for the weekend. We had a big family dinner at our favorite Thai place. Them, my SIL, her hubs and baby, me, my hubs, and our two youngest kids. (The teens were at their mom’s.) I decided to not mention anything about the before/after to the kids prior to dinner, because I wanted them to be relaxed and not make anyone uncomfortable with questions, questions, questions.

      My kids are great around adults and strangers and they immediately took to our newest family members. By the time we were headed home for the night, I began to wonder what, if anything, they picked up on. She is a lovely lady, but there were still some of the more common tells with her voice, hands, and build.

      Just the four of us in the van, my 7yr old son says, “I really don’t want to sound mean or rude, but I have a question. Why did S look like a girl, but sound like a boy?”

      Here was my answer.

      “S was born as a boy. She lived most of her life as a boy. But inside, she always felt like she was wearing the wrong body. She felt like she should have been born as a girl. After feeling this way, her whole life, she decided that she wanted to be true to her heart and be on the outside, who she felt like on the inside. She went to a special doctor and takes special medicine to help her have more of a female body. She is very happy now. As far as she, her friends and her family, including us, are concerned, S is and will always be a female. If you ever have any more questions, please just ask.”

      To which they both said. “OH. Wow. Okay. Can we get ice cream?” Unfazed.

      My 6yr old is a fan of TLo. She loves to look at the pics, when she catches me checking out the blog, on my phone. She saw the GLAAD Awards pics and was oohing and ahhing over Laverne’s dresses. She liked the blue the best. As we were looking, she asked me, “Momma, is this lady like S? She reminds me of her. Is that okay?” I told her of course it was okay, and yes Laverne is like S and did that mean she had any other questions.

      Her only question was about Laverne’s voice and what did it sound like. So we Youtubed an interview or three and watched her for a while. My daughter is a smitten kitten. She loved Laverne’s poise and grace. We talked more about being true to who you are on the inside and being bold enough to believe in yourself, even when other people don’t always understand. It was pretty fucking awesome.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        You brought tears to my aged eyes. What a wonderful, insightful and nuanced explanation you gave to your son. Words of wisdom and compassion. You made my evening.

        • @Biting Panda

          Well thanks. Frankly and from the heart is pretty much my parenting style.

        • Kitten Mittons

          Yeah, that got me watery-eyed as well. That’s just beautiful.

      • Sarah

        That is such a wonderful story, because it tells of so many kinds of love! Love for your new family, your old friends, your children, people of all kinds, tolerance, goodness, kindness, and the beauty of life. I am truly glad for you. And for your friend, who is finally getting the life she wanted.

      • Anna

        Beautiful story, thanks for sharing! Your family sounds wonderful!

        • @Biting Panda

          We are far from perfect, but we know Love.

          • SRQkitten

            I wish all children had a momma like you. The world would be such a better place! Thanks for a day-ending brightener on what has been a drudgy week.

            • @Biting Panda

              Well, I find if one can give to contrast to my No Wire Hanger moments, maybe I can cut their future therapy bills in half. ; )

            • formerlyAnon

              Sweetie, the words I lived by: If your kids go to therapy for different reasons than you did, you did your job. You avoided the pitfalls you could see, being familiar with them.

          • Kent Roby

            “We are far from perfect, but we know Love”….if I knew a church that had that as their mission statement (and really truly meant it); I’d join in a heartbeat!

            • @Biting Panda

              Too sweet.
              I am not a religious person (far from it) but just this weekend, on a whim, I took a quiz to determine what my affiliation would be, were I to seek one out. You could have knocked me over with a feather when it came up Liberal Quakerism. I don’t even know if that’s a real religion, but the thought amused me to no end.

            • Kent Roby

              I pegged you as spiritual-but-not-religious; you seem to be more loving/caring than most of the “religious” people I’ve known.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Lovely-just…lovely.

      • formerlyAnon

        Panda, “pretty fucking awesome” covers it.

        Having raised the kids in question, you are also pretty fucking awesome.

        • @Biting Panda

          Thank you, my friend.

      • VictoriaDiNardo

        Your little ones are lucky to have you. That’s lovely.

      • marlie

        Your kids are sweet, wonderful darlings! And having a sweet, wonderful mama certainly helped shape them that way!

        • @Biting Panda

          Xoxo

      • snarkykitten

        Thanks for sharing this amazing story!

        • @Biting Panda

          I hoped I was going to see you. I realize you can’t speak for an entire community, but do you think I explained it properly? I spoke from the heart and tried to keep it simple, but there’s so much more to it. Would your wife approve?

          • snarkykitten

            I think she would. :)

            We’ve been very blessed; so far we’ve had overwhelmingly positive responses from our family/friends. If I may add my own little story: This past weekend, the two of us went on a little hiking trip with my parents. My father has been a bit reserved about the whole thing in that stereotypical Dad kind of way. During one of the hikes, my dad & I were walking ahead of them and he looked back and said “looks like the wives are getting on.” 100% Dad approval. In the most dad-liest of ways.

            • formerlyAnon

              In the most dad-liest of ways.

              Yes, it is, isn’t it? That’s how you know it’s sincere. XO

      • Shelby

        This is a beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing! You’re raising some fabulous kids. <3

      • another_laura

        I have to chime in even though I have nothing new to say. Tears down my cheeks.

      • rainwood1

        That’s a wonderful story, Panda. It sounds like you have really great kids because you’re a really great mom. Thanks for sharing.

      • Qitkat

        Amanda, the world needs more compassionate people like you, and because of the way you are raising your kids, there will be. Your story is beautifully told, and I am so moved by all of it. Thanks so much for sharing it with all of us.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        I love you more every day.

      • demidaemon

        This is really awesome, and you have done a beyond awesome job with your kids. I’m just flabbergasted, but in the best way possible.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        … that is so lovely! And the perfect refutation of “please won’t somebody think of the children?” – the kids will be fine if they are not taught to hate!

        • @Biting Panda

          First off, to everyone who left me such sweet replies, Thank You. I am humbled.

          @foodycatalicia:disqus, absolutely it is! I have found, anytime the kids have been introduced to disability, diversity, or a family dynamic that differs from their own, all they need is a simple, honest, description/explanation, and a reminder everyone being unique is what we all have in common.

          My grandmother once shared her negative opinion regarding marriage equality around my daughter. While watching Modern Family, she parroted back what she had heard. I asked her where she’d gotten that little tidbit from. I had to step out of the room, I was so mad. As you say, bigotry is taught, and I won’t have it taught to my kids.
          Of course, I calmed down and reopened the conversation. I asked her how she would feel if someone told her she couldn’t marry the person that she loved when she grows up. I asked her how she would feel if her friends at school told her they liked her, but she couldn’t play with the same toys as them, because she is different then they are. (We are the only Caucasian family at that school) She was born naturally empathetic, so this hit her hard, she felt badly for what she’d said without really thinking about what it meant.

          If a 6yr old gets it, why can’t adults?

          • Sarah

            Adults, sadly, forget what they knew when they were six all the time. I wish we could all remember it, and not be spoiled by the exact parroting you described.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Our three year old great niece thinks her cousin Karen(wife of her cousin Steph) is just another neat part of her life. Just goes to show.

      • Noah

        What a lovely story. Thank you so much for sharing!

        • @Biting Panda

          Thanks for asking.

      • KinoEye

        Your kids are lucky to have such a wonderful, empathetic, wise mother. And you’re obviously lucky to have such caring, open minded, beautiful kids. You’re doing a great job. And all my love to your SIL — I’m so glad she was finally able to live the life she’s always wanted. So many people never get that chance, or if they do, they don’t take that chance. AND, how excellent that your daughter looks up to Laverne as a role model. She’s 10 times the woman most starlets will ever be, and can teach young women so much about loving themselves and not being afraid to be different. I wish I’d had her when I was growing up.

        Thanks for brightening this dreary Sunday. You’re a treasure.

        • @Biting Panda

          Not to pick, but it’s my MIL’s boyfiend’s sister. Which makes it seem like she’s a fringe person, but she’s totally in the circle, and if she lived close, we would be getting to spend more time with her.

      • CPK1

        Oh! I cannot tell you how helpful this is to me. My 6 year old’s beloved babysitter is currently transitioning F to M and I have been struggling to find the right words and tone to explain to him and even if to say anything at all. But this seems just perfect :)

    • Sarah

      I would be in NYC in a hot second if I could, Uncles. It is so truly touching that you care about us.

      I’m making meatloaf, and getting ready to watch the new season of Parks & Rec on Netflix. Nothing too interesting to report except for the fact that I’m just down to citations on my thesis (I know, I said I’d get it in Monday, but there’s always a few more paragraphs to write, aren’t there?) Love to all the BKs, and Happy Weekend!

      • Anna

        Homemade meatloaf is the best!

        • @Biting Panda

          I have to make 3 at a time. The family wants day after sandwiches, a la Thanksgiving turkey. It’s all about the leftovers.

          • Anna

            Definitely all about the leftovers, need at least 1 batch for immediate use and another for the freezer.

          • marlie

            Meatloaf is one of those things that’s *better* the next day. Yum!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Meatloaf sandwiches were one of my favs growing up;all about the leftovers for sure!

        • Sarah

          Meatloaf was good, but Netflix tricked us – no new P&R. Said “new episodes” but we already watched ‘em. Weird. However, we started watching Fargo instead and now I’m hooked so that’s cool!

          • Kitten Mittons

            The TV show? Is it good? I want to check it out. Dennis!

            • Sarah

              I know, right? He comes in in episode 2, and I had forgotten, so me and the fella both said “Dennis!” as soon as we saw him! Funny. It is good, I like it. Very dark, but funny. Great acting. Billy Bob is in excellent form, for sure. Only problem is, his character is a lawless person, and makes a pretty good case verbally for why he thinks there’re no rules in life, despite most people thinking there are. My fella tends to agree with that idea, and for the character, that means things like murder are no biggie, and I’m not sure I want my manimal agreeing with THAT haha.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Ooh, yes, Billy Bob. I forgot he was in it, too. I’ll have to check it out. Hubs wants to tackle The Walking Dead next, which I’m sure I’ll like. Fargo sounds more my speed, though.

              He’s hurting since Breaking Bad ended. He’s already re-watched the whole thing.

            • Sarah

              I haven’t done Breaking Bad yet, we didn’t have that channel and when they put it on Netflix I was already watching other stuff. I hate zombies, so I dunno if I’ll watch Walking Dead but the mister wants to. We have it on DVD at the library, so it’s available. Same with GoT, I figure I’ll get around to it eventually. I’m still sad about Lost, so that’ll show you how behind I am on stuff. We only got DVR like 9 months ago.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Breaking Bad was phenomenal, but I’m with you on the others. I’m worse off, we never watched Lost. I brought that up the other day as one I’d like to see, and his response was “zombies.”

            • KinoEye

              If and when you get the chance, watch Breaking Bad. I seriously can’t reccommend it highly enough. I knew it was something special when I started watching in the first season. But it gradually went above and beyond anything I’ve ever seen on television. If my endorsement isn’t enough — Anthony Hopkins wrote a letter to Bryan Cranston after the show concluded to tell him it was basically the greatest thing he’d ever seen.

              I really tried with TWD, but it just didn’t jive with me. I’ve never had any strong feelings about zombies one way or the other, but the show was kind of listless, and the characters almost unbearably stupid. Even though that’s par for the course with zombie stuff. I really wanted to like it, but it just left me cold.

            • decormaven

              Breaking Bad was a true pleasure. Mr. DM and I watched the early episodes streaming, then purchased a Season Pass for the final season. Bryan Cranston really knocked it out of the park.

            • Sarah

              Nice to have your endorsement! I definitely want to watch it – maybe this summer when I’m done with school.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I have declared my household to be a zombie-free zone. Just not going’ there.

          • Anna

            Glad to hear about the meatloaf but too bad about P&R on Netflix, that is odd. And yes, I keep hearing about Fargo, I didn’t realize this was the one that “Dennis” was in, awesome! I just IMDB-d and it’s got such a cool cast, didn’t realize Martin Freeman was one of the leads, I will have to check this out for sure!

            • Sarah

              Yes it an awesome cast – some good unknowns, too, which is neat. I was lucky and recorded the first three episodes before I got time to watch them, so we binged out last night but now it’s current-TV waiting for the next episode time.

      • SRQkitten

        That’s progress! For some reason “citations!” just jumped into my mind to the tune of “Tradition” from Fiddler on the Roof. I guess the aftermath lingers long after one finishes ones academic baby…or perhaps it was listening to Terry Gross on Fresh air the other night interview the musician who wrote the score for Fiddler on the Roof.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        sounds like you’ve made great progress on the thesis-enjoy the Netflix binge!

        • Sarah

          Fargo binge instead but still fun. Thanks!

      • formerlyAnon

        Down to citations is damn near done. It’s just annoying mechanical shit, the brain draining is over. Congrats! Hope you get it knocked out lickety split.

        • Sarah

          Getting up at 9 tomorrow to go to the library and finish – I’ve got until 6 pm so if I can’t do it in 8 hours I’m officially a jackass. Plus Word makes footnotes pretty easy :)

          • demidaemon

            True. Although I’m afraid that if you surveyed the students at my place of work, 99% of them would not know where or how to actually insert the footnotes (I’ve shown at least twenty where to find it in Word). Luckily, our librarians are beyond awesome and will make a Youtube video to show how to do it that 98% of the students will never watch. C’est la vie.

            • formerlyAnon

              If every one of my friends who teach undergrads could get together for a chat, it would be redundant. Which resource from which source is all that would vary, otherwise you all say the same exact things, positive and negative. Obviously, K-12 preparation is consistent, whatever individual schools/districts might think.

            • SRQkitten

              I hear a consistent stream of observations like this from the dh. Somewhat depressing but matches up with what my schoolteacher friends tell me about what is happening in education, it’s quite depressing. Thank heavens for librarians who make such a difference, I couldn’t have made it through the d*mn dissertation with out my friend in inter library loan (who has earned her place in the heavens – or very, very good karma- a thousand times over.)

            • demidaemon

              It’s true, as it happens every day when i talk to my colleagues.

      • demidaemon

        YAY! Citations are tedious, but at least you know you are on the last quarter mile. I assume the defense is on the horizon, so best of luck in that regard!

        • Sarah

          SO TEDIOUS. I’m on footnote number 23, and I’m not halfway through, and I still have to do the bib. AARGH.

          • SRQkitten

            Keep repeating to yourself, “I am almost DONE!” Think of some very nice endpoint way of celebrating completion of this hoop. You will be done soon.

            • Sarah

              Thanks! I’m working on it! Next week it’s all over, phew!

          • demidaemon

            YOU CAN DO IT!

            P.S. I know you are probably finished by now, but I wanted to give you that extra push still!

            • formerlyAnon

              HA. You just want to know that somewhere, SOMEone is formatting footnotes and a bibliography correctly. On the first try.

            • demidaemon

              You are so right and I do not deny this is what I want for everyone in academia.

            • Sarah

              That’s me :)

            • Sarah

              No, I’m NOT. I worked for ten hours yesterday, and didn’t finish the bib, and realized the damn thing ain’t long enough. I have to elaborate a couple of points. If it isn’t in by tomorrow at nine p.m, I’m going to have a nervous breakdown, so I guess that’s my goal. THANK YOU! All of you guys have been so nice supporting me in my whining about something I really should have done with better time management in the first place.

            • demidaemon

              hey, better to find out now rather than later. And it’s not whining, it’s collaborative energy building! ;)

    • Anna

      I have a quiet weekend in planned and could not be more thrilled. The only things on the agenda are to read the magazines I have piled up, a quick trip to the farmers market and cooking some meals ahead for the week.

      Enjoy the party Kittens who are attending and happy weekend!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Me too! I am so excited to have a quiet weekend and grocery shop!

        • Anna

          Such a luxury! I haven’t been as go-go-go physically for a couple of weeks, but I still feel like I haven’t recovered mentally from the 2 10Ks and all of the events last month. Getting there though.

          • Kitten Mittons

            I know, I’m so spoiled.

            That’s a lot of activity,and you need to recover, mentally as well. Enjoy your quiet time!

            • Anna

              Thanks! I am very intrigued by Fargo, I will definitely be checking it out this weekend. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen the Firefly series, but Glenn Howerton (Dennis) actually had a very minor role in Serenity. I’d already been watching Sunny for quite some time before I got into Firefly, so when I was watching Serenity and he came on the screen, instantly it was like, “DENNIS!”
              Hope you and your family enjoy your weekend too :)

            • Kitten Mittons

              Thanks for the recommendation!

            • Anna

              Such a great show, I’m pretty sure you can find it on Netflix. It only lasted for 14 episodes and Serenity was the movie that came out a few years later (Chiwetel Ejiofor was the villain!). Definitely well worth checking out.

    • 3boysful

      Know you Uncles are going to have a wonderful time with the northeast BKs; so jealous I am too far south to join you. All the best, and post some pics! Hope all BKs everywhere have a great weekend–i will be de-pollening a screened porch! (stumbling off to find more old vine zin . . .)

    • http://myriameron.blogspot.com/ Heron

      Honestly, finding mr maximiliano today was one of the highlights of my week. But all in all, weather is finally turning nice here and as always, hanging with you all is a delight.

      • @Biting Panda

        And we thank you, Nancy Drew, for all your effort!

      • Anna

        I wholeheartedly agree and cannot thank you enough! Weather sucks here but I’m happy to be indoors (and google image searching Maximiliano. Again.)

    • Scimommy

      So I am going to be there tomorrow (YAY!). Besides the fabulous TLo and the fabulous Emmett, who else is planning to show up? Which BKs should I be looking forward to meeting?

      • NDC_IPCentral

        Me, me! As I mentioned below, I’m bringing a gal friend who’s of Mad Men vintage, so look for two gray haired gals – that’ll be me and her. I’ll look forward to meeting you. And with your prefix, “Sci-” have you been watching “Cosmos” on Sunday nights? It is extraordinary! I just wish it didn’t precede “Mad Men,” since that’s an embarrassment of entertainment riches compressed in too short a period of time!

        • Scimommy

          Great, I look forward to meeting you! I am quite easy to spot as I’m over 6′ tall. A few inches over 6′ tall. ;-)

          I’m ashamed to say that I have not been watching Cosmos, despite the Sci in my handle. I did catch some of it last week and thought it was fantastic. I am going to try to find it on DVD and watch it with the kids.

          • NDC_IPCentral

            I would buy the DVD set in a heartbeat, and I never watch DVDs…. That show makes me feel incredibly exhilarated, but woefully unlearned. I’m determinedly laboring through a library loan of Mario Livio’s “The Accelerating Universe” in order to improve my knowledge of cosmology, but I have to say that muons, quarks, neutrinos and the more recent concepts in physics are pretty challenging for lit-school/law school me. I feel noble, but it’s slow going.

            • Sarah

              Cool! Have you listened to any of the Great Courses? Neil deGrasse Tyson has two, I think, and there are something like fifteen by other distinguished professors on astrology. I love those; we have them at the library.

      • MilaXX

        Me!

        • Scimommy

          Yay! Looking forward to meeting you!

          • MilaXX

            Me too! I can’t wait to play with the BK’s

    • Deena

      Break a leg tomorrow T Lo! Wish it was really london so I could be there.

    • VictoriaDiNardo

      If any Bitter Kittens do the NY Times Crossword puzzle – today there was a clue ” Fashion designer Marshall”. Six letters. What? Can it really be Leanne? Yes, ( sorry – spoiler here ) Leanne. Project Runway alum makes it to the NYTimes puzzle, which is IMHO a HUGE cultural milestone! Since the two on-line things I devote time to are Uncles TLO and the crossword, it was a “When World Collide” moment. Loved it.

      Sorry to miss the event tomorrow – too far upstate and important birthdays to be celebrated – but can’t wait to hear the re-cap!

      • alyce1213

        When you become a NY Times crossword clue (and some say a Jeopardy question), you have arrived.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          I’ve been a Jeopardy contestant, but never a question!

          • alyce1213

            You are so brave! The answer: Impressed. The question: What am I?

            • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

              It was an interesting experience, from first on-line test to Final Jeopardy. I came in 3rd so I won only $1000 (which didn’t cover my expenses, since they don’t pay for you to get to LA, or stay in the hotel) but I did have a great story to tell afterward. If you are interested I wrote an article about it for my local publication…..search for it at DurhamMag dot com.

    • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

      I AM SO EXCITED – I’m trying to figure out what I’m going to wear. I think it’ll be a bit too breezy chilly for my original choice.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        I’m waffling between a couple of choices, which will eventually boil down to temperatures, footwear and what looks best with what I wear below the waist – skirt or slacks. I think this will be an easier opportunity to introduce ourselves to each other than was the B&N booksigning on February 6. The store didn’t encourage us to linger, so mingling was rather awkward. And we all had boots and big coats and scarves, too.

        • MilaXX

          Honestly I couldn’t find the mate to my other comfy shoes do I’m wearing a pair the cat chews on unless I hide them. Also debating on taking my hair down. I put it in a bun for comfort, but just took a selfie and roots city.

          • NDC_IPCentral

            Foot comfort is paramount. We can compare shoes when we meet. Looking forward to seeing you in 2 hours!

      • MilaXX

        I haven’t thought past ta pair of big earrings that I love and wear with anything and everything.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Walking into a party in just a pair of earrings would be a Rihanna-worthy move.

          • MilaXX

            Lol – I am definitely not Rhi Rhi, but I do plan outfits around earrings

    • formerlyAnon

      Ya know, these swanky London hotel bars are convincing me that I need a lot more money (and a better wardrobe) whenever I do get there.

      All you East coast BKs that can go out tomorrow, have fun and report back! I’ll wish perfect weather for y’all.

      Nothing much to report, except that after an up and down April on the productivity front, I’ve decided May is the month to focus and Get Shit Done. I’ve taken on some new projects and shock! surprise! if you free up some time in your life and then fill it back up, you have to Get Shit Done. So if I’m suddenly All Over the Blog (even more than usual) and revive my dormant -near-zero-followers twitter, we will all know that I’m procrastinating big time.

      Happy weekend to everyone.

    • marlie

      Have a wonderful time at the party tomorrow! Reunion weekend is in full swing for me, and I’ve already spent the evening hanging out with 7 of my classmates (actually ~25% of my whole class!), and it’s awesome how we’re all the same, but not (if that makes any sense). Getting ready for even more festivities tomorrow!

      • @Biting Panda

        Glad you’re having a great time!

      • Sarah

        Nice! Have a great rest-of-your weekend!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        How long has it been? I went to a 5 year reunion, which was horrible, because there hadn’t been enough time to forget. Then I skipped the 10 year, but was told it was pretty dismal as well, everyone was comparing engagement rings. And apparently everyone was pregnant at the 20 year reunion, so I am quite glad I missed that one too!

        • MilaXX

          I did 5 & 10 then realized the ones I really cared about seeing we’re those I already kept in touch with.

          • Sarah

            Me too! My 20 was last year, but I would’ve had to pay something ridiculous (they decided on a Potomac river cruise at like $200 a pop) to hang out with people who didn’t like me or appreciate me then, and I still talk to the few kids who did even now.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I think it’s scandalous that reunions cost so much money. If you went to a public school, then the reunion should be financially accessible to everyone in the class.

            • Sarah

              So true. My school was in one of the wealthiest counties in America, but still.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              But just because a person grew up in an affluent neighborhood, it doesn’t mean that they can afford hundreds of dollars just to walk in the door of the reunion. I think they should be held in the school gym, just like proms were back in the olden days. And don’t get me started on the cost of going to prom now.

            • Sarah

              Oh, definitely. I grew up in that affluent neighborhood, and I certainly couldn’t afford it, even if I had wanted to go. Also, I eschewed prom from that same school because even back then, and even with well-to-do parents, I still didn’t want to waste my money on how much it cost.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              We were lucky – in yr 12 (last year of school) they collected money from us for a year book which never eventuated. Come the 10 year reunion they said “Oh, we had that money in a bank account and that is paying for the reunion” – plus a donation to a charity.

            • Sarah

              Wow that’s cool. When does extra money ever happen anywhere? Neat.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              I know! And so long after we’d forgotten the “scandal” of the missing year books.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              $200 a pop is way more than I would want to spend on a high school reunion.

          • decormaven

            Talk to me when you get to your 40th. The only reason I’m going to mine this year is because one of my five-gal HS posse is coming in from FL. Haven’t seen her in about 20 years. I’ll make an appearance at the event, but planning on going to a more intimate gathering soon thereafter to reconnect with my buddies.

    • Shelby

      Aw, I hope all the east coast BKs have fun! I’m excited to see pictures … but also (as one might expect) jealous. Y’all should get down south soon. :-D

      I will be attending my brother’s wedding tomorrow. I think it will be lovely, but there are definitely family land mines to avoid (as I suppose there always are), so think good thoughts towards family, lovely BKs, especially for my mom (as she’ll be the one most likely to be hurt by the land mines).

    • unbornfawn

      Have fun east coast kittens! Take lots of pictures!

    • MilaXX

      It’s official I have booked a ticket on megabus. Hopefully I won’t get a crazy cab driver. Now I have too resist my usual tendency to wear all the purple clothing at once. I also need to local the darn cotton balls cause I will not face the kitten-razzi with chipped nails.

      See ya there!

      • http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/ Tom and Lorenzo

        Yay!

      • Qitkat

        Have a megaton of fun Mila!

    • tinyredlocks

      Damnitall! Now I can’t go the the soiree, and I live right in NJ!!! I am very, very cranky. :-(

      • MilaXX

        I held off getting my ticket until the last minute for fear of Murphy’s law kicking in. It has sort of but not enough to stop me from coming.

        • tinyredlocks

          Good for you! I will experience the event vicariously through you and everyone else that will be there.

    • Qitkat

      Another very cool lounge, I especially like the train/urban subway pictures and how they are framed so beautifully, and the gorgeous purple velvet thrones and four seater loungy chair.
      Another quiet week in Qitkat Chalet, but have to send thanks to @SwiftlyTiltingPlanet for her awesome grapefruit, sage-infused take on an old-fashioned. We enjoyed her recipe (from a week ago) tonight with our crab cakes and salad. Absolutely delicious!

      Keeping my eye out for @Shibori Girl and looking forward to learning fun things to do in Seattle. Mwaah!

    • Frank_821

      HI fellow fans. I too am sad not to be part of book signing.

      It’s been quite a week. We’re coming to the end of Austin Fashion week. For those interested, Rick’s Launch event on Sunday went well-at least that’s what a lot of people have told us. Hard to have proper perspective since this was our first solo show. The day before the show was a nightmare. things went wrong-so wrong and we were lucky people came to Rick’s rescue. if you want to see pics let me know

      Further we just got back from the PR Allstars runway show. It was a good event. I was covering it for the Blogging Project Runway blog. Thanks to some inside connections I got to go backstage before the show started and managed to chat up everyone and had some really nice talks with Korto and Melissa and Michelle. Rick and I also got to handle the clothes up close.

      I’ll eventually have a full report for BPR but a few highlight remarks

      1) Daniel finally brought it. He’s changed up the people he’s working with. 1 of them is a friend of ours and he has helped him find his voice
      2) Mychael was the most popular. he’s still got it and had a long line of folks asking for his pic
      3) 1 of the sponsors of the show was Cadillac. They loaned the deisgners cars for their time here
      4) After close examination, it is small wonder that Jeffrey’s children’s line is so successful and selling in Neiman Marcus. They are that well made and designed. I actually was envious of the kids getting to wear his clothes. I wanted to have an adult version for myself.

      • demidaemon

        I always found that Jeffrey was a better conceptualizer than technician. So I’m not surprised that he has strong designs. He just always needed the right help to execute those designs.

      • formerlyAnon

        YAY for first hand reports. I’ll be looking for the rest on BPR.
        I am pretty happy to hear Daniel’s work showed well – he was so “not-quite” in his season (for me) but somebody it was easy to root for.

        And dude, I ALWAYS want to see pictures. ;-)

    • demidaemon

      I will, sadly, not be attending the BK party. *sniffle* I hope everyone else has a grand old time, though. :)

      However, I do want to report on the fashion show I went to last weekend. It was pretty cool, actually. The theme was “Ethereal,” and I was frightened it was going to be a whole bunch of sheer. Luckily, that didn’t happen. The clothes that were actually designed were all pretty cool (some of the collections were curated by Fashion Merchandising students, who have a different skillset) and all the models were awesome. Even some of my past and current students were cast as model, though the only one I could pick out regularly was one of my tutoring students, a Japanese student who has plans to become a fashion journalist. They even had models of different shapes and sizes walking in the shows, which I thought was really great. The most memorable collection for me was a set of avant-garde menswear that included floor-length skirts and some black half solid, half sheer pants (modeled by my aforementioned student). All in all, really cool.

      In other news this week, it has been one of those weeks. I am apparently having end of the semester ditz moments, as I managed to accidentally summon security to the tutoring center, as they are testing a new program that instantly alerts security from our computers but NEVER TOLD ME THAT WAS WHAT IT WAS FOR. Then, that same day, I managed to lock myself into an area at one of the campuses I teach at with no unlocked exit. I had to call one of the office assistants to come let me out. Not my Tuesday. Other than taking my nervous wreck of a dog to the vet and having to refill out my asssitantship application because, somehow, my student ID number wasn’t on there (I don’t know how or why it happened). It’s been an AWESOME week, as you can tell. How is everyone else?

      • Sarah

        Sorry for your Tuesday! But those are the kinds of stories that sound funny after the fact, and nobody got hurt, so not too bad, eh? When I first started at my job, I didn’t realize that if some patron pushed open the emergency door and our in-house alarm went off, it wasn’t just a matter of disarming it, you had to actually call the security desk at county headquarters and TELL them it was a false alarm. Oops.

        Love the fact that your fashion show had lots of sizes! And my goodness, yes – I would’ve been so sure that ethereal equaled sheer too. Glad it didn’t! There’s really nothing like getting to see the creative products of peoples’ minds. I used to get so excited on critique day when I was studying fine arts; it was amazing to see how other students interpreted the same assignment I had to do in a completely different way. Did your mom have a good time?

        • demidaemon

          She did! The show was mostly pretty exciting, but we both agreed that the crowd got a little carried away with the kids’ collection (lots of AWWWS! and OOOHS!). I mean, they were cute and all and pretty good models for their ages and it was curated well, but they were just showing off clothes from Gymboree whereas the students who actually crafted their own clothes only got applause at the end of each collection. I just wanted those students who actually had to design, sew, and curate to get a little more credit for their work.

          • Sarah

            Really. I could see how that would be annoying. But I guess also the kids probably appreciated the cooing to puff up their little heads for getting involved in a big-people’s project. Glad your mom shared your opinion about the worthiness of the students’ work.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Cute, small children always get noticed. At the wedding that Mr. Be and I attended yesterday, they actually announced the ring-bearer and flower girl at the reception, which was funny, because the two kids were standing looking bewildered with their parents when the D.J. announced them. That was actually way cuter than having them parade in before the bride and groom.

            • demidaemon

              Yes, most of them ate it up. I wouldn’t have minded it so much if all the collections received the same amount of attention, but the children’s collection stood out as the only one that received extra attention other than the end cap applause.

      • formerlyAnon

        Sounds like a lot of work went into this show, I love how supportive you are of the students. I love even more that you’re good to your mom because I have a son who [I perceive to be] waay smarter and light years cooler than me, and I know how wonderful it is to have a child who’s willing to include you in his life.

        • demidaemon

          :)

    • MilaXX

      Sadly my need for comfort collided with my love of all things purple. Leaving now. See ya’ in a few!

      • decormaven

        Your love of all things purple is becoming- saw your pic on the Twitter feed. You are exactly as I imagined- what a wonderful smile. So glad you could make it; how was the MegaBus? Very interested in checking it out for trips out of ATL.

        • MilaXX

          Thank you! Megabus is great. I’ve used it before and really like. Personally I prefer it to Bolt Bus. It makes traveling to NYC both inexpensive and easy. I still drive on occasion but if I;m going to be in the heart of the city it’s easier than driving and worrying about parking. Also the earlier you book, the cheaper your fare. I once scored a round trip ticket for $8

          • decormaven

            Thanks. It may be an option for short trips that aren’t worth the flight ticket price. I love their pricing strategy; also the WiFi.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      It’s been a tough few weeks in para-Foodycat world. Stepbrother needs coronary bypass surgery at the age of 51 – I’m told it’s him smoking since he was 14, nothing to do with his HIV, fortunately. Stepsister’s had major surgery for a recurrence of her cancer & the recovery isn’t going as well as could have been hoped. Mother has shingles & didn’t bother to tell me. Aunt’s cat has been missing for a week. None of these things directly affect me, but having it all happening on the other side of the world leaves me feeling a bit low and useless.

      However, it is a beautiful day and a long weekend, I am making a croissant and blueberry bread & butter pudding and going to friends for a barbecue this evening. Definitely raising the spirits.

      Very jealous of all the bitter kittens going to the party! I feel like garden party hats are in order.

      • @Biting Panda

        Love and blessings to your family. It seems to have your health means to know and love others who are not so fortunate.

      • Sarah

        Very jealous of your pudding! That sounds incredible. Blueberries and croissants are two of my favorite things! I am sorry to hear about your family, and I know how hard it is when you’re not nearby. Those things DO directly affect you, since you care about those people. Hugs.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        Your family is really going through a tough time – here’s hoping for the best outcomes possible. You cannot beat yourself up because you are not close by; there’s no requirement in life that family members be proximate. You’ll do the best you can.

        My garden party had will be a baseball cap (with my really short hair now no hat looks good on me except baseball caps), but the rest of my outfit will be more attractive.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Thank you! I assume my mother’s shingles has partly been brought on by the stress of the stepsiblings, but that, at least, is passing.

          I am sure you will look beautiful, baseball cap and all!

          • demidaemon

            Shingles is awful, but, ultimately, treatable. My grandfather contracted it a few years ago, but he has recovered since then. I wish your Mom and everyone else in your family a speedy recovery!

      • MilaXX

        Wow! That’s a lot sitting on ones mind & hearts. Thoughts & prayers with you & yours.

      • Qitkat

        It’s so hard when family is suffering en masse and you are powerless and too far away to help. But you are not useless, your love must mean worlds to them. Blessings to all of you.
        Taking good care of oneself can indeed raise the spirits. Your pudding sounds so lovely and unusual. I wish I could taste it! The BK party does indeed inspire the thoughts of garden party hats, it’s the perfect venue and time of year. I imagine it will be so much fun.

      • formerlyAnon

        Garden party hats! What a great image.

        Sorry you’re having tough news from family, I know what it is to be too far away to be of any practical help – and to wonder how much they’re not telling you “so you won’t worry – and it’s not like you can do anything about it anyway, why upset you?”

      • decormaven

        I hear you! Lotta drama on Mr. DM’s side of family; dad just out of hospital, mom recuperating from total knee replacement, and niece getting married in June. Sorry for the illness in your family; hope recoveries will proceed apace. I love your bread & butter pudding- that’s food for the soul.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Thank you! That is a lot of drama in Mr DM’s family – at least the wedding should be joyous. I hope his parents recover quickly!

          The pudding was very successful.

          • decormaven

            It sounded delicious. You are an accomplished cook.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Hope Mr. DM’s mom’s recuperation from knee replacement will go well. I did that six years ago;the rehab was tough at times(a couple of the exercises simply hurt, no two ways around it) but if she doesn’t have complications and follows through with the rehab and PT, she will have a great new knee and better life.

          • formerlyAnon

            Every single person I’ve known who’s had a knee or hip replaced was happy with the outcome. I’m sure there ARE people who aren’t, but (unlike, say, back or carpal tunnel -related interventions) I haven’t met any.

            • decormaven

              Got my fingers crossed. She’s been blessed with good health up until the last year.

            • SRQkitten

              A friend who had knee replacement surgery said that the folks he knows who didn’t do well afterwards were the ones who didn’t follow through as they needed with the PT. He did and is just fine but offers that thought up as a cautionary tale when folks are tempted to not follow their PT as they should.

          • decormaven

            Thanks! She has done well, considering she’s 86 and has had some recent health problems on top of it. Trickiest part is pain at night; she’s not a pain medication person, so has had to learn to dose so as to get unbroken sleep. As with any ortho surgery, the rehab always takes longer than one expects.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Keeping on top of the pain is really important. I learned that after one sleepless night-you have to take the meds as scheduled to keep the pain at bay. A colleague who had had knee replacement also advised me to take my pain meds one hour before my PT sessions so that they would be more effective.

            • decormaven

              Yes, that’s the way to handle it. Unfortunately, she had problems mastering that at first. It’s tricky at the age with pain meds. There’s a tendency to under- or over-medicate.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Very true, especially as one’s body metabolizes meds differently as one ages.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I’m sorry your family is having a tough time healthwise;may the surgery and recovery for your brother go well, and hopefully your sister will have better days ahead in her recovery, as well. Take care

    • SewingSiren

      Pea green with envy of all those who can attend this event.

    • Jessica Freeman

      Good morning kittens! I am all sorts of jelly for those of you who get to spend your afternoon with each other and the Uncles. Have a great time! I hope they find a way to post all the pictures.

      No big plans for the weekend, which during the spring and summer is pretty hard to come by for me. Plenty of time spent around the house enjoying doing nothing, or only the things I want to do. Bless.

    • NDC_IPCentral

      For those coming to EMC2 in a few hours, if you want to spot me, I’ll wearing a gray skirt with embroidery on it, a vermillion sleeveless top and a turquoise jacket. Silver and various blues necklace from my sister. I have gray/white hair in a little boy-short cut. I’m bringing a friend with me; she’s got steel gray hair in a bob.

      Definitely looking forward to meeting SciMommy, MilaXX, Gaby, Alyce1213 and everyone else who attends.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Vermillion and turquoise! Magnificent colour combination!

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Very reliable pop of color, and they both look good on pale, gray/silver-haired me. OK, I’ve just decided to get matchy with one of my rings, I’m opting for the blue topaz instead of the sapphires…. ;-)

    • decormaven

      I’ve been steaming huge honkin’ tablecloths for the fundraiser dinner tonight. My tablescape is packed and ready to go. Hope it looks as good in reality as it does in my mind’s eye. Salutations to all the BKs in NYC today; what a wonderful time you will have! Raise one in honor of those in absentia.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Hope it raised huge $$$! Was it fun?

        • decormaven

          It was fun! It was to raise funds for a transitional house for those moving from a homeless shelter. Local restaurants donated food, and there was an auction of donated items. Got a really nice piece of pottery. The tables all had a holiday theme. I went for more of a seasonal theme and chose spring.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Brilliant cause. Well done!

    • MilaXX

      Oh M Gee everyone is so franklin pretty!

      • Malia C.

        Are you at the party? I’m jealous!

        • MilaXX

          Yes I was. Just got home . Had a blast meeting so much awesomeness.

          • Malia C.

            Sigh. I hope you all know I was there in spirit.

            • MilaXX

              Hopefully we’ll get together again. It was super fun putting faces with names.

            • Malia C.

              Make it in Boston and it’s a deal :)

            • Malia C.

              I’m sad and jealous :/

            • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

              I agree! I also thought it was a hoot, as I told you, that all this time I’ve been reading your screen name and pronouncing it in my head as, “mi-LAXX”. Imagine my surprise when Tom said to me, “Mila XX (two words) is here, make sure you meet her.” Whoa! How embarrassing on me. You had the grace to laugh along with me! I loved how your hair coordinated with your dress, by the way….you looked wonderful.

            • MilaXX

              No worries. I was too happy to meet everyone to quibble over the pronoun citation of a screen name.

    • MilaXX

      Ugh! Of course I get the flirty cab driver going home.

    • MilaXX

      Well flirty cab driver only charged $10 and refused a tip

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Excellent!

      • alyce1213

        Because you are a charmer.

        • MilaXX

          I swear every time I go to NYC I get at least one flirty cab driver.

          • formerlyAnon

            You have powers of fascination, not always a bad thing.

            Nowadays when men randomly flirt/are extra nice to me it’s generally because I remind them of their mom or because I am so scattered they sympathize & want to make my day a bit easier. I’ll take it, but it’s not the same.

          • Lisa_Co

            You’re lucky! I always get the ones who must have a secret death wish because they drive so fast I’m sure we’ll have an accident that kills us both. And…. If they don’t get a 30% tip I get glares or cursed:(

          • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

            I’m impressed that you get a CAB. I guess I’ve lost my touch after too many years away from NY. I could stand there with my hand up in the air for an hour and not one ever stops.

            • MilaXX

              I’m not as good as native NYCers, but I just keep waving til one stops

    • alyce1213

      I just got home from the lovely garden party at Emmett’s. So happy to have met some beautiful BKs — MilaX (in purple)!! Introspective (a historian with a PhD)!! Gaby (cutest hat ever)!! SciMommy (yes, she’s 6′ tall)!! NurseEllen!! and a couple of the quiet kittens, who I encourage to start posting. I guess I got there too late for NDC_IPCentral in vermillion and turquoise, very sorry to have missed you. Tom & Lorenzo are so funny, handsome, and charming, but that’s not news.

      • formerlyAnon

        So fun to hear who you met!

        • alyce1213

          I squealed a bit.

      • Jessica Freeman

        Glad you had a fantastic time. What or who was the surprise from Emmett?!

        • alyce1213

          I don’t know, I missed it — arrived too late. Anyone?

        • NDC_IPCentral

          A big, beautiful (second) wedding/happy book launch many tiered cake with slices for everyone.

          • alyce1213

            Ah, I didn’t know that was the surprise, it was delish.

      • mlurve

        I was too shy to go around and talk to too many people, but on my way out I think I talked to a group of you guys (I was wearing a dress with a black top and different color flowers on the bottom–Lorenzo said it was adorable which made me squeal like a fool) and you guys told me to comment more so…here I am! Everyone was so nice and Tom and Lorenzo were so friendly and fun!!

        • MilaXX

          I think we chatted briefly. I hope we hear from you again.

          • mlurve

            We did! You were pretty in purple :) Nice meeting you!

        • formerlyAnon

          Oh yes, if you have time, comment. It’s not as if those of us who comment a lot always have anything so special to say, it’s just a nice way to engage.

          • decormaven

            Some of us can’t help ourselves! [points finger at myself]

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I love black with flowers – it sounds lovely! Glad you’ve decided to visit here more often.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        What fun-so glad that some of the BK’s got to meet and greet!

      • NDC_IPCentral

        alyce1213, I sorry I didn’t see you, more’s the pity, as I’d hoped to; I left a bit before 4PM and had been there since before 2. I’m processing the photos I took right now.

        I agree with you, you quiet Bitter Kittens, start purring, gals and guys! Lurking and liking are both fine, but jump on in with the commenting. The water’s fine and fun. Great to meet a number of you (you youngsters, you).

      • Scimommy

        It was great to meet you, Alyce! Thanks for spotting me! :-)

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Thanks! I’m obsessed with hats.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          And your hat was WONDERFUL.

          • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

            Thanks!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        A PhD in pink suede shoes would be niche, but fascinating ;)

        • alyce1213

          Oops. :)

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        It was great to meet you, and I’m sorry we didn’t have a chance to talk more. At a certain point, my feet just gave out from all the standing.

    • http://suzannemoorebooks.com Suzanne Moore

      Oh how I wish I could attend your Book Tour Party and meet some of the Bitter Kittens! Unfortunately, Tucson is a *little* too far for me to pop in. But I’ll be there in spirit. Have fun!

    • mm

      Long time reader, first time commenter here. I’m inspired to write a comment here now after attending the book signing today. I’ve never really had an experience of the internet translating into real life (other than some mildly creepy BBS situations when I was about thirteen) and it never occurred to me how awesome it could be. You (Tom and Lorenzo) were so kind and friendly (I was Molly from Philly, you signed my book and we took a photo. I was too shy to say much, but know that after I texted my husband that I met you he wrote back: “Did you tell them thanks for giving you a reason to get up in the morning?” So.) And everyone I met was just a delight. Thank you for the unexpected and lovely experience, and for the community you’ve created through your blog, and now book!

      • NDC_IPCentral

        Nice to meet you, too, Molly. Alas, I don’t think I took a photo of you, and already I’m having a bit of a time trying to match faces to the pix I took. Doggone good turnout and lots of fun for everyone. Emmett McCarthy is a generous and gracious host – thank you, kind sir, and I hope the BKs did give you a bit of good business today, too.

        • MilaXX

          Here, here! I agree Emmett was the perfect host. It was so sweet of him to lend his space to all use crazed BK’s.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I still remember Emmett as one of the classiest designers from PR-of any season.

        • mm

          It was great meeting you too, NDC!

      • MilaXX

        I remember meeting you! It was great meeting another BK. Please don’t feel shy. Come out and play more often!

        • mm

          Thanks for the encouragement! I always like reading your comments on here.

      • Scimommy

        I met a Molly at the party who was also a lurker, but I think she was from Brooklyn?? Unless I am mistaken, which is very possible. Whether you are that Molly or not, I am really happy that you had a great time at the party and felt inspired to leave a comment. Everyone was rather lovely, were they not?

        • mm

          Hi Scimommy! That was me–I’m from both :) it was great to meet you!

          • Scimommy

            You too! Ooh, I see you’re on Twitter…

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Hi Molly! Lucky you for getting to meet them!

        • mm

          Hi! Yes, indeed.

      • Jacob Bowen

        Welcome to the lounge (and general comment section) of bitchery (of the best kind)!!! Hope you stay for a while Molly!

      • alyce1213

        Hi Molly!

        • mm

          Well hello!

    • NDC_IPCentral

      The Party Afternoon started off quite nicely – just up the street from Emmett’s EMC2 shop is Christian Sirano’s store! My friend Dottie and I popped in and took a longing squint at the lovely dresses and tops – luxe fabrics and beautiful designs. The two-woman staff was friendly and understanding that we were just admiring, not buying.

      The EMC2 patio was delightful, not too cold, not too warm and a bit of a welcome breeze as the space got cozy with guests. Dottie and I arrived a little before 2, so I got a chance to buss Tom and Lorenzo (they give great hugs and smooches) before the crowd grew. Gorgeous Things pressed a welcome glass of wine into my hand and we yakked about our hair, chemo and being healthy survivors. Quickly afterward I met Nurse Ellen who lives in Durham, NC, but was in the area visiting family and detoured to the party. She’s a pistol. I also met Terry (sorry if I’m spelling your name wrong) and her husband Jim, who now live in Brooklyn but had been in the South previously.

      To TLo’s great pleasure MilaXX arrived from the Philly ‘burbs, resplendent in purple, with a becoming purple tint to her ‘rows. She beamed when she met The Boys. The line of smiling, book-bearing BKs bordered one side of the patio, and Tom and Lorenzo greeted each with charm and chat. There were many attendees – mostly women, but a few guys, too. Forewarned by her post in the Lounge last night, I astutely looked at the tallest women in the group and said, “Scimommy?” And she laughed and I introduced myself. She’s tall, slim, doesn’t look her age and is embarking on a new direction for her science career. I’m sure she’ll thrive. I also got to meet Gaby, the young, newly minted lawyer to whom I gave encouragement before she took the NY Bar exam this February. She was beautifully turned out, from makeup to a perky cap, definitely stylin’. Other folks I met – Molly, Brittany, and a surprising number of young women who lurk on the site but don’t post. We voluble BKs urged the shy ones to dip their virtual toes into the commenting water. I hope they heed our invitation.

      Emmett presented TLo with a celebratory multi-tiered cake in honor of Tom and Lorenzo’s marriage (conducted there at EMC2 last year) and the successful publication and promotion of their book. There was cake for all, plenty of wine and non-stop chatter. The weather was balmy and the rain held off. A delightful day with delightful folks.

      • Scimommy

        Love you recap, NDC (and not just because you’ve said such lovely things about me). It was great to meet you, and I hope we get to meet again in the future. Until then – “see” you on this forum!

      • @Biting Panda

        My head just exploded with envy. How utterly delightful.

        • Sarah

          Heck yeah, me too!

      • unbornfawn

        Thanks for the recap! So glad you had a such a good time. As a west coast bitter kitten, I’m green with envy. I was at their book signing in SF a couple of weeks ago and was dancing on clouds for days after the event. Still clutching my signed copy of their book to my vitals. Tom and Lorenzo are so charming in person and the other bitter kittens I met were delightful, intelligent and, of course, well dressed.

      • MilaXX

        Great recap. Also in attendance was Bryan & his husband and Introspective. Cake, wine, and good company. What more could one ask for?

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Thanks! Haha I drank way too much wine, whoops!

      • Jessica Freeman

        Thanks so much for this =) It sounded lovely.

      • formerlyAnon

        Thanks for the report! It’s nice to imagine TLo, Emmett & the BKs mingling with (here’s where the imagination really kicks in) Cole Porter in the background. (My imagination tends to Sinatra/Crosby from High Society version of “What a Swell Party This Is.”)

        • decormaven

          What a swellelegant, elegant party this is!

      • Gatto Nero

        Dying with envy, but so pleased that it all went so well!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Thanks for the great recap, and so happy that BK’s got to meet and greet each other!

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        It really made me think of that old Noel Coward song, “I went to a marvelous party….” I had a GREAT time and I’m hard pressed to decide if meeting the Uncles was the highlight, or meeting so many of the BK’s. Probably a tie! Good conversation and an incredibly gracious and generous host (although I am prejudiced because his initials, EMC, are the same as mine.) Everyone was so convivial and so genuinely happy to be there. Lorenzo has the sweetest smile I think I’ve ever seen in a grown man, and Tom is charm personified. If the book tour comes to your area of the country–and I hope it will–all I have to say is, make SURE you get there! You’ll have a gay old time! (another quote of an old song, but this time the theme from “The Flintstones”!)

        • formerlyAnon

          My dear, thank-you for the Noel Coward reference! I’ve never heard the whole thing (or don’t remember doing so) and made me smile widely when I looked it up. (God bless Youtube.)

    • malarson2

      The hole that was made in my Universe when I was not able to partake this afternoon was gaping and droopy at the same time (sort of like certain lady parts after birthing 3 ten-pound babies). I filled it with a rainy Oregon afternoon spent watching ten-year-olds play basketball, lunch at my fave place in Portland, Little Big Burger (truffle oil on the fries…WHAT!!?), and then a nice, long, snuggly nap. Not quite the same as dressing up and meeting TLo and my fellow BK’s – and cake! – in NYC, but enjoyable all the same. Plus now the day dream of what might have been will always be alive.

      • malarson2

        I’m so sorry. What I really meant to say was congratulations, Sirs Tom and Lorenzo, on your impressive achievement, and best of luck for its successful future. Sometimes it just takes me a few before I realize that it’s actually not about me.

      • decormaven

        Sounds like you used your time well! Thankful for BKs who are posting reports on the soiree.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I also had to fill the metaphorical hole – being the only childfree couple at a barbecue. Fortunately several people brought extra children for us!

        • malarson2

          Worked out for you and I guarantee it was a bonus for those parents for whom you took over their children. That can be like a mini-vacation.

    • embers618

      I’m loving the recaps of the garden party. It sounds like it was a lovely event to celebrate TLo’s much deserved success and happiness! I wish I could have been there, but it was a bit far for this midwestern girl to travel for the weekend.

      On a more random note, I’m hoping the cat-loving BKS (and I know there are a lot of you) have some info that can help me. My lovely and patient tabby has a wad of rock hard, pre-chewed something stuck in his fur, right in the spot on his chest that’s hard for him to reach with his tongue. My two-year old insists that it’s cheese, and since she’s the one who put it there, I’ll take her word for it. So far, we’ve tried to get it out with a warm bath, massaging it with olive oil, loosening the hair with peanut butter, washing the area with dish soap, and trimming it with scissors. It’s too solid and too close to his skin for me to feel comfortable cutting the whole thing out, but because it’s solid and close to his skin, I think that it’s painful for him sometimes. Any ideas?

      • decormaven

        Maybe canola oil? Rub it in, let it sit a bit. Clean it off with paper towel, then apply Dawn (Dawn only) directly to matted area. Let it sit a bit, then wipe off with paper towel and rinse. If it’s still stuck, this may be a job for a groomer. Trying to cut fur on your own may result in nicking the skin. Sorry about this. I’m sure others may have some ideas as well.

        • embers618

          If we can’t figure it out today, I’ll be calling a groomer tomorrow. I’m definitely not comfortable trying to cut it myself, especially since the goop is touching his skin in several areas.

      • Jessica Freeman

        Though I have not tried it before I’ve heard conditioner, leave in conditioner or kids de-tangling spray has been helpful.

        • embers618

          Thanks for the de-tangling spray suggestion. I sprayed it twice today, and it has allowed some of the fur near the edges to loose themselves from the mess.

          The hair dryer would be a bold move with this kitty – he still has all his claws… Maybe if my husband is feeling really brave later we will try it. It didn’t soften with a warm compress, but I may not have had it warm enough.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        We always use a comb to lift the majority away from the skin and then use the scissors to cut against that, so we can be sure we are cutting the crap away but not cutting the skin.

        • embers618

          That’s what we did when our dog would get tangles under her tail. Maybe once it’s been loosened a little more I’ll be able to get a comb between the gunk and his skin… until then, I don’t dare try to cut.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            It doesn’t sound like cheese! I hope you get it off!

      • MilaXX

        Màybe Vaseline? Do a big thick glob.

      • Gatto Nero

        I might call the vet in this case. Please let us know how it works out.

    • Malia C.

      If there is any place the birthday of Audrey Hepburn will be appreciated,it is here “Audrey Hepburn Remembered” is on youtube (at least for now). A beautiful woman and role model, inside and out.

      • Qitkat

        Thanks so much for posting this. I immediately went and watched this, and was transported back into the magic of her elegance and incredible talent. If ever there was someone I wanted to be as a young woman, it was her. This film conveys such a lovely reflection of the esteem which her costars and directors felt for her. The work she did for UNICEF is so moving; this film made me smile and laugh, and come to tears.

        • Malia C.

          Thank you, Qit. Audrey was, really, my role model. She was a beautiful woman who never forgot who she was. I remember when they were trying to make Julia Roberts the new Audrey and – ugh. I know people hate Angelina but you know, she walks her talk.

          • VictoriaDiNardo

            I have kept on my bulletin board a notice from Tiffany’s published in the New York Times after her death. A long space outlined in black, in the center: “Audrey Hepburn” ” Our Huckleberry Friend”.

            I just found it so touching and elegant, with Audrey-like simplicity. I keep it there as a reminder of those qualities and as inspiration.

        • Malia C.

          And I will always love her for this:

          “Were there many women on your great crusade?”

          ‘Lots.”

          “Don’t tell me. How many?”

    • KinoEye

      Pea green with envy over the BKs who were able to attend the soirée, but glad to live vicariously through their recaps! Sounds like a great time was had by all.

      Uncertain times in KinoWorld. Mom’s still on the job hunt — went to her first interview, but they chose someone else. Always disheartening when that happens, but at least it’s good experience for future interviews (which I know she’ll get). I’m confident she’ll find something. But in the words of Tom Petty, the waiting is the hardest part.

      I have another tentative offer for a managing editor job closer to home. Same company as before. When I told them money was the main reason why I had to decline the other job, they almost immediately started pitching this job. It seems like they really want me there, in some form or fashion — we shall see how it pans out.

      Attempted (unwisely) to get off my antidepressants this week, since they seem to be making me gain weight. I don’t really mind (I was a little underweight before) but I can’t exactly invest in new pants at the moment, and getting them on in the morning is becoming a dicey proposition. It’s clearly not the right time for that, though, since I turned into a blubbering mess midway through the tapering. Guess I’ll have to find another solution until my stress decreases enough to get off of them.

      Off to help mom shop for some good interview clothes — hopefully I’ll give good advice!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Re: the meds-can you talk to your prescribing M.D./therapist about adjusting the dosage of the anti-depressants? I was on them for an extended period several years ago and remember the weight gain as a side effect that I was less than thrilled with, so I understand the frustration.
        How was the clothes shopping with your mom? I am very hopeful that there are good(and appropriately paying)jobs out there for her and you.

      • Qitkat

        Sending good thoughts to you and your mom, for success in all the challenges and opportunities that will move you both forward in your lives.

      • SRQkitten

        Can you talk with yr doc about either reducing your dose of antidepressants or perhaps switching meds? I was on antidepressants for several years as a migraine preventative and when I finally gave it up, my doc lowered the dose gradually which helped going off without issues. But the weight gain, yeah, no fun. Best wishes in the job front!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        As you said – good experience for future interviews. She’s been with the same people for such a long time, she does need a bit of interview practice, so I hope she doesn’t lose heart!

      • martha

        if you live near a Goodwill or other thrift shop you could probably get some clothes there for cheap. I have found some nice clothes at Goodwill!

        • malarson2

          I was going to recommend the same thing. Find a Goodwill situation in a part of town that matches your taste in clothes – for example if I’m looking for something expensive and traditional around where I live I go to the Goodwill closest to the town of Lake Oswego…if it’s funky and more urban I head to the one in downtown Portland, etc. It’s absolutely amazing what you can find there and that’s not even talking about how fun The Hunt of it all is. Be really careful on what you’re doing with your meds. Tell your doc about what’s happening with the antidepressants. I’m sure they can figure out something to help you with it. Better yet, call your doc’s medical assistant. They are the ones who really get things done anyway. Sending you my best.

      • Sarah

        Before my script went generic, sometimes I couldn’t afford my antidepressants and would let a couple of weeks go before I got paid. I had to go in to get a refill one time, and my doctor ripped me a new one for doing that – your symptoms can be worse with withdrawal, and then if you start taking meds again, they won’t be as effective as before. Tapering is the only way to do it, but if you have symptoms after just a week, seems you might still need help. I am sorry yours make you gain weight – perhaps you could try a different med or a lower dose as @SRQkitten:disqus recommended? You could also ask your doctor if the symptoms are withdrawal related and would ease after you have the drugs out of your system?

        Also, I think it is wonderful you are helping your mom with finding a new job. Everyone needs support, and nothing is as good as support from the ones you love.

      • Lisa_Co

        Only some antidepressants are supposed to cause weight gain (the old ones called tricyclics- brand names like Elavil, Desipramine). The newer ones (Prozak, Zoloft, Lexapro, Effexor, etc) are not supposed to have any effect on weight. Maybe talk to your MD about switching to a different drug. There are loads of different antidepressants out there now.

        • Sarah

          Yeah, I’ve only been on the newer ones (pretty much all of them) and never had any weight gain.

      • MilaXX

        Talk to you doc about the fist issue . Also that thing about certain drug companies having free drug programs is true. Check their website. I was once able to get free meds that way and the application process was easy

      • decormaven

        Don’t forget the consignment shops on your way to Goodwill. Good stuff there as well. You’ve gotten good advice on meds here. Do consult your doc on drug alternatives and really be careful on transitioning off your med. With the number of options out there, there’s a rx that will be a good fit for you.

      • Anna

        Keeping my fingers crossed and sending positive thoughts for you and your mom!

    • Jacob Bowen

      I considered hopping on a few Mega Buses from Chicago for the weekend, but I would have missed my cousin’s First Communion yesterday, and the AMAZING party day that centered around it. It was my first time in my (old) church in 2 years, and it was strange, but I did it for my cousin (who benefits from being my favorite cousins’ son). The Mass was followed by pizza/MANY drinks at our favorite bar/restaurant and then a night of more pizza/drinks at my cousins’ house with my other FAVORITE cousin Nicole in attendance (picture of our adventure on Twitter). It was a fantastic day but now, come August,I they won’t be possible anymore.

      I don’t know if my choice to move to California is really a smart decision. Yes, I need to gain independence and get out of my parents’ house, and yes I get to move in with my best friend Jesse. But, is leaving my ENTIRE family, who I see/spend time with 50% of my week worth it? It really sucks because I’ve been SO excited to go there and try being on my own, but I have neglected to actually think about what will really happen. I totally love where I’ll be living, and I know a few people there now, but I feel like it’s going to end up with me on a couch on the weekends, wishing I were back in Illinois, and I’m not too sure that’s what I want to be like. I’m 23, I should be having fun.

      • formerlyAnon

        Sounds like you’re doing the necessary thinking-through now, though. People are obviously important to you – not just family, a teaching job isn’t something one can tolerate if you don’t enjoy people on some level. Thinking all this stuff through ahead of time will prepare you – and get you in the headspace to plan the right kind of stuff (work/friends/volunteering/activities) that’ll tide you over when you make the change. You’ll probably have to initiate more group stuff and put in some trial and error figuring out who deserves your time and energy and will give back good energy – but this is the time in your life to give it a shot.

        Like you say, you’re at the right age to have fun – and to take a few financial/career risks. No mortgage, no long term relationship, no kids, no 20+ years invested in a retirement plan or working your way into a ‘dream’ job.

        There’s no sin in changing your mind – but this sounds more like really normal cold feet over a big change. Yes, you’ll miss your friends and family. But you can’t figure out if you HAVE TO live within arm’s reach if you never try something different. And nobody said you had to STAY forever if you’re not happy with the move, right? Just so long as you give change a fair chance and ride out the initial strangeness and casting about to figure out things, you can totally say, “No, this isn’t right for me right now. I want to be closer to the people I grew up with” and move back, if that’s how it pans out.

      • MilaXX

        Go for it. You’ll grow from the experience and if you realize it’s not for you, move back. With the internet and social media, it’s not that hard to keep in touch. I love my family dearly. However I learned from moving out how to function on my own independently. In a weird way it makes me appreciate my wacky family even more.

        • @Biting Panda

          *****THIS*****

      • VictoriaDiNardo

        Excellent advice from MilaXX and formerlyAnon, please take it to heart. I would add the conflicting-sounding thought that when you decide to make a change in your life you need to think it through ( as it sounds like you are ) but don’t over-think it ( ditto ). It’s important to give considered thought about what your life will be like in the new situation, but after you’ve done that and get things going, just go with it. You can drive yourself crazy with second, third and fourth thoughts or talk yourself out of what might be a real growth experience.

        It sounds like you have a close relationship with your family. That’s hard to leave. But think of it as a launch pad. How great to have them there for moral support while you have some new adventure in your life. It’s not like they’ve locked the door to Chicago behind you after you leave – if you decide California is not for you they will be thrilled to have you back and you won’t be left with “what-if’s”. You’ll see as you get older that most of what you come to regret is what you didn’t do, the thing you didn’t take a chance on. Don’t pass up this chance to see what a different way of life for you looks like.

        I’m speaking from experience – I left Cleveland for New York when I was 21. I couldn’t wait to go, but I did cry until the middle of Pennsylvania.

        Yes, you should be having fun – that’s what you need to feel you’re off to do!

      • http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/ Tom and Lorenzo

        You’re 23, you should be having adventures.

      • alyce1213

        It’s a very big step, it’s scary, and you should take it. It’s wonderful that you already have a place to live with your best friend — there’s great security in that, and (I don’t have to tell you) you’re going to an amazing place! You’re so young, there are doors opening for you, please walk through them. You’ll be able to keep in contact with your family, you can Skype, etc. And, if after some time, you feel it’s not for you, you can do something else — return to Chicago, go to Europe, wherever and whatever you like. I’m excited for you — my son’s a little younger than you and I anticipate him leaving the nest (if he ever finishes college) with both fear and delight.

      • Sarah

        Hey, Jacob, you’ll be over your apprehension so fast you won’t even remember it in a few months after you get there. When I was 23, I didn’t spend more than a month in one place, and I think I had one of the best years in my life. I also lived with my best friend for almost a decade, and I can’t tell you how wonderful it is – you’ll be happy you got that time together for the rest of your life! And if you have a family you love as much as it sounds like you do, knowing they’re there at home rooting for you will make all the difference in letting you become the guy you’re meant to be on your own. So excited for you and your new adventures!

      • malarson2

        As many other smart people have pointed out, you should go for it. Try thinking about it this way: there is NO other time in your like the age of 23, and that is the age, if there ever was one, to discover yourself and to work on understanding how you tick and why. Also, I get the fretting of leaving your – what sounds like a big, fun family, but instead be grateful they will always be there in Illinois, waiting for you to come back – in whatever form that means – and to show them how you’ve frown and changed. Give them the gift of looking forward to seeing how much more of an amazing person you will dis one and become by branching out and challenging yourself. You are going to do awesome, even if you don’t know you are right when you are smack in the middle of it. Giving time a chance is what it’s all about 23. Go get ‘em

      • BobStPaul

        I don’t have much to add to what others have already said but I can practically guarantee that if you don’t do it that you’ll regret it for a long time to come. Based on my own experience, I’d say the best way to grow both personally and professionally is to move to and experience different areas of the country. You’ll always have your birth family but moving will allow you the opportunity to create yet another family that may become just as important to you.

      • decormaven

        Another vote in going to California. You have a grounded base in your family; this is when you reach out into the world, knowing that you are rooted in love. Not that there might not be possibilities around you now, but as a young person, you are at the stage where you can branch out. Wishing you luck and love.

    • alyce1213

      I have Wild Kingdom in NYC! This morning I found a pigeon’s nest with eggs on my terrace. They found a safe spot in a sheltered corner, on a side table inside a big clay pot where i grew catnip last season. I know you country Kittens are laughing, but this is all very exciting to me. My cat is very aware, in fact I should have known earlier by her saucy behavior at the terrace door. I won’t let her out, of course (I never do anyway unless I can watch her). She is extremely excited, which in turn excites my dog. It’s all very animale and I’m looking forward to the births. The pigeon parents are very attentive. I’m going to put out seeds and H20 to make it easier for them (or is that just a granny delusion?).

      • VictoriaDiNardo

        Perhaps you’ll be able to get a glimpse of the elusive baby pigeons that no one has ever actually seen in New York! Take pictures! Otherwise we will have to continue to believe that the pigeons just show up fully grown. Like Christmas trees and new restaurants.

        • alyce1213

          How true, I’ve never actually seen baby pigeons. I will document the proceedings as best I can.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        That is exciting! Yes, do put some seeds out for the parents-it can’t hurt, if the babies survive, keeping them fed is a full time business for bird parents.

      • http://frankbettecenter.org/ sleah_in_norcal

        oh, that’s so exciting! i had a robin’s nest on my porch last year, and what amazed me was how fast the babies grew. one day they were just scrawny little things with gaping mouths, and it seemed like just a few days later they were fluffy little birds!

      • decormaven

        That’s wonderful! Some bird seed and maybe a small dish of water outside for them. I’ve not watched pigeons nesting/hatching/fledging, but I have two bluebird boxes in my yard and have a bluebird family in one of them now. Dad helps mom early in the process, and as the hatchlings progress, mom moves in and out of box, cleaning away debris and bringing them food. Look at the Cornell University ornithology site- it has a wealth of information on birds, nesting habits, etc.

    • PastryGoddess

      Hello Everyone! I’m sorry I missed the party yesterday. It sounded swell.

      • alyce1213

        Sorry you missed it too. Next time!

    • Eric Stott

      Mad Men about to commence. Does anyone actually watch TURN?

      • PastryGoddess

        Nope

      • malarson2

        I’ve watched every episode and I absolutely love it. Especially because I watch it with my 14-year-old who is studying the same subject at school so his recognizing and knowledge of specific events told makes it really fun. Plus it really IS the story of America’s first spy ring and the characters shown were all real people who helped to make it so we’re all not be speaking with British accents right now (unless we are having a drunk moment at a party and someone dares us). The backstory is amazing and it’s filmed in the same town -Setauket, New Jersey- where all of the events really happened. It’s hard to imagine these things truly happening on American soil and the show really hits home. Plus Jamie Bell is awesome in it!!

    • Sally

      Hello Everybody! We meet again….

    • Cheryl

      Uh oh, my sound is fading in and out. Very annoying.

    • Eric Stott

      Pete still has feelings for Trudy, somewhere.

    • Wendy

      Ahhhhh, the hockey game we’re watching is running long. When there’s a whole week between episodes, an extra 15 minutes or so shouldn’t be *this* irritating.

    • Eric Stott

      Oy- an IBM Mainframe. This should be entertaining-

      • Sally

        And huge!

        • Eric Stott

          We get to meet 1960’s IBM techs- back when they had godlike status.

          • decormaven

            Ha ha! So true….

    • PastryGoddess

      Has Ginsberg always been THIS annoying?

      • Eric Stott

        yes- but not this apocalyptic

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      That Mets pennant hurt.

      • VictoriaDiNardo

        The Mets always hurt…

      • Elizabetta1022

        And it looks like Don hung it up in his office after all…

    • Eric Stott

      OH PETE THAT HURT!

    • PastryGoddess

      Who Called It!

      • Sally

        What cult is it?

        • Eric Stott

          I don’t recall many “Cults” in upstate…might just be a commune with a Guru

          • Cheryl

            Bomb with Love! Bomb with Love!

          • VictoriaDiNardo

            Timothy Leary and friends were up in Milbrook….

      • PastryGoddess

        I’m going through the archives now

    • Sally

      Tydy and Pete dancing was so much fun. Back when they were the happy couple.

      • Sally

        Trudy, even

    • Not applicable

      Margaret is a hippie on a commune?! woah. doesn’t seem preppy enough for her… BTW- is that the same actor playing Brooks? He was blonde in the season they got married…

      • Logo Girl

        Pretty sure it’s him. He just has that dry look now.

      • Eric Stott

        Good possibility she gets stoned and pregnant.

    • Elizabetta1022

      Now we get to find out what religion/cult Margaret got mixed up in. Any guesses?

    • Cheryl

      Do we have any clues to the date so far?

    • Eric Stott

      You think they’ll get the IBM account?

    • Eric Stott

      OMG- Lou is doing something nice…when is he going to stab someone in the back?

      • Cheryl

        No, I think he’s hoping Don will mess up.

        • Eric Stott

          yep- that’s the stab.

    • Sally

      How much is that in today’s $$, I wonder?

      • Eric Stott

        I think closer to a grand

        • Eric Stott

          I checked – $100 dollars is close to $700 today. If she does get it, that’s real money.

          • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

            The last raise I got was $.76/hour. I work 36 hours/week, so that works out to the grand sum of $27.36/week, or $1422/year. (by the way, that was after 4 years without even a cost of living increase, because the State of NC was “broke” and I am a state employee.) An extra $100/week would be pretty good money now–in 1969, that was a MAJOR raise. You GO, Peggy.

            • Susan_El

              I worked in advertising in NYC right out of grad school in 1968-69, as a junior copywriter–I answered an ad in the NYTimes that said “Liked to write?”!!! My starting salary was $95 a week. I had a secretary assigned to me, and by accident (trying to find some copy in her desk when she was out sick), I saw her paycheck, which told me that she made $5.00 a week more than me. I complained to my boss, who was the Creative Director, and he reluctantly gave me a $10.00 week raise. And I was dim enough to feel chuffed about my “big” salary increase. I would have fainted dead away if I’d been given a $100 week raise. Serious money, Peggy. Stop acting like a sulky toddler and, as Freddy would say, just “do the work”! She and Joan are getting on my last nerve so far this season.

    • Sally

      Don reports to Peggy………

    • PastryGoddess

      This is going to bite Lou in the ass. and it will be glorious

      • Not applicable

        i hope so…

    • Sally

      Don’t be an ass, Don. Oops, too late.

      • Eric Stott

        I want to see a piece of plywood in his window

    • 28fairplay

      Tt could be 4/18. Nixon resumed reconnaissance flights off North Korea.

    • Eric Stott

      Notice – neither one is wearing their seatbelt.

      • Cheryl

        No shoulder harness but they could be wearing the belts.

        • Sally

          There were no shoulder harnesses. Seat belt laws are still years away.

          • Cheryl

            We had seat belts as early as 1966 (probably earlier, but that’s when I learned to drive).

    • 28fairplay

      Peggy is still wearing orange. But her hair looks good.

      • Cheryl

        I’m sure it’s old fashioned to some, but yes, I thought it looked beautiful.

    • PastryGoddess

      Cmon Peggy. Be a boss

      • Cheryl

        Or, “be boss.”( ’60s reference.)

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      I hate Mad Men commercial breaks more than other commercial breaks.

      • Cheryl

        I toggle back and forth between Twitter and here during commercial breaks.

      • Logo Girl

        My cable provider throws in extra commercials for about three weeks now :)

    • Sally

      I was hoping Don was going to play. Maybe not.

    • Damien W

      Don is reading Portnoy’s Complaint…

    • Eric Stott

      Something odd about that IBM guy

      • Sally

        What’s his angle?

        • Cheryl

          He and Don are going to go into business. You heard it here first.

        • Eric Stott

          Far too early for trying to set up a rival to IBM.

    • Cheryl

      Maybe Don will walk out, with the IBM account.

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Why is Bert being such a dick?

      • Sally

        Everybody’s a dick tonight.

        • Cheryl

          Except Don. {rimshot}

      • Eric Stott

        I think he’s disliked Don for some while, but now he isn’t hiding it.

      • decormaven

        He really meant it last week when he said “I don’t like the way our agency is spoken of.” Loss of face to him is worse than anything.

    • Damien W

      Um, that was a little on the nose, Bert. Matt Weiner isn’t going for the subtle approach to wrap up this show…

    • PastryGoddess

      Which of these things don’t belong

      • Eric Stott

        Seems like just a straightforward commune…I don’t think we need worry about suicides.

        • PastryGoddess

          huh??? that’s not what I meant.

          • Eric Stott

            I decided to remove my comment but Discus won’t delete.

    • Sally

      Ah, the patriarchal communes.

    • PastryGoddess

      I fucking LOVE Mona

    • Sally

      Will Roger join? This seems right down his alley.

      • Eric Stott

        I think he’d rather stay in the city and have the commune visit.

      • Gatto Nero

        He loves comfort too much.

    • Damien W

      Mona’s leaving Roger there — even money says Roger sticks around for a while.

      • Not applicable

        well he’s done his research hasn’t he?? :)

    • Not applicable

      OK- so what are the odds on Don right now? Is he getting fired and getting the shares reabsorbed or is he walking out to win the other agency to win the hamburger & IBM accounts??

      • Cheryl

        He’s going to walk out with the IBM and LeaseTech accounts. That means no pay, no share, just the account.

    • Damien W

      I have a sick feeling about where all this literal and symbolic dismantling of the agency is heading — if Don leaves and Roger joins a commune, that just leave Bert, whose name is still on the door. WIll he still be around after episode 7? Or will he be carried out (with his shoes on the gurney, like with Miss Blankenship’s purse) to complete the process?

    • Sally

      And drunk.

    • Damien W

      Watching Roger, my mind is travelling back to Betty visiting the squatters in search of her wayward violin-playing ward…

    • Eric Stott

      I’m glad Freddy Rumsen is back.

    • Sally

      I wish Peggy would walk out.

    • Damien W

      OK maybe he’s not getting the account. Maybe he’s just finally cracking up.

    • Logo Girl

      Crap my cable provider cut to a commercial right when Don said to the computer guy “I know who you are”. What happened?

      • Eric Stott

        He said something like “You have many names” the guy said “you should go with your friend” and Freddy pulled him away.

        • Logo Girl

          Thanks

      • decormaven

        I was hoping he was going to say “Beezlebub”. Wonder if Lloyd is going to tell Jim or Harry that Don was drunk?

    • Sally

      Well, you can’t. You are a woman.

      • Damien W

        And Sally Ride was just a senior in high school at that moment.

    • Damien W

      Fred Rumsen — Don Draper’s savior? Twisted!

    • Not applicable

      this has gone from bad (last week) to worse!! gah!!!

    • Eric Stott

      Will Roger stand for his little MARRIED girl going off for casual sex?

      • Damien W

        He doesn’t give much of a crap for the husband she chose…who knows?

        • Eric Stott

          He’s not taking it well.

      • Not applicable

        well, we know who she takes after…

    • Shoelover1512

      It’s getting hard to watch Don’s rock bottom :(

      • Eric Stott

        He’s giving up – this is real bad.

        • Shoelover1512

          Yes it is. But hopefully Freddie’s talk hit home.

          • Eric Stott

            If Don has really good luck I hope he can bring Freddy along.

    • Sally

      Sober up, man!

    • Sally

      I hope Roger is about to have an heart attack.

      • Sally

        not

        • Eric Stott

          He’ll need to get another Botany 500 suit

    • Damien W

      I wonder if they will accurately depict how noisy that monstrosity is.

      • Eric Stott

        It will need an air conditioning unit too.

      • Cheryl

        And how cold the room will be!

      • Gatto Nero

        The constant construction racket at the office was nerve-wracking; it set just the right tone.

    • Logo Girl

      On a carousel

      • decormaven

        By the Hollies. Love hearing Graham Nash’s voice.

        • Logo Girl

          Me too

    • PastryGoddess

      What’s the song??

    • Eric Stott

      Nice choice of closing music for a callback.

      • https://twitter.com/Grecks Bostwick

        I responded to that closing like my underdog team had scored a biggun at some Sportball game.
        Redemptive story arc back on track?! D-D-D-DEFENSE! Etc!

        • siriuslover

          Right?!? That’s TWICE this season they call back to the carousel episode. First with Ken, now with the closing music. Coincidence? I think not.

    • Sally

      One step at a time,Don. You can do it.

    • 28fairplay

      Yay, Don!

    • Elizabeth Flowers

      Time to finish the laundry I was avoiding!

    • Sally

      Okay, Ginsberg is going off the deep end.

      • Damien W

        It seems to be his default state.

    • Eric Stott

      I predict that at least one secretary will drop a pile of very important punch cards.

      • Sally

        hahahaha

      • Damien W

        Maybe Meredith will have the classic comic parting scene that’s coming to her.

    • Sally

      I wish Don and Peggy could make nice. And they get the IBM account. With Stan and Freddy.

      • Damien W

        Peggy is already covering for him, which is a good sign.

        • Sally

          I do think Joan was right when she the other partners didn’t give it any thought.

          • MilaXX

            She wasn’t. Both Lou & Cutler were setting him up

    • Elizabetta1022

      Freddy Rumsen: “Do the work.” Dual meaning with working the steps of AA and doing the work at the office for Peggy. Probably just what Don needs to get him back on track (if he can let go of his ego long enough to work for Peggy).

      • Sally

        Will we see Don at an AA meeting? Or will he just try to dry out with Freddy ?

        • Damien W

          I don’t see Don in AA. For one thing, there’s no evidence that he believes in a higher power. I think he’ll go his own route, but Freddy will be subtly feeding him the steps from the sidelines.

          • Sally

            That’s what I think too.

      • decormaven

        I clapped my hands when Freddy said that. Damn straight, Don – do the work. There’s no other way around it.

    • Damien W

      It should be noted that in 1969, the New York Mets were playing fair-to-okay ball at this early point in the season, saddled with the reputation of being hopeless losers up to that point. Of course, by summer’s end they ended up winning the World Series.