T LOunge

Posted on January 24, 2014

Artesian Bar, The Langham Hotel, London

 

Cold. Tired. Cranky. Waiting for the pizza to arrive; the pizza that’s about to shatter our normal pre-Fashion Week diet into a million little pieces. Today was not the day to travel in and out of New York to do some press for our book. Trains all over the place getting delayed and canceled on us, to the point where we wound up briefly making a home for ourselves in Penn Station. We were about to start ordering drapes when our train finally arrived to whisk us very slowly back to our actual home, the one with some really annoyed cats.

Incidentally, you guys are going to be blasted in the face with T Lo poledancing when all these interviews we’ve been doing finally come out. And speaking of desperate pleas for your love and support, it behooves you all as Bitter Kittens to go check out the book site if you didn’t get the details on our pre-order giveaways, and also to gaze lovingly at some of the  awesome illustrations from the book by long-time T Lo pal Alex Cox:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ten days! Can’t wait!

And because a couple a poledancing bloggers never get a break, we’ll be live-tweeting our way through the Grammys (red carpet and broadcast) AND Downton Abbey on Sunday night. Follow along as we sprain our thumbs and eventually get thrown in twitter jail for sending too many tweets!

We’re not kidding. A couple of times we got kicked off twitter for the crime of over-tweeting. Tweeting without regard to the safety of others.

And how is everyone else? How are your various poledances going, darlings?

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: langhamhotels.co.uk]

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  • UsedtobeEP

    SOunds like a whirlwind waiting to happen! Too bad it’s so dang cold…

  • UsedtobeEP

    Love the lounge, mostly because it’s in London. It would be really fun if you posted a really seedy dive bar once in a while. You know, for irony.

    • Madam Von Sassypants

      There should be no irony, everyone worth the salt on their tequila-shot-taking-wrist should be able to appreciate a good dive every now and again.

      • formerlyAnon

        Mmmm. I have some really good tequila in the house, and limes. Might need to think about this . . .

    • Domo_Konnichiwa

      I wish they would do a week of Cat cafes, like the ones in Japan.

      • MilaXX

        I think I read they may be opening one in California

        • Domo_Konnichiwa

          They are! I think San Fran?

  • acevedob

    Well I’m still at work on a Friday. Karmic justice for my insolence I suppose.

  • Nicholas

    Will there be any TV/late-night-show appearances?

    • UsedtobeEP

      Ooh, I would love that, since I live nowhere near a big enough city for a real signing.

  • Swiftlytiltingplanet

    I bought a new truck. To replace the one that was totaled 2.5 weeks ago. Bah. Humbug.

    • @Biting Panda

      You were in an accident? Did I know this? Are you ok?

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        You did not know this. I was fine. My truck was not. And they do not make Ford Rangers any more. I have the sadz, and the new truck is not helping.

        I am so whiney I may have to lock myself in a closet. ;-p

        • Qitkat

          No more Ford Rangers? I has a sad too, some fond memories. Ahem.
          So glad to hear you are OK.

        • Tlazolteotl

          We just got rid of our 20 year old Ranger a couple of weeks ago. Happily, it went to go live on my father-in-law’s farmette. And since we got it from the husband’s sister to begin with, it’s good that it’s still in the family. But I feel you on the sad. I miss our “Danger Ranger.” Hope you come to love the new truck as well as the old.

        • guest2visits

          Sorry about the accident/truck. I’m still missing bench seating for the front row in our trucks…. A thing of the past.

        • MilaXX

          oh no, sorry about your truck, but glad you are okay.

        • @Biting Panda

          Whine is aloud, it’s a lounge. I’m glad you’re okay, but I know how it sucks to lose a vehicle before you’re ready. It’s a bummer.

        • formerlyAnon

          Sorry you don’t feel the love for the new truck. Maybe christen it with a fun . . . road trip? . . . project requiring hauling stuff? . . . opinionated bumper sticker? . . . bottle of wine consumed with someone you enjoy, while it’s parked outside – every glass you toast the new truck?

          Yeah. Not a lotta help. Glad you weren’t hurt, anyway.

        • UsedtobeEP

          Aww, sad for the old vehicle. Sorry. It’s OK to be whiny about a totaled truck.

        • decormaven

          Glad you are OK; sorry the truck is not. As is the case with so many things, they don’t make them like they used to.

        • demidaemon

          I’m with you. See my post. I may have to do my own closet hiding. Again. HEE.

  • Lisa_Co

    I want to thank our Uncles T and Lo for live tweeting The Fashion Fund. Did anyone watch? What a welcome change from PR. I hope in the coming weeks we get to see more of the clothes, but watching the process is fascinating. Too bad the suspense for me is gone ( the competition winner was announced in November). Still it’s a good show.

    • Qitkat

      I enjoyed it too, the lack of manufactured drama, the intelligent discussions. Looking forward to seeing the creative process. I hope not to get spoiled, thanks for keeping it to yourself.

      • Lisa_Co

        No spoilers from me. None for Downton either (I’ve seen the whole season).

    • serenab44

      What is this Fashion Fund of which you speak? Sorry, I don’t watch much reality TV save Runway and now Under the Gunn.
      Or is this something other than a television show? I’m confused. Sorry. And not even in an altered state…

      • Qitkat

        It’s on the Ovation channel. A serious competition started ten years ago by Vogue and others (DVF) to help worthy designers struggling in their early years. They have to have been in business for at least two years, so no wet behind the ears, overly confident fashion school newly graduates.

        • Lisa_Co

          A large part of the prize is the year of mentoring. After Proenza Schouler won, they branched into accessories and Valentino bought a large stake in their company.

          • MilaXX

            I gotta find that special I watched,. I recall talk of their win as well

      • Qitkat

        I also think this is the first time the competition has been televised. So the TV part is like a reality show, but in real reality it started off as a real competition with no television coverage.

        • serenab44

          Oh wow, that sounds really interesting. I hope that I get Ovation channel…
          Anyone watch Uncle Tim last night? Still not enough of him but maybe once the “challenge” actually starts next week, he’ll be more present.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            If they can keep the drama level low, this could turn out to be a good show. I was impressed by Mondo’s sensitivity to Nick’s not being picked by the designers he wanted to mentor. Anya was just clueless and self-absorbed. I liked Sam a lot.

          • Sarah

            Hm. I thought Sam was kind of puffed-up and his comments to the camera made him seem overly catty. But that’s editing, so I will reserve judgment for a while. I am not sure the drama level will be kept low, because, well, BM, but on the other hand, I don’t know how much time they will have to exhibit drama with all the judging/mentoring/talkytalky going on. I can’t really picture how next week’s episode will go now that they’ve chosen teams, so I will wait to see.

        • MilaXX

          I am mis-remembering or was it part of documentary of sorts years ago. For some reason I vaguely remember seeing a fashion documentary where Alexander Wang won. Google says he won the Fashion Fund back in 2008.

          • Qitkat

            I think that sounds familiar to me too. You are always more up on these sorts of info than I am.

          • Lisa_Co

            I think they’ve done this series before but it never got as much publicity as this year. Or you might be remembering Seamless, the movie about the competition’s first year.

          • MilaXX

            The Fashion Fund is 10 years old so I don’t think it was Seamless.

        • Lisa_Co

          That first year Proenza Schouler won and Doo Ri was a runner up. Doug Keeve (director of Unzipped) made a movie about that year’s competition, called Seamless. You can rent it on Netflix.

          • MilaXX

            Maybe it was Seamless that I watched.

      • guest2visits

        It looks incredibly interesting (went to the Ovation tv site and sampled their clips) – I wish I could view it but our carrier doesn’t offer this. Maybe it will run full episodes on a delay, for the future.

        • Lisa_Co

          We’re lucky. Time Warner dropped Ovation for 2013 but picked it up again on Jan. 1, 2014. The Fashion Fund was originally going to air in November 2013 (when the competition actually happened) but then postponed it until now, probably because of Time Warner’s decision.

    • MilaXX

      They live tweeted it? I didn’t know that. I DVR’d and then watched. Fashion Fund is such a good show. I’m looking forward to the rest of the series.

      • Lisa_Co

        They REALLY liked it. I bet they’ll live tweet this week again ( I hope).

    • CelandineM

      I really loved when during the review of the 50 semifinalists Anna Wintour exclaimed something about not another crazy one. I hope we get to see some amazing clothes and creativity. And yay for business plans, cause you know if you want to run a business and have a brand you need a business plan.

  • Kate4queen

    Well. I just finished promo-hoing for one book and now I’m back editing the one I’m just finishing up and then I have to write another one…so I empathize altho I don’t quite get star treatment LOL

    • formerlyAnon

      Impressive work ethic, though. Do my gold stars, awarded through the Internet, & permission to take some time off as soon as you can afford to, help any?

      Yeah.

      • Kate4queen

        Everyone needs gold stars. ;) Thank you. :) I’m planning a trip home to England in the summer so writing like a maniac to clear that space. :)

        • formerlyAnon

          Oooohh! I’m hoping to go to England in May, but my traveling friend may be getting a knee replacement (riding accident.) On the one hand, fantastic! We can do so much more than I’d thought! On the other hand, probably not by this May.

  • @Biting Panda

    My only hope for this weekend is to have a cleaner bedroom by the end of it. If I’m lucky, I’ll get to binge watch Banshee. It’s holding me over until Sons of Anarchy is back. I’ve also been enjoying Kristen Bell’s show, House of Lies, but I’m caught up there.

    I love a weekend with no real agenda attached. Too often my time is not my own, and that makes me a bitchy panda.

    I hope all my snow buried Kittens stay warm. I’m looking forward to tweeting the Grammy red carpet. Iris coffee or hot chocolate with peppermint schnapps will be a must.

    Loves, loves, loves.

    • Qitkat

      I’m not snow buried but would love to share your drinks. Yum. I don’t want to tweet myself, but I’m beginning to wonder what I’m missing with so many BKs tweeting.

      • @Biting Panda

        It’s not Earth shattering, but I’ve enjoyed it. I don’t have many followers, so it’s a bit like shouting into an empty room, but I’m trying to gather them organically.

        I have loved not having to filter as much. No touchy family, coworkers, etc. like on FB.

        And Baby Animal pics, hello!!

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          I should live-tweet my job. Like this week when a woman called and said she needed more needles to test her blood sugar with, because she’s been testing 8x a day and she’s almost out of needles. I said, “you’re using needles, not a lancet?” and she told me again how she pricks her finger 8x a day with a needle, but she was running out and was starting to reuse them. I said, “Oh, no, no, no! Don’t do that!” (all this time I’m searching for her chart) and she asked me why she shouldn’t reuse needles and I told her it was unhygienic, for one thing, to which she replied, “I’m only pricking myself, so those are my germs. They don’t matter.” Finally, I find her chart and SHE’S NOT A DIABETIC!!! So I asked her, “What are you testing your blood with now, and where did you get the supplies?” and she yelled, “None of your business! Just get me those needles! And some atorvastatin!”

          • Stubenville

            Better throw in a case of Band-Aids while you’re at it.

          • SRQkitten

            Sounds like you have the kind of folks to deal with that my brother the nurse runs into. Like I tell him, “we will never be bored.” It’s hard to figure out though if this is a blessing or a curse.

        • formerlyAnon

          Girl, you have LEGIONS of followers compared to me. Which is not a high bar. At all. (I think it’s a line drawn in the dirt, actually.)

        • Annaline39

          I am not quite as brave as you, but I do love that most of my family is not on Twitter :)

        • demidaemon

          I want to hear this sarcastic joke about anal sex!

          • formerlyAnon

            She ain’t gonna tell you, she’s pining for Twitter followers. Follow, and all shall be revealed. (Or so I assume.)

          • @Biting Panda

            Pic of me holding that night’s fortune from our Chinese dinner. “Try something new and different, you might like it.”

            My header — So after 12 years of saying no to Hubs, does this mean I have to get drunk enough to try anal?

          • demidaemon

            Heh.

          • formerlyAnon

            You are a precious, precious flower, you are. ;-)

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        Or you can be like me and have an account to follow people, but rarely say anything. (I feel too much self-inflicted pressure to be funny, pithy, or profound.)

      • MilaXX

        Twitter is the best during award shows! I often find myself laughing out loud at some of the funny quips folks post in 140 characters.

      • formerlyAnon

        I’m a tweeting fail, (I hardly EVER tweet, and I have almost zero followers, and I’m o.k with that, I go days sometimes without even blogging in to see what’s going on with the people I follow.)

        It’s just one more thing to keep up with, and I’m at capacity for now, I think. But I know it’d be fun if I got into it.

        • @Biting Panda

          I’m a chronic juggler. Or I’m just afraid of my own thoughts, I need to stay distracted and multitasking. But I was also always the girl who got in trouble for talking in class, the social butterfly.

          • Swiftlytiltingplanet

            Interesting. I’ve gotten some version of “does good work; attitude sucks” since, oh, about kindergarten through my last performance review at work.

    • marlie

      If I don’t hear from you before then, see you on the interwebs on Sunday. Can’t wait!

      • @Biting Panda

        Good times, good times. : )

  • Qitkat

    Not earth-shaking but it took 3+ hours to change 3 light switches plus a phone call to a help line, but it was all worth it kittens, when my husband uttered the following sentence to a CSR: ” It looks like my wife was right after all.” Priceless!

    • Swiftlytiltingplanet

      Congratulations!

      • Qitkat

        Thanks, I started laughing while he was on the phone. I’m thinking of embroidering it on a pillow!

        • Anna

          You should. Just think of the merchandising potential.

        • formerlyAnon

          I think that you should, since it’s hard to bronze something like that.

          • Qitkat

            Snort! If I were really truly clever enough, I would create a cartoon and submit it to The New Yorker.

        • 3boysful

          I’ll buy one!

    • blondie65

      Outstanding!!!

    • UsedtobeEP

      Ahh, sweet victory to be savored.

    • decormaven

      Definitely put that one on a pillow! Those words are more precious than gold.

    • Stubenville

      Wait – electrical is easy; all he had to do is read the instructions and match the wire colors.

      • Qitkat

        Hmm, I’m going to assume you implied sarcasm, and we initially thought the same too.
        High end dimmer switches are different now from over 10 years ago, which is what we were replacing. Wires different colors, and configured less intuitively (one switch came with only one wire and different colored screws than the earlier, and simply matching the same leads did not work), multiple pictures to choose the correct install for different situations, changes needed to be made to another 3-way switch in the room which was far from obvious. Sometimes two college graduates DO read the instructions and still need the help of an expert on the help line, which SHE was.
        Ain’t home improvements fun?

        • Stubenville

          Apparently I’m out of touch; electrical used to be easy. What brand were they – Lutron?

          • Qitkat

            That’s the brand. So you weren’t being sarcastic? Oh well…

    • SRQkitten

      Make a note of the date on that one! Congrats, think that’s a very hard thing for most dh’s to admit.

  • PastryGoddess

    I’m still at work. This will be my 4th consecutive day of a 10+ hour day. Jesus take the wheel…

    • Qitkat

      Bless.

    • formerlyAnon

      Hang in.

    • PastryGoddess

      Ok scoot over, mama needs the gin. And give it to me straight
      ….I came home to find that the furnace is dead.

      • formerlyAnon

        Grrrrrrr.

      • UsedtobeEP

        Are you in a really cold place? I would be crying right now…

        • PastryGoddess

          I’m in the Mid Atlantic Area. So It’s not negative temps but it’s cold. We went to Walmart and purchased all of their heaters. Our electricity bill is going to be in the stratosphere this month.

          • Lisa_Co

            Stay warm as you can. Here in NYC it hasn’t been warmer than 18 degrees the entire week:(

          • Kristin McNamara

            I’m in Vermont. We’ve had MORE THAN ONE DAY this week where our high temp was in the negatives…. Brutal. Frozen boogers, frozen tears, frozen everything.

          • Lisa_Co

            OMG!:( I feel lucky now. At least today we are in the high 20′s.

          • Sarah

            You are living my live. Electric heaters = not energy efficient. Our furnace works, but it is oil, and we do not have the smackaroos to fill that mother up. Poor planning in the hotter months means chilly home life now. But who expected it to be arctic this winter? Yeesh.

      • decormaven

        Reverse the karma wheel quickly. Warm toddies administered around the clock!

    • PastryGoddess

      I gave up and wore the leopard print faux-snuggie thing my mother gave me for x-mas all day long Saturday. My cats were ashamed to be seen with me.

      • formerlyAnon

        There are times that call for dire measures.

      • SierraDelta

        It is a well known fact that cats have no taste.

    • PastryGoddess

      I went shopping today and bought the shit out of Nordstrom Rack. I’m still cold, but my closet looks fabulous

  • Emily Smith

    I’m gonna poledance my ass to dinner soon once my husband is done making himself beautiful. Men. Honestly.

  • kimmeister

    I hope the kitties greet you with open paws. I love being back home with my kitties after a week visiting my mom in Vegas. Chai, who is not a lap cat at all, actually curled up on my lap while I was checking my work email from my laptop on my first day back home! Later, when watching TV and Rubi took her station on my lap, here comes Chai again so I briefly had two cats on my lap! It was awesome.

    I’m sorry it’s so cold elsewhere, but here in CA we have had a statewide water emergency declared, calling for a voluntary 20% reduction in water usage. I now have buckets both in my shower and in the kitchen sink to save the water we run while waiting for hot water, to use to water the plants. It’s crazy how much water that is!

    • @Biting Panda

      How was your trip? Did you unlock the family pho secret?

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I want a family pho secret!

      • kimmeister

        Thanks for asking! I have it written down. We’ll have to see how it turns out when I attempt it on my own for the first time. It’s not difficult though, the broth just takes hours to simmer and thinly slicing up that much beef is time consuming.

        The trip, overall, was very good though. Time with mom, aunt & uncle, cousin & his family, hiked to the Hoover Dam, saw the Cirque du Soleil “Mystere” show, etc. My aunt and uncle were in a car accident that totaled their car and the other driver’s car, but everyone came out uninjured. However, now my aunt, cousin, and cousin-once-removed will be on chauffeur duty for a while.

        My husband is already thinking about the advantages of moving there, should my mom’s health call for it one day. He’s the best.

        • @Biting Panda

          He does sound like good peoples. Glad your visit was more good than bad. I loved Mystere. Had the soundtrack for the longest time. O was also amazing and should be seen, if ever possible.

          • kimmeister

            We wanted to see O, but it conflicted with the family dinners. Next time!

          • 3boysful

            Agree re O. But you have to wonder what funny thins they were smoking. I had to come home and read the online synopsis to comprehend what I’d seen.

        • formerlyAnon

          Except for the accident, that’s a LOAD of good news. Glad to hear it.

          Your man’s a keeper, sounds like.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      What a good idea about the buckets! I feel so guilty wasting all that water waiting for it to be hot.

    • Qitkat

      Did not know about the CA water shortage, will have to fb my SIL near LA for their situation.
      Except for the relatives’s car accident, it sounds like an awesome trip. The Hoover dam is so cool. Did you take the tour?

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Last year was our driest year since they started keeping records. With the dry air and Santa Ana winds for the last few weeks, everyone has runny noses.

        HAve a good weekend, Mary Lu.

        • Qitkat

          You too. Sorry about your store. I looked it up after you recently mentioned having to close it. Maybe you will be able to keep going on the internet. I always have a soft spot for small businesses. Too many are struggling.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Since I announced the closing almost two weeks ago, business has been brisk. If I had been so busy before the announcement, I wouldn’t have to close. Most of my longtime customers are coming in knowing exactly what they want. The shelves are getting emptier by the day, so maybe I’ll be able to close sooner than I thought so I can concentrate on finding a job.

          • decormaven

            Thinking the best of thoughts for you. Could you possible rep for some of your suppliers? I know that might entail travel, but it would keep you in touch with the things you love. You obviously have a good knowledge of collectibles, so that would be a huge advantage.

      • kimmeister

        Ok, so I didn’t quite make it… it was getting dark with a mile to go, so we skedaddled back to not get caught on the unlit trail in pitch black with coyotes and snakes. No tour, we hiked the historical railroad path. He, however, had cycled 60 miles the day before and made it all the way to the dam.

        • Qitkat

          Great memories, and the tour will always be there for lesser mortals who cannot possibly ride a bike 60 miles in a day or brave hiking amongst the snakes and coyotes.

    • decormaven

      Time to start doing the rain dance. My sis lives in SAC; California farmers are really going to have a time of it if rains don’t approach soon. Hope this situation soon abates for all of you. Selfish thought- drought means no/poor asparagus crops, and that really gives me a sad.

  • Pennymac

    At 6:30am it was 0 degrees and I was on the road to a legislative breakfast. 500 old white guys in suits, 10-15 token women in attendance, one of which was me. Much clearing of the throat, back slapping, and harumphing for 2.5 hours ensued. I made an appearance at the office, but accomplished no work. I was too exhausted from combating the excessive testosterone and status quo….

    • Qitkat

      Brr! I really have to use my imagination as never been in this position, except for working for a small male-dominated company (20+), run by a man and his three sons. Three women employees. It was a microcosm of life.

      • Swiftlytiltingplanet

        I work in the office of a construction company….Luckily, I have most of them scared of me.

    • NDC_IPCentral

      Boy, you describe quite an 80s/early 90s scene, and in the second decade of the 21st Century yet. We have a long way to go, don’t we?

      • Pennymac

        I live and work in the Appalachian region. 1950 is alive and well here. I keep expecting to see Andy and Barney at the coffee shop downtown.

    • rainwood1

      I hear you and ditto on the 80′s/90′s part from NDC-IPCentral too. I was in a mediation once and I counted 59 lawyers and clients in the room. There were 58 men and me. No line for the ladies’ room, that’s for sure.

      • formerlyAnon

        I did military contract engineering support in the ’80s/early ’90s. There were maybe 9 women to 150+ men, plus a handful of secretaries. When I got a female Marine Captain as the project leader for one of my contracts, I wanted to make her my BFF.

    • decormaven

      It’s been a while since I felt that pain, but I have been in a similar situation. It makes me sad to know that carp still exists. I hope your office scene isn’t so heavily stacked. Rise above!

      • Pennymac

        Oh, its stacked. The powers that be were all raised by June Cleavers and thus doubt all that I, a mere woman, administrate. You know, cause I have a VAGINA. I just let them call me a bitch behind my back, and do it anyway. The president of the company, however, just rewarded me with a huge stock option. HA! Suck it, Old White Guys.

        • decormaven

          You rock! Kudos for the stock option, and take consolation that OWGs are going the way of the dinosaur.

  • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

    Night shift in geriatrics. The adorable Ruby just came to ask me to put her pants on her, and when I told her, “My dear, you already have your pants on,” she told me to find her a man to take her to dinner. That’s my job now. Pimpin’.

    • Qitkat

      I hope I get a nurse like you if I’m ever in the geriatric ward. That word just makes my world hurt, bringing back all sorts of parental memories, and inching too damn close to that age myself, whatever that may be.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        The best part is…I’m not a nurse. I’m a pharmacist.

        • Qitkat

          Oh, my mistake, here I had been thinking otherwise, all along. Yay for kind and funny pharmacists then! Probably more of a welcome sight than the nurses sometimes.

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            That’s OK. I could never be a nurse – body fluids, you know. The nurses and aides here are just amazing, though.

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Even better.

        • @Biting Panda

          A Pharmy? I’ll send you my wish list. How else am I going to realize my dream of becoming Karen Walker?

        • formerlyAnon

          Well bless you for being kind and willing to see the humor.

        • UsedtobeEP

          Maybe you can give her some drugs that make her think she has pants on all the time.,,

  • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

    Bless your adventures!

    Been trying to pole dance an article in the NY Times that my husband and I were part of on robot weddings that was released yesterday.

    • Qitkat

      Robot weddings? I am baffled!

      • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

        Robot minister.

        • Qitkat

          Uh, okaaaaay. Still baffled :)

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            I don’t think we can post links, but if you Google “robot weddings”, the article comes up. It’s titled, “I Now Present Mr. and Mrs. Jetson”. It may explain more. :)

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          Were you married by a robot? Is that legal?

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            We had an assist from an ordained Scientologist.

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            Fascinating. And, congratulations!!

    • NDC_IPCentral

      I didn’t get yesterday’s NYT read, so I’ll have to dig out… which section?… and read this!

      • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

        It’s under “Weddings/Celebrations” and is titled, “I Now Present Mr. and Mrs. Jetson”.

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Style? Or is this for the upcoming Sunday’s Style section? I’ll have to root around.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Here is link: http://www.nytimes dot com/2014/01/26/fashion/weddings/i-now-present-mr-and-mrs-jetson.html?_r=0

        • NDC_IPCentral

          Found it, skimmed it, and thanks, Gifted, too. Unconventional,. indeed!

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            Thank you!

          • Carrps

            Love your hubby’s wedding robe!

            And such an interesting contrast between the ceremony and the venue.

            My parents spent some of their honeymoon at San Juan Capistrano, so I have a sentimental attachment to the place.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      Watched the video and read the story. What is your part in this?. Is Anybots your company?

      • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

        I wish. We’re the middle story. I’m the girl who was adamant against shape wear on my wedding day. A brave decision made in a haze of pre-ceremony booze.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Are you Sarah, Neva or Melia?

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            Neva

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Has Moe programmed Father Emiglio to help you around the house?

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            Unfortunately, Father Emiglio died after a lover’s quarrel where Moe declared he no longer believed in love. Modern Day Prometheus indeed.

        • formerlyAnon

          I think you are awesome.

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/TheOctocornNetwork International Model

            You made my day.

          • Sarah

            I agree.

  • NDC_IPCentral

    The MTA train system has been in trouble for 24 hours (not to mention the predictable daily delays for my train north to IP Central on workday mornings), and I had to throw myself on the very kind mercies of another late-staying-at-the-office yesterday late evening for a ride home at 10PM. Sorry to hear of your train troubles, Boys, but you had lotsa company today. Me, though, the day off, chillin’ in my chilly apartment.

    Am really looking forward to the New York book signing in just under two weeks.

    • Qitkat

      How are your sister and your friend doing with their cancer struggles? One week recently on the lounge there were so many folks with medical troubles, and I never got to posting my concerns, but it’s touching how we worry anyway about each other here. I do hope they are doing better, and that your health stays in a good place.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        Thanks for asking. The friend, I think, is doing well – I need to give her a ring. Yesterday my sister had her 2nd infusion in the new round chemo that’s part of her treatment plan. She’s feeling very tired, but not flu-y ill the way the Adriamycin-Cytoxan cycles slammed her. She’s on this regimen for 12 weeks, a month recovery and then her surgery. Her spirits vary, I try to buck her up from afar (she’s asked me to come out to visit later this year when she’s in better shape).

        I learned today that my high school best friend’s father died on Wednesday; he was in his early 90s and had been widowed a year and a half ago. A very sweet and gentle man. Well, I’m of an age where parents have long ago shuffled off this mortal coil or are doing so imminently.

        • Qitkat

          I feel both guilty and very very lucky that I and my most immediate loved ones are not currently experiencing what these women are going through, and keep wondering how we are beating the odds, and when the day will come that that will no longer be true. Of course I have had friends in the past who dealt heroically and lost the battle anyway, and my mom, many years ago. Blessings to you and your best friend. Mine was an immeasurable comfort to me, actually we each to one another, when over time, we both lost all our parents.

          • formerlyAnon

            I try not to think about how healthy I’ve been healthwise so far. It’s definitely reaching beating-the-odds stage.

            At least we’re not yet really old. At one point my mom said quite matter-of-factly “Well, you realize I’ve reached the age where one day I’ll wake up not feeling right and never be well again.” She was tough as old boots & sharp-tongued, but full of love, that woman.

          • Qitkat

            ‘Tough as old boots, and full of love.’
            We could do worse than have that as our epitaph.

          • formerlyAnon

            She could be mean. But there were good reasons, her life was not easy and her childhood was the worst part. But god, she loved her kids and gave her all for us. Plus, smart as a whip and gave us all the culture she never got. The museums, classes, performances: theater, dance, music – she’s directly responsible for probably 80% of the things I value most in my life.

          • Sarah

            I asked my mom about getting older before she passed (way too young – she was only 64) and she told me that you don’t really get older in your mind. You feel like the same person, the whole time, but you look in the mirror and you realize you don’t look the way you did when you were 20, or 20, or 40. I was pretty young, then, but I believe her now, at 38. My friend just texted me a pic he found of us on a road trip when we were 21, and I remember us together, making jokes, having fun, being friends, but that girl in the picture – whoo I do NOT remember looking like that! I am glad your mom was smart as a whip, too. It is a blessing in life.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yeah, I’ve got about 15 years on you and it’s true. Except for the fact that the squirrel in my head is calmer, everything else internal is about the same as it ever was. (By a calmer squirrel I mean I’m not as reactive, not as needy, hopefully a little kinder – but I’m not sure it’s a big enough difference for any one outside my head to tell. It’s good, though.)

          • SRQkitten

            My best friend told me that same thing from her mother (who is in her late 80′s). It’s so true.

          • Carrps

            I know what you mean. I look at my pics from when I was in my 20′s and even 30′s (i’m 62 now), and I don’t remember ever being that pretty at the time. Wish I could have appreciated it more.

          • Sarah

            I’m a little different – I always thought I was really good-looking, but too fat. I wasn’t. I was perfectly thin. I wish I could’ve stopped being mean to myself about a debatable extra 8 to 10 lbs but what’s done is done. All I can do is be happy that I’m who I am at 38.

          • Carrps

            Heh, that, too. Dang. I was positively skinny compared to what I am now. Why did I agonize about it? The eternal question….

        • formerlyAnon

          Continued good thoughts.

        • rainwood1

          Glad your sister is doing okay. Cytoxan is just awful for side effects – they definitely named it appropriately.

          • NDC_IPCentral

            Every doc-friend of my sister’s said it’s really a b**ch. Taxol-carboplatin now should be easier, but she’s very worried about peripheral neuropathy, since I developed it and have some permanent damage in my feet. I think she should be OK, though, since she’ll be getting far less than I did.

            Triple-negative BCA, though, is a bad disease, so we sort of have a Joe Btfsplk cloud hanging over our familial heads for now.

          • decormaven

            My friend has used Vitamin E as well as selenium for peripheral neuropathy after chemo. Vitamin supplementation is so tricky, though- not enough scientific evidence. It’s a double-edged sword; big pharma isn’t invested in vitamins, so there’s not enough dollars to fund research on a large scale. Best to your sister and friend.

  • Anna

    About to attack some spaghetti and meatballs and be comatose. A (very cunning) friend convinced me over beers just after new year’s to sign up for a 10K race and train with her. I’ve questioned my sanity and re-evaluated/have considered cancelling our friendship a few times this week. Kidding (mostly, until we meet up again tomorrow).

    • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

      Is the race tomorrow?

      • Anna

        Thank the Lord Almighty, no. It’s in mid-March, this is week 2 of a 10-week training program.

        • demidaemon

          Good luck! My cousin did this herself–although she did try to get my uncle (her father) involved for heart health–and she made it as a not-traditionally inclined sports person. You can do it too!

          I am starting my post-holiday exercise regime Monday. Wish me luck!

          • Anna

            Thanks! Good luck to you too! This whole polar vortex thing has made it very challenging, to say the least (and has made me somewhat rethink my stance on those Moncler coats). The same friend warned me back in May that I’d get the running bug and I was all, “No way, I just want to look good in a racer-back tank, yo!” Sure enough, she was right.

            It’ll be my first race and it has a Saint Patrick’s weekend theme, so there is the promise of green beer at the finish line and at the post-race party. Plus, some of her running club buddies are really cute so I’m going to attempt to run towards them :-p

          • SierraDelta

            Monday is D-Day for me, too. Praise the Lord, and pass the heating pad.

          • formerlyAnon

            Good luck! It’s worth it. Eventually.

          • formerlyAnon

            Luck! I will testify that if you just keep going back to it, eventually you’ll string together enough exercise time that it will start to be addictive. Even if “addictive” means “I like how I feel when it’s over SO MUCH.” Took me years and years to get there. Hope you’re smarter.

        • Carrps

          Before I killed my knees I used to run 5 and 10 Ks. I still remember one of my early ones. My friend (whose husband was one of the race organizers) said it was uphill in the beginning. More than half the race was uphill! The only good things: the uphill section was at the beginning; and I was running with my brother who kept me going. The only 10K I’ve ever run in less than an hour. My time was 59:57. But it was LESS than an hour!

          You’ll make it. Just remember to hyrdrate hydrate hydrate.

          • Anna

            Thanks for the encouragement! I’m not familiar with this particular course as its out of town but I’m told it’s relatively flat and fast. The people telling me this are also qualified to run Boston so maybe I’ll have the same experience as you lol.

            I have another 10K I’m signed up for almost a month later that’s on home turf (the course is actually one of my long run routes) and downhill. Goal for both races is to make it to the starting line healthy, pin my bib number on race day and cross the finish line.

          • Carrps

            You’ll make it, I’m sure. Especially with a cold green one waiting for you at the end of the line!

            It’s so funny how you don’t really notice changes in elevation much until you start running. I ran a race that crossed over a bridge in San Pedro, and I’d never ever noticed how high an arch there was in that bridge. Being so close the the ocean the (metal) surface of the bridge was covered in a wet film and you had to be very careful coming down the incline. Slick as snot.

          • Anna

            Oh, don’t I know it! My city’s been hard hit with all kinds of ice storms and I’ve had some very close calls even just walking in my neighborhood. I had a pair of yak trax that worked beautifully on the trails for a grand total of 3 times before the coils broke off. I’ve learned since to stick with the main roads!

  • another_laura

    I preordered, and the iBooks store acknowledges this but I can’t get a screencap or find a receipt. Can’t wait to see the book even if I can’t get a goodie… any suggestions from my fellow PUFs on how to get proof of purchase to T Lo?

  • MilaXX

    Excited about the book tour but scared to death we’ll get yet another snow storm and I won’t be able to make it. Splurged to day and ordered take out veggie burger and mozzarella sticks and now I’m feeling guilty for eating so much junk food. I also discovered the Fashion Fund on Ovation and I’m loving it. It’s everything I want from a design show without any of the Project Runway foolishness.

    • Anna

      Mmmm, mozzarella sticks!

      • MilaXX

        OMG they were soooo good. This place cooks them right. They are nice and gooey on the inside, but not greasy.

        • Anna

          Nice! Nothing like like breaded, fried cheese dipped into a vat of marinara sauce.

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I’m going to have to start seriously petitioning for NO MORE SNOW for the next three to four weeks-I have a short trip coming up, followed by returning home and deciding what to wear for TLo’s book signing in D.C. on 2/20. No weather shall stop me!

    • Qitkat

      I totally forgot to tell you, but the bean pie I made at Christmas was delicious. Nobody could believe the main ingredient. A winner. The only problem was I used a very shallow store bought crust (got too backed up to do homemade) and the one recipe made three pies! But I gave away most of it that wasn’t eaten immediately.

      • MilaXX

        oh I’m glad you like it!

  • Sarah

    World’s looongest week, especially since I had a four-day weekend at the beginning of it, and didn’t get one minute off of work for the snow, even though it was treacherous as heck around here on Tuesday. The public library closes for No Reason, Ever. It is WAY too cold, we have no oil for our furnace, and we are running electric heaters, which is gonna steal my whole tax return. In other news, the fella’s b-day is tomorrow, and I’ve arranged, against my nature entirely, to take him to the shooting range. His dad passed away when he was ten, but he inherited his pistol (he was a sharpshooter in the Marines) for Xmas, so we are going to go pop off for an hour because I know he’ll enjoy it. I, however, will grin and bear it, having NOT grown up in a household full of firearms…

    • Qitkat

      I feel you on the firearms, but he is one lucky fellow. What we do for love!
      I missed posting on the lounge previous weeks, but noticed you did not get the job you so wanted. Such a bummer. I hope the Universe holds something better for you very soon.
      Damn, stay warm, hope it breaks for the east coast soon.

      • Sarah

        ‘Sposed to be 40 today! Downright balmy. No, didn’t get the job :( but my friend in that library system who used to be my supervisor at an old job emailed me and said I was on the shortlist, and they were very impressed by me but politics had them choose an internal candidate in the end. I can’t fault somebody for trying to get ahead at their game, so that made me feel better. At least I know if there’s another opening, I have a good shot.

    • @Biting Panda

      Firearms…are a mixed bag for me. I didn’t grow up heavily around them, but enough so that I wasn’t afraid of them. I’ve had good times at both firing ranges and practicing safely in large outdoor settings. It’s a good adrenaline rush and it’s weirdly empowering. That said, I hate having them under my roof, even in the safe. Happy bday to your fella.

      I was recently suckered by an in person demonstration for the product bodycomfort, it’s reusable, cold or warm packs, that instantly heat to 130 and hold there for a good 30-45 minutes. I have foot ones, hand ones, the neck and the lower back. I was freezing all day, and in the store, and he got me. SUCKER. But they are awesome, and if they made a blanket, they could have all of my money.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        Tell me more about these. Especially the foot ones. How do they instantly heat? Does it involve sorcery?

        • @Biting Panda

          The foot ones go in my fucking fuzzy slippers and it is brilliant!! They are liquid filled, surgical grade plastic, you snap the metal disc inside, it creates a reaction, poof, it’s a solid heat. Then it cools. The bitch is you have to boil them to reset them, and let them completely cool, etc. So there’s no back to back action. Check out the site. Dude got me for $50, but that was half of what I would have paid online, and no shipping. So far I’m not having too much remorse.

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            Fucking fuzzy slippers. Where do I get a pair of those?

          • kimmeister

            Probably at the same ebay page I got my Freudian slippers?

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            I bet your Freudian slippers would make my Fucking slippers feel guilty about liking sex, wouldn’t they?

          • Sarah

            I saw those on a “what’s new in technology” kind of show a while back. Cool that they are now on the market. Gotta get me some….

      • Sarah

        Well, there’s not much I can do about guns in my life, really. Mr. Birthday is the son of a family who runs a gun store and shooting range. We have lived together for five years, and it is really quite a testament to his consideration for me that I haven’t had him bring a gun into our house before. His uncle (who is his father figure now) is a GUNSMITH for chrissake. He is constantly offering to apprentice him to the trade when we move back to the family property after we have a kid. Yeesh. At Xmas, when we were visiting, his cousin brought out the Glock he got for his 18th birthday (!!!) and then it was time to show ALL the new guns that had been acquired since our last visit, thus turning our Xmas brunch table into a veritable smorgasbord of rifles, handguns, revolvers, etc. I fielded the “you’re okay with this, RIGHT?” questions well, I think, considering the sheer amount of firepower and scrapple in proximity to my person. Even his mom joked “we look like a bunch of gangsters!” and I was thinking YES YOU DO. Sigh. I am interested to see if I’m a good shot, though. I figure I’d at least better know how to use the damned thing.

        • formerlyAnon

          Gunsmithing is a skilled and highly valued trade. There could be worse things.

          I say this while personally ambivalent about guns, never had one permanently in my house. One side of my family is rife with cops, and law enforcement tend to be ambivalent about civilians & guns, and while my dad offered to buy us a weapon and make sure we knew how to use it if we were interested, he came out of military service (WWII, Occupation of Japan and Korea) with a real distaste for guns. He died young (61) so I never got the story out of him, but I know there was one. Like a lot of guys of his generation, he reduced anything problematic about his service to a single sentence and that response never varied when the topic came up. “I had enough of guns in the service.” Eight words, never more. (For my dad, that was one of his tells that a topic was fraught – he had a pat response and it never varied.)

          • Sarah

            Yup. I know what you mean. Grandpa just said “I was glad to get home to your Grandma” about WWII, and my dad won’t say ANYTHING about Vietnam, except for the fact that he was sorry he missed my brother’s birth. One sentence, or none. As far as the gun thing goes, I’m not against them exactly, I just think they are too easy for unstable people to get. And myself and my fellow have made huge sacrifices to pursue living better lives after extremely checkered pasts, which involved far too much wrong-type-of-people gun-having, so while I know one little pistol isn’t going to throw us back into a world of unsavory stuff, I just sort of wish there weren’t any guns in the whole wide world.

          • formerlyAnon

            Straying from topic, I have to note your mention of scrapple – haven’t had it since I lived in Northern Virginia 30 years ago, and I remember carefully avoiding ever reading or asking what was in it, as I liked it too well to cloud that with facts!

          • Sarah

            Well, we’re in central VA so that makes sense. And I won’t eat it. I’m not a fan of deers for food.

    • AnneElliot

      Our library was open also, even though half of San Antonio had a late start yesterday. We had freezing rain and nobody in this city knows how to drive in inclement weather, there were accidents all over the highways. I drove local streets to work and there was hardly any traffic. Luckily none of my co-workers had problems and it warmed up enough later to melt everything. But it sucked having to work when the kids had a “snow day.”

      • Sarah

        Ugh. The kids around here have had the whole WEEK off. Ridiculous. It HAS snowed here before, but just as you pointed out, nobody knows what to do when it does. And as I’m sure you’re aware, if the kids are out, then the library must be open to serve them! I just would have appreciated an early closing at least the day that the actual snow and ice was falling, because I drove home in the dark, and I have a truck but it was pretty slippery. But no, business as usual.

  • Jessica Freeman

    Still working on this Friday night thanks to being an East Coaster working for the West Coasters. No no, it’s Friday, I was actually waiting all day for you to email me just as I got cozied up on the couch with the fireplace, dogs and a full Netflix instant queue.

  • another_laura

    My poledance is about starting to persuade, influence, cajol, beg?? people above me in the foodchain to put me on an overseas assignment. So this bar in London is positively inspirational, darlings!!

    • Qitkat

      I missed out on working overseas many years ago, and always had a bit of regret. Good luck in your efforts.

  • tinyredlocks

    I work Retail, and shockingly, I’m home at a decent hour tonight. It’s my Father’s birthday tomorrow and I am off(!!!), so me and Mom are taking him out to dinner. Happy Birthday, Dad! He’ll be 77.

  • Musicologie

    Crazy week. Fortunately, I was able to be productive despite my teething infant only sleeping in two-hour chunks at night. (He used to be up to seven hour stretches of sleep, but he’s got two teeth coming in.) Many meetings this week (most over hot beverages), including one that lit a fire under my butt and got me writing again. Among my goals this weekend is to bake a batch of almond biscotti.

    (I notice that this lounge is a repeat from last December. With the weather and you guys being stranded, though, I’m just grateful you’re okay and the lounge is here!)

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      I loved this lounge and was happy to see those beautiful settees again.

      At the risk of starting a flood of teething remedies, I would like to offer miniature bagels. They’re easy for a baby to hold and the crust is hard enough to withstand a lot of gnawing. Teething biscuits are the worst. They just crumble and make a mess.

      • Musicologie

        Oh, it is a beautiful bar! I’m looking at photos from other angles–I didn’t realize just how purple those settees are!

        Thanks for the tip. His remedy of choice seems to be a wet washcloth for now.

        • formerlyAnon

          Frozen wet washcloth was the charm for mine, but that wasn’t in January.

  • boweryboy

    Happy hour with my partner’s co-workers. They all work in banking.

    • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

      Are we excited about this?

      • boweryboy

        Let’s just say the conversation is dry

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          OK, that’s what I was thinking, but I wanted to be sure before we got catty.

        • @Biting Panda

          Maybe you can come up with a drinking game for yourself. Maybe every time one of them mentions what they drive you take a shot? I’d stay away from a work word themed game, they’ll have to carry you out.

          • formerlyAnon

            I’m not taking YOUR suggestions for drinking games at work related functions. That sounds like a recipe for disaster and way too much ‘in vino veritas.’ But then I start running at the mouth as soon as I’m halfway tipsy (yah, shocking, I know).

          • boweryboy

            The majority of my partner’s co-workers are surburbanites with families who either ride the bus or the train into the city. So, when the conversation isn’t about work then it’s about children or grand children or cats. Sometimes I try to steer the conversation to books, movies, or even television but none of them are readers; most of them only watch Hollywood blockbluster films; and television conversation is usually about reality tv shows. And forget about talking art. It’s like being in a room full of crickets. Overall, they’re all pleasant people just a bit on the boring side. I repeatedly tell my partner how lucky he is to work with a group of geniunely nice people who all like each other.

        • formerlyAnon

          Most important question: what level of sincere engagement does you partner require from you? And is it safe to break off into a special interest group with other “plus ones”?

          • boweryboy

            Fortunately, my partner feels pretty much the same way about his work gatherings as I do, so he doesn’t require a level of sincere engagement any higher than his which is marginal at best. We’re both introverts. It’s a wonder we ever met.

            And fortunately, he’s good friends with one of his co-workers so the three of us usually end up clustered together at one end of the table. Sadly, she didn’t attend this time around.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          When I’m in situations like that, I think of an unusual word and see how long it takes for me to get someone to say it. But they can’t KNOW I’m trying to get them to say the word and I can’t say the word, either. It’s my own little game inside my head. For example, my husband is in the military and I like to get the soldiers to say things like “midwife” or “prolapsed uterus”.

          • formerlyAnon

            There is a very fine class of people in this lounge, tonight. Proud to know you, Fancy M.

          • UsedtobeEP

            My husband is wondering why I am laughing…

          • AnneElliot

            I’m totally borrowing this next time I have to have dinner with a bunch of periodontists. Seriously.

          • sagecreek

            That is a FABULOUS game, thanks for sharing!

          • boweryboy

            Fun. I’ll have to try that next time.

        • SierraDelta

          Years ago my husband and I attended a large party where the only people we really knew where our hosts. We got stuck at a table full of psychiatrists whose main topic of conversation from appetizers straight through to after dinner drinks was self-mutilating patients… Neither of us managed more than a few bites of any course, but we drank our weight in wine.

          • formerlyAnon

            I know I’m weird, but I prefer it when people I have no connection with talk about their work. Sometimes it is dull, but usually it’s just . . . different. And a fascinating insight into the little world that people build for themselves in their workplaces.

          • SierraDelta

            We were afraid we might recognize one of our new neighbors if we paid too close attention to the conversation swirling around us!

            When I was 8 1/2 months pregnant with our older son, my husband and I celebrated our anniversary at a lovely restaurant just north of the (Chicago) Loop. The restaurant was a converted Victorian mansion, and our dining room was the small parlor to the left of the front door. There were only four tables, and our waiters were charmingly solicitous as they eased me into my chair. They won my heart by addressing me as “young lady” and generally treating me like the most precious woman in the world. It wasn’t their fault that we shared the room with six gynecologists who obliviously chatted about diseased uteri for the duration of our dinner. And sparkling water was the strongest drink I was going to get that night.

          • demidaemon

            Ouch. You are made of some strong stuff, Sierra.

          • formerlyAnon

            That sounds trying. I wonder if they had been ob/gyns if they’d have talked about hairy deliveries the whole time, and if so, desisted when they noticed you.

          • SierraDelta

            This happened in the mid-70s. The medical gents were already seated when we arrived, and no matter how much they’d already imbibed, they couldn’t possibly have missed my 32 pounds of impending motherhood as I waddled to our table.

            I think medical schools have forced their students into sensitivity training in the interim.

    • NDC_IPCentral

      They better be picking up the tab.

      • boweryboy

        Thankfully, yes.

    • kimmeister

      We have a lot of references to bankers’ suits here. How do these actual bankers compare?

      • boweryboy

        They’re not “banker” bankers. They all work in loan services.

    • Gatto Nero

      My sympathies.

  • rainwood1

    My husband, who has been dealing with a form of leukemia for a long time, was pretty much on death’s door at the start of this year. It was surprising after so long that he could get that bad that quick. He’s been on this new drug (still awaiting FDA approval for his particular disease) for 2 weeks and he’s now doing great. It’s insanely expensive ($10,000 per month) and not yet covered by insurance because it’s “off-label” but it’s worth every goddamn penny. So I’ll drink to that!

    • marlie

      Best wishes for his continued improvement! xoxo

    • Qitkat

      Oh my gosh, hugs to you both, and hopes for an amazing recovery. I hope it’s truly his miracle drug, at that price.

    • NDC_IPCentral

      I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you and him. Another reason why our medical care system and those bleepin’ insurers need to be overhauled from the nanoparticles up. If you have to become desperately ill, now’s the time with the expertise and tools presently available. Years ago…. ……. …………

      • MilaXX

        Even with insurance an illness can bleed you dry. I’ve been seeing all kinds of doc for my vertigo. each specialist is a $45 copay and the MRA I have to get is $150. It seems like not a lot, but after a while it starts to pile up.

        • Qitkat

          Hopefully all these docs and tests are beginning to zero in on a long term solution for you.

        • kimmeister

          No kidding, my husband’s dislocated pinky cost me nearly 4 grand last year.

        • UsedtobeEP

          Have you had any luck trying treatment for ear rocks? I can’t remember if you had tried that or not.

          • MilaXX

            What’s ear rocks?

          • UsedtobeEP

            OK, my first comment is awaiting moderation because it contains a link. Anyway, there are tiny rocks in your ear fluid that roll around and help us maintain balance. When they move into the wrong place it causes extreme dizziness. An ENT trained in this can roll them back into place. My dad has this and has to go and get “rolled” once per year. I may be wrong, but I heard that sometimes tiny pieces of bone can chip off and create the same dizzy effect in the ear, as well. IF you Google it you will find lots of articles. My link is to one on NPR. Fixing it is simple and drug-free.

          • MilaXX

            I’ll check it out. They seem to think it’s just a damaged vestibular nerve. I have exercises I have to do 2 x’s a day. I had a VNG test and I’m getting a special scan called a MRA which apparently is different than a MRI

          • UsedtobeEP

            I looked up BPPV, and yep, that’s it. Ugh, I am so sorry for you, but at least knowing what it is makes it less scary, or it did for my dad, anyway. He went untreated for several years before they figured it out. I got the feeling it was a newer discovery, but maybe just new to me. Good luck.

          • MilaXX

            Thank you

        • decormaven

          Vertigo is a PITA. Hope the drs. can find a suitable treatment STAT.

      • SRQkitten

        NDC, if I could LIKE what you said, 1,000 times I would. Medical costs are one of the biggest reasons people go bankrupt and it’s because of our wretched health care system. We had a friend with a leukemia type cancer and she basically had the choice, like Rainwood, of paying extreme amounts per month or gambling and stopping when it looked like her disease was in remission.

    • @Biting Panda

      Cheers to you both.

    • MilaXX

      Keeping my fingers crossed for a good outcome for you both

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      Allow me to raise a virtual glass to your husband’s improvement-may it continue!

    • formerlyAnon

      Well hot damn! Long may it last.

    • Sarah

      Your love is probably half the cure, but I’m glad he found a med that works. Good luck to you both!

    • Stubenville

      Fingers crossed for you and the hubby. I went through something similar with my mother for a non-experimental drug that cost $2,500 / month and her insurance company fought it tooth and nail every single month.

    • rainwood1

      Thanks, everyone! These have been trying times and It means a lot.

    • decormaven

      Sorry for the struggle, but glad to know your husband is pulling through. Soldier on, and fight the insurance company every chance you get.

  • marlie

    I’ll be working through the weekend, by not doing anything nearly as fun as prepping for a book tour or live-tweeting the Grammys.

    I hope the rest of the kittens have a relaxing, restful and warm weekend!

    • formerlyAnon

      I will be trying to force myself to work. Track record from last weekend is barely over 50% which isn’t acceptable, given what’s looming.

      And yet, here I sit.

  • BuffaloBarbara

    All the pole dancing could be very meta. I dig. :D Looking forward to reading your book!

    Long week is long, and my weekend is shifted by one day, so I’m not there yet. Boo.

    Watched the Tim Gunn-o-rama. Could be worse.

    I am very ready for winter to be over. Cold is not my color.

  • guest2visits

    The tweeting world sounds brutal….. The book is on order from Amazon….. Cold here; but the lounge looks cozy enough.
    I don’t like the possibility that this may be the Mondo-Anya-Nick Show; it feels CROWDED in this rendition of PR. Not looking forward to weekly style advice from Anya. Or a crabby Mondo. Tim & 3 mentors, 3 judges & a new celeb judge every episode. Still waiting to see how much time will be devoted to mentor-drama vs. the designers; the clothes will be last, as always.
    (Do not understand the universal love for Sam’s bulky top and skirt – not the design or the fabric!)

    • Qitkat

      I have tried to watch twice now, and tuned out and turned it off after a few minutes each time. The format seems so tired.

      • guest2visits

        Agree. Every time they do this (re-arrange the chairs), I wonder why they have to make it so twisty and complicated. That Fashion-Fund program on Ovation sounds like heaven. I keep thinking people just want to see the designers working up their designs, developing their ideas. Not yogurt challenges or circus outfits or whatnot.

      • Eric Stott

        Why, oh WHY did they think making it 90 minutes is better?

        • Stubenville

          I assume a 90 minute show makes the producers more money than a 60 minute one.

          • decormaven

            Ka-ching! Shameless cash grab.

    • ShaoLinKitten

      So many things I did not understand. First was how no one wanted Nick as their mentor. Seriously? He would have been my first choice. Knowledgeable, sweet, experienced. The perfect mentor. I laughed when all three of the were swooning over Sam. They might have well been twirling their hair and batting their eyelashes at him. He is a cutie pie, but his outfit was just meh. I like Rey’s better and couldn’t believe they left him on the runway, especially after some of the questionable characters they picked up in the first round. Nick totally should have let Mondo have Natalia in the first round. Then he would have had 3 choices in the second round and Anya and Mondo one each. Strategy, queens! Strategy!

      • nosniveling

        totally agree! Rey was robbed, and that Orwellian grey thing was WTF? I like it so far, it’s nice to see constructive advice and coherent sentences instead of snarky one liners.
        Anya talks a good game (was never one of the haters) but anyone would be out of their mind to pick her as a mentor over the other 3.

        • ShaoLinKitten

          I think Anya has a great eye, personal style, and good taste. HOWEVER, that woman cannot give patterning, draping, or sewing advice. We all know she cannot set a sleeve. If I were someone with strong sewing skills who was afraid I was merely a seamstress and not a designer, I might pick her for help elevating my choices. But if I was a person with great ideas and a strong sense of personal aesthetic, but maybe not the strongest on construction, I’d pick Nick first and Mondo second. Definitely not Anya. I think they were seduced by her very strong personal charisma. She is very beautiful and charming, and Nick got it right– she seems like the cool girl everyone wants to be friends with.

          That said, I think Nick has the weakest roster of designers. If he wins, it will be due to his coaching and a good amount of fumbling from the other two.

          Yeah, I like the show. I’m in, and I’m surprised that I’m in. I feel very fatigued on the Project Runway brand.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I could see seeking Anya’s advice about styling, since that is her strong point. I get the feeling that the designtestants glommed on to Mondo and Anya because they won on PR. The designers don’t seem to have factored in the very practical advantage of working with Nick.

        • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

          When Anya was speaking to her group towards the end, she said the best thing she can help with is the psychological aspect of competing on the show. What happened to helping with design??? Hmmmm. So you admit to manipulation in your season, do you Anya?

      • guest2visits

        I kept thinking how very youth centric the culture is – to the point where there is some kind of fear attached to people over the age of 39… it’s like a flat-earth mentality….the world just ends at some point in a giant waterfall and a swirl of dragons. The designers acted like Mondo and Anya were made of gold, and Nick was yesterday’s news. I thought Anya’s tacky zebra onesy was pretty much yesterday’s news. And Mondo has a more specific client as well. Rey, Amy and Stephanie all seemed to have good skills… but they were left for last by the mentors. I would have picked Rey over Sam’s, I thought he brought more potentially interesting ideas.

        • formerlyAnon

          I am ABSOLUTELY ENTRANCED by the idea that when I turned 50 I disappeared into the mist of a giant waterfall with a swirl of dragons overhead. That’s pretty definitely not the metaphor I’d have come up with!

          • guest2visits

            I hear that mist is fabulous for the skin…..

    • Lisa_Co

      The only reason I can fathom a contestant picking Anya as a mentor is to learn how to win without having either sewing or designing skills. Anya, herself, pretty much admitted the same. And I still don’t get why more contestants don’t want Nick as their mentor. But guest2visits, I think that like The Face this will become the mentors’ show.

  • Isabel

    Weather-woe story :( I live near Dallas. I was supposed to drive down this afternoon to a Houston suburb to attend my niece’s Catholic Confirmation. No ice on the roads near me. However, Houston is a total mess; there are so many accidents and closed roads due to icy conditions. I am bummed out. If only I had enough $ to charter a helicopter…

  • formerlyAnon

    I just did my first solid cardio work out since the upper respiratory/flirting with bronchitis thing that settled in over a week ago.

    Let’s just say I’ve lost some ground. On the plus side, it felt fantastic to feel that awful. Especially when I stopped.

    • Qitkat

      My former trainer told me you lose ground after only four days without working out. Four fricking days, doesn’t seem fair, does it? I’ve taken a few days off myself, and need to go feel awful at the gym tomorrow.

      • formerlyAnon

        Definitely not fair, but in the pantheon of not fair, I’ll take it. ;-) Hope tomorrow works out and you get to feel awful/good.

      • Lisa_Co

        Me,too, except our gym has not had any heat this week …..or for the first 2 weeks of the year. I may have to find a new gym to feel awful at.

    • Pennymac

      I missed going to the gym today. That makes four years in a row.

      • Sarah

        Gym? Does phys ed count? I’m going on 23 years then…

        • formerlyAnon

          You’re young enough it’s not yet necessary to feel “normal.” Plus it’s harder with kids who still need supervision.

          Trust me, I resisted for years. Like everybody else, I now wish I’d started serious exercise (rather than occasional exercise) much sooner, but until I started to notice how my physical abilities were ever-so-slightly diminishing it wasn’t a priority. Life is rich & full, which also means crowded.

          • Sarah

            Well, I’m starting to come around to the realization that my life isn’t offering the same worked-in opportunities for exercise that it once did – I used to be an all-the-time dancing queen, and now I’m a once every three months when I get away to a show with my BFF dancer – so I don’t get as frisky without trying as I just naturally did when I was younger. I should, though, ‘cuz I don’t wanna die young, and when I have made the effort, in fits and starts, I always feel better. Overcoming inertia is a bitch, though.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yes, it is strange how opportunities to move seem to leak out of our lives as we accumulate responsibilities and lifestyle changes. I’ve always been good about regular exercise when life was unusually stressful and fraught, because it does so much for my mood. But it’s only in the last 5 years or so that my body started nudging me toward it.

      • formerlyAnon

        HA! Pennymac, you’re doing PT. For the duration that counts.

  • Heather B.

    Any other Canadians get a copy of the book already? Mine inexplicably came in the mail yesterday. I’m halfway done and it’s fabulous!

    • unbornfawn

      Jealous!

  • Trickytrisha

    Just watched the second episode of Tim Gunn’s show. I thought I’d scream if Tim “recapped” yet another time how many designers each of the mentors had left to choose. It must have been done 6 or 8 times during this episode. Absolutely mind numbing. I hope to hell that once we get to the actual judging that things improve, ’cause sadly this is a snooze fest so far.

    • Eric Stott

      The fact that Tom and Lorenzo haven’t said anything about it is not good…

      • decormaven

        The show’s producers had better be thanking the heavens that the dear uncles are busy on the promo trail, because from what other BKs have posted, this show reeks to high heavens. If the producers are smart, they’ll anonymously snap up a truckload of the uncles’ book, ensuring TLo will have heightened visibility – and more press to do.

    • alyce1213

      They had to fill 90 minutes. So annoying.

      • Trickytrisha

        Yep, there was so much padding. And dammit, not enough for Tim to do – it’s his show, so I was hoping for more involvement. Lets hope he loosens up soon, he’s a bit stiff and uncomfortable in this format. Also, too much Nick being all put out that he wasn’t one of the “cool kids”.

        So far, Mondo is the only one that I think is coming across well in his role. The quirky factor translates well to TV.

    • Stubenville

      I think I hurt my eyes from rolling them so much. Why any designer would pick Anya as a mentor is beyond me. Her construction skills are basic (to put it kindly) and her taste seems to be limited to picking quirky prints. I don’t think she’s going to be a lot of help to her peeps. And why start off with excess designers who get eliminated before even competing? That just seemed mean and unnecessary.

      • Trickytrisha

        I didn’t like the “let’s leave two designers to be humiliated at the end” thing either.

        Anya seems to be there as eye-candy, even though she won her season (prolly with lots of hemming tape and pins). I did like her clothes, but recognized that she was light years behind the others in her sewing ability. Dunno if most big time designers were adept at sewing when they started out, but PR contestants sure need to be.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          My take on Anya’s win for that season of PR was that Heidi and the producers fell in love with Anya and the storyline of someone “who just learned to sew”. In the finale Viktor’s final collection wasn’t flawless, and gave them an excuse to choose Anya…..sigh

  • MzzPants

    Hibernating. With iPad.

  • http://frankbettecenter.org/ sleah_in_norcal

    hi kids. i’m in a whirlwind of toddler and puppy here, meanwhile my art career is picking up suddenly. a big sale in december and several shows coming up. so things are helter-skelter chez sleah in the mountains. but no snow, how can it be? in the midst of it all i’m enjoying the tim gunn show. the mentors are so articulate and know what they’re talking about (for a change, zanna are you listening?) i like the 90 minute format because so far most of time has been spent on discussing, constructing, and showing the clothes. lots of talk about each designers voice. let’s hope they get rid of the few attention suckers. sorry to see rey wasn’t picked, i thought he really had potential. and anya ends up with her male harem.

    • Sarah

      Congrats on your art! I am happy for you. I like the show, too, but I’m wondering what will happen to the format now that the teams are chosen. We’ll see!

    • Stubenville

      Sleah, I’d be thrilled to send the next snow storm your way. I think today will be the ninth time I’ve shoveled my driveway this season…

    • formerlyAnon

      Wow, congrats on the art! Good luck with the toddler and puppy – that sounds like a recipe for no–more-than-5-minutes peace, ever. But fun when not too frazzling.

    • Qitkat

      So great about your art career. Can I borrow some of your mojo?

  • ThaliaMenninger

    I’m supposed to be flying to the west coast tomorrow and I’ve been on the phone with American for over an hour (most of that time spent on hold). Their music is so annoying… So who knows? I may or may not make to SF tomorrow. Right now, leaning toward not…

    • unbornfawn

      Hope you make it. It’s like spring out here. Good luck.

    • decormaven

      Nothing like On Hold Hell. Hope it plays out in your favor.

  • CatherineRhodes

    If you bring your poledance to Los Angeles, I promise your train won’t get stuck in the snow. In fact, we’re having a freak heat wave — almost 80 every day.

    • little_miss_strange

      Oh my god, for serious. There is no logic here in LA.

  • BrooklynBomber

    I’m dancing as fast as I can. Big congrats, T & Lo!

  • demidaemon

    Well, I had the most BORING week of work ever. I tutor twice a week at the college I teach at (10 hours a week), and in that ten hour span I had a total of one student come in. I also have to be a good boy and not do anything but sit and look pretty should my not-boss come in. (It’s complicated. My tutoring place is in one area, but my tutoring bosses are on the other side of the building, but the Dean–who is my normal teaching boss–comes in to “check up” on me sporadically. But she isn’t technically my boss at all this semester, because I am teaching at a different campus with a separate dean. Complicated.)

    Good news: I reread my novel-in-progress and am reinspired to work on it again, despite the fact it has super depressing content. Also: I taught grammar this week to my students and made them all cry. Figuratively.

    • Anna

      You can’t even work on your laptop (aka commenting on everyone’s favourite web site)? I worked for someone last year whose management style was to treat his employees like errant children. He was very fond of calling meetings during slower seasons to make sure we were all being productive, or rather met his definition of productive, not pleasant.

      Great about the inspiration to work on your novel again! What is it about?

      • demidaemon

        Luckily–or not–we have PCs everywhere we can use. “Technically,” I’m not even allowed to prepare for my own classes–that’s what my boss said. However, our departmental secretary–who is sadly leaving us in the first week of February and will be sorely missed :(–told me that my predecessor would just hide and play Farmville during the off hours. I, unfortunately, get guilt pangs, even when I snuck onto TLo last Tuesday.

        The novel is really super depressing. Cliffnotes version: It’s about a guy who gets raped by a local celebrity and the fall out from that. Like I said, super depressing. I actually used it for my Master’s Thesis and one of my profs told me that it’s something that needed to be written about.

        • formerlyAnon

          Gotta say, it would take a fervent recommendation from others to get me to read that, I generally feel that life around me is enough of an assault on the psyche, if I pay attention. But I think your prof was right. Really, as a parent and quasi-librarian I think there needs to be wider treatment of variations on the theme in the Young Adult literature, which skews so heavily to girls as victims of sexual violence (not that that doesn’t need to be addressed.) But I’m not holding my breath.

          • demidaemon

            My book is actually an adult novel. I use way too many curse words, I think, to write for the YA group. I really do my best to treat it seriously and not overburden the reader. But maybe I could convince you, once it’s done. As long as the bad guy gets his comeuppance, right?

          • formerlyAnon

            Actually, though bad-guy comeuppance is nice, I’d prefer if the protagonist transcends the experience and is strengthened and comes out ahead of the game in some ways, not just painfully learns to cope with/compartmentalize the fall out and we’re left hoping for minimal ongoing damaged-ness. Although there IS a lot of satisfaction in fiction that portrays life realistically, I know too many once-damaged people who took decades to get back to a fully functioning, joyful place – or never really have done so – to want to read about it. I find real life heartbreaking if looked full in the face, all too often.

            But yeah. If you wrote it I’d read it, because I’m loyal to my friends, even Internet friends. Now go to sleep. Hopefully you’re brighter than I and are sleeping as I type this. I have 3.5 hours till I need to get up and there are reasons why I’m being stupid enough to be awake (just finished something that had to go out) but it’s still stupid.

          • demidaemon

            Aww, thanks. The plan is actually that, as it’s just the catalyst in making my protagonist face a whole boatload of issues. I had one plan for the actual end, but that may change now. He’s one of four main characters, and all of them have to grow, though this central event is what ties them together.

            I am not asleep, however, as I am a major night owl. Hope you get some sleep!

        • Anna

          Seems a bit excessive that you’re not even allowed to prepare for your own classes, that sounds work-related to me.

          I agree with your prof, depressing subject maybe, but exploring the fall out from that (especially with regards to a male character) is a compelling idea and not something I’ve personally come across in anything I’ve read. I’d read your novel!

          • demidaemon

            Thanks!

    • little_miss_strange

      Congrats on your decision to keep writing! Seriously, I know the feeling. Writing is the only way I can make sense of things sometimes. You write the shit out of that thing.

      That sucks though about the tutoring thing. I’ve actually been thinking of doing the same, working as an English tutor at a nearby college. I have this thing for language rules so I thought it’d be a good idea. I hope it picks up for you because I would totally hate to be just sitting there with no one to help.

      • demidaemon

        It usually does. This was only the second week of the semester; last semester, though, I got read the riot act because I was getting paid for hours when no one showed up, which is obviously my fault.

        • little_miss_strange

          Pffffff colleges have become so fucking incompetent now. Can’t handle their own shit and try to blame students or faculty for their failures.

          But hey, you did help someone this week and that is a wonderful thing. And yeah as the semester goes on you’ll get more panicky students coming in. You do your thing and don’t pay no mind to those idiots trying to run things.

          • demidaemon

            Thanks! You read my mind.

    • formerlyAnon

      Ah, early in the semester yet. They’ll be in to look at you with their confused little doe eyes and recalcitrant attitudes.

      Taught . . . GRAMMAR???? . . . I think that qualifies for a congressional medal. (And I can tell by the use of “figuratively” that you are well qualified.)

      Go you! on the writing. Strike while the iron is hot, they say, though I’m not sure how that applies.

      • demidaemon

        I KNOW. The remedial class I taught last semester was about 75% grammar, and I always teach grammar to my Comp students right off the bat, as none of them know how to properly use a comma. This semester, dreadfully, few of them could tell the difference between a colon and a semicolon.

        I totally get the self-critical bit. I was looking back at above novel and going: tense error, tense error, comma errors everywhere. It was a different sort of depressing on that end.

    • decormaven

      Bless you for teaching grammar. I fear it has gone the way of the buttonhook. Definitely brush off your novel and begin anew. Gotta stoke the creative fires, especially when faced with mundane (but bill-paying) tasks.

    • ShaoLinKitten

      We have a lot in common! I am also working on a novel, and teach English. Grammar does make them cry, doesn’t it?

      • demidaemon

        Usually there is some moaning and groaning, but this group got particularly whiny. It’s in part because it’s a 3-hour, once a week night class, so they would normally have a day to digest before I sprung their test on them, but the test is next week. *shrugs*

    • alyce1213

      You must cry from reading articles and comments on the interwebz. Literally.

      • demidaemon

        Sometimes.

    • SierraDelta

      Imagine how they’d react if you announced at the start of class that you’d be teaching them how to diagram sentences!

      • demidaemon

        HAHAHAHA! I considered it, once upon a time, but then decided not to. They struggle enough with subjects and predicates.

  • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

    I have a question, friends. When you have company, and it’s someone who has never been to your home before, do you take them on a “tour” of your house? My house is two stories, and the second floor is just bedrooms. The first floor is an open floor plan, and from the entryway, you can see pretty much everything except the powder room.

    A woman I barely know stopped by today to drop off something, and I was just being polite and offered her a cup of coffee, which she accepted (dammit). We chatted for a few minutes, she asked about the house -how long had we lived here, are the floors original – and then she said, “Can I see the upstairs?”. I told her that there were just bedrooms upstairs and that they were too messy for company. She seemed a little offended and left right after that.

    The truth is, I just don’t like people in what I consider my private space. The only people I allow in my room are my husband, my kids (but only if they are bringing me breakfast in bed) and my BFF. Even my mom and my sister stay out.

    So, what’s the consensus, Kittens? Do you give a full tour to new guests? Is it rude to refuse if someone asks?

    • little_miss_strange

      Yeah that was maybe a tiny bit rude to say no to her, after inviting her in and stuff. Personally I don’t think I would be offended because I like to stay out of people’s shit, but I can kind of see how some would be offended.

      I don’t give people a tour of my place unless they ask. I just kinda assume they don’t give a shit because that’s how I am.

      • Demeter

        Little_miss_strange, I think you are completely off the mark. The visitor was “a woman I barely know”. What business does the visitor have in asking to see the private area of the house? Our bitter kitten was not rude at all.

        • little_miss_strange

          I don’t think I’m that off the mark. Maybe that lady just wanted to see what the space was like upstairs. Nobody really knows what her motives were, but I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt. She was invited inside a home, she was curious to see what the interior was like. Myself, again, I wouldn’t give a shit, but I’d assume she wouldn’t even be looking at what was in the rooms anyway.

    • formerlyAnon

      I don’t think it was rude. And if it was, it was even ruder of her to ask. I was taught that if someone wanted to show you any part of their house they hadn’t already ushered you into, they’d say something like “Would you like to see the rest of the house?”

      • SierraDelta

        Can we be friends?

        • formerlyAnon

          NowTHAT’s party trick! And of course we can be Dark Ages friends. If you read enough of my comments on here, you’ll know as much or more about me as some of my face-to-face friends.

          • SierraDelta

            I can also do “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star” in Latin (the quirks of 16 years of Catholic education with some REALLY remarkable nuns).

            Well, I can touch my nose with my tongue, too, but the good sisters had nothing to do with that.

    • Kathy

      I don’t think you were rude. You have a right to keep some things private (including living space) .

    • Jessica Freeman

      I’m pretty private myself and the only time people had a tour of my home was my housewarming party. Otherwise, no one goes upstairs. My downstairs is pretty small, so once you walk from the front of the house to the back, you’ve seen it.

    • decormaven

      Your home is your private space. You did the right thing by tactfully evading her request.

    • Lilithcat

      You were not rude. It’s rude to ask! (Unless, of course, one is visiting a historic or architecturally important home. In that case, the homeowners would likely be surprised if a guest didn’t ask.)

    • MilaXX

      You weren’t rude. She was out of line. In fact I give her the side eye for even asking.

    • alyce1213

      You were not rude, you handled it well. I, for one, would never invite myself to see someone’s other rooms and consider what she did a little pushy. After all, you hardly know her.

    • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

      Not remotely rude – I think it was pretty intrusive of her to ask. We never offer a tour, and only people who are staying with us get to go upstairs.

    • SierraDelta

      Maybe and no.

      It’s your house, and you get to set the rules. If you’re comfortable offering, go for it. But there’s a lot of split-second interior dialogue that leads you to the comfort point. Does your guest want to see the house because it’s an extension of you and a reflection of your taste? Is she looking for common elements in your respective styles as a way to assess whether a friendship could develop from shared interests? Is she lonely and looking for an excuse to connect with you? Is she shy or new in town and hoping that you’ll help her?

      Is she the type who wants to see what you’ve done so she can tell you how she’s done the same thing — only better? Will she tell everyone at the PTA that you and your family are barbarians who live in filth and chaos, which explains why your kids can’t get the same grades hers do? (That actually happened to a friend, the exhausted mother of new twins, with older kids in pre-K, first, and second grade.)

      You need to know why she pressed you, and then you can decide if that has any bearing on your legitimate desire for privacy. Saying no politely is your absolute right; if your guest doesn’t like it, then that’s her problem. And if she’s going to get all huffy about it, then you’re right to have kept her away from your private quarters.

      • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

        I completely agree with Sierra. It’s your house. We have the same situation and when we have new people over I’ve learned to stop all talk of upstairs touring dead by announcing, “I’d love to share the history of our house and can show you the ground floor and the outside. Our upstairs is private family domain.”

    • livesarah

      She was so rude to ask!

    • http://armchairauthor.wordpress.com/ LesYeuxHiboux

      The rule in my childhood (open floor-plan, bedrooms upstairs) home was that nobody but family goes upstairs. We kept the downstairs neat and clean for guests at almost all times. One of my boyfriend’s mothers once came by to pick up a coat he had forgotten and pushed into the house to show herself and her sister around. I was not home, but my father was very upset about the whole thing (that was quite normal for this woman, and a big reason why I am not married to that Zachary Quinto-lookalike ex today.) No full tour to new guests, and it’s not rude to refuse politely.

  • little_miss_strange

    Too bad it wasn’t the old Penn Station, that I think you guys wouldn’t have minded making a temporary home out of. (Those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about, google that shit. It used to be fucking beautiful.)

    Can NOT wait for your guys’ book!!!! So excited for you two!

    “Follow along as we sprain our thumbs and eventually get thrown in twitter jail for sending too many tweets! We’re not kidding. A couple of times we got kicked off twitter for the crime of over-tweeting. Tweeting without regard to the safety of others.”

    You two are fucking priceless.

    • http://www.ellenciompi.com/ NurseEllen

      The old Penn Station…….modeled after the Roman Baths of Caracalla. God, what a structure; its loss is incalculable. The only good thing about its demolition was that it jump started the historic preservation movement in NYC. There’s a fab picture book about the old station compiled by Lorraine Diehl. The photos of what was lost will make you weep.

      • little_miss_strange

        Sad they had to knock down a work of art before they realized what sacrilege they had committed. And there are pictures on the walls of the current shitty Penn Station of how it used to look… like some cruel fucking joke.

  • MilaXX

    Catching up on Oscar movies . American Hustle was good. Liked the quirkiness of Her. Captain Phillip has my heart racing. Surprised this didn’t get more buzz

    • SRQkitten

      We probably would have seen captain Phillips but for the fact my dad was a captain. there’s been some discussion that part of why this ship was captured was because the shipping companies were pushing routes that while faster (ie got cargo to shore and delivered with less fuel) put crews life in harms way with the know piracy concerns. My dad used to see this on the Great Lakes routes he piloted. The shipping companies tried to extend the season way late when weather turned bad.

      • MilaXX

        Yes I read some of the controversy with the real story and saw that some of the crew are suing the shipping company. I can accept that he’s not the hero the movie made him put to be. For me this movie and 12 Years are the most griping movies of the Oscar contenders. Comcast seem to get on board this year since most of the Oscar movies are available On Demand. If the cold, snowy weather holds up, I’ll have seen everything by the time the Oscars air.

        • SRQkitten

          I’m rooting for 12 years. The technical aspects to Gravity were interesting but best picture, I don’t think so, I enjoyed American Hustle, but probably more because i wasn’t expecting to like it at all and with the bar being set that low, found it more enjoyable and well done. But 12 years is what movie making ought to be, IMO. I envy you Comcast, our cable provider is dreadful.

          • MilaXX

            Totally agree with 12 Years getting best picture. I liked American Hustle, but it wasn’t exactly a new story. We’ve seen 70′s inspired films in everything Goodfellas to Boogie Nights and the twist at the end is something we’ve seen done on Leverage and Hustle. I liked AH, it was full of pretty people in funny clothes, but I think there are some stronger films out there. I’m a JLaw fan, but her performance was nothing to write home about.
            This is the first year Comcast made so many Oscar contenders available On Demand. My cable bill is gonna be crazy high, but I like the convenience.

          • decormaven

            American Hustle started strong and ended strong, but suffered from a too-long middle. And after seeing JLaw’s turn in it, it’s a very nice job, but my vote’s going for Lupita, based on clips and reviews.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I’ll agree on AH suffering from its length-tighter editing could have made it a stronger film; also, JLaw is one of my personal favs, but she won last year, and Lupita’s turn in 12 Years was so strong and gripping.

        • decormaven

          Wish we had On Demand; 12 Years is on at our local theater, but only has one showing – 9 pm. How nuts is that?

        • Qitkat

          Perhaps I shouldn’t be such a curmudgeon about spending for On Demand. Considering how much cheaper than going to the theater, but I love those enormous screens and booming sound quality experience.

          • MilaXX

            I figure it’s cheaper than gas+parking+snacks

          • Qitkat

            True, but Gravity (the only one I’ve seen) in 3D or even normal wouldn’t have had the same dramatic impact on me.

          • MilaXX

            There are exceptions of course.

    • decormaven

      Thanks for the thumbs up on Captain Phillips. Watched Star Trek Into Darkness last pm; the liberties taken with the storyline hurt my purist heart, and the soundtrack was sub-par.

  • SRQkitten

    Catching up on this discussion way late due to work issues, which is causing me to have a pity party. Have to go into work today (Sunday) after working all day yesterday and Friday when I technically was supposed to be off . Report that needs to be written, which involves datawrangling from the system from hell. Not ours and the owners of said system do not want to hear that all is not well. So what should be a simple matter of reporting results is turning into the week/weekend project from hades.

    But am trying to be positive ….will share a story I’m sure those of you dealing with polar vortex v2.0 may find amusing. With the last round of very chilly weather here in Florida, I’d heard that one of the school systems in the northern part of the state had closed for that day (temps there may have been in upper 40s). I thought that seemed a bit extreme until a colleague told me it was probably because many of the schools in that area didn’t have heat in their buildings (this being FL where summer is 9 months of the year).
    Go figure.

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, I hope someone with the power to reward you notices your dedication to results. Ha.

      I will be at work, too, but it’s mostly because we had an ice day Friday and I can’t face going in tomorrow and starting the week with the desk I left behind on Thurs. So much stuff-waiting-for-the-next -step that it makes my brain itch to think about it, (and I’m very relaxed about clutter, mental & physical.)

      • SRQkitten

        Let’s hear it for the BK weekend work warriors! Yes, I’m *very* relaxed with the multimodal clutter but do understand about starting the week with the remnants of the previous week facing you. In my case, the project report I’m working on would otherwise be a labor of love for a wonderful program, it’s just the data system that is making me frustrated. Using Downton Abbey and the uncles tweets as the incentive to get my tush moving [grin]

        • decormaven

          Downton Abbey is a good incentive; just in case you can’t make it, pbs dot org has the episode available Monday to stream through its site.

    • decormaven

      Hang in there! January hit like a bag of hammers for most all BKs, I think. Take as good care of yourself as possible during this work onslaught.

      • SRQkitten

        Thanks decomaven! It does sound like there’s a collective bag of overload in the kitten kingdom, I can only be thankful that health wise I’m finally over december’s viral bug and not dealing with some of the heavy health issues other BKs are battling.

  • Lilithcat

    It’s so nice to see Alex’s work again!

  • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

    Hello darlings. It’s been a rough week at Chez Gab, because my darling pooch Luna abruptly passed away this week. I am still pretty devastated about it, but I have tempered the loss with a new puppy, who I think I will be naming Dita Mal Teese (because she’s a Maltese, as Luna was before her; the boyfriend isn’t enthusiastic about the name but I love it). She is presently curled up in my lap.

    • decormaven

      Glad you’ve found a new pup to love. Hugs for the one that crossed the Rainbow Bridge, and energy vibes for dealing with your new puppy!

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        It makes it so much easier to transfer the grief into love for a new pup.

    • MilaXX

      Sorry for the loss of Luna and welcome baby Dita!

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Bless you, thanks!

    • @Biting Panda

      Oh, Gaby, sorry for your loss. Love the name of your new darling!

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Thank you!

    • bitchybitchybitchy

      I’m so sorry about Luna’s death-that must be so hard for you. On a happier note, welcome and lots of BK cyber-auntie hugs for Dita Mal Teese-love the name!

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Thanks!

    • Qitkat

      Ahh, so sorry for your loss. Here’s hoping the adorable new puppy charms her way into both your hearts. Love the clever name.

      • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

        Thanks! I got the idea from TLo’s Miuccia. Love the punny celeb names.

    • formerlyAnon

      Oh, so sorry. Sounds like you’ve already found the best, if only partially effective, medicine.

  • @Biting Panda

    Almost Red Carpet time. Hope to see y’all around chatting it up. No one wants to be catty alone!!

    • Sobaika

      Are you watching this nonsense (Grammys) unfold live before our very eyes?

      • @Biting Panda

        I am. It is….yeah. Happening. So many WTF moments on stage.

    • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

      I was inspired to open a twitter acct tonight so that I might be catty with you. I desperately wanted to refer to Pharrell as “Duddly Doo-Wop”. I tried to use my junk email address, and I put it in wrong (both times!) and then I must have misspelled the password I wanted to use and now there’s a freaking twitter account out there with my name (including Fancy Mukluks), but I cannot access it. LOLOLOLOL. Fuck me. I’ve tried every misspelling of my favorite password, and I can’t crack the code.

      So, whomever has access to this account, please be witty and clever, and I’ll go back to saying funny things to my cats.

      • @Biting Panda

        That’s funny!
        I have to many passwords!! 2 Gmails, an old Yahoo, work, Disqus and all other social medias. It’s crazy.
        I saw you and said hello.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          Let me know if *I* reply. I tried to ‘splain to Twitter, and they pretty much told me to suck it because there was nothing they could do if I didn’t have access to the email I registered it under AND I didn’t know the password. I feel old. Technology makes my head hurt. What say we get two tin cans and some string?

  • Lynn Landry

    I hope San Francisco is on your book tour.