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Posted on March 28, 2014

FINISH LINE, DARLINGS. We’ve made it to the end of another week. This calls for celebrating. And since we’re doing a little virtual pre-tour of the cities will actually be touring for the second leg of our book tour, let’s check in on San Francisco, darlings.

 

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We want to go to there. And stay there all night.

In other book news, we posted two video interviews from last month’s mini-tour; one from the morning news show in D.C. and one for the Minneapolis Tribune when we went to the Mall of America. The second’s our favorite, if only because no one’s asked us about Jon Hamm’s penis before.

In other sort-of book news, Gwyneth Paltrow clearly read Chapter 10: The Epic Breakup and we can’t salute her enough for that. Brava, girl. There are plenty of tips in there for you. We expect you to announce how you’re a survivor very soon. Also: a luxury goods endorsement contract.

And finally, in non-book news, and totally as discussion points, we rented two movies this week. The Wolf of Wall Street, which is WAY overpraised as far as we’re concerned and Inside Llewyn Davis, which we initially wrote off, but find it keeps sticking to us days later. We have no idea why the bloated, semi-nonsensical Wolf of Wall Street got so much praise. DiCaprio gave the standard “tortured alpha male” performance he always gives and Scorsese directed like he was on a cocaine binge, which may have been apropos, given the subject matter, but it didn’t exactly make for a tight film. It was interminable. And while there were some bold and funny parts in the beginning, the comedy died by the time we entered Hour Three of the story.

Inside Llewyn Davis suffered from the opposite problem. It lacked a story. But what it had in spades was a tremendously detailed and evocative snapshot of a time and place that no longer exists: the Greenwich Village folk music scene in 1961, just before Bob Dylan entered it and mainstreamed it. It also has some lovely nuanced performances by Oscar Isaac and Carey Mulligan. It meanders all over the place and the lead character isn’t particularly likeable, but the music performances – which were mostly sung live on set and which tend to run through the entire song uninterrupted, are the number one reason to watch. Early sixties folk can come off painfully earnest and creakily old-fashioned, but the Coens really managed to make this music come alive. It helps that Justin Timberlake is in the cast and helped with some of the music arrangements. We’re not kidding about that. He’s only okay as an actor, but he sings a gorgeous version of “500 Miles” with Carey Mulligan and a hilarious take on a novelty pop song of the period with accompanying background noises provided by Girls‘ Adam Driver. Not a perfect film and maybe not even a great one, but it has a haunting quality that stuck with us. We may not watch it more than a couple of times, but we’re thinking of buying the soundtrack.

And you, darlings? What’s going on in your world?

 

 

 

 

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    • Musicologie

      Glorious lounge! Here’s to another week!

      So…The Americans, anyone? How about Martha’s conversation with “Jennifer”?

      • pherociouscake

        i can’t decide which one of them is going to inevitably end up taking martha out

        phillip is a rather obvious choice but i would never want to get in the way of elizabeth’s
        attachments or protectiveness (however newly developed) . she’s feral.

        • Musicologie

          Death is probably the best outcome for Martha. If the series could go extra, extra dark and send her to prison.

          There was a point last season when I thought that the FBI sketches would lead them to Clark and Martha (even though she works for the FBI). I suppose it could still happen, given the way Stan’s been eyeing the dead lead.

      • dash1211

        Love this show, and Keri Russell is a revelation in that scene. Martha’s days definitely are numbered.

      • MilaXX

        Interesting that now that Elizabeth & Phillip have truly committed to each other they have to deal with the fact that sex is often used as a tool in their line of work. I think it stings.

        • Musicologie

          I’m actually disappointed that Brad never got more than a handjob. He was such a nice guy. Wonderful acting–I’ve known guys who sound EXACTLY like that.

          • MilaXX

            I think Elizabeth was actually trying to be kind to the kid. For some reason I think she felt a little bad for using him.

      • another_laura

        Poor Martha. Agree with all – she’s a goner. That re-patriated scientist, gazing out the porthole. So very sad.

        • Qitkat

          I was nearly in tears. Phillip’s jaw just got clenchier and clenchier as he drove that poor man to his doom. Between Elizabeth with Martha and Philip with the scientist, there were definitely personal feelings going on.

    • decormaven

      Thank the heavens for Friday and TLounge. Many thanks to the BKs for recommending Orphan Black. Mr. DM and I have enjoyed an episode each night this week. What a treat! Who’s pouring the drinkies tonight?

      • @Biting Panda

        I have the set and haven’t started it yet! I suck.

        • marlie

          Dooo itttt!!

          • @Biting Panda

            I know!! Planned on it last weekend, but did some bullshit self therapy and work on my marriage, instead. I like life better when I’m hiding from it in other worlds. : )
            This weekend looks promising though.

            • decormaven

              You will not regret it. Kicking my behind for already recycling the Entertainment Weekly with the Orphan Black cover.

            • marlie

              Those were important things to do, and you’ll appreciate it in the long run. ;) But first chance you get for R&R, watch!

      • Suzanne Moore

        LOVE Orphan Black. It’s excellent to binge watch and can’t wait ’til Season 2. I’ll be glad to pour…

    • @Biting Panda

      My world, thanks for asking, has been fucking miserable. I have battling (losing to) Strep Throat and at one point I was literally crying and moaning for my (dead) mother, in my fevered sleep. Good times.
      I worked from home some today, but so much of what I do is hands on, I didn’t do enough to make much of a dent in days lost. I’m seriously contemplating sneaking into at least one of my two office locations to start a bit of catching up, before Monday.

      I have no desire to see The Wolf of Wall Street, but I am thrilled to read it was exactly as I had assumed. Why Leo is pissed this didn’t win his Oscar is beyond me. Show me the Gilbert Grape kid, there’s your Oscar. I absolutely adore most of all things Coens, so I’m sure I’ll see Inside Llewyn Davis.

      I hope my fellow Kittens are doing well.

      • decormaven

        Hope you’ll be in full recovery soon. I also lurve the Coens, so I know I will watch that flick. Not committing 3 hours to Wolf of Wall Street- no way, no how.

      • marlie

        I know you’ve had a miserable week. Hope you’re feeling better soon, love.

      • http://smalltownbigwardrobe.com/ Catherine

        I hope you are feeling better soon! Health should come before worries about work, but I know that’s easy for me to say. Here’s to a better week!!

      • Lilithcat

        Oh, man, that sounds rotten. Do not do any “sneaking into” the office, or working anywhere. (I know, easy for me to say.) But what you need to do is rest and recover! And I hope that you are better soon.

      • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

        Stay home and rest. Strep is serious; you need your rest.

      • alyce1213

        My heart goes out to you, it’s awful being sick. Mommmmeeeeeee!

      • Pennymac

        Don’t work this weekend!Rest and feel better!

      • MilaXX

        Hope you feel better soon. That sounds miserable.

      • JMB_edits

        You want to know how to feel even WORSE when you have strep? Last time I had it the Dr kindly gave me something (Demerol, I think) for the pain — but I turned out to be allergic and started hurling about 10 minutes later. Now, throwing up with a strep throat? THAT HURTS!!

        • @Biting Panda

          Oh sweet Hell! Sneezing was bad enough. My delightful medical provider is apparently Mormon in their Rx writing practices. I got “magic mouthwash” and the OK to take my Tylenol every 6 hours, instead of 8, a plan for pain management.

          • SRQkitten

            Oh, no, that’s not helpful at all. Good docs give the helpful stuff to assist you in not coughing head off and getting better nights sleep. I’ve found walk in clinics to be less uptight.

            Hope you feel better soon! Strep is no fun. Stay home. The work will be there when you’re recovered, trust me, those wretched work fairies have never come in to help out by making it go “bye-bye”

      • Qitkat

        Strep throat can be the absolute worst! I’ve had it twice that I remember as an adult, and probably as a child. One time the doctor took one look at me in his waiting room, and sent me to the back, as he didn’t want his other patients to see someone so miserable (and probably for germ reasons too). I told him I felt like I was going to die, but was afraid I wouldn’t. Probably TMI, it was abscessed :(

        Hang in there Amanda Panda, soon it will be just a bad memory. Echoing SRQ, the work will still be there when you feel up to it.
        REST! Qitkat’s Orders ;)

      • Sarah

        Sorry, Bitey. I hope you feel better in less time than you could even imagine. And special hugs for missing mom. I feel you.

        • @Biting Panda

          The Bitter Kittens are the sweetest bunch of people. Thank y’all for all love and well wishes.

          Everything hit me Tuesday, so while it was a shit bag of a week, this morning I awoke pain free!

          Going into work for a bit would be for my sanity. I work for kind people who left me alone, guilt free. I’m truly lucky. I love where I work.

          • Sarah

            Great news! So glad! I know how you feel about work. Mine has changed a bit in recent months, but I do sort of miss my coworkers when I’m gone. They are nice people who really care.

          • formerlyAnon

            I was holding back, but now you’ve said this (about work) I will say: If you feel up to it and can do it and still get extra rest, a little time at work might not be a bad thing. I know you have kids at home; when I did, going to work could be a restful thing on days I didn’t feel 100% and wasn’t really up to managing everyone’s competing priorities, getting done what needed to be done since I was up anyway, and staying relatively pleasant while feeling less than well.

            Just my .02. (Kudos by the way, on investing time last weekend in yourself and your marriage. Important priorities, despite the fact that it’s not always escapist entertainment and light badinage.)

      • SierraDelta

        Yuck! I spent the early part of this week throwing up. I had the special experience of doing this with a cold and accompanying plugged up nose. Barfing is bad enough by itself, but when you can’t inhale and your throat is otherwise engaged with. . .output. . .you know true turning-blue-in-the-face-from-lack-of-oxygen misery. I really feel your pain, BP.

        Go ahead — sneak into work and infect every surface in the office. Next week they’ll all be home sick, and you’ll have the place all to your well self. ;-)

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Sounds horrible – hope the dogs are cuddling up with you.

      • demidaemon

        The fact that it is over three hours long is a big turn off for me. I don’t have the willpower to sit through anything that long without an epic, fantasy-esque story line.

      • Judih1

        I share you pain with the Strep Throat. I didn’t get the full blown contagious strep throat, but I was hovering close enough to weep in my sleep and moan and groan during my waking hours. On the mend, no where near norma

    • Darcy H

      Could NOT agree more re: Wolf of Wall Street. The storyline is tired, the performances didn’t save it, and the silly amounts of hookers and cocaine felt like an effort to cover up both of those facts.

      • Lisa_Co

        Yes, Wolf of Wall Street was TERRIBLE! I kept wondering throughout if it was just the lack of good script and editing or if another actor ( not DiCaprio) could have saved it. Makes me really wonder about the Oscars.

        • Darcy H

          Honestly I don’t know what could have saved it, because for me the fault went back all the way to “oh look another moral lesson on the evils of excess and Wall Street”. It just all felt so done before. But yeah, why people were so outraged that this roll failed to win I have not the slightest idea.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      I had to laugh at the description TLo gave about clothing and designers in the Melissa McCarthy post. The anime series Kill la Kill is about to end, and it’s about how clothing should not take over people… basically.

      Anyway, it’s my youngest dog’s debut at her first agility trial this weekend. I hope she doesn’t embarrass me too much. I have a reputation to uphold.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Good luck to both of you!

    • http://smalltownbigwardrobe.com/ Catherine

      I really really need a drink tonight. Accidentally texted the guy I like that I like him last night (I meant to text a girlfriend). I owned up to it immediately and texted him as much – and he never responded.

      No answer is still an answer, I guess. Cheers, fellow kittens.

      • @Biting Panda

        He’s an ass. Clearly. Have a shot.

        • http://www.facebook.com/1033main Marci Smethurst Wolcott

          Yes, Catherine, have a shot but make sure you don’t give him a shot-

      • Jessica Freeman

        No answer is your answer that he’s not amazing.

      • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

        He is obviously an asshat. See? I used the word correctly. :)

      • Jackie4g

        Have a drink and relax. Better to know initially and not tie up a lot of your valuable time.

      • Imasewsure

        Clearly he fell in a ditch and can’t get out. Find someone with better balance Dear BK!

      • SRQkitten

        He’s clearly not worthy of you. A sense of humor with that kind of incident is desirable. There are better guys out there.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Fuck. Nightmare.

    • Jessica Freeman

      Heading out for a long road trip from North Carolina to Michigan to see my best friend for a week and get her nursery ready before her baby arrives in June. I have been looking forward to many hours of books on tape and mind clearing time away from all the people and things. No drinks tonight. Cheers Kittens! It’s finally Friday!

      • @Biting Panda

        Safe travels!!

      • Qitkat

        Such a lucky best friend! Enjoy your trip.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Drive safe!

    • YousmelllikeAnnaWintour

      I came home and found my diet is working. I lost 2 pounds. So I immediately celebrated by eating a large bow of pasta.

      • alyce1213

        That sounds about right.

      • kimmeister

        Was it bow tie pasta?

      • Qitkat

        Ha! my kind of woman :)

    • Lilithcat

      Saw Venus in Fur the other day. I don’t think this play is as great as the hype, but the acting was excellent. On the other hand, props to the costume designer, who made me gasp “WANT!” at Vanda’s final outfit, a long red velvet robe with a wide fox collar and trim all down the front, and a full fur lining (I wasn’t close enough to the stage to know what kind).

      And I bit the bullet and did what I should have done a long time ago. Joined a fitness club and signed up with a personal trainer. This BK plans to get in shape!

      • kimmeister

        Good for you! My hubby has his first session with a personal trainer tomorrow.

      • unbornfawn

        At ACT in SF? I’m going to see it in two weeks. Saw “Accidental Death of an Anarchist” tonight. Very funny.

        • Lilithcat

          No, at the Goodman in Chicago.

          • unbornfawn

            Darn, I don’t get to see the red velvet robe. I wonder what the costume designer will do here.

    • Jackie4g

      To whomever referenced The Robber Bride by Margaret Atwood some time ago, thank you. I got the book from the library, had a good deal of trouble getting into it, stuck with it and finished it. It was an interesting exploration of what is love and what is hate. I think I’d have been more deeply moved if I had read it when I was younger, because I kind of sensed what would happen and just went with it. All in all, a good read, but I think one by that author will be enough, and I am headed back to Ngaio Marsh, whom I somehow missed in my youth and am enjoying in my dotage. But I wanted to acknowledge that being here in the TLo Lounge is an edifying experience, always.

      • Nancer

        The penultimate Atwood novel is “The Handmaids Tale.” It might be slightly dated, but it is an interesting exploration of women treated as commodity, and how we become lost in history due to the dominance of male patriarchy. The world has advanced in many wats since this was written, but there is still resonance for today. Hope you get a chance to check it out. By the way, I also enjoy Ngaio Marsh. Very elegant. I also recommend PD James….

        • SRQkitten

          I’d agree on the Handmaids Tale but wonder is it really dated? (Read it a long time ago) Given what is happening in many states around choice issues, suspect I’d find it equally disturbing nowadays.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I read The Handmaid’s Tale when it was first published. I don’t think it is really dated, given the far right’s continued efforts to deprive women of their rights to make their own @#$#@ decisions about their lives. OK, I”ll back away from the rant that is coming on!

            • SRQkitten

              You could rant away and I’d sing harmony with you. My state (fl) is presently attempting some continuedn efforts to chip away as much by way of choice as possible. The inconsistency of the right to not get that keeping “big” government intrusion out of private lives includes womens choice issues.

            • Coolekat

              As a fellow Floridian I agree with you. I am ready for a change in administrations and philosophies.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I think these folks have enough cunning to realize that they can’t actually say “You purty little gals don’t need to think for yourselves-jist let your menfolk do that for ya!”, so they chip, chip a bit at a time. Grrrr.

            • BrooklynBomber

              I don’t think it’s dated at all. I read it when it first came out, and then again last year, and it’s even more timely right now, I’m sorry to say.

        • Lilithcat

          As she is still alive and still writing, it is clearly impossible to say which novel will be Atwood’s “penultimate”. Even were she to stop writing now, The Year of the Flood would be her penultimate novel, certainly not The Handmaids Tale, which has been followed by eight others.

          • Nancer

            Thank you, you are correct; bad word choice on my part. That said, what is your favorite Atwood novel?

            • sienna elm

              Absolutely! The Oryx & Crake/Year of the Flood/MaddAdam trilogy has got to be the best. She’s imagined an incredible future world and it’s absolutely current thematically and I can’t say enough good about it, or her.

            • Nancer

              Thank you for this, I need to read the rest of the trilogy. I have only read Oryx &Crake thus far – so many good books, so little time!

            • Lilithcat

              I actually prefer her short stories, but really loved The Penelopiad. (That whole Canongate Myth series was pretty good!)

            • Nancer

              Excellent! I will add that to my reading list.

            • demidaemon

              I’ve only read Surfacing, which I have mixed feelings about.

        • Qitkat

          Funny, I am currently reading The Murder Room by James, and really enjoying it. My first James in a long time. Apparently it’s not even considered one of her best, so I am definitely going to read more of her. Another British author I recently discovered is Christopher Fowler. I read The Invisible Code, one of his recent mysteries, and loved it. He has quite a series going with many of the same characters, so I need to go back to the beginning.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            I love Christopher Fowler!

            • Qitkat

              I was really delighted to find someone so new to me, and often a hoot to read. Between him and catching up on PD James, I think I’ve most likely over-booked my mystery reading for the near future.

          • formerlyAnon

            Fowler’s are very good, though in some moods I find their combination of the fantastic and of the bleaker side of human nature temporarily depressing. I especially like that as one reads along in the series one does develop a much better understanding of the recurring characters. It’s common in a series to find out more about a character – but it is less common to feel that one’s understanding of the character really deepens.

      • Qitkat

        I also read The Robber Bride based on the same BK discussion I think. And I felt similarly about it, actually it seemed to alternate between short periods of exquisite prose, and deeply depressing events. I usually gobble up books like candy, but it took me the whole three weeks of the library rental to make it through.

        I have never read Ngaio Marsh, actually have to confess not having heard of this author, but I will look into her. I echo your sentiment of the edifying experience here in the Lounge.

        • Jackie4g

          I grew up loving mysteries. In my youth I went through all 80 of the Agatha Christie titles, and gobbled up Dorothy L. Sayers, and lots of other mystery writers but somehow missed Ngaio (pronounced Nye O) Marsh. So now that I have time to read, I am catching up with books I somehow missed. That was why I pounced on the reference to The Robber Bride. Had never heard of it or Margaret Atwood, and if all these bright women knew it, I wanted to know it as well.

          • Qitkat

            Same with me, no matter what else i read, and I do try to be eclectic, and especially look for really good non-fiction too, but in the end, I always end up with a mystery or three awaiting me. I like both good, quick reads, such as Sue Grafton’s Kinsey Millhone series, as well as more literary authors like Ann Patchett, who is not considered a mystery writer, although her novels have elements of mystery in them. She is just a fantastic storyteller. Try Bel Canto if you haven’t heard of her before. Laurie R. King writes a fun series, imagining Sherlock Holmes had a wife who was his intellectual and quirky equal.

            • Jackie4g

              Thank you for the recommendations. I know Grafton. I knew MacDonald years ago when I also read the Nero Wolfe books. Was also advised to read Robert Parkers “Spenser” series for the same kind of nostalgia and atmospheric descriptions about Boston as MacDonald conveyed about Florida, but I haven’t gotten to it yet. If you like a bit of snark and social commentary, see if you can find anything by Ruth Dudley Edwards, originally Irish, now living in England. Funny characters and good mysteries.

            • NDC_IPCentral

              Robert B. Parker, may he rest in peace, was a fine, FINE writer, and the Spenser books cover a long time – which gets sort of amusing if you read ‘em all and have since the early days. Spenser was, in the early books, clearly established as a Korean War vet, which would make him all too elderly for his exploits in the early 21st Century, so this factoid gets shunted aside as time goes on. Spenser was a good cook, too, in addition to being a moral champion of right. Parker’s spare prose really was well-written. His authorized successors aren’t bad, but they aren’t the original.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Bel Canto is excellent. I’m writing all these recommendations down.

              I’m a mystery fiend as well, all varieties.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I was wondering about the pronunciation – Ngaire is pronounced “Ny-ree”-ish, but I have never been sure about Ngaio.

            • Jackie4g

              I am fortunate to know several Librarians, the kind of people who actually look things up for the joy of learning. This is how I know Brother Cadfael is “Cad file” and Ngaio is “Nye O”. Her detective Roderick Alleyn is “Allen”, despite the spelling. Lord Peter Death Bredon Wimsey’s 2nd name is pronounced “Deeth” like teeth. Are you bored into a coma yet? I had better shut up. No one ever says Jacqueline correctly unless he/she is French or British, so I guess I have a desire to learn to say names correctly.

            • formerlyAnon

              Your knowledge of pronunciations confirms that you read some of my favorite detective/mystery fiction. This makes me irrationally happy.

            • Jackie4g

              I am delighted to make you happy.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Alleyn I didn’t know. But I know people called D’eath so I knew that one! You get used to erratic pronunciation in the UK. A town near us is called Chesham Bois. That’s Boys, not Bwah. And there are all the Cholmondeley (Chumley), Fotheringhay (Fungey), Dalziel (De-Ell) etc names.

            • Jackie4g

              My personal favorite was Featherstonehaugh to Fanshaw. But hey, we don’t say the second C in Connecticut, and the ch in the middle of Michigan is pronounced sh. Hoboken has the accent on the first syllable, and Arkansas is pronounced Arkansaw. It’s always a learning experience if a person is open to it.

      • formerlyAnon

        OMG. Ngaio Marsh – what a joy to discover those! I am particularly fond of the first few featuring Agatha Troy, and of the ones set wartime, or just post-war, in New Zealand.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I bloody love you kittens. We come for the fashion and stay for the thoughtful literary critique.

        • Peeve

          Add me to the love of BKs. I’ve been avidly writing down all the authors from above I haven’t yet read. Oodles of good reading ahead! Thank you! I, too, am a mystery addict. One of my favorites is Dick Francis. I love all the inside knowledge of a former jockey and horse racing. They’re well-written and quick reads.

          • Bethsews

            All this book talk is so wonderful. I have loved Dick Francis too, currently rereading the Le Carre books. Nobody has mentioned Elizabeth George, another great set of British mysteries. Or Ellis Peters, ditto.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              @Jackie4g:disqus mentioned Cadfael, so that’s Ellis Peters! I like them, but I prefer her George Felse books.

            • Bethsews

              Oh right, Brother Cadfael, and now I know how to say it! So happy to pick up some recommendations – had not heard of Ngaio so writing that down (and filing away that pronounciation…)

            • Jackie4g

              Yes, I did, but not Ellis Peters by name, instead Brother Cadfael. See above – the reply about pronunciation. I liked Dick Francis because his protagonists were always flawed, and thus were made more interesting. Going to look up Elizabeth George. Thanks.

          • NDC_IPCentral

            Dick Francis was another (see my comments above about Robert B. Parker) truly fine writer. He really could write good sentences, good paragraphs – he’s someone I have recommended to others as an example of good literary style. Gossip long had it that his wife actually did much of the heavy lifting with his books. In addition to the horse racing themes that appeared in all Francis’ books, he also always seemed to include a lot of intriguing information about other topics or vocations — clocks, toymaking, all sorts of interesting detail. His son, Felix, is carrying on the imprint, and he is doing a good job of it so far.

    • jilly_d

      I’m drinking a beer, making nachos and watching The Departed for the umpteenth time. Excellent Friday, if you ask me.

      • @Biting Panda

        I deeply love that movie.

        • jilly_d

          Scorsese/DiCaprio’s best collaboration. “Cranberry juice? Whaddya, on yah period?”

          • Lisa_Co

            If you like The Departed (excellent movie) you might want to check out the Hong Kong movie, Infernal Affairs, which The Departed is a remake of. It is also really good and stars Wong Kar Wai fav actor Tony Leung.

    • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

      Anyone following March Madness? Not to give up my secret identity but I am affiliated with a certain University.
      Go Flyers! Be that Cinderella team!

      • Jacob Bowen

        I am, even though my Hawkeyes lost to FUCKING TENNESSEE in the play-in game (which was an AWFULLY officiated game and an AWFUL situation that Iowa had to have a play-in). Congrats though to your Flyers, I actually was offered a VERY nice scholarship to attend, but as a budding young gay fresh out of MANY years in Catholic schools I was not looking to go to another.

      • JMB_edits

        Yes, following. But MY affiliation requires that Cinderella to pack her pumpkin and go home! :).

        • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

          That may happen all too soon.

      • Suzanne Moore

        Yup, I’m following, even though I’m not even a basketball fan. I watch anyhow because I live in Tucson…Wildcat Central!

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I’m keeping an eye on March Madness. I confess to enjoying having a Cinderella team moving on, although I have no strong preference this year.

      • Kitten Mittons

        Yes! I loooooove March Madness! But I’m out of my pool now, so I’m just rooting to spoil someone else at this point.

      • Sarah

        I am for the SPARTANS which is GOING WELL!! I am now hoping it is them against Michigan for final four, and they CRUSH THEM.

        • Peeve

          You and me both, sistah!

          • Sarah

            Awww, didn’t work out. At least BOTH Michigan teams are out. It would suck to see the other side go on…

        • MartyBellerMask

          Late to the party, I know. Very sad yesterday for Green & Blue. I am split; I root for Wolverines w/ football & Spartans w/ basketball. Dunno why. But I think one thing we all agree on is Buckeyes can suck it.

      • Peeve

        I live in the same town as the Cinderella University as well. Tough game last night. Proud of them, though. They were truly awesome!

    • Imasewsure

      Yeah My Town! And our SF book tour visit is fast approaching!
      We must channel some sun for our dear uncles’ visit on the 9th (just don’t come early because it might take some effort to get that sun out and keep it out!) :)

    • kimmeister

      I don’t know much about Inside Llewyn Davis, I was just hoping that the cat I’ve seen in ads stole the show.

      Today ends a week of unofficially becoming the “buddy” for 4 new hires in HR, since their managers are not on this site (and in 2 cases, not even in the same country) and they did a terrible job of preparing for their onboarding. It’s also been an awkward time for them to start since all of HR just moved temporarily while our building is being renovated, and the building we’re in has been closed for years. So the first impression for the new hires can’t have been good, since some of them still don’t even have stuff like computer mice, and then we’re having connectivity problems in this newly-reopened building. Then next week my official buddy assignment for a new hire begins!

      Super boring, sorry. This Sunday I’m having a Ladies’ Night with 5 other gfs, so that should be fun. I intend to be sporting the new clip-on bangs my stylist friend got me!

      • @Biting Panda

        And I said, I don’t care if they lay me off either, because I told, I told Bill that if they move my desk one more time, then, then I’m, I’m quitting, I’m going to quit. And, and I told Don too, because they’ve moved my desk four times already this year, and I used to be over by the window, and I could see the squirrels, and they were married, but then, they switched from the Swingline to the Boston stapler, but I kept my Swingline stapler because it didn’t bind up as much, and I kept the staples for the Swingline stapler and it’s not okay because if they take my stapler then I’ll set the building on fire…

        • Suzanne Moore

          Thanks for making me laugh out loud. Gotta go find our Office Space DVD now…

        • alyce1213

          You’re still funny when you’re sick. Me – not so much.

          • @Biting Panda

            I’m mending. It hit me Tues am, so this is the bitter end. But humor is essentially 90% of my coping mechanism. It’s when I lose my sarcastic tone that folks should worry for me.

      • Pennymac

        Just make sure they aren’t the TLo dreaded “booms” LOL

    • PastryGoddess

      I have been gifted with the task writing new Standard Operating Procedures for 2 department for my clients. I’m cycling through the stages of grief and I’m stuck on bargaining with any and all deities at the moment.

      • Lori

        I am so sorry. I mean that sincerely. I’ve been there and it was not fun.

      • formerlyAnon

        AAAAARRRGGGGHHHHH.

        Done that. I’m not good at it. Makes it particularly hellish. I will light a not-very-blessed candle for you.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        We’ve made an offering unto Offler this evening – I will dedicate it to you.

    • Pennymac

      Work was a lot of travel and typical bullshit this week. I hosted a completely sober bachlorette sex toy party that culminated with a fabulous drag show. We got to hand out with the performers for a while in between sets and get make up tips. One of the ladies was well over 6 feet tall and even standing next to her I couldn’t see any flaws or giveaways; plus, she smelled divine! (“Bob Mackie perfume, Darling”) Good times!

      • http://viridianpostcard.blogspot.com/ viridian61

        I wish I could have your week. Skipping the bullsh** of course.

    • mcbishop

      OMG…..I texted to a design client today, trying to tell her that I liked one knob over another, and somehow, rather than telling her that I liked second choice, the autofill decided that “I like sexing”. Long pause of utter, cringing, horror. Thank GOD she had a sense of humor.

      • Jacob Bowen

        Wow, I feel for you. That is definitely unfortunate.

      • Lilithcat

        That is exactly why I have disabled autofill on my iPhone.

        • mcbishop

          Yup, I hear you; I haven’t been texting very long, and this was a real eye opener!!

      • SierraDelta

        My son had a particularly bad week at work, and he was texting to vent some of his frustration. He attempted to teach his phone some new words, but his strict schoolmarm spell checker insisted that what he really meant to say was “duck heads.”

        • SRQkitten

          Duck heads? Sounds like the pg Disney answer to swearing.

    • Jacob Bowen

      I am FULL STEAM AHEAD into Veronica Mars and I LOOOOOVVVEEEE IT! It’s a series I was too young to watch (#sorryboutit) and have always wanted to. So, this spring break I have watched all of season 1 and am almost through season 2. In a perfect world I would take Monday off and finish season 3 so I could see the movie SOON, but I think I’ll binge watch after the gym! I am running my 2nd 8 mile run tomorrow morning (and am crossing my fingers for nice weather, otherwise Sunday will be 60 (HOLY FUCKING WOOHOO!!!)) and am dreading getting up early-ish to do it, but afterwards comes SHOPPING, so I will get up early ANY day to shop!

      Finally, I DEFINITELY have to check out this bar on my SF trip this May, I cannot WAIT to go back and see my best friend, and I CAN’T WAIT to move out west to live in Lodi, CA (90 minutes east of SF) in August!!!!! I am getting OUT of my parents house! 1 year after college has been TOO MUCH and I can’t wait not be judged while in SanFran or Sacramento when I want to carry my Michael Kors purse out and about. I LOVE where I live (Northern Illinois/Wisconsin Border near 94) but I would love to be able to express my inner fashion diva a BIT more…like carrying a DELICIOUS purse, or wearing a pair of cat-eye sunglasses. People are just too close minded. I can’t stand being called a “fairy” or “fag” much longer. Wow. Rant OVER. Enjoy your weekend BK’s! 13 days till TLO comes to CHICAGO (Skokie!)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • @Biting Panda

        Is that near Beloit? (my brother went there)
        I’m sorry you can’t just be fabulous you, when you wanna. That sucks.
        We love you just as you are. But you know that.

        • Jacob Bowen

          I am am hour East of Beloit, I’m like DIRECTLY over Chicago (just a few miles off of Lake Michigan) in Illinois.

          ETA: Oh, and I hope you feel better!!!!!! I was so glad I got sick before spring break but being sick in itself is AWFUL.

      • alyce1213

        Such good things going on for you. Happy! Boy, do I love San Francisco and the Bay Area. I went to my first gay club in SF manymanymany years ago — I’m old, like your parents probably. But I was very young then, I had big loose hair, and wore a vintage ’40s jacket with shoulder pads. As a straight gal I was flattered when one of the boys grabbed my ass from behind. It’s a moment I’ll always remember. I had the best times in SF.

      • JMB_edits

        Hey! I just started bingeing on Veronica Mars too. Went thru Season 1 in about a week as soon as I saw it was streaming on Amazon. I’ve developed an addiction!

      • oogabougga

        Yay Skokie! OMG what to wear, what to wear …….

        • Jacob Bowen

          Oh my gosh, you don’t even know how REAL that question is. I was shopping for HOURS this weekend. I finally have the pants, bow tie, shoes, and socks. I am need of a dress shirt (which are IMPOSSIBLE for me to buy).

      • formerlyAnon

        Lovely post full of good news! I love Northern California so much that I’ve only twice been anywhere else in the state, despite many trips. No matter how much you love your family, there comes a time when some distance is better for all involved. (I say this as a mother whose adult son is nearing the end of 10 months spent living with me because of his do-good-for-the-world, non-living-wage job. I am thrilled I got this unexpected bonus time with him, but it’s right that it be limited.) I hope your new environs are a more comfortable fit for you.

        Also: I am quite impressed at your 8 miles.

    • Suzanne Moore

      Ooh, I like the looks of this lounge. Fantabulous! I’ll take one of my Italian margaritas. I’m celebrating this week because my sweet hubby made it safely home from Nigeria, where he’s been for the past two weeks. Conditions there are awful. His hotel in Legos was in a compound that was locked at dusk and had guards toting machine guns patrolling the grounds all night. He felt like he was in prison. But YAY–he’s home. Doesn’t have to go back there ’til September. Make that TWO Italian margaritas, please!

      • PastryGoddess

        yay for safe hubbies

      • http://smalltownbigwardrobe.com/ Catherine

        Glad he’s home safe!! That sounds really scary.

      • formerlyAnon

        Very glad your husband is home safe. Fingers crossed that things will be better by September.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Booze is definitely in order. Glad he is safely home!

    • Musicologie

      Personal life stuff: The baby has cut an upper tooth, and another is on the way. Fortunately, he’s pretty laid back about it. He’s been drooling and sucking everything he can stick in his mouth, but he’s not fussy.

      I’ve been writing every night after he goes to sleep, and I almost have a complete draft of a dissertation chapter. It’s not good, but I keep telling myself that it has a TON of revisions in its future, and it’s most important to get SOMETHING on paper and fix it later. Besides, I’m finding out that, “I should go look that up again; maybe there’s more there” is a dirty trick my brain is playing on me to get me to not write. Nearly every time I do go back to one of my sources, I find that I took good notes in the first place and there really isn’t anything useful that I missed. I’ve figured out that I should just keep writing and make a note to check again AFTER this draft is done.

      So…it’s another Friday! I’ve got an unidentified white wine from my husband’s grandparents’ anniversary party last week. Seems legit.

      • SRQkitten

        Keep @ it M! Pretty soon the lil’ one will have a full set of chompers and you’ll have the damn dissertation (that’s how I fondly referred to mine) done. Completed draft moves you forward. Revisions will happen. Forward progress is progress. You too *can* finish!

      • formerlyAnon

        You are making amazing progress. You have it right – whichever committee member(s) review your first circulated draft, inevitably SOMEbody will have a bee in their bonnet (or a completely brilliant useful suggestion) they never articulated before, that they never will articulate until they see what you’ve written and are responding to it. So it is most important to get something down with which to elicit that feedback – then you can focus on getting the chapters “right.”

    • http://thatswhatthemoneyisfor.wordpress.com/ lizlemonglasses

      Uncles, your interviews were fabulous as you are. Congrats on the well-deserved success.

      Late nights with a newborn lately, so this week I watched the series premiere of “Mad Men” back-to-back with last season’s finale. Sleep deprivation means I don’t have any profound observations (and if I could, I doubt I could articulate them), but it was kind of amazing to see those two extremes without the rest of the six seasons between them. And of course the style evolution was jarring. Two weeks! Re. the series ending: I don’t have any expectation of a happy ending for Don, but I think a cliffhanger will make me crazy.

      • formerlyAnon

        Hey- I nearly missed it, congrats on the newborn!

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      A quiet evening here at B3 central. I did see “The Grand Budapest Hotel” today and recommend it. Of course, I would probably go to see Ralph Fiennes announce mice races, but he was wonderful as M. Gustave, the concierge, who wears “L’Air du Panache” as his fragrance.

      • m3grrl

        I saw Ralph Fiennes in some play in London years ago, and what I remember is his calves. That man has some fine calves.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Yum.

    • GinnyThePainter

      Here are some things I learned this week:

      1. From a radio interview, I learned that Rachel Zoe hates fashion bloggers who have never worked in fashion (Big mistake, RZ.)

      2. From streaming “The Bling Ring” (free on Amazon Prime) I learned that the those nutty teen burglars never stole Paris Hilton’s shoes because they were size 11, that Sofia Coppola makes ridiculously languid movies, and that if you ever direct a movie, you probably shouldn’t have your worst actor play the lead and your best one play a minor part.

      And 3, from watching “American Hustle,” I learned that even though I lived though the 80′s, I remembered all of it wrong. No, women back then didn’t have big frizzy hair, skinny eyebrows, lots of lip gloss, overdone rouge, shiny eye shadow or wear boxy businesswomen attire. According to this movie, they had Veronica Lake hair, beautifully-shaped Liz Taylor eyebrows and toned-down makeup. And the businesswomen wore dresses with deep-V necklines, with half their breasts exposed, to business meetings with business people. All the time. Oh, and in the 80′s, apparently your typical mistress was about 15 years older than your typical wife.

      I just started “Wolf of Wall Street” and am already perplexed as to how Marty thought Leo could pull off playing a guy in his early 20s, with his middle-aged face, already so lined and sun-damaged from vacations on yachts with models. So I’m a little suspension-of-disbelief impaired. Work with me, movie people, ok?

      • Lisa_Co

        Forget Wolf of Wall Street Ginny. You will never get those 3 hours back. From the Blu-Ray extra I gather this was Leo’s project (clearly a vanity one) and he somehow roped Scorcese into directing.

        If you want to spend 3 hours on a movie I’d suggest Blue Is the Warmest Color. It does have about 10 minutes of explicit (and gratuitous) sex but otherwise I thought it was terrific, so much so that I purchased the Blu-Ray.

      • MilaXX

        I am glad I stuck t my decision not to watch Wolf of Wall street. I am beginning to think Leo need to quit Marty as much as Johnny Depp needs to quit Tim Burton

        • Lisa_Co

          This was Leo’s movie. He got the the script and produced it. He got Marty to direct, not the other way around. Big mistake on Scorcese’s part.

          • MilaXX

            Doesn’t matter. These two play into each other worse ticks.

            • demidaemon

              It’s true. I think Burton did his best work pre 2010, and often does better when dealing solely with animation (I cite “The Nightmare Before Christmas” as one of his best works.

        • Swiftlytiltingplanet

          I have never understood the lure of Leonardo DiCaprio. There is an air about him that kind of makes me want to punch him. I am aware that I’m in the minority.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            I’m sitting with you in the minority seats.

            • Sarah

              I am in the minority, as well. Maybe it’s a (mostly)silent majority?

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I’m so happy to know that I am not alone!

          • formerlyAnon

            I don’t want to punch him, exactly. But not a fan.

          • demidaemon

            I liked him around the Titanic era and anything he did before that. After that, I have found him insufferable.

          • Carrps

            I loved (not tense) for “What’s Eating Gilbert Grape?” and “This Boy’s Life.” Nothing he did since those (including that glurge “Titanic”) was even a tiny bit interesting to me.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I am proud to say that I have never seen “Titanic” and plan to continue to actively avoid it for the rest of my days…

            • Carrps

              Heh. I would have probably ignored it, too, except that one of my best friends is the grandson of a Titanic survivor and wanted me to see it.

      • vickilu

        Did you love the character “Chloe” in Bling Ring? I was so sad that she didn’t have a bigger part, she was hilarious!

        • GinnyThePainter

          That was Emma Watson, right? She was amazing. Gotta love it when one well-trained British actress blows all the American actors away.

        • decormaven

          I am considering watching the movie just to watch Emma’s turn. I figure everything else is pretty forgettable.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Re: “American Hustle”: I too do not remember ever seeing women in business settings wearing suits or dresses cut down to their navels that exposed 50% or more of their boobs. I saw way more of Amy Adams’ breasts than I ever, ever wanted to see. And, if you’re in a scene with Jennifer Lawrence, prepare for her to steal it from you-big time.

        • GinnyThePainter

          JL was wonderful, though way too young for the part. Her real-life counterpart was 50 at the time. And the wardrobe choices made for Amy Adams were not just historically inaccurate. They were demeaning. An actress of her stature and accomplishment shouldn’t have to put up with that crap just to succeed in Hollywood. I wonder if she had covered up, worn 80′s makeup & a modified Farrah ‘do, and tweezed her brows, would she have won the Oscar?

          • Grazi diMenti

            Heard Amy Adams interviewed re her wardrobe/cleavage and the (somewhat plausible) explanation that a smart con-woman drawing attention to her breasts to keep peoples eyes off her face finds lying easier.
            Enjoyed the movie, liked the cast and the music, found it diverting.

            • GinnyThePainter

              My theory is that David O. Russell just wanted to see partly-naked breasts on display throughout the movie and came up with a brilliant tactic to convince his actress to do it. “See, you’re a grifter who doesn’t want people to look at your face, so you expose a lot of chest.” Problem is that her character wants to be seen as a legit businesswoman, so it really doesn’t make sense. Anyway, one reviewer said “American Hustle” was “Scorcese Karaoke.” I think that’s apt. I thought it was awfully derivative of Marty’s best work.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Your comment reminds me of one of the things (and there are many, many) that I loved about “Goodfellas”. Scorcese’s mob wives, mistresses and girlfriends were costumed so accurately. Many polyesters died to dress those gals.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Like George Lucas to Carrie Fisher in Star Wars – “There are no bras in space”. Right. Sure.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Well, not in Lucas’s version of space.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Russell took the idea of Abscam;he clearly wasn’t interested in doing a more factual take on the scandal, which was his right, I know. I just found the costuming choices for Adams’ character to be bordering on caricature;I get that they wanted to create a very sexy woman, but all those plunging necklines were overkill.
            And yes, JLaw was young for her role.

        • Janet B

          I remember wearing a lot of blouses with bows and shirts buttoned up.

    • frannyprof

      I’m still wrapping my brain around Gwynnie’s “conscious uncoupling” and the pretentious, impenetrable article she posted on GOOP to support her decision to split from her hubby.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        When I decided to consciously uncouple, it had nothing to do with our skeletons, exo- or endo-. What a bunch of malarkey.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Once again, I think that simple, standard English would have sufficed, along the lines of We have decided to separate/divorce. We will be taking a break from our public lives for a brief period. Thank you. end of subject.

        • formerlyAnon

          Sanity is not the way of the Goop.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Say what you will about GOOP, elegant simplicity is not in her wheelhouse.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I’m thinking that I really must check out this post on Goop.

            • formerlyAnon

              I’m avoiding it, lest further knowledge make me feel sorry for someone who has to enrobe what are, I’m sure, very real feelings in a bunch of pompous claptrap in order to either 1) maintain her own necessary mental landscape or 2) hide her real self in order to maintain a clunky and ridiculous public persona.

              I’d rather maintain ignorance so I can mock without pangs of conscience.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I haven’t checked out Goop, but I did read Graydon Carter’s comments in the Hollywood issue of VF about the article that VF was going to do on Paltrow and the ensuing fuss.It seemed like a tempest in an artisanal teapot.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              Completely. But now I am assuming that she was mid conscious-uncouple and thought that a piece on her would be about her relationship, which doesn’t seem to have been the intention at all. So she freaked out and made an enormous fuss about nothing.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              That sounds plausible. From my reading of Vanity Fair, they don’t go too hard on celebs. I’ve often thought of VF as being a version of People magazine, but with much better writers.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              They don’t really – I am trying to remember the last time I read a real hatchet job. I mean, they called Charming Potato the finest actor of his generation, so they obviously aren’t out to demolish anyone.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Channing Potato the finest actor of his generation? Ah, VF at its ditzy best.

        • demidaemon

          I wish that a) stars could do this without it being so public; b) every news site and show wouldn’t analyze to the point that, where you once thought you merely irrationally hate a particular celebrity, you now realize that you despise them with the heat of a thousand hells; and c) the same news sources wouldn’t feed into people’s obvious attention whoring.

    • mmebam

      Anyone still watching Under the Gunn? There was nothing particularly compelling about this episode, but Oscar’s gown was one of my wedding colors.

      • blissful2

        I still cannot believe Asha (sp?)is not being reamed about her construction after going on and on about Nathalia. Don’t get me started on Anza talking about who should and should not stay.

        Yeah, he’s not super modern, but Oscar is the one designer who can actually compete in the mother show. He is like a tasteful Michael in terms of speed.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I was relieved that Asha didn’t win the challenge, because while her design was OK, I thought that she chose the wrong type of fabric for it, and that shiny fabric also was this close to being cheap.

          • Etiger

            Asha has a habit of picking fabric I hate. When they were looking through her book on the first episode, I hated it. And I have continued to dislike her shiny poopoo fabrics. I mean I have brown clothes, but everything she picks seems like her game plan was “I need a sparkly turd colored fabric so I can make an overly complicated garment. Cou-torture!”

            • demidaemon

              Shiny poopoo fabrics–three words that no clothing should ever be described by.

          • Sarah

            I had issues with the strappage. I mean, it could have been better, but as it was, I kind of felt like it highlighted and framed an area I personally would prefer to downplay. That could have been partially poor construction, too, but I still think it would’ve been difficult to execute that design well.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              There seems to be a discrepancey between Asha’s sketches/ideas and what she’s capable of executing when she has to translate her design into an actual garment.

          • alyce1213

            I thought she should have been in the bottom again, or gone. Whatever good intent was in her design to flatter the client’s body was not realized by awful construction and horrendous shiny brown fabric. The fact that she was placed above Oscar, who executed a perfect gown that a dozen A-list stars would wear on the RC, is incomprehensible. Sure, maybe it was predictable, maybe it was too “mature,” but it was exactly what his client wanted, it was beautifully made, and it was stunning. Such bullshit.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              I think Jen Rade said the word “genius” in the same breath as the word “Asha”, and they seemed to be going to great lengths to make up reasons why they should praise Asha’s work.
              In fashion’s ceaseless chase after youth, I fully expect to see an ultrasound on the cover of Vogue with the phrase “what the young and fresh will be wearing” and AW will have photoshopped ripped denim booty shorts on the fetus.

          • Carrps

            Her dress had the unfortunate effect of highlighting the tummy (actually emphasizing it). Not terribly flattering. But if it had been better made, it might have been kinda cute.

      • nannypoo

        That whole business of the client being allergic to sequins, thus allowing Shan to demonstrate his ability to execute a quick fix (the purpose of makeup – who knew?), was just about the phoniest thing I have ever seen. Almost as phony as the week Anya and Mondo pouted because Natalia was the crappiest designer yet didn’t get sent home. They must think we’re idiots. This show is so bad, yet I can’t stop watching.

        • mmebam

          Haha, those poor burlesque dancers. I’m pretty sure everyone up there played for the opposite team…

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Sam looked so incredibly uncomfortable-that was really bizarre, and had nothing to do with the challenge. Did anyone else notice how the Benefit gal made sure that every time she opened her mouth she got in the full company statement about Benefit?

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          That business with the allergy really did reek of being staged,plus the dress had a real Anya-esque feel to it-minimal construction, with the print doing most of the work. It was a good comeback by Shan and it worked well for his client, but still.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Still watching, but don’t really give a damn. Same crap as the Mother Show with the judges complaining about a contestant who has followed the assignment. In this case, Oscar’s “client” wanted to look older, so they bash him because his dress is aging.

        So we had a little ground shaking here tonight. 5.1 on the Richter Scale. That’s quite a bit stronger than the one two weeks ago which I felt because the epicenter was just down the road from me. Tonight’s was actually about 50 miles from here, so I only sensed that something was going on under me rather than a big jolt like the last one. Anyone else feel it?

        • Kwei-lin Lum

          No, I was on the phone and possibly standing up. 5.1? Wow, that’s a fairly big one. The epicenter of the one two weeks ago (quite a roller here) was just down the road from me too, so we must live rather near each other. I’m from Reseda.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            I’m just a hop, skip and a jump away in Woodland Hills.

            • Kwei-lin Lum

              Didn’t think there were people from the west San Fernando Valley who post here. I’d say it’s a small world, except that this is a very populous place with a fairly low profile.

        • mmebam

          Scary! Did you lose power?

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            No, I’m too far away from the epicenter. People there lost power and there were water main ruptures.

      • Frank_821

        I agree with others. Not that invested and kind of over Mondo as a reality tv presence.

        Luckily I like Shan and I like Oscar. Both have potential for the business and are genuinely nice guys

        Oscar kind of phoned it in though. I understand the client being a pageant girl but I also understand some fo the judges thinking he aged her too much. The goal was to make her look her actual age. Between the color and the styling she looked liked she was playing dress-up and the effect was a bit too prom-like. Beautifully made outfit though

        • guest2visits

          Still waiting to see the teaser clip I saw of Anya on the workroom table piecing together someone’s look, and of Mondo on the floor doing the same thing and Tim going nuts about it. When does THAT happen, I wonder.
          Agree Oscar played a card close to his heart with the glam-pageant gown; something he loves and obviously can make in his sleep. Let’s hope it’s out of his system so he can create more interesting & youthful designs.
          Am in awe how quickly he can make his work so perfectly finished.

      • unbornfawn

        I completely forgot!

      • Sarah

        Oscar’s gown was a bee-yoo-tiful color, but I wish he hadn’t gone pointy on the busticles. I hated young-stuff’s (don’trecallnamedon’tcare) grey “bodycon” dress. I have not really liked his designs the whole show. I feel he and Asha should be out, but that’s okay. Shan and Oscar in the finals are aight with me. At this point, I really would like to see not-Mondo win as mentor. He is driving me kind of nuts.

        • guest2visits

          Yes exactly what is innovative or appealing about Sam’s designs I do not know. Didn’t he even say to his model he was going to put her in some color, like she wanted? But he cannot tear himself away from blah prints or inexpensive looking fabrics. Lucky for him Blake supplied the prints last week. I can only see Oscar & Shan as worthwhile finalists. I hope Oscar can remember how much PR judges want to see young and trendy over just about everything else. The dress was beautiful (and exactly what she wanted) but the hair style took it a little too far into trite pageantry. A more youthful, less severe styling would’ve softened her look. Still she was ecstatic, looked great, and got the specially made gown she longed for.

          • Sarah

            Yes, she looked good, and she WANTED to be a grownup; it was specifically what she asked for. Oh, man, I felt bad for Blake. His fabric was just kind of ugly, and the way he fitted that dress to his model was NOT flattering. I liked him better than Sam (thank you for the name ha) but oh well. I thought his model was going to be pissed off, but she was nicer than she came off I guess and tried to play like she actually liked that drab wrinkly smock thing. It was so poorly fitted it made me angry!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              That smock thing was wrinkled-it looked to me to be another dress for which the designer either chose the wrong fabric, or chose a fabric that needed to be steamed or pressed before it walked the runway.

            • Sarah

              It was also weird to me that he had those leathery side panels on the waist. They were so lost until the close-up, and just created the opportunity for more seams to be wrinkly on an already ill-tailored dress. Ugh.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              It looked like one of those dresses in which the designer was so thrilled with his concept that he lost sight of making a dress that would also work as a dress for his client.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I agree that a more youthful hairstyle might have given Oscar’s client a less pageant look-then again, that was what she wanted, and Oscar did it so well. I’m so over the judges blithering about young and trendy. Aside from Oscar and Shan, I don’t have a lot of interest in this group of designers. I expect Shan to win so that the PR franchise can give Anya another career boost.

      • DeTrop

        I watch the Runway show and then the judging. I have no interest in listening to the mentors and Tim Gunn since I’ve lost all respect for them. I listen to the judges because I need the excercise for my eyes – eye rolling. One week it’s design over construction, the next it’s construction over design. There is no rhyme or reason to their opinions, with the exception of the true designer but I think she gets overruled all the time.

      • oogabougga

        I keep forgetting to try to watch it. I’ll keep trying ….

        Did anyone catch Jim Henson’s Creature Shop Challenge on Syfy? I caught the last half of the first ep while channel surfing, and it reminded me of the things I liked about Project Runway back in the good old days. Creative people making interesting stuff out of pure imagination and being sensibly judged on how well it actually works.
        The results aren’t about making something pretty (although the winning creature did have a wonderful weird beauty to it, and was my hands-down fave for the win, as well), and of course it had nothing to do with fashion, but it was really fun. And fascinating. I’m hooked – I will be watching this one again for sure.

    • CeeQ

      OMG I can’t read any more of this thread because I haven’t watched The Americans in 4 weeks and it’s all screaming at me to watch from the DVR!

      SIGH. Well…..my life is the usual crazy pants but it’s mostly INTERNAL crazy pants. On the work front – I am wondering how the hell I am going to manage leaving work early during a busy week to go meet Uncles T and Lo, also what I’m going to wear and what I’m going to say to them. That isn’t inane babble. GAH. Also….my Grandma is dying….I’m sad but I had a bit of a complicated relationship with her. So this week’s been rather emotional. It’s doesn’t help that she lives overseas so it’s not like I can just pop over and be with her. Anyways. Such is life.

      On to a more cheerful topic =)
      Chicago Kitten-kin: do we think we need to be at Barnes & Noble super early? The signing starts at 7pm, right? I was thinking of being there an hour early at 6? Or is that suicidal? Should I aim for 5pm? Traffic into town will be horrendous but well worth it =D

      • oogabougga

        I’m going to leave work as early as I can and try to get there in the afternoon! ! ! I could happily spend all day hanging out in a bookstore, anyway, so it’ll be a fun afternoon for me whether anybody really needs to get there that early or not.
        I do not know what to wear.

        • CeeQ

          I know! I wish I could just leave at 3pm and hang out at B&N. I love Old Orchard too so it would have been perfect. But it’s cool, I will, to quote Tim Gunn – MAKE IT WORK. =D

      • Lilithcat

        I’m leaving the south side around 4:00. God knows what the Kennedy/Edens traffic will be like; I always assume the worst. If I’m way early, so what? I’ll be in a bookstore! Heaven!

        • oogabougga

          Exactly!

        • CeeQ

          We should wear cat ears to identify as Bitter Kittens =D

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I went to TLo’s D.C. book signing and arrived at least 45 minutes early. I grabbed a seat and started reading the book. That worked out well,as there were around 150 people for the signing-so, if you can arrive early!

    • CeeQ

      P.S. “Interminable” is a great way to describe The Wolf of Wall Street. I dozed off after the 50th broad Leo aggressively banged. I get in, Wall Street has its excesses but geez already. Move it along. Although I did enjoy that bit where Leo is half dead from being drugged up and having to drive home and then having to rescue his friend from dying.

      I recently watched the French movie “Intouchables” on Netflix – highly recommend. Thoroughly enjoyed it. Also working my way thru House of Cards. And The Americans current season. I really do over bloody commit….LOL

    • Frank_821

      I am such a bad boy. I meant to drop in the lounge

      Ironically it was fashion that kept me away. That and some work stress. Some unexpected layoffs got sprung on people

      My partner is partipicating in an event on Sunday. It’s Austin own Top Model competition. Sunday night is the finals and he’s 1 of 4 local designers providing the clothes for the girls to wear. I was doing quality control inspection
      Rick is doing evening wear, mostly gowns.. he decided to re-do the top on 1 piece. He cut up this stripe fabric to make a basket weave top. I spent the evening sorting out the stripes so they line up reasonably well in both directions. ugh!

      Daniel Esquival will be previewing some new looks at this same event

      Speaking of Daniel, he will be 1 of 6 PR alum featured duirng a runway during Austin Fashion week on Friday May 2nd. Also will be Jeffrey, Melissa, Mychael, Michelle Lesnial and Korto! Might be pretty cool. STanding room tickets are affordable. VIP charge for a chance to schmooze with them alas is not

      • decormaven

        Good luck to your partner. Hope you two can enjoy the evening despite the rushing about on last-minute details.

      • formerlyAnon

        Hope everything goes well and RIck’s hard work is rewarded! Good for you, supporting him as you do. Sorry about the work stress.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Good luck!

    • bluerinse

      I read a review of “Wolf of Wall street” that described it as “douche porn”. It was too kind.

    • GeoDiva

      Ugh….Brought home an unwanted souvenir from Asia and have been sick since Tuesday.

      • decormaven

        Not the way to return home. Hope you’ve got some Pedialyte. Stay very, very hydrated.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Erk. Hope you have enough space to recover properly!

    • Gingerblu

      I hope you will watch “Nebraska ” soon, I’d love to hear you opinions of it!

      • decormaven

        Loved Nebraska; very quiet & solid in both actor presentation and cinematography. Particularly liked the score- it’s getting harder to say that about films these days.

        • Gingerblu

          I loved it too. From the opening scene they had me. Beautiful film about growing old and family.

      • m3grrl

        I picked Nebraska over Wolf last weekend– turns out to have been a wise choice, based on all that’s written here. I thought Nebraska was a beautiful picture. As great as Bruce and June were, the actor playing the son deserved an Oscars nod, too. A real treat all the way around.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I’ll add my thumb’s up for “Nebraska”- a lovely, quiet movie about family, beautifully acted by the entire cast.

    • Sarah

      Morning, y’all. It’s been an okay week, I guess. I got an email from the last job I interviewed for: It was a hard decision and we were very impressed etc. etc. but screw you we went with someone else.” I’m demoralized by this attempting to get a better job biz, and I’m just going to stick with my current one which I’m lucky to have and BLAH BLAH for a while. On the good side, I got a letter from my school asking me to join Alpha Sigma Lambda, which is an adult student honor society for those who are graduating with high GPAs. Nice. I get a cord and a plaque or something. But really, I have a question for my fellow BK’s. We were invited to a wedding in a couple of weeks, and it is one of my best friends from HS that is getting married. It is in a state park, and we will be camping after. The wedding is in a tea room at the park, and she will be wearing a real wedding gown (David’s Bridal, I believe she mentioned.) So, I bought a new dress. Then she says in the private FB group for the wedding this week that we can “wear whatever we want” and “if you have a velour tracksuit that says JUICY” on the ass then go right ahead and wear it.” Now, I know she didn’t mean this exactly, but A. I haven’t seen her in 17 years and B. She’s NEVER met my fiancé and C. I don’t think it’s nice to wear “whatever” when a lady is in her wedding gown and D. I DO prefer pants, but I don’t have any Nice Pants and E. The fiancé looks SO GOOD when he’s cleaned up fancy. SO, what do I do? I got rip-roaring drunk the other night and put on ALL the jewelries, and I was sort of considering just going the glam casual route. Like, cocktail dress with sneakers.

      • @Biting Panda

        Good morning Sweetie.

        Screw those job peoples. They missed out.

        Cool bride though. Glam casual sounds fun. Think Vicky Posh goes to the woods.

        • SierraDelta

          Agree with everything BP said.

          A pox on interviewers who don’t appreciate you.

        • Sarah

          This will sound terrible, but the fella was a pallbearer at my mom’s funeral, and we had to go get him a suit for it. As a result, he wore a suit jacket that is charcoal with a light purple iridescent lining. He looked so good in it that people kept coming up to us all day to say “I don’t mean to be inappropriate, but you’re the best dressed man at this funeral.” So, my dilemma is pretty much “How do I get the fiancé into that hot-looking jacket again and maintain a casual air?” I’m thinking he wears it with jeans, and I wear my jewel-encrusted black dress with glittery sneakers. I don’t think Vicky Posh would approve of iridescence OR sparkliness, but I am also ghetto, and she’s a millionaire.

          • formerlyAnon

            Honestly, your plan here sounds PERFECT. Your only qualm should be what the bride thinks – I’d run it directly by her if you have angst. Or, if you think she has a bitchy best friend in the little group who will harp endlessly if she (BBF) feels you are inappropriate (e.g. you overshadow her and HER plus one), run it more vaguely by the whole group and see what they’re planning.

            • Sarah

              Oh, I think it will be fine. She has added me as a guest because we were party pals of the highest order in our teen years, and I know she thinks of me as a person who is always fun and eccentric, so I am not worried about her opinion. As for the rest of the guests, her twin sisters (also schoolmates) will be there and they were always making fun of us for being “weirdoes” when they were super sporty overachievers. “Weirdo” equaling large hair and multiple earrings, at the time. (I got SO MUCH weirder after that, HA). Anyway, if the comments from the unknown-to-me guests on FB are anything to go by, I expect there will be several creatively attired party-fun folks getting drunk in the woods that weekend.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            The bride has given her guests free rein to express themselves as they please, so go for whatever makes you feel good. I love a sport coat with jeans and your plan to wear a cocktail dress with sparkly sneakers sounds perfect.( I’ve seen brides wear lace sneakers under their long formal wedding dresses so they would be comfortable dancing all night.) And anyway, you’re a grown-up now, so who cares what those other folks think?

            • Sarah

              Hell yea. BK validation: Achieved. :)

          • PastryGoddess

            Suit jacket, khakis, hiking shoes.

            • Sarah

              Leather boots I think, but I like your style.

            • formerlyAnon

              Dark wash or black jeans and leather boots vote from me.

              Unless traction requires hiking boots.

      • guest2visits

        Sure would like to see your career wishes catching up with you sooner, rather than later. I’m hoping it’s just right around the corner.
        I THINK….go in style, with or without sneakers; you already have a dress.

        • Sarah

          The dress is fluttery and delicate. I’m thinking I need a more reinforced-fabric type thing that can withstand tromping from tea-house to campsite before/after. I am all for stylish, though.

          • guest2visits

            I see your point. New strategy (or dress) is required.

      • KinoEye

        If you can wear whatever you want, and y’all want to get fancy, I say go for it! Not too many occasions to get dolled up these days. And you know what they say — always better to be over dressed than under dressed. Even if you are, this sounds like an awesome casual wedding, so I don’t think anyone would mind.

        I feel you on the job hunt. I’m looking for a new one and have twice experienced the sting of rejection. Since I can’t find anything that is A: writing related and B: closer to my mom, I’m taking a break for now and being grateful for what I have, blah blah blah. But I’m sure you and I, as well as the other BKs on the hunt, will find something wonderful soon!

        • Sarah

          Aw thanks. I literally just checked my email and my old boss, who is now a branch manager for a library system adjacent to mine that I’ve applied to in the past, has just sent me a tip that three new jobs are open there. I checked their website and they aren’t advertising them yet, so I don’t know if that means only internal hires or if I should get ready for another round of trying to sell myself. (These people check your pee, so that is a fairly involved prospect for me.) I am SO TIRED of it that I might just give it a pass if it does come up. Anyway, best of luck to you and everyone else in the trenches!

          • formerlyAnon

            NO! If your old boss gave you the heads up, DO NOT GIVE THIS ONE A PASS. This is how great candidates (you) lose out in job searches – they give the job to someone else who may not be internal but who comes recommended as a “known good” quantity.

            There’s no guarantee, but if somebody who knows you & your work is giving you leads that means that they spontaneously thought of you in conjunction with the job(s), and it had to be positive or they wouldn’t have bothered to give you a heads up.

            I know it’s fatiguing, but email back and see if your old boss know when they will announce these and tell her they sound very interesting and thank her for thinking of you.

            • Sarah

              ARGH I KNOW YOU’RE RIGHT. I will do all of these things. My mom thanks you.

            • formerlyAnon

              I KNEW you knew this. I also figured you’d moan and sigh and suck it up and do it, anyway. But my nosybody mom side had to nudge.

            • Qitkat

              Ditto, ditto, ditto!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Another Mom here. If you know they’re going to do a urinalysis, start preparing for it now. Stop whatever it is that’s concerning you and save it for the celebration after you get the job.

            • Sarah

              I know. I’ve done it before and it is no big deal. I am half thinking that’s why this same old boss warns me when they’ll have a post up. She did last time, and I didn’t get it because of “internal politics” but at least I had over a month to detox before the interview thanks to her warning. (FYI: I am not a crazy junkie!! I just like to party like a Coloradan.)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I didn’t mean to imply you are a “crazy junkie.” If I was thinking you were, I wouldn’t have thought you could stop at will. Good luck. It’s a testament to your abilities that an old boss wants you to work for her again.

            • Sarah

              Of course you didn’t! I didn’t mean to make you think you were. I just wanted any and all readers to know that I’m not THAT shady :) And yes, she’s a great person. I wouldn’t be working for her; she’s retiring soon, but she was a great mentor and I appreciate her trying to help me get a leg up.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              It’s okay. We like shady.

            • Sarah

              So very shady, I can’t find the sun ;)

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Just another plug for following up on that job lead. My sister got her current job through a former co-worker who saw my sister’s application, remembered and recommended her.

            • SRQkitten

              What Anon said, Exactly!

            • decormaven

              You’re speaking the truth. The old boss is giving you the inside track. Curry the mane & get ready to lap the other ponies.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Just don’t take headache pills (or whatever…) for a couple of days. Doesn’t take long to be clear and if your old boss is giving you the heads up, definitely take advantage!

      • Qitkat

        Aww, sweetie, that sucks. I have to believe that if you just don’t give up, that consummate job is out there for you. I wish I had taken that attitude when I first moved to Denver. I was only a few years older than you at the time, and thought with my new art degree the world would fall at my feet. After rejection after rejection, I finally gave up, and am paying for it now with no pension/401 of my very own. Time and again I see items on TV/internet encouraging women to think of the future, essentially create their own future, looking out for themselves in all ways, but especially financially, and I could just kick myself for not having realized this at that time. But no one was talking about boomers (well, everybody) and retirement 20 years ago the way they are now.

        As for the wedding, WTF?, there’s casual and then there’s cazh. I say decide based on how you and your sweetie want to be remembered for posterity (and facebook, tumblr, etcetc) because those wedding guest photos will be out there for eternity, or until the dark underbelly of nerdy hackers (you know who you are) takes down the infrastructure. [where did that come from?] ;-)
        Glam casual sounds awesome.

        • Sarah

          The pictures thing is what has me thinking about looking glam – exactly! Especially since if you are heavily tattooed and variously pierced, in addition to extremely bearded (him) and possessed of long, fluffy manes (both of us) you look better at a function when you have made the effort to clean up fancy(ish) at least. As for the job thing, I have a pretty good one now – nothing to complain about, but I haven’t had a raise in five years, and I am nervous about not being able to make payments on my student loans when I graduate so I’m trying to get ahead now. At least I think you have a year to defer the payments, so I KNOW something will come up eventually. It MUST, right? I’m already vested in retirement with almost 20 years paid in and I’m not even 40, so that’s good at least.

          • Qitkat

            Don’t get me started about student loans. ARRRGH. The bane of my youngest son’s existence. Watch out especially for those interest rates, and how they apply principal vs interest. Doing it wrong is no better than treading water. And although you do have that year of deferment or even longer if you apply with reasons, the interest continues to grow.

            • Sarah

              So true. They are already mailing me interest statements, if I’d like to pay now, which is adding to my sense of urgency because I can in no way do so. I am betting on the Public Service Loan Forgiveness program, which has you paying on time and regularly for 10 years and then forgives you your remaining debt for being a person who works for the civic good.

            • Qitkat

              I forgot, that is a wonderful program, and I just wish it could somehow be tweaked to help out those in other fields who struggle for years and years and barely make a dent in the whopping total. Of course, she said sarcastically, congress people’s kids don’t have to take student loans, so they have no effing understanding of the hardships, and thus will probably never change the laws. (sorry, beginning to rant)

            • Sarah

              Oh, believe me – rant away. I am a member of every group known that is trying to lower/forgive student loans which means a billion “write your congressman/sign this petition” emails a week. I irritated my sister by telling her that despite her desire to see her middle son (graduating this year) pick the perfect school close to home, he should be forced to pick from one of the several that have offered him FREE RIDES FOR FOUR YEARS regardless of their location in the country, because 50K in loans is nothing to sniff at, and if you can go to school for free, you’d better do it dammit.

            • Qitkat

              Your nephew would benefit from your wisdom, although of course you don’t want to start a rift in the family. Does she and he realize how very damn lucky he is to get FREE RIDE offers? and multiple ones at that? I woulda jumped at that for any of my kids.

            • Sarah

              Oh, they very much do, and I think he’s aware of it, but apparently my BIL had this same choice lo these many years ago, and he chose to stay close to home and go to MSU to be near his parents, so my sister didn’t feel she could force him to make a choice his dad didn’t make. She also worries because he’s only 16, and he is “so immature.” I have told her time and again that EVERYONE is immature when they go to school, and not to forget that he is HER son, so he’ll be fine. He’s also a genius, hence his many offers and early graduation, so while that doesn’t mean he’s emotionally mature, it does mean he’s no dummy. He is good at everything and likes sports, so he doesn’t know what he wants to major in. I said he should pick a big school with lots of majors to choose from (also not the first kid to be undecided, but sister is worried about this too). My sister is a very sweet lady, but she worries WAY too much.

            • Qitkat

              For someone who is not a parent, you have a lot of insight. But I can understand her worrying under the circumstances. Perhaps she could check with each of the schools about their counseling/mental health departments so get an understanding of just how they handle the younger, genius students. And if at all possible, together they visit the campuses. Getting a feel for the school, especially when he has so many choices, may help them both decide on the right fit. It’s such an intangible thing, to know what is right for any one person. It will after all shape his entire life going forward. And undecided is not that big of deal in my opinion.

            • formerlyAnon

              Good advice.

            • Sarah

              Very good idea. I’ll tell her that very thing! I’m sorry he can’t go to my school (it’s a women’s college) because they are one of I think only 8 in the country that have special programs for extra-young students. They get a special dorm and counselors to help them adjust to school. I could’ve used it myself, because I also graduated when I was 16. I took a half a year off and went just after I turned 17, but it was rough and even though I thought I needed to be away from home, I was REALLY young to be out on my own. My nephew, OTH, is used to having a very tight support group around him, and I didn’t have that. Makes a difference.

            • demidaemon

              Well, there’s “immature” and then there is “IMMATURE.” Let me put it this way: In my Fall 2014 classes, the most mature student was 17 years old. In my Spring 2013 classes, the most immature student was a veteran from Iraq, clearly in his mid-twenties.

            • demidaemon

              Same here. I have radiating hate for SallieMae, even though I may have to partake of their tainted fruit again soon.

          • decormaven

            Hope you get the better $ soon. Respect the student loan; it trumps all other cards in terms of loans, credit card debt, etc., if your fortunes slide southward. They are really ruthless with no mercy. I am so sorry for every kid who has had to tap into that tainted well.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Cocktail dress and sneakers sounds fab.

        Make an occasion for you and the fiance where you can both dress up and be fabulous and keep that for you. If there is a chance that other guests will be wearing velour tracksuits, I wouldn’t waste epic fashion on them.

    • Agnes Gooch

      Theory: Somebody has spiked the fashionistas’ Fiji water. Consider the evidence: the cover of Vogue (cancelled the subscription, btw; it only took their poor customer-service people three days to respond “due to a higher than normal volume of emails”). Tim Gunn’s bitchy tumble from grace (unfollowed him…end of an era). The Self magazine debacle (no words…never bought the magazine, never will, but holy, holy crap). And now Ms. Goop: Just when you thought she couldn’t get any more pretentious, delusional or obnoxious….

      In short, there is something in the water.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I suspect that someone has put something in their stock of artisanal coconut water….

      • MilaXX

        What did Tim do?

        • Agnes Gooch

          This new Lifetime show “Under the Gunn” has featured some pretty bad bullying of one designer and, to a lesser extent, one mentor. It could of course be the editing monkeys at work, but from what has been shown, Tim has undeniably been a part of the “mean girl” mob mentality. Worse, in his social-media followups, he has continued the bashing of the designer. Former Tim-devotees have erupted all over his Facebook page (and probably elsewhere), demanding he apologize and stop with the bullying. It’s been disillusioning and strange that the show’s producers would show him in such a bad light.

          • MilaXX

            I had my doubts about the show from the beginning. I watched the first episode and it did’t really grab me so I haven’t watched. Tim is listed as a producer along with Heidi on PR. I wonder if he isn’t a producer o this show as well.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I’ve retained an affection for Tim Gunn despite the decline of PR in recent years, so it is really disappointing that he’s showing a petty/mean side about that designer. It’s not as if I thought Gunn was perfect, but he maintained a more professional manner for the most part.

    • KinoEye

      Wolf sounded like Scorsese jumping the shark to me. I’ll get around to it eventually, but loathe as I am to say it, I fear the man has lost some of his mojo. I think that since he was repeatedly ignored and snubbed during his golden years that Hollywood is trying to make up for it now. Hugo was absolutely one of the best and most personal (hate that term, but it applies to this one) films he’s ever made. But it seems now like he’s repeating himself, and not in a fresh or interesting way. Plus, I’m no prude, but snorting cocaine out if someone’s ass crack is just GROSS.

      Definitely want to see Llewyn Davis. The Coens are among my all-time favorites and they’re just getting better with age. A Serious Man is one of the greatest films I’ve ever seen, and will likely reside in my top 10 for years to come.

      My week was uneventful, though the Uncles would be proud of me — I had to cover a ceremony where the family of a fallen soldier received his medals, including the Purple Heart and Bronze Star. Very sad, somber occasion. I didn’t know him or his family, but dressed as nicely as I could to show respect, like everyone else there. Except for the politician presenting the medals. He’s a U.S. Congressman, and this occasion is essentially a funeral. So of course he wears a suit that looks as if it were dry cleaned in a tornado. Seriously, wrinkles everywhere, especially on the pants, which were also terribly hemmed and flooding his shoes.

      I’m sure I was the only one who noticed or cared, but the state of his suit indicated to me that he really didn’t give a damn. All political posturing, which became even more clear to me when he started discussing his policies and what he’d done for his constituents — right in the middle of the ceremony. My father would also have been aghast — this was a man who loved to put on a perfectly-tailored suit anytime, but especially when the occasion called for it. He was a musician, and any time we went to the symphony, he’d ensure we were all dressed to the nines. “These people have worked hard for months to put on this show. The least we can do is dress nicely to show we appreciate that.” Same principle applies here, except even more so, because you’re dealing with a grieving military family. Yeesh.

      • Sarah

        Ooh, as the daughter of a very high-ranking service member, I can say that I have been to too many of these functions you describe, and it is NOT okay to shill for your office/campaign at a memorial service for a dead person of ANY KIND, and certainly not a service member. EGAD that’s rude. And believe you me, I would’ve noticed the wrinkles, too. I mean, if you’re a congressman, you should not be showing up anywhere looking sloppy, I reckon, so that’s just poor form.

        • KinoEye

          I thought it was in very poor taste, election season or no. Tacky, slimy and rude. I would have been offended if I were a family member.

          And really, just like the celebrities featured on this site, a big part of his job is dressing himself well. With the alarming number of people who vote for politicians based on looks, you’d think he’d understand that.

          • Kitten Mittons

            How disrespectful. As the daughter of a small local politician, both of those offenses are just in horrible taste. For shame.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I would have noticed and been appalled. (And also made a note to never vote for the man.)

        • KinoEye

          Agreed. If he can’t get his suit tailored and pressed before an important ceremony, he can’t be trusted with taxpayer money.

      • Qitkat

        You may have just put your finger on the pulse of what is wrong with politicians today. How insensitive and disrespectful of him, the posturing and the sloppy suit.

        Your father sounds like he came from the generation of my dad. What a lovely sentiment from your dad about appreciation.

        • KinoEye

          He grew up in the 50s, reared by three aunts and his mother, from whom he inherited the term “hanging pretty.” I think that’s part of why he always took dressing well so seriously. It’s also genetic, apparently. My grandfather was the same way, even though dad never met him since he took off while my grandmother was pregnant. But she’d see my dad preening in the mirror — “you’re *just* like your father.”

          He was the kind of man who wouldn’t be caught dead in an ill-fitted suit. Wish more men (especially boystars) felt the same way!

          • decormaven

            My dad was cut from the same bolt of cloth. Loved going to the men’s shop with him- beautiful fabrics, ties, shirts and shoes. A pox on the politician who used the eulogy for stumping- that’s low down.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Your dad sounds like good people. Dressing for the occasion is only polite!

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      I took myself out for brunch today. Eggs benedict and a mimosa. It’s part of my effort to make myself leave the house and DO something at least once a weekend. I’m very proud of me.

      • Qitkat

        Yes! Treating oneself well is the best way to live. Sounds yummy too :)
        Let’s meet virtually for lunch once a week too. There are sooo many BKs I would do that with, for realz.

      • Sarah

        Good on you. Brunch is my favorite – totally a good reason to go out. Eggs benny is my most-loved b-fast dish of ALL TIME. (Jealous as I eat cheese & crackers at my desk while working on Saturday)

      • formerlyAnon

        As I seem to be quoting endlessly these days, “Living well is the best revenge.” You should be patting yourself on the back. We have to, if there’s no one else there to do it!

        Getting out is important to my mental health, as is regular exercise. Left to my own impulses I could spend days never leaving the house, completely content in my cocoon and ever-more-divorced from the supposedly-real world outside. I need the alone/down time but I’ve learned to put routines in place which bound it.

      • Lilithcat

        Yum. Eggs benedict is one of my favorites, no matter how bad it may be for my cholesterol.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        The perfect brunch! I am leaving the house next week, I swear…

        • formerlyAnon

          The need to leave the house is less dire if one lives with another human being, particularly if one actually talks or otherwise interacts with him/her!

      • KinoEye

        Good on you! Sounds like a lovely Saturday. I have the same inclinations on weekends — I hate leaving the house. It’s important for me to be able to recharge since dealing with people all day wears me out, but I’ve been trying to take my dog to the lake at least once a day. It’s only a minute away, it’s good exercise and we both have fun. And we saw a pair of Bald Eagles yesterday. Too cool.

        • decormaven

          So important to be outdoors. There are so many visual and aural cues from nature. It’s nice to have indoor pursuits but seeing tiny plants peek out after a hard winter, hearing the sound of flyover birds (living in the South, we’re getting that now as birds return from warmer climes), just the sun on the face- those are gifts indeed.

    • oogabougga

      Thanks for posting that! Fab snarkasm (my favorite new word)!

    • GinnyThePainter

      Oh, Spring! I hate allergies, Lent, spring cleaning, dieting off winter pounds, and doing taxes, but my team is one of the Elite Eight in March Madness. Maybe I’ll actually watch a game. Nah, that’s crazy talk.

      • Qitkat

        Allergy shots! and Chinese medicine herbal patches. I’ve had both, the shots over half my life ago, and they worked. Now all I have to do is use a nasal corticosteroid (Rx) once a day, and I’m good to go. Think about it, it may really really help you. And finding a nurse who can give them pain-free, no kidding, gentle, talented “stickers” are out there. But I’m with you on the taxes. I’m procrastinating just being on here.

        • PastryGoddess

          Allergy shots were the best thing I ever did. Mine came in leetle teensy tinsy needles. couldn’t feel a thing.

          However, I have a feeling that flowers will be aggressively horny and pumping out pollen like its nobody’s business after being held down by the Polar Vortexes.

          • decormaven

            This will be an allergy season for the ages for the reasons you mention.

    • formerlyAnon

      I think I might enjoy living in this lounge for a few days.

      I have been over-busy (after freeing up some more time in my life last month), working through all the long-deferred things-on-lists – from medical stuff to home maintenance to spending time with people I rarely see. Feeling out some new work directions as well. The upshot is that I hope this weekend will be quiet, with unexciting tasks, a couple of trips to the gym and plenty of sleep. It is, indeed, a rich, full life.

      ETA: I am glad that my knee-jerk reaction to and dismissal of The Wolf of Wall Street is justified by the TLo and BK reactions.

      • Sarah

        Yes, relax! I’m not relaxing, but nothing rough is happening. Quite the opposite: my auxiliary sister and niece-of-my-heart are visiting this weekend, and I get to have brunch with a baby that wasn’t talking last I saw her tomorrow! Exciting. Tonight me and the fella are going to a friend’s Soup Nazi party. She has it every year. Everyone brings soup in crock pots and we sample each kind and drink alcohol. We are always hard-pressed to outdo our last year’s soup, and now have a rep as the best soupmakers in town. Last year was Celery & Stilton, year before that was Thai Coconut; this year we are doing Turkey and Sage.

        • formerlyAnon

          That party is a brilliant idea! I’d steal it but an unfortunately large number of my current friends either do not cook or have “given up serious cooking.”

          • Sarah

            Well, it works better when the person having the party is a restaurant owner and all her friends (my fiancé included) are chefs/cooks/in the biz. But yeah, it is a cool idea because you can have a lot of a little bit of every kind of soup and not feel too full and still have something in your belly to soak up the drinks. She always gets nice breads to go with, too.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Sounds like a fabulous evening! Sip and enjoy!

            • Sarah

              Sipped plenty! Our soup was deemed best. HAHA. The others included a tasty but not zesty enough curry chicken soup, an entirely too creamy peppered potato, and a cheddar and ale which was sinful but seemed more a sauce for toast than a soup, so it was tough to spoon up. Also, a few peeps bitched out and brought crackers and wine and stuff because it rained and they weren’t sure it was happening. Our Turks & Sage won for best overall foodliness.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Congrats on making the winning soup-the turkey and sage sounds scrumptious! I can see the cheddar and ale working better as a sauce.

            • KinoEye

              Sounds like you hit the jackpot with the fiancé. Bon appetit!

            • Sarah

              That I did. It was tasty! There’s a west coast restaurant called SouPlantation and I wish so much they had it out here in the East. I heart soup!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I eat there about once a month. My favorite Souplantation soups are the albondigas and baked potato. I looked them up for you. They are headquartered in San Diego and have restaurants in Illinois, Missouri, Kansas, Colorado, and Utah plus 28 in Florida.

            • Sarah

              Awww, so sweet of you! I live in VA. No Soupy deliciousness here. I have a restaurant that makes the most delicious seafood bisque though, and it makes me salivate just to type about it…mmm lobster!

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Speaking of soups last summer I did a tour of Yellowstone Nat’l Park, and one night our group was on our own for dinner. We were in a truly, truly tiny place (Cooke City, Montana), and I had a lovely light dinner that featured sweet potato soup. If you ever find yourself in that part of the world, the Beartooth Cafe has good food and good beer.

            • Sarah

              I heart Yellowstone! Sweet potato sounds delicious.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Yellowstone was genuinely awesome-I took so many photos of Old Faithful!

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            What does “given up serious cooking” have to do with soup? Soup is easy!

            • formerlyAnon

              You are right, of course. For these friends it is code for “I cooked for a partner and/or the kids every damn day for 20+ years. Now that it’s just me (or just me & partner) I am only cooking if it’s the only way to get the food I want.” More a badge of freedom than a real statement about degree of difficulty.

            • Sarah

              Well, soup is easy sometimes, but I will tell you something: most soups need pureeing. I mean, really, this is a revelation for me, because I thought you just cooked things soft and served them squishy, but your cream-not-broth soups are all pureed. We have done it in the past but our kitchen is limited and mister had to bring the ingredients to his work kitchen and puree them so we could complete the recipe. As such, this year we decided on a stock-n-cream kind of soup to avoid that, but for sure, soup is not as easy as you might think!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I just puree in batches in a blender. (Of course, I’m not making soup for any sort of group.) And sometimes I don’t puree at all – I sort of like the lumpiness in some soups.

            • alyce1213

              No immersion blender? Small, inexpensive, and a must-have in my kitchen.

            • Sarah

              I have a blender, but very little counter space. It is much easier to let the pro do the hard stuff in the professional kitchen he has at his disposal.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              That’s what my mother in law did. Turns out she always hated cooking despite being very good at it, and about 10 years ago announced that if you couldn’t do it in the microwave she wasn’t doing it at all.

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              I like your mother in law.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

              So do I. I have issues with her approach to some things (she threw out a couple of family recipe books because if she wasn’t going to use them she didn’t see why anyone else would either…) but if I didn’t like cooking I probably wouldn’t bother either!

            • Swiftlytiltingplanet

              Ah. That,then, makes sense.

            • decormaven

              That’s a shame. I am getting ready to crank in the kitchen for a couple of hours, making marinade and salsa for chicken tonight on our new grill, chili for the week, and pumpkin muffins. As long as I have a good expanse of unbroken time and a clean kitchen at the start, I can putter for a couple of hours. It helps during the week to have things made in advance to help keep me on clean eating track.

    • Grazi diMenti

      SFish kitten, looking forward to the 9th. So much so I finally decided to join Disqus so I could publically squeeee to the kittie commentariat.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Welcome! Very jealous of your proximity to kitten activity!

      • decormaven

        Welcome! SF will be a wonderful place to meet other BKs. I share in Alicia’s jealousness.

    • ThaliaMenninger

      I completely agree about Inside Llewyn Davis. I can understand why it didn’t get any Oscar love — too dark, too grimy, too vague — but it stuck with me, too. There was so much detail and so many good performances. As well as good cats. I don’t like movies where cats are in danger, so that was a problem in terms of my enjoyment of the film, but… It really did stick with me.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Is the cat OK? I can’t watch it because I am worried about the cat.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I confess that every time I saw an ad for this movie I couldn’t suppress my anxiety about the cat.

          • KinoEye

            The easiest way to turn any movie into a nightmare for me is to involve the welfare of a cat or dog. I rewatched Breakfast at Tiffany’s recently and cried bitter, bitter tears for Cat, even though I knew he was going to be OK. Also, one of the absolute saddest movies I have ever seen was called Wendy and Lucy. A homeless woman and her dog. I will never watch it again. And I’ve seen Requiem for a Dream 3 times.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              When I’ve watched Breakfast at Tiffany’s and Holly puts the cat out, even though I know it ends up OK, I am so, so pissed off. Go figure.

            • KinoEye

              I hear you. When I take in an animal, I consider it a lifelong commitment. I take it very seriously. I have low regard for people who don’t. I’m glad Genghis found you. Sounds like you both got lucky!

              I can barely stand the scene where she finds out that awful news and tears apart her bedroom. She throws Cat around and scares him — NOT OK, no matter what. That always makes me nervous.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Thanks. We consider ourselves lucky to have been adopted by Genghis.

        • ThaliaMenninger

          I kind of assumed the cat would be ok, but let’s just say I cannot answer that question 100% positively. My husband was upset that I took him to a Cat in Jeopardy movie and he’s a pretty chill guy, so if that’s an issue for you, I’d say skip it. It’s funny, because there used to be an unwritten rule (or maybe it was written, what do I know?) in mystery novels and movies that you could kill all the people you wanted, even kids, but NO PETS. I think that rule has been off the table for some time. But the cat issue is one more way that Inside Llewyn Davis is unsettling (at best).

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Cat in Jeopardy is definitely not an option for this household’s entertainment! I can’t deal with that sort of anxiety. As a child I howled through Black Beauty and Benji, and I’ve never even seen Milo & Otis.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      I’ve had several glasses of wine, so apologies for typos.

      Husband got security clearance, so started new job this week. SO, in about a month we’ll be able to pay off debts. Less, if I can find a job. Amazeballs.

      The weather forecast is pleasant for this weekend, and today was lovely, so we’re spending quite a bit of time outside and doing some gardening. Enormous gratitude to the kittens for their generosity of spirit over the last few sucky weeks.

      • Sarah

        CONGRATS!!! Yay. Glad your weather is nice! ‘S rainy here.

      • formerlyAnon

        WOO-FUCKING-HOO!!!!!

        Couldn’t happen to nicer people. (Husband is grandfathered in under your auspices. Subject to withdrawal should evidence prove necessary.)

      • @Biting Panda

        Hells yes!! Cheers to that!!

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          It is SUCH a relief. It’s a good contract, with good prospects, so we’ll be financially OK pretty soon. Big deep breaths!

          We had jerk chicken and a pretty fab salad (like a slaw, but with a tahini dressing and sesame and pomegranate) and a lot of alcohol for supper. It’s amazing how much more we like each other when the stress is relieved a bit.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            I’m so happy for you!

          • decormaven

            Sing it, sister. Stress is the ultimate test of a relationship. Congrats on riding the waves.

          • Jacob Bowen

            Your salad sounds like a salad I would actually eat….yum. Congrats Alicia!!!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        That’s fabulous news!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Great news! Yes!

      • MilaXX

        YAY!

      • KinoEye

        This brightens my evening. Huge congratulations to you both! Bask in that sun and sweet, sweet relief. You deserve it!

      • embers618

        Yay! Congrats to your husband, and positive thoughts for the right job to come your way.

      • decormaven

        Ah! So good the fortune turned in your favor. As Tom Petty said, “The waiting is the hardest part.”

    • K. Hampton

      T+Lo, I’ve been waiting for weeks but I have to ask… are you guys going to do any kind of tribute for L’Wren Scott? I thought you would say something about a fashion designer who passed away, even if you weren’t crazy about her fashions.

    • demidaemon

      So, my true boss came in and was a total ______________ about still having an appointment sheet for tutoring. So that was fun. Luckily, my colleagues rallied to my side and someone actually asked what I would prefer, regarding how students make/come in for appointments. It was only later than I realized how monumental this was. I am seriously counting down the days until the beginning of April, which is the ETA for when I will know about my TA appointment and I can tell everyone I am leaving.

      Really, this week felt like my burned out week for everything except my Composition students, who are really pushing the envelope and working their asses off, even if they aren’t 100% successful. I can appreciate that.

      No new news on my grandfather’s surgery. Still waiting to hear about the additional test results. I did reconnect with a friend I haven’t talked to in 6ish? years, and it was like we had just talked yesterday. So that was a nice surprise, despite everything else going on. How’s everyone else?

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Hang in there! The end of April is in sight! But do drag your mum to the fashion show. It does sound like it’ll be a lot of etsy faery garb, but you may be presently surprised.

        Have you spoken to your grandfather?

        • demidaemon

          No, I haven’t. I’m planning to go see him this coming weekend, though, so hopefully we’ll get to talk then. He’s not a big talker though, so I expect to learn next to nothing considering his condition. My dad’s being kind of stubborn about it and doesn’t want to go to the hospital when he has the surgery. I think we should all go, personally.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            You’ll be able to see how he is in himself though, and reassure yourself a bit! Hopefully your dad will change his mind when the time comes.

      • formerlyAnon

        So the takeaway is that you are motivating your students and your colleagues support you? Not bad.

        Try to drag your mom. Remind her you may have less free time (and maybe be farther away? if that’s the case) once you start your Ph.D. program, and that having fun with her is important to you. If she thinks she won’t fit in, tell her that some of the students’ family members will be there, and she’ll fit in as well as they will.

    • demidaemon

      Also currently bouncing between Prime Suspect and Dexter on Netflix. Both great shows, though I have a feeling I may not like Dexter all the way until the end.

      • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

        If I were this version of myself, telling a younger version of myself about Dexter, I would say.. the series ends at season 2, do not go any further. Though you might like Season 3 because of Jimmy Smits, and you might like season 4 because of John Lithgow, and you might like Season 5 because of Jonny Lee Miller and Julia Stiles.. but do not under any circumstances watch past the end of Season 5.

        The first two seasons were by far the most well done, and most enjoyable. The next 3 were semi decent. The final seasons – 6, 7 and 8 were a horrific thing I wish I could erase from my memory, and get all that time back to use in meaningful and useful ways. :)

        I hope this saves you the time I will never get back. :)

        • demidaemon

          Thanks!

      • MilaXX

        Dexter was good to me until around season 5 which I half watched and lost interest. I watched the final season only because it was the final season.

        • demidaemon

          I’m afraid that may happen. Luckily, I’m not marathon watching it, so it may not. Prime Suspect is too short to lose interest in.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I remember really liking Prime Suspect, especially the first season. Helen Mirren’s character was so unsual at the time-a very competent detective with a complicated personal life.

        • demidaemon

          From what is available on Netflix, the seasons are incredibly short (and the whole series is a tragically short 13 episodes!). I love it, especially the bigger questions it raises. From what I understand, Kyra Segdewick (sp?) based some of her The Closer character off of Helen Mirren’s Jane Tennyson.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            The seasons are short. I think that they did six or seven seasons of Prime Suspect with MIrren. I liked some better than others, but Mirren was always worth watching. Her character becomes pretty dark-just a head’s up.
            I didn’t know that about Sedgwick’s character on The Closer.

      • Jacob Bowen

        The Dexter novels are PHENOMENAL!!! I bought them when Borders (bless its heart) was still open and I devoured them.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Which kittens were trying to convince me to watch True Detective? Well, you were right!

      • Kitten Mittons

        I don’t know if it was me specifically, but I’ve been telling everyone I know to watch it, so I’m very glad you like it. Have you finished it, or are you still working through it?

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Still working through it.

          McConathingy has “Emmy award winner” written all over him, doesn’t he?

          • Kitten Mittons

            Indeed.

          • Jacob Bowen

            Seriously. He is PHENOMENAL. I watched the entire series in one week with my Aunt and Uncle. One episode a night was DEFINITELY enough to satisfy me, more than one would have been overkill (pun intended).

    • Kitten Mittons

      Taxes, darlings. Taxes.

      Though I think our refund may buy hurricane shutters, so there’s always a positive.

      • MilaXX

        Mine is buying me a new roof.

        • Kitten Mittons

          Hooray for home improvements! We got a new roof last year thanks to a huge hail storm.

          • MilaXX

            During one of the heavier snows this winter I had a small leak in my bathroom. Once I got someone up there to look he confirmed my biggest fears that I needed a new roof. The house is from the late 40′s and based on some of the repairs I’ve had to do since I’ve been here I wan’t surprised. It’s not a bad leak and I haven’t had any trouble since, but I’d rather err on the side of caution.

            • Kitten Mittons

              Always a good idea.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Our tax info is with our CPA. Any refund will go for the new siding we had installed last year.

    • PastryGoddess

      Zomg Kate “Caress” O’Mara has died. How sad :(

      • MilaXX

        The Rani is gone. :-(

    • @Biting Panda

      Friends, please remember, we are not promised even one more moment with those we love. Cherish each other, and if you find yourself with no one to treasure, give of yourself, give Love out to this broken world.

      A friend is gone. Unexpectedly, unfairly. He leaves behind a wife and four beautiful children. They would give anything for the chance to say one more thing, give one more hug.

      Use today to do what you have no guarantee of doing tomorrow.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        How awful – I am so sorry!

      • oogabougga

        I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
        Truly, a reminder to treasure each moment and take nothing for granted.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I am so sorry.

      • Qitkat

        How heartbreaking. I am so very sorry.

      • Kitten Mittons

        My sincerest thoughts for you and his family.

      • Pennymac

        I’m so sorry. But thanks for the important encouragement. I needed to be reminded of how fleeting life can be.

      • decormaven

        Bless them. I know you will be of support to them.

      • formerlyAnon

        So, so, sorry to hear this.

        Thank you for the always a timely reminder.

      • MilaXX

        Sorry for your loss.

      • Shibori Girl

        Oh my Dear,

        no truer words were ever spoken. My husband of 38 years went to bed one night and did not awake the next morning. I am so grateful for the time we had, and sometimes feel cheated of the time we lost so unexpectedly. It has been four years and while I am successfully carrying on, I miss him every day.

        This is by way of saying that all you BKs should do exactly as Biting Panda says and cherish each other, your family and friends. Nothing fair about this life except what we bring to it. Biting Panda, you and your friend’s wife and family are in my prayers. She has joined a club none of us apply for.

        My arms around you.

        Shibori Girl

      • KinoEye

        I am so, so sorry. This has happened to too many people I know lately. Blessings to all who are grieving.

      • Jacob Bowen

        That is heart wrenching, so sorry for your loss!

    • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

      I’m hanging out for the season finale of TWD today. :) Looking forward to seeing what happens but even more so listening to what y’all have to say about it.

      Re The Wolf Of Wall Street.. I have to say, it was worth sitting through all the whatever stuff just for the Quaaludes country club scene. Leonardo can be extremely hilarious and this I feel has been the best example of that in any of the movies he has made. I laughed so much I woke people up, because I was watching it at like 3am or something..

      I wish Leo would do some comedies for a bit. Decent ones, like back in the old days. If they could remake something like Ghostbusters with him in it.. I am thinking that would be a huge hit. And wouldn’t Lupita be kick rear in the role played by Sigourney Weaver!

      I just spent a lovely couple of hours listening to Harold Ramis on the commentary track.. though he is no longer with us, he is always with us thanks to the magic of movies and dvds. :) and he still makes me laugh.

      • MilaXX

        I want/hope Lupita gets work but I don’t want her put in a position to be compared to someone else. That said I’d love to see her in a comedy and if it’s good I’d love to see her in the new Ghostbusters movie. I just want her there as an original character.

        • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

          I just miss seeing her.. I have Lupita on the brain. I’ve pictured her in virtually every role in my favourite shows, including roles previously played by men. I’m an equal opportunity daydreamer. Like wouldn’t back to the future have been cool with Lupita Mcfly? Or the Indiana movies with Lupita Jones? I could continue! :)

          Now that I think about it, she should be a ghostbuster in Ghostbusters. ;) But I would have loved to see her levitating above the bed and getting her gatekeeper on.. I’m just wacky that way.. lol

      • Isabel

        Hershel’s alive. Guess Rick is having another “I See Dead People” moment.

      • decormaven

        I will always think of Harold Ramis in Stripes, getting the ESOL students to sing “Da Do Run Run.” His timing in that movie- especially with Bill Murray- was great. Loved that Bill Murray gave him a shout out at the Academy Awards. He might be gone, but he will never be forgotten.

    • Judih1

      You you have a pre or post party to your book signing in SF? If so, please put me your on guest list :)

    • Gatto Nero

      TLo, I enjoyed your take on the two films. I haven’t see “Wolf,” but I was weirdly captivated by “Inside Llewyn Davis,” which still haunts me a bit, weeks later. The lack of narrative didn’t bother me, since that didn’t seem to be the point. The vivid snapshot of time and place, the emotional atmosphere, and the performances carried the film for me. Davis was unlikable, defensive, and clueless in his relationships, but the Coens managed to make him fascinating and even pitiable. I wondered (as many artists probably wonder about themselves) whether he was really gifted or was just a marginal talent who was deluding himself. And the cold heart of the music industry was in evidence even then. The film has a strange beauty that gets its hooks into you. Love the soundtrack.

    • ookamigrrl

      I fell asleep during Wolf on Wall Strtet. I couldn’t get into the story. I also rented Kill Your Darlings. Love, love, love that movie. I highly recommend it.