T LOunge

Posted on April 04, 2014

Darlings, we’re L.A.-BOUND!

 

 

Next Door Lounge, Los Angeles, California

 
Or we will be, starting next week when we jet off to the other side of America (relatively speaking, of course) for the 2nd leg of our national Bitter Kitten Meet n’ Greet, otherwise known as our book tour. We’re currently picking out our outfits and doing wrist yoga so we can sign all y’all’s books and not get cramps. That probably sounds obnoxious, but we really did get cramps; especially after the D.C. signing, cuz those crazy bitches sold out the store. L.A., S.F. and Chi Kittens, you won’t let D.C. win the T Lo Attendance Gold Star Award, will you? Show those snooty east coasters how it’s done!

Yes, we’re pitting you all against each other in order to drive up attendance. Eight years of reality TV and celebrity blogging teaches you a few things about attention whoring for profit. It’s the “Be Me or Do Me” way in action, darlings. Of course Daddy and Pop love you all.

But seriously, you west coast and midwest kittens. You need to bring D.C. down.

Kidding! Said with love!

Sort of.

Anyway, order a drink and tell us all about your week.

 

 

[Photo Credit: nextdoorhollywood.com]

    • Jessica Freeman

      After a long week of putting my design degree to get my bestie’s house and nursery ready for her first baby, I’m homeward bound tomorrow. It’s been a fruitful and tiresome week. Can’t wait to be home and unwind. Cheers, Kittens! Have one for me!

      • @Biting Panda

        That’s really cool. Safest of journeys.

      • embers618

        Your bestie is lucky to have your help and expertise! Safe travels and rest on your return.

    • @Biting Panda

      We dropped the kids with my folks, south of town. They are Orlando bound. For a week.

      I leave Monday, on a bus full of senior citizens, bound for Savannah. We’re not back until Thursday. Gotta love a job that takes me on an all expenses paid, Spring Break of my own.

      Luckily we are at maximum pet allowance, here at home, or I’d likely come home to a new fur baby. It’s never a good idea to leave my cuddles loving husband alone too many nights in a row.

      Spring has sprung in the ATL. Patios and tart drinks are calling my name. Cheers Kittens!

      • Dee

        A patio surrounded by concrete, please. WAY too much pollen in ATL for me this week!

        • @Biting Panda

          I can’t resist riding with the windows down, even though I know better. I swear, sometimes I can taste the yellow.

          • Dee

            Yes! I’m so happy to have hot sun on me, but my eyes and throat haven’t gotten the memo just yet.

        • decormaven

          Get ready- when the pine pollen drops, we will be swimming in yellow. Ready to start digging out natural areas, but waiting til the Yellow Menace passes.

      • http://ayearofmommyhood.blogspot.com/ Tabby_abby

        This is my first spring that isn’t yellow. It is sooo different. I miss ATL so much.

      • Sobaika

        My best friend got married last week in Savannah – it’s an absolutely beautiful area! I returned to gloomy New York and promptly cursed the heavens.

      • Jackie4g

        I was not prepared for the beauty that is Savannah. What a pretty place! If possible, go and see St. Bonaventure cemetery and if you see anything untoward on the Savannah River, get back in the undergrowth, quickly. Lots of great stories from the locals, and I hope, a free jitney bus that takes you all around the city. Loved Savannah!

        • decormaven

          Do they still offer the Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil tour? It’s fun to hit the high spots, like Clary’s. Love Savannah this time of year- hope the azaleas will be out.

          • Jackie4g

            It’s been so long since I was there, 2003 for a doll convention, and even then, the Midnight Tours were winding down, although we did take a couple of them, and they were fascinating. You go to the Visitors Center and the Tour Buses and jitneys are parked outside, and when they get enough passengers, off they go. We lucked out with a couple of Tour Guides who really liked their jobs. Savannah College of Art was a new success story when we were there. Oh, and the crepe myrtles! It was June and the colors of those blooming trees were amazing. They won’t bloom here, NJ is too far north. I loved those crepe myrtles the best.

          • Kent Roby

            After going to a party at John Berendt’s French QUarter home last month, I bought his book about Venice, Italy, “City of Falling Angels”. I loved the book. Also, “Bizarre Foods” (Travel Channel) recently featured Savannah, with the host dining/chatting with Lady Chablis.

            • decormaven

              “City of Falling Angels” was a good read for sure. I’ve not kept up with his work since “Midnight”; New Orleans should provide a good backdrop for another book, if he’s so inclined.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Savannah should be lovely- Mr. B3 and I were there in February 2013 visiting our nephew who was in his senior year at SCAD. Great food town, and scenic as all get out!

    • MilaXX

      Allergies are a beyotch. I think I have spent 75% of this past week in a benedryl induced haze and it’s making me cranky.

      • SRQkitten

        I’m thinking with climate change the investment strategy is to go heavy in allergy med stocks. Everyone I know with allergies is presently ODing on benedryl and the like.

        • MilaXX

          The problem is I have a combo of sinusitis/seasonal allergies, food allergies and some random environmental allergy they can’t pin point. It means I break out randomly pretty much everywhere. Facial swelling one day, tongue swelling another, hives on my extremities. I have to take a prophylactic zyrtec daily plus some other med. I can’t recall the name of and I’m need refilled but cant get until I see the doctor next week,

          • decormaven

            I feel your pain. I’m on Claritin 365 days. You def need some rx nasal spray. Nasalcort is OTC now, but that may not touch your level of inflammation.

            • MilaXX

              I’m on a flonase nasal spray. backed up with muscinex

            • decormaven

              Bless . Do you use nasal rinse? That’s some major inflammation. Hope allergist can find you a better way. Keep the h20 pumping.

            • Janet B

              I feel your pain; food, seasonal, and food allergies. I’m giving Nasalcort a try, my usual mix is Allegra and Sudafed 12 Hour.
              Muscinex gave me an itchy tongue.

            • formerlyAnon

              The week Nasalcort went OTC, my son’s dad texted him “Nasalcort. It will change your life.”

              It has.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Poor baby. That sucks royally. Hope you can get your refill and feel better.

          • SRQkitten

            OWW! That sounds like allergy hell to the tenth power. Hope your refill gets taken care of. Remember too well from my migraining days what it was like to be almost out of Rx meds and having issues with either doc or pharmacy contacts for refills.

          • Qitkat

            Have you ever considered allergy shots? They worked for me many years ago. And I’ll second the neti pot/saline nasal rinse option too.
            Hope you feel much better soon.

            • MilaXX

              I have the neto pot as well. I hate it but when I get truly miserable. I use it. The allergist hasn’t mentioned allergy shots. I suspect because they don’t know specifically what is causing the hives and random facial swelling.

            • Qitkat

              Just a suggestion, you might ask the allergist about testing. As I recall, this was many years ago, I was asked a lot of questions about environmental and lifestyle issues, foods, pollens, molds, dusts, grasses, etc. that I may have thought contributed to my allergies, then they proceeded to do a series of scratch tests (minute amounts of allergens) on my back, maybe on my arms too. I think there were over 40 different common allergens tested. And there were many others I did not react to, or was not tested for. I think there were well over a hundred possible things to test for. After seeing the results, only then did the doctor come up with a unique formulation for me based on those, and only then did I start getting shots. I got them weekly or bi-weekly for a couple of years. So I don’t know the current procedures, but they should have ways of narrowing down what is going on.

              I’m so sorry you suffer so much. Obviously I don’t know your situation, but I would think they should be able to alleviate at least some of the seasonal and food allergies with shots derived from test results. The nasal corticosteroid inhalers may help also if that hasn’t been tried.

            • MilaXX

              I’ve been tested. Skin test once, blood test multiple times, urine test once. Always the same. serious seafood allergy, really bad sinusitis and no idea why the hives and random facial swelling.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              When I was about 12, I got hives from eating too many oranges. Could have been the acid. (From the oranges, not LSD.)

              I also got hives as a new bride when I would see my in-laws unexpectedly walking up to our house.

            • Qitkat

              It must be so baffling to the medical professionals and so frustrating for you to have no answers as to the triggers. I imagine it makes planning your life very difficult. I do hope you get an answer and lots of relief very soon. Take good care of yourself. We all care about you, you’re practically Catwoman Supreme around here :)

            • MilaXX

              Aw, you’re sweet! My GP told me there is a small percentage of folks that are just hypersensitive like me. Not much to do except figure out how to minimize the effects.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Way back in the last century, I went through the testing and a couple months of shots. What a difference. At least you’ll know what to stay away from.

      • kimmeister

        Benadryl gave me the weirdest dream yesterday morning. I dreamed that a random group of us decided to try forming an exotic dancing group after hours at an Old Navy. However, the others chickened out and I ended being the only one stripping. My fitness instructor was there for moral support. It was unnerving to see him in real life later that day in class!

        • MilaXX

          I only get weird dreams like that from ambein

          • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

            I get weird dreams like that from Chinese food, lol.

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      I am contemplating opening the $36 bottle of wine. It was a long week, with new bits of drama (somewhat entertaining, but also a little horrifying), plus there was 6″ of motherfucking snow this morning. It appears to be melting, but that is Not The Point. I have not shoveled, though I will likely have to tomorrow morning if force of will does not work.

      • Dee

        May you soon be free of snow and well-entrenched in pollen very soon!

      • Qitkat

        You got the snow storm that we got yesterday. But it’s melting fast here in Denver. And we’re supposed to get another one this weekend, so I guess you have that to look forward to also ;

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          How…cheering…

          • Qitkat

            So sawee…

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              That’s it! I’m opening the wine!

            • Qitkat

              Clink! I’m finishing a bottle of ‘two buck chuck’!
              Denver has gone bananas for Trader Joes, it takes forever to find a parking place.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              um…I’ve never been to Trader Joe’s. There are several here in the Twin Cities, but none conveniently located.

            • Sartorial_She

              That’s a caveat for any Trader Joe’s. Inconvenient locale plus inadequate, cramped parking! Never been to one in any city that didn’t meet those criteria.

            • Margaret Nikoleit

              I recommend the one in Maple Grove, if you’re anywhere near there. Plenty of parking (although you might not get a close spot.)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              My TJ faves: frozen turkey meatballs, raisin/rosemary crackers, 100 calorie mini chocolate bars, cheddar cheese with bacon, fresh chopped veggie mix, cilantro salad dressing, Island Soyaki sauce, frozen soycatash and mini ice cream sandwiches and drumsticks. Excuse me, I think I have to go shopping.

            • Qitkat

              Thanks! I was considering asking the BKs their favorites.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I could have gone on and on. It took me many years to figure out how to shop there, but now I’m in the store every week. I can’t remember the exact name of those crackers, but they’re really good. My main complaint is that their prepared foods are very high in sodium, so watch the numbers.

            • Paula Pertile

              Love TJs. Although I do tend to buy stuff that doesn’t appeal to me later – lots of ‘interesting’ ethnic frozen things.

            • SRQkitten

              Cheddar cheese with bacon? How is it possible I have missed this?

              Favorites? Wine, of course. We don’t have one local (allegedly coming soon) but when I visit the nearest town with one, always come back stocked up

            • makeityourself

              Don’t forget the dark chocolate-coveted almonds and the bags of frozen pork potstickers.

            • decormaven

              TJ Tarte D’Alsace is a freezer staple.

            • 3boysful

              If you want to splurge calorie-wise, the frozen croissants that you thaw overnight then bake are pretty darned good, too. And the cocoa and sea salt covered almonds!

            • decormaven

              TJ anywhere is nuts when it comes to parking. I’ll park further way and tote it to car rather than jockey in that mess.

            • Qitkat

              Here we were all thinking that they didn’t know what they were doing in the new Denver location. But they really did pick a poorly sized site just for the prime real estate. Too bad, plenty of empty stores in shopping centers with oodles of parking would have been more optimal.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              It’s the rare TJ that doesn’t have a nightmare parking situation, but it’s worth it. I’m going to look for that Tarte D’Alsace next time I’m in the store.

            • decormaven

              It is the perfect thing with a salad and a glass of vin for an al fresco evening.

            • gabbilevy

              I might just join you! Cheers!

      • marlie

        You deserve that bottle of wine. Cheers!

      • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

        I saw open it and drink it straight out of the bottle!!! ;)

    • lexilexi

      In Palo Alto we are anxiously awaiting the arrival of TLo to the Bay Area. You will have some lovely weather in our area next week… but don’t forget… the evenings get coooooool.

      Have fun!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        They’d better bring their summer clothes to LA. It’s expected to be 90 at the Grove on Tuesday.

    • Frank_821

      I’m dead tired. Still not fully recovered from my partner Rick’s participation in the Top Austin Model finals. The runways went great. I can provide link to the youtube video I made

      Daniel had a mini collection that was pretty good. he seems to be re-grouping in terms of his POV. I am optimistic for his collection during Fashion week with the other PR allstars

      Alas we have to start this energy all over again. Rick has his first solo show during Austin Fashion week. Both he and daniel are using a broad range of model sizes. In fact they’re using the same plus size model. if any local BKs want to come I can forward the time. date and locale

      I’m happy for the gay uncles for their tour. But I must send a fie and pox to Emmett for hosting his event on the first weekend of May. LOL. It means Austin has been denied the pleasure of them. That time is when our Fashion week closes out. Oh well. I shall shed my tears and brave saunter on

      • Qitkat

        Congrats to your partner’s success. Austin Fashion Week sounds like fun.

      • RL McGruder

        Link, please!

        • Frank_821

          I tried posting the link. Not sure how long it will take for the link to be approved

          Meanwhile: go to youtube and search for this title: Top Austin Model Finale 2014: Pt 2+3

          Pt 1 is Daniel’s runway

          Parts 4+5, 6+7 and 8+9 are the other designers

      • formerlyAnon

        I’m going to go google the Top Austin Model finals & see if I can find your video. Yay! for all of this creative energy.

        • Frank_821

          go to youtube and search for this title: Top Austin Model Finale 2014: Pt 2+3

          Pt 1 is Daniel’s runway

          Parts 4+5, 6+7 and 8+9 are the other designers

          • Jacob Bowen

            His clothes are beautiful! I LOVE that one shoulder gold gown, DIVINE!

            • Frank_821

              Thank you. Last week was a nightmare getting ready. He lost a couple weeks with other priorities

              Since this was a modeling contest he wanted to as much as possible to dress each girl to her strengths

              We love that gold metallic as well. It’s an animal print if I recall

    • Musicologie

      The West Coast welcomes you! With the baby, I’m afraid I won’t be making the trip down from Santa Barbara. Enjoy LA, though!

      This week blew by, though yesterday was entirely different as I had a mild bout of mastitis. Other than that, a productive week. I sent a chapter draft to my advisor and started organizing another chapter, and the baby has cut his top front teeth (with the adjacent teeth coming soon! So fast!).

      • Qitkat

        Ugh, mastitis. Glad it was mild. Cheers for the productive week.

      • Violina23

        Ouch, I hope you feel better! Taking care of a baby was the reason I couldn’t make it to the NYC signing, so I feel your [emotional] pain as well. I was lucky to have a friend who made it, though, and she got her receipt signed for me, because TLo are awesome like that ;)

      • formerlyAnon

        Baby, mastitis & chapter draft? You are AMAZING.

        • decormaven

          Truly. Bowing down…

    • Qitkat

      By the middle of next week, I will be as famous as I’ll ever possibly be. NPR Morning Edition contacted me on facebook, after they liked a comment I posted on their feed, asking for memories of your favorite block. They wanted me to read the comment to be heard, on Monday or Tuesday’s show, for a segment on the topic. Woo-hoo! I was astonished, and yeah, pretty stoked about it :-) If anyone hears it, it will be the one about Tuscaloosa.

      Hubs and I celebrated our anniversary last Sunday at a fantabulous restaurant in Denver, Fruition. Every course was magazine photo perfection, and every bite was scrumptious. For a change I ate the vegetarian offering, which was so delicious, I kid you not, that if every veg meal was like that, I would give up meat forever.

      And I’m finally, finally clearing a room that has been on the painting list forever. I’m really in the mood to get it done this time.

      • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

        That’s amazing!

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Oh! That’s exciting! I’d be all geeked out, if I were you. :)

      • Kitten Mittons

        Congrats, that’s very exciting. I’ll try to listen in!

      • formerlyAnon

        I will SO be listening to hear you, hope they play it.

        Congrats on the anniversary, and the celebration!

      • kimmeister

        Happy anniversary! How many years?

        • Qitkat

          I find it hard to believe myself, but double fours.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Wow! Congratulations!

          • formerlyAnon

            You are both to be highly commended. Those kind of numbers take work & tenacity as well as affection.

          • decormaven

            Wonderful! We’ll hit 35 in December. Time flies…

          • SRQkitten

            Major congrats! May you have many more happy years together!

            (And thanks for the restaurant review in case we ever make it back to Denver)

      • decormaven

        Wow! Congrats- that is such a nice thing. Will have to listen; we were AL residents for a while in early days of our marriage.

        • 3boysful

          I went to law school in Tuscaloosa.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Big congrats, that is MAH-velous! Plus 44 years is inspirational. We will have 33 to our credit in September and gosh, it’s been a slog at times, but worth all the effort. I’m married to my best friend–with benefits!

      • SierraDelta

        Famous people don’t do their own painting, do they? Shouldn’t you have some terrified minions at your beck and call, hustling to do your bidding and taking notes for the juicy tell-all they’re planning to write about you?

        • Qitkat

          lol. We’ll see if Andy Warhol was right.
          The only minion I have is Mr Q. He don’t hustle, either!
          As for the juicy tell-all, well, we all have our secrets, but I’m taking mine to the grave ;-)

    • KT

      Next Door Lounge is right by where I live! Let’s party!

    • sleepycat

      I want to know which one is Daddy and which one is Pop. #socialscientist #overlyfriendly #westcoasterproblems Now to pick out what I am going to wear to your party because I missed the Philly signing.

      • formerlyAnon

        I am a pseudo social scientist and not a westcoaster at all, and that very question was the first thing through my mind.

        • decormaven

          My psychic powers say T is Daddy and Lo is Pop. My psychic powers also have been known to be amiss. Doesn’t matter- they’re the dear uncles to me.

          • formerlyAnon

            That was my gut assignment as well – but guesses are just that.

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

      Planning on flying a kite tomorrow while the LA wind keeps up. I am insisting on a monarch butterfly kite while my husband wants to make one with the time we do not have. Reading “Everyone Wants to Be Me or Do Me” and am playing bingo. Trailer park beginnings? Check. Change name as soon as you leave home? Checkeroo. Also am planning outfit for book signing and remaining as anonymous as possible because I am scared I will get side eye and, “…oh, that bitter kitten…”

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        We are Bitter Kittens. No one gives us the side eye and lives to tell the tale.

      • formerlyAnon

        If I’m lucky enough to get to go to a signing, I think I’ll wear a name tag with my screen name. Because I’d probably be shy to talk to people but that will break the ice. Frankly, if someone finds my incessant commenting presence annoying or tedious, I suspect that as a BK invested enough to come to a signing, they’ll be polite about it.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Oh, fA, I would never find your commenting annoying or tedious. I think all BKs should be required to wear their screen names to the signings. I’m still deciding if I will go on Tuesday.

          • decormaven

            Please go! If I were able to be present at the West Coast signings, I would be honored to meet you and other WC BKs. How are things going now post-store?

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Show of hands. How many of you are going to be at the Grove?

              Things are going so-so. Thanks for asking. I’ve definitely gone through a period of mourning and it took a while to get down to the business of job hunting. I’m really terrible at networking, but I’m forcing myself to reach out. I had my first real job interview this week. I had a feeling going in that the salary would be too low, but I needed the practice. I wish I could just pick a job, show up and say, “Here I am. Where should I sit?”

              I also finally met with the gentleman for whom I hope to consult. He’s still figuring out what he wants to accomplish, so there will be more meetings. I can do whatever he wants, he just has to decide what that is.

            • decormaven

              Keep turning over the cards Your job is under one of them.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              It is a terrible process. Why can’t you just say “trust me, I can do this” and they give you the job?

        • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

          “incessant commenting presence” – that is exactly what I am afraid of! If I had to boil down my job, it’s “customer service for attorneys”. Incessant commenting (and complaining about lack of royal jewels) on fashion helps between giving sugar showers for attorneys.

          • decormaven

            I have a feeling that this site serves as a coping device for many BKs to make it through the work day, no matter where we toil.

            • @Biting Panda

              This site is my break room/water cooler. I’d rather grab a coffee and quick laugh with y’all than any of my coworkers. I see them enough : )

            • Qitkat

              I have NO co-workers, so seconding break room/water cooler. Better than any I’ve had at any job anywhere anyway. Although sometimes I’d trade 24/7 with the spouse for any of y’alls jobs.

            • formerlyAnon

              Hahaha. The retirement years are a huge adjustment. (Though I’d have liked it if my marriage had made it so far, no mistake.) My dad died at 61, a year after he had retired. Unexpectedly, but part of the reason he’d retired early was because he seemed unikely to make old bones. One of the statements my mom made, more than once, which really struck me was “And we’d just started to figure out how to live together with both of us home all the time.”

            • SierraDelta

              Anonymous fabulousity is a talent only recognized by those of us who share it.

            • SRQkitten

              This site (well actually its forerunner) was my sanity saver while I was stuck in the dissertation trenches. Now with work I don’t get to visit as much as I used to but still love it and my fellow BKs for being such a great online community.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Work days and not-working-days. Extraordinary little oasis of calm, intelligence and humour.

            • SierraDelta

              Hear, hear!

          • formerlyAnon

            I still depend on this site, but during my mom’s final year of declining health it really was invaluable.

        • 3boysful

          I would love to meet you at a signing! (Although sometimes I wonder if I really do want to meet people because you have an image in your mind of frequent commentors and you just know it will be totally off!)

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I have met many, many people from the internet and they have almost all been funnier, more clever and prettier than they present themselves online. And a couple of total dicks. But mostly funny, clever and pretty.

        • decormaven

          I think the upvote is as far as some may wish to voice online, while others are more comfortable with a written comment. Writing is a natural part of my personal expression, so that is what comes out.

        • SierraDelta

          If I were lucky enough to meet you, fA, I’d be delighted to engage in incessant commenting. We could have entire conversations in eyebrow semaphore, and T and L would fall at our feet in awe when they discovered that we could communicate volumes with just four eyebrows.

          • formerlyAnon

            The element of ridiculous silliness in this scenario tickles me to death.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      My back yard is finally free of the winter’s dog poop! It only took me seven days. Now I can relax my neck from staring at the ground so much, ensuring I get every last turd.

      • formerlyAnon

        Life is SO glamorous sometimes, no?

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

          I felt just like J-Lo.

          • KirFla

            Every time I do this I mutter “Just keeping it real.”

          • formerlyAnon

            The image of J-Lo clearing her yard of dog poop made me chuckle.

    • PastryGoddess

      Hanging out in Shenandoah for a weekend of camping. See you guys on Sunday.

      • Qitkat

        Shenandoah National Park? I used to live there!
        Hug a tree for me!

      • unpious

        Oh that sounds lovely. I used to live in Winchester. Now I’m in NH, and we still have tons of snow. Camping is a month away at least.

        • 3boysful

          Proud Handley HS grad here!

          • unpious

            In the Shenandoah Valley
            ‘Neath the sun’s warm glow
            Stands the home of Handley High School
            Finest place we know!

            • 3boysful

              1978!

      • PastryGoddess

        It was awesome and I hurt.

        Trees were hugged and peed on in various order

    • marlie

      Happy Friday, kittens. It’s been a crazy busy week, and I’m going to have to work through at least part of the weekend, but tonight I’m putting my feet up, cracking open a beer, and knitting. And ice cream. Can’t forget the ice cream.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        You deserve it!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Beer and knitting, I can’t say I’ve ever tried the combo. It sounds better and better the more I say it, though.

        • Paula Pertile

          What are you knitting?

          • Kitten Mittons

            Me? Nothing at the moment. Though about everyone I know is pregnant, so I suppose a baby blanket wouldn’t hurt. I know I have some beer around here somewhere.

            Actually, I prefer to crochet. But, I think Marlie is knitting something, yes?

            • Paula Pertile

              Right – the comment didn’t go where I meant it to. :~)
              Baby blankets are always good. I’ve been working on little boxes and bowls, and super old fashioned dish cloths – hey they sell! (etsy)
              Boy, a beer sounds good right now.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Neat! I love homemade things. Beer for all!

      • @Biting Panda

        I’m at work now. You see what I’m doing. : )

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      It’s been just awful here at work. Today was day 1 of rolling out a hospital-wide, brand new computer system. I was sort of prepared for glitches and things going slowly; it’s the cast of thousands who are here to help, with their neon vests and manic grins, that have been giving me hypertension. Plus every time you go to one of them for help–and admittedly they DO know the system–they end the encounter with, “Have an EPIC day!” (EPIC is the name of the new system.) If I get through the day without throttling anyone it will be miraculous. Only 3 more hours to go……then it’s home, and a large glass of Grand Marnier on the rocks.

      • Pennymac

        Welcome to the new EMR world. I hate mine.But it gets easier!

      • embers618

        Anytime its a hospital-wide, brand new anything you know it’s going to be a little bumpy, but EMRs are a steep learning curve for a LOT of people. Enjoy that drink!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        My sister’s hospital system rolled out their new computer system last summer;it took months of preparation, training, etc. and she survived, and in the end the system roll-out went really well. Hope you’re now sitting home with that large glass of Grand Marnier!

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Not yet, bbb–it’s 11:15 PM and I’m still waiting for my relief to arrive. Grrrr….. I’m going to need a bigger glass.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            GRRR-in this case, I think you need to plan on keeping the entire bottle nearby

      • formerlyAnon

        God I feel for you.

      • Jacob Bowen

        Sounds like you’re working with middle schoolers. “Epic” was last year’s word of choice.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I feel sorry for them. Saying “Have an EPIC day” 400 times a day must be soul-destroying. And I feel very, very sorry for you having to hear it!

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Of course, the assumption is that they have souls to begin with…..honestly, they look and act like automatons.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Might be a condition of employment.

      • decormaven

        Gotta love that corporate salutation. Hope you consoled yourself with a wee drinkie when you got home. I believe you are headed to NYC during the Uncles’ soiree- keep that thought front and center as you move through the next “EPIC” days.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          Yes! A good mantra to remember!

          • decormaven

            Plus you’ll be representing all of us East Coast BKs who can’t make it to the NYC soiree. We charge you with this task.

    • GorgeousThings

      Dear god, this week dragged! I need a drink, darlings. I have a bottle of Sauvignon Blanc open, I have “Mud” streaming on Netflix, and Sunday I am going to park my (relatively) skinny arse in front of the tube to watch Game of Thrones. Love you all!

      • Coolekat

        Yes Game of Thrones!

      • SRQkitten

        We finally joined HBOworld to get Game of Thrones. Game of thrones AND Mad Men, doesn’t hardly get better, no?

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      I’m now drinking my wine, watching “Supernatural” (don’t judge), and paying bills. Just another fun night in Crazytown.

      • formerlyAnon

        Anyone who doesn’t have those nights is either devoid of responsibilities or lies.

    • unpious

      I spent all day chipping ice out of one of the freezers at work, after playing Freezer Tetris to get everything to fit into the other freezer. I am awesome at Freezer Tetris, but I am so sore and tired and I think I sprained my thumb. I can’t even drink, because I have to be up at 5 am to head back in. But Sunday night…oh, Sunday night, there is some cucumber vodka with my name all over it.

      • Qitkat

        Freezer Tetris! I am so gonna steal that one. I’m pretty good at Dishwasher Tetris myself.

      • formerlyAnon

        Cucumber vodka sounds dangerously seductive.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        What does one mix with cucumber vodka?

        Also, when living in a tiny, tiny apartment, I was really good at Storage Closet Tetris. I have since moved into a house with an attic and a basement and the skills are atrophied.

        • unpious

          St. Germain, soda water, and a splash of sour.

          I currently live in a tiny apartment, but here I don’t play Tetris, I play 52 Card Pickup.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            That sounds lovely!

    • Violina23

      I’m in the middle of my second week on a new nutrition/weight-loss plan that basically means practically NO CARBS. And I’m a carb-o-holic. I seriously think I went through withdrawal, I was feeling sick, having headaches and bitchy as hell. But I lost a lot of weight the first week, I feel a lot better now, and I have a personal health coach to help me make this not just a weight loss thing, but a lifestyle thing. I was never skinny, and 2 pregnancies were not kind to me, so my attitude is: “Time to take back my health”.

      But DAMN, it’s been really hard to avoid temptation. Send me strength, Kittens! I know it’ll be worth it, but the path ahead feels so long and endless.

      • Pennymac

        Go to your local produce department and weigh out your weight loss in potatoes. Then bag them up and carry them around the store while you shop. Instant continued diet motivation!

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          Is it extra motivation if you hate potatoes?

          • formerlyAnon

            If you hate potatoes, I feel deep sympathy for you. I know you don’t need it, but I feel it anyway. (I am of Irish & Polish extraction so I was probably genetically programmed to love potatoes as I do.)

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I know, I know. It’s the weird thing I have to confess when meeting new people. It’s a texture thing. I like about 15 french fries when they’re really hot with lots of salt and ketchup, and the really crispy bits of hash browns.

            • Violina23

              That’s OK, I get a lot of slack for HATING peanut butter, even though I have no allergy. It is just the most foul substance in the world to me, and I have NO idea why.

            • shirab

              You should see the looks I get when I say I don’t like coffee.

            • formerlyAnon

              That would be weirder if coffee really did taste as good as it smells. (I love coffee, but I love the smell more.)

          • Violina23

            I wish I hated potatoes! would make my life a lot easier… hehehe :)

            • formerlyAnon

              I know. I love food. Pretty much as a blanket statement. It makes dieting a challenge.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Getting a coach to encourage you is a great idea-and it sounds as if you’re already seeing results-that’s an incentive to keep on!

        • Violina23

          I’m hoping that’ll be the biggest difference… someone to keep me accountable, keep encouraging me, and talk me off the ledge when I feel hopeless and like giving up. I have a LONG way to go, which makes the whole thing seem dauntless. And the coach happens to be my neighbor, so we can talk a lot in person.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Several years ago i worked with a personal trainer at the gym I belonged to, and it really did make a difference.

      • formerlyAnon

        Go you! Sometimes it takes extreme measures to make some serious progress in a reasonable amount of time.

      • Kitten Mittons

        You can do it! That’s great, and I applaud your efforts.

        I signed up to a fitness account on Instagram and so I saw little motivations each day. Something small that helped me keep taking little steps forward.

        • Violina23

          Some of the mothers at my daughter’s pre-school ran the Princess Half-Marathon in Disney last February… now I’m not sure I can do a half-marathon specifically (I am flat-footed and I get shin splints from hell), but I was looking at them and I was like “I want to be that healthy, I want to be that fit, I want to do something awesome like that”. I think positive motivations to be healthy are a lot better than negative motivations (e.g. being afraid of disease, death, etc). I definitely want the positive!!

          • Kitten Mittons

            I absolutely agree. And you CAN do half-marathons, if you want to. I’m doing my first 10k in two weeks, and I can’t believe that I’m able to do it. That’s enough for me, I don’t really have the desire to do a half-marathon, either. But knowing that it’s possible keeps me moving.

            And that moment when other people start to notice your efforts is very gratifying. You might even motivate someone else! Just think of where you’ll be in a month or two, how you’ll feel, all the energy you’ll have. You can do it!

            I’m sure your trainer had plenty of ideas and advice, so I’ll only offer one more thing. I set a specific goal of running a 5k, and I signed up about 5 or 6 months in advance. That was a huge motivator for me, partly because I’m cheap and I didn’t want to lose the money :) But it really helped me.

            • Anna

              Whut. Not only are you a super cool BK, a Sunny fan and now I’m reading you are also a runner? May I please be your new best friend?!

              Good luck on the upcoming 10K! My first ever was a couple of weeks ago and it was a blast! Although the St.Paddy’s theme and green beer at the finishers’ party might’ve had something to do with it. May you have a fantastic race and a better race photo than I did (mine was hideous *cringe*).

            • Kitten Mittons

              Ha! It’s funny, because I don’t think of myself as a runner. That’s how un – runnerish I am. In high school all my friends ran cross-country and track. They told me to join and I never would. Not only did I think I couldn’t do it, but it just seemed so pointless.

              I started running to lose weight for my wedding, quit during pregnancy and nursing, and am back at it. I admit I love it. It’s mama’s quiet time.

              Congrats to you for your first 10k as well! I’m really excited, but now oddly nervous about the photo. I’ll try to strike a pose.

              Thanks for the compliments, coming from other BK’S they mean a lot.

            • Anna

              I hear you, it took me awhile before I considered myself a runner as well. Especially at the beginning, I would always be like, “Oh, I’m not really a runner, I’m just trying to run for half an hour without stopping.”

              But, I joined a club in the new year and my training partner convinced me to sign up for not 1, but 2 races, so that’s when I started to become more comfortable with the label for myself. And as that saying goes, “If you run, you’re a runner!” :-)

            • Kitten Mittons

              Has the club been beneficial? I’ve thought about that. Not sure if I can make it work with my schedule, but it would be a nice way to meet some new people.

            • Anna

              It definitely has, I’m not always able to join the group runs due to my schedule as well but on those brutally cold days this winter (I live in Toronto, Canada), the team environment and group support has really helped. Plus: safety in numbers. My friend/training partner was already a member of the group and we also get together a couple of times a week.

              Depending on where you live, there are groups where it’s free to join them for a Saturday or Sunday morning group run and if you join them enough times, they charge a small fee to be a member. Since I’m not always able to commit, I joined the group at my local specialty running store where it’s always free to join the group at any time (this particular group has a Wednesday night and Sunday morning group run) so maybe check out a store in your area and see what they have to offer.

            • Kitten Mittons

              I think I will, at least see what’s out there.
              Toronto? Will you ever get to see spring?

            • Anna

              It’s finally happening! It was absolutely freezing during the St. Paddy’s race but I think I’m going to be able to wear shorts for this one coming up. I was able to get some practice runs with my race day outfit last week and I’ve been checking the forecast obsessively. Fingers crossed!

            • Kitten Mittons

              I hate to tell you that’s it’s been in the 70’s here for a week or two (here = New Orleans). But in August you’ll be able to get revenge when it’s 165 degrees here with 327% humidity.

            • Anna

              Oh, that sounds absolutely lovely. It’s been up and down here, it was warmer the earlier part of last week, and then it was cold and rainy, then extremely windy (my worst nightmare for race day) and yesterday was good.

              It does get hot and humid here in the summer, but yes I’m sure it can’t compare to New Orleans. I’ve only ever been to Florida once as a teenager, we went in the middle of August and the only other time I’d experienced heat and humidity that was worse than that was when I went to visit family in the Philippines. Both scenarios were like extra heat and humidity on top of heat and humidity, with extra sides of both.

            • Kitten Mittons

              That sums it up pretty well.

              You’ve been to the Philippines?! That’s pretty awesome.

            • Anna

              I was born there and my family moved to Canada when I was six. Still have a lot of family on my dad’s side there. It was a good experience, but admittedly a big culture shock (in addition to the weather and the uh, insects, I’d never encountered before lol).

            • Kitten Mittons

              Yeah, growing up in Colorado, and being terrified of spiders, I was scared of possible monster spider encounters when I moved down here. I totally wasn’t prepared for the influx of june bugs, love bugs, termites (wtf!), mosquitos, mosquito hawks, crickets, and cockroaches that I would have to worry about.

              Oddly, I’ve only seen the occasional wolf spider down here, which are harmless. Still freaky, but harmless.

            • Anna

              Eeek! I have a terrible phobia of anything with more than four legs and two eyes. I don’t believe the saying that they’re more scared of me than I am of them.

              And ha, I grew up in the Rockies too, but north in Calgary.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Hooray Rockies! I love the mountains and still marvel that I ended up somewhere so flat.

              But, drive-through daiquiris, y’know?

            • Anna

              I’m a big city gal and love living in Toronto, but do miss the mountains.

              “Drive-through daiquiris,” I have not heard of this before but sounds marvellous!

            • Kitten Mittons

              It’s funny (in a funny-depressing way?), because they can’t put the straw in the cup for you. This, clearly, prevents people from driving and drinking.

            • Anna

              Do you get this from a particular restaurant or is it a New Orleans thing? Either way, I’m very fascinated! The only time I get daiquiris is either on vacation or during those precious 4 months of summer when the patios are open.

            • Kitten Mittons

              They are everywhere, little drive-through places, like a McDonald’s for booze. Definitely a NOLA thing.

            • Anna

              UM, that sounds amazing. Yet another reason to visit NOLA, it’s definitely up there on my list of travel destinations.

            • Kitten Mittons

              They are unique down here, that’s for sure.

              You have to tell me if you visit. I have aaalllllllll the suggestions on what to do/where to eat.

            • Anna

              Sounds fabulous! I will totally take you up on that. I run because I love to eat, and prefer recommendations from locals rather than touristy spots.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Have you read the Oatmeal’s comic about why he loves to run? If not, I think you’d like it.

            • Anna

              OMG, YES. The Blerch!!!

            • Kitten Mittons

              BLEEERRCHHH!!
              Are…are we the same person?

            • Anna

              We do have a lot of eerie similarities!

          • formerlyAnon

            I’ve never been athletic, but I’ve exercised since my 20s (with, yeah, some serious backsliding, sometimes for years.) Except for stretching and leisurely hiking, no exercise has ever been particularly enjoyable, but I am living proof that even if you never really love the exercise, you can become absolutely addicted to the way it makes you feel afterwards. For me the benefits are both mental/emotional and physical. If you just keep coming back to it, trying different things, and coming back to it every time it slides out of the routine, I think anyone can come to see it as something to look forward to. If I did . . .

      • Jacob Bowen

        You stole my update!!! I feel your pain! I am a PASTA-HOLIC so these past weeks without it (and without ANY pop) has been killing me! Enjoy some wine tonight (I am!)

        • formerlyAnon

          Well Yay for you! Given the utter crap that middle schoolers eat by the metric ton, it must be difficult to remove temptation!

          You’re young, compared to me, so, as a life-long weight control tip, let me suggest you try to learn to dislike sweet beverages. It’ll take a while, either cold turkey or if you do it gradually by cutting everything with more and more club soda/water over time. (Ask for one of those machines that make carbonated water as a birthday/Christmas gift. I have a sodastream brand & love mine, though I don’t turn the bubbly water into soda.) You’ll backslide occasionally, but it is so much easier to avoid sweet beverages than carbs on a plate. Plus, at least you get to chew pasta!

          (I also believe that diet drinks undermine weight control, but they’re such a helpful crutch that it took me 30 years to give ‘em up. And I still have one every 4 or 5 months.)

          • demidaemon

            The one thing I learned from Cameron Diaz is how health destroying diet drinks are. They actually kill off all the good bacteria in your digestive system. Not good. If you are going to slide, it’s best to drink the full sugar ones.

            I too have attempted the giving up sweet drinks thing. I can now drink tea without adding sugar, but i am still a major soda-holic. I think I’ll be better able to break that habit when I only have to worry about myself again.

        • Violina23

          Good luck to you! Have you ever cooked with Spaghetti Squash before? Since I’m not a big veggie person and vegetables are a BIG part of this plan, so I’ve been experimenting with making noodles from things like zucchini (with a spiralizer tool)and spaghetti squash — The latter has a bit of a crunch to it, and the flavor is a bit sweet (to me at least), but it makes a good pasta substitute while the real thing is off limits. I made a recipe with tomatoes, basil and feta cheese and it was delicious! I also found some recipes for italian casseroles that look good too :)

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I like spaghetti squash – it’s a very good way to sneak vegetables into the diet.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I like spaghetti squash, too, but it’s a bitch to cut into. I found that a few seconds in the microwave will soften it enough to get the knife in there. Oh, and don’t put the seeds and other stuff in your disposal. Had to call the plumber the first–and last–time I did that.

      • decormaven

        Hang in there! Find some “safe” food that’s allowed on your present regimen- something that doesn’t trigger a crave- and have that in the p.m. Keep the h20 flowing, and know you’re on the road to a healthier, more fit you.

      • 3boysful

        When I was on a no-carb diet, they recommended that if you HAD to drink (duh!), you choose vodka, because it has the least carbs. WHich maes no sense to me as it comes from potatoes, which are starch=carbs. But whatever. Mixes nicely with Fresca. FYI

      • Anna

        You can do it. I went through the same thing a year ago where I just decided enough was enough and I didn’t want to make anymore excuses. I was athletic as a teen and in my early 20s but fell off the wagon big time when going back to school, relationships and just life in general happened.

        I’m an avid runner now but when I started, I couldn’t even run around the block, nevermind a mile. Start slowly by walking and weaving a bit of running in, and build from there. A year later and I’m over halfway to my goal weight, crossed the finish line of my first 10K a couple of weeks ago and will be toeing the line at my second one next week. So truly, it is possible. Keep going, you sound like you’re doing great!

        • Kitten Mittons

          Excellent progress! That’s really fantastic.

          • Anna

            Thanks! I questioned my sanity many, MANY times as I picked the best winter ever to train outdoors for spring races, but it toughened me up and in hindsight was worth it.

    • Isabel

      Enjoy the other coast. Maybe the earth be still when you are there (no earthquakes, I mean.)

    • GeoDiva

      Its been a really long week and it is only 3pm right now, but I have a massage scheduled at 5! I can’t complain about the weather since I live in Hawaii, but I sure wish I could get to the Mainland to join all the Bitter Kitten fun. Aloha!

    • Pennymac

      I just finished binge watching True Detective because its free to on-demand HBO this weekend. I got a raging case of food poisoning from my birthday dinner celebration on Wednesday; absolutely no bueno!

      On the lighter side, the warm weather is greening up the mountain foliage practically by the hour. I am ingesting spoonfuls of local honey to combat allergy season;this make me very happy, having a reason to savor mouthfuls of golden deliciousness. And no backwoods politics or creepy old white guy office hijinks this week. Yay, me!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Sorry about the food poisoning. That’s never fun.

        What did you think of True Detective?

        • Pennymac

          I think I may have unrealistic expectations when it comes to show finales. I thought it was brilliantly acted, and fizzled plot wise at the end. I believe Matthew McConaughey is a died in the wool nut job as well as a master thespian. And I think that Woody Harrelson does weird things with the set of his jaw/mouth when he is “emoting”. LOL

          • Jacob Bowen

            Interesting, I actually enjoyed the finale the most, because it actually gave me what I was waiting for after agonizing through some of the earlier episodes (not that they were bad, some were a bit slow for me, and some were a bit too dark for me). I ended up LOVING the series though.

          • Kitten Mittons

            I loved the whole thing, start to finish. But you’re right, Harrelson does emote with his jaw. Too funny.

            My husband reminded me that he got to talk to Harrelson briefly while they were filming here (which we didn’t know at the time). I never see famous people.

    • JMWilder

      Anyone still watching Under the Gunn? I need someone to commiserate with. There is nothing I hate worse in competition shows than getting down to four contestants and then NOT SENDING ANYONE HOME. It seems like Project Runway has done that with alarming frequency in the past few seasons. What I don’t get is, from a producer’s standpoint, WHY have a final four? What’s the advantage? Is it desperate producer manipulation when things aren’t going the way they want?

      As for the clothes, I liked the idea of Sam’s more than the reality of it. Shan’s shredded leather looked cheap to me, but I really liked the fabric underneath. Asha suffered the same problem as Sam: the idea was better than the execution. Her top looked like it didn’t fit properly, but watching the model walk away with the fabric fluttering behind her was a nice allusion to Falcon’s wings. Oscar’s cloak was better than what was underneath, but it conveyed the drama and power of the superhero theme better than anyone else.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        I am still watching but for the life of me I don’t know why. It is pretty awful. I didn’t see the everyone-stays twist coming this week but it was so obvious if anyone was going home, it would be one of Mondo’s. Neither Asha nor Sam’s were good enough to stay. Oscar turns out consistently interesting and well made clothes. It annoyed me to no end when the judges said his gown was matronly last week. I like Shan and generally likes what he makes. Can’t stand Asha. I am neutral on Sam. I never remember his clothes after the show.

        • Jackie4g

          I agree with everything you just said. Completely!

          • helene

            me too. would have been delighted to see asha go home. i can’t get past how unkind she was to natalya who seemed to at least have a point of view. i know what JMW is saying about the flutter and Falcon, but it was damn ugly in my mind. And SGRena, i also don’t know why i watch but i dutifully turn it on or tape every week. Was anyone else creeped out by mondo’s shorts? and how he kept grabbing Asha’s and Sam’s legs/thighs? He was pretty nice to Sam though. Oscar/Nick for the win!

        • conniemd

          I’m not sure why I’m watching it, but at least the drama is toned down significantly from the drama of Project Runway the last several years. Sam’s confessional didn’t ring sincere to me.

          • JMWilder

            I agree about the drama. It feels like there’s more attention being paid to the clothes. That might be because they’re receiving two critiques in the workroom (one from Tim, one from the mentor). As for Sam’s confession, it looked like the producers (or someone) sat Sam down and said, “All right. It’s time for that sad story you’ve been holding onto.” I think the confession didn’t sound sincere/natural because it probably wasn’t. Not that I’m suggesting his story was made up, but that the timing of it was artificial.

            • Carrps

              That’s what I thought. Yes, he went through the trauma, but describing it after the fact, he wasn’t able to conjure the emotions. And as much as I empathize with his pain, I just HATE these overly emotional speeches that have nothing to do with the competition. Ugh.

      • BrooklynBomber

        They should just make it official: final four. But then I suppose they’d just have the shocking “twist” of keeping 5!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Just sit right down and we can commiserate together. PR has pulled that horse manure about who is going to the finale too many times.
        I do like the fact that no matter that the judges keep berating Oscar for not producing looks that are young/trendy/whateve that his ability to produce well-constructed garments has kept him in the competition, and he has managed to avoid the trash talking as well.
        I will never get the judges’ fawning over Asha;she might have the occasional creative idea, but her fabric selection and execution leave a lot to be desired.

        On a more somber note, I winced when Sam was talking about having once considered ending it all. We have good friends who lost a child through suicide a few years ago, and that was absolutely the saddest, heartbreaking memorial service ever; I have shuddered at the thought or suicide since.

        • helene

          yes, but when Sam thanked his mom publicly for saving his life even if she didn’t know it, that was pretty great.

          • JMWilder

            I always thought big confessions like that were weird! It was sweet that he thanked his mom. It was very moving, but I feel like he should have told his mom first. What mother wants to learn her son tried to commit suicide on a reality show?

            • helene

              i see your point completely. i think i was coming from the point of view of: 1) i doubted it was a huge surprise to her, i suspected she might be aware of his unhappiness (i could be way off base on that one, sometimes your own position in your own family colors your opinions); and 2) my pollyanna tendency – this was good cause he was alive, worse if she saw it after he had succeeded in ending his life. Really, i think i’m just a sucker for mom/son stuff!

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            It was pretty great, and it’s great that Sam got through a really bad time in his life.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I am still watching in a train-wreck sort of way. I am sad that I no longer love Mondo for he is priggish. Anya, while a far better mentor than I would have thought, remains completely un-self-aware (complaining about unfinished garments on the runway? Please!) and has shown alarming mean girl tendencies by joining with Mondo and ganging up on Nick.

        As for the designers…I like Oscar, mostly because I like Oscar. Sam seems okay – but then he got the “I haven’t ever told anyone this” bullying confessional. Asha is following the critiques and working to please the judges. And I can’t remember the 4th.

        I want Tim to go back to being Tim. There have been flashes of him, but I think he just needs to stop with the TV. Or re-evaluate what he’s doing.

      • guest2visits

        I felt they would hold onto all 4 (OF COURSE) but only Shan & Oscar deserve to be there imo. I would’ve had a hard time deciding who to keep or auf with the choice of Sam or Asha. I’ve never understood the charm of Sam’s style, and this last challenge was confirmation of that. Not in the least super-heroine, or strong, or even adult looking. A very junior top and bottom that reminded me too much of clown doll. The fabric choice was too casual and inexpensive looking to achieve a character with distinction or importance or a thread of direction. This was a look to hang at the beach, or maybe these were just pajamas. Just no super hero vibe whatsoever. Not unsympathetic to his past, but I just couldn’t with the lone corner of his top painted ‘dark’.
        Not as bad, but not at all a final 3 look either – Asha seemed to borrow from Shan (the pants), and the construction was definitely not what it should’ve been. The top was a mess in the back, and the belt didn’t sit right in front. The idea may have been there but the execution was not. Maybe I’m wrong – but I also got the impression Asha was trolling for help from everyone left in the workroom.
        I thought Shan’s met the challenge best. I agree with the judges; edgy, cool, sexy. It looked like he considered the comic book connection very carefully.
        Loved Oscar’s cloak – thought initially it was a dramatic black dress over tight black pants – I kinda wish it was. His jacket was too fussy and took away from the end design. I fear the judges will overlook his work and right him off as dated if he doesn’t figure out when enough is enough. Where’s a mentor when you need one?

        • helene

          I liked Jaime Alexander’s defense of Sam’s work. as she said (I think it was her), i’d go out and buy those pants tomorrow. i thought the blue and lavender contrast was interesting if a bit clashy. Asha’s look could be found in Target or Kohl’s. Shan’s shredded look interesting, and the underdress lovely, but for me something was wrong with teh proportions (just a tad longer?)

          • JMWilder

            When I’m watching PR or UG, the mister and I always make fun of the judges whose highest praise is “I would wear that” or “I’d buy that.” Critique shouldn’t be based on whether or not something fits into a judge’s personal wardrobe. Rare is the judge on the show who will say, “This is not something that fits into my narrow, personal aesthetic, but it is absolutely fabulous.”

            • helene

              ahhh, i interpreted that as the judge’s way of saying, ‘That’s fabulous!” i reallly did love Sam’s pants. Of course, i’m often laughing at what teh judges themselves are wearing/look like. What did you may of RR’s turban? she’s a stunning woman, but i felt it looked very affected. (which is not a surprise considering the field they’re all in, consider Tim’s signature shirt/tie/suit fabric combos, or mondo’s attire…i really prefer shan or oscar’s receding to let their work take center stage rather than compete with it. though i do like the nods to their model’s look, like oscar’s ribbon aroudn the hat…)

            • JMWilder

              I approved of the turban. If only because there needs to be more turbans in America. I think you’re right that it looked affected, but you’re also right that that’s kind of expected in fashion. At least RR’s not getting out of hand like Mondo. I think you have to earn that level of eccentricity. He’s visually a focus-puller. You can’t NOT look at him when he’s on camera. He should tone it down and let his mentees have the spotlight.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I commented on that regarding Alyssa Milano. She said in an interview that that was the criteria she used when judging, not whether it was original or fashion forward. The commentariat here seemed to think that was OK.

          • guest2visits

            I saw more of Sam’s design on other sites, like one where the leg is semi-rolled, & the other is not – the effect makes the outfit even more like pj’s – casual to the point where it’s almost too sloppy for Coachella. Are these jamys even a new look, ? Because this looks like some 80s-90s rehash to me (Sam’s aesthetic). The pants are still wearable, in a very casual way, I will give you that. The top is absurd to me – if the fabric and the color choices were completely different it may have had an impact, but Sam seems to favor these bland out of whack prints and fabrics that look like cheap finds in the bargain barrel.
            However, there were two challenges where I think his work was memorable – the steam punk, post apocalypse girl; really good. The other might be the unconventional materials-summer look where he made a purse from a pineapple.

      • mmebam

        My money is on Shan for the win.

        • helene

          i prefer oscar but i wouldn’t complain about Shan.
          Sam should be encouraged further. Asha would be a shanda. (a sin, a crime)

          • MoHub

            Oscar won’t win this, since his mentor, Nick, is from the Bravo era. I wouldn’t mind Shan winning, but my money is on Asha since she has connections to Marchesa.

      • Agnes Gooch

        I officially gave up two episodes ago. I had already cancelled the Vogue subscription, so I felt like, if I felt that strongly about the bullying, I shouldn’t give them the viewership (and from what I’ve read in everyone’s comments, boy, am I glad I haven’t watched).

        But, hey, how about that SELF Magazine editor and publisher getting axed? That was a welcome development, though it seems strange that none of the press (or press releases) about their departures mentions the tutu debacle. Of course, with Anna Wintour herself driving the train on these firings, I probably shouldn’t hold out hope that she will get fired, too. But I can dream. The day she’s gone is the day I restart the Vogue subscription.

        In the meantime, any recommendations for a thinking woman’s fashion/lifestyle magazine?

    • embers618

      It’s been a long and emotionally tiring several weeks, which is weird since none of the emotional things happened to me, but sometimes being the support person is tiring, too. Anyway, tonight is my first real chance to just sit and take a breath. So, wine and some delicious snacks, and hopefully a few hours of TV filled with pretty people and mildly entertaining plots.

      • formerlyAnon

        Being the support person IS tiring. No question.

      • decormaven

        Got my PhD in support person; be as gentle to yourself as you can during the toughest time. When the person in question doesn’t need to lean as much, you’ll need to be balanced within yourself when the weight is lifted, or you’re liable to tip over. Hang in there.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Being supportive is exhausting! I read a great thing a while ago on what I think they called circles of support – how you can support in, but dump out. So the person in the crisis can dump on whoever, but the people who are supporting in need to have another circle around that to dump on and get support from. Wine, snacks, a bit of a whinge, whatever you need.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Sounds like another version of the classic kicking the dog. Someone dumps on you because they supported another person. Then you turn around and dump it on someone else who is supporting you. I certainly wouldn’t want to be the last ring in that support circle.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I think I explained it badly! In the original article the author talked about how when she was having treatment for cancer, her husband was supporting her, and then someone told him that they couldn’t visit her in hospital because it was all so awful and they just weren’t coping. Her husband then had to support both her with her illness and the person who wasn’t coping. That person was further out of the circle, so they shouldn’t dump in on the circle.

        • embers618

          I read that thing! I forgot about it, because exhaustion brain, but yes! Thanks for the reminder :) I do have good support people, I just forget to tell them what I need, and of course they can’t tell I need them until I’m so beyond myself that it’s super obvious.

      • Isabel

        Watch out for the emotional vampires. Don’t let them take over. If they need more support, you might have to recommend a counselor. Take care of you.

    • Paula Pertile

      My 14 year old cat had his few remaining teeth pulled (rotten), AND he got totally shaved (dreadlocks). He has some head and feet hair and a pompom on the end of his tail, that’s it. Poor guy. He’s doing great, but embarrassed to go outside.

      Bought a lot of ‘reference’ to draw (I draw food) – lots of chocolate. Lots. So I’m stocked up for art stuff, as well as bad moods and TV!

      GAME OF THRONES!!

      • Kitten Mittons

        Poor kitten. At least he doesn’t need mittens.

        I will be in front of the TV as well, but with Capt. Crunch and Mad Men instead. Enjoy!

        • Paula Pertile

          Does Mad Men start on Sunday too? Have to go look it up …
          Thanks about the kitty.

          • Kitten Mittons

            No, I think it starts next Sunday. I’m catching up on last season.

          • Pennymac

            Sunday April 13!

            • SRQkitten

              Thanks for that update! I had it in my head somehow that both were starting on the same date. Probably a good thing they’re not as it would be a significant increase in my tv viewing patterns. What would I do without my fellow bitter kittens to keep me on track?

        • Pennymac

          Careful with that Capt. Crunch. Its hell on the roof of your mouth!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Mafia guy: You come to me and ask me to kill a man I do not know. Now I ask you, why should I kill this “Count Chocula”?

            Captain Crunch: Because that son of a bitch has been spreading lies! My cereal does not cut the roof of your mouth!

            Family Guy has its applications. How about that?

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            But it’s so worth it!

      • Qitkat

        I’d love to come over and cuddle your kitty, and help you eat chocolate.

        • Paula Pertile

          I’m not good at sharing chocolate. Thanks all the same though.
          (said in fun)

          • Qitkat

            Understood :) I’m pretty possessive about chocolate myself. Especially the good stuff.

      • MilaXX

        Please don’t refer to your cat’s fur as dreadlocs. People wear their hair that why and for some it holds a spiritual meaning.

        • Paula Pertile

          Right, I know better, and apologize. No offense intended.
          He had … matted carpet fur.

          • MilaXX

            None taken

          • demidaemon

            Poor old kitties. My dearly departed kitty ended up having the same problem, as they can’t clean as well when they get older. We tried to help her out, but the vet didn’t seem to want to shave her, for some reason. Hopefully, yours feels better now and will be happier soon. :)

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Poor kitty- he’ll get lots of TLC from you, I”m sure!

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh, poor kitty! That sounds completely dispiriting.

      • kimmeister

        Poor little honey! Will he be able to eat soft canned food?

        • Paula Pertile

          Thanks all for the kitty support. Yes, he’s eating everything. I made him an Iams and Royal Canin dry food smoothie the first night (ick), and am now just drizzling it all with water to soften it, and he’s chowing down. And of course eating lots of wet food too. I have other cats who are kind of digging the wet/dry food, so its all working out. He even had some deli turkey, cut up into wee tiny pieces. Haven’t figured out what I’ll do with the Temptations yet. Or dried fish flakes. But I’ll think of something.

          • decormaven

            Another super treat is baby food- Gerber Second Foods Chicken and Gravy.

            • Paula Pertile

              Yes, baby food is great. Although all of mine will only eat Gerbers, not Beech Nut for some reason. Go figure.

            • demidaemon

              They are cats. ;)

        • MilaXX

          Cats actually don’t need teeth to eat.

    • Sarah

      Hangin out in the stix y’all, where I’m happiest! Not quite leaves on trees time yet but it iz close! Drinks all around!

    • SRQkitten

      This week was just dreadful in multiple ways. Drama diva encounters of the worst kind. I may just hibernate for the weekend. With wine. LOTS of wine. A sense of humor helps but geezlouise there are limits.

      • conniemd

        I hear ya. My boss is a narcissitic male diva and he totally wears me out with his drama.We all celebrate days when he is out of the office so we can actually get work done in peace and quiet.

        • SRQkitten

          My sympathies on that one connie. My boss is actually one of the saner folks I’ve worked with (sadly, not as much of a compliment as it should be given the cast of crazies who’ve inhabited my work life over the years). The drama is coming from elsewhere and is a mega challenge to contain. I don’t get my job done because of having to put out fires and calm ruffled feathers from said diva.

          Here’s hoping your boss has many out of office meetings and vacation planned. Been there, done that and burned the tshirt when I was finally out.

      • decormaven

        If it’s pretty outside, get a little dose of it. Sounds like your indoor time this week was toxic- some fresh air will do the body good.

        • SRQkitten

          Decor, that sounds like a good idea before our endless Florida summer arrives and everyone disappears into the air conditioning for months (or to the beach, my preference!)

          • decormaven

            I’m a big outdoor nut – it’s usually my go-to for almost anything.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      The west coast BK’s are in for a great time at those book signings-Y’all need to represent!

    • MilaXX

      Just wanted to share that Lupita has landed a gig as the face of Lancome!. Head over to her IG for the announcement and in a smart marketing move a list of the products use for her first picture.

      • alyce1213

        Very big, very good news!! A wise choice. I just hope they don’t photoshop that gorgeous face into plasticity.

        • MilaXX

          I hops so as well. I also read an interesting article about photography and why many seem to have so much trouble with getting skintones correct on POC. Of course it mostly boiled down to many still using an antiquated system based on Caucasian skintones, but it was a good read.

          • E.Nelson

            Ahh! That article was incredible and also infuriating! They used that “color girl” or whatever they called her UNTIL THE 90’S. WUT.

            • MilaXX

              I know. FYI – The article is on Jezebel and it’s called “The truth about Photography and Brown skin”

            • Qitkat

              I’ll be damned. I have taken many photography classes and I had never learned any of this before. Thanks for pointing this article out. It was astonishing to learn about this. I have always wondered why so often POC’s photographs were so variable from one source to the next. This issue really needs to be addressed out in the open. Way past time.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Did you read the Washington Post article they link to in that one, on the aesthetic politics of brown skin? I saw it on twitter a couple of weeks ago and thought it was really interesting.

            • MilaXX

              Yes I did. They also referenced a movie called Mother of George. It made the film festival circuit a this past winter and I tried to get ticklets but it was sold out. It stars Danai Guria who plays Michonne on The Walking Dead.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Her little video announcement is so beautiful! The planes of her face are magic.

        • MilaXX

          I know! I love her so.

    • formerlyAnon

      My week’s been frustrating. Really, really wanted to be a lazy slug and read a lot of lowest common denominator fiction and sleep a lot and eat salt and cholesterol laden items. But, real life existing, I expended way more emotional energy than was warranted to accomplish not nearly enough. (I talked myself out of buying ice cream twice this week, for instance. Still surly about it, actually, hence I bring it up.) I’m trying to generate some momentum this weekend. But after work today I went to Costco and the liquor store and tonight I’m drinking and cooking and cleaning. Not necessarily in that order.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I ate a tub of salted butter cream frosting this week. Actual butter cream frosting from a bakery. I comfort myself that it took me 3 days.

        • formerlyAnon

          Sometimes a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            It was excellent frosting.

            • formerlyAnon

              The very point!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              :-)

        • alyce1213

          You don’t mention how big the tub was. ;-)

          • formerlyAnon

            Ha! I am reminded of an acquaintance who once said “I’m the annoying kind of doctor who, when you tell me you have one glass of wine a night, asks you how big the glass is.”

            • decormaven

              Yes, there’s the glass, and then there’s the Mug o’ Wine.

            • formerlyAnon

              There’s a sold-on-late-night-t.v. product in that somewhere.

      • decormaven

        Hope the weekend is less frustrating. I’m off to buy a meat tenderizer, skewers and a rice cooker (if I can find one). Going to prep some chicken breasts for freezing for quick meals later this week, and going to try some new grilled recipes- one with a mango salsa.

        • Qitkat

          Mmmm, mango salsa. Slightly sweet with a kick of heat. I tried a drizzle of homemade Asian dipping sauce with some scallop cakes this week (like crab cakes but with chopped scallops). Very delish, mangos would have been a good addition.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yum. Just yum.

        • formerlyAnon

          OMG, you guys are killing me. My cooking this week is slanted to the vegetarians in my life. I find this more challenging than I should, considering how long it’s been that I’ve been doing it. (Um, 30 years?). I think it’s because about once every 7-10 days I simply want something with flesh in it, and nothing else will be entirely satisfying.

          • decormaven

            I’m not a big red meat eater any more- it’s got to be lean as possible- but I’m trying different boneless skinless chicken breast recipes on the grill. Different marinades and salsa to change it up. I like many vegetarian dishes- it’s all in getting the right mix for complete proteins. You may have to start grilling a meat for yourself. Deprivation is not a good thing.

    • kimmeister

      Stressful week, so bad that I’m getting tongue tied when trying to pronounce longer Spanish words. Two high points though: 1) girls’ night out was a blast and the 6 of us will make it a regular thing, and 2) the clip on bangs were so natural none of them had any idea until I told them. I’m working on being able to do pullups in preparation for a mud race in September, and a coworker randomly told me she saw me in my workout clothes and that I look really buff. I hope I don’t start looking bulky though!

      • formerlyAnon

        You would be the unusual woman who could look bulky without serious supplements and possibly hormones. A few have the genes for it, but most of us just look really buff if we’re determined enough to weight train seriously.

    • Jacob Bowen

      My highlight of the week will be TOMORROW when my bow tie that I bought from THE TIE BAR (my addiction) arrives tomorrow, so I get to do a test run of next Thursday’s book signing outfit (first I have to finish my book!)!!! Unfortunately I have to babysit tomorrow, but luckily the boy is friends with my cousins, so I am totally taking the easy way out and bringing him to their house to play. This way I get free entertainment for him and I get to watch basketball!

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Oh, Jacob. I love you almost as much as I love Eric Stolt.

      • MilaXX

        I’m sure you will be quite dapper!

      • decormaven

        Nothing better than a good bow tie. Enjoy!

      • Kitten Mittons

        What does the tie look like??

        • Jacob Bowen

          Navy blue with polka dots! I’m wearing blue pants, and an orange shirt with the bow tie, and I’m trying to find a new blazer/vest to go over it. I LOVE a good excuse to go shopping!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Love it! Love polka dots, and blue and orange is a great choice.
            If you need a good excuse, I loathe shopping for jeans, shorts, and swimsuits, and I need all three. You can spend someone else’s money!! :D

            • Jacob Bowen

              I LOVE shopping for/with other people! Since coming out and bonding more with my mom, about the things I had always wanted to but was too scared to, I have gone shopping with her SO many times! This is made easier by the fact that she’s retired and just lost a ton of weight, so it’s so much fun (and she’s JUST as gaudy as I am!).

            • Kitten Mittons

              LOL, gaudy.
              Pizzazz, dear. You both have pizzazz.
              Congrats to both you and your mom, those are some momentous occasions!

            • formerlyAnon

              I usually like the bracing effect of calling a spade a spade in conversation – but in this case I think pizzazz is better than gaudy simply because the word is so fun!

            • Kitten Mittons

              When I say it, I do jazz hands. It’s almost reflexive.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Stupid pollution levels have given me dry, itchy eyes all week, and I have daylight saving jetlag, but aside from that it’s been a pretty good week. Had a drink with an old friend and I think maybe made a new friend. Which is odd. But nice.

      I really need to lose some weight before I outgrow everything in my wardrobe so trying to drink less booze as a start. So many delicious wasted calories.

      • decormaven

        I love the grape so very much, but I’ve been notching it back so as to be able to wear all the things in my closet this season. I feel your pain.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I’ve had to go back into my “fat” jeans, which is always depressing.

          • decormaven

            Start pushing! Turnaround is tough, but it’ll be worth it to say goodbye to those.

          • Qitkat

            With you sister, I’ve almost gotten out of mine, at least the current iteration, but it’s a tough road.

      • formerlyAnon

        I’m on that bandwagon. After many years of very little alcohol consumption (no crusade, just didn’t fit into my life easily), it’s gradually crept back in. I’m still not having a daily drink or two (or three), but getting there. And the extra calories are showing.

        • decormaven

          Oh, yes. alcohol is curtailed to the weekends til the scales tip in my favor. My metabolism is busted due to low thyroid, and alcohol grinds it to a halt.

    • velomango

      Oh TLo, if only you were taking the tour abroad. I grew up in Chi and would *so* be at that signing if I did not now live in Doha. If you decide to go int’l with the book signing, well, Doha should probably not be your first choice. However, I’d make a journey to see you if (when!) you cross the prime meridian. bisous mes puces.

    • E.Nelson

      All the RuPaul girls are basically caravanning through Sacramento this month – Adore performs tonight and yesterday my GRANDMOTHER sidled up to me and asked when I was taking her to “one of those drag things.”

      Tonight may be the night, methinks.

      But first, work. Today is my restaurant’s first brunch service so wish me luck everyone… *pounds mimosa and slaps on bitchy resting face*

      • formerlyAnon

        Hope first brunch service went as well as could be expected! Also, you are a gem to take your grandmother. My son has taken me to many things peoples’ moms either generally don’t go to or certainly don’t go if their child is present/participating. His ability to be (or at least, appear to be) unembarrassed by me is something I am HUGELY grateful for.

        • decormaven

          You raised your son well.

          • formerlyAnon

            I tried, we all try. But genetics and pure dumb luck are at least as big a part of the equation. Lots of us do our level best with our kids and wind up with heartbreak, either short term or for ever. I feel extremely fortunate.

            • decormaven

              Yes. My favorite saying is “The happiest I’ve ever seen folks is with their kids. The saddest I’ve ever seen folks is with their kids.” Glad fortune has smiled on you.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Good luck!

      • Jacob Bowen

        I’m SOOOOO jealous that you are in Sac right now! Courtney was there and I was trying to convince my best friend (who lives near Lodi) to go so I could live vicariously through him! I move out there in August, and those girls better still be coming to Badlands because it is SUCH a pain to see them in Chicago!

        I LOVE that your Grandma asked you to take her! My grandma told me about a time she took my Grandpa with her to a gay bar and got a drag queen to come flirt with him (she’s a bit of a riot when she’s tipsy) but if I took her now I would be babysitting the entire time (because she’s SO cranky!)!

        • E.Nelson

          You’re moving out here in August? That’s awesome – I dunno if the girls will still be coming out here – I’m sure the winner will be doing her victory tour though!

          When you move my friends and I will take you to the best bars, how’s that sound?

          • Jacob Bowen

            That sounds FANTASTIC! My best friend (also a 23 year old gay) lives out in Acampo now and I keep telling him he needs to meet some people who know the bars! I visited in August and I’m coming back for a week in May to hang out, so we may try to go out that Saturday, May 17th!

    • TLJezebel

      Sick with pneumonia all week.

      • http://batman-news.com boweryboy

        Holy hell! I hope you get better soon.

        • TLJezebel

          Thank you so much.

      • formerlyAnon

        Rest. Do all the things you are supposed to. Hope you feel better.

        • TLJezebel

          Thank you so much. That’s very kind.

      • Qitkat

        Oh that is rough. Hope you have someone to help take care of you. If not, do the best you can and keep positive. You’ll surely feel better soon with great modern medicine and rest, and BK love :-)

        • TLJezebel

          BK love is working wonders! Thank you.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Oh no! Hope you get better quickly!

        • TLJezebel

          You’re very kind. Thank you.

      • decormaven

        Nasty stuff. Take it slowly- that junk will go away, but it is not a rush job.

        • TLJezebel

          Thanks for the advice.

    • http://batman-news.com boweryboy

      I had a low-key, largely uneventful week. I finally got into the groove of my new commute. I got a raise (the timing couldn’t be more perfect). My old landlord returned my deposit in full (again, perfect timing). And the new digs is about 60% unpacked. Also, in the next couple of days, I’m doing a whirlwind of social activity which is unusual for me: I’m catching a matinee theater performance of Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Woolf? with a co-worker who has an extra ticket and knows I’m a fan of the film. I’m seeing the Alvin Ailey dancers perform. I’m meeting up with my besties on Monday to watch RPDR at Century Ballroom hosted by Ben de la Crème (thank you Seattle BKs for this hot tip). And I’m catching Dina Martina’s latest show. She’s a hilariously surreal performance artist drag queen whose form of drag wouldn’t translate well to RPDR. You either like it or not. She’s been a Seattle staple for about 25 years now and she gets funnier and funnier with each new show. I can’t wait.

      • @Biting Panda

        Good things!! We like good things. Carry on!

      • Qitkat

        I need a nap after just reading your agenda ;-) Sounds delightful. And it’s always a relief when the landlord returns the deposit. And how great to have life improve after such a big upheaval.

      • MilaXX

        OMG – I love the Alvin Aliey dance growing up we would go up to NYC and see them some of the old performance are still stuck in my head.

      • decormaven

        Fabulous news! Getting that deposit back in toto just affirms that it was the right thing to go for the new living space. I love your social agenda- enjoy, enjoy!

    • Jacqueline Wessel

      I can’t believe I did this, but Friday morning I had cosmetic surgery on my eyelids to remove all the extra skin that was hanging down and sitting on my eyelashes. It was a hard decision to make because a little part of me felt like it was a shallow move and I should just age gracefully, whatever that means. But, I just couldn’t stand looking at all that droopiness, and it got in the way of my eye makeup, and it sat on my eyelashes and was annoying. Luckily, I could afford it, insurance won’t pay unless the skin is hanging down far enough to cover at least half of your pupil thereby impeding your vision. So, I’ll be off work all next week and Friday the stitches will be removed. I bought some of those huge protective sunglasses so at least I’ll be able to go outside. I wouldn’t want anyone to see this, my eyes are all purple and swollen right now.

      All that being said, this getting old stuff is not easy. I’m 61 so I feel young and old at the same time. I wonder about my hair color. Should I lighten up on the color, should I let it go grey. Is my makeup too harsh? Is my wardrobe age appropriate, and what does that even mean in this day and age. What’s girl to do????

      • NMMagpie

        Do what makes you feel confident to face life, no matter what comes. As to your hair, have some fun with it! Not every woman can wear their grey as confidently as Emmylou Harris but if that’s what gives you power, then go for it!

        Whatever time you are in, this is YOUR time. Don’t hide your beauty; discover it. That’s one of the coolest things about aging: your awesomeness is always there to discover anew. (And to let people be jealous as you pass them on the street, confident as all get out.)

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          Thanks for cheering me on, we owe it to ourselves to go out there and be awesome.

      • alyce1213

        Good for you! Wishing you an easy recovery and 20 years off. My father-in-law had that done a long time ago (droopy eyelids run in the family), he looked so good, felt great about it. I’m sure they told you it may look/feel tight for a short time, then all will relax and be fine.
        Think of it this way — it’s like you’re a celebrity getting “refreshed.”
        As to greying hair, I am facing the same dilemma. Right now I’m growing out coloring and can’t decide if I should recolor or not (discussed on this blog, also desire my for a neck lift). Since coming here, I feel I have a better perspective on fashion and style, I feel like I have little helpers on my shoulders. What would T-Lo say?

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          In the end we all have to feel comfortable with our selves. Thanks for the good wishes … 20 years off? We’ll, I don’t know about that, maybe with that neck lift you spoke of.

      • formerlyAnon

        Oh, sister, you have so much company in that “what is appropriate, what is ridiculous, what is ME?” boat. Enjoy whatever you do. Try to treat yourself as you would a friend. We’re all going to be dead a long time. (Keep up with whatever icing they told you to do. A doctor friend tells me it makes a great deal of difference.)

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          Thanks, and thanks for reminding me to ice.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Indeed, lots of company-sometimes I wonder just who in hell the woman in the mirror is, and then yes, it’s moi.

          • formerlyAnon

            God yes. In my head I feel about the same as I did in my 30s – except more confident and less conflicted – and ready to conquer the world. Then I *see* what everyone else sees and it’s somewhere between disconcerting and hugely dispiriting. Ah well. Onwards!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Hey, as long as we’re waking up in the morning, it’s good!

            • formerlyAnon

              So true!

      • Qitkat

        So many of us can identify with feeling young and old at the same time. Good for you, it sounds like this will give you a lift psychologically as well. And that can make such a difference in how we feel about ourselves. I’ve got all the same questions you do. And I am amazed at how differently I look at fashion and accessorizing and hair and makeup after reading this site for so long. And just think, by the end of April you will be eager to show off your younger self, and get set to have a wonderful summer.

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          Thanks, it’s good to know I’m not alone. I’m sure we’ll all find our own best answers. Yes to summer.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        So about 13 years ago, I was having a manicure when the subject of losing weight came up with some of the ladies. I announced I had just lost 160 lbs. in one day — by divorcing my husband. The lady sitting next to me said, “To celebrate, why don’t you have your eyes done?” I thought that was pretty insulting until she told me she was a cosmetic surgeon at Kaiser, my health insurer, and that my droopy lids would qualify me for the surgery.

        I had never for a minute considered any cosmetic surgery, even though my husband had had his eyes done several years before. Next thing I know, I’m at the hospital getting cut and I’ve never been sorry. An unexpected benefit was the improvement in my peripheral vision. I hadn’t realized that I hadn’t been able to see sideways as well as I should. And I had to buy an eyelash curler when I discovered my lashes grew straight out. They didn’t curl any more because the lids were in the way. (They did eventually start curling naturally.)

        Jacqueline, I hope your recovery is as easy as mine was. The discoloration will go away pretty quickly, but like any surgery, you’ll have some minor swelling for up to a year. Have fun learning to decorate your new eyes.

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          Thanks. It’s always helpful to hear from those who have had the surgery, and so far everyone I’ve spoken to has been positive. I just got an email with a 15% off coupon from Sephora, so I see some new eyeshadow in my future.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Enjoy a week of recovery! Sounds like you aren’t feeling too uncomfortable, so that is good!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Good for you for deciding to get a problem resolved, and wishing you an uncomplicated recovery from the surgery.
        As for hair color, I’m 63, no gray hairs yet, but my blonde hair became really lackluster and dull several years ago, and I decided to go with highlights. I usually get them done twice a year, and it definitely improve the hair and my mood. I also have friends who have gone naturally gray, and they are happy with themselves. In my case I come from a line of folks whose gray hair is a really blah, dingy yellow-gray, hence the highlights. If, on the other hand you are someone such as my husband, who has lovely silvery gray hair, go for it.

      • MilaXX

        Do what makes you feel good about you. I am 50 ad have greyed since my early 30’s. I honestly have no idea how much grey I am working with now. I stopped chemically straightening, but I still color regulatory. I don’t think I’ll need anything surgically, but an eye lift sound fairly minor and well worth given the outcome you described.

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          It’s funny, I’ve been coloring my hair for almost thirty years and have no idea what I look like with natural hair, I can look at my roots and try and imagine it but that is all.

      • decormaven

        My friend just had this same surgery due to the impact of heavy lids on vision. Are you using snack bags filled with frozen peas? The smaller size works better for the area you are icing. Be diligent on the icing and hydrate- your fluid levels will be off due to the surgery and swelling.
        As for the years, treat yourself as your best friend. If a change will be beneficial for you, do it. That probably sounds like twaddle, but you know yourself best.

        • Jacqueline Wessel

          I did’t realize that about fluid levels. Thanks, I going to get a big glass of water tight now.

    • Celticharpist

      Hi fellow BKs. I know I’m a bit late to the party, but I wanted to join anyways :) . I’ve been a very long time lurker here and my introverted self has never come out from behind the curtain. But I went through a pretty hard break-up last week and decided that it’s time for a change. So hello friends! Thank you all (and Uncles T and Lo) for making the comment section a safe space to be. I’ll see you all in LA!

      • Qitkat

        Welcome Celticharpist! Great name.
        In time, you’ll move on from your tough break up in the best way for you.
        In the meantime, enjoy being a bitter kitten, and especially, lucky you, to go to the LA signing!

        • Celticharpist

          Thanks Qitkat!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Welcome to our addiction. How long have you been lurking?

        • Celticharpist

          Thanks for the welcome! It feels like it’s been a while. I’ve been lurking since back when TLo was called Project Rungay. How long ago was that?

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            It’s been several years I think. I don’t really remember when they made the change and time goes by so quickly.

            Now that you’ve taken the big step to come into the light, don’t be shy. It’s much more fun to be a participant.

            Are you going to the Grove? Where do you live?

            • Celticharpist

              Yes, I’ll be going to the Grove. I live pretty close so maybe I’ll even walk there. I am seriously considering wearing a post-it with my screen name — might help me get over my initial shyness.
              Hopefully all the LA BKs can get together afterwards for a drink and stay in touch. Will you be there?

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I’m still vacillating. I probably won’t decide until Tuesday afternoon.

            • formerlyAnon

              You’re looking for the right job. If the logistics work (a huge IF in L.A., I know) you HAVE to go. If it’s great fun it’ll be a pick-me-up. And in any case, you can call it networking. Especially if you identify yourself as “The Gifted Collector.”

              JESUS WOMAN YOU SOLD JANIE BRYANT (or her staff) CLOTHES THAT MIGHT BE ON MADMEN. There will be people there that will buy you drinks just to hear you talk about that.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              You’ve given me an idea. If I do go, I’ll definitely bring pictures of the clothes I sold her (she did pick them out herself). Instead of Where’s Waldo?, everyone can watch the show and play Where’s something of Nancy’s? If anyone wants to see them, just email me through my web site.

              I’ve been driving around with the rest of my 1968 wardrobe (about 25 pieces left) in the back of my car. I sold a few pieces to a large vintage store in Burbank last week and visited a new vintage flea market near my house to see if any of the vendors would want to buy some. I may end up taking a booth there to sell the rest along with my late sister’s vast lady bell collection and other things I have from the ’70s and ’80s. It feels like I bought them yesterday. It’s so hard to realize they’re 30 or 40 years old.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I’m thinking I might be violating my Confidentiality Agreement by sending out pictures of the clothes Janie bought before they are seen on air. I’ve emailed them to see if I have to wait.

            • formerlyAnon

              See, this is why you’d be a valuable employee or consultant. You think of these things BEFORE you do them.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Thanks for the vote of confidence, fA. I can sell myself if I can get an interview. It’s getting in front of the employer that’s the hard part.

              Still waiting for an answer about sharing pictures of the clothes.

      • alyce1213

        Welcome, I love your username. Have fun at the LA book signing, try not to be shy.
        It’s quite enjoyable to hear Tom read an excerpt. I mean, really funny.

      • formerlyAnon

        Hi! Welcome to the party! Sorry you’re motivated by hard times, but eventually the break up will just be another part of history. And in the spirit of my current catch phrase quote, “living well is the best revenge,” I hope you go to the signing, talk to some very friendly BKs and have a great time.

      • @Biting Panda

        So glad you joined the party. Break ups are hard, but think of the new growth and blooms that come out of ashes.

      • MilaXX

        Sorry about the breakout, but glad you came out to play.

      • decormaven

        Sorry for the split, but sounds like you’ve turned it into positive energy. Do you truly play Celtic music? A friend who used to live down the street played Celtic fiddle. Great music.

        • Celticharpist

          Yes, I play the Celtic harp. I’m an amateur though — so I don’t always sound amazing, but I love it. May be time to get back on that horse again and find a new teacher.

          • decormaven

            Tough instrument, so kudos for the attempt. Keep with it.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Hello! Welcome! Sorry to hear about the break-up, but very pleased it has forced you out of hiding.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Welcome to the party Celticharpist!. Sorry about your breakup. Treat yourself to something your ex would complain about. I went out and got dishes with flowers on them because they were girly and he would have hated them. I’ve since gotten rid of them because it turns out I don’t like dishes with flowers on them either but it was nice having that option.

        • embers618

          Love that suggestion. I once got 3 piercings in as many months, on my face no less, because the guy I had recently broken up with always discouraged me from getting them. That was 15 years ago, and they’re gone now, but I loved them when I had them.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          My ex and I battled over the air conditioning for 34 years. The first night I was in my own home, I slept with it on all night just because I could. Then I literally woke up the next morning and realized how much $$ that behavior would cost and bought a fan.

    • demidaemon

      It was one of those weeks for me. So glad it’s over. Five weeks and counting till the end of the semester!

      • Qitkat

        Do you have something awesome planned for the summer?

        • demidaemon

          Well, I am moving to Baltimore this summer, so there is that. I don’t know if my current employer will still want me to me to tutor, so I could be working in the summer, just not teaching. My other awesome plans are to do lots of fiction and poetry writing and submitting said writing before I have to spend a lot of time writing academically again.

          • formerlyAnon

            Moving with a purpose is always exciting. And that sounds like a pretty great plan for your summer. Hopoe you manage to fit in whatever stuff you can do where you are now that will be tougher once you move.

            • demidaemon

              Luckily, the fact that my house is perennially cold is actually a boon during the summer for indoor type things. Can’t say the winter was so great.

          • Qitkat

            That sounds like an excellent summer ahead for you.
            Lucky you, to have the adventure of discovering all a new city has to offer.
            My mom wrote a lot of poetry, but never was able to get published; I hope you have the satisfaction of seeing your thoughts shared with the world.

            • demidaemon

              I already have two stories published, as well as some poems published in student journals (I don’t necessarily put those on my vita, but they do exist out there.) Truth be told, poetry is actually the easier of the two to get published, at least nowadays, as there is more room in literary journals for it. I don’t know when your mom was writing and sending her stuff out, but, I think, until the 80s, all there was was The Paris Review, The New Yorker, and Atlantic Monthly and a few other journals, so either you got into those or you didn’t. And it was very much a bro’s club of rubbing shoulders.

            • Qitkat

              I’ve considered trying to get some of her work published posthumously; I will probably do a limited edition myself of poetry (I make artist books). It would be a daunting task, but worth the satisfaction if I could help make something happen. She also wrote a novel, and some children’s stories, and a lovely work on a tiny shell called coquina, rather reminiscent of Rachel Carson, she was told. But try as she might, over and over and over again, it was all rejection. I think she finally stopped sending stuff out maybe around 1995. If I could get some poetry and the coquina book published, I would feel I had given her the legacy she was denied. But time has its way of ticking on, and she’s been gone for 11 years now. I couldn’t deal with it for the longest time.

            • demidaemon

              You should totally publish some of her work posthumously as chapbooks. The story on the coquina sounds like it would work for the journal I used to work for. I received my master’s degree from Carson’s alma mater, and we had a journal there completely based around nature and travel writing. I don’t think it was started until 2007 or so, but I’m sure you could send it to them as a posthumous work.

              But, overall, you shouldn’t put it off much longer. The longer you put something off, the harder it is to get around to it. Believe me, I know.

            • Qitkat

              Thanks so much for the encouragement. I’ll take it to heart.

            • demidaemon

              That’s what we’re here for! :)

            • decormaven

              Excellent suggestion for the posthumous work. Another vote to go for it.

            • formerlyAnon

              That sounds like a wonderful, meaningful project for you to undertake, if quite emotional. I can understand your diffidence about wading in and just doing it. Perhaps if you’re talking about it here, you’re moving to the point you’re ready to do it.

            • Qitkat

              I’m emotional about it all right, which makes it difficult for me to judge the quality of her work. To be honest, some of it probably could have used some good editing, which I don’t feel really qualified to do, although she always valued my opinion. But generally, I feel she was an excellent poet, but it’s far different from a lot of contemporary work, which wouldn’t stop me by itself, I just wonder who would be her best audience. A lot of things lately have lead me to be thinking more about her legacy, and mine, so maybe the Universe is aligning in the right ways for me to forge ahead. April is always bittersweet, as the month in which she died. I wish I had someone to help me along the way, and I really don’t know whom to ask.

              As much as I enjoy my time here, I’m considering stepping away for a while, to concentrate on some of my neglected issues, as sometimes I spend too much time, it’s a way to avoid pressing concerns. I’ve got a degree in Procrastination.

              However, the support here is awesome; it’s not that I don’t have support in my day-to-day life, but there’s just that connection of honesty, you know? It’s an unexpected source of strength.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Mary Lu, I want you to know that I will miss you if you decide to leave us. Your comments are always thoughtful and interesting to read. As a black belt in procrastination, I understand your dilemma. I’d much rather be browsing here than going through every damn job site on the internet. I’m four TLo pages behind, but I never miss the Lounge. I hope you’ll find a balance.

            • Qitkat

              Nancy, thanks so much. You’ve hit the nail on the head, it is a matter of balance. There are so many people whose comments I enjoy reading, such as yours too, and I would miss that a lot. The browsing is a hard habit to break, it seems like this community here is unlike most on the internet. I’m trying to cut back on the daily commenting, but I imagine I’ll pop into the Lounge. As someone else said on here, BitingPanda I think, it’s like our own water cooler/break room gathering hole.
              I almost forgot about your job search. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you to have success very soon. And where else would I find out when you do, except by checking in at the Lounge?

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              This is the only blog I read. I try to explain what goes on here to my friends, but I usually end up telling them they need to experience it for themselves.

            • formerlyAnon

              I completely understand the time management issues. Until this year, this was the only blog I read almost daily.

              I find I’ve quit watching t.v. (I don’t even see every episode of PR or Madmen anymore), nearly quit watching movies at home and cut my recreational reading back by half or more, to make time for the Internet. But there are still days I know I spend more time online than I should. I’ve thought about taking a break, but I’m not ready yet. Hopefully you and I will find a new sustainable balance as the current one no longer is optimal.

              If you go offline I’ll miss your comments, but appreciate the heads up. There are people I still think & mildly worry about because they disappeared with no warning – some of them years ago. (Yes, technology or no I am totally a herd animal. Even if I’ve only created online community with someone.)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I also worry about people who disappear. I still think about Scottyf and wonder if he is still online. (I lost the link to his blog.) When I started coming here, there were many frequent contributors that I enjoyed reading. I’m always pleased to see an occasional post from them.

              Many of my customers stopped shopping during the recession, but when things got better, they showed up again. I was so happy to see them. Not only because they were spending money again, but because I had worried about them during their absence.

              PS I don’t have any plans to quit the Lounge.

            • formerlyAnon

              If you google “scottyf” and FBQ (for fierce black queen, right?) it comes up. I surf by every three months or so, but he hasn’t updated. I also found his facebook profile, but I didn’t friend request (because I segregate my facebook as much as possible from blogs, tumbler, etc.) so I can only see the public part, That hasn’t been updated either. If he’s online he’s moved to a new persona.

            • NDC_IPCentral

              Hi, Ms. Q ,Ms. FA and Ms. TGC — I’ve cut back on my participation here – feel
              uncomfortable spending work time on it, and work days are long, and then
              I’ve got other stuff to do on the weekends and evenings. I know I’ll
              be more active when Mad Men resumes for its short 7 episode season, but I
              can’t justify a whole lot of time here, fun though it can be, when
              other responsibilities must take precedence.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Hi NDC! I’m so glad to hear from you. I’ve noticed your absence and hoped it was not a health-related/family thing keeping you from us. Glad to hear it is a matter of priorities and not something else.

            • SierraDelta

              Sadly, boring responsibilities take precedence more than I’d like these days, too. I don’t always have time to marshal my thoughts to post, but I continue to read as often as possible. So many voices of encouragement — your generosity and thoughtfulness are reminders that there’s a community of truly lovely people here who frequently manage to post just the thing a fellow BK needs on any given day.

    • gabbilevy

      Thrilled that DC so far has set the bar so high! Who knew lil ole us, with such a terrible fashion reputation (ill-fitting skirt suits and sneakers, amirite?) would turn out so well for TLo!

      Stoked that spring finally feels like it’s here, got a promotion and a raise after spending my first two weeks reporting on Capitol Hill (even if the flu hamstrung me for a few days) and heading to my first baseball game of the season tomorrow. Also, I loved Captain America: The Winter Soldier. Pretty good week, on the balance.

      • Qitkat

        I miss those Eastern springs (I used to live in Charles Town, WV, and earlier in Alexandria and Oxon Hill.)
        In Denver the weather can flirt with spring and winter for several weeks to come yet.
        Congrats on the promotion and the raise.

      • formerlyAnon

        Well yay for you! promotion, raise, baseball . . . all so good. Plus I remember DC as wonderful place to be in one’s 20s and early 30s, it is so full of young-ish people and full of energy.

      • decormaven

        Yay for raise, and enjoy the Hill. As for baseball, the Braves may rain on your parade, but a day at the park is good, no matter the score.

      • Jacob Bowen

        I LOVED Captain America, too! It was MUCH better than I expected (and Chris Evans…mmmm) and it may be my FAVORITE Marvel film to date!

    • @Biting Panda

      Guess who got most of her very long hair cut off today? I’ve gone from curls, nearly to my butt, to a choppy, wedged, bob. Boom y’all!

      • Celticharpist

        Congrats! That takes some courage. How are your curls handling it if you don’t mind me asking? I also have long curly hair and love going short, but every time I do I end up looking like a frizzy mess. What’s your secret?

        • @Biting Panda

          Still rocking my blowout, so it’s too early to say if it’s as a success all natural. I did ask for choppy layers and for the ends to be razor cut. Hopefully that will help. I’ll let you know.

        • @Biting Panda

          Ok. Showered and did my curls routine. It’s cute. Lots of fun body. But I confess, I do like it better blown out. My bff has come over to give me some styling tips, she is great with that kind of thing.

      • formerlyAnon

        Wow! I hope you’re pumped. I was so thrilled when I made the transition from nearly-to-the waist to mostly-above-chin-length.

        WAIT A MINUTE – Didn’t you say earlier that you’re on a working trip to Savannah!!?? Are you warning the mister, or just gonna give him heart failure when you get home? ;-)

        • @Biting Panda

          I leave Monday. I warned him. He said it looks great. I know his personal preference is for me to keep it long, but he’ll survive. ; )

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Men always prefer their woman’s hair long, whether it flatters them or not.

            Have a good trip to Savannah. I’ve always wanted to go there.

            • formerlyAnon

              Truer words. I went from short to long hair in my late teens after surveying my boyfriend and all my male friends, and they were unanimous.

            • @Biting Panda

              It is known.

          • decormaven

            Good for you! Make changes while you can. My hair is not what it used to be, so short is the best solution. Thankfully it looks good this way.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Awesome, I hope you love it! Love changing my hair up, it can make you feel like a new person.

      • Wendy

        Good for you! I hope it’s working out really well. At the end of the summer I cut my hair from about the bottom of my shoulder blades into a pixie, and I only wish I had done it sooner.

      • alyce1213

        You are so brave. Boom indeed!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        The pictures do look amazing! What does your family think?

      • SierraDelta

        What happened to the curls? My hair’s currently shoulder length and curly, but when it’s short, it’s short but still curly. I haven’t the patience to straighten it section by section on a daily basis, and I envy you talented people who reinvent yourselves with a new ‘do!

        My husband would have apoplexy if I got such a drastic chop, but I think it’s because his hair is thinning — if he can’t be Samson, then I think I’m supposed to be Rapunzel.

    • Suzanne Moore

      I’m chiming in late, y’all. I’m attending a writing conference in Phoenix. (Our wonderful uncles should add PHX their book tour NOW, before it gets too hot, HINT, HINT!)

      Remember my romance novel that got rejected two weeks ago? It won a top prize at this very writing conference! They announced the winners Friday night. I was shocked and thrilled, especially since I won a slot to pitch to the editor/agent of my choice yesterday. I pitched the same book to an agent who wants to see the full manuscript, which is quite a big deal. Whee! Champagne for everybody!!

      • decormaven

        Excellent news! Just goes to show that editors are not all cut from the same cloth. There’s a different angle for every one of them.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Great news!

      • formerlyAnon

        That’s fantastic! It’s quite a competitive field you’re in, as you know damn well, so you SHOULD be celebrating.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Congratulations! That is so exciting. Let’s start planning your book tour.

      • MilaXX

        congrats!

      • http://batman-news.com boweryboy

        Awesome!

        Is it trashy? I’m a sucker for a good, trashy romance novel every once in a while.

    • alyce1213

      Uncles, I think Johnny Depp’s recent engagement announcement, Interview cover, appearance on Letterman, and opening of “Transcendence” merits a “Be Me or Do Me Bingo” analysis. Glad he didn’t jump on the couch.

    • Janet B

      This morning my husband got an email that there will be an ‘all hands’ meeting Monday morning. He thinks his job is leaving the state. Great start to a Sunday morning.
      Back in the ‘dark ages’, when I was in HR, we never would have made that sort of announcement on a Monday. Always on Friday, just before everyone is heading out the door and unlikely to spend too much time talking among themselves.

      • decormaven

        Thinking the best of thoughts for you both if that is the case. Mr. DM has swapped jobs twice in last 10 years; one due to layoff, one due to better job opportunity. Trust the river and hang in there.

        • Janet B

          Thanks.
          His job was with a start-up 12 years ago. They’ve been sold twice since then and each time his position becomes less about innovation and more about maintaining an old program.

          • decormaven

            I hear you. I work in somewhat similar circumstances; fourth iteration now. Fingers crossed for you.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        A friend of mine works at a company where they don’t even announce the meetings about restructuring any more – they just walk around the building and collect everyone. Terrible!

        Fingers crossed that your husband’s job will be safe.

        • Janet B

          Ouch.
          Thanks for the crossed fingers.

      • formerlyAnon

        Good luck. Hope there’s a clearly “good” option for him to take if he’s read the tea leaves right.

        • Janet B

          This job hasn’t been good for a while. From my point of view a new job will be a blessing.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        My last job ended on a Wednesday morning when it was announced that the company was folding.

        Don’t ruin your weekend by second guessing. Maybe they’re announcing that business is great and everyone’s getting raises. Delusion for a day.

        • Isabel

          Janet & Gifted – I am keeping you in my prayers.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            The job I was mentioning ended in 2001, but since I happen to be job hunting right now, I’ll take those prayers.

            • Janet B

              Good luck

        • Janet B

          Sorry to hear about your job loss. You’ll be in my thoughts.

          We tried our best to ignore it yesterday, but now I’m a bit anxious waiting.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Good news or bad? I’ve got my fingers crossed for you.

            • Janet B

              Thanks for asking.
              Funny thing, there wasn’t a meeting. “Mistakenly put on the calendar” is the official word. Looks like something will happen, but not right away.
              I’m encouraging him to be proactive and contact a couple of old work friends who may know about available positions. Keeping in touch is the premise of ‘boys night out’, right? :)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              When things are getting suspicious, it’s time to discretely check out your options. Not time to jump ship, but just know where the lifeboats are located.

            • Janet B

              So true.

            • formerlyAnon

              Mistake, my aging ass! That’s either epic “I thought the action item was” jumping the gun or somebody deciding for their own reasons to let out a hint & stir the pot.

              Hope husband is encouraged to look around.

            • Janet B

              I suspect his boss is trying to get his people to get looking for another job before they are forced out.

            • formerlyAnon

              That would be a decent thing for him to do. It must be hell to know people are going to be losing their jobs and not be allowed to talk about it.

            • SierraDelta

              Also hell to live with the man who knows people are going to be losing their jobs. . .