Kirsten Dunst for Harper’s Bazaar UK Magazine

Posted on April 02, 2014

This is one of the prettiest pictures of her we think we’ve ever seen. And it looks like her; not a plastic, digitized version of her.



Kirsten Dunst covers the May 2014 issue of Harper’s Bazaar UK magazine in Miu Miu photographed by David Slijper and styled by Leith Clark.


On any ambitions to direct one day: “I would love it. I love getting immersed in things and being busy all the time. It’s just that I’m not going to write my own script. I don’t think I can, I honestly don’t. It would be easier to find a book to adapt. But, I’m not interested in directing right now. Maybe in three years. Who knows? Maybe I’ll have children then. I probably will – one day – want to try it.”

On fashion becoming less important to her as she gets older: “I cared more about outfits when I was younger… the older I get, the lazier I get.”

On gender: “I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued. We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mum created. And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armour. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work…”



Oh, wait. Yes we will, because we’re two men in the 18th year of a successful relationship and we did it all without a wife, believe it or not. Kirsten doesn’t exactly have a history of long, sustained relationships, so we’d take anything she says on the subject with an enormous grain of salt, though. Yes, traditional homemaking activities are important. They are not, however, gender-based, nor are they the universal key to all successful relationships. You’ve been working in the entertainment industry your whole life and became wealthy upon turning 18, Kirsten. Stick to talking about those subjects and leave the life lessons to others.

Oh, well. At least the clothes are cute, although that Katrantzou looks silly on her.


Miu Miu Spring 2014 Collection

Mary Katrantzou Spring 2014 Collection

Dries Van Noten Spring 2014 Collection





[Photo Credit: David Slijper for Harper’s Bazaar UK Magazine, IMAXtree]

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  • R.A.

    I agree that it looks like her and that she looks beautiful but I disagree that she doesn’t look plastic-y. Pores, anyone?

    • R.A.

      PS, T-Lo, how ever DID you manage to stay together for so long without a vagina around? It’s practically magic!!!!

      • Victor Beiramar Diniz

        it’s probably a thing called ‘conscious coupling’….

    • Carleenml

      I dunno, someone like her who was a babe in the woods when she got into the biz has probably had her skin so coddled by money there really aren’t any pores to find.

      • R.A.

        Is that a thing? Poreless people?

        • fursa_saida

          I read a book about that once. Horrendously impractical. You overheat immediately.

          • ankali

            The Windup Girl?

          • fursa_saida

            Yup! Years later and I still can’t quite decide how I feel about that book.

          • ankali

            Cool world-building, but I don’t remember much about the plot. I do remember liking the titular (poreless) character.

          • R.A.

            Ok, I giggled out loud at that one.

    • irielle

      You’re right. I don’t know the technical term but you don’t see pores or much of the creases at the underarm/knee areas where they would be naturally.

    • melisaurus

      Just take a minute to look at her right elbow in the Dries photo and then talk to me about photo editing. The second photo looks likey cropped in a bad head shot of Cat Blanchet.

  • clatie

    the katrantzou is UGLY. it’s a fashion suicide mission.

    • mrspotts66

      it looks like she’s wearing a drawstring toiletry bag. wtf?

    • yulaffin

      Looks like something made from Granny’s old curtains (or bedspreads).

    • what not

      Toilet paper cozy.

  • RussellH88

    She looks good, but she also looks like a photoshopped Michelle Pfeiffer.

    As for her comments, I don’t see she can’t just phrase in context as being “For me, this is what I want” as opposed to making her preference seem like something that should be the accepted norm. If you need a “manly man” and you want to be a “girly girl”, that’s perfectly fine, but don’t act like that’s how things need to be for everyone else.

    • Linda Merrill

      Agree. It’s just important to remember that her comments are filtered through the writers and editor’s of the magazine. So, it’s possible the “for me” part was implied, or so she thought, but didn’t translate to the printed page. Obviously I have no idea, I just like to keep an open mind with print interviews.

      • RussellH88

        That’s true. Magazines and the media tend to try to turn celebrities into lifestyle gurus, so it’s entirely possible that they put it in that context intentionally.

        • Violentcello

          I dunno. I’m an editor (not fashion) and to materially change a quote so that it says something the speaker didn’t actually mean is a cardinal sin. Maybe I’m giving the cynics in the beauty biz too much credit, but that would be pretty heinous and not very hard for Kirsten Dunst or her people to call them out on.

          • DTLAFamilies

            I worked for a magazine that regularly put celebs on the cover and the level of quote manipulation was astounding. But it was always done to make the celeb look better, i.e. capable of stringing together a coherent sentence. My favorite cover was the February Mel Gibson, where they managed to make him sound romantic and not like a misogynistic, crazy drunk.

          • Violentcello

            Thanks for the insight. I’ll delete the “umms” and “you knows” or add a period if someone runs on a little long, but even that makes me feel a little guilty.

            Was your Mel Gibson editor a wizard, because that particular feat sounds like alchemy.

          • DTLAFamilies

            The intern who transcribed the recording was from Germany, so she kept stopping the tape and asking me to listen because she thought it was an English comprehension issue. I listened and said, nope, it’s not you–he’s not making any sense.

          • KinoEye


          • leahpapa

            THIS. It is my conviction that most celebrities actually have cluster B personality disorders – I think you’d practically *have* to have some disorganization in your psyche to do everything necessary to acquire and maintain fame – and your revelation confirms the inkling I had that, when celebrities appear normal, it’s the result of clever misdirection and manipulation by the celebrity-fashion-entertainment complex.

          • Jonquil

            Surely, sounding gender normative is “better” for mass consumption.

          • KinoEye

            Agreed. I too am an editor, and refuse to change quotes except for clarity when reading. But I will say that it’s like Christmas when people say stupid things, and I put it in word for word. I think the chain of command at Harper’s probably decided the same thing. It’s too stupid not to print, since it will get a lot of (mostly negative) attention.

          • demidaemon


          • Kate Andrews

            I was an editor for magazines and at a newspaper, and I never changed a quote, other than to take out “ums.” I do question whether she actually said “mum,” since that’s more of a Britishism. I don’t question that it’s likely she did say the rest of the quote — it sounds like her!

          • Aroo

            That will just be because it’s a British magazine and it’s been changed to suit British spelling. British celebrities who do interviews with American magazines have their “mums” changed to “moms” too. It’s the same word with the same meaning just wildly different pronunciations :)

          • Kate Andrews

            Yeah — but I think it’s a better idea to just keep it the same. I’ll bet the readers would understand “mom” or “mum” — and it leaves less suspicion in a reader’s mind that other quotes have been changed.

      • B_C_J

        That’s what I am hoping too.

      • TRSTL

        Really, anytime, anywhere, someone makes a comment, it is “for them”… That should always be assumed.

        • Tom and Lorenzo

          Not when you start sentences with “YOU need…” Then the exact opposite is assumed.

          • starrika

            Hate to disagree with you boys, but in my region of the US (Ohio), I’ve come across a lot of people who when speaking will say “you need/you want/you are” when they are speaking about themselves. It makes sense in context of the conversation, or maybe I’ve just become used to it. Don’t know where she’s from or if this happens in other parts of the US, but I’ve seen it enough here that I think it’s a regional thing.

          • Tom and Lorenzo

            Why did she say “I’m sorry,” then?

            The defense of her words here amount to “If you ignore what she said and add other words to change the meaning to the exact opposite of what she said, then what she said would be fine.”

            I’m just wondering why there’s such a need to defend her. If a male star said “You need a woman in the kitchen, cooking and nurturing for relationships to work,” would there be such a rush to alter the meaning of his words so that they don’t sound so narrow-minded?

            She said a dumb thing and made broad generalizations she shouldn’t have, and as a celebrity of several decades, she knows how to conduct herself in an interview. It’s not the end of the world and we’re not vilifying her for it, but we’re wondering why so many want to pretend she didn’t say what she said or that it means the exact opposite of what she said.

          • FrigidDiva

            The “I’m Sorry” sends it straight to condescending to me. If she would have stopped after the fist sentence she might have been ok. Sometimes the feminine can be undervalued in today’s society, but I don’t think it has anything to do with gender roles in relationships, I think it has more to do with the perception that somehow the feminine is weaker for whatever reason.

          • Tapetum

            The “I’m sorry” is what pushed it over into advice for all to me to. If she had just used the “you” construction, I would have much less problem with it.

            I see (and tend to use myself) “you” when I actually mean “me”, all the time when being indirect. According to one of my friends, who is a chaplain and counselor, it’s a construction often used by people who have been in any kind of abusive situation, where owning their own exact response could be dangerous.

          • demidaemon

            This is why I harp on my students about avoiding the “you” and “we” constructions, except for very few exceptions. It tends to include the reader into the conversation when they may not necessarily want to be part of that conversation.

          • AnaRoW

            I agree that what she said was dumb but I always find it necessary to take into consideration how magazine editors chop up their interviews. A lot of celebrities, male and female, come off like pompous jerks because they answered a question but it’s presented as if they were giving a lecture. This is a perfect example. As others have said, it’s common for some to answer questions with “you” even when talking about themselves. I agree the “I’m sorry…” part is condescending, obnoxious, and wrong.

            I’d also like to add that being a celebrity for decades doesn’t really mean that they know how to conduct themselves in an interview. Half of them can’t even figure out red carpet posing.

          • KinoEye

            Not defending magazine editors here, but you can usually tell what kind of question was asked depending on their answers. I think she was probably asked how she felt about feminism and shifting gender roles, since that’s a hot question to ask lady celebs these days. If I were the last editor who proofed this piece, I would have left that quote exactly as is. It’s asinine and guaranteed to get a lot of buzz and hits to the website. Of course this is a purely hypothetical scenario, but I can’t fault them for taking advantage when people say dumb things. As long as it’s not taken completely, wildly out of context, which doesn’t seem to be the case here.

          • Guest

            Maybe the “I’m sorry” means “I’m sorry if you disagree with me, but I believe that….”

            Isn’t the purpose of this site to critique fashion choices rather than the silly ramblings of some *star* ?

          • Tom and Lorenzo

            “Isn’t the purpose of this site to critique fashion choices rather than the silly ramblings of some *star* ?”

            No. People only ask that question when they don’t like what we’re saying.

          • Rhonda Shore

            Nothing operates in a vacuum…in the end everything is a political statement of some sort.

          • leahpapa

            The last time I did this much close reading, it was “Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man.” Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go weep quietly in a corner while I track the decline of my mind and consider that I spent my afternoon parsing the heteronormative pronouncements of the girl from “Jumanji.”

          • demidaemon

            If there is a spot nearby, I’ll join you there, weeping for the number of girls who may actually take her words to heart.

          • KinoEye

            If I could upvote this more than once, I would.

          • Shug

            As they say in feminist theory, “the personal is political.”

          • French_Swede

            Her “I’m sorry” seems to be an apology to women for having her own feelings of wanting to nurture others, whether a husband, lover or child(ren). Almost like she has to justify her own feelings.

            That’s the sense I got, anyway.

          • Kayceed

            I agree – I seem to have interpreted this a bit differently that the majority of BKs. She mentions her mother, and the value she brought to the household in a (I’m assuming) traditional role – in referencing that in a positive way, and than saying “I’m sorry,” to me it sounds like she realizes that her opinion will be read as politically incorrect.

          • Tom and Lorenzo

            A relationship does not need a man and a woman to work.

          • Kayceed


          • RussellH88

            I think the “I’m Sorry” puts it in the context of “I’m speaking a truth that people don’t want to hear”.

            I’m actually from Ohio too, and I know what you’re talking about but I think that the contextual clues make it appear as if she’s speaking generally as opposed to to speaking for her own experience.

            If she did, then she didn’t articulate herself at all.

        • TRSTL

          I guess I am just very poor with my grammer then, I often will say things “you need…” meaning me, as if I am talking for and to myself. Not a big deal to me either way. I just want to focus on her fashion here…….

      • barbarienne

        If the disjointed sentences of the first reply are an example of their editing, then I’m not impressed. I had to read the whole thing before I understood that her answer actually was, “I don’t know what I want.”

      • Rhonda Shore

        “You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman.” I so much prefer the Ray Davies version of this: “Girls will be boys and boys will be girls/It’s a mixed-up, muddled up, shook up world.”

        • KinoEye

          Except for Lola, lo-lo-lo-lo Lola…

        • barbarienne

          On the one hand yes, the sentiment of the first 9 words there is a good one. But that second line is coming from the same place as Ms. Dunst’s sentiment. That song can be easily read as anti-trans*, in that the reaction of the narrator is to be freaked the hell out upon discovering Lola’s penis. A good many trans* people are quite tired of the “hur hur she has a dick!” joke.

          • Rhonda Shore

            That’s what i thought, that he stays happily with Lola. At any rate, “You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman” is a phrase that makes me bristle. What does it even mean?

          • barbarienne

            What does it even mean?

            “Men are like THIS and women are like THAT and maybe it’s okay for them to play at being each other sometimes but mostly they should conform to my gender essentialist viewpoint.”

            At least she didn’t try to cite some “men and women evolved different kinds of brains because hunting/gathering” bullshit.

          • Qitkat

            So men AREN’T from Mars and women from Venus?

          • barbarienne

            There are some people I might be unsure of, but regretfully, even the assholes are from Earth.

          • tereliz

            LOL, I hope no one EVER cites that hunter gatherer shit for any purpose other than to hypothesize why women (on average) see more differentiation in color than men. Cuz that’s the only way I’m going to take them seriously.

          • Sophie

            Quick question about the name Lola: is it a popular name among the LGBT community? This is the second song I’ve heard about the subject with a character named Lola. (The song “Allô Lola” by Superbus very probably talks about a lesbian.) Is it just a coincidence?

          • barbarienne

            I have no idea. The Kinks’ song is more than 40 years old. I imagine it inspires some people?

            I know someone who named her daughter Lola, but she was thinking of the character and song from the musical Damn Yankees (at which point I bit my tongue to not say something about naming one’s daughter after a seductress specifically conjured by the devil to wreck a baseball season).

          • Sophie

            The other group is French and doesn’t do the same kind of music, so I didn’t think so. But then again,they might have heard it before and it came out when they wrote their song?

            I had never heard of the musical, but it sounds very funny. At least I don’t think people will automatically be reminded of the musical when they hear her name, so they won’t expect her to live up to it. A friend of mine was constantly asked if she was named after a Harry Potter character, even though she was born long before the books came out. It always exasperated her.

          • barbarienne

            She said about 80% of people would sing the Kinks’ song at her, and the other 20% would sing “Whatever Lola Wants, Lola Gets.” There was a clear age divide, with the old folks knowing the musical and the GenXers knowing the Kinks.

          • H2olovngrl

            I don’t know if this is better or worse than having the halls decked with you or inspiring everyone to have a jolly Christmas.
            Sincerely, Holly

          • Sophie

            I like that name! My RL name is quite rare in my country, so I usually have to correct people who mistake it for another. They often spell it wrong too, even though it isn’t that complicated.

          • KinoEye

            “Lola” was based on the true story of the Kinks’ manager going home with a lady named Lola. Ray Davies noted that Lola had stubble. The manager (whose name escapes me) couldn’t have cared less.

      • gloriana232

        If she meant for just herself, I think she wouldn’t have said “that’s why relationships work.” Relationships plural. Maybe she still meant only her relationships, but it sounds very odd.

      • fursa_saida

        Yeah, but she knows she’s talking to a magazine. She’s a pro. It’s not like she was ambushed. (All this being based on a hypothetical scenario re: editor manipulation, of course.)

    • StillGary

      I agree and maybe the “for me” was edited out. I kind of like her (OK, the idea of her) , she’s always struck me as not silly, nor full of b.s. celeb. Who knows maybe the PR machine was asleep, her filter was off and she didn’t give a hoot …don’t think they used a good picture for the cover — looks like she just woke up.

      • Tom and Lorenzo

        “For me” wouldn’t make sense when added to “YOU need a knight in shining armor” and “YOU need a man to be a man.”

    • conniemd

      That would have been my advice, stick to “for me personally” and leave out the generalizations about others.

      • H2olovngrl

        Their conceit would never allow them to do that.

    • jw_ny

      I find that often times people will substitute “I” with “you”, and it
      drives me crazy. Many times I don’t think they intend to do it, however
      It comes across as preachy and telling other how they should feel/live. In
      this case, I think Kiki meant to be preachy…it was the “I’m sorry”
      part. She knew she was speaking out against the more modern way of thinking about gender roles. It pretty much insinuates an anti-lgbt view as well.

    • Sarah

      Language be damned. She meant what she said, as far as I’m concerned. And it pretty much makes me sick to read it. I didn’t care too much about her either way, but that was a statement that as a celebrity talking to a magazine she should have thought about a lot harder. That she didn’t, regardless of her true intentions in saying it, makes it very hard to respect her. Gender is irrelevant in the face of true partnership; when two people make the effort to commit to each other and support each other in the face of all that life has to throw at us, it laughable to insert insipid constructs about gender into the equation.

    • Violina23

      Exactly. To me, feminism means I can make my own choices, regardless of gender. That doesn’t necessarily mean taking on traditionally male roles (in fact, I resent when people imply that, by staying home and caring for my kids, it’s anti-feminist) If she’s choosing a more stereotypical gender role, and that’s what she wants, great, but don’t generalize for the world. It’s about freedom of choice, not the choice itself.

      • demidaemon

        The really hilarious thing is that, at this time, she is eschewing half of her equation by simply going out and working as an actress.

  • B_C_J

    Just lost some love for her. I am hoping that there was more to her statement & the magazine simply edited it out.

    • barbarienne

      Ditto. She kind of turned into GOOP in the course of those quotes, didn’t she?

      • demidaemon

        Pretty much.

  • Wendi126

    I think the only one who could not make the Katrantzou silly is Lupita. Or Iman

    • Boulderista

      or a toddler

    • marlie

      Never in a million years would Iman wear that toilet paper cozy. I hope to God Lupita wouldn’t wear it either, though she might have the presence to make it not look like ass.

      • Wendi126

        Agree. I thought they the only ones who could make it work if anyone could and not look silly. But choose this…never

  • CakesOnAPlane

    Sure, she looks pretty, but that cover line makes absolutely no sense to me. It’s like they just drew crunchy, hippie-fied words out of a hat and combined them into random phrases.

    Also, what rock has she been living under where she thinks it is okay to marginalize entire communities by giving us her definition of a successful relationship based on traditional gender roles? SMH.

    • sugarkane105

      Hahaha I didn’t even see that cover line until I read your comment. “Mother Love,” “Child Stardom” and “The Sisterhood” together sound like a feminist, hippy-dippy, crime-fighting, super-hero threesome.

  • lecoffeeaddict

    Privilege and ignorance are never a good combination.


    • Rhonda Shore

      Well put in an economy of words! Bravo!

    • snarkykitten

      and yet, the two are more often together than apart.

  • mcbishop

    I always kind of liked her, just because she had such an idiosyncratic look about her…..not the cookie cutter starlet type. But this interview…..ugh. Dumbass.

  • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

    You know, I was so excited when I saw this first picture. She’s so lovely and I think she’s a very skilled actress. But that last comment? My only response is: what a bimbo.

  • ashtangajunkie

    Lovely photos. Perhaps she should do editorials rather than interviews going forward.

  • eowyn_of_rohan

    So if I’m happily single with no need for a knight in shining armor, I hope that means my body will get the message that I’m not being a woman and I won’t have to worry about my period anymore.

    • KinoEye

      Dang it. Mine didn’t get the memo. Get with it, body. We have a dog, no children and no boyfriend, so stop with that egg-spewing nonsense.

  • decormaven

    Getting a strong Kate Hudson vibe, especially from the cover shot. Wish the last shot had been lit differently to get a better sense of the fashion she’s modeling.

  • Clash D

    Other than the Katrantzou – which makes her look like a pregnant toddler (eww!), I quite like the styling for this spread.
    Love the Dries Van Noten.

  • Laura Renee

    Kirsten! You disappoint. I’m stealing that Dries Van Noten vest, you don’t deserve it.

    • kimmeister

      That vest is to die for.

  • elemspbee

    Photoshopped for days! As R.A. says–pores, anyone? bahaha.

  • ovarB

    Good to see that Amber Atkins doing well for herself!

    • Kitten Mittons

      Ohhhh, fer cryin in tha corn, I love that movie so hard. it is so ridiculously quotable.

      “Mom still cries everytime she sees a tilt-o-whirl or a fat lady in a tube top.”

      • ovarB

        “Most Smartest? Oh, that’s great, you’re education. Most Smartest! Get a picture of that, most smartest!”

        • Kitten Mittons

          Amber Atkins: [as Annette is being driven away in an ambulance] Mom! I’ll be right behind you in the hearse!

          Loretta: Don’t let that worry you Annette!

        • Shug

          “Can one of you boys give me a ride home?”

          “Don’t fall for it, she lives two trailers down.”

          “Oh c’mon, it’ll be real easy”

      • ovarB

        I LOVE that movie!! I feel it is my duty to educate the world and spread the joy that is “Drop Dead Gorgeous.” You know many people worship Edina and Patsy…I worship Loretta and Annette.

        • Kitten Mittons

          Hell yes. Maybe we should start some sort of group to spread the word.

          Never understand why it’s so underrated. I think it helps if you have Minnesota ties, though.

          • ovarB

            LOL! I have zero ties to Minnesota. 😛

          • Kitten Mittons

            Then you are just excellent in your own right. Both my parents grew up in MN, so we spent many summers up there, and the accents and little turns of phrase they pepper throughout just put me in hysterics every time.

            Ok, last one and I’ll stop:

            “American Teen Princesses do not cross their legs like streetwalkers. Excuse me, Miss Penthouse ’98, put your kness together. I could drive a boat show in there.”

      • Shug

        “If they ask you to take your top off, get the money first.”

        • Kitten Mittons


          • Shug

            USA is A-OK. Amer, I Can. Buy American.

            Gladys, more bars!

          • Kitten Mittons

            Loretta: Can one of you boys give me a ride home?
            Annette: Don’t fall for it, she lives two trailers down.
            Loretta: So? It’d be real easy….

          • Shug

            “Catch this in your mouth and I’ll give you a present.”

            “Hello Miss Sad Pants and her friend Serious Sally! How about a nice cool mint to turn those frowns upside down?”
            “Would a nice cool mint help if I shoved your head up your ass?”

            Also, the Oldest Living Lutheran sign. Goddamn Shriners – those lazy sons of bitches.

          • Kitten Mittons

            The Goddamn Freda sign!!!!!!

            and, “I didn’t even get to keep my damn tiara.”

            As an aside, I didn’t get to watch this the other night. I settled for another Mad Men, so it was okay, but I still am itching.

          • Shug

            In the ~year I’ve lived with my boyfriend I’ve already made him watch it twice (obviously I own it). He enjoyed it but oddly he doesn’t share my interesting in watching certain favorite movies repeatedly. Weird! Next time he is on the road for work, it’s time for my 4,201,946th viewing.

          • Kitten Mittons

            Ha! My husband thinks it’s funny, but not -that- funny. I honestly don’t know why we’re still married.

            I would have absolutely made him watch it again and withheld the sexy times until we watched, but we’re trying to get Season 6 watched before 7 starts.

            I don’t know why I love the librarian so much, she has literally two lines. Her and the dance instructor. Basically, every character.

            “I love St. Paul pork products so much….I work here now!”

          • Shug

            Seriously, even the bit parts are amazing. My mom rented it when we were younger (I was probably in middle school) and I’ve been spreading the gospel ever since.

          • Kitten Mittons

            It’s work worthy of doing. Bless you.

    • natty_bat

      “The woman clung to your tap shoes while flying through the air like a goddamned lawn dart.”

      • tereliz

        “I shoved your tap shoes in my panties before I was blown out of the house. You go find the guy who cut ’em off.”

    • Shug

      OH MY GOD OTHER DDG FANS. Not enough people know the genius. My friends and I all have it memorized.

    • Kent Roby

      “They’re never gonna let you perform naked. I asked”.

      • Kitten Mittons

        That’s it. I’m watching it tonight. I have to.

    • tereliz

      “I don’t eat shellfish. Mom always says, ‘Don’t ever eat nothin’ that can carry its house around with it. Who knows the last time it’s been cleaned.’ She should know.”

      • Shug

        Airport HoJo!

  • Jessica Freeman

    She looks really lovely. I wonder what the question was in regards to “gender” because it leaves a gaping bit of info on context and the actual question asked. We all have different beliefs on gender roles, and why they are compelled to ask these types of questions still befuddles me. Oh, because any answer will most likely be controversial and therefore, sell the magazine.

    • lobsterlen

      Totally agree. This is a general statement about all these magazine interviews. I almost feel sorry for these starlets doing these interviews. I often wonder what the question was. So often it seems they are led to making these statements and then their comments are further edited.

      • Tom and Lorenzo

        That’s really not how magazine interviews are conducted. If magazines were routinely altering celebrities’ statements, then celebrities would eventually stop going to that magazine for coverage. Magazine interviews aren’t like reality television, where they constantly chop up your comments to make you say things you didn’t say.

  • KinoEye

    I go back and forth with her. But even though she’s got the lowest possible difficulty setting (blonde, blue-eyed, thin and pretty), I’ve always thought there was something a little unusual about her looks. An odd kind of sex appeal I can’t quite pin down — comes out in spades in the Virgin Suicides, another thing I go back and forth with. But she looks good in this editorial.

    I can’t EVEN with that quote. My parents shared the household work equally. Dad would do laundry and Mom would mow the lawn, if that’s how the chores worked out that week. Sure, my mom did all the cooking. But she took French cooking classes with Jacques Pepin and loved doing it. If my dad had been the chef in the family, he would’ve cooked. And he frequently helped out in the kitchen for fun. They worked as a team. THAT’S what you need for a relationship to work, regardless of whatever gender(s) are involved.

    • Ginger

      It’s like you took a peep into my mind with your last paragraph. You said it much more eloquently than I would’ve. :)

    • random_poster

      Sharing it is how my husband and I manage the household, and none of it is gender-specific. It’s all in the teamwork. Still, I can’t tell you how many comments and looks of shock we get when people find out he does most of the cooking. He gravitates to it naturally and loves it.

      • gloriana232

        What’s even more amazing is that kind of sentiment completely clashes with the reality of professional kitchens … overwhelmingly men, always has been, even if it’s changing slowly. How is it accepted wisdom that women are “naturally” superior at “domestic” tasks but when it comes to paid work, suddenly men are more suitable? Well, we all know …

        My dad’s a great cook, and he really enjoys it. He taught my mom how to cook!


    Very pretty pictures, I have always thought she photographed really well. I rewatched Sofia Coppola’s “Marie Antoinette” the other day. Kirsten never looked more beautiful than in that film. And the clothes…….. total costume porn! I’ll leave commented on her ideas of gender and relationships to others, she is entitled (as we all are) to voice what she wants and works for her. Or doesn’t work for her. Whatever…..

  • NurseEllen

    “that Katranzou looks silly on her”……..that Katranzou would look silly on ANYONE. What a waste of fabric.

    • semirose

      Yup, maybe on the under 10 crowd that silhouette would work, maybe.

    • scoobynacks

      It makes her look like a Cabbage Patch Kid.

  • jw_ny

    I had the same reaction to the frilly pink toaster cover that she did…lmao!

    Love the cover shot though, and the multicolored vest in the 3rd shot. The blinding sun was an odd choice, imo.

  • DTLAFamilies

    I’m guessing she said those things because she grew up in Hollyweird and she’s longing for a story book version of normalcy she’s never had.

    • KinoEye

      That’s a good point. What she described probably does seem normal to her, since that’s the version of normal she’s been presented/grew up with. I guess that makes me glad I grew up with such a radically different version of normal!

  • Introspective

    her comments on gender are so antifeminist as to be enraging.

    her cover picture needs to be her singular calling card for the rest of her life. best pic she’s ever taken indeed.

  • oatmealpie

    What an adorably tiny little world view!

  • suzq

    I’m sorry. I DON’T need a knight in shining armor. And as I get older, I more appreciate fashion. I was looking at pictures of myself when I was younger. I was too thrifty/poor to afford good clothes that fit me. Yikes! I dress better now than I ever did then. It has nothing to do with laziness and everything to do with awareness.

    • CPK1

      I’m also sorry. I have been married for many years and don’t see the importance of marking gender in my relationship but rather collaboration. We both nuture, parent, carry out domestic tasks. And I certainly do not need my husband to be my knight in shining armor thank you very much. Kiki should keep her opinions to herself. And I agree, the insertion of “I’m sorry” makes it seem more than obvious she was not speaking strictly about herself bur rather laying down how she thinks other people should live their lives. Nice hair, tho.

  • suzq

    Also, “You need a knight in shining armor to make a relationship work” is a veiled “do me” statement. The blurb on the cover of Harper’s was designed to sell magazines to women with talk of “sisterhood.” But the real headline here is “KRISTEN DUNST DEMANDS YOU PROVE YOUR MANHOOD. NOW, DROP ‘EM!” Maybe she’ll save that for her spread in Esquire.

    • FrigidDiva

      Her and GOOP can have their own crazy sisterhood. I don’t know which one of them has made more ignorant comments lately, but they’re both making my eye twitch.

      • demidaemon

        I’m beyond eye twitching and on to stabbiness. Luckily, Harper’s has provided the perfect dartboard.

    • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

      As photographed by Terry Richardson. :)

  • Erica

    I guess my kids are all sorts of confused, what with my husband cooking AND being nurturing AND having facial hair and a penis. Ms. Kirsten, you look pretty, and I’ve enjoyed a couple of your movies, but you are way too old to be excused for making such a foolish statement.

    • KinoEye

      It was just so confusing to grow up with a stay-at-home dad who vacuumed, did laundry, washed dishes and was genuinely nurturing and understanding of the teenage mood swings of his only daughter. Even more confusing when you’ve got a mom who can work on cars, do heavy yard work and loves tools. I don’t know how I ever made it in this life.

      • FrigidDiva

        I suppose my son will be equally confused, since his father cooks better than I do and I can handle my fair share of power tools. I need to stop rolling my eyes so hard or I’m going to give myself a seizure.

      • Qitkat

        I think you were really fortunate.
        Some of us did grow up though with very traditional gender-role parenting, and never ever even suspected that it could be different, (and maybe in the 50s and 60s it was more rare to be different). My husband and I both grew up that way, and to a large extent, parented our kids similarly. He cooked under duress, and to this day, hates to cook. He has always done most of the yard work, as I had pollen and grass allergies. I enjoyed helping in the yard when I could, but nowadays it kills my knees with arthritis to garden, and sadly, I just can’t do it anymore. But he has always also vacuumed, washed his own clothes, cleaned toilets, washed the floors, taken out the trash, washed dishes, and even ironed. I do all the cooking, paying the bills, doing the taxes, making sure the car goes in for maintenance, and make most of the home decorating decisions. The major ones for the house we do together. When the kids were young, he babysat when needed (I actually went off every couple of years for art workshops for a week), became Scoutmaster for the Boy Scout troop our sons belonged to, and went camping with them. So as I see it, we may not split things 50/50 (and I personally think that’s untenable), but we’ve worked out our own division of labor over time.

        Which comes to my point about Kirsten here. I didn’t react nearly as strongly as most did here. Who knows what the conversation and questions had been that lead directly to her quote. I DO think she was speaking for herself and not giving advice to the world, unfortunately, it didn’t come across that way. I think she is showing how very vulnerable she feels about not being in a lasting relationship, and that has lead to her speculating, what if… I wish… that there would be a “Knight in Shining Armor” type of guy out there for me. Everyone has moments of needing to be taken care of, as well as to take care of others, men and women alike. But everyone doesn’t voice it. Sometimes people don’t even recognize that that is a void in their own lives. I actually give her props for realizing that Hollywood lifestyles have not given her what she is learning that she needs. She may have voiced it as a universal truth, but I really do think she has this longing for this kind of nurturing and stability in her very own life.

        • KinoEye

          Oh, you’re absolutely right on all counts. I don’t think the division of labor should have any hard and fast rules, but I think it should be a team effort. Each partner contributes what he or she can contribute, and pick up the slack for one another when they need to. That’s how my parents were — it was never about who should do what, but what needed to be done and who could do it — very unusual for parents raised in the 1950s. I was very fortunate, and it sounds like your sons were, too!

          And yes, I can see where a quote like that could come from a place of longing, especially from someone who’s had bad experiences with relationships before. I know nothing about her personal life, but I think it’s highly likely there are a lot of people who have tried to use and manipulate her. That’s a terrible thing, and I completely understand why she would want that kind of relationship. If she was speaking only for herself, then I have no problem her wanting that in her life — hell, there are days where I wish I had someone to take care of me like that! But I don’t like how it comes across as more of a generalization and ascribes heteronormative gender roles to all relationships.

          • Qitkat

            Your final sentence perfectly sums up the issue in this interview. I am happy to never have been in a situation where I was asked leading provocative questions, and there was not an adequate amount of real conversation involved to clarify my remarks. It’s also indicative of the issue with magazine and online interviews. I think they are designed to provoke off-the-cuff remarks, hoping someone will actually insert foot in mouth, and then have the comment out there for the anonymous world to comment upon. While this may not be true of every interview, it does make it understandable why some people rarely grant interviews, and why others have decided for their own sanity to never read anything said about them on the internet. This is why largely I prefer interviews that take place thoughtfully and with advance preparation, such as those on NPR and PBS. And even there, if someone makes a complete asshole comment, and are given the chance to explain themselves, and don’t adequately redeem in followup, that generally feels to me as a more realistic portrayal of someone, than a largely one-sided sound-bite interview. Politicians are not always adept at covering their mistakes, although many of them seem to think they are invincible, far more than I think celebrities do. It would be no fun at all to me to be constantly vigilant and on the defensive, every single time I opened my mouth.

        • Tom and Lorenzo

          Yes, props to her for saying a relationship needs a man and a woman to work! This is EXACTLY the site to heap praise on her for that statement!

          • Qitkat

            I have re-read my post several times, and am at a loss to see where I may have praised her for saying a relationship needs a man and a woman to work. I was trying to say that I understood that SHE is longing for a relationship in HER OWN life. With all due respect it seems your reaction to my paragraph is rather knee-jerk. Guys, I would NEVER deliberately do anything that offensive here. Apparently inadvertently I did. I apologize. If anything, reading your site and other’s comments, over the years, has lead me to a greater place of understanding of all possible human relationships. I’m a liberal, and have always supported gay relationships and marriage.

          • Tom and Lorenzo

            I think it’s one thing to defend the problematic nature of her comments, but to give her “props” for her statement, on a site like this, lacks, shall we say, awareness of the implications. We’re not claiming you’re a bigot or that you said something offensive. We absolutely get that it was inadvertent. But we also felt the need to point out why there’s a bit of privilege at play when you support what she said without an understanding of why others might have a problem with it. We’ve heard our entire adult lives that we should not be allowed to marry because of statements extremely similar to the one Kirsten made here. As we said upthread, we don’t think she’s a bigot either. We think she said a dumb thing and needs to be called on it, though. We think anyone needs to be called on the idea that relationships require a certain correct combination of genitalia in order to work. And we think when people praise her for making such statements, they need to be made aware of exactly what they’re praising.

            You don’t have to apologize and we’re sorry if we’ve upset you. We felt something needed to be said and now it’s been said.

  • FrigidDiva

    This is probably really mean, but I always felt like she peaked in childhood. I always felt like Interview with a Vampire was her best role and everything else has paled in comparison, although Virgin Suicides is a close second. As for her comments, oof. I’ll admit, I do love a manly man–my hubby is a firefighter. However, at home we split the work. He cooks and cleans as much as I do when he’s home. I don’t need someone to swoop in and save me, I’m more than capable of taking care of myself. Between her and GOOP, I don’t know which one of them has their head further up their ass about women and relationships. I certainly don’t claim them as part of this supposed “sisterhood”.

    • KinoEye

      You’re spot on. Interview with the Vampire was her best work. How a 12-year-old managed to channel such maturity and world weariness is still amazing to me, especially considering how that doesn’t seem to be present in any of her recent work. I’ll agree with VS as a close second — she was absolutely magnetic — but I always end up liking that movie less than I want to.

    • DTLAFamilies

      I thought she and Michelle Williams were fantastic in Dick. Not that ditsy teenage girl is a stretch, but they were both hilariously intense in that teen girl way.

  • quiltrx

    That Dries Van Noten is pretty awesome. That Katrantzou needs to be burned as a sacrifice to the fashion gods for making something utterly unwearable by anyone ever.
    My problem with that last comment…if that’s *her* narrow view of gender roles, that’s fine…but she should have stopped at the bit about HER needing a knight in shining armour. Drifting into ridiculous generalities just made her look foolish and narrow-minded.

  • Kate Andrews

    Kiki lost some of my respect with that last bit. She sounds like a Portlandia hipster who wants to go back to the 1890s. Not cool, chica.

    • DTLAFamilies

      You nailed it: hipster nostalgia, totally.

  • LeelaST

    The Dries Van Noten is beautiful. Given the right material I enjoy her on screen, but that last comment puts her in the out-of-touch Gwyneth category.

  • lobsterlen

    No one should ever wear a dress that is an almost literal interpretation of a lamp shade from a 1950s southern whore house.

  • Ginger

    The comments made by her and other celebrities just prove that one should never look to celebrities for clues as to how best live one’s life. Live your own life, people. Let others live theirs. Don’t bash them for having differing opinions and values. The world will be a lot better for it.

  • jilly_d

    There is not a person in the galaxy upon whom that Katrantzou would not look silly.

  • Betsy

    WHO made that flowery-chintzy *thing*?? It looks like a middle-school Home Ec project, made with three or four of my grandmother’s pillowcases. NOT attractive. At. All.

  • kmk05

    She should be sorry.

    The pictures are overexposed, but that cover is nice.

  • BackseatDriver

    “At least the clothes are cute, although that Katrantzou looks silly on her.”
    I think the Katrantzou would look silly on everyone, even the model.

  • R. L.

    Smoking has killed her brain cells.

  • Sif

    i think Harper’s Bazaar has done an incredible job in the past year, and Kirsten looks great in floral print.

  • Danielle

    As a working mother, I almost threw my computer screen out the window at the third quote. I make my own money and work my own job AND cook, clean, and raise my child. Guess what, my marriage works just fine.

  • Capt. Renault

    Ungh. I really hate having to put Kirsten in the category of “Stars I Once Really Liked But Don’t Anymore Because They Said Something Incredibly Stupid And Insulting”, but there you are. Say hi to Jeremy Irons and Alec Baldwin when you’re there, kid.

    • Laura Renee

      Oh my God, wasn’t Jeremy Irons’ fall excruciating (but Colbert’s takedown of it helped heal the pain)

    • marlie

      I hadn’t heard about Jeremy Irons, and I just looked it up. Man – that was awful.

    • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

      Wait, what did Jeremy Irons say?

      • Capt. Renault

        That gay marriage would lead to father-son incest, or bestial marriage, etc. It was a doozy. Later, his handlers tried backtracking for him, saying that he was only musing about marriage for tax purposes, but… yeah. Done with Jeremy Irons.

      • KinoEye

        It’s definitely worth checking out Stephen Colbert’s take on the whole thing. His Jeremy Irons impression is spot on.

  • Jacqueline Wessel

    Love that floral vest and that is my favorite picture of her. As far as her comments go, perhaps she practicing for a new lifestyle website that she’s going to call “glop”.

  • Kent Roby

    Oh, Miss Kirsten, you better watch out; Miss Gwennie is likely to cut a bitch if she finds out that anyone else is trying to apply universal truths from their own life to The World. I, for one, can’t make a single decision in life without first asking “What Would Gwennie Do?”.

  • pookiesmom

    I can’t stand this woman and have never understood how she became a star. I think she’s a terrible actress most of the time, and passable at best. She’s pretty, but it’s not like she’s hypnotizingly beautiful. Ugh ugh ugh.

    • Kent Roby

      She was practically a fetus when she was cast in Interview With A Vampire; the rest presumably came as a result of that bit of fortune. I loved The Virgin Suicides, but that’s about it.

      • pookiesmom

        True, Interview was a little before my time so I’ve never seen it. I thought she was ok in The Virgin Suicides but nothing to write home about. My favorite film I’ve seen her in is Eternal Sunshine, which is brilliant of course (and which she didn’t have a large enough role in to ruin it for me). As someone who works in theatre, I get really worked up when I see subpar (at best) actors & actresses get cast again and again, when so many stunningly talented, jaw-droppingly attractive people are fighting just to make minimum wage. I mean, it’s been 20 years since Interview with a Vampire. Why is she still getting work? Also, I would NOT recommend reading her quotes on her IMDB page (which I regretfully stumbled upon when trying to figure out if she was related to some entertainment magnate). These quotes are just the tip of the iceberg, my friend.

        I am normally not so outspokenly against women in the public eye, but Kirsten just makes me bitter for all of the talented actresses who were beat out by her.

  • marlie

    Someone needs to offer a crash course, or a “Celebrity 101” to the stars. And they all need to take it, regardless of years in the industry. One section of the course would be devoted to “how to NOT respond to questions about controversial issues like gender roles, gay marriage, politics, and religion.” Another could be “You are NOT a self-help guru.”

    • MilaXX

      You are not a self help Guru needs to be a 2 step course.

      You are NOT a self-help guru 101 – You live in Hollywood and have privileges most people don’t

      You are NOT a self-help guru 201 – Child Stars your reality is different

      • marlie

        I’d add under “How to answer questions” a section on how to respond/not respond to questions about getting married/having a baby/being a ladystar over 30, etc. (ETA: I guess that falls under the gender roles part.)

        • demidaemon

          I thought PR companies were on this. I guess they have started to slack, or are just as fed up with their clients as we are.

  • CatherineRhodes

    I love what you wrote! Ditto. What an idiotic thing to say — is she waiting by the mailbox for her copy of “Marry Smart” by the Princeton mom?

  • MilaXX

    Pictures are okay. Too much lens flare in that one picture. As to knight’s in shining Armour, that called needing help and everybody does at one point or another.

  • MarissaLG

    I saw her once, buying cigarettes in a deli in NYC. She was taller than Iexpected and was wearing a very ugly, unflattering outfit. That’s all I’ve got.

  • snarkykitten

    Christ on a cracker, that second look is as hideously stupid as her comment was

  •!/Space_Kitty Space Kitty

    What a frightfully ignorant comment. Doesn’t she have a handler/pr person/manager to keep her from looking that foolish in public? That Katrantzou isn’t the only ugly thing on the page…

  • judybrowni

    That Katrantzou would look silly on anyone.

  • Sara Hottman

    LOVE your response to her simple-minded assessment of functional relationships.

  • Adrianna Grężak

    We’re in an era where fathers are just as interested in parenting and nurturing as much as we assume mothers to be. Even commercials are starting to reflect this. I’m thinking of the Honey Maid ‘Wholesome’ Graham Cracker ad where different kinds of families are depicted. (same sex, biracial, tattooed) What struck me the most is that fathers, homosexual and heterosexual, are highlighted

    • MilaXX

      Slow clap for the Honeymaid commercials. I love them and I’m happy to see they have somehow missed most of the hateful vitriol that the Cheerios commercials received.

  • Gaby

    “Yes, traditional homemaking activities are important. They are not, however, gender-based, nor are they the universal key to all successful relationships.” As a lady attorney in NYC whose boyfriend has more domestic tendencies than I do – bless you boys. Domestic duties are neither masculine nor feminine – they just need to get done. Also, it’s gross to make being a lazy slob sound like a desirable masculine quality (which is the implication of gendering domestic duties as feminine). Meh.

    This is all very Virgin Suicides in imagery. Seems standard for Ms. Dunst.

    Now I’m wondering if Sofia Coppola has the same retrograde ideas about gender roles.

  • gloriana232

    I feel kind of sad that some people feel it’s a primarily female trait to be “nurturing.” It not only hurts women — who might not be naturally nurturing, need to work to be moms, or don’t want to be moms, period — but it hurts men too, who are expected to be … the opposite? Stoic? Distant? Disciplinary?

  • Trickytrisha

    She does look lovely. However… anyone who equates cooking with femininity is a tad misguided.

  • Comfy

    She always looks wall-eyed dopey to me but she’s pretty enough.

  • Glammie

    Oh actors . . . wonder who’s feeding Kiki her current pablum on things? Guarantee that next year it will be something different. Anyway, I’ve known all too many actors, some of whom are really good actors, who just get readily swayed by the nearest strong personality. I think it has something to do with being overly receptive and slipping into a role onstage and off. No, not all actors are like this by a long shot, but it’s definitely a personality type you see in the profession.

    Oh well, do like the photos, the Mary K. dress would be ridiculous on anyone older than Kiernan Shipka (who wouldn’t bother with it).

  • demidaemon

    Well, it is a dumb interview with her in dumb clothes. Just cementing your spot on my irrational hatred list, Kristen, while inching your way towards rational.

  • Nopinkertons

    I can’t decide if I’m more annoyed with her for falling into the trap, with the magazine for (once again) setting the trap, or society for the fact that the question even *is* a trap.

    Just once I’d like one of these women to answer the “gender” or “feminism” question with, “I’ll answer that question after I see you ask Denzel Washington if he thinks, in today’s post-racist world, there’s a place for African-Americans to re-embrace their traditional role in our society.”

    • DTLAFamilies


  • FridaStaire

    Me, I’m a huge fan of manly girls and girly men!

  • Gatto Nero

    That Katrantzou would look silly on anyone over the age of 5.

  • MissusBee

    If this were a romcom plot, the ballbusting filmstar heroine deliberately misspeaks herself to the press after the man she hates (loves) tells her she needs to show a softer side. She is then taken literally and hijinks ensue until we all agree that happiness is being who you are, with someone who loves who you are.

    That’s how I’m running this in my head. It still doesn’t explain the Mary Katranzou.