Christina Hendricks for Health Magazine

Posted on April 15, 2014

Miss Christina gets the standard “updated Joan” look for the cover of Health Mag:

Christina-Hendricks-Health-Magazine-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO-1“Mad Men” actress Christina Hendricks covers the May 2014 issue of Health magazine photographed by James White.

On not wanting children: “I love cooking for my friends. It’s nice to give them something homemade that your heart went into. That’s where my motherly nature comes in—we got a puppy, and that’s my idea of starting a family. People say, “Oh, that’s practice for parenting,” but if it’s practice for anything it’s to be a mom to another puppy. We’ve decided that we are not really interested in having children.”

It seems like it’s expected that you’d want to have kids. It’s just very normal for people to say, “Well, when you guys have kids…” And then when I say, “Actually I don’t think we’re going to do that,” people will say, “Oh, you say that now…” It doesn’t bother me, though. And, you know, there’s a small chance I could change my mind.

On planning out her life: “I’ve never been that person who had a plan like “In five years, I’m going to do this.” Things have shifted in ways that I would never have imagined. I never anticipated being a professional actor. I just assumed it would be in community theater—like after my job, I would go to rehearsal and be in a play.”

On when she’s the happiest: “Well, I woke up this morning and I heard good music playing and I smelled delicious food cooking downstairs. When I came down, my husband had his apron on and my dog was chewing on her bone. I was like, “This is perfect! This is exactly what I want to be doing right now.” I felt very, very happy.”

Christina-Hendricks-Health-Magazine-Tom-Lorenzo-Site-TLO-2Lela Rose Resort 2014 Collection

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But it’s the suit that really makes it worth checking out. Kudos to Health for not lapsing into cliche with her. It’s a great look. We’d love to see her try it in the real world.

Also: she gives good quote.
[Photo Credit: James White for Health Magazine, style.com]

    • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

      I love that Lela Rose dress on her.. I just love her, full stop..

      but then that suit.. KILLA! :)

    • Sarah

      She looks great on the cover and in the suit. And I appreciate her answering that question about kids with aplomb.

      • EveEve

        Yes yes yes to the suit. More of that please (even if it’s Photoshopped).

      • Sobaika

        Yes yes yes about her quotes. So natural and refreshing without being preachy or sounding canned. Luv huh.

      • tereliz

        That white suit! So chic!

        My husband and I made the decision long ago not to have kids and until my husband’s recent vasectomy, I constantly got the “Oh, you don’t think you want kids now, but one day…” spiel. My mom even used to say “Oh, kids just happen.”

        Yeah, Mom, they happen to your idiot son and his girlfriend, but not to my husband and me.

        Anyway, if we change our minds someday, we can always adopt.

        • Lucía Gavello

          Wow, no disrespect to your mom but I can’t fathom thinking of children as something that “happens” to you.

        • deelup

          They do just happen to some folks and it’s not because they’re idiots.

        • Sarah

          Kids do sometimes “just happen,” and not even to idiots ;) But I get your meaning. And I am very sympathetic to people who are lambasted for not wanting to procreate. So many people seem to think it is a selfish choice – i.e. you are too self involved to bother – and I know quite a few people for whom that is the exact opposite.

          • FrigidDiva

            Some very close friends of us got married last year and of course everyone was asking them right off the bat, “When are you going to have kids?”. They have two dogs they love, and as the guy put, they enjoy spending time with just each other and with themselves right now to think about kids. I appreciate people that are honest about having kids and being realistic too about how they’d fit into and affect their lives. Not every person on the planet wants kids, no crime in that.

            • Sarah

              Absolutely. The population is too high for the planet’s resources as it is. We are not in danger of dying out. Be childless if you want to, for goodness’ sake.

          • @Biting Panda

            Having kids is completely selfish : ) (Assuming it’s a planned situation, mind you.)

            It is a desire to have some piece of you and Your Love live on.
            It’s a feeble attempt at immortality. It’s the narcissistic need to have someone compliment your accomplishments and for you to prove that you’ve mastered life to such a degree, it makes you the perfect person to teach those skills to a future generation.

            • Sarah

              Yes, indeed. I’m poor as a churchmouse, but I’m totally trying to get knocked up because A: Me and the fella are too good lookin’ and smart to waste our genes and B: my mother was Perfect in Every Way and I’m desperate to pass on her legacy, especially when there are so many children out there who aren’t as lucky.

            • @Biting Panda

              Right on!
              I was shocked when my desire to reproduce forced its way into my heart. I was a long time “none for me, thanks” kind of gal. Even more so after I acquired step children. That was the perfect arrangement. All the love with half the work. But the feelings sprouted, and we talked a lot about it, we made sure the CinderKids would not feel replaced or marginalized and we went for it. I loved nearly every second of pregnancy and I love being both kinds of a mom. And, I hope, I’m doing a decent to awesome job of it.

            • Sarah

              Of course you are. You are doing a good job of being a friend to tons of virtual online pals, so I imagine in person you’re amazing :)

            • @Biting Panda

              Aren’t you the sweetest.

            • Kathy

              OMG, I love Ms. CH and love this thread! It seems there’s always someone wanting to give you grief whether you have none or one or five. Everyone leave everyone else alone, already! And doesn’t it always seem to be the guys who want to pass on their genes?

          • kimmeister

            I wouldn’t say I’m lambasted, but I definitely get shocked reactions. I think the people who have kids should have the ones who want to have kids. I simply wasn’t created with that biological clock, not even a little bit. I enjoy kids, but I’d rather borrow them and give them back at the end of the day. And since my husband and I are a mixed race couple, we have the added protests of, “But your kids would come out soooo gorgeous!” Sigh. At least my mom has never pressured me, and my mother-in-law has other grandkids so no nudges on that side either.

            • Sarah

              Ha don’t people realize that cats are both cute AND don’t need diaper changes? I have been very comfortable being an aunt to five nephews for the last 20 years, so I am fine with taking my time. Glad your moms aren’t being jerky about it; they are the ones that count.

            • julnyes

              I get “You would be an amazing mother to a weird kid” which is oddly specific and difficult to guarantee. I never planned to have children and I’m just waiting on menopause so people will stop asking me about it. I have fun being an Aunt, but that is my limit.

        • marlie

          My mom recently asked if my bestie (I’ve known her for 20+ years & she’s like a member of the family) has changed her mind about having kids (she hasn’t), and spewed the same “she’ll change her mind,” “and she’ll want a child of her own, not an adopted one” nonsense.

          • Sarah

            My longtime BFF does NOT want kids. Considering that her man is a jackass, my parents were always like “good lord I hope she knows she shouldn’t have KIDS with that guy.” I think she does.

        • vitaminC

          Well, to be fair, some people DO change their minds. One of my best friends was so adamant about not wanting children that her husband had a vasectomy (so she wouldn’t have to undergo an invasive procedure). Then, lo and behold, she shows up pregnant. To their divorce proceedings. By another guy.

          C’est la vie.

      • http://weirdinedgewise.blogspot.com ONEWEIRDWORD

        Aplomb is such a great word!

    • ashtangajunkie

      She’s lovely, and completely to die for in that suit.

    • Danielle

      That suit… mercy. I need a cold shower.

    • MilaXX

      Not loving that dress on her, but that pant suit is everythang!

    • http://redheadedwolf.wordpress.com/ Laura Renee

      YES, it is nice to see her in pants. And that dress looks far better on her than on the model.

      Kudos for her quotes, too.

    • lexilexi

      I love her in that suit, but I don’t think it’s *her* in that suit.

      • DTLAFamilies

        Yep. They photoshopped the shit out of her.

    • marlie

      Attagirl. Great photos, AND a sensible comment.

    • Nikko Viquiera

      That quote about her waking up to find her husband cooking downstair, while music was playing and the dog was chewing his bones, I want that. Would be better if the husband is naked under the apron.:)

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

        Good enough that he was cooking! Some people can’t get that part.

        • Emily Smith

          Mine would burn the house down, it’s better if he doesn’t do that. Now if he had a freshly ordered pizza waiting for me? That would work.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

            Freshly ordered pizza AND only wearing an apron?

            • Emily Smith

              Yes that would be most acceptable.

        • Sarah

          Marry a chef, that’s what I’m doing hehee

          • jay

            see, I did that, and unless you marry a very particular kind of chef, you spend most of your evenings, weekends, and holidays by yourself (since they often work second shift), and spend a LOT of time eating bachelor chow ;)

            • Sarah

              Yup, I do spend a lot of time by myself, which is okay with me. My fiancé has put in his time though, and technically now has just day shifts, but that doesn’t keep him from having to go in at all hours to make up the produce order, or set up the special for the night. I do, however, get free sushi whenever I want. Plus, of course, the excellent home cooking.

            • jay

              free sushi? BRILLIANT.

              and go you – it definitely takes a particular type of person to be with someone whose job takes up so much of their life. (there’s a reason why damn near every chef and chef-partner I know is divorced – myself included, although his job didn’t have anything to do with it – it can be freaking brutal.)

            • Sarah

              I’m sorry that yours didn’t work out. In my case, he’s an extrovert and I’m an introvert, so that facilitates the arrangement. Our first six years together consisted of us living an hour apart and meeting up once a week. When it got to be twice or three times, we shacked up. He is also very aware that the other people at his work don’t have nearly as good a home life as he does. That helps :)

      • Kathryn Sanderson

        Dangerous, though…

      • Violina23

        Kinda like the anti-Kirsten Dunst, eh? ;)

    • Introspective

      that is the suit of my dreams!!!! i have always wanted a good kick ass white or cream pantsuit in my life.

      this pic is the kick in the ass i needed to go look for one. snaps girl. you are rocking it!!

      • kimmeister

        I have a cream suit, but it doesn’t disguise the thunder thighs. If I could find one that does that . . .

    • TAGinMO

      I’d be curious to see how the suit’s jacket and lapels look and lay when she has her arms at her sides. Slight chance that the pose was born of necessity. Still, she looks great in both getups. The neckline of that dress is insanely flattering, and the model looks so sad and lifeless in it after seeing Christina’s curves make it sing.

      • Sophie

        She is flattening her breasts in the second picture, so another pose would probably make a big difference in the whole look. I’d be curious to see it, but she looks great as is.

    • Crystal

      THAT SUIT.

      I DIE.

    • MK03

      She perfectly summed up my feelings on having kids. If one more person says to me “Oh, you say you don’t want kids now, BUT…” I am going to smack them.

      • BarniClaw

        Me, too. And how so super awesome to hear someone (a celebrity/actress) say she doesn’t want kids. Celebrities: they’re just like us!

        • Cheryl

          Kudos to her for having the guts to SAY it though. We seem to be living in such a baby obsessed culture, that any time an female actor gains one kilo, everyone starts in on the bump discussion. Many people really do want to remain child free, but very few famous people will come out and say it.

      • Lucía Gavello

        Ditto, I know she said it doesn’t bother her but honestly, I don’t have that kind of composure. And I’m not even sure I don’t want kids but being 29 and in a steady 9 and a half years relationship without marriage or kids seems to make it OK for friends, family and even strangers to have unsolicited input on my life choices ALL. THE. TIME.

        • ballerinawithagun

          At 45 I ended up with stepchildren after not wanting children of my own. They were a sophomore and a junior in high school and their mother had re-married long before I came into the picture so most of the usual issues didn’t arise. We are all adult friends now. Just had a third grandchild on Sunday. Becoming a grandmother was initially quite a shock but I’ve recovered and I’m enjoying life immensely.

          • Lucía Gavello

            That’s exactly what I mean, there are all kinds of paths to take in life and people find happiness and fulfilment in many different ways, some of which are planned for, others are desired, others are happy ‘accidents’. Despite the struggles that we all have, I consider myself happy and whole in this particular moment of my life and no one but me has a say in what are the things that make me feel that way. And I bet you are a very cool grandma ;)

        • VictoriaDiNardo

          One benefit of middle age is that people finally shut up about micro-managing your fertility!

        • KinoEye

          I feel ya. I’m in an area where it seems to be expected that you’ll marry and start having as many kids as humanly possible when you’re 18-21. Being 24 with no SO, a dog, and a kitten has actually spawned local gossip that I’m a lesbian. Because of course. Not that I mind, but it’s hilarious how narrow-minded they are when it comes to women.

          • Sarah

            Oh gawd. I know this phenomenon. I used to go out to breakfast/shopping a lot with my BFF in the town we’re from (Redneck Central, VA) and though we both had menfolk in our lives, the fact that we were seen together a lot, instead of with a variety of people, spawned the same rumor. I used to get mad because I personally think my BFF is super gorgeous, but she’s really not my type, nor would I be hers, did we actually prefer ladies.

      • Lower L

        Maybe this is a bad analogy, but I feel like telling someone “You think you don’t want kids now…” is similar to telling a gay man “You just haven’t met the right girl.”

        • Erica

          I agree that no one should bug people about their choices, but I didn’t want kids in my 20s and now have 3 (being 12 years older than my younger brother meant I had no illusions about the drudgery part of parenting). Being gay isn’t a choice.

          I love her quote. As someone who was a former prosecutor and still works in criminal law and sees frequent evidence of what often happens to unwanted children, please only have them if you want them. The gift that reliable birth control has given our generations!

          • Lower L

            I don’t believe I stated that being gay is a choice. I am someone who has never felt maternal, never–despite my vivid imagination–been able to conjure images of my life with kids in it. I don’t think that was a choice–it’s just how I am. For the most part, our society has accepted that different people are wired differently in terms of who they’re sexually and romantically attracted to. I just wish it would catch up on accepting that different people are wired differently in terms of procreative urges.

      • Loramir

        YES. As if implying that not wanting kids makes you defective isn’t bad enough, then they have to patronizingly roll their eyes, smile knowingly, and assume that you’re not mature/confident/intelligent enough to be sure of your own decision and that someday you’ll see the light and realize that you’ll never be truly complete without passing on your DNA. (Not that some people DON’T change their mind, and that’s fine. Just don’t assume it’s going to happen and imply that everyone who doesn’t want kids is missing out on some big secret.)

        Recommended listening: “Pregnant Women are Smug” by Garfunkel & Oates

        • Lucía Gavello

          You have sent me on a Garfunkel and Oates youtube spiral, I had never listened to them! SPORTS GO SPORTS!

          • minervathena

            LUV THEM. I can’t help but get listen to SPORTS GO SPORTS when I hear about some ridiculous athletics rivalry.

          • Loramir

            They’re brilliant!

      • Wendy

        I don’t know if I get angrier when people say this, or the “You just don’t want/can’t handle all the responsibility” bullshit I’ve heard just as much.

        (edit: typos)

        • MK03

          UGH. When people say that, I want to say “YES. YOU’RE RIGHT. I DON’T WANT THE RESPONSIBILITY. ISN’T IT BETTER THAT I REALIZE THAT ABOUT MYSELF AND DON’T HAVE KIDS THAT I DON’T WANT?!?!”

    • Glam Dixie

      That poor model, Christina is putting her to shame in that dress.

      • Alloy Jane

        Indeed, I saw the pic of the model and thought of a little girl trying on Mommy’s dress.

    • elizabethann1

      ugh I finally have her hair cut, but now i want the COLOR

    • KinoEye

      More reasons to love Christina. Her idea of happiness is very close to mine. And wow, she’s got legs for DAYS in that white suit. Spectacular.

    • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

      She looks awesome!!! Hire that stylist!!!

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      I am tired of hearing, “You say that now…” I think by this age I KNOW what I mean with such serious decisions. Hearing from the gyno was the worst. “Every woman wants children,” in a condescending tone. Isn’t that a professional who should be most supportive of a woman being childfree?

      So you go, Miss Hendricks!

      • Denise Alden

        Exactly! I was perimenopausal and some nitwit (granted, no one who knew me well) would start in about some brother’s cousin’s sister-in-law who had a child when she was forty-eight. Jesus.

        • Musicologie

          The really frustrating thing is that the nitwit probably thought she was being supportive. (I wasn’t there, so I don’t know; maybe she was being bitchy. But in my experience, those types of comments are intended sincerely and obliviously.)

          • Denise Alden

            You’re absolutely right! I think, too, it’s just reflexive for people to believe that everyone wants children.

      • Lori

        So, I assume you’re looking for a new gyno because boy o boy, that crap is not OK.

        And yes, go Ms Hendricks and hubbie for knowing what they do and do not want and not letting other people’s opinions get them down. Also yeah to her for looking fabulous in these pictures.

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

          Oh yes, that was years ago, and my only visit with that one. Ptooie!

      • Kimmu

        I would have immediately looked for a new gyno. I would not tolerate that bullshit from anyone.

      • Violina23

        Oh please. I always wanted children, but I totally understand why people don’t. And frankly, sometimes I’m jealous of those people. ;-)

        *ETA: I once saw a car that had a stick figure family decal that consisted of a man, a woman, and 2 big bags of money. Cracked me up for 3 blocks…. :)

        • http://www.jaimieteekell.com/ Jaimie

          Some of us are sometimes jealous of you. :)

        • Alloy Jane

          That is hilarious! It’s interesting, as someone who does not have children but has spent the bulk of my life raising them, I see more of the “oh you had kids?” judgement than the “why don’t you have kids?” It’s like, women who have children are seen as primitive and unprofessional for not being able to keep from breeding. It’s bizarro.

      • boweryboy

        You know what’s really weird?

        Now that it’s largely legal for gays to get married and many of which have children, I’m starting to hear that from my gay friends who are married with children. It’s all, “When are you and your partner going to have kids? What? You guys don’t want kids? You’re just saying that now. Just wait..”

        Huh? I neither have a paternal bone in my body nor do I have the patience. I’ll stick with being the cool uncle (now great uncle because most of my nieces and nephews have children of their own). Besides, I like my disposal income, thank you very much.

        • http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/ Tom and Lorenzo

          Just tell those bitches that if you have a kid, you’ll have no place to store your poppers and ball gags. They won’t bother you about it again.

          • ScarlettHarlot

            I had a coworker constantly nag me about when my husband and I were going to have a baby, on an almost daily basis for months, so one day she went after me about it during a meeting, so I calmly responded “When your husband puts one in me.”

            She amazingly has not brought it up again.

            • Lower L

              Oh my God, you are my new personal hero.

            • ScarlettHarlot

              I honestly had tried everything else to stop her: saying never, someday, it wasn’t her business, I didn’t know if I physically could (seriously, not everyone *can* conceive), ignoring her, pretending I hadn’t heard her, changing the subject, nothing worked and I just couldn’t take it anymore. This is the same woman who had told me I was immoral for “living in sin” before I was engaged, so she’d been wearing me down for years.

            • KinoEye

              Wow. Kudos to you for not dropping some knowledge on her sooner. It’s fine if people have personal beliefs they feel strongly about, but it’s not fine to repeatedly impose them on someone else. For shame, coworker.

            • Chaiaiai

              Dear Jesus Lawd, you are EVERYONE’s personal hero. Good for you.

          • formerlyAnon

            Jesus god, that laugh was a sneak attack!

          • snarkykitten

            Literally laughed out loud. Maybe I should try that one out, only with strap ons.

          • boweryboy

            Word.

          • SewingSiren

            Just put them on the top shelf, because you’ll need them more than ever if you know what I mean.

      • http://www.jaimieteekell.com/ Jaimie

        I said I wanted to be childfree to my gyno last Friday and she just accepted it and went on. “Well, since you don’t want kids…” SO nice. I know not everyone is lucky enough to have that.

    • Tanya Wade

      How refreshing. The quotes and the suit. But especially the suit. It’s making my 1979 fantasies come true.

    • Sophie

      Fantastic picture in the suit, but she also looks great in the dress. Very much enjoyed her opinion on being childless and happy. And the dog being practice for one more dog, not a baby.

    • Guest

      I love her even more. What refreshingly honest answers. Her last quote sort of reminds me of something I heard once in a song: “If you’re not getting happier as you get older, then you’re fucking up.”

    • Gatto Nero

      She is killing it in both looks here. The suit is surprising and beautiful. And I love her quote on happiness.

    • Agatha Guilluame

      *squeals* That pants suit is everything!

    • queeniethebold

      Love hearing her honest thoughts about having children and what makes her happy. i made that decision almost 35 years ago (when i was a lot younger than she) and have never regretted it. ’tisn’t that i don’t have regrets in my life, but really and truly that hasn’t been one of them.

      The suit really is sensational. The dress is gorgeous, too, but a bit more expected.

    • ScarlettHarlot

      She looks fabulous. I know she told Conan she wants to go back to blonde as closure from Joan, but I really think it suits her. Also, as a fellow “my dog IS our kid” person, I applaud her answers.

      • Musicologie

        Actually, what I like most about that was that she recognized that her dog ISN’T her kid–and that’s fine. They really are two different realms of responsibility.

        • ScarlettHarlot

          Right, I don’t mean to conflate the two, I worded it poorly. I meant it more as my annoyance at people who think our dog is a trial run for a baby, and say things to us like “marriage, house, dog, baby!” I volunteer with a dog rescue, and that all-too-common mentality of a dog is a placeholder kid until the real one arrives just drives me nuts.

          • Musicologie

            Ah, I see we agree! There’s a lot of overlap–patience, consistency, lots of love–but the goals are different. With a puppy, you’re raising a creature to become a life-long companion. With a baby, you’re raising a creature to become an independent member of society. It’s so sad when people don’t recognize the different nature of these relationships.

            • ScarlettHarlot

              Exactly! There are wayyyyyyyy too many people who don’t recognize the amount and type of work that goes in to each, and I’ve seen it lead to far too many sweet pups being dumped at our rescue when people decide to have a kid, or when they haven’t properly thought about how to raise two entirely different types of creatures at the same time and give up on the dog. (Seriously, the stories I could tell you.)

              Really it’s all about knowing your strengths and limitations. I am great at raising adult rescue dogs. I am not as good with puppies. I am great dealing with kids 4 or 5 and older. I am terrible with babies. I make my life decisions accordingly. :)

            • ampg

              I’ve never understood the whole “dog as practice for a kid” thing. I love being a parent, but I’ve never wanted a dog. If you know you want kids, just have the kid already. It’s like trying to train yourself as an opera singer by fronting a rock band – they’re both about singing, but the skills from one aren’t completely transferable to the other.

            • Alloy Jane

              “With a puppy, you’re raising a creature to become a life-long companion. With a baby, you’re raising a creature to become an independent member of society.”

              This needs to be on a plaque in a large, bold font.

    • HomeOfficeGirl

      I think updated Joan is the right way to go for her. Her instincts on her own are no good. She looks amazing in both these shots but that pant suit is not too believable….

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

      That white pantsuit shot is to die for. Has anyone else seen the music video she’s in – “The Ghost Inside” by Broken Bells? She’s magnificent and in space drag.

      SPACE DRAG.

      • BluesD

        I didn’t know it existed until you mentioned it. She is amazing in the video. Sorry that it’s so sad though.

    • KT

      Ooooooooooooooooh! Absolutely love the suit on her. Killin it.

      And this is the very definition of duh, but she is just so pretty.

    • Denise Rambo

      That dress looks SO much better on her than it does on the model. And her body looks SO different in that suit!

    • Coco Cornejo

      Really, they lead with a woman not wanting to have children? I thought we were living in the 21st century. My mistake.

    • yethica

      I love her more as I get to know more about her. Her stance on kids (and puppies) is totally where I stand as well.

      • marlie

        You’ll be the cool, fun aunt one day. ;)

        • yethica

          That sounds like an excellent plan.

          • marlie

            Did you just change your avatar? I love the pic of Livvy!

    • http://www.jaimieteekell.com/ Jaimie

      She’s childfree! Love her even more.

    • ElaineMarie34

      CH looks sensational and radiant, and I must have that Lela Rose dress. Off in search of a pattern I can adapt or might even have to try draping it myself.

    • http://www.flickr.com/photos/divine_aphasia/ Constant Cat

      She is always refreshing.

    • chris garcia

      Such a refreshing change from the “i truly understood what it means to be a woman when I became a mother” clap trap. Oh, and she looks breathtakingly beautiful.

    • The Versatile Chef

      How did I know I was never going to want children? I was a nanny for two years in my early twenties. Up until then I was ambivalent about children but figured I would get married and have a family because…well, that’s what women do. I wasn’t far into the nanny tenure when I realized I didn’t have the patience or interest to be a good mom. When I told this to people, they would say “oh, it’ll be different when you have your own.” Nope. Luckily I had the presence of mind to know that the distinct lack of maternal feelings was never going to change. I can’t imagine how horrible it would have been if I had ignored those gut feeling, had kids anyway, and THEN realized I wasn’t cut out for motherhood.

      My husband is much older than me. When we met, he was a widower with five children ranging from late teens to mid-twenties, and I was nearly thirty. After a year and a half of dating, I popped the question but he was hesitant to say “yes” because he was done with having children and wasn’t sure I meant it when I said I had no interest in having a family of my own. I finally convinced him I wasn’t changing my mind (about marrying him or staying childless) and we’ve been happily married for 21 years. Always knew I made the right decision.

      Also: Lack of maternal instinct doesn’t mean I don’t like kids. Pisses me off when people assume that. I enjoy being around small children, just not 24/7.

      • StelledelMare

        As a younger person (24) who is not married, I have to say that I completely understand this. The most experience I’ve had with children is watching my now 10 year old cousin grow up as well as some off and on interactions with younger siblings of my friends. There are people that I know that just know that they want children. I think they’d feel like something was missing otherwise. I’ve always thought that that was perfectly fine for them but I’ve known for a long time now that I have no maternal feelings when it comes to children. I look at them and I really don’t feel much of anything. I’m pretty indifferent to them for the most part and I too do not have the patience or the interest. I never have and I honestly don’t think I ever will. I’m right up there with Christina when she talks about her dog. I absolutely adore animals and will consider any pets to be my children. I’m constantly getting the whole “oh you’re young, you’ll change your mind.” thing and it makes me mad because to me that’s just assuming that everyone, deep down wants children. And that’s just not true. I know myself well enough in this regard to know I’m not changing my mind. Also I definitely agree that people think you hate kids if you don’t want them. I don’t hate children and would never ever want to see a child suffer in any way. I will entertain them if I must, indulge them in some aspects, and all that good stuff but not for very long (again, no patience).

        • The Versatile Chef

          I am nuts about our cat. Completely nuts. I guess I was just born with a different nurturing gene.

          Oh, and that thing Christina said about the satisfaction she gets from feeding people? Same here.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Me too. Pets and feeding people. Christina is my kind of woman!

            In my teens I assumed I’d have kids because that’s what generally happened (although why I thought that is beyond me – none of my aunts and uncles had children until I was well out of my teens), but never was really into the idea for myself. And then I married a man who also didn’t want children. We check in with each other every couple of years to make sure we are both still happy with not having kids, but now we’re both in our 40s I think those check-ins can get further apart!

          • StelledelMare

            My best friend has the most adorable cat and I’m always convincing her to go into Petsmart to buy stuff for her cat, haha. I’m living at home at the moment and my mom refuses to let me have pets so I just have to live vicariously through my friends who have pets.

        • KinoEye

          I’m in the 24-year-old, unmarried boat myself. I have no idea whether or not I want kids at this point in my life, but I will say that small kids make me nervous. Being perhaps the only responsible party for their health, happiness and well-being. That’s a huge job, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be up to the task. I recently got a 6-week-old kitten, and I feel that nervousness and concern for her when I’m not bowled over by cuteness. I just don’t know if I could handle the anxiety. I don’t hate or dislike children at all — I love seeing my coworker’s children when they come to the office — I just don’t know if it’s the right thing for me. Certainly not right now, anyway. Too many other things I want to do before devoting my life to another human being, if I want to someday. For now, Calvin (dog) and Gracie (cat) are my pride and joy, and I feel that sense of happiness Christina describes when I come home to find them both stretched out on my bed.

        • Vicky

          That last part is so true. I’m even younger (20) but I’m pretty sure I don’t want kids. And it’s not like I don’t know what being around kids is like– my youngest brother is seven years my junior, so I remember EVERYTHING about his childhood. From his birth to changing his diapers to his ‘no!’ phase to his tantrums– I love him regardless, but I don’t want to go through all of that. I just cannot imagine myself with children. I have babysat my nieces and a couple of neighbourhood children of all ages, and I can honestly say that every time I had to take care of them my interest in a family of my own diminished further and further.
          What bugs me so much is the fact that other people, even friends my age, do the condescending I-know-what-you-want-better-than-you-do thing when I tell them I’m not interested in kids. The only person who never questioned my choice when I told them is my own mother. And yes, maybe I will change my mind (probably not), but that doesn’t make it okay for others to lecture me on what *I* really want out of *my* life. Ugh, so annoying.

          • somebody blonde

            That part is so bewildering to me. What is the point of telling someone who says they don’t want kids that they will in a few years? The petty joy of getting to say “I told you so” if one turns out to be right? It makes no sense.

            • Vicky

              I think deep down it is rooted in genuine concern, because people (especially women) without a desire for children are apparently still seen as deviant. But yes, what’s the point? I fully understand why other people would want children, and I think that committing yourself to raising a child is very noble and admirable (sounds sarcastic for some reason but I really do admire parents). It’s a tough job however, and the good old ‘every child wanted, every parent willing’ comes to mind– if you’re not willing, why bother?

            • somebody blonde

              Maybe you’re right about the concern part. With all the fertility paranoia floating out there, some people probably think that women who say they don’t want kids are going to change their minds one day and it’ll be too late. Or something I guess.

              Personally, I can think of very few objectively good reasons to want kids. The way I think of it, I want kids because it’s one of the very few things that I have irrationally and consistently wanted over the years. There has never been a time when I didn’t want kids. If a person doesn’t feel that way, I can’t imagine what on earth would cause them to even think about acquiring children.

      • Qitkat

        I found your post interesting as your position is similar to my best friend’s. I always knew I wanted kids (had three, and now three grand kids), so it initially surprised me that she never wanted any. Her second and current marriage is also to an older (divorced) man who had six kids, who lived with their mom, so she never had a part in raising them. Now they are all long grown with their own kids. My friend has never been very involved in their lives, but has nieces and nephews that she thinks the world of. They have been married a few years longer than you have.
        But the most important thing is that this has never ever mattered to our friendship. It was cemented when we were teenagers, and has continued through many storms of life, I dare say she knows me better than anyone living on earth, more than my husband. I cherish this friendship deeply. We have talked about this subject a few times, but it is largely irrelevant, as we are connected on so many other levels.

        It’s nice to see Christina’s honesty, especially her recognizing that a puppy is not practice for having a child. She looks beautiful here, over shopped, but stunning.

        • The Versatile Chef

          That’s so nice to hear. All of my close friends have children of their own (I’m godmother to a few of them) but they barely questioned me about my choice not to have any myself. My family has been cool about it as well. I have four married brothers, all with children (and grandchildren) and though they looked surprised when I said I wasn’t going to have any, they didn’t question my decision.

          I’m very close to all my nieces and nephews and take great pride in being known as “The Cool Aunt”. Also, because my husbands kids are not much younger than me, I’ve always been more of a sister than a mother figure to them. Alls well that ends well.

      • @Biting Panda

        Kudos for knowing yourself so well! I am astounded that, in this day and age, that people who feel this way are still made to feel like pariahs. When will the world adopt a more “To each their own” philosophy?

        • somebody blonde

          To be fair, the reason why this persists is the same reason that so many people doubt that male bisexuality exists and tell male bisexuals that they’re actually gay: because that happens. As long as lots of people who say they don’t want kids in their twenties change their minds in their 30s, there will be rude people telling the twenty-somethings that they’ll change their minds.

          • @Biting Panda

            To be the other side of fair, I think it’s reasonable to consider that many life goals change from decade to decade, and that’s as it should be. But, I have friends, in their forties, who still have to defend their decision to remain childless.

      • twocee

        I’ve never wanted kids – ever. But when I was 30, I fell in love with a man who had full custody of 9 year old twin boys. I loved him enough to accept the whole package (and 12 years later I’m still happy that I did), but I never once experienced any desire for a child “of my own,” or ever felt “cheated” that I wasn’t there for the boys’ toddler years, etc. I thank whatever deity exists that my husband was able to have children with someone else so that I never felt the pressure to do so myself.

      • WalkingNPR

        Yes! My people! That last point is always brought up when I say I don’t want kids. But you’re so great with your nieces!! Yeah–I’m great with them because I can enjoy them and give them my energy and then GIVE THEM BACK to their parents at the end of the day. And by the end of the day I am VERY ready to go back to my grownup, childless life!

    • lalahartma

      Yum! Love the suit, and she looks great in the dress!

    • DTLAFamilies

      I have a kid but I give her all the credit for being upfront about not having children, especially since so many stars fling massive amounts of bullshit around the family thing. *side-eye to Jennifer Aniston*

    • Rhonda Shore

      I love her in the dress and the suit, and love the quotes…waking up to the aroma of fine cooking by a man in an apron and a dog chewing its bone sounds great to me too…

    • Ben Rowe

      Are you guys going to cover the shoot she did for Rhapsody magazine shot by Tony Duran?

    • CatherineRhodes

      They really, really slimmed her down. Look at how flat-chested she looks in that dress! Damn you, Photoshop!

    • MzzPants

      I love that she’s not all cleavage and pout, even if Photoshop was involved. She’s still a beauty and her comments are thoughtful.

    • thecitysleeps

      She’s beautiful. Love that suit on her, and love her hair. Also can I say how refreshing it is to see a lady actor talking about being happy and married and not wanting kids as a choice? I feel like it’s not really an ‘accepted’ opinion and choice still today and it’s great to see it said by someone well known like her.

    • Chuck Barthelme

      Hot damn, she looks awesome in that suit! Sexy and powerful.

      • Chuck Barthelme

        Also, AMEN on the quotes on children. As someone who had a vasectomy at 23, I can totally relate. It’s been 13 years since then and I’ve never regretted my decision. Sometimes you just know.

        • http://www.readbarbara.com/ ReadBarbara

          I know — when people used to tell me “oh, you’ll change your mind” about having kids I always replied, “But what if I don’t?” Potential childless regret seemed a small issue compared to regretting signing up for the most important lifetime job but not wanting it. Parenthood is not for everyone.

          • Chuck Barthelme

            I always figured if I did change my mind (not that I thought I would), I’d just adopt. I love our adopted cats and dogs, and I just don’t have the attachment to my genes that some might. Though it hasn’t come up anyway since I’ve never even considered the possibility. Luckily, I’m getting on in years to the point where most of the questions about it are dying out on their own.

            • http://www.readbarbara.com/ ReadBarbara

              Yes, it fades away in time, said the girl turning 50 next week.

          • somebody blonde

            That’s one thing I’ve never understood. If I’m talking to someone younger than 30 who says they don’t want kids, I might think to myself that they might change his/her mind. People often do. But it seems downright rude to say something to that effect. Why do people think it’s okay to say that they know your future mind better than you do?

        • aahlife

          I am the oldest of seven children, and as a latina, it was my automatic role to take care of all my siblings. My childhood was dominated by caretaking a very unruly and exhausting lot. Therefore, I have no romantic notions about the reality and responsibilities of child rearing. Today, well beyond my childbearing years, I continue to treasure and protect my time and privacy, and do not regret not having children. I had the experience raising children. I am the cool aunt and godmother, and that is great and fulfilling.

    • RohanMBN

      Love the quotes on motherhood. Not every woman is required to have kids, nor are they required to explain why.

    • DesertDweller79

      That second photo is amazing! She looks fantastic!!

    • http://cheekypinky.wordpress.com cheekypinky

      She is WERQing that pants suit!

    • Judy_J

      It is refreshing to see a woman be so honest about not wanting kids. I suspect many children are brought into this world by women who didn’t really want to be mothers, but were pressured by society/family/friends/convention into having them. Kudos to Christina for knowing her mind.

    • Cheryl

      The white pant suit, fantastic. She does look truly gorgeous.
      What a wonderful thing to hear a celebrity actually admit to not wanting children. Brave lady, in this baby bump obsessed culture. I don’t like Joan very much (way too much of a mean girl), but I really like Christina.

    • Kitten_Mittens

      I kind of wish she would adopt me.

    • Imasewsure

      You know what makes that pants suit so awesome? The right shoes…. our girl would have paired it with something orthopedic… still she looks gorgeous. Love her quotes but it would be nice to have her pontificate on global warming or something beside her body and her body (and what she may or may not choose to do with it). Ugh

      • Gatto Nero

        I’m guessing that she’s responding to canned questions, and not just speaking off the cuff.

    • amanda lynn

      That’s a great quote. I think that I’m heading down the childless path, and it’s comforting to see people embracing that.

    • http://vispreeve.tumblr.com/ Den Milano

      Am I the only one who is disturbed by the terrible photoshop of the cover photo? Her right arm, hair and neck all look weird and fake. It seems like she wasn’t even making that pose.

      • alyce1213

        Also, her face is so photoshopped on the cover, it looks crooked.

    • sagecreek

      Wow, she looks great in that white suit.

    • suzq

      Love the pants suit. Joan is gonna KILL in the 70′s!!!!

      • yllas

        We won’t be seeing her in the 70′s, though.

    • FrigidDiva

      I love her quote on not wanting to have children, but stop and consider this–whould they ever ask this question of a male actor? It’s the 21st century, it would be so amazing if magazines and interviewers could get past asking every female the same standard questions on marriage, relationships, and their womb.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Well said-magazines really ought to be tabling the baby/children question when they interview female celebs.

      • marlie

        You are absolutely, 100% right, but I appreciate that she gave an honest, non-preachy answer.

        • FrigidDiva

          Totally agree on her answer. She’s far more tactful than I would be, which is yet another reason I’m not a celebrity.

      • Musicologie

        I would love if some celebrity reporter made it a mission to ask male stars about having kids, not just to make the point about gender roles, but because I think it might lead to some interesting answers. So many of these interviews are boilerplate–mix it up a little!

        • formerlyAnon

          Right. I read celebrity interviews because I’m nosy about their answers, even though I know better than to think the answers are likely to be terribly revealing of who that person actually is. So it’s not that they ask about children that I mind (though god knows I’d rather know other things, like what kind of staff do you have, business and personal, and what they’re responsible for, and what you *really* do on vacation, not on the photo ops, but when you and the people you care about get together to spend time together, and other stuff related to “how does this extremely odd life/job actually work“), but I wish they’d ask the question of the men as well. In deference to the idea (SOMEday I want it to be a reality, not an ideal) that BOTH parents are responsible for and significant to child rearing.

      • ampg

        According to the interview back-and-forth as published, she brought it up, not the interviewer. The question was actually about homemade gifts or something. The interviewer followed up, but that’s to be expected.

    • MoreShoes

      I love how the dress sings on her and looks depressing on the model. I want the same shape dress. Where can I find a knock off?

    • LJCdoc

      She needs to steal that cover dress, stat.

    • Vee

      LOVE the suit. But I would like to see a shot of her not kicking out her hip like that. Every shot, hip, hip, hip.

    • crash1212

      Both looks are fabulous. And I love the fact that she’s not having kids and doesn’t apologize for it.

    • stubbornthoughts

      She looks fantastic, and I love what she has to say.

    • d4divine

      That suit is EVERYTHING

    • GeoDiva

      Deciding not to have kids is such a braver decision then deciding to have them. I wish people would respect anyone choice in this matter. Its a no-brainer that she looks good in the dress, but wow….that pant suit is amazing! Wish the Net-a-Porter spread went this direction.

    • formerlyAnon

      The suit is brilliant on her. Assuming only the minimum of photo manipulation, it looks dramatic & commanding yet doesn’t make her look larger than she actually is.

    • formerlyAnon

      Also: probably some of the most graceful interview answers I’ve heard. She’s really smart and/or has been really well-prepared and/or the magazine editor loves her like a fan.

    • LeelaST

      Love her and love that suit! Totally admire her “childless viewpoint,” feel like I’ve discovered a soulmate!

    • somebody blonde

      She looks utterly fab. I respect her decision, but is anyone else a little sad that she won’t have adorable little ginger children to carry around?

      • kerryev

        That’s sweet, but she’s a natural blonde.

        • somebody blonde

          Did not know that! That actually cheers me right up.

    • FridaStaire

      Love her. Want that dress!

    • BrooklynBomber

      She does give good quote. And I need that suit. And I love her hair in that picture.

    • Peeve

      I think she looks great! That said, I wish they hadn’t Photoshopped the snot out of her. She puts the dress model to shame, though, even with her boobs made non-existent. Totally agree with her about the kid issue. Some of us just aren’t cut out to be parents, and it’s better to figure that out before you have them. I started baby-sitting at the age of 10, with a full-time babysitting job at 12, as well as a job taking care of severely autistic and other challenged kids at a boarding school at the age of 15. I discovered very early on that motherhood is not for me. Love kids, but I’m better not having them. I just don’t have the patience. Fortunately, I didn’t have a lot of people pressuring me about it.

      • Valdri8

        I adore her, but I believe that those photos have been P-shopped through the stratosphere. She looks almost flat-chested and narrow-hipped, and oh please.

    • SRQkitten

      They may not have lapsed into cliche with her regarding styling choices but they sure did with the questions. Why is it necessary to ask a female star about their plans for children? So cliche can’t even begin to get started on that.

    • Haley Buchanan

      She is my spirit animal. Both of the looks are amazing on her, but I am so, so very appreciative that there are celebrities that have the gall to give soundbites like this. Thank you for being honest and awesome and fabulous, Miss Christina!

    • quiltrx

      She does give good quote! As a child-free woman (married 19 years), I love hearing a celebrity break the whole subject down to an interviewer in pretty much exactly the way that I do when the subject comes up. She seems to really know herself and to unapologetically BE herself. Attagirl.

    • SewingSiren

      Amazing and a bit sad that they focus so on whether or not she’ll have children . They hardly ever ask this of childless males do they? And it is certainly never ask of actors with children whether or not they regret the decision to have children. Sometimes people do regret that and the result is much worse than wish you had children that’s for sure.
      The bottom line is we are all better off being able to decide.

    • JP

      Dress is nice but I LOVE her in that pantsuit. And I feel like I’ve found a kindred spirit in her for her take on not having kids (now if only my mother would get off my back…).

    • http://weirdinedgewise.blogspot.com ONEWEIRDWORD

      The way she looks in that dress makes me feel sorry for the model. And love her philosophical answer about not having kids.

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    • amaranth16

      Loving that suit on her. I wish she went for pants more often.

    • OffToSeeHim

      God, these pictures are AMAZING!