T LOunge

Posted on January 17, 2014

Darlings, we’re feeling very low-key and civilized tonight.

 

 

Le Bar des Bergues, Geneva

 

Lovely. Although we suspect we won’t be staying long because there don’t appear to be any beds in this bar and honeys? We are frikkin’ BEAT. Between the Golden Globes, Critics’ Choice Awards, site problems, and a whole slew of interviews we did this week for the book release, we are going to curl up on our sectional and watch TV passively, sideways, until we pass out. Too tired for wine, if you can believe that.

In book news, we announced our first signing dates and our first giveaways for anyone who pre-ordered the book. We’ve also been posting select quotes from each chapter, just to give y’all an idea of where we’re coming from and what to expect, and we even posted a few of the hilarious illustrations. Go and check out all the glory on our book page.

Oh, and we’ll be posting on the weekend, just to get our awards season stuff all caught up.

And how are we all?

 

 

 

[Photo Credit: fourseasons.com]

    • @Biting Panda

      Oh hells yes, the Lounge.
      My entire family has fallen victim to a stomach flu this week, but I am better and in much need of grown folks relaxation.

      I’m excited for the book, bummed there’s no signing planned for ATL. The site issues are making me crazy. But these things will get worked out, I suppose. I imagine the amount of traffic coming through here only grows each day.

      Looking forward to weekend posts.

      • formerlyAnon

        Well, glad you’re fine and the older, more helpful members of the family are functional. If you’re the only one well it’s going to be a loooong couple of days, just you, the old towels, the various forms of clear fluids and the washing machine.

        • @Biting Panda

          Well the two younger had it hit them around 2am Tuesday. Nearly simultaneously. It was like something out of a bad comedy.
          I foolishly thought it was going to pass me by, but at 2am Thursday, I learned how wrong I was. Hubs was only a few hours behind me. My MIL came to get the now better kids, because we could not function. (The older two are at their mom’s and spared the joy.) It’s been a rough week. But all is better now.

      • decormaven

        Pedialyte is your friend for tummy troubles. Much easier on even adult systems than Gatorade. Get the fluid levels back up. And don’t lose heart about an ATL book signing event; the Magic 8 Ball says “Outlook good.”

      • Stefanie Argudo Mackenzie

        My daughter and her GF were both victims this past week. She was camped out in the downstairs bathroom, GF in the upper bathroom. I talked to her one day and she said their stomachs were still dodgy. She said “you know! maybe I shouldn’t have made that big pot of pasta e fagiole soup..,it sure was tasty!” *le sigh* my daughter of the stainless steel stomach. She had a day surgery. I brought her to my house to recuperate. I fell asleep, woke up, go in to find her lying on the cold tile floor in the bathroom. She said she was horribly nauseated from the pain pills…every time she moved she had to throw up. Ok…fast forward, and I find something in the garbage. Um, do you suppose this container of leftover goat curry with garlic naan might have something to do with your gastric upset? Kids.

        So far I’m not. Good thing because I have to go to Guatemala next week.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

          Last year my husband and I had a bout of food poisoning that made me declare that I will never, ever live in a house with only one bathroom. I don’t know what we would have done without the downstairs loo.

          Hope you stay well for your trip!

          • Stefanie Mackenziews

            Thank you. Me too! Now I need to go burn some sage or something to make sure I didn’t offend the Universe.

    • serenab44

      I’m sad there was no recap of Tim’s show….and curious what people thought about it if anyone cares to weigh in. I liked the first half but it dragged at the end. More Tim though!

      • Sobaika

        Did anyone catch him on Jon Stewart? I thought his pact with Heidi was kind of cute!

        • MilaXX

          yes I saw that

        • Snailstsichr

          I thought Tim’s loyalty to Heidi was admirable. He was so cute in his blue check shirt. He makes gingham look sophisticated, doesn’t he?

          I was trying to pay attention to the show, but kept getting sidetracked by Mondo’s glasses. I think I counted three different pairs. I’m sure I’ll keep watching to see what he wears next. But -to be honest – I’m rooting for Nick.I love to read his posts about ice skating costumes too much to not support him!

          • Stubenville

            Guess who has an eyewear collection coming out…

            • formerlyAnon

              Ahh. I can see clearly now . . .

            • Inspector_Gidget

              Oh? Are you wearing Mondo glasses? Zing!

            • majorbedhead

              I kind of love the Dame Edna glasses he wears towards the beginning, when they’re discussing portfolios. They made me giggle.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

            I was sad no one wanted to be on Nick’s team. He got stuck with the problem children so far. I’ll be on your team, Uncle Nick!

            Then again, he sold himself poorly when they all spoke to the first designer up. He touted himself as a patternmaking and technical mentor, when all the competitors there probably already feel they know enough about that, such that they would not need Nick’s mentorship if that’s all he has to offer. Why else would they have gotten on the show, right?

        • kimmeister

          What is their pact?

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

            That neither one will do a season of PR without the other. And so far they have not!

        • serenab44

          He’s on Jimmy Fallon tonight!

          • formerlyAnon

            Total sidetrack: is the “The Tonight Show is Coming Back to NYC” ad running with Fallon strutting down the sidewalk to a BeeGee’s tune from Saturday Night Fever not the cutest thing?

            Well, I think it is.

      • Inspector_Gidget

        I checked it out against my better judgment. It actually wasn’t too bad. The premise is kind of interesting. Though, just like the regular PR show, it does NOT require 90 minutes. That’s just too frickin’ long to sustain interest. The designers don’t seem particularly interesting, but I did enjoy some of the mentoring stuff. I’m sticking with it for the time being.

        • Imasewsure

          Yes they were smart to choose the three mentors that they did… Anya will draw viewers in because most of us can’t believe anyone would ever choose her (and yet they did!) and Mondo and Nick because they are absolute fan favorites. I won’t go out of my way to watch it again but if I stumble on it, I might watch it for a bit because of the PR cast (particularly Tim of course)!

        • Sarah

          I think it needed to be that long to make room for all the explaining the rules. It was somewhat tedious in that vein, but I’ll stick with it too.

          • StellaZafella

            They could have just said: “This is ‘The Voice’ but with clothes…

            • cocohall

              Tim G was on The View promoting the show Thursday and that is PRECISELY what he said. You NAILED it!

          • NMMagpie

            I agree but I think the aim of the show to get the most out of a collaborative relationship is good. Then again, I’ll take all the Tim Gunn I can get.

            I was quite surprised that people had a hard time choosing Nick. He grates at times but you cannot deny the knowledge.

            • Sarah

              Yeah that’s what interested me – I honestly didn’t think that they would play up the angle of the mentors enjoying the mentorship the way they did. I think that is what will keep me coming back for now, but I hope it doesn’t remain cumbersome in format.

        • GeoDiva

          Agree about the 90 minutes for PR. I refuse to watch it live because it is just too long.

      • MilaXX

        It wasn’t as awful as I thought it would be. Still I can’t get past anyone wanting Anya to mentor them. In fact I was scratching my head as to why anyone in his right mind would chose the teacher(Nick) over the other mentors Then they through in the PR staples: The hysterical designer who is always scrambling/having meltdowns during challenges and the crazy gay guy who will be declared to have “taste issues” mid season when really he had them from day 1. Of course the relatively normal designer went home first.

        • Frank_821

          Actually I’m okay with Anya being a mentor and I get why people would want to have her. They established Anya has nothing to offer them in terms of construction and technique. Mondo and Nick have that all over her. The contetsants have it over her. She knows it too. But she has been through this process from beginning to end. She understands what they will go through. She also has a good knowledge of fashion and style and has been in the judges’ chair. During PRAS I thought she did a good job critiquing.

          she wouldn’t be able to turn then into more skillful designers but she, like Nick and Mondo, could teach them how to effectively compete

          • Isabel

            She commented that one of the designers was “one note.” Ironic

            • Jackie4g

              Ironic? Comical. You are a polite person.

        • SRQkitten

          The bit at the end with the drama queen/parsons alum may keep me from watching this show in the future. First she’s one of last designers standing and then both Nick and Mondo decide they do want her. Lifetime at its most over manipulative, overwrought.

          • 1964edithgrove

            I turned off the TV at that point. It had been quite boring I thought, and that woman writhing on the floor while everyone else was mopping up with their hankies was just the last straw. I think that was it for me, much as I love Tim

        • guest2visits

          I think I heard the bell tower in the background when Natalia chose Nick. She may be nice, and she may become the ‘swan’ in the story; but really – I think Nick is going to regret that one. So true about the typical meltdown and taste issue contestants.
          I thought Melissa’s polka dot 2-piece reminded me of Mondo’s style. It was well made, light, youthful. Wasn’t earth shaking, but different from the rest of the designers anyway.

      • Lisa_Co

        I was disappointed, found it boring. And I was sad that almost no designers wanted Nick as their mentor (really, WTH?). But I’m looking forward to The Fashion Fund starting this Wednesday night on the Ovation channel.

        • Qitkat

          I am passing on Tim and Friends, even if Mondo is from my town Denver. But I’m looking forward to TFF too, hoping for a show that has very little resemblance to anything PR inspired.

          • demidaemon

            I thought about watching it, then passed when it got too late to watch the rerun and I was tired. Maybe I’ll watch it online; maybe I’ll catch the rerun; maybe I won’t watch it at all.

      • marlie

        I was underwhelmed. It was too long, and that was essentially only half of the premiere. I doubt that it’s something that I’ll make a point to watch/TiVo every week, but I’ll probably tune in if I’m not doing anything else.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

        It was alright, I suppose. Yes, more Tim! But I was disappointed to hear that he is not going to judge the contestants at all. I wondered, “Why even have Tim there?” He’s a show host, but even Heidi judges.

        So then I got paranoid: What if this show is to try to find a replacement for Tim on Project Runway??? He’s retiring or dying or something and Lifetime is making a reality competition of it! Yeah, late nights can get a little crazy in the head.

      • ddfrog

        I didn’t realize that it was supposed to be PR13 but then Heidi dropped out to do Germany’s Next Top Model (or something like that) so they had to scramble to put together a new show for Tim. It’s weird and awkward all around, but I’ll give it a few weeks just for Tim’s sake.

      • DinaSews

        I was glad to read the opinions here. I just couldn’t turn it on because Anya and Mondo? No thanks. I loved Mondo during his season but thought he was a bit full-headed since. Anya as a mentor? Uhhh, heck no. Love Tim and Nick but not enough to overcome my dislike for the other 2.

    • Sobaika

      I’ve been there! I spent a summer in Geneva during college. Simply perfection.

      Hope everyone gets to enjoy their long weekend (those who actually get them, of course).

      • @Biting Panda

        I am having the great responsibility debate. We have PTO instead of paid holidays, however it’s assumed everyone will take off Monday. But I’ve missed 3 days this week, so a good little worker bee would go in Monday and catch up. But loves long weekends me is loving the idea of going with the office crowd.

        • Sobaika

          I don’t know about you, but I LOOOOOOOVE days when fewer people are around the office. Sometimes those are the only days I can actually get work done!

          • @Biting Panda

            That is a fine point. I’ll be lonely but likely productive.

          • marlie

            Attendance in my office was spotty during the weeks of Christmas and New Years, and I got a lot of regular work AND “busy work” done, without the distractions of people stopping by my cubicle all the time.

          • KinoEye

            Indeed, Sobaika (by the way, that’s such a pretty name). I recently acquired an intern. Although it’s helpful to have someone to help me put an entire paper together, I’m pretty much having to teach her news writing from the ground up. She was reading me her attempt at a story yesterday, in which she invented a new word: nominationals! Also, she will not stop talking. Totally random questions and anecdotes throughout the day. Even as I’m banging away at my keyboard. When I’m not in my office, she messes with my desk and computer. It’s getting really, really old.

            TL;DR: Thanks to my intern, I’m going in to work on Sunday since I couldn’t get a damn thing done Friday and my deadline is Monday. Yay!

        • formerlyAnon

          With Sobaika on the increased productivity when the office is empty. Other point: will your home be full of cranky, barely-over-the-flu people whining to you about how bored they are? If so, go to work.

          But if it’s a normal weekend, I am a fan of extra consecutive days off. It always feels deliciously as if I could do and get done so many things!

          • demidaemon

            My work actually sent an e-mail to people might think about coming in on the holiday with all the reasons that might not be a good idea (electric grid and automatic door maintenance). All I could think was, why come in when you have a day off?

    • lexilexi

      Thank you for all your work this week. It was a blast, even though we didn’t agree on everything!

      Here’s hoping you make a trip to San Francisco / the Bay Area for a signing. It would be fun to see you in person, all duded up.

    • MilaXX

      Thanks for all your hard work. I’ve had a positively crappy week and it’s been nice to escape here with you guys and my fellow BK’s

      • decormaven

        Same here. Reality hit like a hammer after the holidays; I’ve been chained to the desk for 2 weeks. Thank the heavens for the dear uncles and BKs – and awards season!

    • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

      I’m raising a glass tonight to my beloved patient, Frenchie. She passed away this week. She had awesome pink and purple hair (at the age of 84!), she never got out of bed before noon, she loved her music and wasn’t shy about admitting that she was tipsy most of the time. I hope the afterlife has endless pots of jam to spoon onto white toast, Bach playing softly on a HiFi, and lots and lots of handsome men to dazzle with her kisses.

      • @Biting Panda

        Oh, sweet Frenchie!! I remember you telling us about her a while back. What a a pistol. The world will be a little dimmer with her not in it.

        >>>To Frenchie<<<

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          I didn’t know you changed your name. Did my announcement get lost in the mail? Did you forget to send your footman ’round with a calling card?

          • @Biting Panda

            I mean yeah, I spoke of it, around here a couple of times, but I didn’t have like a press release.

      • formerlyAnon

        We can all hope that when we die, the people who’ve taken care of us call us “beloved” and want to mark our passing somehow.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          Hear, hear! I’ll drink to that!

          • formerlyAnon

            *raises virtual gin*

        • NDC_IPCentral

          oh, YES.

        • Stefanie Mackenziews

          She sounds like a love. I happen to agree with this interchange from “Four Weddings and a funeral.” “A toast before we go into battle. True love. In whatever shape or form it may come. May we all in our dotage be proud to say, “I was adored once too.”

          Fortunately, I haven’t long for dotage to show up.

      • decormaven

        Bless you! She’s moving through the cosmos now. Someone with that much brio shines on for a long time.

      • MilaXX

        Here’s to Frenchie!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

        To Frenchie! My role model for my later years.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          If only I’d known her back then, she’d have been my role model for my early years, too.

    • Denise Alden

      Oooo . . . Geneva! Rest while you can, dearest uncles: awards season and fashion week right around the corner, but most importantly: YOUR BOOK!

      • Guest

        bless

    • Frank_821

      Ugh what a day. My partner is still sick from the flu that I gave him. I couldn’t go to work because I seemed to have pulled a leg last nigth and I could barely get around. basically he’s in misery from the hip up and I’m in pain from the hip down

      we watched Under the Gunn. Not a bad show. It does seem to be modeled on the format of the Voice. and like that show the mentors are more interesting than the contestants although there is talent. hopefully once the designers are assigned the show will be down to an hour

      It was interesting that there was a preference to go with Mondo or Anya. Nick is the most experience and a teacher but than again Nick graviatates more to red carpet. However since the goal is to mentor them for the competition and not the real fashion that should eb less of a concern. It should be more a queston of style. Personally I think in the long run Anya or Nick will prove to be better at helping their team to deal with the stress of the compeittion than Mondo

      • formerlyAnon

        Sickness (and allergies) and general lack of enthusiasm for taking up the reins after the holidays seem to be going around. Hope it improves in your home soon.

      • Lisa_Co

        I’ve never seen the Voice but the show reminded of last year’s model competition The Face where Naomi Campbell, Karolina Kurkova and Coco Rocha were mentors ( and Naomi looked ferocious when a model she picked didn’t choose her as a mentor).

        • demidaemon

          They are redoing that show, although Karolina and Coco bothe seemed to have passed on doing it again. I can’t really blame them, considering what a nightmare Naomi was.

    • Susan Velazquez

      I signed up for the pre-order giveaway! I’m so excited for my free magnet and autographed picture.

    • Imasewsure

      Hate it when I’m too tired for wine but we’ve all been there! Enjoy your weekend Dear Uncles and bask in the glory of your book release!! I’ll be drinking wine in your honor this weekend!

    • kimmeister

      Visiting my mom in Vegas and taking up the suggestion of one of the BK’s of getting her to teach me her pho recipe while I still have her. Hubby came along because he couldn’t bear the idea of a week without me, and he was rewarded by getting to do an amazing bike ride out to the Hoover Dam today.

      • formerlyAnon

        As the busybody who nagged about getting family recipes (and stories!) I am so pleased to hear this. I hope your mom gets into it. And it’s lovely your husband didn’t want to miss you, and that he got positive reinforcement (beyond that which he gets from you.)

      • @Biting Panda

        Ah Vegas. My dad lived in Henderson. If you’ve never done it, I highly recommend taking a drive through Red Rock Canyon. It is otherworldly.

        • kimmeister

          She actually lives in Henderson! We did drive through Red Rock a few years back, but it was 115 degrees and not the best day for it. Maybe later …

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

        Do it do it do it!

    • formerlyAnon

      I’ve made a pact with myself to work energetically for most of the weekend, I’m sick of the general air of post-holidays doldrums in my office and in my head, and my home’s just cluttered, full of looming projects, and inhabited by people whining about their allergies. And sniffling and coughing and taking various pills. These “people” would include me, and when you get on your own nerves it’s getting ridiculous.

      We’ll see how this goes. If you all notice me spending a ton of time interacting on this site you’ll know it’s not looking good for the good guys.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        Hey, where’s Annabelle? I was going to broach the topic of vaginal rejuvenation, but I don’t want her to miss it.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Annabelle Archer (Amanda) is now @BitingPanda. You must have missed her announcement a couple of weeks ago.

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            I have been so buried under year end paperwork, I’ve missed all the important stuff.

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            Did you used to be someone else, too? Who all has changed their names? WHAT HAVE I MISSED?!?!?!?!

        • @Biting Panda

          Can I tell you, how deeply it pleases me, that when you want to talk vaginal rejuvenation, you KNOW how much I’d want to be a part of that?

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            I look forward to your insight.

          • NDC_IPCentral

            Glad to know you’re still around, albeit in different “garb.” And, uh, vag/rejuv? Since I’m long past juvie, those parts down dere would have to get in line for the rest of the corpus’s unlikely turning back of the Clock o’ Age.

      • decormaven

        January is always the cruelest month. For those who celebrate the holidays with spending, the bills come in. For those who are self-employed, it’s time to pay quarterly taxes. Add the crazy weather, and all the respiratory ailments that come with it, it is a tough month all around. It’s a good time to force some flower bulbs to bloom inside – a good reminder that beautiful things are always ready to blossom.

    • marlie

      I’m ready to sit on the couch and put my feet up, too. It’s been a loooong day, and an even longer week. TLo, I can’t wait to read your interviews, and I hope you and the rest of the BKs have a wonderful weekend!

    • Frank_821

      Oh I forgot to say about Under the Gunn. I HATE the fact 1 of the regular judges will be stylist Jen Rade. I never cared for her when she was on Fashion police and I hated her 1 guest spot on PR when she was rude to that model. And all that model did was answer Jen’s question

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

        Yes, but Rachael Roy is another one of the permanent judges. So, balance, maybe?

        • MilaXX

          Yes cause Rachel Roy is a great judge.

      • Inspector_Gidget

        Ohhh yeah, I saw her last night and threw up in my mouth a little. She was deliberately being rude and going out of her way to come up with zingers to grab face time. Yuck.

    • piperkitty

      I was bored by the PRAS reunion show. Almost as much as I was bored by the PRAS season. I was surprised I liked Under The Gunn as much as I did. The premise is interesting. I can’t fathom why anyone would want Anya to mentor them, especially with the other choices being Mondo and Nick.

      • Munchkn

        Was it just me or did anyone else think that Alyssa Milano needed to wax her forearms?

        • cocohall

          I felt bad for even noticing. But as a gal of Eastern European heritage who has given much time, energy and money to hair removal, I couldn’t help myself.

      • bitchybitchybitchy

        I liked the first episdoe of Under the Gunn well enough, but it did feel a bit long by the end of the first episode-still, it’s good to see Tim again, and NIck, who was always a personal fav of mine.

      • Targettaste

        Worst reunion show ever! I don’t need to see clips from the season, I already watched it. Why couldn’t they have shown more new footage?

    • Sarah

      TLounge! Hello. I got a four day weekend, which I should pack with need-to-dos, but I ate quiche, watched Maury, and snoozed instead. I just got up from an afternoon-now-its-evening nap.

      • formerlyAnon

        This strikes me as an EXCELLENT use of the first of 4 days off. If perhaps not the way to spend all four . . .

        • Sarah

          Well, yesterday was pretty close, except for no Maury on Saturdays, and I went out to breakfast with my BFF and pulled down the Xmas lights from my entryway awning. Otherwise, very similar. I thought I might have some homework, but I just checked my syllabi, and it appears I already did it. SO I have no excuse to be useful. I may put a wreath in a box, but there’s always tomorrow…

      • Jacob Bowen

        Sounds like my beginning to this four day weekend except I went to “The Melting Pot” to cap it off…you made good choices.

        • kimmeister

          Hopefully you fasted beforehand so you could stuff more fondue-y goodness in!

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

            The secret to fondue is to only drink wine or herb tea with it. Anything else and it sits like a stone. Many generations of Swiss ancestors back me up on this!

      • decormaven

        Your start to the 4-day weekend sounds great to me. I’m rewatching old episodes of Grey’s Anatomy. Spotted two actors from Sons of Anarchy (Maggie Siff, Theo Rossi) and Elizabeth Moss from Mad Men.

    • Gauss

      Just started watching Tim’s show and… the lady complaining about the horse print is wearing a blue muppet (or a blue bathmat); one guy dismissed all the fabric except for black jersey, and one other lady declares that she never works with prints. I predict none of them will be winners.

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_QFW22QV426LUOEPGASPZJWJMDE MishaFoomin

        One guy declared himself a Gretchen fan! Ewwwwwww! Mondo’s right there, you turd!

        • Frank_821

          at least he knew he would get stoned by the masses

        • Eric Stott

          I can’t see much in Gretchen beyond niche designer, but Mondo’s work isn’t to everyone’s taste either- those houndstooth checks and contrasty colors aren’t every woman’s friend.

      • Gauss

        I have to say, the entire show feels (so far) low-key and civilized, in a good way. I like that they split the 15 designers into two groups, so you can see a bit of everyone rather than try to keep track of 15 different people all at once.

        • Gauss

          All these designers are idiots. I can’t imagine wanting to work with anyone BUT Nick, but apparently they can.

          • bitchybitchybitchy

            I got the impression that some of the designers aren’t picking up on what they could learn from Nick’s experience as an instructor. They seem to be keying in Mondo and Anya as former winners of PR.

            • Eric Stott

              Well, Nick is (Gasp) 46 – that probably seems like a chasm too wide to bridge for some of them. They must think “Wow – someone who actually remembers the 80′s!”

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              True, I suspect. Ah youth….

          • Targettaste

            A thousand up votes for this. Nick called it: they want to be with the “cool” designers.

        • Eric Stott

          I couldn’t deal with it for longer than a half hour. After ten minutes I wanted to find Nick’s dimmer control and dial him down. On the other hand, Mondo could be turned up a notch or two. I do like Anya a bit – she seems like a decent person but she isn’t all that interesting.

          The designers seem to have put most of their time into manufacturing their personalities.

    • Agnes Gooch

      Ordered my book and a Twink Daddy postcard!

    • majorbedhead

      It’s been a rough few months for me. I started a new job back in October, which leaves me exactly zero time to doss on my favorite website, which is giving me the sad. and I hate the job, mostly because my boss is a condescending ass who expects everyone to know how to do everything – he wants me to do graphic design. Do I know how to do graphic design? No, I do not. Do I have time to teach myself? No, I do not. But it doesn’t matter, he wants me to do it, and to do it in five minutes. And when I tell him I don’t know what I’m doing, he just gets shirty. It sucks.

      And my ex picked right before Christmas to stop paying child support, so financially, I’m up shit creek. It’s stressing me out.

      On the upside, all this stress has made me lose 14 pounds.

      • Coolekat

        The only good thing about major stress is losing a couple of pounds

      • @Biting Panda

        Ouch. That’s a lot of waves coming at ya. I have no wisdom, just words of virtual support from afar. Which will *totally* pay your bills. So, better?
        Take what little time can for yourself, you’ve got to take care of you. Hugs.

      • formerlyAnon

        OH, boo hiss. I hope you live in a state that will pursue nonpayers. Not that even *that* will make things all better, or in a soon-enough timeframe. Good luck. Wish I had anything useful to add.

      • decormaven

        Big virtual hugs to you. Hope you can find a way to work around the boss with unrealistic expectations. May your ex restart bearing his responsibilities. As formerlyAnon says, trust your state is one that will aid in securing the back payments. Hang in there, and be good to yourself. Don’t let the turkeys drag you down.

    • Musicologie

      I want to walk into that picture and grab the seat in front of that glass of red wine. I need an escape from my teething five-month-old. Fortunately, a friend will watch him tomorrow long enough so my husband an I can watch American Hustle. It’ll be our first date post-baby.

      • formerlyAnon

        Yay for dates post-children. Hope you don’t fall asleep in the theater. (Happened to my then-husband and I when the first baby was little and he was working 48-hours at a time on call. I have never yet seen all of Blade Runner. Yes, it was that long ago.)

        • demidaemon

          That’s a movie you should go and put on your “to-see” (or “to-finish?”) list at some point.

          • formerlyAnon

            It’s on there, but it’s a long list. Plus I remember Blade Runner as a series of sharp and fuzzy gorgeous visual images and I ‘m almost afraid to ruin what I recall as a fantastic “experience” of film, if not as a coherent theater-length movie.

            • demidaemon

              It actually has a pretty engrossing plot, if I’m remembering it right. It’s also a great experience in of itself, which is coming from someone who saw it in a random college class I had to take.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

              I don’t know that “coherent” is the right word, but fantastic experience yes. And you’ll probably see the Director’s Cut, which is much better than the original cinema release in my opinion, so it should hold up to your fuzzy post-baby memories.

        • Musicologie

          Heh, we chose a matinee for exactly that reason. It was a date afternoon, and it was great on our end. The baby was fine (though he didn’t take the bottle of breast milk we left for him), and my friend doesn’t seem traumatized, but the real test for how it went will be whether she ever wants to watch him again or if she’s “busy” next time we ask.

    • quiltrx

      This makes me want to have a seat, sipping white wine while Tom Hiddleston tells me charming anecdotes. :)
      Everything is utter chaos at my job right now (my department’s work has been sent elsewhere, allegedly temporarily but no one believes it…and we’re being trained for 3 days to do they-won’t-tell-us-what in another area…and that training usually lasts 2 weeks)…trying to unwind and enjoy the weekend.
      I hope all the BKs have a happy, fun weekend!

      • NDC_IPCentral

        Sounds like you need hi-alcohol liquid mood mellowing, girlfriend. Don’t stint!

      • decormaven

        Chaos at work calls for liquid fortification. Fingers crossed that the work flow will redirect in your favor.

    • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

      I need wine. I’m working full time and studying for the bar and everything is blaaah. I look forward to weekend TLo updates though, those are always a treat.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        Keep plugging away, Gaby; you’ll be glad you did at the end of next month. My nephew was just sworn in yesterday into the Michigan Bar, much joy expressed by family and friends. It’s a hard row to hoe, but it’s doable. I took and passed three bar exams with the third taken 8 years after I’d graduated from law school, during which time my practice was (and still is) IP. Of course, that’s not on the test, so I had to re-learn 35 areas of the law for my 3rd Multi-State and the short answers and essays. I felt your pain then, 32 (and going on 40) years ago, and I do now.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Hey, NDC, how’s your sister doing?

          • NDC_IPCentral

            Gifted, how thoughtful of you to ask! She’s finished her first four cycles of Adriamycin-Cytoxan chemotherapy, and it has shrunk the golf-ball-sized tumor to un-feelable size, so that’s terrifically encouraging. The A/C chemo, though, really knocked her for a loop. Every side effect – extreme fatigue and weakness, low BP, hair loss, bad taste in the mouth, feeling flu-y for days and days after the infusion, sores in wretched places, headaches. But yesterday she started in on her next chemo phase: 12 weeks of Paraplatin-Taxol, the same regimen I was on back in 2012.

            She’ll get Paraplatin every three weeks and Taxol every week. Once that concludes (and the finish depends on whether she qualifies every week or has to postpone for low WBC) she’ll have a month off and then her mastectomies and reconstruction. She might have to have radiation after that, too. She’s got a long fight ahead of her. Fortunately, she has great docs and an excellent hospital delivering the chemo. And a very involved and smart husband and a caring son, who’s just been sworn in as a Michigan attorney – a milestone that really cheered her.

            • formerlyAnon

              GC thanks for asking and NDC thanks for the update. It is very good to hear the tumor has shrunk. I hope that within my lifetime chemo and radiation are improved enough that they are not such mental and bodily tortures. That they come to be seen as a necessary barbarism inflicted on patients in the “bad old days.” (Though I am grateful for the improvements already seen in my lifetime, don’t get me wrong. Especially in outcomes.)

            • NDC_IPCentral

              I was puny and had pain during my chemo, but I was never as sick as my sis has been – then again, different drugs, and she wrote me today that she didn’t have the awful sick feeling today that she had on Adriamycin-Cytoxan, so I’m hoping she’ll tolerate carboplatin-Taxol better. No walk in the park, but the good results are encouraging.

              My sis is triple-negative, and that’s a bad BCA, so her response now gives us some hope.

            • formerlyAnon

              Well, here’s hoping for the best. Maybe excellent response to cancer treatment & good outcomes are a family trait.

            • NDC_IPCentral

              I wish I could vote this up multiple times! Thanks, formerlyAnon!

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

              Very positive news! And how are things for your other friend who was diagnosed recently?

            • decormaven

              Healing thoughts for your sis. Very encouraging news the tumor has been so responsive to treatment.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I’m glad to hear that this has been a better week for her. Mazel tov on your nephew. It certainly helps to receive such good news.

            • bitchybitchybitchy

              Just wanted to chime in to say that healng thoughts for your sister are on their way; with a tough road to go, it’s good that she’s got great M.D.and supportive family!

        • http://gabyrippling.tumblr.com/ Gaby

          Thanks so much! It’s always good to hear advice and support from practitioners. Wish you all the best, especially for your sister’s sake.

    • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

      It’s been a pretty emotional week for me. I had to face facts that the public’s buying habits have changed drastically in the last few years — they’d rather buy Visa gift cards at the market or shop online than spend their money in a gift shop like mine. My loyal customers are VERY upset, but I announced on Monday that I’m closing my store at the end of February. I would have been in business ten years this September.

      I love the internet madly and do most of my own shopping on it, so I understand. But I’m very resentful that it has virtually killed my business. I’ll still have my web site and sell on Ebay, but that’s not going to pay the mortgage. Now I have to find a job, which is not going to be easy. Pass the bottle, please.

      • alyce1213

        So sorry to hear that. I’ve bookmarked your website — love the stuff. Best of luck.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          Thanks, alyce1213. As things sell out in the store, I’m having to take them off the site. But the L.A. gift show is later this month, so I’ll be restocking with new introductions as they become available.

      • Munchkn

        I’m so sorry that your brick-and-mortar store is closing. I know it doesn’t help it stay open, but I’d much rather shop in person than online.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I’m old school, I guess. I much prefer shopping in brick and mortar stores.

      • MilaXX

        so sorry to hear about your store. 10 years is a long time.

      • @Biting Panda

        Oh damn it to Hell, that sucks. I’m so sorry.

      • formerlyAnon

        So sorry. Ten years is an achievement, though, in retail.

        I will pass the bottle. Maybe sneak a swig. I am counting in months how long my current balance of academic research, writing, and job can continue before I have to either find an entirely new and better paying job, or layer on many additional hours of various underpaid employments. It’s been good, though. I’m sure the next phase will eventually shake out into something good as well. I’m hoping for a short “eventually.”

      • marlie

        That’s so disappointing! I’m drinking to new and better things for you in the months and years to come.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        I’m sorry to hear that. Ten years is something to be proud of, though. I hope this turns into an opportunity to find another career you love just as much, if not more.

      • NDC_IPCentral

        You have my sympathies. The ‘net has affected my profession, too. Online commerce is convenient, but it has caused seismic shifts in the brick-and-mortar world, and not all of that change is good.

        The job market isn’t easy, but you doubtless have a LOT of skills from managing your business for a decade that you can tout to prospective employers. Management. Budgeting. Long and short term planning. HR. Inventory control. Advertising. Marketing….. you have a strong story to tell.

        • CatherineRhodes

          Technology is a double-edged sword, for sure. I’m sorry for your loss after putting your heart and soul into your venture. I’m confident you can redirect that passion and creativity into something new and wonderful. There’s a whole lot of continuum between owning your own shop and a Dilbert cubicle. Good luck!

          • Stefanie Mackenziews

            Made the observation to someone today that we are all so enamored of tech for the ‘WHEE!’ factor that we have sacrificed much humanity about things.

          • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

            Technology is not necessarily our friend. It affects so many people in negative ways that we might never have thought of. One of my customers told me her husband’s wholesale paper business is in jeopardy since people are not writing letters, businesses send invoices via email, etc. I could go on, but the more I think about it, the more depressed I get.

            I have a long background in integrated marketing (PR, advertising, promotions, special events), but I’m dreading hauling my overweight, ancient body to be interviewed by 20- or 30-somethings.

            • kimmeister

              Practice with some BEI questions. Also, remember that US law protects those over 40 from age discrimination in employment! Assuming you’re in the US.

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I haven’t looked for a job in this century, so I had to look up what a BEI question is. (Technology may not be our friend, but Google certainly is.) Thanks for the heads-up.

              As for age discrimination laws, that’s like telling a jury to disregard a statement they’ve just heard. You may not be able to say you’re not hiring someone because they’re old, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t the reason.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

        I’m so sorry! I’m part of the problem of course – I hate shopping in the real world – but it is such a shame when small businesses are hit.

      • mcbishop

        I have been there, closed a store that I put blood, sweat and tears into, some 10 years ago, after a similar run. Mine wasn’t the internet, but a bad downtown scene, and the scourge of big box……no matter. It’s like a death, and really a terrible thing to deal with. I got over it, pretty much, but it took a long time. As others have said, you’ll figure it out, maybe come back even better. (As tough as my closing was, it actually was true for me.) I’m so sorry that you are going through it, you are not alone in the experience. I am marking your site too. Good luck to you.

        • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

          I’ve always felt sad when I passed a going out of business sign. No one opens a store with the intention of failing. My only consolation is that I truly don’t feel like I failed. Just like your experience, times change and shit happens that you can’t control. The fact that I can’t afford a long mourning period is probably a good thing. A new job, if I can get one, will be a good diversion.

          • mcbishop

            Absolutely. New opportunities, new challenges. My husband and I just started a new business, in addition to his previous, ongoing one, and so I’ve kind of morphed into something more wholesale…..there are a lot of ways you can take your talents. It’s great that you are over the first hurdle–I liked the stage of grief where I was just pretty pissed off, and realized that it WAS beyond my control! Sounds like you are there, and that’s empowering, in a way. I wish you the very best!!

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              I’m not pissed off — yet. Just sad, very sad. I wanted to be the last gift shop standing in my area and I just about am. But it’s no longer a viable business. I think the sadness is not just for me, but for all the things that are no more. The world is changing so quickly and not always for the good.

      • decormaven

        Bless you. I love gift shops, and I’ve seen way too many fall by the wayside in the last 10 years. I see the internet as a place to inform a purchase, but there’s nothing like strolling through a shop and discovering new treasures. I’ve found most shop owners to be really fascinating folks, and it’s nice to get a new perspective from them. I wish I had words of wisdom on how to revive your business, but it looks like you’ve analyzed and moved forward on what has to happen. This is why we have to shop local, BKs. Best of luck of you in this new journey, GC.

      • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

        Thank you all for your wonderful words of encouragement. I wish I had the time to answer each of you individually.

        If any of you are in Los Angeles, please stop by before I close on February 28 and introduce yourselves. I would love to meet fellow BKs. I’m on the corner of Ventura Blvd. and Beverly Glen in Sherman Oaks.

    • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

      Vaginal Rejuvenation. Better investment than a face lift? Who benefits from it more, the woman or her partner? Most importantly, is Kris Jenner going to ruin it for the rest of us?

      • @Biting Panda

        Kristen Jenner will not stop until she ruins everything. EVERYTHING.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          It’s an awful lot of money to spend on something that (most of us) will only be able to show to a handful of people.

          • @Biting Panda

            Shit! I’d show everybody.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              That would be my impulse, too. But it’s like vacation photos – only a few people *really* want to see it. Everyone else is like “I don’t want to see yours, I just want one of my own to enjoy.”

            • Stefanie Mackenziews

              One day my hairdresser came out of a back room rolling his eyes with a very smug looking woman at his heels. He addressed me and says ‘Do you know how many sets of new airbags I get treated to viewing every week? I sometimes wish I didn’t work in the beauty industry…everyone who gets them can’t wait to show me. *Snorts loudly* as if I care…’

          • @Biting Panda

            I would imagine they are only necessary for a small percentage of women, right? Like your Duggar gals or those who’ve just really lost the battle to gravity? I dunno, I just don’t see myself ever considering such a procedure. But the entire idea of surgery is terrifying to me. Any and all kinds.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Ohhhhh…consult Ye Olde Google. There are all sorts of things that can be done to your nethers to spruce things up a bit. We’re not talking just tightening. They can remodel the whole thing. Interior and exterior.

            • @Biting Panda

              I don’t know, maybe one day, when I’m needing a boost to the old ego, I’ll go all Capital on the downtown and really turn it out, but for now…I’m really focusing on preventing crows feet.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Vajazzling is much cheaper.

            • @Biting Panda

              beaded braids ?

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Sea shells.

            • formerlyAnon

              Heaven forfend. You planning on paying someone to do that? Or do you have that much spare time?? (You have kids and a husband and a job and an Internet habit. I KNOW you don’t have that kind of time.)

            • @Biting Panda

              dead. you’ve slayed me dead.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Maybe glue on some sequins? Not hot glue, though.

            • formerlyAnon

              You cracked me up with this one.

            • demidaemon

              I don’t even want to think what that Duggar woman’s vagina or uterus look like. Those poor organs have been over-abused by her and her husband.

            • Stefanie Mackenziews

              Probably flap like sheets in the wind by now…

      • formerlyAnon

        Personal opinion: face lift. Buys you points with people you’ll never sleep with. And if you like giving oral sex (see how classy I’m trying to be?) vaginal rejuvenation is probably a dubious value add for most partners, though not all. For the woman . . . trying to stay classy . . . trying . . . . oh hell. Giving up. Let’s just say, not for me. There are options.

        And yeah. Kris Jenner is not a force for good in the universe. She could ruin anything.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          Giving oral sex gives you lines around your mouth, though.

          • formerlyAnon

            So do a lot of things that are a lot less fun . . .

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              This is the perfect opportunity for me to tell you all about the time my mother told me that I should never perform oral sex on a man because it would give me a deep voice and everyone would know I was a slut.

            • formerlyAnon

              Fortunately my son is watching a t.v. show with his long-distance girlfriend via skype and wearing headphones. Otherwise I might have to explain why I just burst out into cackles of laughter. And I’m not drinking tonight, either.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Would that be a high-pitched cackle or a deep, throaty chuckle? Tell the truth…

            • formerlyAnon

              That sort of judgement is really in the ear of the beholder, don’t you think? I can say that it was an extremely ladylike cackle.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

              A deep voice? Now that’s an old wives tale this old wife has never heard!

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              She also warned me that it would dissolve the enamel from my teeth. Using this logic, by the end of my freshman year of college, I should have had no teeth and spoken in a voice reminiscent of James Earl Jones.

            • formerlyAnon

              Did you mom believe this stuff?? Poor thing, if so.

              And you! Public spirited. The BKs are nothing if not dedicated to the welfare of others.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Oh, the things my mother told me. Did you know that wearing black socks with your gym shoes would give you a yeast infection? Of the vagina?

            • formerlyAnon

              You should think about putting together a little book. With cartoon illustrations.

            • Kathy

              Bwahahahaha… My mother told me that a crooked mouth was an indication of an individual who gives lots of oral sex. Where do they get this stuff? Maybe that’s why guys with a slightly crooked grin have always apealed to me. ;)

            • http://www.GiftedCollector.com/ The Gifted Collector

              Although my mother unintentionally passed on misinformation, I can honestly say that I never heard the words “oral sex” leave her mouth.

            • formerlyAnon

              Part of what I find hilarious about these tidbits of advice is that while my mom communicated a lot to me, all of it scientifically accurate and/or directly based on her experience, her vocabulary was nowhere as blunt. She could be the mistress of the euphemism accompanied by raised eyebrow or significant head tilt. Another technique was to segue into the message she wanted to deliver after someone on television or the radio had used the actual vocabulary so she didn’t have to.

            • conniemd

              Geez, my mom NEVER talked to about sex to me, EVER. I remember when I was in college, I told her I was on the “pill” and she said she didn’t want to know anything about it.

            • Targettaste

              Oh no. Now I’m going to giggle any time a hear a woman with a deep voice.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              I was afraid my comment might deter someone from doing something fun ;)

            • formerlyAnon

              Again I’ll say it. You are the a pattern of the public spirited citizen. Worrying so about the happiness of others!

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

        Oh god – I have a terrible vaginal rejuvenation-adjacent story. A friend of mine got married a couple of years ago, and her father paid for her half-sister to fly in for the wedding. Her sister didn’t end up showing up for the wedding, and when my friend got in touch to ask why, she’d used the money for labiaplasty. Her sister is 15. Her sister’s mother said it was the right thing to do because the child was wanting to have casual sex but she was really ugly down there and no man would want to have sex with her.

        • Stefanie Mackenziews

          I’ve got labia the size of…well, never mind…but I could use those keys like they used to,use on sardine cans or Spoolee’s to good use…never stopped any gentleman, and I did have an impressive roster of suitors.

          I need to not take my pain pills so close together and stop commenting. Lordy.

          • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

            Curious to see if this comment will dissolve into the ether today.

            • Stefanie Mackenziews

              Oh I hope so…

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

            Haha!

            I wonder if any of the gay boy bitter kittens are feeling traumatised?

            • Stefanie Mackenziews

              Yeah, see why I said I don’t need to medicate and post without supervision…I can get into TMI with no encouragement.

            • StellaZafella

              Oh….when our girlfriends start talking about things like this we just think of bananas….big ripe bananas….

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              I think my gay friends are more knowledgeable about the female body than most straight guys I’ve met.

            • formerlyAnon

              Not a high bar.

            • Guest

              Raising my hand.

            • Jacob Bowen

              Ummmm….me.

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

              Sorry pet!

            • Jacob Bowen

              Hahahahaha I am SO used to it though, that I cringe, fake vomit, and move on with my life. Bad vagina imagery can no longer control my life!

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          First of all, “vaginal rejuvenation-adjacent”. I love you so hard.

          Second of all, 15? I cannot express how sad that makes me.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

            I know. Frankly I think that having your mother compare your labia to hers (and another sisters) constitutes child abuse.

            • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

              Have we confirmed, for a fact, that this is NOT Kris Jenner you are talking about?

            • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

              Wrong nationality. She may well be the Hungarian equivalent.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yeah. I was thinking all sorts of judgy things about the mother.

      • ailujailuj

        well – just damn. I cannot believe I missed the vag rejuvenation conversation. . .

    • NDC_IPCentral

      Well, this evening I did two big loads of laundry and changed the bed, always a wrassle with the quilt and blankets. But crisp sheets tonight – ahhh. Before that, though, I went to four different stores to shop for the dinner parties I’ve decided to hold this weekend on Saturday and Sunday for 1) Sat: a lovely couple who are friends. He’s the name columnist at the area newspaper, so his insights on politics and the region are always fascinating. She’s a witty, dry-humor teacher who’s a BCA survivor and occasional powerwalker pal. I’m making double-plus of Saturday’s vittles. 2) Sun: the leftovers and a new batch of rice (see menu below) for two couples here at our co-op complex, both sets dear friends. As there are politics and intrigues a-plenty here we won’t lack for conversation. My guests want to watch “Downton Abbey,” so Sunday will not be a late night.

      Menu: appetizers: J.W. Macy’s cheese twists and green olives, and whatever my guests bring. Main: Bobby Flay’s Food Network Throwdown’s Country Captain Chicken with coconut rice with scallions. A green salad of a variety of lettuces, red onion and orange and reg grape tomatoes. Choice of poppy seed or soy/ginger dressings. Dessert: maple pecan pie in a whole wheat crust, with French vanilla ice cream on the side. I’ll be having Fat Weasel ale with my meal – it has a nice peppery kick that should go quite well with the CCC.

      I should be pretty pooped by the end of it all, but happy to have entertained six people in two days!

      • formerlyAnon

        You DO know how to host a dinner party. And your guests sound great. I’m planning a great deal of filing and shredding and maybe yard work. Visiting a friend and her daughter-who-babysat-my-kids who is visiting from Sweden with the grandkids. Yardwork, try out a new gym workout and maybe have a few drinks with friends to negate the value of said gym visit. Keeping away from the Internet except for short breaks. If I get most of that in, I’m going to be pleased and surprised! It is a good life I lead.

        • NDC_IPCentral

          We do have good lives, don’t we? I’ll be working out with my trainer tomorrow morning before I hit the kitchen to make the pie crust, the custom curry powder, chopping onions and all the rest. You have a busy day ahead – yard work – none here in the shriveled East. Shredding docs – always a satisfactory task.

          Well, ’tis only me here, and if I hold a dinner party I might have some leftovers for ME for a portion of the coming week, and so many friends have entertained me in the past that I’m pleased I have a home (sizable apartment) with a good kitchen so that I can cook for others periodically. The folks coming over on Saturday were so good to me during my cancer months – having me over for meals. She was especially thoughtful in coming up with food to attempt to penetrate my loss of taste (sauerkraut! yes!). One of the couples for Sunday had me for Christmas dinner in 2005, the one Christmas I had by myself (the rest of my famb was in Nairobi, Kenya) and that was the year my mom had died. Very thoughtful. The other couple for Sunday also were great during my treatment – sending me food and attending to those shot taste buds, too. And we’ve been compatriots during the flooding of our co-op in ’07 and ’11 – good friends.

          It’s a pleasure to make tasty food for them all.

          • @Biting Panda

            You give love, you get love, you give love.

            • formerlyAnon

              Perfect!

            • NDC_IPCentral

              Well, often I’m curmudgeonly and cranky, so maybe my kitchen time is compensation for the pilly times!

              Thanks, Annabelle/Panda.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

        Great-sounding menu! And very clever way to go about entertaining.

      • ailujailuj

        BTW… I came across – and tested – a fabulous doughnut recipe that would have been a perfect complement to your fabulous menu – maybe equal to the maple pecan pie (yum). It’s based on krispy kreme and with a few adjustments was nearly perfect. Sounds like your dinners were a success!

    • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

      Kindle Paperwhite or Nook with Glowlight? Is there any big difference between the two that could sway my opinion?

      • formerlyAnon

        I’m pretty happy with my old school Kindle. (Happy, hell, ecstatic! I can carry around tons of trash reading as well as the weighty nonfiction of intellectual value and you have to be right up on me to know what I’m reading.) I use one of those cheap clip on lights if I need to read in the dark.
        ETA: if I was making your decision I’d look into how battery/charge life compares. When I was shopping a backlit screen seemed to reduce time between charging a bit.

        If I *did* upgrade it would be all the way up to something that could display fancy colored pictures and handle page sized charts and tables well. But I don’t know what that would be since I’m not in the market.

        • marlie

          When I was planning to upgrade from my Kindle Touch, I looked at the Fire for precisely that reason, and the battery life was so bad that I scratched that idea right away. Ultimately I want to get an iPad (Apple nerd here), but at the time it just wasn’t in the budget. But for now, I’m super happy with the Paperwhite. No more worrying about batteries for the clip-on light.

          Though I have re-purposed the clip-on lights for when I go knit with my friends, since we sit in a bar that’s kind of dim sometimes. ;)

      • Jacob Bowen

        LOVE the Nook with Glowlight! I have had mine for a LONG time and it works beautifully and I like the way it holds better than the Paperwhite. The light doesn’t hurt your eyes if you read in the complete darkness, and the text sizes are GREAT.

        • conniemd

          My daughter and I have Nooks, my husband had a Kindle. I much prefer the lighted Nook, I don’t want it complicated, and my reading mixed up with Internet stuff and movies, etc., etc. I just trust a brand more devoted to books than I do Amazon which is into everything. I want books done right, because reading books matters more to me than other shit I get from my laptop. As a just turned 60 person, I don’t need the portability of an I-Pad and my office computer and home lap top meet my needs, since I’m not out and about all the time like the younger ones.

      • mellifera

        I would look at whether you shop at Barnes & Noble or Amazon/Audible. I bought my daughter a Nook and I find it to be counter-intuitive. She is 11, so is more at home with it than I am – but, she did borrow her Dad’s iPad a bit, “Because the Nook is acting weird.” (Which meant that she understood the iPad more than the Nook.) I would get her a Kindle, if I had it to do over again..

        • formerlyAnon

          Looking at the retailer who sells content for your device makes sense. Part of the reason I’m happy with the Kindle is that I had already become a frequent Amazon customer. They have more depth in some of the professional areas in which I read.

      • marlie

        I have the Kindle Paperwhite and I love it. The backlight is what sold me and convinced me to upgrade from my Kindle Touch. The Paperwhite has a good battery life, and I can usually go for several days/a couple of books before I need to recharge. I’ve also played with my sister’s Kindle Fire, but it has such a miserably low battery life that I wouldn’t go that route. As for the Nook, I haven’t ever laid my hands on it, so I have no opinion on that one.

      • Trickytrisha

        I had a unlighted Kindle for years, and upgraded to the Paperwhite last summer. I don’t have the words to convey how much the reading experience is improved for me with the Paperwhite. Battery life is fine, downloading and managing my library (over 550 books now) is super easy. The Paperwhite is absolutely a joy.

        I also have the Kindle app for the PC and read at my computer quite often, then it’s quite simple to switch to the Kindle and find my place in the book I’m reading. I would recommend the case that Amazon offers as well, it’s lightweight and very convenient.

      • little_miss_strange

        I would get the Kindle because I have a feeling Barnes and Noble is gonna go under soon. Those stores are vanishing like nobody’s business, and every time I do go to one of them, there’s like no staff… everything’s a mess… an overpriced mess. A sad state of affairs. So get your Kindle, at least Amazon ain’t going anywhere anytime soon.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

          We have a Nook tablet, which B&N abandoned, so we just run the Kindle app on that. Best of both worlds really, and a much bigger screen than an ereader.

      • mcbishop

        I bought my husband a Paperwhite and he is CRAZY for it! Surprised himself, he loves it so much. So there is one vote!

      • Oceanica

        I haven’t seen a Glowlight to compare, but I looked at all the tech information when I upgraded my Kindle 1.0 to the Paperwhite. a year ago. ALL of the technical reviews said the Paperwhite was better. Apparently it’s the only one that has mastered an even light display. And lucky you, it’s just been updated. Now I desperately want to upgrade my Paperwhite version 1.0 and have absolutely no reason to justify it. Heck, my first adopter Kindle is still going strong. BTW, if you care about reading outside, E-ink is the only way to go.

      • Sobaika

        I have an iPad from work, a Kindle, and the Nook Glowlight (both gifts) and I read much more on the Nook. It’s battery life is amazing and the light doesn’t strain my eyes. A good size, too. But your mileage might vary. The kindle is popular.

    • formerlyAnon

      Well, farewell, compadres. I keep telling the Internet how I’m not going to waste too much time on the Internet this weekend. Though I will check in tomorrow to see if anyone new weighed in on the vaginal rejuvenation topic. (Or if that one is just too far afield and gets tactfully removed by our hosts.) I suppose it’s too much to hope anyone will come to report on whether or not her own vag. rej. procedure was worth it.

      • @Biting Panda

        Gnite my friend.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        Good night!

    • Jacob Bowen

      FUCKING FINISHED BABYSITTING my 14 and 17 y/o nephews from the ENTIRE week! After catching the 17 y/o smoking pot in his bedroom and him telling me that “it wasn’t his” when he was the ONLY person home, I am ready to go out drinking.

      • Sarah

        Aah, the lies of the teen. So confident, and so easily seen through! Enjoy your drinks!

        • Jacob Bowen

          Oh I did. I also was enjoying the Taco Bell that followed the drinks until they left out half of my order….grrrrrrrrr

        • conniemd

          Kids think adults weren’t ever teenagers. Gawd I was a teenager in the late 60′s early 70′s. Most things they’ve even fantasized doing I’ve already done. If my daughter knew half of the shit I did in those days where we didn’t know about sexually transmitted diseases, pot was grown in my back yard and the penalty for DUI was a traffic ticket and a fine……

          • Sarah

            I thought my mother was a colossal idiot. I found out later, when I apologized for all the horrible things I said and did, that she was pretty well up to speed, in fact, and just figured if I needed her I could let her know. For the meantime, I had my own mistakes to make. She was a very straight-laced young woman, so I figured she wouldn’t see the signs of non-straightness on a kid. As if she hadn’t been LIVING IN THE WORLD for 32 years before I came along. HA.

      • formerlyAnon

        Bahahahahaha! Seems unfair to have that side of parenting thrust upon you.

        I cannot tell you the JOY when my more-prone-to-getting-caught child FINALLY went to college and has since managed to either stay out of trouble or else managed the trouble successfully enough I no longer have to know about it. So often I wanted to say: “Kid, we ALL did some of this stuff, similar if not the same. The trick is to use common sense, take precautions, be mindful of health, safety and risk of arrest. To think up a good reason to stay home, leave the scene or just say no, if it sounds dicey. If I’m catching you, you’re not ready yet.” But that would sound like I’m condoning the behavior to the teen mind.

        • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

          I have a 19 year old and a 9 year old, and there have been times when they do dumb stuff like the original poster talked about. Just for example, I made cookies with the 9 year old last weekend. Monday he got up before I did and went downstairs and ate all the cookies. Was it the end of the world? Not by any means, but when I said, “Dude! Did you have to eat ALLLLL the cookies?”, he was like, “I didn’t do it.” When I called him on his shit (because Big Brother is 6 hours away at college and Daddy is in Afghanistan) he still tried to deny any involvement in CookieGate. I wanted to say to him, “If you’re going to be dishonest with me, at least TRY HARDER!”, but I think that might be sending the wrong message.

          • formerlyAnon

            Yeah, we wouldn’t want to send the wrong message would we?! ;-)
            One also doesn’t want to inadvertently educate them on how to be sneakier. There were [relatively minor] things I deliberately did not nail pushing-limits child on in high school because it’d have been giving away my method of knowing – not tricky surveillance techniques, mind you, just basic knowledge of the house and property and said child’s habits.

          • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

            When my husband does that he blames Harold, an invisible but very hungry labrador.

        • Jacob Bowen

          Since I’m not mom I even told him, “If you had just smoked SOMEWHERE ELSE I would not have been angry. Yeah, I would have called you an idiot for spending all of your money on pot and for hanging out with a group of losers, but I wouldn’t be this mad.” Then I followed it up with, “And don’t insult my intelligence, I did just get done living in college dorms.”

          • formerlyAnon

            Sounds like you fulfilled your role *perfectly.* The Stern Voice of Reproach to represent the parental role, and the Manly Words of Common Sense and Acceptance of Reality to uphold your role as the sensible adult our kids might actually turn to *before* a bad situation turns into an emergency. Most of us know we aren’t going to be the ones they turn to until after they’re at the end of their rope.

            • Jacob Bowen

              Well, I’m paying it forward, since his mom and then every member of my extended family who is of the “kid” generation is 15+ years older than me and was there to pick me up wasted at age 17-20.

      • Stefanie Mackenziews

        If you have the joy again, tell him you’ll call the cops, and then give him this little tidbit I always dropped on my kids when discussing related subjects. ‘If you get caught smoking pot, driving drunk or some other stupidness; don’t call me. Your ass will stay right there for the duration.’ Whether it was that or just good luck, I have 2 very decent citizens for children

        • Jacob Bowen

          And that wouldn’t be too hard, since they live NEXT DOOR to the police station….and the first time his mom caught him he was outside by their house. He clearly doesn’t use his brain.

          • formerlyAnon

            “I” [the only person who's been in the car since the last time I had to grab something off the floor of the back seat] “have NO IDEA who could have left 2 1-litre water bottles re-filled with vodka there! Nobody I was with was drinking, anyway!”

            Because there is a vodka fairy who patrols our neighborhood, leaving alcohol in the back of locked cars, OBVIOUSLY.

            • ailujailuj

              I guess I was “lucky”? my dad found a bottle of everclear under the seat of my car when I was 16. It wasn’t mine – but that’s only because I was drinking vodka that night. I offered the explanation that it wasn’t mine – and never got into trouble… strange. but I was a very functioning 16-yr old party animal – straight A’s, involved in school activities, music…. just also drank a lot. I will kill my kids if they ever do that. you parents of teenagers are HEROES.

          • alyce1213

            The teenage shield of invincibility.

      • Lisa M. (ReVoir) Kramp

        I work with teens every day…it’s amazing how naive they think you are. I’ll buy your first round, for being such a good uncle.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        Drinking? I’d have asked for a hit.

      • decormaven

        Sometime in the future, have a casual private conversation with the 17 year old, and mention that he needs to bone up on his grasp of reality as well his recognition of your authority. When there’s only one person and a smoking gun… son, please.

    • little_miss_strange

      Slowly falling madly in love with Boardwalk Empire. In particular, Nucky Thompson and Richard Harrow. I got weird taste in mens. I like em sleazy and mutilated, what can I say.

    • demidaemon

      First week of classes: everyone showed up and participated. It’s sad that this is such an occasion.

      In other news, I still waiting to see if I will get a TA appointment for Fall 2014 and I am getting a little annoyed with the waiting. They said it would be three weeks when it’s clearly been five. GRRRRRRRR.

      Can’t wait for the book! These quotes have me salivating, and it’s been a good while since I’ve had something in the witty humor genre to read.

      #BEMEORDOME

      • formerlyAnon

        Good luck with the work stuff. Prepare to be disillusioned with the students. That doesn’t sound right, not right at all!

        • demidaemon

          I know! But I’m going to try to be optimistic and shit.

          • formerlyAnon

            Go you!

    • demidaemon

      Oh, I also watched Magic Mike tonight, which was a surprisingly deep movie, broken up by nice shots of the cast’s asses. And they had some fine asses.

      • Anna

        When I’d first heard about it, I was stunned that Steven Soderbergh was directing it. I went to go see it initially and exclusively for the fine ass spectacle but was also surprised to be engaged in the story.

      • Jacob Bowen

        Matt Bomer needed to be more prominently featured….and there was STILL not enough gratuitous male nudity. I went to the show on opening night with my girls and we were SO mortified that we were that drunk to watch it and there wasn’t enough skin!

        • demidaemon

          Yes, I thought he and Joe Mangianello both got the shaft for McConahottie, Pettyfer, and Tatum, but I do think I finally saw Channing’s acting chops on display in that film.

          • Jacob Bowen

            Alex Pettyfer is pretty cute though….mmmm

            • demidaemon

              It’s true. I especially liked his facial hair in the movie. Too bad his character was such a douche.

    • Lisa M. (ReVoir) Kramp

      After ringing in the New Year with a hideously abcessed tooth that nearly put me in the hospital, things are doing much better now! First full week back to work at the High School after an extended break due to the blizzards and cold weather. Also, watched all of season 3 of Sherlock on BBC One…fan-freaking-tastic.

      • decormaven

        Ouch on the tooth! Mr. DM is now watching Sherlock and is loving it.

      • formerlyAnon

        Crappy New Year!
        Glad things are better.
        All my real-life people I know who’ve seen Season 3 Sherlock were mostly happy with it, though my Tumblr acquaintances seem somewhat traumatized. I couldn’t watch the final episode of Season 2 until I knew Season 3 was available (I’m a wimp
        : as a child I had to hide in the hall during tense moments watching Lassie on t.v. Lassie!) so this week I finish up Season 2 and then can launch into Season 3. Optimistic.

        • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

          Oh but that’s animals – I can’t watch anything with animals.

    • HM3

      “Under the Gunn” was SO sentimental, emotional, and unnecessarily sappy that I couldn’t finish it. The “mentors” had seen the portfolio of some of the designers, spoken with them for what seemed to be a few minutes, and then discussed their options. The tear-jerking, “I know you’re a brave soul and someone who fights for what is right, and I feel you’re my animal spirit so I’m going to choose you” that followed was therefore baffling, eyeroll-inducing and cringeworthy. Any interest the show had up to that tearfest sank immediately, and the credibility and professionalism of the mentors became questionable.

      No, I did not like the show. I was disappointed, because I had higher hopes for Tim.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        Everything you said. The only person who seemed emotionally stable was the one that got cut. I see where this is going.

    • Musicologie

      Has anyone been keeping track of which bars and lounges TLo have featured and made them searchable by city? That would be a neat resource for kittens travelling abroad.

      • http://foodycat.blogspot.co.uk/ foodycatAlicia

        That is such a good idea.

    • Jacob Bowen

      Has anyone seen “August: Osage County”??? I saw it yesterday, and even though I have heard that it plays on stage better I thought it was pretty good….and you get to hear Meryl Streep and Julia Roberts say EVERY “bad” word possible. What could be better?

      • Sobaika

        Eat the fish, bitch!!!

    • ailujailuj

      being busy and important AND famous can really take it out of a girl.
      although it is uncomfortably quiet and boring around here today, I’m glad you’re taking a beauty day and allowing us BKs to get a few things done before the week slaps us back into reality.

      can’t wait for the book – but don’t you think you need to come to SoCal for a signing???

    • Eric Stott

      Best thing about UNDER THE GUNN – I now know I’ll have thursday nights open.

    • @Biting Panda

      Watching Island Hunters (because House Hunting is so 2013) and this couple’s budget is $25 million. I choked.

      • Fordzo a.k.a. Fancy Mukluks

        I know, really? What kind of ghetto island will $25 million buy? Pffft! I wouldn’t even *visit* an island worth less than $40 mill.

        • bitchybitchybitchy

          I watch “House Hunters” when I work out, and one episode featured two entrepreneurs who were buying a condo in Chicago for the 10-12 times a year they’re in the city. They brought their decoratior with them and the decorator looked at one condo that looked great and immediately said, “Well, we’re just going to gut this”, and no one batted an eye. Amazing