T LOunge

Posted on March 14, 2014

Grab a comfy chair, darlings. We declare this week OVUH.

The Artesian Bar at The Langham in London

 

 

Aaaaand we’ve got nothing. Seriously, we’re tapped out. No plans for the weekend. There’s a slight lull in the book poledance. And that’s about it.

Oh! Here’s why we’re tired:  we mailed out ALL the magnets and postcards this week, except a few to a handful of people who we had to contact to get address information. But all y’all should be receiving them this week, if you haven’t already. To those people to whom we promised book plates, those are being shipped out tomorrow. Please let us know if you were expecting something from us and it hasn’t arrived within the week.

So, how are all y’all doing? Let’s trade recipes and gossip.

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: artesian-bar.co.uk]

    • Glam Dixie

      My magnets and signed attention whore picture arrived yesterday. I actually did a squee and jumped up and down when I saw the envelope. Thanks for all of y’alls hard work. Your site is my favorite place to visit. Well this one and maybe Obsessive Corgi Disorder, mumble mumble.

      • @Biting Panda

        Ohmygah, I love Corgis!!

        • Glam Dixie

          I have 2 of the little darlings. A tri and a sable, they are the bomb.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

            I have 2 Pems and 1 Cardi. They’re the best!!! I am so bad at updating my blog since I get the younger Pem, though.

            • Glam Dixie

              Mine are both pembroke, would love to have a cardi.

            • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

              Cardi have a very different personality from Pems, even though they are similar looking. I’m not sure I would get another Cardi.

            • Glam Dixie

              Really? I didn’t know that but thanks for the heads up.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Thanks for letting us know about the site – I want a corgi! (I say the same thing about pugs, frenchies, and pretty much every animal on a local rescue site). I just love the corgi smile.

        • Glam Dixie

          I spend way too much time there. Corgi’s are loaded with personality and very photogenic.

          • SierraDelta

            I’m always fascinated by the threads that develop in the Lounge, and one of the things I like best is the topic-specific language. Now whenever I see QEII I’ll imagine her smiling to herself at her computer and regally sending you all good Corgi vibes from Buck House.

    • @Biting Panda

      Bless your hearts, y’all have been in full tilt hustle mode. I’m exhausted just reading about your adventures.

      I’ve been on a personal quest for better mental and emotional health. This week I think I’ve found some truly helpful keys to unlock the puzzle. Time will tell.

      We have a new dog. She was dumped on my front lawn and my son was in love before the car who left her rounded the corner.

      Soooooo that’s me, Kittens. Cheers!

      • Glam Dixie

        Oh congrats on your new family member, that happens here all the time too. People are such assholes sometimes.

        • SierraDelta

          “People are such assholes sometimes.” I was looking for inspiration for my next needlepoint sampler!

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        that dog now has a far better home with you and yours. Hope that the keys turn out to open good doors for you.

      • MilaXX

        Congrats on the doggy. I’ve been craving one for some time. I think if a few things fall in place like I want next year I’m going to break down and get one.

      • alyce1213

        Congratulations on your new family member. That doggy was left on your lawn you for a reason.

      • formerlyAnon

        Congrats about the dog. Double congrats on the mental/emotional health! I feel like I’ve made huge strides in that direction, now I need to consolidate the lessons learned, apply them, and not backslide into some different but analogous situation within a year.

      • rainwood1

        I can’t imagine abandoning a dog, but it’s obvious that pup now has a much better home than it did before. Good on you for making one dog and one son very happy.

        And congrats on the helpful keys to better mental and emotional health. The one good thing about having stresses in your life is that it pushes you to find good coping mechanisms. I’ve had to find a few keys myself over the past few years.

    • mrspeel2

      I received my postcard and magnet earlier in the week and it was a delightful surprise. I’ve put the magnet on my refrigerator, very near my “I understand the concepts of cleaning and cooking, just not how they apply to me” magnet! Thank you so, so much!

      • M. H. Leader

        Ah. I rescued a doggie at the end of December–11½ year old mini schnauzer with a ton of health issues (heart murmur, deaf, hip palsies, and a HOST of gastrointestinal problems. (Her previous very elderly family had serious health issues; the mom, 88, died last month from a series of strokes and her dad, 90, had heart attacks and is moving into assisted living arrangements.) She’s also sweet, adorable, perfectly trained, and a sunny, happy little girl who charms the pants off everyone she meets. And she made an AWESOME Puppy Bowl Cheerleader in her little tee shirt with the pink tulle tutu around the hem. (I’m positive TLo would have approved! Very occasion-appropriate!) Even my 15-year-old Tonkinese kitty is starting to be OK with her. But while I agree with your cooking and cleaning mantra, my personal perspective is: “I’ve been giving it a lot of thought and I don’t think being an adult is gonna work for me.” Yup. That’s me to a tee.

        • mrspeel2

          LOL good one!
          Good for you, rescuing the Schnauzer! They are a beautiful breed and because she is elderly and has health issues, she will love you all the more. Bless you; you are a very caring person!

          • M. H. Leader

            Truth is, little Suzie snared me the first time she looked up at me with that darling little schnauzer smile on her face. She’s such a sweetie–even when her G-I issues keep me up all night. She tries so hard to be a good little girl, and is really apologetic when she’s just GOTTA go every twenty minutes. Her health is pretty bad, so I don’t know that I’ll be able to keep her more than a year or two, but she’s really a light in my life for as long as I have her!

            • mrspeel2

              Yes she will!

    • Peeve

      Get some rest while you can, gentlemen. It is so well deserved!

    • altalinda

      I got my postcard! Now to have it suitably framed and hung where I can stare lovingly at the Ghost-of-Celebrity-Future.

    • Coolekat

      I’m glad to be here. I am whipped.

    • carolynmo

      We’re going to a Hamburger Mary’s gospel drag show on Sunday. I’m very excited! Not a bad week here in at. Louis– it’s warmer!!!

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      Lovely, lovely bar, uncles. Sounds as if a quiet weekend is exactly what the two of you need at the moment.
      If the weather looks right tomorrow, I’m thinking that I’ll take the train to Baltimore to view the screen painting exhibit at the Md. Institute College of Art-screen painting is an old folk art tradition in B’more.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        This is the third time at this beautiful bar. We’re becoming regulars and I still do love those settees.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Those settees are so inviting, aren’t they?

      • formerlyAnon

        You’re a genius. I was trying to think of a cheap pick-me-up to look forward to, and for some reason I had forgotten how long it’s been since I went to look at some art that’s been curated for the public to learn from and enjoy, rather than judged for entrance into a show for the purpose of selling. Officially on the agenda.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Tomorrow, 3/16, is the final day for the exhibit. so if you can go, I recommend it. It’s been lovingly curated, and I learned much that I didn’t know about the origins of screen painting. It was also great to see younger artists who have become intrigued and are keeping the art alive and growing. One artist created a strapless gown out of screen/mesh and painted a tropical scene with pink flamingos! i would kill to be able to have worn that dress!

    • marlie

      I got my magnet and postcard a couple of days ago!!

      I have a date with my couch tonight. And tomorrow. It’s the first weekend in over a month that I haven’t had a baby or bridal shower to go to and I’m not doing squat.

      Anyway, happy weekend, Kittens!

      • @Biting Panda

        Baby and bridal showers? Shoot me.

        • marlie

          There’s like a month and a half-long lull, and then we have weddings galore.

          • @Biting Panda

            Ugh. I’m sorry. Shoot me in the face.

          • MilaXX

            I went though that in my 20′s . One summer I swear it was either a wedding, or a shower (baby or bridal) every week. It was exhausting!

      • camsteerie

        Me too. Many thanks. Tomorrow, I’m off to the “best knees in a kilt” competition in Bethlehem (not the one the baby Jesus comes from). Listen, it take all sorts……

        • altalinda

          Bethlehem PA?

          • camsteerie

            Yep. You coming?

            • altalinda

              Sounds like fun, but my spouse may not consider that the ideal way to celebrate her birthday. Cheers from Philly!

            • camsteerie

              I can’t imagine why. A lot of Celts with beer bellies and knobbly knees- bare knobbly knees, I may add. ;)

              Happy birthday spouse. Have a great one.

    • Musicologie

      We made it through another week! Time to lift our glasses! Mine has water for now, but in another three hours or so, it’ll have either wine or a rum concoction, I haven’t decided yet.

    • Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

      My magnet arrived yesterday. Thank you! It’s proudly displayed on the refrigerator in my office.

    • shirab

      First-world disappointment to share: Looking forward to our first-ever Caribbean holiday in April in St. Martin to celebrate the end of a very stressful fall/winter. Booked a peaceful condo near the beach. Husband mentioned the trip to a friend who said hey, have you heard about that mosquito-borne virus? Turns out CDC and WHO are reporting an outbreak of a horrible-sounding disease (swollen, painful joints for months, fever) centered on St. Martin. Advised to wear DEET, long sleeves, long pants for protection at all times, plus they’re spraying the whole island w/insecticides. We decide that doesn’t sound relaxing or even safe, punt and rebook trip. Now we will be going to an all-inclusive resort south of Cancun. Kids are thrilled as photos look like the prize packages on Wheel of Fortune. I am happy we were able to switch gears relatively easily (though not for free), but it’s going to be a different sort of trip than what I’d envisioned. But still fun! Like I said, first-world issue. Cheers!

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Congrats on the upcoming vacation. I don’t have anything planned so do you mind if I live vicariously through you? Being eaten alive by mosquitoes followed by months of pain would be a really sucky vacation souvenir but Cancun sounds wonderful. Have a giant margarita for me.

      • formerlyAnon

        On the upside, all inclusive resorts usually include activities to which one can consign the young people while the adults have grown-up time. Peaceful beach condos often do not. However it pans out, I’m glad you’re going and hope all enjoy themselves!

        • shirab

          Thanks, formerlyA and SouthernGirl! It will be fun just to be elsewhere (and a warm and sunny elsewhere) with the family. And yes, no condo = no cooking, so I can get used to that I’m sure.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      It’s 5:15 pm here and I’m eating ice cream from the container as I mark the end of my second week as an unemployed ex-gift shop owner. (I suppose I’ll have a real dinner later.) Had a hugely successful “store closing” sale. Many of my customers were even more upset about it than I was and showed it by repeatedly spending lots of money over the six-week period. The recession is definitely over.

      Although it is imperative that I find a job right away, I’m having a very hard time getting motivated to send out resumes, which only makes me want more ice cream. My shiva has lasted more than seven days, so it’s time to declare the mourning period over, take the sheets off the mirrors and get serious about the job hunting. I’ve polished my resume, posted it on LinkedIn, Monster, Indeed, etc. and scoured Craig’s List. Now comes the hard part. I wish I could just choose a company and walk in saying, “I’m here to work, where should I sit?”

      • altalinda

        Good luck with that! Job hunting is the pits.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Thank you!

      • @Biting Panda

        You’ll be amazing. You were a business owner in an online world. You bring the skills. Nay, the skillz.
        Ice cream your weekend, then take Monday by the balls and reassert yourself back into the working world.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Thanks, Amanda Panda. Do you think prospective employers would accept references from BKs?

          • @Biting Panda

            If they’re smart!

          • SRQkitten

            I would accept BK references, this is a very savvy and intelligent group! (A refreshing change, frankly, from the vast majority of commentariat in internetland)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I agree that the level of creativity, intelligence, compassion and humor among this group is beyond compare. Just from the glimmers of info shared by our group, I’m certain we would be very impressed with who some of these people are should they choose to reveal themselves.

      • embers618

        Good luck! I hope you find the right position soon, and that they know how to value your amazing experience owning a business.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Owning a business isn’t necessarily considered a positive by employers. They are concerned that ten years of being my own boss will make it difficult for me to answer to someone else. It’s hard to convince them that at this point, I welcome the opportunity to let other people worry about running the company.

          • embers618

            I had the same response when I was applying for jobs after consulting for several years. It took a while, but I did eventually find something that was a good fit. And really, the experience I had consulting gave me a perspective that made me a much better employee than I ever was before. I think the hardest part, but most important part, was finding a boss that wasn’t threatened by the fact that I knew how to do most of their job. A lot of people will be too narrow minded to see how much your perspective will benefit their company, but the people who do recognize it will be lucky to have you.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I got a phone call today from the husband of a customer who discovered and fell in love with my store right after I announced that it was closing. It could end up as a consulting job for their company.

              My question is how do you determine how much to charge for consulting? I understand about retainers, hourly and all that, but how do you put a price tag on your services? I’ve always had the impression that consultants charge more than an employee would get for the same work? Is this true?

            • formerlyAnon

              It’s true in the fields with which I am familiar at second hand. Consultants don’t cost a company benefits and overhead. But I don’t know what the multiplier is, suspect it varies by field.

            • embers618

              Not only by field, but often by expertise and specialty within that field, and sometimes even by marketing savvy and charisma. Consulting is truly an exercise in the free market – you can basically charge what you can get someone to pay you.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Thank all of you, especially embers618, for your thoughtful and erudite counseling. On your advice, I found local salary information for Sr. Merchandise Buyer, which I think is closest to what the task will be, and now have a much better grasp of what I need to charge. You can do the Google all day long, but if you want the best information, ask the BKs!

              The meeting is on the 25th. I’ll report back on the results.

            • kimmeister

              For sure it’s true, because they don’t have to pay for the Medical and other benefits of a consultant. To determine how much to charge, look online for labor and wage surveys for similar jobs in your region.

            • formerlyAnon

              If you have access to a decent business library (some big public libraries, more often at universities – and most state universities will give state residents library privileges for a year for a not-huge fee) (I think it’s under $100.00/year where I live) – there will be access to databases with government statistics on wages by industry/job category. These are often less precise (and less frequently updated) than professional association surveys – a good business library will have access to some professional association publications (usually on line now) but not all.

              Back in the olden days, the federal government provided access to a lot of resources through the Small Business Administration, but I don’t know what is available nowadays.

            • embers618

              First – congratulations! If you’re getting calls like that, you must be good at what you do. :)
              For the questions: yes, consultants charge more – there are a lot of reasons why, but part of it is based on financial responsibility and overhead, part is based on how much work is done outside the billable time, and part of it is based on contract length. Before you put a price tag on your services, it’s useful to consider how much and what type of work you’ll be doing on-site, and how much you’ll be doing off-site. You’ll also want to know what the actual cost of someone in that position is (benefits, payroll, etc) rather than just the hourly rate that person would receive.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              embers618, what is the difference between actual hours and billable hours? Why would there be a difference between being paid for onsite or offsite work? If I’m doing research on my computer at home, is that worth more or less than doing it in their offices? A lot of this would involve recommending product for a new retail division from my sources who, for some reason, they don’t think they have access to on their own.

            • embers618

              Actual hours are all the hours it takes to do all the parts of your work (your own payroll, benefits, bookkeeping, billing, services etc). Billable hours are the work you’re doing directly on behalf of the company. So, if your overhead hours add up to 10 per month, and you’re working for the company 30 hours per month, you’ll end up with 40 actual hours, but only 30 billable hours.
              When you’re considering on-site versus off-site, you want to consider the resources you’re using on their behalf. It sounds like you’ll at least be using internet, a computer, and possibly a printer and ink. You want to make sure your monthly income covers your amortization for those items, but when you divide that to an hourly wage, it’s really not a huge difference, and it saves them the cost of investing in these resources for whatever the length of your contract is. If you were a management consultant, you would charge much more for onsite work, because that’s where you’re adding value to the company – for instance, in my field (change implementation and staff development), I only charged hourly for onsite coaching or strategic development, and then charged a separate fee for curriculum development per hour of training delivered, but I never charged hourly for off-site work. Because most of your hours will be spent off-site, you might just find it easier to charge the same hourly fee for on-site and off-site work. As a note, I would recommend keeping regular hours for off-site time (ie, the same each week, or each day), and letting them know what that schedule is, so that they have clear expectations of when they can reach you by phone or e-mail.
              Also, don’t sell yourself short. Basically what they’re doing is asking you to act as a buyer on their behalf, and you have experience and talent in that area after curating a shop of your own. It is an actual skill-set, and in high demand right now.

            • MilaXX

              Yes consultants charge more because you have to factor in your own overhead.

              ETA: What @Embers618 said

            • decormaven

              You’ve gotten good advice here. Don’t be afraid to charge a decent fee, and best of luck to you. You will be a worthy asset wherever you land.

    • MilaXX

      I’m making cookies. Oatmeal chocolate chip.
      I love my magnet and it’s already got a prominent place on the fridge.

      • shirab

        A wise choice, to use choc chips and not raisins. The cookie part of choc-chip cookies is so often disappointing, and the raisins in oatmeal cookies, well, are raisins and not chocolate. I think I feel a baking project coming on…

        • MilaXX

          I like raisins if the cookie is well made, but I’m using coconut oil instead of butter and adding some shredded coconut so I thought chocolate just went better.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Mila, your cookies are sounding better and better with each new ingredient you share.

        • rainwood1

          Are you me, shirab? That’s my cookie philosophy as well.

        • kimmeister

          I don’t like raisins, so when I reach for what I think is a chocolate chip cookie that turns out to be oatmeal raisin, it’s utterly disappointing.

      • embers618

        Now I want cookies. When those are done, can you just mail me a few? :)

      • rainwood1

        Oatmeal chocolate chip are the best. I also add walnuts to mine.

      • SouthernGirlRena

        I was this close to making it all the way through girl scout cookie season without falling for their cute little pleading faces but I caved tonight while I was picking up Chinese take out. I had 5 Samoas on the way home.

        • marlie

          I can – and have – eaten a whole box of Samoas in one sitting. Don’t judge.

          • SouthernGirlRena

            Definitely no judging from this corner! I haven’t eating a whole box of Samoas at one sitting but I’ve come close with Thin Mints. I haven’t opened them yet. :)

            • http://frankbettecenter.org/ sleah_in_norcal

              i love this new kind called lemonades. thin shortbread with lemon frosting on one side, with a sort of white chocolate consistency. beautiful dipped in coffee. i have cookies for breakfast every day! i can get away with it because i don’t eat much else during the day. hubs loves his big dinner at night.

          • formerlyAnon

            I did not buy a single box of Girl Scout cookies this year for that very reason.

            I really want to be able to run* again. Now that I’ve strengthened my knee, I think I can do it, in a gentle way, without too much trauma if I get back down to my age-adjusted (upward) fighting weight.

            * Term used loosely. “Run” as applied here should be construed to mean “jog slowly at a pace some walkers can meet or exceed.”

            • embers618

              It sounds like you and I could be running partners… I run exactly 0.8 miles an hour faster than I walk. Any more than that and I have knee/hip issues.

            • formerlyAnon

              I was never more than a fast jogger, even in my 20s. But age takes a cruel toll.

          • Sarah

            Only the ONE box? :)

            • marlie

              I generally only buy one at a time, just because of that. :P

            • Sarah

              I just got mine over the weekend. I only ate half of one box….so far!

          • 3boysful

            I love how Thin Mints are packaged in those convenient single-serving sleeves . . . .

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Tagalogs, forever!

            (*sometimes known as peanut butter patties.)

        • unbornfawn

          Those things are addictive.

        • rainwood1

          The Samoas are the best.

        • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

          I am happy to give the Girl Scouts a few $$ but I DO NOT want cookies in my house. So I opt for the “send cookies to the troops” box. The precious little ones get their sales numbers, and I save on processed sugar intake. (As long as I can walk past the ice cream section.)

      • marlie

        I promised the sweetie some baked goodness tomorrow, and that sounds like a nice option!

      • rainwood1

        As long as we’re talking cookies, here’s a tip from one of the America’s Test Kitchen cookbooks that helped me a lot. If you want the big, chewy bakery style cookie that’s mounded in the middle, do the following:

        - With either a medium size ice cream scoop or your hands, get enough dough to make a ball that’s at least 1 and a 1/2″ in diameter. I usually make them a little bigger than that.
        - Now here’s the great trick. Break the ball in half with your fingers (don’t use a knife). The torn parts should look rough.
        - Flip the halves around so the torn parts are on the outside and push the rounded bottoms together (yeah, don’t even think of going there) so they’re firmly attached.
        - Set the formed cookie on the baking sheet rough side up.

        This works best with cookie dough made with butter and the dough has been refrigerated at least a half hour before you form the cookies. You also need to adjust the cooking time because these are big, thick cookies. Yum!

      • marlie

        You inspired me to make oatmeal chocolate chip cookies over the weekend. :)

        • MilaXX

          Were they good? I had to pack mine up and freeze half. I kept going back for more.

          • marlie

            They were! Fortunately, took them to a party that the bf and I attended on Saturday, so I didn’t eat them all myself. ;)

    • R. L.

      French toast and white wine for dinner. Feeling fab.

      • formerlyAnon

        Living well is the best revenge. One of my favorite sayings.

    • rainwood1

      It’s been an eventful week. We’ve moved my mom to a really great memory care place. It’s taken two tries to find the right place, but we think we’ve finally done it. And her house was listed for sale on Wednesday afternoon after a ton of work to get it ready. We had a full price offer on Thursday morning. Everyone is surprised and shocked, including the realtor, because we priced the house higher than the market suggested. My mother worked hard to keep the place as a divorcee raising 2 kids in the 50′s and 60′s with no child support. She knew it would provide financial stability and she was right. Yay, Mom!

      • @Biting Panda

        Yay to the sale and yay to finding your mom a place you feel good about.

      • formerlyAnon

        Exactly what Biting Panda said.

        Extra big congrats on the house – hope you soon have that action item off the table.

      • decormaven

        Praises! That is great news on the house sale, and so glad you’ve located a good spot for your mom. So tricky to do- but you have done a good job. Pat yourself on the back- you’ve done some extremely hard work.

    • embers618

      My brain has been mostly mush for the last couple days, and I’m slowly getting it back through some quiet time with the internet and a nice bottle of wine. I really should get some bookkeeping done, but I’m deciding it can wait till tomorrow night. I’m pretty sure if I did it now I’d end up needing to redo half of it tomorrow, anyway.

    • Rawtoo

      Omg, this is how out of it I am at the end of the week. I thought OVUH was an acronym until I said it out loud to my partner (and if it is an acronym, please explain).

    • LJCdoc

      Kittens, I seriously need to be talked down right now, and then I need a big glass of wine. I have a house that I’ve owned for about 10 years, and had to buy a new one about 5 years ago when the tiny one got too small for me, a dog, a husband, a cat, a toddler, and a baby on the way. We’ve been renting it out ever since, because it was under water when we had to move. Our tenants recently gave notice, and we put it on the market, because it was (finally) above water. Got 2 offers within 3 days, one at the asking price and one 15K below it. We took the higher one (because, duh), and everything was peachy – supposed to close on Monday. Our Realtor got an email today telling him that they were dropping their price by almost 30K (pretty much our entire profit would go bye bye). Two days ago he talked to the buyer, who told him everything was fine and we’re on track. Meanwhile, I just passed on a job opportunity that would have doubled my salary (to do something I didn’t want to do), and we’re drowning in bills AND haven’t even started to look for a new renter. Grrr. Bitter is an understatement right now.

      • unbornfawn

        Hang in there. You’ve got a lot on your plate! Selling a house can be incredibly stressful. Don’t settle. Add that to small children, and I suspect not enough sleep. No wonder you need talking down. Have the beverage of your choice, put you feet up and hug those precious little ones.

      • formerlyAnon

        Unless there are things in play we internet strangers don’t know about, it is too soon to drop your selling price by that much, hope your ex-buyer has to pay a penalty for backing out at this late date. (Because, yeah, once the house is under contract unless something’s been re-negotiated, that’s NOT dropping the offering price, that’s backing out.)

        Hang in. Good luck.

      • Sarah

        Gosh, rough! Truly sorry. If I may, I’d suggest that you should try to remember none of that was your fault, so just try to take care of yourself, stress-wise, and trust that that next opportunity will come along if you’re looking for it to.

      • decormaven

        Stand your ground and don’t drop your price yet. That’s tough, given your immediate need for $, but hang in there. Your house will sell and you’ll be released from the “joys” of being a landlord.

      • BobStPaul

        Don’t give up yet. If you received two offers that quickly it’s very likely it will happen again if you keep it listed. This happened to the property of a friend’s estate last year when buyers backed up a few days before closing and it ended up with multiple offers within a week and sold for an additional $5k above the first offer (which was already $5K above asking). Your buyer unfortunately probably had this maneuver in mind when making the initial offer – an unfortunate but not unheard of tactic in recent years when unethical buyers think sellers are desperate to get rid of properties.

        • LJCdoc

          Thanks for the support, precious unborn fawns. The buyer is unfortunately not a person, except in the Mitt Romney sense of the word, & we really can’t afford a month without a sale or renters. So we came down a little, bit no where meat what they asked for. According to the realtor, there are no reprocussions since we’re still on escrow. I can’t believe that can be legal. Oh well. I’m going to eat carbs & get good and drunk today.

          • BrooklynBomber

            It sounds like you were in contract (ready to close), so they can’t just drop the price. But they can say that inspection or some due diligence issue showed this and that problem that will be an expense for their non-person-Mitt-Romneyish asses, and so would like to drop $30,000. Auto-spell mangled your post a bit, but I think you’re saying you met somewhere in the middle, but closer to your asking price. If so, sometimes that’s he best you can hope for.

            • LJCdoc

              Yeah, in escrow, so they hadn’t dropped contingencies, and claimed that they ran into expenses that would be unmanageable to them. Still, they had, JUST claimed that everything was fine, and had had plenty of time to inspect, so I suspect extreme shadyness. Yes, we offered in the middle, but closer to our original price. No response from the weasels yet.

            • BrooklynBomber

              Ugh. I went through something like that once, where I had to accept an offer much lower than I’d hoped or expected, and then the buyer kept trying to nickel and dime me, trying things like taking off large (disproportionate) sums because the dishwasher had broken after the offer was accepted. It was clear that they wanted the place; they just didn’t want to pay for it. But I needed to sell, and there was only so much pushback I could do. It’s incredibly infuriating to go through, but try to keep your eyes on the longterm . . . eventually this will be history. In the meantime – best of luck.

      • Saturnine

        I am so sorry, and I’m furious on your behalf. In South Florida by any chance? This type of thing has been happening here with alarming frequency as home sale prices begin to go up and sellers begin to be on the right side of their loans. Usually it’s cash buyers that offer at or above asking, have no issues up to days before closing, and then refuse to close unless the contract price is dropped. It costs them next to nothing to walk away from escrow, and more likely than not, they get the seller who’s made contingent plans to eat the difference.

        I’m not mentioning this just to add my two cents; I do so because it happened to a passing acquaintance, and I believe she contacted a regional Realtors’ association to see what her options were. It’s highly unethical on the buyer’s broker’s part. Again, so sorry about the stress.

        *Edited for a couple of words for clarity*

        • LJCdoc

          Not So Fl, Socal. I suspect it would have happened with either buyer, because the other one was also a Romney-only person with a cash offer. Agreed about the highly unethical part; I can’t believe there’s no law against this. Shady, shady, shady.

    • Angela_the_Librarian

      I received my magnet and postcard today. It was a nice pick me up after a truly horrible week. I found out that my pregnancy is no longer viable…and this is the fifth time this has happened in 5 years. TLo and the bitter kittens have helped to divert my mind at least for a few minutes each day.

      • embers618

        What a week. Sending comfort, peace, time to feel what you need to, and distraction from what you can’t bring yourself to feel yet. And hugs if you want some, even though internet hugs are a little less substantial than the real thing.

      • formerlyAnon

        Sorry about the bad week. Hope things get better. Or you get into a better place from which to cope. Be kind to yourself.

      • MilaXX

        so sorry to hear that.

      • Angela_the_Librarian

        Thank you go or the kind words, I found out that my pregnancy is no longer viable. Just taking it a day at a time. It’s nice to have a place that is full of humor and wit to take my mind off things.

        • formerlyAnon

          Oh, that is very hard. Be extremely kind to yourself.

        • decormaven

          All the hugs to you.

        • http://smalltownbigwardrobe.com/ Catherine

          Oh I am so very sorry. Sending you hugs right now.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Oh how awful. I am so sorry.

        • Violina23

          *hugs* so sorry for you loss :(

    • kimmeister

      I hate event planning, but every year I have to put on two Service Award luncheons for people at my work who celebrated special anniversaries in there years of service. It was two luncheons for nearly 200 people. I survived! This year we have an executive chef, so the food was awesome. I’m exhausted though!

      • formerlyAnon

        Yay you! I hope you get appropriate credit for organizing luncheons with awesome food!

        • kimmeister

          Thanks ! The GM gave me credit for both days, but my reward appears to be keeping on doing it every year. It has been 10 years running now. Maybe I need to start sucking at it so that someone else will be assigned.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Huh. That seems to be my reward for organizing company parties, luncheons, and pot lucks, too. I think they think we enjoy it. (I also die a little inside each spring/fall when it’s time to order a new round of company apparel…)

      • embers618

        Go you! I hope you can use this weekend to recoup.
        FYI – I love event planning, and if there is a quality chef involved, I will work for free food :)

        • kimmeister

          I’m good at it because I’m a perfectionist, but it stresses me out, plus it’s tiring to be “on” so publicly when by nature I’m an introvert who would rather stay behind the scenes. I do like the free food part. Today there was one person at my table whose sex I was unsure of (who had a unisex name) so I was quieter than usual because I was afraid of using the wrong pronoun.

          • formerlyAnon

            Ha! One of my kids has a friend who identifies as neither/both genders and I try really, really, hard but the English language is just not built for that. Doesn’t help the s/he is comfortable looking/dressing/grooming very much like any person of the gender which everyone assumed they were at birth. (Just writing that was tiring, and writing is soo much easier than speaking for me.) God help me, I’ll get there with this eventually. They’re a good kid (Kid, ha, 24) and admirably tolerant of my failures in pronoun management, and more than deserves the courtesy.

          • embers618

            Well, I totally get the stress from perfectionism (and it does make you good at things with a million details, but also, stress about a million details), and I know how my husband is when he doesn’t get enough introvert time, so no judgement there. I’m glad you got to enjoy the free food! I do wish we either had less gendered language or more gendered language. Only having pronouns that encompass two genders for people can make for some awkward situations, as can having pronouns that split people into two genders. Like, maybe we should just have a pronoun for person, that can be applied to any person, regardless of gender.

            • kimmeister

              A manager at the table who knows the employee well later said “he” so I learned that’s how he prefers to be identified (and is also what is in our HR systems). I suspect that wasn’t the case when he was hired 30 years ago. But he has clearly thrived and is, by all accounts, a stellar engineer.

            • http://frankbettecenter.org/ sleah_in_norcal

              i’ve been told that in tagalog (filipino dialect), there is only one pronoun, just as you describe. it was frustrating for me though, as i worked with a lot of filipina nurses and when they would write notes on the charts in english, they would switch back and forth between he and she until i couldn’t tell who did what to who. very confusing…

            • kimmeister

              I wonder if Farsi is similar. Several of my friends who grew up in Iran still mix up he and she even though their English is otherwise perfect.

      • decormaven

        Time to groom an up and coming go getter in your office to take on that job. Be a mentor, show ‘em the ropes, and let a young’un handle it.

        • kimmeister

          Unfortunately, I am 34 and there is no one in HR younger than me. At the luncheon for those with 30+ years of service, some who didn’t realize I was the event organizer were wondering why I was there. I joked with them that I was really 60, but that my Asian genes let me looking fabulous for my age. :)

          • decormaven

            I like the way you think!

    • formerlyAnon

      I must win the lottery so I can visit this bar. And buy their pricey cocktails, and pay cab fare to where ever I will be sleeping after several of them. Glamazon of excitement, that’s me.

      Thanks for my magnet & postcard which arrived today. When I saw both of y’all’s full signatures, I realized I’d been unconsciously expecting just first names, since that’s what’s in the blog’s name. Full names must take so much longer, multiplied by all the requests! Thank-you very much.

      I’ve been hearing free live music at our l’il local music festival today, with a couple of cameo appearances at work. More music tomorrow, till we’re rained out. Then life maintenance. Sunday work to make up for the cameo appearance approach today. Probably no cooking that involves recipes, just the combining & heating of things that might go bad if we don’t use them kind of cooking. If I get to the gym this weekend it will count as a triumph.

      Best to all. Hope you enjoy a good weekend.

      • kimmeister

        Ha, that’s how half of my dinner went. By the time I’d finished making the poblano soup, I ran out of time to do sufficient chilling for my quinoa burger patties. So, instead, we had the last of last Sunday’s pulled pork in sandwiches to go with the soup. The patties can wait till tomorrow. I am fairly excited to try the whipped feta that goes on them though!

        May you finish all your leftovers before they spoil.

        • Sarah

          I like the idea of whipped feta!

      • Sarah

        Yay for live music! AND judicious and creative use of leftovers.

    • Sarah

      I am still waiting for my postcard, but I have faith. Last weekend I was in Philly getting robbed :( Sorry Uncles, bad time in your town dammit. But things are nice around here, mostly, and I want to share this recipe for my mom’s best and most delicious appetizer, IMO:
      1 can 6.25 oz crabmeat; drained
      1 jar Old English (Kraft) cheese spread
      1 teaspoon garlic salt
      1 teaspoon Lawry’s Seasoned Salt
      1.5 teaspoon mayonnaise
      Mix thoroughly in bowl with potato masher, spread on 6 split English muffins, cut each into 8 pieces. Chill for one hour (or freeze on cookie pans and bag for later) and then bake for 12 mins at 400.
      I’m not kidding y’all – these are so damned tasty they will get you laid. My mother was no fool ;)

      • formerlyAnon

        Hope you lost nothing of great value and came out of it safely. Also: was this the trip upon which dancing was supposed to happen? Did you get to dance? ETA: I am copying that recipe down but given the plethora of ways it delivers salt, saturated fat and cholesterol, I may have to wait to make it until the house is full of non-vegetarian people so I don’t consume most of it myself. It has the ring of something invented in the ’60s, the age of the “quick and easy appetizer for your cocktail party.” Yes?

        • Sarah

          YES. Was it “oleo” that gave it away? And btw, not most FANCY appetizer, just tastiest. Just so you know she had classier non-lardy recipes hehe. Yes, dancing happened, while a wily criminal reached into my friend’s purse where it lay discreetly on the chair behind her dancing butt, covered of course by her sweater. Reached in, emptied wallet, and put back, of all the ballsy moves. We figured it out right after the event and called banks while we waited for a cab. Irritating but not the worst that could have happened, I guess. I still had all my stuff because I am a back-pocket wallet carrier, so we made it home fine.

          • kimmeister

            I have literally never seen oleo sold in a store!

            Glad you didn’t lose anything yourself, although it sucks for your friend. At least it wasn’t an armed assault!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Oleo is short for oleomargarine, but the longer “margarine” is the word used now for the butter substitute.

              My unhealthy but delicious go-to appetizer from the ’60s and ’70s was a favorite of the Duchess of Windsor. Wrap a half slice of bacon around a Waverly Wafer, sprinkle on brown sugar and bake on a rack until the bacon is crispy (and the fat has soaked into the cracker). Everyone demanded I bring it to every party. It was known as Nancy’s Bacon Things because I wouldn’t tell anyone how to make them. Try and serve that one today.

            • kimmeister

              Ah, I had thought they were cousins, didn’t realize they were the exact same thing.

            • formerlyAnon

              I’ve seen the same thing with bread, not a cracker. Never made it, but the temptation is strong . . .

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              If you give in to temptation, make it with the cracker. It seems the bread would get too mushy. Waverly wafers are perforated into three sections. Use one section per 1/2 slice of bacon. Then call your cardiologist.

            • formerlyAnon

              Ha! The reason I mostly just collect recipes for stuff like that is that I hope to be at least near 80 before the words “my cardiologist” enter my vocabulary. With my family’s genes, the choices are pretty much to die young or to acquire a cardiologist.

            • Sarah

              Oleo is margarine. It used to be called “oleomargarine” when it first came out at the beginning of the 20th century, hence it being a dead giveaway for an “older” recipe :) Thanks. It blows that somebody made our fun trip into a pain in the arse, but yeah, glad it was not a more scary situation.

          • formerlyAnon

            I’m glad you made it home o.k. Coulda been worse.

            Actually, “oleo” made me think it might be older – I associate that term with ’40s and earlier recipes. I picked ’60s based on the Old English and Lowry’s brands. Old English cheese spread was ubiquitous for a while.

            • Sarah

              Weirdly, it was hard to find for a decade or so up until recently and I feared for it’s availability (omg how will I make crab cheesies?!?) but it is now pretty much in every grocery store I go to again. I like to eat it on crackers, too, so I have a vested interest. Plus, you know, it’s good for juice glasses.

      • SierraDelta

        Your last line cracks me up — seriously, it’s the best recipe notation I’ve EVER seen!

        So sorry about your less than pleasant experience in Philly but glad there was no bodily harm. How’s your other mother doing?

        • Sarah

          Well! Thanks for asking. She’s back at work, even! They are letting her use a wheelchair. It was left ankle that got broken, so she can still drive. She took one oxy and then swore off the painkillers. She said the air cast they gave her “smarts a bit” around where her bone is broken, but she expects that’ll go away as it heals (!). She is totally badass.

          • SierraDelta

            Yeah, it only took one pill for me to swear off Vicodin for life — my blood pressure plummeted and little gold spots whirled around behind my clenched eyelids. I’d rather know exactly what hurts and where than spend my recuperation prostrate because I’m otherwise cavorting untethered in space. Here’s hoping Badass Other Mom continues to mend speedily!

      • SierraDelta

        Okay, we need to keep this recipe away from NurseEllen. Either she’ll have a heart attack reading it or we’ll all be patients after reading it.

    • GeoDiva

      Got my magnet and postcard! Thanks! I am leaving for Taipei in 24 hours and haven’t even started packing yet!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        How exciting! Bon Voyage and safe trip home.

    • A Shiny O’Connor

      It’s St Patrick’s weekend (which means three-day weekend here in Ireland) so I’m going full-tilt schmaltz and making a green Bailey’s cheesecake. You have to love a ‘one for the pot, one for me’ bake-itunity.

      • Trickytrisha

        My O’Bryant ancestors would raise a glass with you.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Slainte.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        We have a six pack of Harp lager in the fridge-Mr. B3 comes from a a long line of Irish-AmericansS!

        • decormaven

          Damn right. Mr. DM will be making dark and tans tomorrow.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Hoisting a virtual glass to you and Mr. DM!

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        I’ve already made and eaten my corned beef and cabbage. Couldn’t wait for Monday.

    • Trickytrisha

      Just picked up a weeks worth of packaged salads and fresh fruit and veggies ’cause dammit, I AM gonna lose those 15 pounds. And yeah, I’m too lazy to tear up lettuce and chop carrots and grate cabbage. The already packaged stuff is just fine for me, especially if I don’t use the provided dressing, although I can’t resist the pear-gorgonzola. I have a treadmill parked in my computer room, now all I have to do is be determined and avoid reading yummy recipes – or worse, making them.

      • A Shiny O’Connor

        Fair play to you. Don’t scroll down, gurl ;)

      • SouthernGirlRena

        Best of luck on loosing the 15. I’ll pass along a treadmill tip that worked for a friend. She got a DVDs of a tv series she loved (I think she picked Midsummer Night Mysteries) and was only allowed to watch them while on the treadmill. She said it helped motivate her to both get on and stay on for at least 30 minutes so she could watch a whole show.

      • Jacob Bowen

        @SouthernGirlRena:disqus is SO right! If I run on the treadmill in the basement I watch Ellen! I watch the first 10 minutes while walking slowly, and run for the last 30 minutes (I have 50 on the DVR and I fast forward while running (yes, this is VERY tricky)). It is the BEST way to run on the treadmill at home! I am now up to running for 50-70 minutes (5-6 miles, 2 Ellens) after only 8 weeks.

      • kimmeister

        I confess to having switched to using preminced garlic from a jar almost all the time now. It is SUCH a time saver.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      I don’t quite understand what is going on with those cocktails with the incense and such, but I am prepared to give it a go.

      Kittens, it has been a rollercoaster. Monday I applied for a dream job, was staggered to get invited in for an interview on Wednesday. Wednesday morning husband gets the paperwork for his new contract, confirming a 6 month initial stint, I get my lovely autograph from T.Lo, organised by the very wonderful @swiftlytiltingplanet so I was feeling quite boosted when I went to my interview. Thought the interview went pretty well, was told the decision would be made by Friday morning at the latest.

      Thursday a dear friend tells me her husband has announced he doesn’t want to be in a relationship any more. I have to bail on the conversation with her because I have to go to a blogging event, but have a lovely time, come home to a distracted and grumpy husband.

      Friday husband tells me that he was distracted and grumpy because his contract has probably fallen through. Something has gone wrong with the paperwork for his security clearance. So far from starting on Monday, he may not be starting at all. And I don’t hear about my job at all. So we’ve gone from probably the most positive place we’ve been in more than 6 months to probably the lowest place we’ve been in 6 months in the space of 36 hours.

      • decormaven

        It’s amplified by the effects of the full moon this weekend. Hang in there; hopefully your news will be good Monday, and perhaps his will be as well.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Thanks! I hope so. So many people seem to have had a weirdly tempestuous time lately.

      • formerlyAnon

        Don’t lose hope. Monday will bring what it brings. The ways of those who do security clearances are obscure and arcane, you don’t know until you really know.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I’ve actually got him to speak to me today (he clams up when he is stressed). The contract has pretty much disappeared and he has nothing else on the near horizon. So keeping fingers crossed for mine, but not sure what’ll happen for him. We’re feeling pretty damn low this weekend, I have to admit.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            Dear, that sucks-I hope that the start of next week will bring better tidings for both of you. The BK’s have your back.

          • Jacob Bowen

            I’m sorry Alicia, that sounds awful! Crossing my fingers AND toes that you get your dream job, but I hope you can still blog your recipes!!!!!

          • Sarah

            Hope things look up for you, Alicia! I know they will.

          • kimmeister

            You still have each other, your real life and online kittens, and food is still awesome!

          • A Shiny O’Connor

            Ugh I feel your pain. We are in WTF-are-we-gonna-do mode also caused by serious case of freelance dry spell and a year’s extension to a phd. I hope something good happened for you on Monday.

      • SierraDelta

        If Dante had known, he would have reserved a special place in hell for all of the fatheads-with-the-jobs who don’t get back to you. I sincerely hope that karma is a bitch and that she bites them in the ass with shark teeth. HARD.

    • DeTrop

      No mention of the train-wreck at PR Under The Gunn? Tim has ridden Nick pretty hard and has finally made him realize what a mentor is. Now, he has to straighten out the attitudes of Ms. Anya and Mondo. She is so clueless, she was worried about Shan’s outfit, which turned out in the top. I seriously believe she has a fear of material. Mondo was fearful of Asha’s getting auf’d and that the judges didn’t get Michelle’s point of view. Both ladies produced outfits that were auf worthy but at least Asha’s had some semblance of design. Michelle’s ‘schmatta’ was plain awful.

      I can understand Anya being defensive inasmuch as she’s in way over her head but Mondo’s continued attitude of entitlement has lost me as a fan. He thinks he’s above everyone on the show and Tim has to grow a pair and set him straight.

      • AwwwTrouble

        I had to come here and see if anyone was discussing Under the Gunn. Often with PR I would like something and not understand the judges reaction, only to have TLo explain it, and further discussion. But I do not understand Mondo’s reaction to Michelle. Her stuff has been so awful and unattractive. I can’t imagine anyone wearing it. That dress this week was, as one judge said, just a step up from a burlap sack. The color palette was depressing and hideous. The model looked like she was dumpy and frumpy, and that’s professional model who is tall and willowy! Meanwhile, I do understand the Natalia is getting praise for work that is not well executed. But at least her model looked attractive – a Be Me, if you will. I think these judges are doing a decent job of explaining how they approach the clothes and what they like and don’t like, so that is good. So where Mondo and Anya’s attitude comes from is puzzling and annoying.

      • Agnes Gooch

        I am utterly addicted to Tim Gunn, so, without apology, I continue to watch anything and everything he’s on. How else to explain watching this show?

        That said, this last episode was just strange and illogical on so many levels. I would chalk up the dual “mean girls” dramas going on with the mentors and the designers to producer manipulation, but I find it hard to believe that both Mondo and Anya could be talked into “playing the villain” for the sake of ratings. At the same time, it’s hard to see why Nick — an experienced educator?! — would consent to “playing the fool” who doesn’t know how to mentor students until St. Tim beats it into him. Nothing computes.

        As for the designers and their drama, well, we’ve all heard what sleep deprivation does to them, so that’s a little easier to buy. But, oh my, Asha should have been a goner for that monstrosity. I literally cringed when it walked out (and her nasty attitude — just ugh). However, Michelle was way past her due date with unmemorable, borderline-ugly designs. But the “aufs” are laughable because of how clearly the producers orchestrate keeping the teams’ numbers in balance. I would bet good money that each mentor will have one representative in the final (it’s going to be Nick/Oscar, Anya/Sam, Mondo/Asha, and there are still too many episodes left to declare Nick/Oscar the winning combo).

        Also, it is always good for a belly laugh to hear Anya whine about construction issues, work not being one’s own and judges’ favoritism.

        • Kari Roberts

          For Nick, it’s the difference between being a teacher and being a mentor is where he was getting fouled up. One is more hands on than the other.

        • MoHub

          I think you meant Shan for Anya; Sam in in Mondo’s corral.

          • Agnes Gooch

            Indeed I must have, MoHub, thank you! I guess it just means Mondo and Anya have become a bit interchangeable in my mind!

            • MoHub

              Yes. They’ve become equally unplesant.

      • Zippypie

        My take on Mondo and Anya’s attitude about Natalia is the cumulative coddling and designing that Nick has been giving to her up until this challenge and how they have felt – and vocalized before – how inappropriate this has been from the start. Tim did not really come down hard on Nick until this week and yes, it’s been a bit unfair. They are halfway through the competition and he should have been stopped from designing for his people back in week one. However, Natalia did design that cool steampunk skirt, so she’s not as devoid of talent as they are trying to play up on the show – I think the other designers are just fed up with her hysterics and hyperactive wackadoo that she brings every challenge and her construction does kind of suck. Her idea this week was interesting – her execution of her idea was godawful. The underdress was a mess and the long strand of knit down the front…I just didn’t get it. Her palette was drab as well. I can’t understand how she was in the top over Sam and Sam was only safe. The whole “let’s redeem Natalia” story is so producer manipulated it was hard not to ff through the show. So yes, I can see why Mondo and Anya were pissy. However, Asha’s construction was horrible, as well as her idea to fold up a skirt and frankly, I would have sent her home over Michelle. At least Michelle’s garment was constructed well and I actually liked the conversion, though the fabric choice was very unfortunate and made her model look like a Renaissance Faire elf selling giant bbq turkey legs between jousts.

      • guest2visits

        Still watching it and I don’t know why. Nick has a breakthrough. Thank God. He may over reach but it’s because he’s engaged, and he thinks he needs to do more, he cares. I think Mondo & Anya have been under the illusion they are gifted mentors with the ability to make winners out of their designers. It was a surprise to them when they didn’t score as high as they are used to. I’ve noticed that M&A started out with the usual common sense type of advice and encouragements; but now Mondo has become more involved as he realizes he could lose the game. And as Anya starts to lose she becomes frustrated with her designers and turns to pouting and scolding as if that were mentoring.
        It great to get helpful advice, or someone with the know-how to fix a sewing glitch, but none of the mentors should be assuming that their mojo is what’s going to make the designer a winner; even if that is almost what the show is trying to do.

        • MoHub

          I firmly believe Nick cares about his designers and is invested in their success, while Mondo and Anya only care about how their designers reflect on them. Also, we need to remember that M & A are both from the Lifetime years, while Nick was a Bravo designer, and that may be why Nick gets the brunt of the criticism, and Mondo and Anya get away with murder.

          • guest2visits

            The Lifetime/Bravo theory is proving to be true.
            While I’m more sympathetic toward Nick’s efforts to give his all to the process, I can’t ignore the fact that Nick has way over stepped the mentor line; like a hundred times. I have practically barked at the tv when he’s done things like snatch the pen out of a designer’s hands – NICK.WHAT.THE.HELL. But I think I like him trying and messing up, more than seeing the smugness from Mondo and Anya’s side of the couch. I do like Mondo’s style and his work, and he’s ok at mentoring, but maybe the mentoring thing is not as natural to him as it might be someone else. I also don’t really expect someone in the middle of their design-career to be concentrating on other designer’s difficulties. Maybe that’s yet another reason why I think premise of the show doesn’t feel right. And then there’s Anya…WHY. I have a feeling her prima donna reaction to the designers results are exactly how she handles disappointing minions in her own fashion career.

    • MzzPants

      Took a bunch of teenagers to see ‘Need for Speed’ last night….time I will NEVER get back…just 2 1/2 hours of gawdawful. But the kids were fun so it’s all good.

      • formerlyAnon

        It’s good karma. And someday some of those young people will fill you in on what’s going on in pop culture [or something] and you will be the most au courant old fart you know. (When my kids are back in the house, I am suddenly 75% better at following & participating in the conversations of the 20- and early 30- somethings at work.)

        • MzzPants

          I’m getting that on a t-shirt…au courant old fart.

        • alyce1213

          I was talking on the phone tonight to my older sister and I told her she was not up on popular culture, that she was an old fogey. Whereas I am an ‘au courant old fart.’ Thank you.

    • WendyD

      I’m having a pop-culture weekend with some work in between. Last night I saw the Veronica Mars movie in the theater. It was EPIC. It was my everything. I laughed, I cried. It was better than ‘Cats’. I want to see it again and again and again.
      Today I have to be a productive member of society.
      Tomorrow I’m going to a sci-fi con in Chicago and getting to see the cast of ‘Arrow’ and meet Stephen Amell. YUM.

      • Truthiness2U

        I love the “it was much better than Cats. I’m going to see it again and again,” bit. Totally random SNL piece I loved.

        Oh and I also loved the film. It really was much better than Cats. And as I donated, I have a dowload I can (and have) watched over and over again. Especially certain scenes. Rrwor. I do love a man in a uniform…and out of it.

    • guest2visits

      Would sincerely like to know what’s going on with that cocktail that has you looking back at your own slurppy reflection, AND incense; WHAT. Beautiful lounge.
      Talking about UTG is now becoming too complicated. It’s the mentor thing. Why are Mondo And Anya taking it upon themselves to complain to Nick in the lounge that they’re disgusted with the judges regard for Natalia’s dress, or more for the idea behind the dress. What does Nick have to do with what they decide to like or dislike – and why so ugly about it to Nick? I can only conclude that M&A think that after being given the authority of a judge to keep or send home designers, that they now think they can browbeat the judges into changing the vote. As the World Turns…
      I eventually got over the use of Glade Plug-Ins for Inspiration. But I still don’t like the idea of transforming clothes from day to nightwear using oddball elements like pull-away swatches and panels, or turning things inside out, etc. I imagine most typical women would realistically wear things that might look great for an evening out with minor adjustments like hairstyle or shoes & jewelry. I don’t see women stepping into a phone booth like a super hero and ripping off bits and pieces to make the transition. And so Thursday’s RW was mostly tacky and awful, one way or another, for me.
      Yes Blake’s was a bit office-boring in his day look, but all 3 pieces were pretty enough and made well, and the sexy little dress would have been perfect with 2″ extra length. I also think the day look would’ve worked better as an untucked tunic over pants. I thought his was the most practical and I liked it more than Oscar’s flip-down décolletage, panels, with reversible cape. Oscar’s reeech woo-maahnz day look was a bit too extravagant for any kind of day job I can think of – but a pretty cocktail dress. The night look became somehow more dated looking with it’s sparkly purple panels. These were my top two.
      Shan’s zippers and tear-aways did nothing for me; but I love the b/w fabric he chose. I didn’t much like the look for evening. Sam is attached to a boxy 80s-90s top that I’ve never liked; while the dress underneath was nice, he tucked the top into it like a large, unattractive grey napkin. I know how much people hated Michelle’s, but I liked the taupe day wear half; the caveman looking evening look was pretty awful. I would have called Asha’s the worst of the night. Wow. Nice fabric but terrible design/execution for both day and night. I don’t know where she would go to work in that messy, tasteless day look. And if it literally looks like you stepped out of the restroom with your skirt hiked-up over your bottom and the appearance is that there’s t.p. stuck to your shoe… that’s a tragic night out.

      I thought Natalia had a practical, and interesting idea of a stylish sweater over a sleek dress – but it didn’t translate as well as it could’ve because it wasn’t executed as well as it should’ve been. I don’t know why she decided to go tacky with that front sweater panel, or why she chose that particular dress material or colors… or why she would try to make that purse thing happen when it was sooo not gonna…. but yes, the idea started out good. I guess that’s enough not to auf her, and Asha’s was worse, imo. Natalia has to stop handing out excuses about why her work is incomplete; we all know why it’s half assed. She’s trying to interject craft elements into her designs and there doesn’t appear to be enough time for what she’s doing. I’d like to see her do better, but I don’t think she can overcome the show’s time lines and constraints. Right now I think she got lucky.

      • Eric Stott

        I pray that, like Project Accessory, UTG will play out the season and then Sashay Away.

        • guest2visits

          I have to join you in prayer. But then, what new affliction will Lifetime cook up?

          • Eric Stott

            T-time with Tim?

    • Jacob Bowen

      This first week in March is my FAVORITE week of the year. Not only was it my birthday, but it was also the 4th anniversary of the day I came out (I know, a weird anniversary to celebrate, but a HUGE moment in my life). This was the best one yet, and it will be hard to top it in the years to come. I cannot WAIT for Tuesday though, because FROZEN will be in my mailbox and so will my first Humidor (my mom HATES this fact)!!!!! Less than a month till Tom and Lorenzo come to Chicago (Skokie, IL)!!!

      • lesmaha

        Happy birthday and happy anniversary!!!

      • alyce1213

        Nothing weird about it — celebrate! Happy Anniversary and Happy Birthday.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Happy birthday! Mine was the fourth. Go Pisces!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        Happy Birthday! I think celebrating the date you came out is a great idea!

      • formerlyAnon

        Glad it was a great birthday week! Nothing weird about celebrating your Coming Out Day, either. I think there is something special about people who track anniversaries and make them recurring happy occasions. Life needs more joy. (I especially admire because I am absolute crap at that – lucky if I remember birthdays.)

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      Got my magnets & cards today, it was my reward after a 5 hour “retreat” for a nonprofit board of which I am a member. We got a lot done but gosh, a 5 hour meeting is very long. Plus it was at my house so I got to do hostess stuff too. The food was catered in but I provided drinks. So when everyone left and I went to get the mail and saw “Tom & Lorenzo” in the return address, it was a wonderful way to celebrate having made it through the meeting!

      Tomorrow we are hosting a house concert, expecting about 50 to come and hear master banjo/fiddle/guitar player Joe Newberry. He’s a neighbor & friend who after many years of quiet perseverance has finally hit the big time, appearing on “A Prairie Home Companion” 3 times (so far), and winning a big Bluegrass Association award for one of his songs. Looking forward to some good foot-tapping fun. And I’m off on Monday, hooray!

      I do adore the glass with the lips on the base. Nice touch for the TLounge!

      • decormaven

        Oh goodness. Seven degrees of separation. Then you will know Richard Hartness. Your guests today are in for a treat!

    • MilaXX

      Anybody still hanging in there with The Walking Dead? Robert Kirkman just gave an interview at EW and I swear if I saw him in person I’d punch him in the face! He’s so smug about everything. I just know tonight is going to make me want to smash my tv. He seems so pleased about inserting comic book characters into the storyline that he never realizes how clunky he is when he does it. Rosita, Abraham & Eugene LOOK like cartoon characters not people. ::sigh::

      So Darryl is always unlucky in love? Since when? I may need alcohol to get pass all the stupid tonight.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        Last week on E!’s Soup Norm Reedus and one of the other WAlking Dead guys did a parody of the show-they were really good sports.

        • editrixie

          Steven Yuen, who plays Glenn. I guess they’re doing multiple parts? I haven’t seen this week’s ep yet, so I don’t know if there’s a part 4 or if that will be the end of it, but it’s hilarious so far.

      • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

        I think you and I are secretly twins on opposite sides of the world. I can’t stand Robert Kirkman. I too would have to punch him in the face if I saw him. I seriously wish he had nothing to do with the tv show.

        Plus, I think Rosita, Abraham and Eugene look like cartoon characters, especially Rosita. While I am interested to see new people, I do not need my characters to be caricatures – I can find out who they are without the outfits telling me. :)

        I am very concerned about where Darryl is and who he is with now. I fear for our Darryl. I sense they are going to take him in a direction I strongly disagree with. :((((((

        • MilaXX

          I hated that interview with Kirkrman, but I’m not worried about Darryl. If he didn’t allow Merle to sway him into doing wrong, I doubt these guys will.
          LOVED lasy night episode.

          • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

            Here is my area of concern. :) Those guys are bad guys. Darryl is only one guy, but he is not the guy who would follow along with Merle doing whatever anymore. Especially not doing bad things to other people.

            There is a high level of probability that this will result in some kind of conflict, and as awesome as Darryl is, I do not think him and a crossbow can take on that bunch of guys with big guns.

            As fascinating as this concept might be, I’ll be concerned for Darryl and his welfare until he is away from those bad guys. Plus I am worried about them running into.. well.. any of the ladies on the show. Except for Michonne of course, who would lop off all their heads in short order. Ok, that is what I want to see – that is the result I want for these bad guys. But of course they are going to have to do some bad things to get the whole audience on board with that.. and..

            I really just want some good things on this show for a change. Can we have some NICE TIME? PLS? :)

            I also loved last nights episode. :)

    • MilaXX

      Whew chile! That was some episode of The Walking Dead!

      • Eric Stott

        That was the best episode in a long time, and might have been the best EVER.