T LOunge

Posted on March 07, 2014

Darlings, what with all the fabulously chic celebs attending Paris shows on our front page this week, we’re feeling all kinds of French at the moment.

 

 

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Magnifique.

We can’t tell you how thrilled we are to be done with our busiest week of the year. True, once the Oscars are over bitchy red carpet bloggers like us usually wind up scrambling to find content because the celebs all retreat back into their hidey-holes, but even we get tired of talking about gowns. And we sincerely hope the next time we feature Lupita here, she’s in jeans and looking street-chic dashing about. We’re feeling the need for something new, is what we’re saying.

In other news, we’re, well, all over the news again. We gave our thoughts on the Oscars gowns to the Associated Press and our first impressions of them to the Daily Beast. Then the St. Louis Post-Dispatch came out with this rather awesome, if we do say so ourselves, interview and review of the book:

 

“Life is all about resisting the impulse to believe the world when it tries to tell you who you are,” the dynamic duo explain, and they do that in this book by examining how celebrities convince themselves and everyone else that they’re special.

As you might imagine, the book is a lot of snarky, oh-no-they-didn’t-say-that celebrity-ego-deflating fun, but there’s definitely a funny-because-it’s-true ring to most of their witticisms.

“Celebrities are like Tinker Bell in a lot of ways, partially because of the similarities in their waist size and likelihood of becoming irritating after a time, but mostly because they tend to fade away if you don’t clap hard enough. To a star, attention is mother’s milk, life’s blood, and payday all wrapped into one,” the two explain in Chapter 3.

By the way, many of the sarcastic observations contained within the book aren’t fit to print in a family newspaper, but you might have gathered that by the title. The duo dissect the nature of celebrity in fine hilarious detail, including adultery as marketing tool, foreign babies as props and the dubious glamour of professionally begging for free clothing and accessories.

The title comes from a piece of advice they gave to a woman who wrote to them seeking a shot of self-esteem because she didn’t feel pretty enough, and that’s when the true secret power of celebrity dawned on them. You have to be willing to put up with the kind of global microscopic examination that would put most people in a looney bin and look good doing it. And you’ve got to ignore the chorus screaming, “you’re not worthy.”

Why?

Because that’s the gig. Few people remain famous while also being reclusive. So on some level celebrities must court attention, including the good and bad, while pretending to be living a normal life.”

 

 

NAILED IT.

And speaking of the book, we announced new book tour dates in San Francisco, Los Angeles, and Chicago (with more to come) and played the most accurate round of “Be Me or Do Me Bingo” yet with Courtney Stodden. In fact, it’s so damn close to what we wrote that we half-wonder if she didn’t buy our book and is using it as a career guide.

There. That’s our week. How was yours?

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: cafe-francais.fr]

 

  • Frank_821

    Busy weekend with the start of South x Southwest. The hubby and I are scout cave locations in the area for a “manly” photoshoot. Next week we’re heading out for some geekdom and a costuming convention

  • decormaven

    I’m laughing as I read the AP piece because it’s too befuddling to think of the dear uncles as “Fitzgerald and Marquez.” Dammit, AP style book, cut a break and call them T and Lo.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Yes, Fitzgerald and Marquez are for when they are moonlighting as detectives.

      • formerlyAnon

        Yeah, it really does sound like a noir-ish detective drama. Or maybe drama/comedy.

      • Rand Ortega

        Premiering right after Rizzoli & Isles on TNT: Fitzgerald & Marquez!

        • formerlyAnon

          One of them has an in-law in the fashion industry (garment district, if set in NYC) and besides the opportunity for in-law providing insight for fashion industry cases (at least two a season, yes?), it explains why they are the best dressed detectives on the force.

          • Rand Ortega

            F & M is their name. Fashion shaming perps is their game!

  • another_laura

    I’m just now getting into the busiest part of my work year and I’m already exhausted. Too old for this nonsense. I need a weekend in Paris! Start the bottles of Bolly and pass flutes to my BK peeps, here!

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I think everyone on the East Coast of the U.S. would love a weekend in Paris-I know I would!

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

        I’m not going anywhere unless I know it’s warm. So sick of this below freezing crap.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I’m to the point where I’d like to sacrifice our local weather people to the gods, if that would bring spring on a bit sooner…extreme, I know.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

            Not so extreme considering they haven’t been useful most of the season, with their incorrect predictions.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            My husband, Mr. B3, is of the opinion that our weather people have become particulary inept at reading the animal entrails to predict the weather

          • Jackie4g

            Tell Mr. B3 to cut them a break. All their entrails have frozen together in a sold mass.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            ;) I’ll do that!

      • another_laura

        B3 and all, you’re invited for a virtual visit to SF where the weekend weather is expected to be the rather nice. In fact, why don’t you come and stay in my virtual flat since I’m spending my weekend virtually in Paris…. Here’s the key…

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Sounds like a deal!

  • alyce1213

    Bravo, such wonderful things keep happening. The writer from St Louis Post-Dispatch really got it, what a rave. I think you owe St Louis a stop on your book tour now.

    • makeityourself

      Yes, come to the Show-Me state. We’ve got PR alums, a good indie bookstore and lots of BKs who want to meet you.

  • demidaemon

    This is making me want to reread the book all over again. Hmm, I may have to edit/add to my reading material for my upcoming train trip to DC.

    Good things: It’s spring break, finally! Seeing my best friend for the first time in four years. Going to the DC zoo.

    Bad things: Travel is stressful, yo. Still have work to finish sometime between now and the end of spring break. Dealing with in-laws. 3 AM arrivals and departures.

    Up in the air things: Apartment scouting in Baltimore for fall. Day trip to said city.

    I am also sad that I missed the window for TLo’s trip to DC. Hey, who knows, maybe they show up in my neck of the woods still. What’s up with everybody else?

    • kimmeister

      Are you a student, or a teacher?

      • demidaemon

        A teacher.

    • marlie

      Is this your first visit to Baltimore? It’s a really great, really underrated city. I lived there for college and I loved it.

      • demidaemon

        Yep, it is. I’ve heard mixed reviews, but I’m trying to find a place close to where I will be going to school.

        • marlie

          Where are you going to school (if you don’t mind saying)?

          • demidaemon

            Morgan State University.

          • marlie

            That’s actually one of the areas I’m not too familiar with. I know Charles Village, Mt Vernon, and even Fells Point and Canton, pretty well for the most part. The area closest to the Hopkins Hospital and Med School (not the undergrad campus) is a little sketchy, but that’s pretty far from your campus.

            When you do move there, there are tons of great places to eat in Little Italy, Fels Point and Canton. Well, everywhere, really, but that’s where I’ve been going when I’m down there.

            Good luck with your search!

            ETA: And I almost always go to the Walters Art Gallery or the Baltimore Museum of Art whenever I’m there, but I’m a big nerd that way. But they never get old to me.

          • demidaemon

            Thanks! I don’t know if I’ll have time for any sightseeing on this trip, but I’ll definitely make it a habit post-move. Loving the info here. I’ll have to come back here and copy and save your post.

        • formerlyAnon

          That’s smart if you can do it. Minimizing time spent in transit will be well worth it.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

    The trailer for the new Annie movie is up. I’m wondering where is Punjab and The Asp.

    • MilaXX

      I don’t think it’s a line by line literal remake. The trailer I saw looked cute and I’m surprised at all the asshat racist backlash the trailer has gotten.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

        I read some of those comments too. It is sad, especially since I think this version of Annie looks way cuter with natural hair that the brassy red in the previous movie.

        But still, all movies nowadays have to have butt-kicking action to satisfy American audiences. That’s why Punjab and The Asp are needed.

        • MilaXX

          I just stopped reading them. I already told my cousin I’m taking her kids for a day when it comes out. We’ll see the movie and then go out to eat somewhere like Friday’s or Applebees.

          • formerlyAnon

            Man, my childhood really would have been upgraded if I’d had an adult relative like you around!

          • MilaXX

            I have found memories of being taken to NY for matinees as a kid. I remember being taught how to behave in a grown up restaurant. The first time I had a blintz was in NYC. Besides I want to see this as well and I like my cousins kids.

  • Jessica Freeman

    I’m watching the Michael Keaton Batman tonight with pizza and vodka tonics. Time to wind down the week with the dogs and quality time on the sofa.

    Congrats to the Uncles, as always.

    • rainwood1

      I still think Keaton was the best Batman. Nicholson was chewing up the scenery so hard, most people didn’t notice but Keaton gave off just the right combination of intelligence and darkness.

      • Jessica Freeman

        Would completely agree. That was a great cast…with Jack and Kim. I enjoy it every time.

    • Loramir

      Just introduced my friend to the so-horrible-it’s-awesome Clooney Batman this weekend. Oh, the nipple-suits! Oh, the ice- and plant-related puns!

  • kimmeister

    The Stodden Bingo round is positively uncanny. And the light fixtures in that cafe are awesome.

    Had some good developments this week:
    1) Dishwasher got fixed yesterday, after 2 months of being out of commission
    2) My mom closed on the sale of her SoCal house this week, so she is able to repay me the chunk of change I lent her to buy her Vegas house
    3) My husband finally got a new dresser (since he was borrowing a moving van anyway for the day). His last one fell apart miserably, and our bedroom has had stacks of his clothes all over the place for months.

    On the other end of the spectrum, had some very unsettling news. There was a Medical Emergency alert call at my job yesterday afternoon, at the floor below me. I sit near the stairwell and could overhear the sound of someone panting. Turns out it was a temp who collapsed, a nearby supervisor immediately started performing CPR, then the fire dept arrived, took over, resuscitated him 3x, and carted him off to the hospital. I didn’t know him but we got word that he didn’t make it. So sad.

    • formerlyAnon

      What a week! Have a refill on me, and I hope you get to do something more entertaining with the time you’ve been spending washing dishes by hand.

    • demidaemon

      That is sad. :(

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      You definitely deserve another drink after a week like that.

  • MaggieMae

    I’ll take a gin gimlet please. No big plans for here tonight. Long work week. Ready for a fire and good book.

  • RohanMBN

    As a proud Saint Louisan (Who reluctantly lives far away from Saint Louis) I can say that is the best thing the Post Dispatch has written in years.

  • EveEve

    Rest up Uncles – it’s only five weeks until Mad Men!

    • A Shiny O’Connor

      Thank GAWD for that. Can I get an Amen up in here.

    • decormaven

      Living for Season 7 debut- love the Milton Glaser poster! Will the dear uncles get to check in with Janie Bryant when they are in LA? Please say it’s so!

    • Call me Bee

      Ack! I haven’t seen Season 6 yet!

  • A Shiny O’Connor

    Mega crap week. Jameson with cranberry and a squidge of lime. Make it a large.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Whiskey with cranberry? I’ve never had that! Is it nice?

      • A Shiny O’Connor

        Totally gorge. Loads of ice and a squeeze of fresh lime.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          I’ll give it a go. Whiskey and ginger ale is a favourite, but that skews much more winter. Cranberry and lime sounds good for spring!

          • A Shiny O’Connor

            I’ll be having the real thing this Friday if you want to join me here to discuss its merits ;)

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            Good plan.

  • GeoDiva

    Glad this work week is ending. One more to go till my vacation!

  • Musicologie

    On paper, it’s been a fantastic week, but I’m so exhausted and never feel as though I’m coming out ahead. Welcome to having a baby and writing a dissertation. I’ve got my eye on a red wine I haven’t tried before, though. After the baby goes down and I get an acceptable chunk of writing in, the cork’s coming out.

    • another_laura

      Musicologie, do tell about the wine! Pour me a virtual taste.

      • Musicologie

        I’m drinking the Unruly Red 2012 (on sale at BevMo). It has weak legs and not a lot of body, but it’s pleasant and smooth. Very bright for a red, but it’s got the plum and berry flavors I like.

        • Musicologie

          …and it’s packing a wallop, though my tolerance is admittedly low with the baby. Woo-hoo!

    • formerlyAnon

      Girl, you are walking on water as far as I’m concerned if you’re wrangling a baby AND getting some writing done!

      • Musicologie

        Thank you, but I don’t think I’ve earned it until the dang thing is actually complete! (The dissertation, that is.)

        • formerlyAnon

          Progress is the thing.

          • SRQkitten

            What she said! Keep after it, you too can finish!

            I’ll have anything with alcohol at this point. Very odd week. Am pouting because ups (unbelievably poor service, in my book) has screwed up the two day delivery of the uncles book AND my dh’s birthday present. So much for online tracking.

  • Anna

    I was sick all of last week and busy in general so this weekend I’m finally getting together with friends I haven’t seen in awhile for belated birthday celebrations. It’s “Night of Mayhem” at our favourite drag bar, should be good times!
    And congrats on all the continued success/ongoing book tour! Wishing everyone a great weekend.

  • Musicologie

    Anyone else want to talk about The Americans?

    • MilaXX

      I love this show so much! This week wasn’t as outrageous as the premiere but still good nonetheless. It’s interesting seeing Elizabeth & Phillip so committed to each other. It was telling when he blew off Martha to go home to Elizabeth and the kids. I think they are setting us up for the return of Claudia and I’m not sure if that’s going to be a good thing or not.

      • Musicologie

        It wasn’t as action-packed as the premiere, but it had a lot of tension. The entire time Phillip was in the contact’s house I was holding my breath, wondering when things would go wrong (which they did, of course). Elizabeth’s paranoid glances outside were fantastically done by Keri Russel. It was still thrilling, just in a different way from the premiere.

        Oh, Martha. No. Phillip used to boost her confidence to get what he wanted (like avoiding sex because he respected her for reasons other than her body, making her feel smart), but her marriage to “Clark” is giving her too much confidence. Sure, he was able to deflect her ambition this time, but he can’t be shooting down and redirecting her ideas all the time, or else she’ll get frustrated and examine their relationship too closely. “I don’t want to be a victim!” Oh, Martha…No.

        Phillip: “I looked different then. You don’t recognize me. …My wig skills are impeccable.”

      • Musicologie

        Oh, and I agree that it’s great to see Elizabeth and Phillip committed to each other, after that being the source of tension last season. It’s great that the show is switching to other threats (like Paige…oooh, especially Paige!).

  • Paula Pertile

    Bravo. Have fun in SF. Kiss it (or something, someone) there for me.
    Doing illustration work this weekend, and already miss the hour of sleep we’ll lose tomorrow night.

  • MilaXX

    chilling tonight, ordered take out pizza& relaxing.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I recommend Philomena-good script, and Coogan and Dench play off each other very well.

  • NDC_IPCentral

    Happy Friday, Bitter Kittens, PUFs and minions. Am about to rustle up a little dinner after a day of accomplishment. Meeting with my tax attorney: 2013 is filed. Costco, and all that stuff hauled in. An otolaryngology appointment with an audiology test to be conducted in two weeks and new intelligence that one of my chemo drugs from 2 years ago can cause hearing loss (though I think that’s not the case for me; my sis is already aware of it and mordantly expects to wake up deaf any day now….). And a long telecon with my sis, who’s halfway through her second regimen of chemo, though still battling a lot of side effects.

    She told me how involved her double mastectomy and autologous fat reconstructive surgery will be — the 2x mastectomy is only the beginning. There’s an expander for the skin, and several procedures that occur over the subsequent months to harvest the fat by liposuction and then gradually build up the reconstruction. She’s got a loooong way to do.

    Off to eat and hit the hay. This ol’ BK is ready for an early night.

    • formerlyAnon

      You, madam, deserve your rest!

      Thanks for the update on your sister. It seems nervy to ask about someone I don’t really know, but I do once in a while wonder when I see your screen name.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        formerlyAnon, no imposition to inquire. If I don’t feel like responding, I won’t. You and the other BKs are a great source of comfort and strength, quite a phenomenon, when you consider that almost none of us have met in real life.

    • MilaXX

      I’m nearly done my taxes. Did the big ones but have to do the school tax. Sending good thoughts for your sister.

    • Call me Bee

      Sending good thoughts to your sister, NDC. Well–and you, too. As always.

    • rainwood1

      Hang in there, NDC. Having taxes done is always a relief. Make any great finds at Costco?

      • NDC_IPCentral

        And a net-net refund. which I[‘ll be getting. is even better. I’m a big fan of the Kirkland brand of beer, which is 18.99 before bottle deposit for a case of four different types of beer (IPA, Amber Ale, Pale Ale and German Lager), and the rotisserie chicken. And the blueberries. Costco is my quantity grocery, and I’m just buying for myself!

        It really was good to speak for a good long chat with my sister yesterday, but man oh man, she has a long row to hoe. I sure wish it were me instead…..

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          NDC, I’ll join in sending good, healing thoughts to your sis, and hoping that she will find the strength and wherewithal to get through this. Sigh.

        • decormaven

          Hold fast to the belief that you and your sister are cut from the same sturdy cloth. She’ll knit up nicely after these medical assaults. I also am a Costco fan – will have to try that variety pack of brew.

  • formerlyAnon

    You fellas had a *very* productive week, not that you’re usually lazing about debating whether to rise before noon, not so far as any of us could tell.

    This weekend I am continuing The Celebratory Meals and/or Drinks Tour with everyone who’s been afraid to ask how my dissertation’s coming along for years, now. NO I didn’t finish, I QUIT! It hasn’t been about the degree, but about a specific research project for years now. Almost a year ago I realized that the part of the project I really want to do was going to have to be cut in order to finish. I’ve spent 10 months trying to get through the rest, pretending I still cared. 12 days ago I sent the relevant emails, and 11 days ago I pulled the plug.

    I’ve never just abandoned anything of any substance in my life – I’m stubborn – but if I’d know it could feel like this I’d sure have done so a number of times. I haven’t been this happy and energetic in years. I’ll finish a couple of articles, slap on any co-author I need to to get them published somewhere (academia has never been my goal) and I am done.

    Short version: A round for the house!

    • MilaXX

      Cheers to you for making what no doubt had to be a difficult decision. Go out this weekend and do something decadent involving chocolate!

      • formerlyAnon

        Thanks. Honestly, I’ve been back-and-forth about quitting so many times that it was only briefly difficult.

        As I said, one aspect of the research, (plus the thought of the years of work & learning & skill building I’ve already invested), is all that was keeping me at it. When that part of the research project fell apart (passive-aggressive maneuvering to block access to some of the research sites) it became not just time and energy consuming, but an emotional drain. But like I said, I’m stubborn, so I had to slog away for ten more months before I knew I was done. Just. Done.

        • demidaemon

          That’s too bad. But, sometimes, it’s better to give up the ghost before it haunts you forever, in the poltergeist kind of way. In other words, mixed metaphors that make no sense rock.

          • formerlyAnon

            I’m too old to waste even another year being pissed off and depressed, without the carrot of getting to do the study I wanted to do. I have a pretty good job that will let me jump off into something more ‘professional’ or substantial after a year or so putting effort into all the professional stuff I’ve given short shrift to for the last god-knows-how-long.

            As soon as I’ve really quit being pissed that the passive aggressive persons mentioned above couldn’t have just come out and said “No. We are not comfortable giving you that much access” nearly two years ago, when we began the push-pull-slide-to-the-side dance, I will be in an entirely good place. (I understand why it played out like it did. It just still pisses me off.)

          • demidaemon

            Totally understandable. I, too, still get annoyed with people who can’t just come out and say what they really *bleeping* mean.

    • Winter_White

      formerlyAnon: I don’t post very often myself, but I do drop by here almost daily and read as much as time allows. Last week I saw that you’d made a big change in your life — decided to follow your heart, to paraphrase you — and I actually had a guess about what that might be. Based on the fact that I so admire the graceful writing in your comments, I was sure (or maybe hoping!) that you were celebrating a grand decision to chuck it all (whatever “all” might be) and make your fortune as a writer! :)

      Dammit, I hate being wrong. ;)

      Seriously: great to hear that you’re feeling so invigorated…a sure sign that you made the right decision. Best of luck to you!

      • formerlyAnon

        I have not yet doubted I’ve made the right decision. Times may yet turn grim, but for right now, all is well.

        It is flattering to read your ambitions for me! I do write a lot, and grad school taught me to be more analytical about it. My next writing goal is to become more efficient at it. I doubt I’ll ever be a creative writer, (unless I suddenly start thinking up plots for the first time in my life), but if I wind up doing more of other kinds of writing I’ll be pleased.

        • SierraDelta

          Diana Gabaldon started out in science and then decided to write “The Outlander” just for practice. She should be your new muse.

          • formerlyAnon

            Well THAT suggestion made me smile.

    • rainwood1

      Congrats on figuring out what was best for you and doing it. The test of a good decision is how you feel a week after you’ve made it. Being happier and more energetic tells you you made the right one.

      And I’ll have a whiskey sour on the rocks. Haven’t had one in years, but it just feels right.

      • formerlyAnon

        Thanks. I have no doubt it was the right decision, and I’m still feeling freer and happier than I have in years.

      • SierraDelta

        My aunt’s Whiskey Sours are delicious but lethal*: one can frozen lemonade, one can bourbon, one can club soda. Whirl in a blender, serve on the rocks, add maraschino cherries if you’re feeling fancy.

        *The first time I had two of these, I climbed from the first floor to the second under my own power but had to crawl up the stairs from the second to the third, so I’ve modified the recipe. I empty one can of frozen lemonade into the blender; fill the can about 3/4 with bourbon, and add that; and then pour in two cans of club soda. The stairs and I agree that the modified version is better for us.

    • cocohall

      There is a big difference between quitting something in a fit of pique and stopping something that doesn’t bring you joy, is draining, is wasting your time/talent that could be put to better use elsewhere. Quitting is often a hasty decision made out of frustration; stopping comes from re-evaluating your situation and figuring out what is and isn’t working. A good friend of mine and I were just have this same conversation over lunch. She has been working with kids with autism and she is good at it, but it is draining her of all her joy and ruining her health. She seems lighter and happier already knowing that she is stopping this job once the school year is done. She still wants to work with kids, but in a different arena.

      So good for you! You are clearly on the right track and new doors will open for you and you will have the ability to see and take advantage of those new opportunities!

      • formerlyAnon

        Thanks for the validation! I do think it was the right choice, and I’ve given myself permission not to be anxious about what comes next (at least not for the next year). I’ve got a path to follow, and if it’s not working out I’ll reconsider at that point.

  • sockandaphone

    it was incredibly busy at work because i had a meeting a day, but it made the week flew by and im going to see hot tennis players this weekend!!!!
    also its payday and i got tickets to CHVRCHES. everything is pretty cool now.

  • marlie

    Happy Friday everyone. Hope you all have a relaxing and stress-free weekend! xo

  • Blair Sylvester

    Crack open the champagne cause I got into my first choice masters program

    • formerlyAnon

      Hot damn! Congratulations!

    • alyce1213

      Congratulations! Care to share details?

      • Blair Sylvester

        Sure I got into Syracuse’s art journalism program :) really excited !

        • alyce1213

          Syracuse is a great school and the heart of the NYS snow belt! Best of luck.

          • Blair Sylvester

            Thanks good thing I love coats :)

        • demidaemon

          That’s so cool! Hope to read one of your articles one day!

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          Congratulations!

          • Blair Sylvester

            Thanks :)

    • demidaemon

      AWESOME! Having been through this process multiple times, let me be the one to pop the cork and spread your accolades!

      • Blair Sylvester

        Gotta celebrate when there’s something to celebrate , I applied to masters programs last year but it didn’t go as well.

        • demidaemon

          Exactly. Believe me, I know how that is. It has taken me three years total to finally get into a PhD program and get most of everything squared away.

          • Blair Sylvester

            I originally wanted to do a phd in English and I got wait listed in one masters program in English . But since I loved to read and write and be a critic I figured this would be a good alternative . What do you want to get your phd in ?

          • demidaemon

            Funnily enough, English, although mine will probably end up being some combination of multicultural lit and creative writing.

          • formerlyAnon

            Go you! Don’t let my grumblings be a pall – most of my PhD program was fantastic and I don’t feel that the majority of it was in any way wasted, even if I have quit ABD. And I met a lot of great people there, some of whom have become friends I hope to have for life.

          • demidaemon

            I hope so! I had a really great experience in my MFA program and hope to replicate that. For me, though, the PhD is kind of a professional necessity, unless I somehow strike it rich on the great American novel (very doubtful!).

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

          That’s really encouraging – I applied for a masters last year and didn’t get in, and have been totally discouraged about trying again.

          • Blair Sylvester

            I was unsuccessful getting into masters programs last year . It was hard to buck myself up again ( I probably should have said everyone wants to be me or do me to my reflection ). But all the hair pulling seems worth it now .

          • formerlyAnon

            In the U.S. or the U.K.?

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            UK – through the school of Oriental and African Studies at the University of London. No feedback mechanism to explain why I wasn’t accepted either!

          • formerlyAnon

            In U.S. academic departments there’s always an element of “what the program needs to balance it” to acceptances, so I’d say it’d be worth re-applying, but I don’t know about the UK. It must be frustrating not to have any ideas about what the perceived weaknesses in the application were.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

            In my strongest moments I think it is because they get higher fees from overseas students – so what cash-strapped anthropology department wouldn’t want to weight the acceptances in their favour? But I don’t have many strongest moments.

          • formerlyAnon

            I’d say those strongest moments thoughts are plausible. If I recall correctly, there are some kind of binding limits set on public colleges and universities in – some? all? – states here for the percentage of acceptances which can be out-of-state/international. It is always presented as “we have such strong programs that are in such demand, we have to do this to guarantee places for our in state students.” But everybody interprets it as “it would be so much better for our always-ailing budgets to accept a majority of higher-fees-paying students that we need an external limit.”

          • decormaven

            Yep- you called it correctly.

          • SierraDelta

            Feel free to use my US address for your application. I have distant cousins somewhere in Australia, and I’m pretty sure you could be one of them. And I wanted to be an Egyptologist when I was 13, so that settles it — we’re family.

          • SierraDelta

            My younger son wasn’t accepted the first year he applied either, but he got in the next year at a different school and will get his PhD within the next year. Don’t give up!

    • MilaXX

      CONGRATS!!!
      I am sorely tempted to try and go back to complete mine but keep putting it off.

      • Blair Sylvester

        Mine is only a year so I hope I can complete it :)

        • MilaXX

          Mine would have been 2 going full time, but I was part time because I was working full time. A year isn’t bad. It will fly by like lightening.

    • KinoEye

      YAY! Next round’s on me, friend.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      I hope you have a bottle of Perrier-Jouet, the prince of champagnes, to celebrate! Congratulations!

      • Blair Sylvester

        Thanks :)

  • MilaXX

    Did anybody watch The Walking Dead this week? I know T & Lo were too busy to recap but I was wondering what the BK’s thought about it.

    • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

      Well it had plenty of Daryl, so I was very thrilled with it. They could film him sitting in a room eating beans from a can for 45 minutes with the occasional line, and I would totally be thrilled. So, that probably gives you an idea of my level of thrilledness regardless of actual content.

      What I most loved about this was the golf club. I am surprised they did not change their outfits for fresh new golf outfits, though Beth did get herself something, which of course was soon shown to be totally impractical in the current world. White in a zombie apocalypse? Fashion no no, my darlings. :) Yellow, also not a great choice.

      I was surprised how much I liked Beth when we got some more time with her. While the fire was interesting, it was not a great idea, there are no fire brigades to stop it, and a lot of forest to burn through. That is likely to be quite a hangover for everyone unless it really rains cats and dogs next episode. Which is also an interesting point, there is not a lot of rain seen in this show though there was a storm while they were in the trunk. Has the zombie apocalypse affected the weather too?

      I am truly wishing and hoping but sincerely doubting that Michonne, Carl and Rick will end up in a mall or a Costco. It probably can’t happen due to budget.. and they likely used up a lot of budget here with the Golf Club. Could Terminus be a Costco? Well, that would be my place of choice in a Zombie Apocalypse, and how cool would that be, and Costco would probably have a lot of fun with it knowing they are advertising some of their emergency products – I had no idea in the US that they have a section for emergency kits and supplies. We do not have that here in Australia.

      This show desperately needs a pretty woman fashion change room montage. It would be cool if this happens when they arrive at Terminus, which I am hoping is a delicate oasis in the midst of chaos..

      Those are my thoughts, anyway. :)

      • MilaXX

        I was a bit bored. I like what the show is doing in terms of allowing us to see these cast members as fully formed people, but I don’t find the actress playing Beth that engaging and most of what we saw regarding Darryl we pretty much knew. I wish this ep had been combined with one of the other groups, but I realized last week that we would likely get a glimpse at each pairing and then get a meet up at Terminus.

    • Isabel

      Beth and the drink – I guess she should be in college at this point and she wanted to create a college experience.

      Daryl – surprised to find out that he is NOT an ex-con.

      • MilaXX

        By my calculations she should be 17/18 since she was 16 when they were on the farm and it’s been about 1½ – 2 years since. Moonshine should have knocked her on her butt. Moonshine is potent. Way over 100 proof. It literally burns like fire from the time it hits your tongue all the way down. No way should a person who weighs less than 100lbs and hasn’t eaten a good meal in days been able to take a sip and all she does is frown up at the taste. Much less continue on to drinking glasses of it like it was water. She should have gagged and puked or realistically passed out if she continued to drink. Also I don’t find the actress that engaging.
        I wasn’t surprised to find out Darryl was an excon, I did suspect he at least spent some time in juvie, but otherwise non of Darryl revelations were surprising. Darryl in a lot of ways is like Michonne in that they both blamed themselves for the return of the Governor because they gave up searching for him and both toyed with shutting down as a result.

        • AutumnInNY

          I agree. I don’t find her engaging or interesting either. I don’t think she’s going to last thru the end of the season. As much as I crush on Daryl I didn’t love this episode. It should have been an a/b storyline with at least a glimpse of the Maggie/Bob/Sasha or our other 2 groups. The Beth character, even when paired with Daryl D. isn’t heavy enough to carry an entire episode.

    • Zippypie

      I was bored. Not because it wasn’t an okay written ep with character exposition but because Emily Kinney is not a convincing actress. Or I should say, she’s not a convincing character – I was painfully aware the entire episode that she was “acting”. But as far as revealing, we didn’t learn anything we didn’t figure out two seasons ago about Daryl and the fire at the end was kind of stupid. I kept thinking “Hey! No fire department, folks. What if that fire starts burning in the direction you’re traveling?” But this is TWD and sometimes I think the zombies are the smart ones.
      The thing I can’t get over are all the glowing raving reviews I’ve read on this ep. Really? Is the bar set that low???

      • MilaXX

        I completely agree, EK is not a great actress . I wonder if the rave reviews were because it was a Darryl centric episode and Darryl has such a strong fan base. I know friends who disliked last week’s episode which I found much more tense even though I am not a Rick fan, but loved this episode because it featured Darryl. I also was annoyed not only with them burning the cabin, but when tiny little never had a drink before Beth drinking moonshine like it was water and not getting the slightest bit drunk, the fact that Darryl said he and Michonne had found that cabin months ago, yet the closet thing the prison group had to a backup plan was get on the bus and drive away.Why couldn’t that cabin have been shored up as a rendezvous point?

        • Zippypie

          Not sure if it was about Daryl. Most of the reviews I read were waxing poetic about the character development and the relationship between the two and, like I said, it was written okay but I felt the relationship was lost with such unconvincing acting. And yes, I’ve tried moonshine once and I was floored with just two shots of it. And I was no slouch in the boozing department at the time. The idea that some skinny girl who hasn’t eaten in days would be able to slug moonshine like water is just one of the logic misfires. What, because her daddy was an alcoholic, she had some amazing innate resistance to the powers of drink? Poo. And the fact that there was no backup plan and that was even mentioned last week in the episode makes me laugh. Really? After all the trouble they had with the gov the first time around, the all-wise council wouldn’t have come up with even a rendezvous point in case people were separated? Beyond the ability to believe. But this is TWD and suspensions of logic and common sense are the norm. Like how no one saw Rick under the bed while walking up the stairs last week. Or heard him as he practically fell off the roof with a bang onto the porch in the dead quiet of a zombie apocalypse. Durrrr.

          • MilaXX

            ah yes I have seen my far share of Darryl/Beth ‘shippers which is absolutely barf inducing. I have no idea what age Darryl is supposed to be, but Norma Reedus is what? 45? I really hope and pray these TWD writers aren’t thinking about pairing a grown ass man with an 18 year old kid cause that’s just nasty. As a mentor/protegee or a brother/sister relationship I’d be cool, but romance between these 2 characters would make me lose my lunch.

          • Zippypie

            Even if Daryl is supposed to be younger than Norman Reedus actually is, a romantic thing with these two would be statutory rape for god’s sake. Wasn’t Beth supposed to be 15 or 16 when we first met her at the farm? It’s only been what? 18 months since then? Wth. Fine as bro/sis, but otherwise, it smells of overgrown middle-aged going on teenage fanboydom. As I told my bf recently when he said something to the effect that men are really just big babies at heart, “I don’t want to have sex with children.” I don’t want to see it either.

          • MilaXX

            It won’t be statuary just squicky. You’d be surprised how low the age of consent is in most states. Beth is probably around 17/18 at this point.

          • Zippypie

            Yep, forgot. It’s Georgia! And post-apocalypse. But definitely squicky! *shudder*

  • GinnyThePainter

    Miserable news from the vet this morning, with my 1 yr old pup being given a pretty serious diagnosis. So I need to lighten the mood by talking fashion.

    Educate me, BKs. In your opinion, who are the three best bigtime designers/design houses and who are the three worst?

    • MilaXX

      Hererra is consistent year after year even if she is a bit safe. My taste run a bit more urban so I like a lot of DVF stuff.
      So sorry to hear about the pup.

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      I care more about your pup. On the bright side, pup has YOU!

      • kerryev

        Pulling for you and the pup. Sometimes diagnosis leads to (stressful scary uncertain) treatment which becomes successful treatment, and I really hope this is one of those.

    • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

      My two favourites presently just purely based on sparkle factor are Jenny Packham and Elie Saab. :)

      If you want sparkle these two are reliable as.. well.. sunrise and sunset. ;)

      I hope your pup will be ok. :)

    • demidaemon

      I’d agree with Snoskred, especially on the Elie Saab. That house always puts out beautiful gowns, even though they don’t push boundaries very much. I agree also with Mila’s assessment of Herrara, though I think, if this past collection is any sign, she may be pushing the envelope a bit more.

      Worst: Right now, Dior is in a horrid slump, basically due to a mismatch of head designer and aesthetic. All the current Dior designs are either a) too tricky b) too ugly or c) some combination of a and b. Stella McCartney basically has one great dress out of a thousand, mostly because she adds three too many elements to each design, usually in the most unflattering way. Peter Pilotto makes pretty ugly dresses that only PhD level dress wearers can make work, and even then it can be up in the air. I also dislike the way he mixes and matches patterns. I also like Marchesa more than most people here, but, if the dress Kate Beckinsale is any sign of where they are going, count me out.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Sorry to hear about the pup!

      Best, as in the ones I would most like to be dressed by, for me are Vivienne Westwood or Carolina Herera. Lots of flattering structure!

    • KinoEye

      So sorry to hear about the dawg. Keep us updated, yes?

      Dior is pissing me off. It’s like they’re intentionally designing the most unflattering clothes that no woman in her right mind would ever wear. Dior used to be synonymous with sophistication and old-world glamour, and now it seems to be all about making the next collection worse than the previous one. They have two of the most beautiful women in the business under contract — Jennifer Lawrence and Marion Cotillard — and they can’t dress them to save their lives. Making those two women look good is not rocket science.

      My favorite collection out of NYFW was Carolina Herrera, hands down. Absolutely gorgeous, fresh and fun.

      • 3boysful

        Agree re Dior–it’s like they are trying to pull an “emperor’s Clothes” on us and see how many they can get to buy in.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          Do not get me started on Dior; my annoyance with Simons knows no bounds. Peter Pilotto runs a close second, though, as he doesn’t seem to get that throwing fifteen mismatched prints together in one dress is not a sign of creativity or originality, but demonstrates (a)he doesn’t know how to edit his work (b) he’s too enamored of his “creativity” (c) he doesn’t give a rat’s ass what women actually want to wear. Take your pick

    • formerlyAnon

      Sorry about your dog. It’s hard, especially when they are young.

      I like Westwood for the fantasy that her work would fit in my life – and though I’ve never seen one in real life, the corseting built into a lot of her gowns would flatter me, I think. If I had money, I’d gravitate to the more conservative, less fussy styles from Herrerra, DKNY and DVF and Elie Saab or Todashi Shoji for the fancy wear I would never have occasion to wear. I also like Elie Tahari, though I don’t know if he (or DKNY, actually) are really “bigtime” the way the others are.

      By and large all of the above are chosen for my impression that they offer wearable, mostly clean-lined, unfussy clothing that one needn’t be tall and willowy to look good in. With the occasional tailored jacket.

      My critiques are not informed enough to deem anyone worst, they’d veer too heavily into “not to my taste” as a reason.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        I have a mate – vet by training, but recently changed career, who swears by Westwood. Apparently she occasionally has really brilliant sales that actually bring her clothes within reach. So, definitely for “normal” people too!

        • formerlyAnon

          Westwood is my fantasy designer. Obviously, since all my other names are selected for their “conservative, less fussy” clothing and that is not the Westwood I adore. When I was young and very thin, I would have dressed like Helena Bonham Carter if I’d had the clothing and didn’t have to go to an office job. I tended in that direction every now and then, but shoes and scarves and jackets were really the only places I could give that opulent pseudo-Victorian vibe any play. Dark, dramatic clothes were more punk than goth at the time, though maybe that was a function of where I was.

    • rainwood1

      Sorry to hear about the pupster. That’s a tough one.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I’m sorry your pup got that kind of news. That sucks.

    • AnneElliot

      I’m so sorry to hear about your puppy — I hope it turns out OK. Pets are like family to me, I still choke up about my previous golden retriever who died suddenly after 12 wonderful years. It’s been more than five years and I still cry about it.

  • Isabel

    Congrats on all the interviews. Your fame is spreading. Hope to see you in Dallas, when it’s scheduled.

  • Swiftlytiltingplanet

    I can’t even. I have reached the end of my evens. I have no more evens.

    Startlingly and amazingly, after all the times I’ve tried to explain, someone HEARD me. My brother replied with thoughts and options and “hey, move here!”

    After I don’t know how many times of asking and reaching…one of my siblings heard me. I am almost giddy.

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, good.

      (In my family, we sibs (and most of the cousins) mean well, but we weren’t exactly raised with great communication skills on anything important, so we all suck at that. The more real emotion someone tries to express, the more likely it is to bounce completely off the others.)

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        You seem to have missed the part about how that post never happened. :-)

        • formerlyAnon

          Post? What post? ;-)

    • MilaXX

      I’ll never tell.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I knew I liked you.

    • decormaven

      Somehow I feel drinks were involved here.

      • formerlyAnon

        That is often the way to bet, I find. ;-)

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        What?! I am shocked that you would think such a thing. Shocked, I tell you!

  • guest2visits

    Halfway through UTG, and I’ve decided that it’s nice seeing Tim training his mentorites, and it’s sometimes amusing to watch the newbie mentors try to advise or help the designers. But all in all, I’d rather the story not involve the extra mentors and their competition. It feels like it clutters up the basic competition between designers. And with all these extra helpers around it makes the designers appear very junior or student-like, and less accomplished or capable on their own.
    Agree with the win, though not for Mondo’s reasons. I guess I’d place Oscar second, and Asha & Blake will have to battle it out for third.
    Surprised by Natalia’s macramé dress, it was actually better than it appeared in the workroom. It looked retro inspired. Though Natalia feels destined to flame out soon – probably in a knitting related incident.
    Stephanie’s was clearly AUF, any child’s refrigerator art would blow past that construction paper project.

    • demidaemon

      I’m impressed you are still watching that show!

      • guest2visits

        I would be watching Fashion Fund instead or even True Detective if I had HBO or Ovation. BELIEVE IT.
        And I felt I should give the new Tim Gunn angle a try, out of fairness or something….
        I continue to be amazed that they don’t actually know what makes fans out of people that like the basic premise of a design contest.

      • AnneElliot

        I watched one episode out of respect for Tim but my intense dislike of Anya has deterred me from watching any more. I’m currently hooked on House of Cards so that will keep me busy for a while.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I caught this episode,and was relieved that it’s now only a hour long.

  • decormaven

    I spent a good bit of yesterday readying a friend’s screen porch for her birthday celebration tonight. Another couple is cooking a Mexican meal for the event, so I’m hoping it will be warm enough for guests to hang on the porch for drinks and hors d’s until the meal is ready. Hang on, Northern BKs- spring is coming. Just spotted a bluebird nesting in one of my boxes. Birds are the tell!

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

      Birds are rotten disgusting liars! Robins have been going nuts in upstate NY by me since Groundhog Day, back when we were having bouts of warm weather and cold weather. They don’t usually come out of hiding until the super cold truly is over. Since then it’s been below zero most nights, with the warmer-weather birds still out in daylight. It’s just not right.

      • decormaven

        These are just winter’s last dying gasps. Spring will get the upper hand soon enough.

    • embers618

      We’ve had birds in Iowa since the last warm spell, but then we got more snow, and more cold, and more wind. Every once in a while I’ll hear them on a warmer day, and it does lift my mood, but I’m not sure they’re reliable this year.
      Hope the party is fun! Kind of jealous that you live in a place where there’s even hope for an outdoor celebration :)

      • decormaven

        I’m determined to hang outside, even if we have to plug heaters in to help knock off the chill. Alcohol fortification will help. :-)

        • embers618

          Determination and alcohol, a sure formula for success :)

    • Call me Bee

      We’ve seen sparrows doing the dirty on the gutter outside the kitchen window. Which was fun until the Cooper’s hawk swooped in and snatched one of them right on the driveway. Nature is a real bitch sometimes.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        We’ve witnessed a couple of tough nature moments over the years-once looked out the dining room window to see a small hawk clutching a woodpecker in its talons-I raced outside(as if I could do something about this, duh), and the only evidence left was a feather from the woodpecker.

        • decormaven

          Sounds like me refereeing the three bird feeders to keep the squirrels from devouring all the feed. We just exist with nature, can’t manage it.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I also once found the very top of a male cardinal’s head on our deck-very surgical job. I was about to blame-reluctantly, one of the neighborhood cats until I saw a hawk fly into our yard and take up a post on the feeding station, surveying the yard…..

  • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

    Happy Weekend, Kittens! This bar looks very much to my taste. It’s early, so I am still on coffee, but there will be a gin and tonic a bit later.

    Husband has got a new contract, in the nick of time, so now I just have to get a job to try to restore a bit of financial solvency to our lives.

    • decormaven

      Financial solvency is a good thing. Best of luck in the job hunt.

    • formerlyAnon

      Good job, husband!

      Good luck with the financial solvency. I remember having it, once and aspire to know it again!

      • MilaXX

        Oh amen! I’m just happy to break even most days

    • KinoEye

      Good luck! I’m on the hunt for something new. It’s so frustrating, but a million times worse if you’re jobless. Really hoping something wonderful comes your way — or at least something that can restore financial solvency. Preferably both, though!

  • embers618

    I’ve been up before the sun almost every day this week, so I made last night an early night – Thai for dinner with my SIL, then home to catch up on a couple shows my husband and I missed this week (along with a glass of moscato with a shot of peach vodka thrown in for luck).
    Was up before the sun again this morning – getting ready for my second cup of coffee, gearing myself up to give the kids a bath, and so grateful that my husband has the day off so the kids can spend some time with him. Their moods are the best they’ve been all week.

  • Eric Stott

    My week was crazy, it’s my 57th birthday and my Free Grand Slam at Denny’s was the best part of the day.

    • alyce1213

      Happy Birthday!

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      Happy Birthday!

    • @Biting Panda

      Happy Birthday! !
      XoXo

    • formerlyAnon

      Happy Birthday!

      This obligates you to do things “because I didn’t have time on my actual birth day” for a solid month, at least, don’t you think? Especially things you might ordinarily consider too self-indulgent. (Seriously. It’s a rule. After 45 all birth “day” celebrations are mandatorily birth “week” or “month” celebrations, anyway, since we have to learn to pace ourselves so we can still be reveling in the good stuff at 80.)

    • MilaXX

      Yay for pancake therapy!

  • mcbishop

    “Celebrities are like Tinker Bell in a lot
    of ways, partially because of the similarities in their waist size and
    likelihood of becoming irritating after a time, but mostly because they
    tend to fade away if you don’t clap hard enough.” Fabulous line!! Worth the cost of the book right there.

  • KinoEye

    Loving all the love and articulate reviews of your magnum opus. As soon as my tax return money comes, it will be mine at last!

    There have been better weeks. The sweet kitty in my avatar died suddenly week before last, and my bad luck seems to have filtered on to my friends/coworkers. This week, one coworker’s father passed away suddenly. As with most deaths in the family, there’s drama between my coworker (his daughter) and the woman who was living with him. She won’t let the kids take what belongs to them. Then, my other coworker’s husband was randomly fired from his job. They have three young kids, and I know she can’t take care of them on her salary alone. My office has been a sad, tense place this week. On the plus side, anyone who remembers my creepy intern might be relieved to know she’s off to greener pastures, thank Chanel. I might’ve punted her through my window if she were there much longer.

    The crazy volume of posts you’ve put together this week have helped to keep me sane, but I hope you’re both enjoyed some well-deserved R&R this weekend!

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, I hope the cloud passes and the silver lining shows up this week.

      Sorry to hear about your kitty.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      2014 has started off poorly, I think. Another online friend had to have her beautiful black cat euthanised this week, several friends have had dogs at the vet and a few people have had bad news with human family members. Hoping the spring will bring better things for all of us!

    • decormaven

      I’m so sorry about your kitty. I love looking at your avatar because that’s the stare of a curious cat. Also sorry about tense work place. That’s a lot of stress in a little place.

    • MilaXX

      So sorry to hear of the loss of your kitty & all the dark clouds surrounding you. Hopefully the spring will be the reawakening & rebirth so many of us seem to need right about now.

    • alyce1213

      I’m so sorry about your sweet kitty. Looks just like mine. You’ve had one of those weeks, huh? Hang in. xo

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      So sorry about the death of your kitty, and such a rough week.

  • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

    I started my weekend by having an emotional meltdown at work, complete with shuddering sobs, copious tears, and snot dripping onto my scrub top because the bathroom I ducked into was OUT of both toilet paper and paper towels. In case you didn’t know, BKs, hospitals are miserable places, and the impaired people therein are not confined to the patient population. I’m so tired of being so poorly treated, of patients being so poorly served, and administrators with very sharp points on the pencils they keep tucked behind their ears hovering over every decision. I’ve got three words of advice for all of you, my friends: DON’T. GET. SICK. Seriously, stay as healthy as you can, and keep an eye on your loved ones, because you do NOT want to be in any hospital, ever. Not even the so-called “good” ones.

    In other news, we are finally having a day of glorious sunshine and seasonal temperatures here in NC. I have to do the taxes today but I may take the whole pile of paperwork on the front porch and try to commune with nature and the sun god while doing so…..’twill make the task less onerous, no doubt.

    Don’t forget to put your clocks ahead tonight!

    • Rand Ortega

      Darling,
      As the child of an RN who witnessed 30 years of the emotional up and downs of a dedicated caregiver who gave a shit, your unselfish heart on your sleeve attention means everything. More than the money, the jerks who hoard it to satisfy the bean counters, more than those on the staff who have hardened themselves as protection so not to care. You already know this, but you have my & so many others appreciation, respect & admiration for what you do.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        You ascribe far too many virtues to me, Rand Ortega, but they are balm just the same and I thank you.

    • formerlyAnon

      Ohh, insubstantial Internet hugs to you. I know someone, an RN who was in administration at an award winning metropolitan hospital, who left her job this year on the verge of a nervous breakdown (literally) over the competing pressures of that environment. It broke her in under a decade once she moved out of direct patient care. It’s a deeply flawed system.

      But I also have my stories of caring nurses and aides (and even, sometimes, doctors) whose attention to small things and recognition that the patient is indeed, a person – and so often a scared, hurting, ignorant person – made all the difference. I hope you soon have some such positive experiences from the caregiver side, and it will make it easier to continue.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

        My mother moved out of administration and back into direct patient care almost 10 years ago. It’s a deeply flawed system even in countries that have different systems! Everywhere the pencil-pushing and eye on the balance sheet is stretching the staff to the limit.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        I would love to have some such positive experiences but frankly, and sadly, I don’t see it happening. Yes, the system is improbably peppered with good and caring professionals on all levels, and most of us started out that way, but the pressures are so relentless and exhausting that unless you’re a saint it’s impossible to maintain perspective in the long run…..and I ain’t no saint.

        Workers in NC are also denied the protection afforded by unions, and as a result are abused and denied basic rights daily. In a masterful application of “spin”, NC is a “right to work” state. In other words, we have the right to work whenever we want, without those nasty unions dictating our wages, our hours, our conditions, or if there’s going to be a strike. PUH-LEEZ.

        I have a quote from Lily Tomlin on my locker at work. She says, “No matter how cynical you become, it’s never enough to keep up.” I wish it weren’t true, but it is.

        • formerlyAnon

          I, too live in a “right to work” state. I *really* don’t get that, at all. As the child and grandchild of union members, I was raised with deep cynicism about how any one particular union office worked – and with a deep-seated conviction that unions were the only champion of the working stiff in a fight that was heavily weighted against him/her.

          (When my dad had to give up his union affiliations to join the professional classes, it bothered him a LOT.)

          And I love Lily Tomlin.

    • SRQkitten

      ((((Hugs)))). Have heard this from other RNs. Basically if one has to go into the hospital, try to have a family member or friend with you at all times. Very sad, especially for the folks like you who care about the work. Sending you more sunshine up from FL where we are having the best of spring weather, which is sure to not last as summer is coming (said in the same tone as “winter is coming” in GOT).

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        Absolutely true!!! Never leave a loved one unattended.

        I skipped the taxes and got out and did some yard work instead. Every time I pruned something or pulled down one of our patented southern vines from hell, I pretended it was a hospital person I hated. Made the work faster and so much more pleasant.

        • SRQkitten

          Too funny! I’ve had jobs where I’ve done that with weeding, referring to it as my “weeding for mental health.” Our lawn never looked better, which was about the only positive thing one could say for those jobs.

        • decormaven

          Gardening is medicinal, and perfect for mental health. Bless you- do things that are nourishing for your spirit and equilibrium. It’s tough enough to deal with sick patients, much less admin.

      • AnneElliot

        I’m in south Texas, and I feel the same about summer. Any day below 80 degrees is a blessing, and rain is even better. We’re forever in a drought and it’s routinely over 100 degrees. It’s like reverse winter and it lasts from May through September or October. It is truly hellish.

        • formerlyAnon

          You know what really pisses me off about Texas summers? Daylight savings time. I don’t NEED an extra hour of daylight at the end of the day when it’s still 85 or hotter. Much rather have it in the morning, where, on a good day, it might actually be in the low 70s at dawn.

    • KinoEye

      RandOrtega said it all. Hang in there, doll!

    • MilaXX

      Get out and enjoy the sunshine. I left social services over the same frustrations.

    • rainwood1

      You’re so right about hospitals. I was in one of our supposedly best for a few days with a broken ankle last year, and it was a comedy of errors except it wasn’t very funny and it could have killed me.

      My husband has had a LOT of medical care, both in and out of hospitals, and nurses make all the difference in his care. That said, I agree with everyone who says you need a loved one there to run interference, be your advocate, and make waves when necessary if you’re in the hospital or facing a serious illness. Our health care system is seriously broken.

  • http://batman-news.com boweryboy

    My week has been craycray. After constantly battling two sets of unruly passive-aggressive neighbors from hell for years, and being frustrated by the slow response rate of building management (they’ve actually done things to make a difference but it takes them months to set the wheels in motion) the partner and I have conceded and are moving to a new place starting today.

    I hate moving.

    • formerlyAnon

      Concentrate on the clean slate of a new place?

      Eh. I know that doesn’t help in the midst of boxes and stairs and probably rain. (I think there is a 90% probability of precipitation created whenever I set a moving date, and I don’t think I’m alone.) When you’re ready to hear it : Congrats on the new place!

      • http://batman-news.com boweryboy

        Thanks. We’re actually very excited about the new place but annoyed by the circumstances that caused the move.

        And yes, it’s raining with no signs of it letting up.

        • decormaven

          Hey, it will be worth it to be in a space free from such annoyances. Life is too short for that junk. Hope you get everything in with minimal fuss.

    • MilaXX

      Moving sucks, but living with piece of mind is worth it. Hopefully the move will go smoothly.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      The next time I move, it will be feet first, horizontally. I don’t have another one left in me. Good luck in your new abode and I envy you your energy!

  • Call me Bee

    Even though it started with a bout of food poisoning, my week was pretty quiet. Can’t wait to skip down to Old Orchard in Chicago to meet you! Congrats on all the great PR. You deserve it! I just hope you always remember your BKs when you’re millionaires….

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, I imagine the week improved after food poisoning.

      (At this rate, the uncles – if not millionaires – will be flush sooner than could be dreamed possible because they are always so busy working there’s no time to spend money!)

  • rainwood1

    After scary close calls in both January and February, the hubs is feeling better and we’re at our weekend place relaxing and watching the rain. I’m reading Longbourne, it’s Pride and Prejudice told from the servants’ perspective. Interesting premise. I like, but don’t love it, so far but it’s miles better than the wretched Death Comes to Pemberley that P.D. James decided to foist on the world.

    • formerlyAnon

      I never finished Death Comes to Pemberley – a measure of its awfulness since I am usually a fan of both James and of Austen pastiches.

      Glad you and your spouse are getting a decent weekend away. Hope it continues restful.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ Alicia

      I really enjoyed Longbourne. A couple of very interesting back-stories added and some history I had no idea about.

  • http://www.snoskred.org/ Snoskred

    SWEET CHRIST ON A BREADSTICK.

    I just saw SJP in stirrup STOCKINGS, with a white shirt under a fuchsia dress.

    I did not even know that stirrup stockings exist, the very fact that they do exist will drive me into therapy for some years. PLUS I saw this outfit with my eyes, which now feel like they will explode from the sheer shock. Pun intended.

    Those Daily Mail addicts will know where to look for that of which I speak, the rest of you probably the easiest way to find it is google the headline, which is – The ’80s are back! Sarah Jessica Parker wears stirrup leggings and fuchsia coloured dress to launch shoe line in Florida – But please, these are not leggings! These are sheer stockings!

    Oh dear deities, please do not let people think these are leggings and wear them on the street. I see enough of peoples underwear already..

    • decormaven

      Aargh! I’m hoping the dear uncles will show the recent magazine shoot with Jessica Pare. I’m soooo ready for Mad Men!

    • alyce1213

      I was intrigued, so I had to look. That does it. She’s officially off any list of fashionistas that exists anywhere in any country on earth, any planet in the universe. In another photo, she’s got on short white pants with black tights underneath. Has she lost her mind?

    • formerlyAnon

      Oh dear, oh dear. Those ARE stirrup stockings.

      Someone really needs to get through to her about her hair, too. It’s time to move on, dear Sarah Jessica, it’s time. You turn 49 in two weeks. It’s not as though it looks great. Summon up your courage, my dear.